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had a moment of neediness at the very end of an otherwise stellar date. how much did I step backward?

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October 22, 2019

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Title	had a moment of neediness at the very end of an otherwise stellar date. how much did I step backward?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	October 22, 2019 3:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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[–]Massap24 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

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[–]RaptorMan333 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

I don't agree with that necessarily. If she's spending this amount of time with you, it honestly seems like she's scared of catching feelings. If she's spending all evening and then most of the next day with you and being affectionate, talking about meeting friends... that's not typicial fuckbuddy stuff. Even if you guys are having sex frequently, that's not something girls do with guys they don't like. IMO you were actually in a bit of a position of power at one point. She was getting scared that she was getting attached and giving off too much of a relationship vibe, and to compensate she "kicked" you out. But I do also think that she picked up on that you were being mildly needy and you definitely should have left at the "high note" or maybe even sooner in the morning.

You gave her a bit of your power by not getting out of there sooner, but in all honesty, this is kind of an IOI in one regard.

Do not listen to what a girl says, listen to her actions. Just because she says she is not looking for a relationship doesn't mean it's the truth. Attraction is not a choice and while she may think she controls her emotions, they control her.

You definitely have to play it cool though. Honestly if you guys hang out again, I would fuck the hell out of her and then leave quickly without making it seem like you're doing it to play a power game. Come up with a legitimate excuse to leave. I know you like her, but we both know that being too needy will be the death of this, and you need to shift the power back to yourself.

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[–]RaptorMan333 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

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[–]RaptorMan333 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I mean at this point i think you're just overthinking it. She's into you, you've giving her good sex and a fun time and she enjoys hanging out with you and wants to keep hanging out. Pretty much the ideal situation - hanging with a cool girl without the responsibility of a relationship, and it sounds like she's not giving you shit for seeing other girls and being catty or super jealous. I would just enjoy it.

But be mildly cautious about coming off as needy. Be SLIGHTLY less affectionate and available than her just to keep your power and keep her guessing. If you're worried and want to kind of reinforce that you've got the power, maybe cancel plans on her once or reschedule to make her wonder a bit. You should definitely keep at least going on dates or talking to other girls just so you have options. Girls can pick up on it if you don't have anything else going on.

But yeah dude i'm kinda jealous, so enjoy it for me haha. I haven't had a real solid f-buddy type thing since college that wasn't either some overly emotional bullshit wanting to date on her part or me just losing interest and not being super into the girl after a bit.

[–]Massap24 -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]AgasitehGreat 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link