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| 7 | [FR] approaching after one month of break | grrinchas | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:12 PM | |
| 3 | 1 out of 100 | grrinchas | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 09:16 PM | |
| 2 | How to find a wing in London | grrinchas | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 08:05 PM | |
| 1 | Why guys should never take dating advice from a women? | grrinchas | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:29 PM |
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| 0 | Invited a girl to my dorm... not sure if it’s clear or notTry to kiss her first before putting your fingers in the pussy. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Yay or nay on this kind of response? If not, suggestions?Nay. You called her a bitch in first message and in the next message you will send a smirky smile. WTF, dude. Keep your frame. Don’t react to her shit test by calling you aggressive and just invite her: Just say “I am having house show on 15th. If you want you can come. It will be fun.” You can translate that in your own slang. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Asking out classmate who may or may not have a boyfriend? (Long)She is into you. Don’t think she is considering you as a friend. Woman saying a compliment is a HUGE indication of interest. Ask her out and see how it goes. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | When to text after the first dateIf you think that it was perfect date, then wait for her to message. If she doesn’t then you will learn, that maybe it wasn’t that perfect. Besides you kissed her. She knows that you are into her. Now, it’s her job to make a move. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Have I done something wrong here, or was it a bad idea to give this chick another chance?She wants to go out. You can say no. That would be a punishment. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 02:03 AM |
| 5 | They're just people.From the definition of punishment: Penalty - is a absence of sex for the guy Imposition- woman says “no” Offence - guy did something what she didn’t like It fits definition. You have to understand, that punishment or reward does not need to be conscious process. It occurs naturally in every social situation. PUA just gives awareness about it. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 02:01 AM |
| 7 | They're just people.This exactly what I am talking about punishment and reward. She “punishes” you cause you haven’t made her comfortable sexy or other reason. This can be conscious or unconscious process. But still is a “punishment”, in a sense that you are doing something wrong, so you should change your behaviour. Another example of punishment is when you try to kiss her, but she turns her head sideways. It means that you are going too fast. So she punishes you by not allowing you to kiss her. If she feels comfo… | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | High interest girl.Just say that you don’t have time texting and catch up when you meet in person. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:49 AM |
| 2 | My opinion on "Seduction" techniquesTotally agree. Thousands of years people were fine without “seduction” techniques. And if you can get laid without them. Then there is no reason to learn them. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:47 AM |
| 2 | High interest girl.Why would you text if you don’t like texting? | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:42 AM |
| 0 | They're just people.I am relatively new to this sub. And definitely will do a reflection. Is pointless to explain PUA stuff to people who don’t agree with that. Totally waste of time. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:32 AM |
| -1 | They're just people.We can communicate not just with words (body language, voice tone, your actions, face expressions etc). These are much more effective ways to communicate. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:19 AM |
| 3 | They're just people.For women it works very well. Classic example is withholding sex. I wonder if there is any woman who at least once in her life haven’t done that. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 12:14 AM |
| 13 | They're just people.Are you lost? | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 11:14 PM |
| -3 | how do you know if a girl likes or is just being friendlyAsk her to give a friendly kiss to the cheek. When she does that, catch her head with your hands and kiss her in lips. If she likes you then she will be fine with that if not then say “just making sure we are just friends” Don’t be surprised if after this she will want to be more than friends. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Have I done something wrong here, or was it a bad idea to give this chick another chance?Instead of agreeing with her busy week. You should have replied: “Are you asking me out? Not sure about this week, tho. Busy. Which days you’re thinking?” Then ask where she will take you. Then flip it “I know better place, I will meet you at this time at this location” Remember. You can’t be too nice to her. You asked her out already. You have to show to her that you can’t be fucked around like this. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Get depressed seeing men with women way way out of there league.Is jealousy. You have to deal it with like any other jealousy. Get yourself what you are missing. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:41 PM |
| -1 | Get depressed seeing men with women way way out of there league.If I see something like that. I just assume they are friends and approach them, unless of course they are kissing, holding hands etc. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Have I done something wrong here, or was it a bad idea to give this chick another chance?You sound too available. And try to qualify her or punish her instead of agreeing with everything she says. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:26 PM |
| -1 | What did I do wrong (if anything)?It’s not what you did, but what you didn’t do. Next time try to have sex with her. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:22 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with friends that "throw you under the bus" when youre talking to a girl?Stop being the guy who can be thrown under the bus. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Is push/pull necessary when she's showing interest?Cause people use push/pull in very narrow sense, as some lines to create an attraction. I use push/pull term in more general sense. Whatever you do what she likes, you alternate between doing and not doing it. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 10:05 PM |
| 0 | Is push/pull necessary when she's showing interest?Yes. You always have to push/pull. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 06:27 PM |
| 2 | If world population is close to equal, why are there more lonely men out there than there are women?Online game do have more men, but that could be because they prefer this kind of way of meeting more than women. Also men have very high standards when it comes to physical attractiveness of the female. 6 don’t want to go below 8. Which reduces his chances considerably. Also men tend to favour ONS more than women, making them always single. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Would you reject love just to game?You can do both. | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 09:40 AM |
| 1 | Coronavirus outbreak pickup routine.What’s that? | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Whats the best type of min wage job to get to live a slayer livestyle?You are thinking about that in a wrong way. The best way to sleep with a lot of women is not to work at all. The more you work the less time you have to approach women, and have sex with them. So your priority should be to build a lifestyle where you would have to work less, but still have money, | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Should I let go or try again?You are too much into him. It’s not healthy, especially if he doesn’t feel the same about you. Even, by some miracle, you convince him to be with you, he will fuck you up in the future. The way you describe him, he is a man full of insecurities. He can’t even be honest with you or even himself. Probably he doesn’t know what he wants. Trust me. He is not worth it. And you are just wasting your time. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Should I let go or try again?Oneitis... | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 10:38 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Went out for 45 mins doing Daygame, 0 approachesBetter let them pass. It is much more natural approach. Have you ever seen a movies where you walk pass the girl and time stops, slow downs. When you pass a girl and then go back in front and open, she have already seen you. Either by looking directly at you or with peripheral vision. So the response is much better, cause she knows who is stopping her. Also it makes sense. Cause you walked pass her. You saw something nice about her. And then you catch her and say what did you notice about her. I… | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 10:16 PM |
| 5 | How can a guy become a asshole to attract girls?You don’t need to become an asshole to attract girls. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:39 AM |
| 3 | "leagues" in collegeCreate your own “league”. Most powerful mafia bosses where short guys. Looks means nothing when it comes to power and status. Look at Donald Trump, he looks like a duck. Yet he is one of the most powerful personas in a world. It’s your inner strength what matters. And women goes to powerful men like bees to honey. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | How do you stop from getting sad/bitter when other guys have it so much easier?They are both stupid and useless thoughts. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How do you stop from getting sad/bitter when other guys have it so much easier?Sure you can. When was the last time you were thinking about “can a zombie become a vampire?” It’s a bullshit thought which you don’t think about that at all. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:15 AM |
| 2 | 22yo asking for adviceGo outside. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:09 AM |
| -1 | ranking 'signs of interest'Lol. Everything is logical and can be explained. | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:03 AM |
| 12 | How do you stop from getting sad/bitter when other guys have it so much easier?Don’t compare yourself with others. Compare your current self with previous self. Hopefully it is better :D | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 12:02 AM |
| 2 | ranking 'signs of interest'Here are the list ordered from weakest to strongest. One indication on its own doesn’t mean anything. Look for clusters. You don’t know each other and are total strangers and she looked at you. If you can approach. she looks at you more than once in short period of time. if you caught her looking and she looked down or up. she crosses her legs few times she starts touching her hair she takes a makeup box and starts fixing herself up she turns her feet towards you, keeping body in same position s… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Girls Take Too Long to DrinkThere is no formula which works for every women. Most women don’t know how to flirt themselves. Some of them are chatterboxes, some of them are very shy, some of them talking like a dude. In fact, it’s very hard to find a woman who knows the game. So you have to adjust your approach. The only thing what is common is a CHANGE in their body language. Eventually every women will change her body language. Especially women who are totally unaware of their body language they change it so obviously tha… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Is predicting or guessing a women’s intentions viable?Always. You always assume. Assume that she likes you, Assume that she wants to sleep with you. Assume that she wants to go with you. etc. Sometimes you will make wrong assumptions. But who cares. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Girls Take Too Long to Drink5 min takes for her to decide if she likes you. 3-4h takes for her to decide if she will sleep with you now. Of course it depends on your skill level as well and how fast you can build attraction, comfort and seduction. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Girls Take Too Long to Drink2h in one venue is fine. On average, you need minimum 3-4h to spend with her before she will have sex with you. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 10:40 PM |
| 1 | I Can't Find Consistent Ways to Meet PeopleWhat’s your question? | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Holding a conversation and closing. Need Advice!Although there are lots of theory about that and you can read literally hundredths of books about inner and outer game, techniques etc. But that won’t help you, is just too much information. What you need to do first is to get rid of insecurities. You have to be able to talk with any girl like you are talking with a friend. Hold conversation long enough. Make conversation interesting. You won’t get any results but you will get rid off those insecurities you have. When you can do that, then come … | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Holding a conversation and closing. Need Advice!You have to make conversation "man to woman". She has to know that you are sexually attracted to her. If you are not, then she won't be as well. I can tell that you that you will have lots of trouble to get laid. Seems that you have lots of insecurities. So you have to fix them. Social anxiety can be fixed by just talking with strangers everyday. What other people think about you can be fixed by embarrassing yourself publicly until you don't give a fuck anymore. Fear of rejection can be fixed by… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Daygame in central LondonEvery group has a leader. Pay attention who walks in front, and who talks the most. That is the leader. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Daygame in central LondonCause you don't know how. Identify the leader. Talk 80% with the leader. Eventually eject by saying "Ok guys. I have to go. We should definitely check that club/pub/place together. Do you have WhatsApp?" If your target was a leader then take her number, if it was other girl then take hers. Or take both contacts. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Daygame in central LondonSituational approaches are the best. They are spontaneous and funny. Oxford st. is full of day gamers. The good thing is that most of them are approaching only solo set. And don't have balls to do 2set, 3set, mixed groups etc. Even shop game are too hard for them. So you can do that to increase conversion rate. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:37 PM |
| 2 | How'd I do?Seems, like she was just having fun. You are her friend, that's all. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Can Someone Please Help Me Explain What Is Going On Here?Having same dick all the times gets boring even for a woman. There was a reason why she broke up with her bf, there was a reason why she hooked up with you, and there was a reason why she came back to him. If you wish you can repeat the cycle. There is no happy ending for you guys, whatever you will choose to do. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:20 PM |
| 7 | What am I missing?Remove camping photo. Add photo with a dog. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:09 PM |
| 3 | If you ever need a confidence boost...I agree. But not the confidence. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 07:06 PM |
| 9 | If you ever need a confidence boost...The only thing which increases the confidence is the experience. No amount of facts, affirmations, self delusions, or other mind tricks will boost your confidence. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Girl friend I made out with does not tell me she has a boyfriend (complicated) what to do?The only good thing about fucking another guys women is the Ego boost. Otherwise, it is not worth the effort. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | An interesting title"Hi. I should be free this weekend. Lets grab a drink." | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 05:54 PM |
| 1 | How would you address why you don't have anything on facebook/no friends on it? Say she asks you for your facebook or searches you, only to find a blank page with your name on itYou can avoid all this social media bullshit and still get girls. But if you are serious about PUA then you need social media. It helps a lot. Same like you should go to the gym to get muscular body if you want to fuck HB9-10 without a lot of effort. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible at your core to just be not good enough no matter what?You are reading bullshit books. The only thing you need to learn is to show sexual intent to the woman. That's all. This is what those guys are capable of doing and you are not. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Mind going blank tips?If you have trouble to keep talking, then you can do this exercise: Once per day pick some random item like "scissors", and try to talk for 2min non stop about it. Make it fun and interesting. Every day increase time. After a week you won't have any problem to talk about bullshit and make it fun. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 04:47 PM |
| 3 | I come off as really nice and I think it is holding me back. What can I do?You are being nice because of validation. You like when someone says to you "oh, you are such a good guy". That makes you feel good about yourself. To be an asshole is hard. You don't get this stuff anymore, you may anger some people, you may put yourself in very uncomfortable situations, which doesn't make you feel that good. The thing is, there is nothing wrong to be a nice guy. Women love nice guys. But what they don't like is your fear of being an asshole when time comes. If someone disrespe… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 04:27 PM |
| 1 | How to be a hard to get asshole without sacrificing being a nice guy?Lol, this is what OP is doing. He needs to do opposite. He has to understand how other people perceive him, so that he would not come up as an asshole. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that some guys have 'natural' game whilst others have none?Everyone has natural game. Just some don't know how to play it. Only, in very rare cases, like autism this may not be the case. There is nothing "unnatural" about PUA. It is misconception. The only difference between PUA and so called NATURAL is that PUA is aware about the game. While natural is not aware. It's the same difference between a mechanic and just a driver. Driver can only drive a car, he doesn't understand how it works, while mechanic can drive a car, but also knows how it works. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Insecurity problemYou don't get it. If you are able to belief, than you are able to unbelief. I know some people who are so fucking fat, yet they still think they are healthy. They are delusional. That delusion, makes them enjoy all the food they want. If they can do that, you can do as well. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Small town seductionIt will be an issue if you will make this an issue. You are the tourist. You can be different. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Insecurity problemAct like this doesn't bother you. People will believe. Hopefully, one day you will too. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:28 PM |
| 0 | Playing it coolI understand you want to help. But this advice is totally wrong. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Should i hug or kissHug. But not with lame hug like you would hug your grandmother. Hug her, lift her up, spin her, but it down. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:11 PM |
| 2 | I like a woman at work but big companyNext time join her for the lunch and have a conversation. First few minutes talk about common thing - job. Then go little bit personally: "ask what she does after work", "does she like to go out for drink etc.". If you hit it off, just ask her number. Don't make big deal of it. Something like this: "Btw, I have to go back to work. What's your number. We can catch up later." p.s make sure you end up conversation first! it is important. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Are these signs that my male coworker (19) is interested in me (f23) or am I overthinking it?There is no problem, just explanation of situation. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 01:27 PM |
| 1 | I don’t understand why I’ve been so bad with girls recentlyBeing honest works only if your timing is right. E.g. You are interested only in sex and you want to be honest about it. 1) if you say this before having sex with her, or when just met her, then this will make her feel “cheap”, she is not some kinda hooker. That’s why you can’t say it. 2) if she asks you during the date what are you looking for then it’s fine do be honest. 3) or, if you say this after sex, then it’s fine as well, cause you don’t want her to have any false hopes for relationship.… | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 12:41 PM |
| -1 | Are these signs that my male coworker (19) is interested in me (f23) or am I overthinking it?He is gaming you. I would not be surprised that he knows about PUA. No normal guy would compliment on a makeup. Plus there are lots of push pull. Like your earrings are nice but you have small ears and similar. You sad you have bf, so this stopped him of asking him out. His tactic is to create strong attraction, and then probably he will ask you out as a friend. He is interested in you just for sex. | /r/seduction | 02/02/20 12:17 PM |
| 6 | Dance floor game; more physical less verbalTry to start dancing with her. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Set the date, should I keep texting?Lay low. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Is approaching in the day frowned upon nowadays?No one gives a fuck about you. People are too busy thinking about their own problems. Who cares about some guy who run, stopped a girl, and said "hi". They look briefly. And then they continue doing their own business. You are not important to them enough, to pay attention to you. It is kinda sad. But it is true. Once I saw a naked guy on rollerblades on London streets. I looked at him, people looked at him for 5s, smiled and continue walking. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Why am I too fucking scared?!Yes. You are overthinking and being a pussy. Your mind will find all the reasons in a world not to approach. Cause it tries to protect you from imaginary danger. So, say "Fuck you". And just start approaching. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Is the Strawberry test trustworthy?Never used it, cause it seems too complicated and pointless. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Chatting advice!Cause she feels pity for you and may not want to hurt your feelings even more by saying no. You are taking advantage of this fact. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 03:07 PM |
| 0 | Need help finding a short story video about a man who approaches a woman in a coffee shop.Do you know how many opportunities you gonna miss while watching a video? The moral of the story: stop watching videos and start approaching for real. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Chatting advice!Jesus. You want to take advantage of your friend who comforted you when you were having bad time. No wonder your gf cheated on you... | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 02:53 PM |
| 5 | What to do when girls disqualify you on your age, looks, height or any external factorYou didn't get the point. It is like selling. Let's say a sales person tries to sell you a hover. So if you already have a hover, you won't even bother to talk with him. It is total rejection, and in this case 'no' means 'no'. But let's say you need new hover and you are thinking about buying it yourself. So the salesman tries to sell it to you, by describing how good it is, the power, the suction etc. But, there is a problem. Even you want to buy it, you see that it is little bit overpriced. So… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Online dating profile- should you/where should you mention that you will be leaving the area you are living in soon (within like 5 months)? How would you word it?What are you doing after graduate Say the truth, that you are leaving the area. Plus it seems good to mention so she does not think of me as boyfriend material If you are not looking anything serious than mention in your profile at the end. "P.S I am not looking anything serious." But you feel putting it on your dating profile will be seen as a negative? Neither negative nor positive. Is totally useless information to know in your case. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | How to make the first move as a maleAsk her to describe her day. Make her talk continuously. Then go on top of her. Say "Don't worry. Keep talking." Start kissing her neck, and go slowly to breasts. Kiss her breasts, nipples through clothes. If she stops talking, you say "Please continue, I am listening". Then go down to her stomach and to her pussy. Start eating her pussy through jeans. Pull them with your teeth. After 1 min of eating. Start unbutton her pants, and remove. If she lets you then just go down town for real. If she d… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:02 PM |
| 5 | Need advice - How do I not overthink before approaching?When I see someone to approach, my first thought is: "Right. Here we go again..." and I go. After 3-5 approaches, my first thought is: "Who is next?" | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Looking for advice from men. How can I retain a man’s interest?You can't. It is the same like men can't seduce a women who doesn't want to be seduced. So you can't keep a man in relationship if he doesn't want to be. Just be direct with him and say that you are not interested in ONS. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Confused BestfriendAww. So cute. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:45 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with women who only want to flirt with you?Explanation: She things about you just as a friend. So you have to change that. By telling her that you went on a date with model you DHV yourself and she thinks "Hm. he went with model. Interesting. Maybe I was wrong about him." Girls hate being left behind for better one. That's why you have to be very specific about this, so that would sound real and you are not making up all this. Then she may throw a test at you, by getting angry cause you asked her out, so she kinda have a right to be piss… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Date sat next to another guy?Go to them. Introduce yourself to the guy. Handshake. Ask about him. Be polite. Then ask a guy question "Where is your girlfriend?" If he says, "I don't have one" then you say, "That's weird. You look quite handsome. If I would have six pack like yours, girls would spin all around me." If he starts to qualify himself. You say "No worries, man. I understand. It makes sense why you are hitting on her." while pointing to your girl. If he starts to deny he has lost all respect from your girl. In tha… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:24 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with women who only want to flirt with you?Say that last Saturday you went on really great date with this Spanish girl you met in a bar. She was very attractive, worked as a model. You had great time. Laugh. Etc. Be specific as much as you can. If she gets angry. Then you say "Why you are so angry? I though we are friends. Bye" If she starts asking questions about her. Then you say "I don't have time to talk. If you want I can tell you in person." | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Online dating profile- should you/where should you mention that you will be leaving the area you are living in soon (within like 5 months)? How would you word it?So if you are not looking for GF then why do you want to mention? It's totally unimportant in this case. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 10:53 AM |
| 2 | Is this sub only for men looking for advice on women?Here are some tips to get laid or get male attention: Clothes. You can tell a lot about woman, and her relationship status just by the length of her skirt. She can be the most beautiful women but if she wears skirt to her ankles in summer she is either taken or is too conservative or worst feminist, in this case it is big turn off for the guy. So, clothes should be your priority. Find a line between "sexy" and a "slutty". Make up. Polished nails. Shaved bikini. Perfume. Hygiene in general. Again… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 10:42 AM |
| 1 | For people who haven't ever slept with a woman or been with a GF. If you were asked by a new girl you were dating "why didn't you have a GF in college?" or "why don't you date a girl in your college" what would you say?I would say the truth: "I was shy" p.s. Sometimes women ask me how many "Women/gf I had?" or "Do I do this a lot?". When I say the truth they don't believe it anyway. Then, I ask their number and they change conversation themselves. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 10:00 AM |
| 2 | Feeling uncomfortable pulling to my small studioThey don’t give a fuck about that. If they are willing to have sex in the toilet where stinks piss. Your setup is more than enough. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:52 AM |
| 11 | Should I give upYou have two options: Either you keep pushing and MAYBE you will get results, or give up and NEVER get results. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal for girls to be rude as heck at bars/clubs? In America specificallyIt’s not okay. What’s your point? | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Advice on situation, asked girl out gave me her number, said she is seeing a guy kinda, now...?Dude. She is into you. Just say what she wants to hear to satisfy her consciousness and play your game as usual. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsI appreciate your help. Will keep that in mind. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 09:03 PM |
| 7 | Women always make me compliments for my eyes. What is the best way to respond to these?Say “thank you”. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsIt’s not that their age is written on their head. I get to know their age after approach. No one is talking about relationship, no girl wants to be with old dude in relationship. But they do like sex. At your age you should be very good at it, and know how to give them that. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 08:44 PM |
| 0 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsYou sound like you never approached any young girl 16-20 directly. If you would you knew their reaction. Put some nice clothes, approach her in daytime, look in her eyes, and say “You have such amazing hair”. They become so happy about that. My reasoning is that guys their age are pussies, they can’t approach them like that. They can only say something like that through social media. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsCombine your money, status with your strong inner and outer game and you are not sugar daddy anymore. Plus if you keep in shape, you have strong advantages over young guys. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 08:25 PM |
| 0 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsYou are not gaming them properly. Your attitude is wrong. By the time you are 40 you should have money, status, sex experience, and life experience in general. These things are very attractive for young girls. You are like their dad but you show strong sexual intent. And as you sad, they are superficial. So just spoil them, if they behave good, and punish if they misbehave, same like a daddy used to do. It’s simple. Older women 30-40 are different. They know what is important in life. They value… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice on how to say no and juggle my prospectsI do get emotionally attach as well. Mainly cause without emotions sex is shit. So you have to expose yourself to enjoy it. But even so, you have to do the right thing. It is like going to the gym to build muscles. You can go once or twice per week, fuck around with some weights, and never get results even after 10 years of training. Or you can get your shit together, commit to your training and get results after 3 years and start competing professionally. Anything you do, you have to do it righ… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 06:14 PM |
