Ok, so I see quite a lot of posts here and there about men and issues with being rejected by women. I know it is easier said than done, but....this will be helpful in any situation, not just approaching a woman, but what follows thereafter.

This is from the perspective of a women. So share your insights!

You see a girl at the bar, and you might think she is cute, and you might want to talk to her. Let's go over 3 things:

  1. Do you believe in your abilities and what you can offer?

(TIP: I think I should not even say this, but I will say it regardless; if she is not giving you the hints, it's always best to not approach. If you locked eyes twice with the girl, could be a coincidence, could be she likes you, if you feel it, go for it. If she does not even know you exist, it's going to be tough and I hope you have point 'a' below on check. Good luck)

1a. Don't approach a girl you know it's out of your league if you can't back it up. Meaning...that you gotta bring that 'big dick energy', and I will just say it like that, and I can write about this a bit more to explain, but let's just say that if I need to explain this, don't approach the girl. And no, it does not necessarily mean you have to have a big dick. It's an aura.

1b. Select a girl that is in your range if you don't feel as confident to go for the cutest girl in the bar looking all lonely that barely is looking at anybody.

2. If you approach the girl, she finds a way of rejecting you...let's just see which are the top scenarios a girl can reject you so we are being realistic:

2a. She says 'I have a boyfriend'

i. Kindest type of rejection. You smile and say something like 'lucky guy he is' wink and bye. Don't insist. Please.

2b. She acts uninterested and bitchy.

i. Ok, she is rude...because if you are coming off politely and confident, there is no need for her to act that way. She thinks she is too cute for you, so it's time for you to regain control of the situation and bring her back to reality where she belongs. Smirk, give her the "you think you cute right...this bar is full of girls like you" (practice that look) and walk the fuck away. And don't feel bad....because why would you give someone so shady control over your feelings and emotions. Her loss. She deserves an asshole not you.

2c. She ignores you and is even ruder than the girl I just described.

i. You again, need to regain control and bring her back to the reality, but with more than just a look, with words, something along the lines of 'there is no need to be rude, I just wanted to chat for a bit while I enjoyed my drink, goodnight' this let's her know it's not about her honey...it's about you enjoying yourself. Yes, she will be upset, who the fuck cares. You are being polite.

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3. She did not reject you: Yey! You are talking to her, asking questions, complementing, not being desperate, you are being confident, you get her number, she doesn't respond to your text messages the next day. (Whatever happened in between does not matter)

3a. This is also a form of rejection. Don't take it to heart. You won't have to chase the one that likes you. Whatever happened last night was not enough? Ok bye. Too bad. But giving so much importance to someone you just met is not healthy. Take it for what it is, it was fun, if you ever see her again, you won't seem like that creep that kept texting her.

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4. She did not reject you and responds to your day after text message.

4a.Great! You are looking good my friend. Now please, take this time to get to know each other in a healthy way. Don't bring up serious relationship talk, and marriage, and kids, on the first or second date. Make sure she is a good woman too, (if you are looking for something serious) don't just fall in love with the first person that responds to your text messages just because you are xx old and you feel like you need to be in a relationship.

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After all, you can either do two things after being rejected, give it importance and let it eat your mind little by little by overthinking it and writing a post on reddit, or laugh about it with your friends and make it something positive.

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Sorry for the long post. Got carried away.