Why do all my first dates go wrong?

Smooth_Surfaces · 2019-10-07T06:34:37+00:00

1 and 2 don’t seem like things you should take into account. The first one is a legitimate reason why to not prioritize dating and the second case is literal sexual assault. If you literally just met her for the first time that night, you can’t really do anything about the situation to make it better.

That third one though is all on you.

She invited you to her house, you were talking about hooking up on the phone. Those are all ioi’s, but that doesn’t mean it’s her job to jump on you. Missing hints of some sort wether it happened or not is irrelevant; the fact remained that you did not escalate and move the conversation towards anything sexual. Having a platonic conversation is a great way to remain platonic.

2019-10-07T06:39:27+00:00

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Icatchbutterflies · 2019-10-07T16:19:45+00:00

I wasn't much better in the beginning. First 5 dates. 3 no second dates. 1 a second date went nowhere. And just 1 lay.

The lay girl was very tolerent and was optimistic and forgave all my quirks and unintentional red flags.

This went on for about the first 15 dates. Learning and improving after every date.

A year of seduction and it was the other way around. 5 dates 4 lays and 1 girl I just don't vibe with.

Moral: it isn't you. You are just making some mistakes that doesn't create a spark. You will get better. Date, fail, learn, improve repeat and eventually you will become better.

realfrkshww · 2019-10-07T10:39:32+00:00

You spent too much your emotional attentions on her. This is wrong. You let her know you like her as a person, you, probably, replied too fast (<10 minutes). You don’t wanna make her think you’re attracted to her in any way, leave her wondering, always works. Set up a date and never text her until she does it herself or it’s the time to make sure the plans are still up. Don’t initiate a kiss with a girl unless she’s ABSOLUTELY in love with you. Let her do it first.

A kiss is a way of saying «kiss me back so I know if you like me or not», which is opposite of confidence and a sign that you like her a lot.

A romantic walk — sounds like you don’t value your personal attention, you put feeling in and, again, made her know you like her. Set up a date, go on it, be stone cold, never compliment or validate (NEVER). If she asks for your opinion, don’t compliment either. Smoothly change the subject or reply something like «Looks interesting», «I like the materials (about a dress)», etc.
This is a type of bitch to be cold with — an attention whore. They trigger you, then pull back, so you chase her. Don’t let these women play with you and keep an eye on their texts and choosing signals. Two days ago me and a girl were at my crib, watching a movie, she started closing my eyes at sex scenes ending up laying on my shoulder and going for my attention. I didn’t give her any, then brought her to my bed and we fucked.

A week before I met a girl online I didn’t like that much, every time I would reply with «I don’t give a fuck» and «Go fuck yourself». The same day she came over and sucked my dick, went back home and wanted to suck me off again, for nothing, lol.

Treat them like shit, they love it.

Title	Why do all my first dates go wrong?
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Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	October 7, 2019 6:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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