| 1 | I cannot get over my AADo the same thing when you have a toothache. You don't want to go to dentist, yet do it cause you don't have any other options. Approaching is the same. You have to do what needs to be done. Like it or not. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:51 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with Embarrassing moment in front of crushIt is your mistake. You should tell her that you like her before some else does it for you, lol. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How game changed my life, and how it brake itI don't know what kind of game you were learning, cause clearly you have "oneitis". | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | What are some Good conversation starters when trynna make a move on a girl?Do what you do in 45% of the time. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Looking for advice on how to say no and juggle my prospectsWhat is your goal? E.g. my goal is a self development, I don't feel that I am the man which I want to be. That's why I am not ready for LTR. For this reason I try to fuck as many attractive women as I can. In hopes that this will satisfy my "itch" for different pussy. And hopefully one day I won't want that anymore. That's why I don't keep existing connections, cause it makes me lazy. It is just too easy to call someone and have sex. I don't have time to be lazy. So even it is hard, I don't want… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Do PUAs exit the game due to aging?The only way to exit the game is to die. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Any good first date ideas?My favourite type is a dinner. Mostly cause I like to dine out. It cost money, but I get to know lots of restaurants and different cuisines. I would not advise that if you are beginner and you don't know how improvise kino. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | I've done the inner work. I've done the outer work. Still not approaching & I recognise what it is. It's that fear of becoming an autist who just defies social calibration and just does questionable shit. Has anyone had this issue and still followed through?Experience. You need 10 000 hours to master a skill. Don't expect you will be good with women after few approaches. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 04:04 PM |
| 1 | How do I not get my hopes up when I encounter a girl (or anyone) I really connect with?People value things which they think is hard to get. For you is the connection, cause you know you have to work hard for that. Younger hot girls don't value these things, cause they have abundance of that or at least they thing they do. Wait when they will be 35-40 and still single. Then they start to crave that shit like crazy. And will do anything to get it. If you want to seduce someone, then give them what they want. Your job is to figure out what that is and give it to them. Younger and hot… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal for girls to be rude as heck at bars/clubs? In America specificallyMaybe you are ugly. Sometimes I get this reaction even if I am being friendly or polite. How would you react if some very unattractive girl would start to hit on you? It never happened to me. But I don't think I would be very happy about that. It would make me feel like I am as ugly as she is. I deserve more. Probably this is what those girls thinking as well. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Advice for 30s grad to get undergrad girlsYounger ones are much easier. You are older. So you have advantage over their age guys. Your attitude should be "They are young. They don't have life experience as me. They just start to learn how to be independent, they don't know the real values and what is most important in life. They still trying to figure out themselves etc." If you approach them with this attitude, then you won't have problem. The worst you can do is to think "I am too old for them, they don't want to be with me." This att… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 03:28 PM |
| 7 | approaching women at the gym?I am serious. You can't have good workout if your mind is picking up girls. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 03:23 PM |
| 2 | First dates going great but unable to get a second.If you bring them home. You have to have sex with them. Now, it seems that you make them wet, and then just end the night. If I would be a woman I would be very angry about this. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Super cute introvert at my UniYou don't have to flirt. The only thing you need to do is to get her number. You can ask for her number as casual as you can. E.g. "Btw, do you wanna grab a coffee, sometime?" Ask her in very normal tone, like it is no big deal, neither you like her, nor you care if she says "yes". If she refuses, then you can say "Cmon, it just a coffee, I have to run, don't have time, just enter your number." while giving her a phone. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Potentially just got rejected. Tryna dealLol. What you gonna do if you will get rejected, for sure. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Help: Expressing sexuality and overcoming insecuritiesYou have to get rid of those insecurities. Everything else will follow. To do so you have to identify what they are and force yourself to take action. There is no other way. If you have 10%bf you already know the principles of success. And know how much work it takes to get there. To be rejected, or to embarrass the shit out of yourself is the pain. But you should know that "no pain - no gain". | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Train your correct personalityThere are two parts of "being yourself". When people are talking about that, for some reasons they don't make a distinction. Image - it is how you see yourself. If I ask you a question "What kind of person you are", you would say something like, "I am shy/outgoing/funny/confident/not-confident etc." Expression - it is how you express your image. You can be funny person with your friends but you are not with girls, due to social fears or other reasons. To express yourself is hard, no doubt about … | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 12:58 PM |
| 4 | approaching women at the gym?If you go to the gym your focus should be on your workout, unless of course you are going specifically to pick them up. All these distractions reduce muscle and mind connection. Which reduces efficiency of workout. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Venue ChangeTake to venue where is close to you. Also don't ask her out to any parties or go to venues where everyone knows you. Or go to parties where she knows some people. It is never a good idea. You want to keep distractions as minimum as possible. Her focus should be YOU and your focus should be HER. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Can someone give me an opener+follow up for a grocery store?So if you don't know how to transition from indirect opener then don't use it. Go direct and say you liked something about her. Indirect openers should be used if you can't go direct due to circumstances (e.g. you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable by getting all attention to you two). Your own insecurities should never be the reason for you not going direct. If you have any, then get rid off them. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't approaching people impose costs? What set of guidelines would minimize this?I am lazy. Approaching requires very minimal time investment. Yes, at first is hard but later on becomes easy. You know what is much worse? Building lifestyle for social media. I mean, you have to go to some stupid country just to take pictures, to show that you like travelling. How much money you will spend? How much time? And you have to do it all the times. You always have to post pictures of yourself doing things which are perceived as cool. You have to have friends who takes those pictures.… | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 10:16 PM |
| 3 | Question: How can I have a better conversation with the girl I like?Qualify her by asking a question: tell me three interesting things about yourself | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on grocery store game?Direct game works the best in shops. | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 03:47 PM |
| 0 | How to stall things with a girl?Just say the truth. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | What to do when girls didn't make eye contactWave at them. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 6 | Ghosted after a first date which i thought went pretty wellYou are not wrong. Date was good for you and I bet for her as well. You both enjoyed your time together, had great dinner and a nice conversation. This is exactly what I do when I go out with my family or friends. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:57 PM |
| 3 | [Debate] Cold Approaching vs Universe will take care of youI don't really know what you mean. But I am guessing something like this: I go to gym with my shorts, and don't even think to approach anyone. But I see hot woman. I approach her and start talking with her. So, this is natural? Right? I have time on Saturday. So I put may PUA clothes, have my lines, routines etc. ready. And I go to cold approach. Have a goal to approach 10 per day. So this is not natural? Right? Or I am missing something. In any case you can do both. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:44 PM |
| 1 | [Debate] Cold Approaching vs Universe will take care of youWhy choose? Do both. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:21 PM |
| 0 | Returning to the game...Social proof became much more important. If you can "hack" tinder, you can get laid every day without a lot of effort. Cold approaching is still not a mainstream and never will be. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:18 PM |
| 4 | How to keep an attractive girl with you after successful dating...Agree with everything, except first point "Men fall in love in few days". Maybe it applies to some men, but definitely not for all. It doesn't matter how beautiful, attractive and wonderful person she is. Eventually, I get bored. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:10 PM |
| 1 | An analysis of a tinder dateDon't go to a date without your "mojo". | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 12:04 PM |
| 8 | Do girls want you to just take action without asking (within reason)?Never ask a permission to have sex with a woman. It is a big turn off for her. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 10:18 AM |
| 4 | When to pull back after dating for a while?She just needs sex once in a while, that's all. She is busy and don't have time for dating. You sort her problem. It doesn't matter what you will do. She is not looking for serious relationship. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you ever been with a girl whose into "Dom" play?If you are beginner don’t buy any stuff. First thing what you have to learn is to be verbally dominant. This is the most important. You have to learn to give commands, talk dirty, and roleplay. You should always talk during foreplay and during sex. Next step is to make your play as long as possible. After that you can try to buy simple kink stuff and incorporate into your game. Being Dom requires you using logical part of the brain (which includes verbal, safety considerations etc) while having … | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Cruise Upcoming. How's the water for nerdy dudes?You are into maths, books, food and bodybuilding and you are going for holiday with your family. Don’t want to be pessimistic, but you won’t have sex. If by some miracle you will manage to approach a women, you will kill her initial boner for you by bore her to death. It’s seems that you are good looking, but that’s not enough to get laid. You have to work on your GAME. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Please dear god I need advice on getting laidThe best part of sex is an emotional connection. You are missing a lot, bro. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Hot Married Women Love to CheatYou’re wrong. Hot married women don’t cheat over the men, they cheat over clueless idiots. Just don’t give a reason for her to cheat and she won’t cheat. | /r/seduction | 28/01/20 09:05 AM |
| 2 | What's your biggest frustration with all of this?My biggest frustration is that, this is still considered as “pseudoscience”. If it was taught in school, maybe I wouldn’t have wasted my 20 years. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Can't approach without a wing.Same way you did with a wing. Start approaching on your own, and you will notice that wings are just getting in a way. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Does living in a multi cultural area hurt my chances?Actually it in increases. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:21 PM |
| 1 | picking up stoned?I don’t need to be stoned to feel like that. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Best ways to meet girls in college that are dtf.I just go on a street. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Boring ConversationsIt’s simple: 1) if she talks boring stuff. I just change subject. 2) if she is listening, I am just talking what she wants to hear. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Advice for cultivating a future hookup?Don’t be stupid. Any kind of connection can come back at you. Main rule of cheating: don’t have any connection. So if you want to cheat. Go for holiday. Go to bar, find some girl. Fuck her. And that’s it. Go back. Don’t cheat in your local area, don’t give your real name, your social media accounts, your number, don’t let her take pictures with you. This way you will have true anonymity. Another option which is much more easier is to be honest with your wife and say to her that you want threesom… | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 09:55 PM |
| 1 | How To Totally Rock Her WorldThe only thing what really works is TALKING. It should be a mixture of commands and dirty words wrapped in a story. Everything else is a secondary. Never met a women who would prefer a silent sex. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Being a gentlemanHave you seen movie “kingsmen”? They are gentlemen, but they kick bad guy asses. Similarly, you can be a gentleman and still make a woman wet. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Once in a while i feel like posting something like this... need your insightsJust go and talk to her. This is what I did for my first time. Well, I would not describe the interaction as “talking”, more like I was “vomiting” the words and she was like “yack, help me”. The good thing that the more you do the more your interaction becomes like “music” and she will be “please, continue “ | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Stuck in my own mindMan. It’s your own mind. Who else can change it, than yourself? | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 07:56 PM |
| 10 | Clubbing last nightEvery human interaction is a fight. Fight between your “inner world” and theirs. In your case you won the fight. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Is anyone else perceived as "handsome", "attractive" by his peers/friends, but doesn't have any of the "attractive people situations" happen to him?What a waste... | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 07:51 PM |
| 1 | I need helpStart with “hi” or, “hey”, or “excuse me”. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Express yourselfYou are wrong. You can tell them anything. It’s all about timing. | /r/seduction | 24/01/20 09:34 PM |
| 1 | My Text game sucks. Help meI was talking in general. Every situation is specific. I don't know the start conversation, I don't know what you were talking. I don't know the context. So it is very hard to suggest in this case. At some point is good to ask this question. But not at the beginning. At the beginning should be neutral questions. Something about her photos. Etc. When you have convo going, then you start asking goal oriented questions. | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 10:42 AM |
| 1 | My Text game sucks. Help meI am not native english speaker, so my grammar is bad, lol. How do you work? - I mean the days she works, instead of asking "When you are free?" You ask "Which days you work". She will understand why you are asking this question. What are you looking here? - If it is tinder, or any other online platform. It is important to ask. Sometimes they are looking for serious relationship, sometimes just friends with benefits. The best is when your goal matches. If not, then it is up to you what you want … | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 10:07 AM |
| 7 | I get a lot of obvious approach invitations from women of some cultures. Is it a cultural thing or do I just not appeal to some women?You are right. It is cultural thing. | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Me 42. Her 50 need adviceMaybe she doesn't want to share. Some people have nothing nice to say about themselves, or maybe she needs more time, or she thinks there is no point or etc.. In any case, if she doesn't want, then DO NOT push her. She will open herself up, when she is ready. So, instead make conversation exciting and interesting and not deep and boring. | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:58 AM |
| 2 | My Text game sucks. Help meIt’s very bad question. Maybe her goal was to be a stripper. Some people like to live a life without care and they enjoy. Don’t make assumptions. Also this question does not lead anywhere. It’s rapport building question, save it for a date. | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:40 AM |
| 1 | My Text game sucks. Help meBad questions: How was your day. - pointless question What is the most important quality for u in a guy? - save this for a date Hi. I had a amazing day. - it’s a statement and not a question What is your favourite movie? - save it for a date Etc. Good questions: How do u work this week? Are u living alone? Do you like more Netflix or going out for a drinks? What are u looking here? Ask me one question which you think is the most important for you? Etc. If u see that conversation going to wrong d… | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:28 AM |
| 1 | My Text game sucks. Help meYou are missing point 4. | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:21 AM |
| 2 | My Text game sucks. Help meText game is not that different than other game. While texting with her you have to be in particular state of mind, which includes: 1) you have to be prepared to loose her at anytime and you are cool with that. It’s the most important. 2) you have to be happy, while texting 3) you can’t have any negative emotions or feelings when texting 4) you have to go for a goal which includes getting the date. It doesn’t mean you have to ask her straight away, just ask questions which has a direction 5) mat… | /r/seduction | 22/01/20 09:09 AM |
| 1 | I went on a “hangout” date for coffee with girl who has a boyfriend. She’s told me over and over that she “doesn’t want to make her boyfriend uncomfortable” by hanging out to me, but she still wants to hangout. Now we’re going on a movie “hangout” date and I’m not sure how to proceed.It's the same when people who smoke cigarettes say "Smoking is bad, and not healthy." Yet, they can't help it, and they still smoke. Why? Because they are weak and selfish. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 12:00 PM |
| 1 | I went on a “hangout” date for coffee with girl who has a boyfriend. She’s told me over and over that she “doesn’t want to make her boyfriend uncomfortable” by hanging out to me, but she still wants to hangout. Now we’re going on a movie “hangout” date and I’m not sure how to proceed.Don't do anything. She sad "She doesn't want to make her bf uncomfortable" which means she will be not OK with herself if she will sleep with you. So, don't make a move. Let her come to you, when she is OK with herself. You can hangout, you can tease her, but don't sleep with her. Even if she wants, you say "I don't want to make you uncomfortable. It is wrong. We can't do it. Unless you are OK with that." Do not let her to make you a BAD guy. And don't do compromises! | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 11:48 AM |
| 3 | What to do after the first date?They definitely work, but neither you understand them, nor you believe in them. In addition, you managed to kiss her in a first date. Everything is fine with you. And you don't need any PUA stuff. Therefore, do not use them, just do what you think is appropriate in this situation and believe in yourself. If you will fail. Only then, come back. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Completely ConfusedWhy you just don't meet her? Say I am free this weekend. Let's meet. If she agrees then good, if not then stop wasting time. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 11:33 AM |
| 7 | Todd's game isn't all that?I think you have misconception about the game. The game is not some techniques which you use to get a girl. Techniques are just part of the game. Not the game itself. The game is a process to seduce a women. It can be done by Pick up artist consciously or anyone else unconsciously. You do this by increasing probability, through your: Verbal communication. When someone says "PUA techniques" this is what they usually mean (A conscious verbal action which increases probability to seduce a women.). … | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 11:18 AM |
| -1 | Girlfriend of 2 years wrecked my state of frame and became emotional over her last ex tonight - Where do I go from here?Dude, I think she is right. 25 and still living with parents. Don’t do this shit. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Cold Approaching, Lifestyle, or Both?What I have noticed after 1000 of cold approaches is that approaching in warm settings becomes so easy. It’s like walking in a park. If you can stop total stranger and have sex with him after 4 hours. Then approaching and seducing a girl in a party, or through friends becomes so boring. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Guys that lost their virginity ‘late’ in life. What is your story? How did you turn things around?Personally I just payed for an escort. Somehow managed to get my dick hard. But didn’t finish. Was so depressed after this that didn’t had sex more than 7 years. And when I did, it was again with an escort. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?For me 70%, I get at least nice conversation. 30% I get what you describe. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?I don’t think so. Btw. You can totally tell from where woman is. If you approach huge number. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?Try to hit on Eastern European women, Russian, Ukrainians. They are more forgiving about race. Avoid British, Latin, Asian. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?No it’s not normal. I know lots of guys in community who has the same problem like you. They are Indians or from similar region. And they struggle with cold approaches a lot. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?I don’t say cut it. I just trying understand why you are getting blown so much after so many approaches. The race is important in this game, as much I hate to admit. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?I see you are Indian. It’s very unlikely that you will get white girl. Keep that in mind. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Should I try buying women drinks?Probably you are HG3(Hot Guy 3) who goes after HB8(Hot Babe 8). Come on. Be realistic. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 10:06 PM |
| 1 | What’s some real 100% authentic advice for learning game.Man. I don’t think you have any choice. Either you believe that eventually you will find someone if you put work or you don’t. That’s the truth. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on alcohol?Yeah, but if you do Day Game everyday. Then what, you drink everyday during lunchtime and go out? | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on alcohol?There are only two occasions I use alcohol: Some girls have trouble to relax, and they need alcohol. But they don't want to drink while you don't. So, I make them comfortable by keeping company. Sometimes drinking alcohol is a show of respect due to traditions. E.g. drinking with her father. There are no other reasons to drink it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 06:39 PM |
| 3 | How to dress well for pickups?So you are tall and muscular. Copy haircut and beard from jimmy tatro. For clothes wear anything what makes that V-shape. Nicely fitted T-Shirt for the summer with jeans and sneakers could work. Also add some accessories, such as aviator glasses, watch, try a ring as well. Avoid wearing shirts, and jackets, cause they hide V-taper. Cause you are tall you can wear classic coat and a scarf in a winter. Also DO NOT wear tank-top, outside of the gym. Cause it will make you look like a douche. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | First “approach” last nightI have noticed that young girls are very receptive to direct compliments. I have never had bad reaction when you go direct and just compliment her. They, love that shit. And it doesn't matter if she is HB10 or HB5, all college chicks love compliments. I think because, they don't have life experience. They are still trying to figure out their sexuality. Are they sexy or not. And they need this validation. From 20-30 is different story. Sometimes compliments works, but sometimes you get "Fuck off"… | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 06:15 PM |
| 3 | Disappointed in myselfGo next time, and next time, and next time, until you will feel there like home. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Awkward situation (can you advise?)Just be honest with her. I always say the truth to everyone who I slept with, and especially to the girlfriend. Remember, "Attract with honesty!" | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:52 PM |
| -2 | Going out with a potential gold digger?Who cares. As long as you can afford and she gives you what you want. Then go for it. Personally, I like when women takes money from me. It makes me feel useful. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:47 PM |
| 5 | How to dress well for pickups?Figure out your face shape and your high. Then google celebrities with these parameters. Copy them. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 10 | Fear of Going OutNow, that you have started to get results, you are not afraid of going out, you are afraid that you actually have to text her, then go on a date, and even worse have sex with her. This is what you are afraid. You already know how to solve this. I am not gonna spell it for you. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:37 PM |
| 43 | Going out with a very handsome friend wrecked my stateYou are doing mistake. To go out with hot friend is very beneficial. It attracts lots of girls. Those hot girls have friends who are not that hot, and they know that they will never have him. This is your chance to seduce less attractive girl. And those less attractive, are those who will have sex with you. And in general. If you see two girls walking and one of them is HB10 and another HB8 and if you are not HG (Hot Guy 10) then always go for HB8. It is more likely that she will give you her nu… | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Best respond when she ask this question?Question: "Am I beautiful?" Answer: "Why do you ask me, I am not a mirror." | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:21 PM |
| 0 | What do girls want most on the first date!?Wrong! On first date girls want to be seduced. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Is there a modern version of 'The Game' or a seduction book/guide worth reading to improve my dating game?MM explains "attraction", "comfort" and "seduction". These are THE MOST important things to get laid. No amount of confidence, self-improvement will get you laid. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | What are the biggest difficulties that men encounter when it comes to their dating lives?Sexual desire for a woman is an emotion. Although, all guys feel that desire, but they don't know how to express it. This is the main reason why so called "bad boys" get the women. It is nothing to do with a confidence. If they are angry, they act angry. If they happy, they laugh. If they want woman, they show that to her. In other words, they know how to express their emotions, especially desire. They don't try to hide or suppress it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 1 | [FR] approaching after one month of breakAfter 1000 approaches in the malls, train stations, bus stops, streets, inside of the train, bus full of people, restaurants, coffee shops not even once had this happened to me. It's all about displaying confidence, you take over everyone with your insane confidence, everyone is afraid to look into your eyes. The thing is that the confidence can be faked. You can be afraid, but if your body language, eye contact, and your voice tone is confident, then no one even dare to look at your eyes. Also,… | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:09 PM |
| 3 | [FR] approaching after one month of breakNot really. You should be so focused on a girl that you should not see anything else. You must put yourself and her in invisible bubble. Remember, when you are talking with her, you have to look like you have never saw anything as beautiful as her. Sometimes. If her friends keep starring I just look at them and say "Privacy, please!" | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 01:48 PM |
| 3 | PUA TRAINING FOR WOMENTry this. There is some info https://badgirlsbible.com/ | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 11:42 AM |
| 2 | PUA TRAINING FOR WOMENI don’t think there is such thing. I guess, there is no market for that. If you really want to know how to pick up guys you have to talk with women who have experience. High end independent escorts, gold diggers, party girls, strippers, etc. They will give you some good advices. And then try yourself and learn from mistakes. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 11:35 AM |
| 3 | Just heard my roommate having sex and it was torture.Ahhh. That feeling of jealousy. You should be happy that your roommate is successful with women, and not be jealous, mate. This kind of mindset leads to very sad future for you. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 11:29 AM |
| 2 | THIS IS REALLY BOTHERING MEYou have relationship problem. When I was in a relationship I was fat, and was the worst bf, that you can think of (selfish, didn’t pay attention, played video games, didn’t travel with her etc). And yet, not even once I didn’t trust her. Why? Because I was honest with her, I was like open book, I had no secrets with her. And I respected her. I think that’s why she didn’t cheat on me. Due to mutual respect to each other. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 11:22 AM |
| 2 | How normal or common is it to invite girls over to your place for the 1st date from Tinder? Experiences?Why would you want to do that? She may be a psycho or a dude. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:29 AM |
| 3 | What are the biggest difficulties that men encounter when it comes to their dating lives?Expressing their emotions. It’s very hard to seduce someone if you can’t express sexual desire. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:27 AM |
| 4 | Keep attempting or just leave itMove on. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Had a not so good one night stand the other night w/ a girl I just met. But I kinda like her and I wanna progress into talking to her more- how do I go about this?Wait for her text. If she wants she will text. If not. Move on. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:22 AM |
| -2 | Is there a modern version of 'The Game' or a seduction book/guide worth reading to improve my dating game?Everything you need to know is in “Mystery method”. Everything else is just new age nonsense. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:19 AM |
| 1 | You guys are all so beta for wasting your time chasing girls.“Real” men also killing each other in a war, while “betas” fuck their wifes. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 02:14 AM |
