Big Wedndesday, how to approach a girl that isn't alone?

grrinchas · 2019-11-09T21:55:33+00:00

Don’t. If you don’t have social skills and confidence you will embarrass yourself and worse her in front of her friends. To game social circle first you have to build your skills, while doing cold approaches. And when u have those skills then you can game your social circle.

Jeagerino · 2019-11-09T22:04:19+00:00

I advise against a direct approach in this situation as what I’m gathering is she may not know you exist. Your attitude in any pick up situation should be a relaxed, confident, “I’m the prize, you’re what I’m interested in for this moment.”

A lone wolf approaching the group is actually my favorite approach situation. My friends suck ass at opening and I often tell them to fuck off and stay back until I give them a signal, while this is obviously me kissing my own ass, what I’m trying to communicate is that I’m experienced in this department and can help you.

To understand why this approach works, visualize what it is that you are doing. You are approaching a group of people alone. This makes you vulnerable, it shows that you’re harmless, and that you’re confident enough in yourself where addressing a group does not bother or phase you. Notice that I said “addressing the group,” that’s what you’re going to do.

Start by addressing the entire group with an easy going greeting and introduction. “Hey everybody, you guys look like you’re having fun, how’s your night going so far?” Something to this effect. If you have something to say about the class itself to keep it relatable, then go for it, but you need to acknowledge the group and see if they will invite you to converse with them. You aren’t going to go from nobody in this girls eyes to the starting quarter back in her spank bank with some silver bullet pick up technique. You need to win the group over first and then subsequently her.

After the intro, ask people for their names and start a round of intros, if everybody knows each others names already then skip this step, but if people don’t know each others names or shouldn’t based on lack of interactions, my suggestion is to ask people for their names first and then see if they ask you for yours. If people ask you for your name in return, 50/50 they are either just being nice to you or actually find you interesting, in either case, them asking you for your name earns you some time to figure out if you’re welcome to their conversation or not.

The best way to see if you’re invited to this conversation is by inviting yourself and seeing how they respond (verbally and non-verbally through body language). Simply ask, “what were you guys talking about before I showed up?” If they tell you and have a laugh with you about it or try to relate the conversation to you, then you’re in. If they give you a really vague answer or only one person is the group is addressing you at this point, then you are not in and you should move on.

Assuming things have gone well to this point and you are now chatting with the group, then you can start to sprinkle additional attention towards the girl your actually interested in. “You said you name was x, right? I really like when you said/the design on your shirt/specific meaningful and not explicitly sexual compliment here.” Try to start a side conversation with her and see if you guys hit it off. The move is always to spend as much with her as possible, back off and roam around for a bit if things get stale, come back to her and reignite and show slightly more interest each time. If the group has plans after the event, they will likely invite you if you’ve successfully pulled things off at this point. If they don’t directly, ask them what they’re doing afterwards. If they tell you but don’t invite you, grab the girls number and play the long game. If they don’t have anything to do, invite them back to your place for an “after party” or suggest something fun that you might know that they can all come along to.

I’m not going to get into closing the deal here or any other specific material as you were really only asking about approach here, and looking back I wrote an essay anyway so I hope this helps. If you have any questions lmk.

Title	Big Wedndesday, how to approach a girl that isn't alone?
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Date	November 9, 2019 8:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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