| 22 | Finally managed to do some proper touch escalation on a date.He is just happy. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 12:21 AM |
| 1 | How do you stop your feeling of self from being dependent on affirmations?You are just selfish. Selfish people have this problem. You are thinking too much about yourself and your problems. You are the centre of the universe, all women supposed to notice you, be friendly with you. Is you, and you, and you. You can solve this by being outward thinking person instead of inward. Think more about other people, try to understand their reasons behind their actions. Maybe talk with a girl not because you like her. Maybe talk cause you want to say something nice to her, witho… | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 12:18 AM |
| 1 | He and I don’t share the same beliefsIf you care so much about this small detail. You have to ask yourself “do I like/love him enough to be with him in a first place”. People who really love each other, they don’t care about this stuff. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 10:11 PM |
| 1 | He and I don’t share the same beliefsCan u be more specific | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | He and I don’t share the same beliefsBeliefs has nothing to do with attraction and rapport. Physical appearance and personality is much more important. Just avoid talking about contradicting subjects, that’s all. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:58 PM |
| 3 | How to tell if a guy is interestedNormal, extroverted guy signals (easy to notice) 1) he says compliment 2) he asks you out 3) he looks at you often 4) he finds a reason to talk to you 5) he often touches you 6) he treats you differently than any other women Introvert guy signals (hard to notice) 1) he looks at you while you don’t see that 2) he avoids talking with you or be next to you cause you make him uncomfortable | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:52 PM |
| 1 | I somehow managed to de-interest a girl, how to resolve this?You can always try the last available option “honesty”. Unfortunately, being honest in this situation will make you look pathetic. But you never know. And if this won’t work, at least you will feel that you did everything that you could. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 1 | I somehow managed to de-interest a girl, how to resolve this?You are too much invested in her. Forget her and move on. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Should I use pick up lines or notEvery time you try to pick a women. The first sentence which you say is called “pick up line”. So it’s not that you should use or not. It’s that you can’t not use it. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:28 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys create a socially calibrated context at the beginning of the approach?Actually it does matter a lot. Because "what you say" is directed to her logical part of the brain. And "how you say it" is directed to her emotional part of the brain. I understand that emotions is mort important than logic. But logic plays a role as well. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 12:18 PM |
| 6 | How do I know when a woman is consenting?Yes. Social and emotional intelligence. It is not the same as logical. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 12:05 PM |
| 2 | How can I get over the fact that I won’t lose my virginity anytime soon and stop being envious of sexually active teenagers?I know that sex may sound like really fun think to do. Truth is, your expectations and reality almost never goes hand in hand. Here are some pitfalls: 1) It requires physical fitness. It is no surprise that a man has to do most of the job, so even if you have small girl holding her and moving hips is very physical demanding. You get tired fast, it’s like doing deadlifts. And if you tired your dick goes down as well. But you can solve this problem by carefully choosing positions and controlling y… | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 10:14 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys create a socially calibrated context at the beginning of the approach?It’s called social intelligence. That’s it, knowing what to say, how to say and anticipating the outcome depending on a context. You can only learn this through experience. E.g I used to stop women and say “Excuse me, I could not notice your hair. They look amazing.” Now even this worked, I noticed that other people looked at us, like what the fuck I am doing. The reason for this, is that is not natural thing to do. You don’t stop a person like this and say that you like their hair, is just weir… | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:19 AM |
| 5 | How do I know when a woman is consenting?You just don’t understand women and what makes them tick. Plus you are lacking social and emotional intelligence. Everything can be learn. Is not easy, requires lot of work but totally worth it. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 08:54 AM |
| 0 | girl asks me to meet up then stops replying to texts? what should i do?Nah. I think it will work. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 07:33 PM |
| 0 | girl asks me to meet up then stops replying to texts? what should i do?Just send her dick pic with message "Hi. Brings back memories. Doesn't?" Explanation: The only reason she wants to meet wit you is sex. But you are being too boring, asking about cars etc. Just give her more emotions. This reminds her about that night and what she is missing. p.s. When girls are horny and didn't had sex for a long time, when they see dick pic, they are thinking about sucking on it. If she is not horny, then it is creepy. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 07:11 PM |
| 2 | How to be attractive man. 10 simple habits that will increase your dating by 357.14%Assuming 0% is having no success with women and 100% is having any women you want. Then, by this logic you don't need 10 habits you can take only 3 of them because 1 habit accounts for 35.714%. Therefore 35.714 %* 3 = 107.142%. More than enough to get all women. Remember!! THINK SMART. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Asked a girl on a date, she responds but doesn’t answer?I suggest a night out in the city and a movie back at my place. Next time remove the last part. It is clear indication that you want to have sex. Also be assertive when you ask her out. Don't suggest "night out in the city", cause it sounds that you don't really know what you gonna do. Instead say, "I know great place, you will like it" or "You will have the best night ever, I assure you". You see, it sounds that you know what you are doing. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:59 PM |
| 3 | Girl denied sex and said next timeShe just needed more comfort. Next time when she says something like that. Just ignore, step back. And start from the beginning. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 1 | How to seduce hyper religious girlBe hyper religious yourself on the surface while showing her your badboy side. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:40 PM |
| 1 | What are the minimum looks needed to get most women to be willing to even TALK to you?It is all about first impression. The first impression is the MOST important factor in cold approaching. Just by changing your haircut you can increase chances of response by 5%. Change your shoes, your trousers, make yourself fit. Even small details such as adding a watch on your wrist increase probability of warm response. All these small details add up and makes big difference. I can't say stretch enough, how much this is important while cold approaching. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:36 PM |
| 1 | How do I tell a girl she’s annoyed meIf you tell her that. It means you care about her enough to tell this. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 5 | Confession to make...Is just a fetish. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:26 PM |
| 1 | How do I tell a girl she’s annoyed meJust leave it. Not worth it. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Girls looking at me in public (teenage male)It is dangerous world outside. Terrorists, stabbings, murders, girls looking at you. Better stay at home, man. It is much safer. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Why not just come up and say "I want to fuck you"?Actually. It is not reaction you get. Usually they start to laugh and think it is just some kind of joke. Few times girl started to look for cameras. Field tested. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Why not just come up and say "I want to fuck you"?Cause different girl and social context requires different openers. What works for one girl, may not work for another. This line of yours is very specific. And works only in very specific situations. When women is physical type, has lots of sexual experience, is alone, has time to have sex with you. Which happens very rarely. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 02:48 PM |
| 1 | I'm 39 and getting judged for sleeping aroundMake it cool thing. I remember, at work when I was trying to loose weight, I was eating salads and other weird stuff. At first I got some bad looks. But eventually, they saw results and started to be more interested in that. At the end 4 colleagues started the same diet. So, now being on a diet is the coolest thing in the office. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 02:38 PM |
| 0 | How to get over a joke, when it didnt go well as planned?You should not make jokes over text. | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Direct v/s indirect game?I think you have misunderstanding about direct and indirect. Direct means showing an intent when you open her. Indirect means not showing an intent when you open her. So, it is not you who decides what approach was, but her. If she thinks, that you are talking with her just as a friend, then it means it is INDIRECT. If she feels that you are hitting on her, then it is DIRECT. So it is nothing to do whit what you actually say. You can say "I like your hair" In direct game, you would just approach… | /r/seduction | 17/01/20 11:32 AM |
| 9 | Getting into state on a solo night out?Just put yourself into social mood by talking with everyone. This usually hypes me up. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 3 | 1 month plan to get better, what do you suggest? (Not asking the “be natural , just go and talk crowd.” This is old-school technical game updated)Did that. It is fun, but exhausting. Totally worth it. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 04:27 PM |
| 0 | One thing to remember.Maybe it is, maybe it is not. But, I and most readers will understood that it is about superiority. When you say High/Low value. This is what I understand, superior or not. When you say parent/child hierarchy. Then I understand, that this is nothing to do with superiority. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 01:46 PM |
| 1 | One thing to remember.Of course we are not equal in that regard. Everything what you earn during your life time is different from person to person. But I am talking about different equality. Yes. M. Jordan and me are not equal when it comes to fame, and he will get paid more if he will play basketball, than me. But, when he and I were born, we were equal. Both of us had a right to be treated the same way. The same with women and men. As human beings they are equal and should be treated the same. All this High/Low val… | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Boosting self confidence and inner gameAnd this is my point, that you won't get laid just by being charming. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Boosting self confidence and inner gameI put "disrespect" in a quotes. When you expressing yourself as sexual person, sometimes you have to do and say things, which some people would consider as disrespect. E.g. grab her ass, make you dick hard and make her feel that, or say something like "I want to fuck your brains out" or "You make me sooo hard". As you can see these lines taken out of context can be considered disrespectful. But, to make her horny and wet you kind have to do this stuff, when the time is right. But it is not disre… | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Boosting self confidence and inner gameWhich part? | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Basic escalationWhat is wrong? | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 12:57 PM |
| 7 | Reduce your flake rate with this one simple trickThis is one of those things, which in theory make sense, but in practice doesn't work at all. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Boosting self confidence and inner gameNo one will fuck you just because you are genuine, charming, attractive and respect a women. It is all good and keep doing. But that alone won't get you laid. If you want to get laid, you have to learn how to express yourself as sexual man. More often this involves "disrespecting" (please note quotes) a women. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 12:19 PM |
| 5 | 3 months since starting "game". Some highs and lows2 girls a week and you had 2 lays in 3 months. Its like 30 approaches and 2 lays. That's just insane. For me took 500 approaches over a month to get a 1 lay :). | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 10:13 AM |
| 2 | One thing to remember.If you look from this perspective than yes, nothing is wrong with that. But people tend to understand this high/low value thing in different ways. I did, cause I didn’t study economics, and I bet most people either. And if you look from my perspective about what that means, than this mindset is sinister. | /r/seduction | 16/01/20 02:57 AM |
| -3 | Think my hairdresser likes me, does it sound so? And if yes then how do i smoothly ask her out?There are literally thousands of women on streets, malls, parks, train stations. And yet you pick the one who is doing hair for you. What is wrong with you? | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 11:48 PM |
| 0 | One thing to remember.It’s nothing to do with treating everyone equally. You can’t treat everyone equally all the times. It’s not the point. The point is, when you treat someone NOT equally, you do this not because they are High or Low value, but for different reasons. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 11:07 PM |
| 5 | One thing to remember.I don’t agree. You should not date an idiot because you think you are higher value. But, You should not date an idiot because you don’t like her. You should not surround yourself with “broken” people because they are lower. But, You should not surround yourself with “broken” people because they don’t help you to grow. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 10:53 PM |
| 2 | One thing to remember.Mindset is the most powerful think what humans have. Therefore it is important to make it right. A person who chase a woman already has this High/Low mindset. So your solution is just to flip it around. Although it helps, but as I mentioned, you get different problems, one of them is a Big Ego. Which I noticed on some PUA beginners and on myself personally. So, solution is to change this mindsets to everyone is equal. Then she won’t be higher value. And you don’t need to chase her. If she ghosts… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 10:33 PM |
| 3 | Hooked up, now what. Need adviceCause it will be better for you. You are too needy. You can change that, by letting her go. She may come back, or not. In either case you have to be ok with any of those scenarios. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Hooked up, now what. Need adviceLeave her and move on. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Fucked up and got myself into a brunch date. How do I work on kino while eating?1) Ask a table where you can sit side by side. And find a reason to do so. Like “this chair is uncomfortable” 2) Bounce her to other location after. You can do kino while walking. Also do kino in second location, preferably some comfy cocktail bar. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 10:05 PM |
| 57 | One thing to remember.I don't know. This high value shit, fucks my inner game. In fact, all this High and Low value mindset is wrong and incorrect. It provides a seed for growing a BIG EGO. As well as devalue women, and look at them as inferior species. Also, this mindset starts from bad place, such as your insecurities, anger towards women, and so on. Better mindset is: Everyone is equal. This mindset avoids pitfalls of (High/Low value mindset). In addition, it provides a seed to treat everyone equally, talk with th… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Can you actually learn game ?Yes. You can learn the game. It is not easy, tho. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:38 PM |
| 1 | A thank you to seduction for getting me farther than I’ve ever gotten! But now I need some more helpAfter a sex. Wait till she text first. If she does, then it is game on. If she doesn't then move on. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 6 | Needy people have girlfriendsI am not saying they are not happy and their relationship will end. To me, they are people who are trying to reach a destination without a map, without knowing how long the journey will take, without taking any thoughts about safety, without knowing the terrain, the roads. Yes you can enjoy this ride. But, damm, it is very risky. And I would not want to be in that car. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Needy people have girlfriendsYour friends have a relationships, which they don't have control over it. Do you really want to be someone like that? | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:41 PM |
| 5 | Inner game materialsYou don't need resources. Just talk with at least 20 strangers per day. And you will say, how your social skills improves. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | I made a website that connects you with vetted, high quality Wingmen for free"As a customer I want all the features. I don't want that my User Experience would be limited just because I didn't pay money. It is not fair." At least this is how most of the people think. So. Don't show them this option now. Make them think that everything is for free. After a while, when you will have good userbase, then add pro features, for which they have to pay. Just don't make them pay what they have been using for free. Just new features which costs money. Some of them will pay if they… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | What's the missing link in f-close?Too fast. Not enough rapport. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | I made a website that connects you with vetted, high quality Wingmen for freeDon't monetise straight away. Wait till you have some users. Then monetise. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Guys, I need some advice.Yes. It seems that you are insecure to tell her directly. So you use jokes. She can feel that. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Guys, I need some advice.So in other words, you are not hitting on them. Hitting on someone means expressing oneself as a sexual partner to other. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Guys, I need some advice.So how do you personally hit on them? p.s. "Being natural goofy me" doesn't really help | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:46 PM |
| 2 | It doesn't seem to work.So, if what you are saying is true. Then If I approach only those girls which want to be approached and are attracted to me, I will have 100% success rate. Please don't forget that filtering out sets is a part of the game. This way you reduce "numbers game" effect. It becomes not numbers game anymore. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | It doesn't seem to work.For some it is a numbers game. For some it is a science. For some it is an art. Truth is, it is what you want it to be. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:35 PM |
| 30 | When do you know a push/pull will be too much and potentially offend the girl?Don't mistake push with offensive lines. They are not. Pull - means showing interest. Push - means not showing interest. Note, that I didn't say "showing disinterest". You don't have to explicitly show disinterest. Just stopping showing interest is more than enough to accomplish your goals. So if you touch a girl (PULL), then stop touching her for a while (PUSH). You don't have to hit her (explicitly showing disinterest) If you kiss a girl (PULL), then don't kiss a girl for a while (PUSH). If yo… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:26 PM |
| 2 | It doesn't seem to work.Nah. It is totally normal. For me took 500 approaches till I got my first lay. And I know some guys who needed 1000. Keep it going. Just don't forget to learn from your mistakes. Every fail is not a fail is a feedback. It really depends how fast learner you are, and how fast you can recover from these failures. p.s. 95% PUA who start, never reach finish line, cause it is too hard, requires lots of time, and it is painful. Don't give up. Be 5% man. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Basic escalationOkey. The main two rules when she is at your house is to start taking her clothes as soon as possible and making her relaxed. Say that she has to take off the shoes. Also take her coat, scarf etc. and put on a hanger. DO NOT let her go in a room with them. If she has easy access to them, it is easier for her to leave :) Do not bring her to the bedroom first. Instead, go to kitchen, let her sit down. Talk for 5-10 min. Give a drink. Then, go and show garden. If you have. Bathroom if she needs it.… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 05:49 PM |
| 1 | A thank you to seduction for getting me farther than I’ve ever gotten! But now I need some more helpWhat do you want actually? | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 05:10 PM |
| 2 | Basic escalationIt is fine to slap an ass, as long as you have the reason to do so. If she says something not nice, or just being annoying, then yes it is fine. Don't slap without pretext. Personally, I look at seduction as a job. It is something I have to do, cause, well, it needs to be done. Have no feelings about that. It helps to overcome this "she is better than me" thinking. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 8 | How to approach and talk to a girl in a loud nightclub bar? Then eventually dance?No. Don't say this line in the club. It's totally inappropriate. Also, don't talk about her hobbies, cats dogs, and don't ask for a number. Already tried, doesn't work. The best thing is to relax (meditation can help) and start dancing. When you see someone. Just approach and say: "HEY!!!!!!!!!. LOVE THIS PLACE!!WHOOOOO!!! | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 1 | I am 26 years old virgin female. I am super cold and unable to feel any intimacy even when hugged or approached by people I am particularly interested in. It hurts me not being able to enjoy any warm feeling. What is wrong with me? I lost my sexual desire and I am super cold.Probably you are just afraid. Afraid of open yourself and get intimate. Maybe it was child trauma, or bad experience with ex. Your brain protects you from the pain. Not sure how to fix that. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Really done with putting women on a pedestalShe thinks I am hitting on her. That's the point. She has to know. Once, on dating website, a girl contacted me. She was like 3/10, fat, unattractive. I am around 8/10. So she was way below. But, the think is, she gave so many compliments. She called me "handsome", she called "sweet", she started to talk dirty. The point is, she showed me such a big desire for me, that I actually replied to her. My brains started to find a reasons why I like her, just because she liked me so much. I started to j… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 04:13 PM |
| 1 | How do I become comfortable with physical contact?Is nothing to do with a charm. I have noticed that delaying touching as much as possible is much more beneficial in a long run. Because if she is into you, then 100% she will start touching you eventually. And if she does, then puts you in really good frame: "She is seducing you, and not the way around." She is the one who wants to be more intimate. When I approach women, or when I sit next to her, I always lean away from her. She has to lean into me. And it looks like she is chasing me. Althoug… | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 03:29 PM |
| 0 | What are some things I can notice about a guy if he is into me/ how to make him interested 20[F]If you are good looking then he may be shy, cause good looking women makes men uncomfortable. If you average looking, or overweight then he has no interest in you, cause people avoid anyone who they don't like. In any case. Don't ask him out. If he can't ask a girl who he likes out, then he is not worth being in the first place. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 03:18 PM |
| 1 | 24f, advice on losing virginity?You have to tell him, cause virgins are handled little bit differently. They need more time, it's hard to make them relax, you have to be more gentle, there is possibility that will be some mess, and so on. Tell him when you will be in his apartment and he is about to make a move. Do not tell him sooner. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Please just dont focus on women but self development.Let people live the live they want to live. You sound like my mom. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Should I have kissed her?Main rule of seduction: She feels what you feel. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Took my first (baby) step to improve my pick-up game last night; took a hammer to my approach anxiety. Now have questions on the next steps (particularly for non-London UK people)You know yourself that’s nothing to do with a standards. I do have standards. It’s just smarter strategy. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Took my first (baby) step to improve my pick-up game last night; took a hammer to my approach anxiety. Now have questions on the next steps (particularly for non-London UK people)Bullshit. In that set may have been lots of single women. But now you will never know cause you shot blindly and missed. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 03:25 AM |
| -3 | How can you show non-verbal attraction/interest in somebody if you're not a "smiley" type of person?Smiling is actually bad for attraction. I don’t know who has started this myth, but it’s wrong. Smiling displays submission. Have you ever seen world leaders or big companies CEO smile? They rarely do that cause, they don’t like to look submissive. Don’t believe? Try to find Putin photo with a smile. Also that’s why women smile so much. Cause in nature they are more submissive. So the only thing what matters when you create attraction is the strong eye contact with neutral and relaxed face expre… | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 02:42 AM |
| 1 | I need help1) Change the mindset. The way you see women. The way you think about life in general. The way you see yourself. Even your core values has to be changed. They are incorrect. You see things through wrong glasses. This usually happens if you don’t have a good father figure who you could take example from. So you have to find those glasses yourself. You do that by reading self help books. By hanging out with people who has correct mindset and taking example etc. It’s a long process. Can take years.… | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Guys I think I am addicted to pulling girls from dating apps.Put your face in a boiling water and all your troubles will disappear. I promise. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 12:09 AM |
| 4 | Should this bother meDon't rush next time. And for this one. I always text after my fuck ups, but it always leads nowhere. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 12:01 AM |
| 7 | Tips on Investing in interactions and not being too available ?I’m not sure if we’ll be having sex tonight Answer: "Have some faith woman! Rome was not built in 4 hours." I think your main problem is inability to feel other people energy levels. I noticed this problem a lot on extroverts. Remember, your energy level should be only 10-20% higher than other person. If it more, then they start to feel uncomfortable. Let other people to talk and listen. Remember, The leader of conversation is not a talker but a listener. The listener is the one who leads conver… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:57 PM |
| 5 | Should this bother meDoesn't matter. She came cause she thought that she will have a quickie. Unfortunately, she did got cold. And you going too fast made it even worse. If you could just slowly build the heat up, she would have stayed. You don't even need to kiss. You can talk, build intimacy. And when the phone would ring you would say "Hey, I really like being with you. Why don't you stay. We having great time." | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:27 PM |
| 2 | what would be a good way to approach a girl in school?The guys in school used to pull girl's hair. It was 25 years ago, not sure if this method still applicable. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:19 PM |
| 6 | Should this bother meYou didn't escalate properly. You don't go for a kiss just straight away and try to have sex. You have to turn her machine on. The bus think was a shit test. So, you had to just ignore it. Just slowly escalate to the point where she would forget about the bus. And then she would not have any other option as to stay with you. In other words you didn't pass the test. I would be surprised if she would accept second date, but you can try. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Attraction signs is BSThat makes sense. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Attraction signs is BSYeah. Totally understand. Signs can kill you. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | relationship adviceYou can only be "needy" after a fact. If she doesn't know that you like her, then you can't appear "needy". | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Attraction signs is BSThere were lots of attraction signs. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Attraction signs is BSSo? She has a boyfriend. It doesn't mean she doesn't like you. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 10:57 PM |
| 1 | How do i get myself to talk to women? I don't care about attracting them, i trust myself that i can, and i'm never sad after rejection, but rather feel liberated for acting how i decide... But i feel like i can't even control my body, and *that* makes me sufferI know exactly how you feel. And "slave to my thought prison" is really nice way to put it. I create image of myself in other people heads and then afraid to break it. Some people known me as a just a "geek", some women know me as a "playboy", some strangers know me as "weird guy". And it's very weird, when I talk with people who know me as a "geek", I automatically adapt to this persona and can't break it. So I thought I will do an experiment. Moved to a new house with new roommates. And I adop… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Is she interested or not?She may be interested. But don't put high hopes into this one. It's like: "Maybe I will go with this guy, maybe not, will see how I feel" | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 10:11 PM |
| 0 | Been on multiple dates with a girl but still can't kiss herThis girl likes him for who he is. He doesn't need to pretend. Some women prefer other qualities over dominance or confidence. Which includes honesty, sincerity, generosity etc. They are rare. But it happens. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Took my first (baby) step to improve my pick-up game last night; took a hammer to my approach anxiety. Now have questions on the next steps (particularly for non-London UK people)So, every group has a ONE leader. Everyone else are followers. You can identify the leader by: 1) She talks the most 2) She walks in front 3) She makes decision 4) She uses lots of hand gestures 5) She has loud voice If you see many of these cues, you can be certain she is the leader. So the main rules with a group: 1) Pay most attention to the leader, 80% of conversation should be done with her. If you don't then the leader will start to require attention and will push you out of a set if you w… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Been on multiple dates with a girl but still can't kiss herFor got sake. They have been in 10 dates. No girl would go 10 dates with a guy who didn't even kiss her if she is really not into him. If he can't do it normally. Then just ask her. She will say yes 100%. Because at this stage she doesn't care that he is not "alpha". | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Tips on confidenceFriends can't be objective, they may be laying to you. Ask random people to rate your looks. https://www.reddit.com/r/Rateme/ https://www.reddit.com/r/amiugly/ | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:38 PM |
| 1 | My BRUTALLY HONEST thoughts 8 years in the "game" (Some advice to people starting out)It is bullshit. Either you just spreading new age propaganda with misleading title, or you tried, failed and gave up without really understanding what PUA is all about. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Bro I’m so fuckedGo on fasting for couple days before meeting. You will loose a lot of water weight. You can loose around 10 pounds in few days. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Need tips on escalationLet's see: "wow I never knew I’d be so into blonde girls talking geography to me. Huge turn on apparently” You don't know what kind of girls you like. "blonde" can be associated with stupidity. Are you saying that some blonde girls don't know geography? So you are into girls who knows geography. Why? What is so special about that? So again. You don't know what turns you on. So are you sure that girl turned you on? And not geography itself? Basically you sad total bullshit. The sentence is not … | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Been on multiple dates with a girl but still can't kiss herSay "Can I kiss you?" | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Wingmen -Anyone live near Crawley in Engalnd?You can always go to London. It is not that far. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Going on dates with girls who are less attractiveI did small mistake Instead of : If something can be compared, then it can be quantified. It should have been, If something can be measured, then it can be quantified. You can measure beauty by taking size, symmetry, orientation etc of nose, eyes, etc. and then using ANOVA figure out person's score 1 of 10. Actually there are even online tools which does that. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 08:16 PM |
| 2 | How to create sex appealThat actually was really helpful. Have some questions about: time + attention + energy + consistency + dedication + wisdom = creation Can this formula be applied to anything ? or we specifically talking about personality traits? Are things in this formula are equally important? E.g. do we need dedication as much as attention? As I understand attention is used to filter out specific weeds which prevents creating? Why do we need dedication if we have consistency? With consistency dedication is alr… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Should I apologize for asking her out?I make people everyday uncomfortable or awkward by saying total bullshit to their faces. I do this to overcome my own insecurities. I know what I am doing is wrong. Op made her uncomfortable without realising what he is doing. But that doesn't make it right. It is still wrong. It is like if go to U.S Virgin Islands and carry a weapon in public where is prohibited, but I didn't know that law. I will still be fined, I can't justify these actions due to lack of knowledge. Therefore, it is my duty t… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 07:09 PM |
| 2 | What type of introduction via DM is good to a girl I kind of know but never speak too?Just ask a specific question about her newest photo. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Gaming is low valueDon't get this logic: Going to approach women and work on yourself is a low value behaviour, while going with a bunch guys to drink all night is high level behaviour. I must be missing something. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop feeling insecure and be more confident?If you feel so bad, then how those fat women who get match with a short deformed nose guy who doesn't even want them, feels? I should feel sorry for you, but I am more sorry for them. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:30 PM |
| 6 | Feeling very lonely, especially after a night out. What to do?Here is the formula for success: Read => Apply => Fail => Learn => Repeat And your formula is: Read => Apply => Fail => Repeat You are missing learning from your mistakes part. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Going on dates with girls who are less attractiveAs a fellow scientist, I would gladly hear your objections. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Approaching at bar or dancefloor? Which is better?Bar usually much more easier. You can open with "Hey.... I love this place!!!!!" | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Day game slow progress"Hey, you are going to the same gym, right?" - simple and effective. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:51 PM |
| 12 | If you were a nerdy, introverted man how would you attract women?You can play your Warcraft or other strategy games and still have a woman. I personally, like to watch Dragon Ball after I have sex. Who cares. Just learn how to express yourself as a sexual man. This is the only thing that matters for getting laid. For long term relationship, I would reconsider playing games. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Should I apologize for asking her out?Yes. She got surprised. And it caught you of guard and you got awkward. So first of all. Don't surprise women like that. Don't just drop a bomb. Take your time, check if she sees you as someone who can be more than a friend. And, when you are confident that there is a spark between you too, then say something like this. Especially when stakes are big (work). Think how she feels now and what she thinks about you. I doubt that she liked you. Otherwise she wouldn't react like that. Believe me. If s… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:38 PM |
| -2 | Should I apologize for asking her out?But he did something wrong. He didn't recognise the signals. How clueless you have to be and not to know when woman likes you and when she is not. So he fucked up and it is his fault. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:25 PM |
| -1 | Should I apologize for asking her out?He couldn't hold his frame anyway. He already surrendered to her frame when she got confused. He could just made fun. But instead made it more awkward. So the frame is lost. Any other attempt to be tough guy, it will just make him look more pathetic. So it's better to come up clean. Maybe she will recognise that. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:17 PM |
| -3 | Should I apologize for asking her out?Yes. You should apologise her. But don't apologise because you like her. But apologise because you put this very unexpectedly without any warning and made her uncomfortable. Explain, that you are ok with that, and hope you can be friends. If you don't do that, then there will be always weird tension between two of you. She may even avoid you. She may even avoid of going to work. You don't want that. Especially if you care for her. It is not about being Mr. Nice Guy. It's about doing the right th… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Weird Snapchat SituationTrust me. You don't want to build a relationship based on a lie. Honesty. Communication. Respect. If at least one of them are missing then the relationship is doomed. So, do the right thing. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Should I have kissed her?You are totally right. And if you have more experience with women this is the strategy you should take. But in OP situation, it's totally different. He is not someone who understands these concepts such as "investment" etc. He can't even kiss a girl, when he feels it is time. He is total beginner. That's why he should have kissed. When he gain more experience then he can apply more advance stuff. You should speak to people using their language. Now you are explaining to him calculus when he didn… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Should I have kissed her?I know what I am talking about. You are just first stage PUA. Let's talk when you reach second stage. p.s. once I was thinking the same way as you. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Things you do that make Girls HATE youIt becomes relevant when you want to keep a girlfriend who would not cheat on you. How many chicks you banged who were missing romance in their life? They leave bf and go to other countries to find some adventures. I know I banged some of them. Why? Because a guy who she is with don't give this shit to her. He is boring and not romantic. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 04:00 PM |
| -1 | Should I have kissed her?This is what naturals do. They don't study body language, nor techniques. Yet, they know when to kiss a girl. Because they have a "feeling". They just know when it is time. This is in everyone of us. So unless you have autism or other disability, then you can actually "feel" it yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Should I have kissed her?He sad and I quote: I felt like I could have kissed her there You can mis-interpret something if you think logically. But OP had a "feeling". There is no mis-interpretation here. You know yourself what kind of feeling that is. Plus if he had a feeling then she had the same feeling. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Going on dates with girls who are less attractiveThere is no standard. Everything is subjective. Just a fact that you can quantify, that's all. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:30 PM |
| -1 | Going on dates with girls who are less attractiveIf something can be compared, then it can be quantified. Beauty can be compared, therefore it can be quantified. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 10 | Going on dates with girls who are less attractiveNo. Don't do that. The main rule of approaching is: If you want to fuck her, then approach. If you only go for a number then it becomes unethical, because you are laying. In fact it is even bad for you as well. Cause now you can approach lower grade girls, but will still struggle with higher grade. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 8 | Should I have kissed her?If what you say it is true, then there should be a exact time when to kiss. Which we both know there is no such a thing. You kiss her when she is ready. This depends on many factors (her attraction to you, how horny she feels, your confidence and many more). In this situation she was ready. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:02 PM |
| 17 | Should I have kissed her?Yes. You should have kissed her. If woman looks to your eyes then you your lips, then it is a green light for a kiss. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:56 PM |
| 15 | Finally spoke to a girl during day game!Always use 3s rule and never follow a woman. Only if you see you can't open her straight away and need that she would move little bit, only then you follow. In your situation, there was no reason for you to wait. Don't say general compliments to the woman. Like "You are pretty" or "You are beautiful" or "You are cute". No one gives a shit about compliments like this. Some girls tell me I am handsome. And I don't care about that at all. But sometimes they say I have "big arms", that I really like… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:51 PM |
| 0 | Why do girls dislike 18 year oldsIt is not unethical. There is nothing wrong about laying. The reasons behind laying what makes it unethical, not the laying itself. You can lie for bad reasons, and you can lie for good ones. In this particular situation, I see only good reasons: he wants to get laid and no one will be hurt. But if he wants a gf, then it would be a bad reason, cause no good relationship can start with a lie. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Shit TestsYou don’t understand. She is testing you not because she wants validation. She is testing you, cause she likes you, but is not sure if you are who you say u are, It’s like going to buy a car. Would you test a car which you don’t like? And would you buy a car which you didn’t even test drive? I personally test her as well. But my test mostly involves humour and mind games. If she doesn’t understand my type of humour which has lots of hidden context, and sub context. I automatically put her in jus… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Shit TestsThe girls which are worth to have test a lot. So yeah, you have to know how to pass these tests. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Shit Tests“I have a boyfriend” can be many things The truth 70%. Rejection 29% Shit test 1%. I was talking about that 1% cases. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 03:14 AM |
| 3 | Things you do that make Girls HATE youNote. This stuff is only for girlfriends or fwb. And I disagree. You have to starve them. Otherwise they will get used to that and it won’t be special. You have to create scarcity in their minds. There are some women who don’t like this stuff. Which includes feminists, tomboys or other weirdos. These kind of women don’t attract me at all. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:52 AM |
| 0 | Shit TestsThe most common is "I have a boyfriend". With this one I have noticed interesting thing. Some girls don't say "I have a boyfriend" instead their wording is different. E.g. "I don't think my boyfriend would like that". Latter is not a shit test, because she saying that she cares about her boyfriend opinion, while "I have a boyfriend" could potentially be a shit test. Also pay close attention what type of girl says that. If this is coming from emotional type of girl, which is not comfortable of la… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:33 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with "are you a playboy?"Thanks. I got it know. That was really educative. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:16 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with "are you a playboy?"But this is what you wrote in your comment. Agree and amplify. Or I am missing something? | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:08 AM |
| 0 | App dating: Following up when you don't get a replyYou don't. Tried many things. If they don't reply, it's game over. Whatever you will do. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 02:02 AM |
| 2 | How would a introverted Guy with autism and social anxiety be able to get laid?The reason you go blank on physical attraction is that this is the part where you Turn off all your thoughts. You can't think about anything. And have to feel specific emotions (excitement, joy, desire). Both these things are very hard to achieve or even impossible for an autistic person. By the way, what does arouse you, if I may ask? | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 4 | How would a introverted Guy with autism and social anxiety be able to get laid?Yes. The first time when I spoke with a girl, I was literally trembling, and after our conversation almost puked. It lasted like 30sec. Now, I don't have any problem to talk with any stranger. Unless, I stop for a week. Then I can feel that it is coming back. So you have to talk at least a bit every day. It's like social gym. Because some things in autistic adults can be overcome through pure will and other things learned. E.g. "Avoiding eye contact" - can be dealt with just by forcing yourself … | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 01:36 AM |
| 3 | How would a introverted Guy with autism and social anxiety be able to get laid?Social anxiety can be dealt with by talking with lots of strangers until you don't feel it anymore. Don't know much about autism. But I don't think it can prevent you to get laid. You just have to put much more work than someone who doesn't have these problems. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Deaf/Hard of Hearing Tips and SuggestionsYou just have to work with things you have. Cause you don't have any other option. Just remember one thing: Every disadvantage can be made advantage. They are just different sides of the same coin. Here are some things: You should be already expert at reading people from their body language, which is very important in seduction. You should be good at expressing yourself using gestures, maybe even mime thing. And your body language is much more important for opening someone and creating an attrac… | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with "are you a playboy?"This is totally bad. You should not target her logical brain, especially when things going into wrong direction. You should target her emotions. By asking a question, you make her THINK about that even more. | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 0 | How to deal with "are you a playboy?"You are too good. You should come not as a playboy, but as someone (nice guy) who pretends to be a playboy especially with emotional type girls or smart girls. Sometimes I even say stuff like "I will seduce you, cause I am a playboy". She is like "Yeah right..." If you go for a physical type of girls, then do the real playboy thing, lean little bit closer, look at her lips and slowly say "Sure, why not, I can be your playtoy". | /r/seduction | 12/01/20 12:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys go about seducing a girl that works at Hooters or Twin Peaks?Because girls like this secret highschool stuff. I did something similar on a plane. When I wrote something on a phone and gave to her. She didn't say anything but took my phone and replied in there. So she was into playing. And no, You have to get the number. Otherwise she won't text you, cause there would be very low investment from her side. If she has to write a number, and make it a secret, this involves a lot of work. And if you get a number, it won't be a flake. She invested too much. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Is there a peak to pickup?I think experience was implicitly mentioned in the question and you totally missed what OP wanted to know. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:41 PM |
| 0 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckDid you read the last comment in my post. I sad that these are my own beliefs, they are not correct and don't apply to everyone. I do this cause I have a reason to do it. To overcome my personal insecurities what other people think about me. This is just an example of the person who beliefs in something and acts upon it without caring what other people think. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:35 PM |
| -2 | How do you guys go about seducing a girl that works at Hooters or Twin Peaks?The main tactic of seducing a worker in her workplace is to make everything a secret. First you flirt with her little bit, if everything is going fine, then you ask a number, but you have to do it in a way that no one would notice that, especially her colleagues or other guests. So in this particular situation: I would ask her for a note and a pen. Usually restaurants has this. When she brings to you, you say "Thank you". And let her leave. On that note you would write something like this: "Hi, … | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:25 PM |
| 12 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckApproached like 30 sets, with dudes bigger than me, and never got smacked. But, as I sad, I do this daytime, on the streets and malls. If you approach in a club when BF is drunk then yes you will get smacked. You don't show disrespect. Opposite, you show respect and friendliness to the guy. You never know, maybe he is just a brother, or colleague. He can even help you. If he says that they are together, I just smile and say "Sorry, I didn't realised that. You are very lucky guy. Both have a nice… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 2 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckYou don't do this stuff at clubs, bars etc. Cause people drunk, aggressive and have lots of courage. I do this stuff, in the mornings in the tube, when I go to work. Everyone is so afraid, that they can't even look to me in the eyes. Believe me. If you dress like a banker, nice suite, nice haircut, watch. And you display immerse amount of confidence. The perception of people about you changes dramatically. You can get to do crazy shit, which you wouldn't be able to do otherwise. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:38 PM |
| 3 | What helped you overcome depression?Start doing pick up again. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:26 PM |
| 0 | What helped you overcome depression?There is no purpose in life. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:19 PM |
| 2 | How to escalate when your invited in?The main difference is that you don't have to make her comfortable, cause she already is. Plus she invited you, so her bitch shield is very small. So, yeah. You can seduce her much more faster. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Is there a peak to pickup?50 I think is the same as 20. The peak is around 30-40. I guess when you reach 60, then it starts to really decline. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Is there a peak to pickup?Actually the older you get the easier it becomes. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Approaching multiple women in the same locationIn total 4 different lays in three months, that is considered very good as a total beginner. Before that I had only 1 women and 3 prostitutes. And I am 33. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 09:10 PM |
| 14 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckYou are right. But sometimes the reasons behind the actions are more important than the actions themselves. Checking girls asses, is something I have to do, because if I don't then I feel that I am not doing that cause it is inappropriate and not polite. Which makes me feel that I care what other people think. Which is totally opposite what I just sad. Eventually I will choose not to stare, because it is right thing to do. But it takes time. Restaurant thing is because I have trouble to make mys… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Can We STOP Using the Term Approach Anxiety? It's outdated and FALSE.I agree that the way we name things makes a big difference. Although there is no such term "Approach Anxiety" in psychology. But there is term "Anxiety" which actually describes the symptoms of the anxious person. Those symptoms can be seen when some man approaches woman. Therefore, to call that "Approach Anxiety" is normal. I bet if you ask any professional football player how did they feel before their very first important match. They would describe the feeling as anxiety. Boxers are the same.… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Approaching multiple women in the same locationLondon. I work in centre and live not far away. Have 9 to 5, 40hours per week, good paid, desk job. I can afford to eat out everyday, so don't spend time on cooking and shopping. Very rarely go out with colleagues or my friends. So all my free time is for myself. The only things which I do on my free time are: Go to gym, approach women, go for dates, sleep with them, sometimes I take them to Paris or other country for few days. Basically just enjoying a life. Don't have any social media, don't u… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Approaching multiple women in the same locationYou can always do what I did. Instead of reading all PUA books, and forums, I decided to figure out on my own. Approached 1000 women in three months and learned from my own mistakes. Otherwise, as you sad, there are too many bs, to know what works for real. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Approaching multiple women in the same locationWith this mindset and so much negativity you won’t go too far. I know it will be a shocker to you, but to get laid you have to put some work. P.s. I am older than you. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 07:14 PM |
| 26 | Things you do that make Girls HATE youEverything is correct. Just guys don’t interpret rule number one in wrong way. Women love romance. In fact, they crave this shit more than a food. E.g. Never display public affection to her, and then one day when you are walking on a street say “Stop”. Put her arm over your neck and bend her like in salsa move. And then kiss her when she is bend over. Lift her up and say “always wanted to do that” Don’t buy her any gifts. But one random day, when you come after work, go to the jewellery shop and… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 07:08 PM |
| 4 | Approaching multiple women in the same locationDon’t just shoot anywhere. Sit down. Take your time. Look around. Get a drink. Try to catch an eye contact with her. See the response. Talk with bartender to get into social mood. Wait. Try another eye contact. Check how her body language changed after eye contact. Check which direction her legs points. And when you are sure that she is into you, then approach. Or Go to one bar approach someone, then go to another, then another and after 30min go back where u started and do the same thing. For b… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Response for: you're kissing good?You are right. It was lame response. Also never use “I guess” . It shows uncertainty. I would double text her with: “So... you wanna do it again?” | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Me and my friends had 3 girls over at a hotel. We didn't get laid. What can we do different next time so that we do?We sad to them that we want to be professional strippers :) and just ask to practise on them :) As silly as it sounds, it worked. But there were only two girls. We took clothes, made them horny. Buddy took one girl to another room and after that is just a history. Your situation is very tricky. Cause you have tree girls. So you need three guys. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 05:35 PM |
| 0 | Me and my friends had 3 girls over at a hotel. We didn't get laid. What can we do different next time so that we do?I remembered dancing striptease in this kind of situation. It was really fun. Just everytime when you and your buddy take clothes make sure they take as well :) | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 05:25 PM |
| 2 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckDamm, There is reddit for anything... | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 111 | We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuckOh, I can go forever about this one. But, in summary you have to display one main thing: That you don't give a fuck about anyone's opinion. Your friends, your family's, and even her opinion means nothing to you. You respect them, you care about them, you could die for them. But if they don't agree with some of your choices, you DO NOT CARE. You are the man, so you should know what is right and what is wrong. Here some e.g. We were walking down the street and she sad to me "You can't just randoml… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 05:14 PM |
| 29 | Wanting a threesomeOf course not. Just go out with your bf. Engage with people. Find a girl you like and start to flirt with her. Make sure she sees that you are happy with a guy. She will understand what's going on. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 7 | Finally spoke to herThat's so cute. These kind of stories makes me smile. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:40 PM |
| 8 | Most challenging approachYou already know what you have to do, mate. And the consequences of not doing. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Tips for opening/flirting in loud venues?Use gestures and do some mime type stuff. You would be surprised how effective that shit is. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Makeouts but cant pull?! Taller brunetteTwo possibilities: 1) Either her bitch shield turned on, and was like "Wait, this is going way too fast. I can't go with a guy who I just met, especially when friends are around. Friend's HELP ME!" 2) Or got bored. "Ok, so we are kissing, that's cool and all, but I want more, will he do something about that? Probably not, I will just go back to friends." | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:25 PM |
| 16 | Going out alone is a rollercoasterYou won't learn by reading. The only way to learn is to do it yourself. p.s. that "power" is very addictive. Be careful. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Any Christians on here doing approaches?It is very hard to find practicing christian girl randomly on the street. You should narrow your approaches to the communities. And if you already in some community, then it is very easy to approach, cause you already have something in common. Like, "Hi, do you come her often?" etc. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 03:58 PM |
| 4 | When girl turns back to her friend and starts talkingIn this particular situation, they implicitly saying "We are not interested in you". So just go to the next set. You fucked up, when you stopped talking. Remember, you approached them. So, it is your job make conversation interesting. You just had to keep talking. Also approach them with little bit of more energy. Remember, your energy level should be 10-20% higher than theirs. Then, they will find harder to push you out of set. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 03:53 PM |
| 0 | Finding a prom date at an all girls school?Start doing some after school activities based on your hobbies. Hopefully you will meet someone there. Create an Instagram and post some photos. If you are good looking you may get some local DMs. You can increase the chances if you post more "sexier" photos. But don't DM a guy yourself. Is just wrong in so many levels. To even more boost your success. Start going to the gym and working out. 99% you won't be approached there, but your fit body is your main currency in dating market. Your persona… | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Why you need a communityI agree that you have to be in the community. It is really beneficial due to shared knowledge. But I didn't like that you presented this as it is all rainbows. Most guys you meet in the community are as fucked up as you, some of them even more. Even some of the experts are fucked up in their own way. If you really want to make friends, look outside of the community. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | I Allowed Myself to Be Picked Up by a Pickup ArtistAhh... The moment you realise that there is no fairy tales in a real life... The funny part, even people know that, they still prefer to be manipulated. What a joke :) | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:32 PM |
| 3 | How does the ‘sexual preferences’ come up before the act?The best time to ask these questions is when you had normal sex first time. Personally, I need time to get used to the person, before trying anything BDSM related. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Says she has a nice time, but texts back in foreverSo you are meeting her next Monday. What is the problem? | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:18 PM |
| 1 | First dateUsually I do while bouncing her to the second location or at the beginning of it. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:15 PM |
| 1 | I'm 24 she is 36, i need advice.You have two options: 1) Build time machine and make yourself older. 2) Move on. I think the second option is easier. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 02:13 PM |
| 6 | Why do girls dislike 18 year oldsHey, I just give an advice which would solve your problem. It’s up to you if you will take it. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls dislike 18 year oldsDon’t say you are 18. Say you are 22 or older. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:49 AM |
| 2 | How can I ensure this doesn't turn into anything platonic?Waste of time. Attraction lasts max few days. And we are talking here about months. Text her when u will visit that town again. And this time make sure you pull her. Don’t text before that, unless you like talking with her. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:41 AM |
| 6 | I never initiate physical touch, but the women almost always do first.Women initiating first is much more better. This happens only if she is very comfortable around you. So, whatever you do, it works. But. If you want that would lead somewhere, you have to eventually reciprocate. Otherwise you will end up in friend zone. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Either im doing something wrong or you guys make this look easier than it isYou don’t look for a chance to screw them. Instead, you create one. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 11:01 AM |
| 1 | So I like this girl...Fix your insecurities by talking with random strangers. 10-20 per day. When you are comfortable with that, and don’t feel awkward, then ask her out. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:58 AM |
| 16 | Push and pull works but don't know what to sayText her “Sorry, I was just busy” | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 10:49 AM |
| 29 | I'm too afraid to show interestYou have to force yourself through it. | /r/seduction | 11/01/20 01:16 AM |
| 3 | What to do when she tries to rescheduleMove on. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Met a girl I think I actually want to get to know betterThere is no better way to truly know a person, than just have sex with him. After that talking and sharing becomes so easy. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you change a belief about yourself ? How to change your self image ?As much as stupid this advice will sound, it is nonetheless true. They’re just thoughts, man. So, just think differently. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Last minute resistanceSometimes, when we both know that we won’t see each other again. I just say the truth, that I want spend night with her. If she doesn’t want. Then, I say “I understand” and walk away (not literally). Fuck her bitch shield. The bigger bitch shield she has, the less attractive I find her. It shows, that she cares more about society than her own feelings. Not worth wasting my time. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Seeing Hookers: How it can help vs. how it can go horribly wrongThere is another reason to hire a hooker: If you have a porn addiction and you will feel that you will relapse. Hooker can help. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I talk to her about our kissIt will be weird if you make it weird. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:10 PM |
| 1 | We all know not to take it personally if she rejects us, but should we take it personally if she accepts us?No we should not. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:06 PM |
| 1 | How do U stop being in your head and stop giving a fuck ? Like I’m always in my head and like self conscious I wanna be more confidentJust act like you don’t give a fuck. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | How cold do you have to be?No, it’s not a weakness. It’s the smart thing to do. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:03 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys successfully game in a club/bar solo.Find a wingman. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice on how to naturally get closer to her?Just ask her out, like any normal person would do. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice on how to naturally get closer to her?By asking this question, you are a creep. Just ask her out, like any normal person would do. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Rejection is just soul-crushing for meYou don’t need to tell woman directly to reject her. If u see a women you don’t like, you automatically reject her. Same with women. They reject a guy way before he even talks with them. But only because he approached, they don’t have any other option but to say it literally. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Rejection is just soul-crushing for meI meant that OP does the same thing. He rejects women. Some people don’t realise that. This realisation could help him to overcome rejection. “If I do reject, then I don’t mind that someone else rejects me”. This kind of thinking helps me. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Locked In A Room For 48 Hours To Figure Out My Life (Part 1)You don't have to lock yourself in a room to figure this stuff, it's ridiculous. You can do anywhere you want. Come on, they are just thoughts. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm good at first dates but I'm bad at the next steps and end up in the friend zone.No man. If you don't get second date, then your first date was bad. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 03:28 PM |
| 1 | I feel tired being someone I'm not when I'm playing "The Game", I feel like I'm being a fraud and she'll leave when she finds out about my true self, so I never open upYou still don't get what the game is about. It's not about learning to pretend to be someone else, it's about learning to express yourself. I like to think about learning to seduce a women same as learning to be a father. If you never had a child it is very hard to image what does it look like. And yet you try, you read books about parenting, what babies want, how to deal with them etc., you ask advices from people who already have kids. So, you build this persona in your head, what kind of fath… | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 03:05 PM |
| -5 | Rejection is just soul-crushing for meOh poor you. I got rejected and it hurt my feelings. I am so sad. This such a bullshit and I am sick of guys saying this stuff. How many girls have you rejected yourself, A? How many fat, or old, or unattractive girls you skipped? Looked at them, and sad to yourself "No, I don't like them. I am not gonna approach them." So, stop fucking whining, cause you are no different then rest of us. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Unique Problem that I could use help withAll your insecurities and bullshit mindset about "wanting only a relationship", "don't want to come off as a jerk" etc. stems from your fears and low self-esteem. You need to fix that. If don't then forget about sex or relationship. Even if you get by some miracle it won't last long. You will fuck up and not be happy. Get rid off all your social fears, insecurities etc. It's the only solution. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 1 | If women never initiate conversations with me, does it mean I'm facially unfortunate?https://www.reddit.com/r/amiugly/ https://www.reddit.com/r/Rateme/ Could help. I got score 7.5 :) | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Have to take some time off game to focus on other things.Gaming should be part of your life, not your life. It's like going to the gym. You don't take a break. But you don't spend all day at the gym as well. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:51 PM |
| 0 | How to text herYou: "Hi, do you want to hear a secret" She: "Yes" You: "It is kind embarrassing. You will laugh" She: "I am not. I promise" You: "Remember the time when we were talking and got close to each other." She: "Yes" You: "Well, I got a boner." You: "I don't know why, but when I think about you it makes my blood boil. Do you feel the same?" With this you start easy, capture her attention. Then gradually confess that you like her sexually without sounding like an asshole. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:46 PM |
| 6 | Hit on daughter who was with her Mom at Starbucks for the Hell of itYou did technical mistake. 80% of conversation should be directed to the mom. First you have to earn her trust, then she may even help you. But don't start hitting on the mom. For some reason, daughters become very protective. Just be gentlemen to the mom, while at the same time giving naughty looks to the daughter when mom doesn't see that. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Would I be wasting my time (and his) by confessing my feelings to a man who:He is not worth it. No real man would abuse his power to get a pussy. Your relationship was doomed before it got started. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:26 PM |
| 5 | DATING HELP. MY GIRLFRIEND HAS A PAST AND I CAN'T DECIDE.Leave her. She doesn't deserve an asshole like you. | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Was it just my turn?People want what they can't get. Especially these kind of women. She was into you, she got what she wanted and she moved on. Kinda reminds me a lot, lol. No women likes clingy guys. But she even more. In fact, in this situation, you have to delay sex or any kind of attention as much as you can. Also, you have to be different. Treat her like spoiled brat. Don't give a fuck about her opinion at all. But also you have to show that you genuinely care about her, especially about her safety, like "giv… | /r/seduction | 10/01/20 10:56 AM |
| 0 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedI meant I already fixed social anxiety by talking with tons of people. The problem is that I can't make REAL connection with them. I just don't feel it. I just don't care about them. Everything is superficial to me. Some people think that I am their friend, but I don't feel same way about them. You mention something about being coward, which I never thought about it. And this could be a cause. Have to think about it more and figure out what I am actually afraid :) Thanks anyway. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 07:15 PM |
| 2 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedDamm. Now, when I think about that. You are right. That makes sense. I am coward. But how the fuck I am supposed to fix that? It's not like I can go and talk with thousands of strangers to fix social anxiety. How do you make yourself not a coward who is not afraid to die for someone else? | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.UK | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:39 PM |
| 0 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedIn theory it sounds good to have friends and social circle. But, in practice they take more than give. Even to maintain "social proof", it so much work. You loose so much time, for so little gain. It is not worth it. You have to have very strong mind to have social circle. Otherwise, people who you surround with will impact your mood, behaviour and most important mindset. You have to surround yourself with smarter people than you from who you can learn. Then you gain more than you loose. But usu… | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:33 PM |
| -3 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedNo friend would die for any other friend. Real life is not a movie. Even in war, all this "die for your mate" exists only, because if you are not wiling to die for someone else, then no one will die for you. And in war situation that's not good for you. So even that is selfish. Of course you have so called "friends" which you go out and stuff. But the moment he will have to make a choice "himself" or "you", he will choose himself. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:23 PM |
| -1 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedThat's what I sad. When you go deep into PUA shit, start to play with other people, or your own emotions. You loose something. I don't know exactly what that is. But you start to see people as nothing special. Just give some energy, give some smile, boost their ego, and look strangely their emotions changed, they start to like you. You can't never look at people same way, when you actually get results using PUA. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 06:03 PM |
| -2 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedIs the price you pay, when you fuck with people heads. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:54 PM |
| -4 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedArgumentum ad populum. If you don't know then google it. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:48 PM |
| -3 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedI do have "friends" for social proof, but as you sad, they only for social proof. I don't consider them as real friends. Do you? | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.Not really. I am not young. I know formula of success: Read the theory => Give everything you got => Fail => Learn => Repeat Using this you can get anything you want. So it was just a matter of time. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:24 PM |
| -13 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedFriends are overrated. People care only about themselves. One day you will realise that yourself. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.Social anxiety, zero experience with women, lack of common sense, lack of luck. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:13 PM |
| -17 | A Good social circle is SEVERELY underratedYou don’t need to have social circle to get laid. Why would you spend all your time hanging out with friends or girls, maintaining contacts with them, talking about bullshit, dealing with jealousy etc., when you can just go to the mall or on the street and pick them up. Much more simpler and easier. EDIT: Please do not listen this advice. It is wrong. Someone in comments changed my mind. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:10 PM |
| 92 | I stopped being so active in trying to get a get a girlfriend — and girls, paradoxically, notice me moreThat's strange. I have been sitting on a couch for past 20 years no girl noticed me. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | The 5 Most Dangerous Online Dating Mistakes Women (and Men) Make - and What to Do InsteadThe biggest mistake is: Doing online dating in the first place. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 03:12 PM |
| 0 | What’s the rule on disclosing experience?If you show to a girl that your are not experienced then you are fucked. I never got asked that. But if she would ask, then I would say “you would be surprised”. And change topic. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.500 approaches = around 30 numbers, 7 insta dates, 1 lay Now, 50 approaches = 1 lay I am doing this only 3 months. After a year, I think it will be 5 approaches = 1 lay | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.First week I was approaching like 5 sets per day. And, same as you, got this feeling, that it is bullshit. You are getting nowhere with this. Every day is the same. Same anxiety, same fear. Nothing changed. But I had few examples (wings), who were approaching 20-30 per day, and I could see how much better they are. So, then I increased my goal from 5 to 20 per day, also increased difficulty (groups, mother-daughter, even couples). And noticed that I am actually getting somewhere with this. Even … | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:59 AM |
| 7 | Doing cold approach just to get better at approaching was really bad for me mentality and lead to a low abundance mindset when I was approaching. Focusing on my purpose and approaching when I feel like it throughout my daily activities felt more realistic, natural, and lessened any nervousness.I was thinking the same way after my 50 approaches. But unlike you I kept going, and after 500 approaches, it became part of my lifestyle, it became my social gym. Now, I just feel weird if I don't approach at least couple of sets per day. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Relationship vs CompanionshipAsk the girl | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:29 AM |
| 1 | How do I ask my Childhood Crush our?Same way you would ask any other women. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:23 AM |
| 1 | If you're just sometimes funny, should you censor your jokes?If people don't find your jokes funny, then don't use them. Why do you even need ask this question. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:21 AM |
| 2 | I[20] have matched with a couple older women [early 30s] on an online dating app and I have no idea what to open with.You open the same way you open younger ones. In fact, older women like when you see them as young. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 11:19 AM |
| 6 | How do you build the lifestyle without sacrificing your true self?You are thinking about that wrong way. You don't have to have crazy social life to get laid. The only thing you need to is to learn to EXPRESS yourself and little bit of seduction. Express yourself means talk to any person (stranger, women) like you are talking to a friend. You have to have that feeling. For that you have to get rid of social anxiety and other blockers which prevents you to feel like that in any social situation. When you can do that, then you have to learn how to show sexual in… | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 10:16 AM |
| 2 | Booty Call who never wants BootyHe is not into you. Move on. He doesn't say directly that cause he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Finding out they have a kidQuestion: How would you call a man who is afraid of a kid? Answer: Baby. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 01:07 AM |
| 1 | You Don't Need All The AdviceOf course I did. Everyone had. But you are saying that you can just have fun whenever you feel like it. Like. “Ok, I am going with friends and will have fun, I don’t have any problems, everything is fine.” Which is total bullshit. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Tips for a first time cold approachShe will be surrounded by her friends, classmates. Don’t ask her directly for a date. She may will feel uncomfortable. Ask what she likes to do on her free time. And based on answer ask her for contact details. E.g. She likes to go to the gym. Ask about her program. And say that you have female friend or sister, who is looking for that. Ask if she can send to you. She says she likes to go clubbing and says where. You say that never been there and would like to go. Maybe you and your friends can … | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | You Don't Need All The AdviceYou will never understand what I mean. It’s like explaining what swimming feels like to someone who never saw a sea in his life. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 12:24 AM |
| 4 | You Don't Need All The AdviceJust have fun. Unfortunately, it’s not that as easy as it sounds. | /r/seduction | 08/01/20 12:13 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys do it?I just do what needs to be done. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Need help.If you have feeling that she wont text you, then you don't wait. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:49 PM |
| 3 | Where do you draw the line to get laid?If not you, then it will be someone else. Potentially even worse than you. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Need help.Wait for 3 days. Let her text you. If she won't, then you can text her: "It has been 3 days, but I still can feel your taste on my lips. Do you?" If she answers "yes" then it's game on, if "no", then game over. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:15 PM |
| 3 | The Natural Lifestyles BootcampNo. Just find online free ebook. Read it and go practice. There is no reason to spend thousands. Better invest those money to new clothes. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Pretending to go along with the bullshit!You don't have to talk about spirits to get laid. You are doing mistake by letting her to pull you in her own world. You must pull her into yours. So don't pretend that you like something just to make her happy. It's wrong and contra-productive. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 07:01 PM |
| -1 | First post a bro needs helpOne tip: No matter what, try to kiss her during the date. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Fucked it up, still glad that I triedIf you think it was awkward, wait till you meet her next time in a bus or in a gym. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Does me not wanting to be friends after a breakup make me seem butt hurtI wish I would have this problem. Find someone who I would actually care about. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 06:35 PM |
| 1 | I Need Advice On Coffee Shop GameAlways take girl’s number instead of giving yours. Women are reactive. Your job as a man to be proactive. No reason to change that in this situation. Exchange numbers 1-2min before you are separating. I had few SDL when only after sex we exchanged numbers. They are not your priority. Your priority is to seduce her. Don’t say to a women she is a cute, or beautiful or has nice eyes etc. It’s too generic. Say something specific about her. Like “You have five freckles on your right cheek, but only 3… | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Told a girl I’m a good Christian, she asked me If I can have sex before marriage.That you will burn in hell. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 03:41 PM |
| 3 | How did you stop being a pervert?Actually I have learned how to be a pervert. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Tinder helpYour photos and bio should be tailored to target specific type of girls. So if you want to someone who likes partying, clubbing you mention those things which girl would find attractive. Like drumming, drinking etc. If you target those girls who are looking for just to hookup, you put shirtless photo with visible 6 pack as your main photo, and be honest about that. If you are looking for a nerdy, gamer girls. Put weird photos of yourself with crazy haircut, and write that you like gaming. If you… | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 11:44 AM |
| 1 | About to approach for the first timeYou won't. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:53 AM |
| 4 | Finally had the balls to approach a girl after the gymHow to act naturally? | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:51 AM |
| 0 | Chick says she’s too old for me?You have lost your shot, probably she found someone else during those 2 weeks. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:49 AM |
| 1 | I Need Advice On Coffee Shop GameAfter asking a girl's number you have three options: Talk with her for a couple of minutes and leave. Continue talking and together go for insta date. Stop talking and continue do what you were doing without leaving her. Only first two options should be taken. It seems that you took the third one. This is bad, because it feels the same way as you were on a date with her. In very very boring and shitty date. So either get the number and get out, or go do some fun stuff with her. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:43 AM |
| 1 | How to hookup in the winter?Are you fucking bear or what? Just put warm clothes and go out. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:37 AM |
| 4 | Late bloomer?I googled it and average count is 7 from one study. But, remember people tend to lie about these numbers, so for a guys probably even less and for girls more. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Get with someone you previously rejected?Don't do that. We should learn from our mistakes, but not regret them. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:30 AM |
| 1 | How to transition to conversation after a DM openerWhen you open her you have to create attraction first, and not the rapport. You do that by using push/pull, cold reading, flirting, specific direct statements about her etc. When attraction is established then you create a rapport. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Is seducing someone a bad thing?I see no problem with that. We all do that. Girls do that to the guys, by making themselves more attractive. I mean you can choose longer skirt instead of short. But no, they use our visual vulnerability to seduce us. Everyone are fine with that. No one thinks it is wrong. I don't see why a guy can't make himself look more desirable in her eyes. | /r/seduction | 07/01/20 09:23 AM |
| 1 | When dating coaches completely contradict themselves ?I didn't, you perfectly explained the issue. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 09:22 PM |
| 2 | When dating coaches completely contradict themselves ?You are taking things out of context. If I say to you "don't drink, it will kill you" You know that I am talking about alcohol. But take this sentence out of context. And you will interpret this as "don't drink anything even water, cause it will kill you" Same way dating coaches, when they are talking about some specific rule they have a context, which usually is implied like in this example. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 09:15 PM |
| 1 | What’s some real 100% authentic advice for learning game.If you are 1/10 then no game will help you. Just joking. It will be 10 times harder than for average Joe, but if you keep improving, eventually you will get it. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Game is really just flirtingIts like saying "Fruit is an apple". Flirting is a part of the GAME and not the game itself. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Good warm-up exerciseGood advice. I am doing that all the time, when I feel AA. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:57 PM |
| 7 | What happens if I just skip game altogether?You have misconception about the GAME. Everyone who got laid had a game, whether that was consciously or subconsciously. Just by saying your line. You already in a GAME. So why wouldn't you want get better at it if you already in it? | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:54 PM |
| 2 | "Don't worry about openers" is bullshit when you're a beginner, How do I start a conversation?Hi is too informal and if you going after management position you should know that. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:49 PM |
| 1 | I hate social media but it helps attract women. Help?That actually makes sense. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:44 PM |
| 36 | I hate social media but it helps attract women. Help?You don’t need social media to pick up chicks. It definitely helps. But is not like you must have it. In fact, if you don’t have it. You have to compensate that with other methods. Which is interesting challenge. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:19 AM |
| 8 | How to get rid of limiting beliefs if they are true?If you think you are so unlucky, then what about guys who are disabled? Or has other deformities? Just work with what you have. You have no other option. | /r/seduction | 06/01/20 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Girl [21] has sent me around 30 “steak” selfies on Snapchat over the last couple months and I’ve ignored everyone of them. Would giving her the attention she wants ultimately make her less interested?If your goal is a collection of selfies, then I would not change anything. But if you want to fuck her, then I guess you have to change something. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 10:23 PM |
| 3 | How to not get flaked on at the one yard lineI don't think it was a flake. I literally thing is just coincidence. It is very rare, that a girl would ask the guy herself out and then flake. It doesn't make sense. The second situation probably was a flake. But even so. You can't do much about that, it happened literally 20min before. The only flakes you can fix, if you get a number and she doesn't respond. It means she didn't invest in you enough. Here is not the case. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 10:18 PM |
| 12 | How to not get flaked on at the one yard lineOr maybe first girl couldn't meet cause her parents were there and the second girl because she was tired. I know it may sound totally crazy, but sometimes it is not everything about you. Girls sometimes, say the truth, you know. Just keep doing what you are doing everything is fine. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 10:07 PM |
| 18 | Fearing for my mental health in my seduction journey.If you "even might have kissed", it means the date was shit. Did you even tried to go to second location? Did you escalate? Did you lead? Did you create rapport? Did at any point your dick got hard? Get your shit together and work on that. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 09:56 PM |
| 9 | I'm good looking and can't seem to pick up girlsA great boyfriend without a girlfriend. You don't hear this often. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Successful men of reddit. How did you attract many beautiful women into your lives?Read. Apply. Fail. Learn. Repeat. p.s. If you ask generic questions you get generic answers. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 09:15 PM |
| 2 | It gets easier as you get olderTotal bullshit. Doesn't matter woman age, she will always want a bad boy who is a provider. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 09:10 PM |
| 36 | "Don't worry about openers" is bullshit when you're a beginner, How do I start a conversation?Programmers, Mathematicians, Physicists are those who have very big potential to be the best seducers of all. And the main reason is their analytical thinking. E.g. I see a lot of people say "it doesn't matter what you say"... and it fucking pisses me off, it does matter or else I'll have absolutely nothing to say and stay quiet mid approach... Everyone who has some brains understands, that this statement is true. Of course, it matters what you say. So to answer your question: There is no magic … | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Alternative Paths to Mastery for pickup Super Powers?if he got a good coach, he could probably get it done in a couple months or a few months and be done with As I sad, it is not true. You get only temporary results. You guys are selling a "quick fix" but not the "solution". And, "quick fix" is not worth the money. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 08:20 PM |
| 0 | Alternative Paths to Mastery for pickup Super Powers?This is such a wrong comparison... 90% of guys who I met, didn't want to be MPUAs. Don't believe? Look at his seddit. Most of the guys don't want to be masters of seduction, they just want to find a gf, learn to talk with people etc. In other words, they don't want to be surgeons, just have some basic skills not to bleed to death. Of course there are some guys who wants to level their game to expert level. But its a minority. We both know that it requires huge amount of dedication and work. Aver… | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 08:01 PM |
| 18 | 30 First Date Conversation Starters That Will Kick Awkwardness In The ButtYou can do both. You can get better at conversation and you can use lines. I don't see why these options should be exclusive. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 0 | Alternative Paths to Mastery for pickup Super Powers?You don't need a coach to get better with women. So, the guy who spent 5000 is just stupid. All material is free. Read it and apply it. Simple as that. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 07:19 PM |
| 7 | The most important thing when texting a girl is you should utilize the phone as a tool to set a date not texting back and forth. If you text a girl back and fourth it kills the mystery and it kills the fun of getting to know each other in person. tips on how to text a girl and get her on a date.How can I take advice from someone who can't take advice himself? | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 03:32 PM |
| 5 | Is kissing on a first date important?Absolutely. Usually it happens at the second date location. After 2-3h you have been with her. Then escalate more and after 1-2h pull her home. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 03:23 PM |
| 7 | I’m 30 years old and I’ve never been kissed or know how to flirt.You will fuck up, unless you are "rainman" of seduction. But that's fine. Learn and try again. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Day game: Why do some women get scared when I approach them?Approach her like you are lost and looking for a help. Don’t actually ask for direction. Just give her that vibe for 1-2s, | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 01:08 PM |
| 14 | How do I enjoy myself while clubbing?I had the same problem like you. That clubs are no no for me. You just get overwhelmed by all the energy. I started to observe people. And noticed one very interesting thing. What they do and what I don’t. THEY ENJOY THE MOMENT That is. As a person who never felt like that in my entire life. I sad ok. I will just pretend that I enjoy. And this actually to the some degree worked. You can actually fool people that you like clubs. But the problem with this approach is the energy required to do that… | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 12:53 PM |
| 26 | How to be "manly" and "sexy" when you're the quiet and reserved type?You don’t need to be neither party guy, nor extrovert, nor funny, nor talk a lot, nor be a leader of the man to get laid. The only thing you need to be is manly. Think of Clint Eastwood type of guy. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 05:42 AM |
| 14 | The most important thing when texting a girl is you should utilize the phone as a tool to set a date not texting back and forth. If you text a girl back and fourth it kills the mystery and it kills the fun of getting to know each other in person. tips on how to text a girl and get her on a date.You just repeating what you sad in the video. You won’t occupy girls head if she didn’t invest in you enough. “Proved to me that she is worthy” Seriously? I understand where are u coming from with this mentality, you are the prize, you are the one she must fight for and stuff. It’s all good. Just don’t take this too literally, otherwise you will grow your Ego so much, that it will fuck your inner game. If I see that a woman is not into me, or she is not gonna give to me. I will save money. With … | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 05:01 AM |
| 4 | [FR] Worked On Kino, Frame ControlShe was not testing you. It’s her bitch shield at full capacity. Just ignore it. And don’t talk about it. The kino was fine. Remember Escalation. You start with social kino, and when time goes to more sexual. You just needed to spend more time with her. Especially when her bitch shield is so big. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 04:11 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Worked On Kino, Frame ControlI think it was good the only mistake was your poor planning and not going to the second date location. Usually this is where kiss close happens. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 04:04 AM |
| 30 | The most important thing when texting a girl is you should utilize the phone as a tool to set a date not texting back and forth. If you text a girl back and fourth it kills the mystery and it kills the fun of getting to know each other in person. tips on how to text a girl and get her on a date.Really good video. But the were some technical mistakes. 1) You should plan a date the moment you meet her. And not when you call her. At minimum you should get info about her work pattern (day or night), and the days she works. 2) How long to wait to text her depends on her investment in you There are no rule to wait 2-3 days. The guidelines are: If she was not that into you, then you text her or even call her ASAP and set the date. I usually do,after 30mim -1h. If you wait longer she will tota… | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 03:50 AM |
| 1 | How to maintain a conversation and when should you end it?Next time instead of asking their numbers ask if you can join them and have conversation. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Bad idea to approach women when there is younger boys with them?Few weeks back I saw really cute girl sitting with a guy and drinking coffee. They were around 19-23. I am 10 years older. So I approached them, and started to talk with a guy. Asked few questions, and he was like “Yes, sir”, “No, sir”. Anyway he sad that they are on a date, so not much I could do in that situation. So, yes you can approach. Just talk with guys first. Not with her. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Are any of you guys never going to settle down?? Props to youThat’s the MAIN goal. I real hope that when I satisfy this bug of fucking around I will stop want it and settle down. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Planned to try a cold approach for the first time today. Instead, I masturbated and watched Kitchen Nightmares.If I see someone I can’t approach and get that itchy feeling in my chest, I know that I HAVE TO do it. Usually I like, “fuck, here we go again”. I do the thing, most of the time I just embarrass myself. But the next time, to do the same thing becomes easy. It literally takes only one, max two attempts to force yourself before you are comfortable to do it again. This fact I find very interesting. Also if you make this as a habit. You get so accustomed to embarrassment, that you not just don’t car… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Girl keeps flaking but keeps seeing me.. what to do?Probably she is not aware of what she is doing. Some people are just too observed in themselves to see how they behaviour impact other people. Just say to her that she doesn’t respect you and you don’t like that. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Success percentage (cold approach/daygame/infield/whatever)This information is totally useless from statistical point of view. You can’t make any conclusions cause there are two many variables which impacts your success rate. I know guys who did 500 approaches and had only few dates with lead to nothing, I know guys who makes 10 approaches and at least one leads to sex. So my advice, go out and find out yourself. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:37 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Tried to be super-alpha with a girl, failed miserably and made a complete ass of myselfIt’s normal man. And it happened countless time to myself. I fucked so many sets due to misinterpretation of the PUA rules, or being too alpha, or just not having common sense. It’s ok. Just don’t start blaming the game, and say that this is all bullshit, I just have to be myself. It’s not truth. Believe in community and keep doing what you were doing. Just CALIBRATE everything. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:23 PM |
| 4 | The Truth about NiceGuys: Bullshit Behaviours and Mistakes to Drop NOW!!!You take advices from posts like this, and ACT on them. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:13 PM |
| 7 | The Truth about NiceGuys: Bullshit Behaviours and Mistakes to Drop NOW!!!As a “former” nice guy, can confirm that everything is totally truth. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:09 PM |
| 3 | Putting myself out thereYou can always do cold approaches as well on the streets, shops, parks etc. There are no reason why you should not do them, but lots of reasons why you should. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:03 PM |
| 1 | A small realization I've hadIf you are at the stage where you can actually meet women, talk with them, and have sex on regular basis. Then I agree. You should focus on other areas of your life. But if you are virgin, who can’t even look at them, didn’t have sex for months. Then, you have to prioritise women, and sort this shit out. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Dope Conversation SKillZReally good advice and totally truth. But, there is one instance when you should not follow rule one and talk with them as they are your friend. That is when you want that the person who you are talking would feel he is the one who is dominating the conversation and is in charge. It can be your boss, or a jealous boyfriend, or someone who you really respect and admire, or potential client. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 10:50 PM |
| -3 | Read the body language before going in for the first kissNo. I mean same girl, same date. Just don’t make it weird. Smile, say “You devil”, like she is teasing you. And start talking about something else, like nothing happened. Try again, after a while. I even would tease her to kiss me, like “So, are you going to kiss me, or what?” She says something. Then you. “Come on, don’t be a pussy. I know you want that. Can you imagine the feeling. Don’t you want to know how my lips tastes? Or how firm they are? Don’t be afraid. I won’t bite, at least for the … | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 10:35 PM |
| 1 | I did my first approach today!I used to. Now, sometimes I do sometimes I don’t. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Read the body language before going in for the first kissGood advice if you have some experience in the game and actually are not afraid to kiss her. If you are beginner, then better is always to kiss her as soon as possible. If you feel that you won't get slap in a face, then you should kiss her. If you fail then try again and again. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Friendly or interested?In any field, politics, warfare, relationship if you want to reduce chances of failure you have to increase preparation. That is, before making your move try to get as many information about her, single or not, her feelings about you etc. You do that using questions. You would be surprised how much info person can tell you. E.g. Let's say you want to know if she has a boyfriend without her noticing that you are into her. Start conversation with her. Talk about yourself what you did on Sunday. Sa… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Stood up for myself, now shes attractedThat's awesome, man. Those who put aside their ego and actually take advices, are the ones who get what they want. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | How to not gain a bad rep?The creepiness comes from people perception about you. If they think, that you are shy person. And you approach someone like that. Then it is creepy. If they think, that you are a playboy. And you approach someone like that. Then is normal. So ask a question? "How do people perceive me?" | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Are there actually people on here telling people not to pay attention to IOIs?IOI - Indication Of Interest. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 05:42 PM |
| 3 | How to approach on the dance floor, and how to recognize IOIs?When you wait in the queue to enter a club. Start small convo with girls, which are near you. Next time when you see them in a club, you don't even need an eye contact to go to them. Just say "Hey, it's you!" Similarly, open girls at the bar, have small convo. Next time when you see them dancing, just go to them. Another way is to lock an eye contact with a girl and don't let her go. When you do that just go to her and start dancing. If at any point you loose eye contact with her, then its game … | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: Eliminate the time wastersWhile I agree, there are "Yes", "No" and "Maybe" girls when you approach them. "Maybe" girls are those who needs little bit of time to decide how she feels about you, usually it doesn't take more than few minutes. Later on there are no more "Maybe" only "Yes" and "No". You are describing the latter situation, there are no "Maybe" girls. In her mind is already decided that is "no", but she may say "maybe" to you for following reasons: She doesn't want to hurt your feelings and be rude. 99% chance… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Should I call her ?You went on the date. You fucked up. Now she is not comfortable to say the truth, cause doesn't want to hurt your feelings. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 04:56 PM |
| 3 | If a girl openly teases and talks about a sexual topic , is it normally a good sign ?It is hard to tell. Just because people talking about sexual topics with you doesn't mean they are into you. You have to pay more attention at other cues. Is she opened person who talks about this stuff with everyone? Does she acts differently around you than with some else? | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 04:20 PM |
| 4 | What does this mean?We touch people who we like. And we avoid doing that to people who we don't. Think of homeless person. A person who doesn't like these kind of people would be disgust to touch him. He would wash his hands after that. A person who likes to help homeless people, has no problem to touch them. In fact he would touch him by himself to make that person feel better. So, if the guy touches you, he likes you. It's not possible to say that he likes you romantically, maybe he is doing that to everyone. Pay… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 04:10 PM |
| 5 | How hard and how to to pick up without a room?Don't make it weird about this stuff. Be honest with them, they will understand. You can share stuff as well. Ask for advice. Ask "how to talk with girls" to your mom. Or how not to cum too fast, your dad. It is NORMAL. Don't be pussy. It will make your relationship with your parents stronger. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:57 PM |
| 1 | How hard and how to to pick up without a room?Explain them that if they don't let you, then you gonna do in the park, dark alley where is more dangerous and you can be caught by police. So either they can help you or deal with the consequences. There is no other way, cause you can't help it. If they care about you to some degree. They should agree if you are convincing enough. Damm, I would even ask my mom to pick us up and buy condoms. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | How hard and how to to pick up without a room?Why? | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How hard and how to to pick up without a room?Take her where you live. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:43 PM |
| 2 | How to be the one with power in the relationshipFirst of all they are both guys. And I have a feeling that he actually cares. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:27 PM |
| 3 | How to be the one with power in the relationshipIt always be like this. The main problem you have, as I had with my ex, is just your NEEDINESS for each other is in different levels. My ex wanted to spend time with me always, and I could go without her for days or even weeks. You won't gonna increase his level of NEEDINESS for you, especially if he has lots of options, but you can DECREASE your own neediness. So that both your levels would be similar. This could save a relationship. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:25 PM |
| 4 | Tinder: Has anyone tried asking for a date in the first message?No it doesn't work. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Do you flirt with other women in front of her?(not exclusive relationship)Girls in real life that I know taught me they love a man who has tons of options. To flirt with other women when you are with yours, is not the same as to have tons of options. With first option you show her that you disrespect her and not really into her. With second option you show that she is special, cause you choose her of all other women. So have lots of women in your life, and you can flirt with any woman as long as you are alone. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:13 PM |
| 0 | Why does everyone on YouTube use the Yad stop?It's more effective. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Do most women hate being cold approached?Approach her like you are lost and you need help. This disarms any women's initial shield to the strangers. Please, don't take it wrong way and approach her and ask for directions. NO! Just give her that vibe through your body language for the first 1-2s. Even before you start talking with her. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 03:06 PM |
| 3 | How to be the one with power in the relationshipIn any kind of relationship there is only one Dom. If there are two, then the conflicts starts. But it is possible to revert it back if you really want that. But for that you have to be prepared for loosing the relationship. Steps: Don't text him, or call him. Eventually he will start to wonder what's going on. It can take weeks or even months. But eventually he will text you. When he asks what is wrong. You would say "Nothing, I was just busy, you?" Don't offer to meet him. Make sure that he do… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:58 PM |
| 0 | How do I stop being attracted to people?The other solution is to get what you want. When you will have it, you won't gonna want anymore. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:46 PM |
| 1 | How to escalate to hookup on first date (when she’s down)?Yes, definitely. If there is no future for a relationship and she still wants to meet, then she is only for sex. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:44 PM |
| 1 | She cancelled 2 dates in a rowShe is not into you. Forget her and move on. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:42 PM |
| 7 | How do I stop being attracted to people?It's not possible. It's in human nature. The only solution is put a rope around your neck. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop being attracted to people?Not gonna help. You will not want to have sex. But you would still want intimacy. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:39 PM |
| 1 | i got the number now what?One of the most easiest form of investment is to ask her to help you. "Can you please hold this for me" | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:33 PM |
| 5 | i got the number now what?Number means NOTHING. Number is NOT your goal. Your goal is to make her INVEST in you in terms of her time, energy, emotions etc. The more she invests the bigger chance she will respond. That's why unhappy couples have trouble to break up. They are too much invested in each other. It's not the same as to swipe left when you have been with the person for 5 years. If you talk with a women for 2min, with another 30min, and you get both numbers. Which number you think will be a flake? So, DO NOT foc… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Can a woman shit test you even if she's not interested on you?So if she sad that statement when she is interested in you then it is a shit test. If she sad that statement just cause she is messing with you, then is not a shit test. It’s like if I say to you”I am sorry”. If I did something and I do regret about that, then it’s an apology. Otherwise, just words. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Can comedians be attractive?This summarises everything. They “adore” guys who makes them laugh. But not. They would fuck guys who makes them laugh. So. Its good to be funny guy but is not enough. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Can a woman shit test you even if she's not interested on you?Messing around is not a shit test. There is a reason why we have so many words to describe something. Do not say “orange” when you mean “apple”. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Honesty as a means for "disqualification"..I had this problem myself. It seemed that every time I was honest with a women I always would fucked up. So the only option left was to be dishonest and say what she wanted to hear. And it actually worked. But then my self consciousness would kick in and say that is wrong, and that just didn’t go with what I believed and my core values. I was not happy. The solution was simple. I had to change my core values. E.g “Dishonesty is wrong” which I truly believed before, I changed to “Dishonesty is wr… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:41 AM |
| 2 | I did my first approach today!Do the numbers. Minimum 10-20 per day. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:22 AM |
| 9 | What turns guys on while making out?Nothing beats fit body. The girl can be average or even below on attractiveness scale but if she has that slim petite figure with a nice ass. I don’t care anymore how her face looks like. So hit the gym. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Why are we so ashamed of doing pickup?Not everyone is ashamed. Actually I am proud of that. And all my family, friends, roommates knows what I am doing. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Any dating coaches Or experienced guys I can contact for any situation I’m having ?Sure | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:10 AM |
| 5 | Dating women who want a LTR when you have no idea what you want?You don’t need to always have a goal and think about this stuff. What you want from relationships etc. Just do what you want to do in the current moment. Most people call that ”enjoy the life”. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Quick question...You have answered your own question. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Can a woman shit test you even if she's not interested on you?No. You can only shit test someone if u are interested in that person, otherwise it is not a shit test. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 11:00 AM |
| 4 | Do you flirt with other women in front of her?(not exclusive relationship)Would you like that she would star flirting with other guy? I think, that answers the question. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 10:58 AM |
| 1 | How to approach a girl without being creepy (raw footage + no gimmicks)So, where is the answer to the question on how to not be creepy? P.s. side note, Don’t use more than two colours in the title. Readers won’t understand which words are more important red or blue? Or by what kind of logic you group red words and blue. Is just confuses them. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 01:23 AM |
| 3 | When you go looking for it, you'll never find it. You'll find it when you stop looking.Your conclusions are not related to your previous statements. Which makes all paragraph a nonsense. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Is being super direct the way to go?There is just one rule about “what to say”: It always depends on the CONTEXT. You can, and you should say to her”you are fcking slut” while having sex, but rarely in any other occasion. The same with opening a girl. Different context requires different opener. Slutty girl in a pub on her own, yes, direct game works much better. Slutty girl in a pub with a group, no, better to use indirect. Slutty girl on her own in the tube, better use indirect game. Slutty girl on her own in the park, better us… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 12:53 AM |
| 2 | How can I ask questions as cold reads? I've heard this is way better, but it sounds so forced and weird in reality.Cold reading can be used at any time during interaction. Here some use cases which I use. To open a set. It works really well on a groups. Usually if u see a girl on her own which has very good fashion taste. You would say a direct compliment. But if she is in a group, you don’t want that everyone would know that you are hitting on her. So you cold read. “I bet you guys are from France/Italy”. Strangely, I get it right 80% of the time. To create an attraction. Use cold reading to spike her emoti… | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Is double texting neediness or persistence?Total waist of energy. | /r/seduction | 04/01/20 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone seem to find success when they stray further from this sub?I agree that to get laid or to get into relationship you don’t really need all that technical PUA stuff. It’s enough just to enjoy your time, don’t care what people think, and just make a move when opportunity arises. But if you want something more. For example to gain the knowledge to control any social interactions and make them work for your benefits. Then you have to understand the GAME on a deeper level. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | I made out with a stripper because I wasn't interested in her!So option 2 | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 07:14 PM |
| 4 | I made out with a stripper because I wasn't interested in her!I don't understand how can you make out with someone if you are not interested in that person? I think you are confusing two things: 1) Being actually not interested 2) Showing that you are not interested First option will lead you nowhere. Second is fine, but in very specific situations. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Seduction with a limited social circlePersonally I never go to a club or pub alone. Not because it is not possible to meet, but because those places requires you to be very energetic. You have to show that you ENJOY time, which is hard to achieve when you are alone and you don't drink. And even if you manage to lift yourself up, you loose advantage of being different in there, cause everyone are in a good mood. But try to approach girls in a day time, when everyone is not in "party mood" but you are, there is no competition. So, tha… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | If you barely meet women, how can i stop to put them on a pedestal?The only way to actually get rid off this mentality is to create abundance. That is, have more women in your life. There is no other way. Temporary solution to get at least first woman is to pretend and act that you have more women. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:38 PM |
| 2 | Do we need to re-write the rule book for UK girls?!There is some true to that, but there is also some racism. Got matched with British chick on Tinder. She texted me first, asked for WhatApp. She was very into me. The moment I mentioned, I am not British, she replied "I am looking for British", and that's it. This is not the first time I feel racism in UK, but this one was the harshest, and it was in London. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:32 PM |
| 0 | The Path to Becoming a NaturalYou talk like woman. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Do language barriers prevent good relationships?If you can communicate as a strangers, believe me you can communicate as a couple as well. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Do language barriers prevent good relationships?Not really. I hooked up with one latin girl. I don't speak Spanish and she doesn't understand english. So what to do in these situations? Simple. Talk like she understands you and you ask her do the same. You have no idea what both of you are talking, but it is fun. If you really need to understand each other, then use google translate. p.s. Funny enough, in a bed we understood each other perfectly. I knew and she knew exactly what we wanted to say. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Seducing an older accomplished womanPeople are seeking to feel new experiences and new emotions. This what makes them happy. If she used to travel a lot and have fun. Then she wants different kind of experience - settle down. If she used to command, control people in her job (senior manager), then she is looking to be dominated in the personal relationship, especially in a bed, think of BDSM. So to seduce her, you have to be very dominant with her, otherwise she will treat you as just her another employee. Also women in managing p… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Former PUA in the Toronto area, AMAI think is not "most", they all are like that. Healthy people don't learn this stuff. Last question: Would you still do it, if you would have another chance? | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:59 AM |
| 4 | A question for women: Is it off limits to approach you at the gym?Try to say "no" without words. What do you do? Good chances that you move your head to the side. Now do it slowly and pay attention, what happens with your eyes. You will notice that, actually you are moving your eyes first and only then head. This is what happens when women doesn't like you. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Former PUA in the Toronto area, AMAThis will happen to me as well. I can feel it. But, also PUA is the only thing that is working at the moment. So can't stop, until I have reached my goals. Does "regular emotions" come back and have you ever wanted to go back? | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Former PUA in the Toronto area, AMAWhy did you quit? | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Former PUA in the Toronto area, AMAWhat is your question? | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:35 AM |
| 1 | Seduce her on Instagram.First of all she has thousands of people exactly like you. Who has crush on her. You probably have a better chances to win a lottery than seduce her. One way for you to get into her pants is to look as best as you can, gave solid game and meet her in person in daytime. Another way is to have IG not worse than hers. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:31 AM |
| 1 | Do we need to re-write the rule book for UK girls?!When I started, it was exactly the same as you describe. "Fuck off" and that's it. Now is much better, get convo going but still never had success with them. I think you just need have better quality game with them. Also they have higher standards when it comes to actual English language. If you use poor language, then it's totally turn off for them. Remember: Don't blame the girl, blame your own game. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 10:25 AM |
| 2 | I’m good looking but can’t pull girls to save my lifeYou don't need confidence to approach girls, same way you don't need courage to go to dentist. Sometimes you do what you HAVE to do. Guys are using this lack of confidence just as an excuse to not approach. It's the same as I would say "I can't go to work, I don't have passion for it" | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 09:59 AM |
| 1 | 18M College Student Looking For HelpNo problem, man. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Should you include pics of you with other women online?If you do not want to decrease your chances of attracting any type of the girl, then NO, do not do it. If you want to increase your chances of attracting SPECIFIC type of the girl, then YES do it. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 09:48 AM |
| 10 | A question for women: Is it off limits to approach you at the gym?There are no such rule as "You can't approach at the X". If you are beginner and you never approached anyone, then I suggest not to do it in your local gym, unless you know what you are doing. I did that by saying "you have great ass", and neither she (probably) or me went back to that gym ever again. Rules: Check how hard she is working out. Some girls go to gym just to show their asses, instead of really working out. If you try to catch eye contact and you can't, then she is not in a mood to b… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Going out on a chipotle date with a girl waaaay hotter than me tomorrow. Any tips for how to act cool and not fuck up?Agree with other comments. Go somewhere where you would not have time to think "That she is hotter than me". Somewhere where is more action, where you actually will have to do something not just sit and talk. Like ice skating or crazy golf etc. While doing something not only she will get relaxed, but most importantly YOU will get more relaxed. Otherwise you will fuck up. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Gaming solo this weekend:AdviceSame why as you would if you would not be alone. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:55 AM |
| 2 | How do i become a the sherminator?The thing is we create our own reality. We are who we THINK we are. Our thoughts guide our actions. Actions enforce the thoughts. This is natural process and happens subconsciously through our lifetime. But it doesn't mean we can't impact that consciously. It is same way we can learn to control our body language if we learn to be always aware of it. Use your imagination to imagine how that person would talk with a girl, imagine his body movements, what he feels when he is talking, imagine what h… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:45 AM |
| 2 | Super busy or not interestedAs you sad, "she may be actually busy". Although there is some chance that you will meet her, cause she suggested week after. But I would not put too many hopes into that. Clearly, guys or specifically you are not her main priority. So take example from her. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:31 AM |
| 1 | 18M College Student Looking For HelpPeople get bad grades NOT because they are hooking up with girls, but because they are LAZY to study. Don't confuse correlation with a cause. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:23 AM |
| 1 | 18M College Student Looking For HelpI did. And it was total nonsense. You can hook up with girls and get good grades. These things don't need to be exclusive. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:20 AM |
| 0 | 18M College Student Looking For HelpThis is such a bad advice. When you care only about hooking up. How can you focus and getting good grades. This leads to masturbation and porn addition. Which will fuck you up for a long run. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 08:10 AM |
| 3 | Good looking enough but have no idea how to actually talk with women and attract them.Talk with strangers. Doesn’t matter if it is women or man. Just literally go out and talk with them. Start with street promoters, religious fanatics, shop workers, tourists, homeless. Make a task to keep conversation as long as possible. Later make a task to make it interesting. Talk about 10-20 people per day for a week. When you are comfortable talking. Then approach women and talk with them. You will notice that they are very friendly but you don’t get any numbers. That’s because you don’t cr… | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Sell yourself to yourself, or how to actually be confident.Agree with sales thing, but disagree about confidence. The only thing what gives you confidence is experience. No experience = zero confidence. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Lost affectionSo just go for it. Don’t see any problem. If you will get rejected, you would still feel better than now. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 11:43 PM |
| 2 | How to become a more ATTRACTIVE ManWatched only few minutes, cause couldn’t take it anymore. The quality of video is very bad, lighting and sound are distorted. But what really annoyed me the most was the angle. It feels like you are talking to someone else. Plus video of 24min is way too long to listen for just your boring monologue. I believe content is good. Just present it better. You are loosing subs because of the silly mistakes. No judgment just critique. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Anyone try this before?That doesn’t make any sense. If you want to be an alpha you would say: “I just shit my pants, take them off” | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 11:21 PM |
| 1 | The Path to Becoming a NaturalWhat a nonsense. If you are considered non-natural just because you are using same lines for same social interactions on different people, then everyone are non-naturals, cause we all using canned lines, such as “thank you” or “I am sorry”, for the same purpose, but on different people. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Anyone try this before?He asks permission, so “no” it won’t work. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | AdviceOut of 500 I got reject only 499. One was the lucky one :) But the thing is that I have skills now. Next month will be 1 out 100, another month 1 out of 10. So stop whining and start approaching. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 07:43 PM |
| 1 | AdviceWhen you end up like that, you do whatever it takes. Approaching 500 per month and get rejected, becomes nothing against the though of dying alone. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 07:37 PM |
| 1 | AdviceI don't think you understand severity of this. I was same like you. I did not do what I had to do, but waited that one day something will change. Guess what? It did not, I wasted 15 years of my life just waiting. 7years was totally dry spell, other was long term relationship with a women I didn't even love. 32years = 1 gf, 3 prostitutes that's all. Please don't end up like me. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 07:33 PM |
| 2 | AdviceYou don't need confidence to talk with girls, same why as you don't need to have courage to go to dentist. Sometimes you do things cause you HAVE TO. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 07:15 PM |
| 2 | I'm confusedDo you know what women do to the guys with insecurities? They dump them. So, the only way for you to have shot with her or any other women in that matter is to get rid all of your insecurities. How to do that? Read books about PUA. Go out. Do hundredths of cold approaches. Reflect. Learn. Repeat. Until you will create your life as such as you wanted to be. With plenty of women and zero insecurities. And only then you can think about serious relationship. Good Luck. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | I got laid previous still have no idea how to talk to a girl.Apply in practice. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 04:51 PM |
| 1 | I got laid previous still have no idea how to talk to a girl.So you don't have a GAME and you have no idea what to do? Hm... This is really hard... How about learning a GAME? Kinda makes sense. Doesn't it? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | I'm confusedWhat specific issues do you have? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 5 | I want your opinion - Lay/Body count - what’s your max number of guys a potential girlfriend can have slept with?To me is opposite. The more slutty and experienced she is. The more it gives me validation when I satisfy her. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Can a guy (19M) get too embarrassed after sex that he ghosted me (20F)?First time when I had sex (18y old) it happened to me exactly as you describe. I was so embarrassed that I didn't had sex with any women for next 7 years. So yeah, this can really damage a guy. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionInteresting, my first gf was 17years older than me as well. But it was totally opposite. She was the clingy one, so I broke up with her. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionThere you go, we have lots of things we can change. I bet that was a cause, which made her to break up with you. Cause women can’t stand clingy and insecure guys, and this behaviour is very unattractive to them. Remember, if one woman don’t like that. Then there is a very big possibility that another woman won’t like this behaviour as well. So if you continue doing that you have very small chance to find a women who actually like this. Therefore, you have to change that. There are two ways: 1) d… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionIn that case you will never have a relationship if you can’t learn from your mistakes. Sorry let’s not use this word, cause it implies you did something bad. Better to say “behaviour”. That is. In order to improve in any kind of field, including relationship we have to reflect on our previous behaviour and change that. It’s like driving a car. If you want to turn left but you always holding wheel straight p, you will never get where u want to go. Eventually you have to turn the wheel (change you… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionThis is not learning, caused you are basing learning experience based on outcome and not on the cause. It’s like if I make a car crash due to speeding, my lesson would be “never drive a car”. Think about the causes of failed relationships, but just from your perspective. Cause this is the only think you can change. In other words what did YOU did wrong, and not her? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionYou even remember the actual time of a break up. Anyway, What did you learned from all your failed relationships, and how did you applied that to your new ones? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Is seduction based a lot on luck?If you believe in non determinism, then everything to some degree has a luck factor, including seduction. If you believe in determinism or in other words, destiny, then luck doesn’t exist. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Porn addictionWhat did u tried? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Basics/fundamentals of Seduction (Contribute here!)My current mindset: Every women wants to fuck you. I think this Is the most important of all to get laid. From this stems everything else. The way you talk with women, the flirt, confidence, etc. But most important sexual vibe. Which brings me to another most important frame. She feels, what you feel. If you truly believe in that, then you will try to feel right emotions at the right time. If you want her to feel sexual, you will have to bring sexual vibe. If you want her to feel excited, you ha… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Human connection (one of the main sticking points)If you have been gaming long enough, you can actually bring any emotions you want anytime. Usually it involves clearing your mind of any thoughts, some breathing exercise and imagination. I call this “emotions on demand”. And it does actually create the actual connection at that point. You can feel and she can. But after a while it disappears. How do you maintain it? | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 06:08 AM |
| 1 | What's your biggest mistake?This. Can’t vote enough. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 03:35 AM |
| 2 | I have question but don't want to offend anyone!To me. The game itself fixed most of my mental problems. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:43 AM |
| 1 | I have question but don't want to offend anyone!Never saw a video of Todd. I heard about it. Just didn't have time. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:38 AM |
| 2 | I have question but don't want to offend anyone!At the moment reading Mystery method :), and trying to apply what I learned there. Also some experienced guys recommended "How to be 3% man", by Corey Wayne. Also really liked "Badboy lifestyle" by which my first approaches were based on. It really helps to get out of your comfort zone, but it doesn't bring lots of results as you can see. Yes. You have to understand one thing. Approaching is just a first step. There are lots of other steps you have to master in order to have sex. Like Text Game … | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:27 AM |
| 1 | I have question but don't want to offend anyone!I don't know how other guys started but I just found a wing for a first couple of days. Did like 20 approaches. Then started to do solo 10-20 approaches a day. Per month 500 approaches, around 30 numbers, 7 dates, 1 lay. After that my confidence went from the roof. Did not follow any program. My knowledge are based from other wings and my own experience. Now I am reading more books, cause they really help to improve my game. I think this is the best approach to learn the GAME. First get your soc… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 01:07 AM |
| 2 | What am I supposed to do once I’m in the dancefloor?Don't ask for a dance if you don't know how to do it. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:57 AM |
| 1 | My greatest problem when it comes to introduction and escalationGet slap in a face. In fact make this your goal. Say the most dirtiest things to a strange women you can imagine. This is the FASTEST way to make yourself out of your comfort zone. P.S. actually to get slap on a face is not that easy as it sounds and you will be surprised on the responses, they will just laugh. p.s.s After few times of saying "I want to fuck you", you will be able to say anything to them. Talking from experience. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:49 AM |
| 7 | How to get better at flirting with girls in a casual setting?Flirting is nothing to do with what you are saying. E.g. Once I told her that "she has very white teeth". When you read that it sounds ridiculous and kinda creepy. But. When we were talking I looked her in the eyes then for a split second to her mouth. And after few seconds I did the same, and looked at her mouth, she was still talking. I made face expression that I saw something very amazing, gave little bit of smile, not too much. She stopped talking, smiled and asked "What?". Then I moved for… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | What most guys forget when it comes to picking up chicksIf she has a bf and shows interest in you, then she is a fair play. But I agree, there is not much reward to pursue her only to get laid. So personally, I continue only if I really liker her. No women will straight up tell you that she wants you. You still have to game her. And if she is physical type (had lots of sexual experience, and wears very classy or slutty clothes) then you can't approach her like you want to be a friend. You have to be very direct and sexual. Otherwise you will just bor… | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:19 AM |
| 2 | How to isolate a two set with you on one girl and your wing on the other?If both of you are doing fine and girls like you, then you don't have to isolate anything. You both can run game. Just make sure that you don't allow them to sit together. The pattern of sitting should be B-G-B-G or G-B-B-G, but not B-G-G-B. When time comes pull them together. If either of you doesn't do good, then isolate like you would do any other case. Go for a smoke, go for a fresh air and ask for a company. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 12:03 AM |
| 4 | What most guys forget when it comes to picking up chicksI was talking about your advice of approaching a girl like you want to make a new friend. In some circumstances this tactic doesn't work. In some it does. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:55 PM |
| 5 | What most guys forget when it comes to picking up chicksThat's not true. Sometimes is good especially if she is in a group, or has a bf. And sometimes totally bad if she is alone and is physical type. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:47 PM |
| 1 | How To Explain Game to the PublicPseudoscience to get laid. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Am I being toyed with? And if so is it time to walk away.You gone to three dates and managed only to kiss her, plus you overinvested. In other words, you don't have a game. She saw that and got bored. If she is the type who likes to flirt with guys, then she needs lots of emotions. You have to give her excitement. She has to feel joy, happiness, anger. You do this by being unpredictable, masculine, proactive, assertive, confident. And someone who manages only kiss her after 3 dates is totally opposite to that. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:23 PM |
| 5 | What would you do in this situation?Move out. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:08 PM |
| 3 | How much of attraction is related to physical appearance?Your face is fine. Everything is proportional. Nothing stands out. So from genetic standpoint you are lucky. There are two problems: 1) You face looks too puffy. So start going to the gym. Loose some weight. You will look sharper. 2) You have this what I call "Nice guy" look. So definitely change your haircut. Try to experiment with side cuts. Give some hardness to your face with a beard (the one you get after few days drinking and not shaving). Also change wardrobe. Use more darker shades such … | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 11:03 PM |
| 3 | How to attract and approach BBWs? [Serious]I had some "big" women. There is no special formula with them. Usually they are very self aware about their weight. And takes longer to get physical with them. So what you need to do is to show them that you don't care about that at all. Also avoid topics about "nutrition", "health", "gym" etc. Probably they tried hundreds of diets, so they don't want to talk about their failures. Also don't try to bullshit her with compliments, like "you look so beautiful". Note, that even if she acts like she … | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Maybe everything ok?Don't remember. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Maybe everything ok?People KNOW when everything is ok. They don't ask this question here. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 10:24 PM |
| 3 | How to get better at flirting with girls in a casual setting?I have been rated to 7.5. But seriously. This is the TRUE reason why ugly guys get women. The confidence, social skills, money, status means nothing to this mindset. It is the most powerful tool in PUA arsenal. Because this is WHAT actually will get you laid. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 10:12 PM |
| 22 | How to get better at flirting with girls in a casual setting?Believe that all women who you are meeting wants to fuck you. You would surprise how this effects your body language, confidence, self-esteem, your voice, and the things you say to those strange women. In fact you will have different problem: How to stop flirting. It is not that easy as it sounds :( | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Tinder is disgusting..patheticLots of PUA think that Tinder boosts your skills as a seducer, but this is totally opposite, it actually degrades your skills. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Mixed signsYou have been "friend-zoned". | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:32 PM |
| 7 | My ghost came back. What do I do?I think she is just horny. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:22 PM |
| 7 | How should I proceed with my main chick?Clearly she has a strong feelings for you and you don't. Whatever you will do, you will dump her eventually. p.s. Next time consider having a girlfriend who you actually like/love, not because your parents like her, or that she is good sex toy. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Am I being toyed with? And if so is it time to walk away.I'm so happy that I have the rule "Don't game social circle" Clearly, she was into you. But you fucked up. And now she is not. Learn from your mistakes and move on. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:11 PM |
| 85 | What most guys forget when it comes to picking up chicksWow, never thought about that. "Women are human". Thanks man. It really helped. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:04 PM |
| 0 | Do you ever get imposter syndrom?Never. Always can tell when women is into me or not. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 5 | Only attracted to taken girls!?Either she: 1) Has a boyfriend. 70% 2) She is not into you. 29% 3) She tests you. 1% | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:58 PM |
| 3 | self amusing openers for nightgameI always do crazy shit to put myself in a mood. E.g. One time saw a girl talking on a phone with her first date, describing where she is. So I took my own phone, and pretended to be that person. She was like "Is it you?", I was "Yes, its me", "But, I am talking not with??? you?" It was so fucking funny. Another time, in a tube some homeless guy comes, don't say anything and gives his hat full of coins, like asking for a money. I reached my hand to the hat and say "Oh, that's so nice of you" and … | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Girls will tend to mirror your moodFirst rule of seduction: "She feels what you feel." | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Interested in this girl however she’s making me lose interestIf waiting for her to reply to you makes you loose interest in her, then yeah you are not into her in the first place. Move on. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Should I even bother anymore and break that stupid streak(Snap chat)?? Plz helpSo what do you want from this girl? | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Non serious datesTreat her same way as other girls. There should be no distinction. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:16 PM |
| 1 | "The Creep Factor" Explained for incels and those new to pickupOnly experience can fix creep factor. There is no other cure. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Improving at game when your friends are incels/bluepillFind friends in the community. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Hotter girls are not an issueYes. And the guys who she met either through tinder or social circle still have that nervousness and anxiety when they talk with her. And you are totally different so she has more reasons to be intrigued. That's where a lot of guys do mistakes of not approaching HB10. They are actually easier to game than HB7-8 as long as you have right mindset. Sometimes I feel sorry for them. Beauty is a power. You have to have strong mind to control it, otherwise it will control you. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:50 PM |
| 1 | How to prevent game from taking over your life?Get results as soon as possible. After that, you will naturally reduce your obsession. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Hotter girls are not an issueI meant approached less by random guys. Of course they have more options to choose from social circle. But in this case you are not her social circle. You are that rare random guy who talked with her. So of course she is more receptive. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Hotter girls are not an issueYou are right. But, the main reason why with HB10 is much easier is that they are approached much more less. Guys just feels too intimidated by them. Plus if she is tall, then no guy shorter than her will approach her. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:28 PM |
| 6 | My biggest regret in game so far +3 things I learned from it. Been beating myself over it for days now. Never againStopped reading after I've never done cold approaches A gamer who never done any cold approaches is like a mother who never had a baby. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Help with openers"Hi" | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | What should say to girl who say she hates unloyal guysHigh five | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Do I look different than 5 years ago to not meet this girl again? U.K.3 months ago, I did answered that you look the same. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Do I look different than 5 years ago to not meet this girl again? U.K.Why are you posting same question all the times? | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 07:03 PM |
| 3 | ConsentYou don't ask women for a consent, unless it's a part of the game. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Day 3 - Help! How do I approach girls in 2 pairs or group?Pay close attention to fatty friend, and ask a question "Is she a leader of the group?". You can totally see who is a leader in a group through their body language, gestures, voice tone, etc. The easiest way to tell is to check who is going in front, that is the leader. So we have two options: 1) The friend is NOT a leader. This is very easy. Start conversation with your target and TOTALLY ignore here friend. Not even acknowledge that she is there. Don't ask her name, don't look at her. All your… | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 04:26 PM |
| 8 | What are nerdy convention rules for seduction? Is there any clever lines, or trains of thought you like to follow?Sorry to break to you, but whatever you will do you won't be able to accomplish your goal. The "nerdy" lines works ONLY if you have right mindset, otherwise whatever you will say will be INCONGRUENT with you. This incongruence what makes people look weird and creepy. So you have two options: 1) Change mindset. People who have been cheated on or manipulated are usually selfish, have low-self esteem, are absorbed to themselves so much that they can't see what is going around them. So fix that. 2) … | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:59 PM |
| 2 | How Do You Pull the Girl Some Other Guy Has Been Trying to Pull?If you ever watched discovery channel you should noticed one occurring pattern. In every mammal species males FIGHTS for a female. It's in your nature. So there is nothing wrong to pull her from another guy. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:38 PM |
| 1 | I'm not an introvert. I'm a closeted extrovert.You may be right. I don't have any statistics to prove my feeling. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:31 PM |
| 3 | What the fuck are you supposed to do when you’re a man in an Arabic country trying to get laid?I think this is not explored territory. Most books around seduction are based on Western culture where women are more independent. So the strategies written in those books may not work. But I am certain about one thing. Where there are women there is always a GAME. You just have to figure out yourself and write a book about it. Or find someone who has more experience in your country. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:23 PM |
| 2 | I don't like people who say '' do not use emojis while talking to a girl ''Emojis are good, they convey your emotions through texts. Just be very careful which emojis you use, some of them convey emotions which you don't really want to show. E.g. Sadness, uncertainty, goofiness etc. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:15 PM |
| -1 | I'm not an introvert. I'm a closeted extrovert.I think 95% of people who are saying that they are introvert are actually just shy, are close extraverts or have some social and psychological problems. True 100% introversion is very rare. People are social beings and they like to interact with each other. | /r/seduction | 01/01/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | "What's your zodiac sign?" her:_______ "Oof, we aren't compatible" then pretend to walk away and say you were kidding.It is the same think. You negate your neg. If you deliver neg, and disqualify yourself, then why do you want to put yourself back into the same position. It doesn't make sense. The point of neg which is a specific disqualification (again I am really stretching definition over her) is to actually make her believe that you are NOT hitting on her. If you say that you were kidding, or make sad face, then she will be "Oh, so he is actually into me". | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 06:13 PM |
| 1 | "What's your zodiac sign?" her:_______ "Oof, we aren't compatible" then pretend to walk away and say you were kidding.That's right. But your line doesn't do that. Well actually, the line is fine. The rest what you are doing is not fine. It just negates your neg. It makes look weird. So just deliver that, and that's it. Don't pretend that you were kidding. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 05:44 PM |
| 5 | "What's your zodiac sign?" her:_______ "Oof, we aren't compatible" then pretend to walk away and say you were kidding.First of all it is not a neg. The only thing what you gonna show with this is that you are weird. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 05:40 PM |
| 1 | HELP! Not Interested or Playing Hard to Get.......strategies?!?!Anywhere, man. Go to Russia, Ukraine. Even London would work better than any other Asia country. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Problem with too much emotional detachmentI have similar problem. But is not that I can't make a real connection. In fact, when I am with a women we get really connected emotionally, physically even spiritually. And for that night, or even couple of days it feels real. But then, everything disappears. I know what will happen when I will meet her, how that would feel. This makes me loose interest in her. So, then I am looking for someone else. I think there could be deep underlying psychological issues. And I still didn't figure what tha… | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 04:58 PM |
| 1 | HELP! Not Interested or Playing Hard to Get.......strategies?!?!Come to Europe. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad sign if girls continuously lose all interest in me after a first date, or is that typical?People who don't like PDA has issues with self-esteem. To me is just big turn-off. But if you still want to proceed then, just find more private place. Park, dark alley, some corner, under the bridge. Be close to her. Look into her eyes, and say "Listen, I know I will regret this, but... " take her head with your both hands and kiss her in a lips" Doesn't matter what she will do, if she agrees or turns her head, just say with puppy eyes "I am sorry, I know I should not have done that, is just yo… | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 04:45 PM |
| 9 | Getting physical for beginnersAre those girls okey of being filmed and used as learning example? Cause by the looks of it, they don't have any idea. There is no justification to do it without their permission. I don't care how much you want to help other guys. Is just wrong. Cause of guys like you PUA has a bad name. Take responsibility of being PUA and represent this stuff, the way that general public would like it. This way you could help thousands of people, instead of couple of guys. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Advice neededAsk her out. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 04:02 PM |
| 14 | Why do so many guys get salty when you get the girl?Well. Me and my wings have a rule: Someone who opens, that person will choose. So when he chooses I back off. And when I choose he back offs. So in your situation, I guess the first person who talks with that girl has a priority. But that's just my rule. You with your friends can have other rules. The most important thing in any kind of relationship is COMMUNICATION. Next time talk with your pals about this stuff, so that you avoid this kind of situation and loose friends. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Advice neededNo it is not wrong. If she is not in a relationship, then she is a fair game, especially if she is into you. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Is it a bad sign if girls continuously lose all interest in me after a first date, or is that typical?In this particular situation you’re being too nice. She sad she doesn’t want to kiss on a first date and you just sad “yes”. Don’t trust what women says to you. Trust your instincts (which you should develop). Your job during a date is to make her to want to kiss you, and then go for a kiss. Don’t just agree with her. Agreeable guys are very unattractive. And this applies to this situation even more, cause she is Christian. Remember, we are drawn to people who posses qualities which we seek ours… | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad sign if girls continuously lose all interest in me after a first date, or is that typical?You don't need other person to tell you what you are doing wrong. Besides women are really bad at making conclusions and pinpointing the real problem when it comes to their own emotions. But they are really good at expressing those emotions. And for that you don't need that she would say "What you just sad and did made me uncomfortable". You can see that in the change of her behaviour, voice, before and after effect. Everyone has this radar, even a guy who is clueless. Just go through your memor… | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad sign if girls continuously lose all interest in me after a first date, or is that typical?Don't have enough information to pinpoint your problem. But somewhere deep you should now yourself what is wrong. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Is it a bad sign if girls continuously lose all interest in me after a first date, or is that typical?Yes. You are doing or better to say "not doing" something. Did you touch her? Did you kiss her? | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:20 AM |
| 3 | Best product out there?Mystery Method, because it works. | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Synchrodestiny – Your Excuse to Seduce Without FearThe only thing I learned from you is that I should not read insanely huge posts. Also just an advice. If you want to explain something to someone then KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid). | /r/seduction | 31/12/19 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Synchrodestiny – Your Excuse to Seduce Without FearSo after all your research you made this conclusion: Your intention + No such thing as coincidence + You seeing that cute girl = Life’s gift to you. I can't believe I read all of that... | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Asking before making a moveYou don't get it. Everything we do comes from our mindset. But the same time actions molds our mindset. This action of asking for a permission to kiss molds a person who is not assertive, not proactive, is lazy to learn about women, about reading their hints. Cause why should I? I can just ask if I don't know something. Please don't use only your own experience while giving advice, but try to see a bigger picture. Your words can have big impact on a person, so please take responsibility when you… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on trying to get this girl who went to an all-girls school and doesn't know much about boys flirting with her/relationships?Sounds like you have been friend-zoned. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on trying to get this girl who went to an all-girls school and doesn't know much about boys flirting with her/relationships?What hints did you tried already? | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Had a weak moment and contacted my exStill I would send a msg, about our time together. You never know. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Had a weak moment and contacted my exIn that case is game over. You don't have anything to offer to her. She has sex, she has intimacy, and you live hour away... | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Had a weak moment and contacted my exIf she liked the sex, then I would remind her about that and try to bring those emotions back. Think of something very specific what she liked when you had sex. Did she like some licking pattern, or your dominance, or what you sad during sex, or the place etc. Anything which would give her that image in her head and pull emotions back. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 11:05 PM |
| 4 | Need more clarity on how to make your intentions clear as quickly as possible?Okey. When you are talking you convey information with: Actual words - this should almost never be used to convey your intentions in first stage of interaction. Voice tone - this is better, lower your tone. Lower tone is perceived as more MASCULINE, powerful and confident. Women perceives lower tone as more attractive. Speed - the faster you talk the less confident you appear. So slow down, in fact the slower you talk the more you use your eyes and other face muscles to convey information. That'… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Getting a girl you know you can get?That's the point. You sad you like that girl. So the more natural you will appear, the bigger chances you will have with her. If you start thinking about, what to say, should I use Push/Pull, should I touch her now or later, then more likely you will fuck up, cause you are total beginner. In community there is a term "Beginners luck" which describes one's first approach in his lifetime which leads to a number. This is because, at this stage PUA doesn't have time to think or apply what he read, c… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Women always dump me. The first few dates/weeks go great, then it’s like my “game” vanishes. Tips?Interesting. Most comments points to the problem but doesn't give a good solution. Create abundance. When you have lots of options to choose you stop being afraid of loosing one girl. When you don't have a fear to loose her, then you will be yourself with her. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Getting a girl you know you can get?Seems that you don't know the basics as much as you think you do. Anyway. Just go, say "hi", talk about some stuff, studies or whatever, and ask her out for a date. Don't think about that. As long as you can approach and hold conversation at least few minutes it is good. I found that this approach works the best for the newbies. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Putting the girl into the friend zone: a kind of mean story from collegeI don't agree with the second point. In fact, this may even damage your game. Imagine hypothetical world where you, are the only man, and the rest in a world are women. In that world not only you won't have a game, you won't even be able to develop one. So to improve yourself as a seducer, look market which is not in favor to you. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | The Only Opener You'll Ever Need For ANY SituationMan, introducing yourself doesn't work all the time. Trust me. Try this in the morning at a rush hour in the tube when is dead silence. Go to a girl and say "Hi, I am ...". It doesn't matter how much confident you have, there is no way to make not "weird". It could work if you were with friends and you had a good vibe around you. But, if you were standing for a while, and then see her, then try to go through all the people to say something like that, is just weird. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Do Your Pupils Dilate in SetOne of the extreme cases which I have seen of this phenomena was when I was gaming high-class prostitute. Literally, I could swear she was on some kind of drugs. Pupils dilated, eyes very tired, all her emotions were very intense. If she was happy or angry not only me but everyone around us could see that. But what really impressed me was her ability to change emotions at a blink of the eye. Literally, you could see how she goes from being totally happy to totally angry, or sad and start crying … | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | What did i do wrong? I texted her next day, no reply, I know it's over now, just wanna know for the futureYour mistake: Asking her to come to your place. Next time ask for a date. Just because she is being slutty, doesn't mean she trusts you. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 08:16 PM |
| 1 | How to even startSame way, how any man would do. By meeting more partners. Some guys want just sex, some want relationship. The more you meet the better chances you have to meet someone who wants the same thing like you. p.s. That mom thing can be attractive if the guy is into incest, the authority figure also if he is submissive, but most often it is TOTAL turn off. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Asking before making a moveNo. He is wrong. And unless you will give me a good reason to doubt myself, then I will take it back. Meanwhile, I will keep my opinion. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Do Your Pupils Dilate in SetIt is normal. I think it is called "seducer's eyes". When you flirt with hundredths of women it happens to everyone of us. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Asking before making a moveDon't worry you will get there someday. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Asking before making a moveThat's why you don't listen women advice. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Asking before making a moveNo. It is not good. Whatever you will say before or after will show that you are bad at reading people. You should know, when is appropriate time to make a move. If she has traumatic past, then you still do the same thing, just be extra slow and extra alert on her reaction and body language. If you start asking these questions you will show her that her past is getting in a way to your relationship, and you don't want to make her feel like a freak. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 07:06 PM |
| 2 | The Only Opener You'll Ever Need For ANY SituationOnce my grandma told me, don't trust a person who says: "There is only ONE opener for ANY situation" He is either doesn't know what he is talking about, or wants to sell you something. But seriously, any person with some brains knows that every social situation is different and there is no magic line which is good to use all the time. Even simple word "Hi" doesn't work all the time. You can say this to your friend, family, but not to potential employer. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Stop what you're doing and ask yourself, am I mentally healthy?I agree, it is very nicely wrapped. But I can smell the stink. You write as a marketer. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Stop what you're doing and ask yourself, am I mentally healthy?Cause you put links to buy some books. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Stop what you're doing and ask yourself, am I mentally healthy?Oh come on, this is clearly marketing post. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:14 PM |
| 0 | PUA is nonsenseI like these kind of arguments: PUA is nonsense. Well I have contra argument: No, it is not. It simple as that. If you apply PUA tactics you will get girls. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Just be yourself and keep tryingStupid advice. Don't listen to him. I am right. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 06:06 PM |
| 21 | Approaching randomlyInteresting. I am actually totally opposite to you. All my encounters where total strangers. I feel weird to game social circle. Maybe cause I have total separation between my dating life and my work/gym/hobbies/friends etc. Anyway. So how do I approach random women? Well that depends on many factors, one of the factors is THE PACE. This is actually one of the things which is very overlooked in PUA books. And the pace is the deciding factor on how I start conversation. 1) You both are not moving… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 05:33 PM |
| 2 | From hot to cold for no apparent reasonThat's right. Cause if you surrender to her frame. Then she will loose interest in you forever. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 03:55 PM |
| 3 | From hot to cold for no apparent reasonNever understood why some guys want to go for a women at work which has a boyfriend/husband, while there are millions single women everywhere else. Anyway. The mistake which you did was to not to seal the deal as soon as possible. This rule applies when she is single, but more so when she has a bf. Cause, the more you wait the bigger possibility for her to freak out, which probably this is what happened here. But nothing is lost. Don't surrender to her frame. Just keep spiking her, like you did,… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 03:34 PM |
| 1 | When to confirm date?When I find myself in "Analysis Paralysis" situation, I just text her straight away. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 01:37 PM |
| 1 | How can avoid to be needy and maintein frame and seduction/social skills when you're in a LTRFake it till you make it. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 01:33 PM |
| 1 | I think I just failed a dick size shit testNo she didn't test you. She honestly was looking for a big dick. There is no reason to say "that she is looking bigger than her bf" when you test someone. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 01:28 PM |
| 1 | How to Destroy a Women’s Heart, One Soft Way and Not-So-Soft WayThis is some kind of fucked up shit. It doesn't matter if she is feminist or not. To do it is just evil. And shows you have very weak inner game. And, honesty, I see no point of doing that. You can just break up normal way. Although, there are some instances where you could use these or similar methods. To figure out how much she is REALLY into you. To figure out how far she would go for you. To give her negative emotions. Cause some women just likes to be treated like that. To strengthen your r… | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Bad feeling before possible dateJust be a man and take control over conversation and a date. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Bad feeling before possible dateYou have to understand that women, especially shy ones, or who didn’t have lots of experience, or had bad experience would say something like that. It’s normal. I agree it does kill the mood, but it’s up to you what you gonna do. You can let yourself go into hers negativity and just say fck it. Or you can calm her and say something “Don’t worry. I will think of something” | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:49 PM |
| 1 | How to invite girls to be a “part of your world?”Have you ever heard someone telling interested story. That person creates a world in listeners head through imagination. So we say that listeners are part of his world. This is just one specific example of how to invite people in your world. In general. You have to express your personality, your beliefs, your values in a way that other person would find you fascinating, and would want to be part of your world. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:42 PM |
| 3 | Closing quickerBounce her to different places. She will feel like she went on multiple dates. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Taking good pictures of yourselfPractice. Try to convey differ emotions in front of mirror. And then take hundreds of photos. | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Bad feeling before possible dateWhat she sad? | /r/seduction | 30/12/19 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Have you guys found that going on a date with someone who has a crush on you is literally 10x easier?Can’t imagine situation where someone would go on a date who doesn’t have crush on you. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 10:10 PM |
| 1 | [25M] I wanna be more assertive with the girls I like.You don’t need therapy to fix your issues. Just stop thinking about yourself, what you want, what would be best for you, what she thinks about you, etc. And focus on other people. The following thoughts should take majority of your time: What kind of person he is? Where is he going? Why he behaves like that? Why he is wearing these clothes? How much money he earns? Why he walks so fast? Where he lives? What hobbies he has? Make assumptions about all these questions based on observations. And the… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Hit on the girl with the boyfriend at the gym?Befriend a boyfriend. Ask about gym stuff, give some compliment about his biceps. Don’t pay much attention to her. When eventually guy will trust you, he will leave her with you. And then you can game her. Give some stupid logical reason to ask her number as soon as possible. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 09:49 PM |
| 11 | If a girl facetimes me when she's drunk, does that mean she has high interest in me?Alcohol increases sexual desire and if she calls you when she is drunk, then I think you can make conclusion by yourself. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 09:17 PM |
| 2 | I didn't ask her out on a date and I think I blew my shot nowI must agree, you are right. Didn’t consider rejection part. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 08:47 PM |
| 1 | I didn't ask her out on a date and I think I blew my shot nowDon’t see how this is defensive. It is manipulative though. She is young and still listens to her mother. But also young girls don’t like to be seen as a girls, by the guys they like, instead they want to be seen as an sexual women. So with this reply you can play on her insecurities. And if she will be hooked, then you can say something “if you are woman then you would meet me”. I would not use this obvious manipulative tactic on older women, cause it definitely not work. But considering her ag… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 08:35 PM |
| 1 | A girl invited me to her place for coffee. How do i make the move ?Seriously you think it’s normal for a girl invite a guy just for a coffee to her place? And nothing more? Oh boy... Sit down next to her, or ask her come to you. If she says why?“ Reply with, “just want to be close to you, that’s all”. From there start stroking her shoulders, hair etc. Eventually go for a kiss and so on. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Can u reach a level in game where girls want to pull you and make moves on you ?No, but you can make look like she is. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Need General Advice. 3 Years dryspellI keep hearing this “being real you” shit over and over. Since when we all have split personality disorders? Truth is you always are you. When you go to work or when you act in a movie or when you talk with a women, it’s YOU, no one else. When it comes to scripts and routines you are already using them. One of the most popular ones are: “hello”, “thank you”, “good evening “ etc. These are scripts, used for particular social situations. That’s way there is nothing wrong of using same lines on dif… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 08:03 PM |
| 2 | trying to make my FWB situation a little less casual and need some adviceIt’s totally misconception about guys wanting to be in charged. Is just most women are not proactive. Personally, I would probably merry a women who would come to me and would say “let’s cut the bullshit, and just fuck”. It would make a life so simple, and would save lots of time. So, in your example. Just send direct, short, messages, when and what you want to do. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 07:41 PM |
| 1 | How accurate is this post describing European women?Like any other stereotypical bs. You can’t make any conclusions from such a small sample size. Making any conclusions about millions of women, their attractiveness, personality etc, from one guy’s perception of 100 women, is just stupid. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 07:32 PM |
| 0 | I didn't ask her out on a date and I think I blew my shot nowReply “I see. Not a problem at all. I am more into women than a girls anyway....” | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Porn addictionI have been where you are. You feel lonely, you never had real love, you are looking for a relationship and your inability to get that makes you depressed. Depression inhibits you of making any effort. And you start thinking about killing yourself. And it’s a viscous circle. But contrary to you I did manage to leave that circle, by doing 500 approaches in a month. And yes, I got a girl, one then another. But the thing is that I was happy only for a couple of days, and I got bored. You know what … | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Im absolutely cluelessShe likes you. Just play along. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Porn addictionThat’s good, because now you don’t have anything to loose. And this is where the real fun starts. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 06:15 PM |
| 1 | OvercompensationSome generalisations which are not true. A honest person can brag about himself, cause he may not know how else to show his value. And a con artist can pretend to be a honest person without saying a word. Use your head and intuition instead following generalised rules. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 06:06 PM |
| -1 | Porn addictionSame boat man. And the problem that no PUA stuff will help you. You can stop jerking off and can fuck as many women you want, eventually you will start to fantasise about porn, and you will relapse. I don’t think there is a cure... | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Approach A DayWhen I had to work I used to approach in a morning few, then during lunchtime go to central and approach again, and after work. After a month of approaching around 500, you literally have no anxiety anymore (it does come back if u stop). And can talk with any stranger like you are friends. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Approach A DayIt’s good that you do this but believe me approaching one a day will get you nowhere. In fact it will make you even more depressed cause you will start thinking that it does not work. Make at least 10-20 a day for a month, then you can reduce to 5 a day. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Need General Advice. 3 Years dryspellMaybe that’s your problem. Your Ego prevents you to read good material on the subject which could help you to sort your problem. But no, you just say “it’s not my cup of tea”. Big Ego, Ignorance and non-willingness to do whatever it takes made you to write this post. And as long as you will have them, none of the advices will help you. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:33 PM |
| 8 | Should I cold approach women I'm not attracted to, just to practice? How can I avoid hurting their feelings?Don’t approach women who you are not attractive and pretend that you are. Is just wrong on so many levels. I have simple rule: If she can make my dick hard, and I would fuck her, then I approach if not then no. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Need help with an online situationDon’t put yourself in these shitty situations. Before sending a text, pretend to be a reader. In this situation what she is supposed to text you back? You just sad a statement. There was no question, no intrigue, nothing. So to fix that, follow up with the question soon, or some other topic later. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:12 PM |
| 1 | So looks don’t matter, but why doesn’t it?It’s like being a competitive bodybuilder. If you don’t have good genetics, you can eat as many steroids as you want, spend countless hours in a gym and you will never be Mr. Olympia, as long as there is a guy who does exactly the same, but has good genetics. Looks is just one of many things what attracts people, if you don’t have it then you have to compensate your lack with other things. And if you compete with a guy who has whole package, then no compensation will make you a Mr. Olympia, for … | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 05:06 PM |
| 0 | Need General Advice. 3 Years dryspellYou don’t create an attraction with a women, which basically a dead end. Without it, you will never have sex with them unless it’s a hooker. So learn to flirt with women and read their body language. P.s. google it “mystery method” on how to do it. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Guys who take a lot of time to respond to texts (hours/more than a day), why?It’s all about showing who has power over relationship. Basically you are sending message to her: “I am the one who is willing to walk away from you, not the other way around.” Although this may look like something very unimportant, but when relationship unfolds this actually will be deciding factor who will be a decision maker and who will be the follower in a relationship. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Flirting By Creating Imaginary ScenariosIn your post you sad that in a long run they would lead nowhere, so I don’t consider that as “working”. Use text game only for setting meet-ups, this is very important if you don’t know the person. Remember: The more you text, the bigger chance that it will be misinterpreted. Especially if you use jokes. leave them for a date. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Flirting By Creating Imaginary ScenariosI have same experience with these. They lead always to a conversation, but when you ask for a meet-up, then it’s game over. So I have a few theories, why is like that. 1) it attracts girls who just want to talk, instead of hooking up 2) it shows neediness, because you spend time to coming up with this stuff, just to make her reply to you, and believe me “she can smell that shit miles a way” 3) it may be incongruent with your photos. If you look like buffed dude, and you open with these funny lin… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:21 PM |
| 2 | My problemTo maximise your chances of getting relationship you have to maximise potential matches. So, until you both agree don’t see anyone else, you should date as many people as you like. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Are we fooling ourselves? Or are pickup coaches misleading us?You are assuming that confidence is something you are born with, instead of gained which is not true. So of course if you stop practicing then you will loose all your gains. It makes sense. The only way to keep the confidence is to keep doing what you were doing. Do you think naturals go out to socialise for a month and then take a break. No, they always socialise. They always in that grove. PUA is not some temporary solution, it is a lifestyle. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Recently single - not much dating experience and I have some questionsYou create too much comfort too soon. Focus on building attraction first, and then comfort. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:58 PM |
| 13 | The long game worked on meCommunication is the key in any kind of relationship. So if you have any questions you have to ask him, and be prepared for any kind of answer. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:37 PM |
| 16 | Be careful with being vulnerable on reddit. Some redditors may or will use it against you.If you want to improve socially, being creepy is part of the game, at least in the beginning. It’s unavoidable. But I see different problem here, which is: “You care what people think about you too much.” If you care what people think then you seek positive things such as validation and approval. But at the same time you avoid negative such as criticism. This makes you very vulnerable to manipulation and you become potential victim for bullying. I mean, just one word from some random stranger, h… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:24 PM |
| 3 | Approach anxiety and overthinkingYou are thinking about that in a wrong way. You don’t get rid off approach anxiety, before approaching, instead you approach with anxiety. This is not something you can avoid. You just do what needs to be done. Like going to a dentist, or going to the job. You may not like it, but are still doing it. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:41 AM |
| 0 | How to slowly start flirting with a girl to see if she is interested?Don’t flirt. Cause flirting will make very obvious that you are interested in her. Better is to create situations where you need to touch her, or put your body in close proximity of hers. E.g. say that you started to go to gym and playfully lift her up to show how strong you are, you can even spin her. Or pretend that you really like her sweater, and start stroking the material. The main point is to make her interested in you without being obvious that you are interested in her. And this why you… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Showing too little interest“You have done cold approaches before and have never been told no” - That’s just doesn’t sound right... Anyway. If you want to have relationship with her (bf and gf type) you have to have sex with her as soon as possible. If not, then with every minute you’re decreasing chances with her. Cause, if she’s beautiful, then there are plenty of guys who won’t gonna wait. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:55 AM |
| 1 | How do I know if my date went well? (Short story)Don’t think about sex and relationship as exclusive, cause they are not. In fact there is no relationship without sex. Your goal should always be to have sex as soon as possible, this way you increase chances for a relationship. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Knowing when to ease on the innuendoAs a general rule texting should be used only to make meetings. Not to create attraction or to show your value. Cause this “thick bun” can be interpreted not as Pull that you like her ass, but as a Push that you think her ass is big. So depending on a girl, she can interpret this in a wrong way. Now just reply with something normal. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Knowing when to ease on the innuendoMost kids or even adults love sweets. They are looking forward to eat them. Do you know why? Because they get it so RARELY. Now imagine what would happen to their cravings if they eat them every day as regular food? They would get full of them, and my guess is that they would start craving normal food instead of sweets. This is one of countless examples of Push/Pull principle. In this case Push is normal food, and Pull are sweets. So in seduction you have to use this principle everywhere. You ha… | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 03:10 AM |
| 11 | How do I (20F) get 2 random guys from the club to agree to a threesome?I am very surprised on the answers. Guys don’t take seriously female questions here, lol. Actually, it’s not that easy as it sounds. Usually a guy don’t like to share with another guy, especially with strange one. My best bet would be is to find a guy who would be willing to have threesome with another guy. And then, together you find the third one. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Knowing when to ease on the innuendoAlways use Push/Pull. In this scenario you already delivered Pull, the joke about buns. Now it is time for a Push, and not another Pull. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 02:40 AM |
| 1 | i don’t know how to flirt someone PLEASE help meUsually women just sends a sexy photo. One of my favourites is a close up picture of her lips with some bit of tongue. Send him this and ask for an opinion. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 02:34 AM |
| 18 | Being Nice is Good! Stop acting like assholes...Seriously? Advices from movies? I agree with you to some degree, but it depends to whom you are saying, for an asshole this advice is good, but Don’t say “be a nice guy” to a nice guy. It won’t work. Considering, that majority of readers in this reddit are nice guys. This advice is very very bad. Better advice would be. LEARN HOW TO BE AN ASSHOLE, AND ONLY THEN BE A NICE GUY. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 02:24 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean?Prolonged eye contact is IOI (indication of interest). That’s it. It can mean anything, from “please fuck me”, to “nice hair”. The only way to find out is to react to them. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Superb setup for tinder profileMake your photos 11/10 and you will get matches. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Do you express excitement noises during sex?No, during sex you need to talk dirty and grunt little bit, but never moan. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:11 AM |
| 1 | I feel intimidated by hot girls, tips?The only thing what helped me was experience. The more you approach and talk with over your league girls the less intimidated you feel. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else basically only do day game?You “hate” too many things, man. You don’t need to do night game, but you have to fix the mindset. Make the following your motto: “Don’t skip things you hate, instead do it until you will fall in love with them.” And only then choose what you want to do. This kind of mindset is much better for a long run. | /r/seduction | 29/12/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | What should I say to friends to signal that I'm not interested in certain girls, but I'm not NOT interested, either?Say the truth. Say that you are interested in their friend. And that’s it. You don’t need to say anything else, cause everyone, especially women, knows that it takes time to say, “ok, let’s be a couple”. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Crippling Anxiety with hookups / dates that inhibits me from actually meeting girls.Man, you are so fucking lucky. And I mean it. Cause you only 18 and realised that you have problem and looking for help. Some people can’t admit that even when they are 30 or 40. And believe me. If you think that you have “crippling anxiety “ now, wait 10 more years, that anxiety will be 10 times bigger. So take my advice and meet those girls, otherwise you will waist your years and you will regret it. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | How can I get “in the zone”Have you ever tried to smile when you are sad? The thing is that our mood impacts our behaviour. But the reverse holds true as well. WE CAN IMPACT OUR MOOD THROUGH BEHAVIOUR If you want to feel confident, start acting like that (sit comfortably, take lots of space, speak loudly) and you will start feel like that. So if you want to be “in the zone”, start pretending that you are. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 10:43 PM |
| 0 | How to get better at deflecting playful insultsI don’t agree with other comments. Playful insults are insults whether it’s a “neg” or a “banter” or something else. It’s very powerful tool in one’s vocabulary arsenal. PUAs use them to lower women’s value. Politicians use them to make opponent arguments less agreeable. Bullies use them to abuse their victims. Friends use them to test each other. Lovers use them to create sexual tension. And so on. So before dealing with these insults you have to know what your opponent is trying to achieve wit… | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Need Text game adviceThe best way not to loose in text game is NOT to game in the first place. Use text only to set up meetings. Use your photos for everything else. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Any super skinny guys have success with women?No man. Your are wrong. Looks can only boost your confidence just a little. The most important factor is your experience. The MORE experience you have in particular field, the more confident you are in that field. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Did I lead this girl on?No. You didn’t do anything wrong in case. Just make clear, that you are not interested in her, if she will pursue you. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:41 PM |
| 1 | 7 months have passed, still strugglingYou sound like selfish pathetic looser. The only thing I am hearing from reading your post is just “ME” and “ME”, and “ME”. The thing is that if you don’t give women what she wants she will leave you or worse cheat on you. And the best way to accomplish that is to be in long distance relationship. You won’t get her back. Period. So, you have two choices: You can cry on a Reddit about your fucked up life and drown yourself in self-misery , or Get your shit together and move on. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Will there ever be a 2nd chance with this girl?You had your chance but you fucked up. This “oneitis” is not healthy neither for you nor for her. Learn from your mistakes and move on. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Is rubbing the tip of a girls fingernail quickly supposed to turn me on or am I confused?It is some kind of kino. But nails are not that sensitive, so to me it’s kind of pointless to rub. I would go for a palm or wrist. | /r/seduction | 09/12/19 07:56 AM |
| 2 | What happens if game is all you want to do? (Deep discussion about game and seduction)Man, I totally understand you. I did around 500 approaches in 2 months. And, yes, this shit is so addictive. When you get rid off all your social anxieties, fear of rejection, and are able to express your emotions. Then you can connect with another person in very emotional level. And then you realise that money, status, your work, your hobbies which you liked so much are so dull and boring. The only thing you are seeking is that connection with another person. But the problem is that the more ti… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Friends or moreIf she sends you sexy photos then send her your hard dick pic and say “if you’re really a friend, please come here and sort your mess” | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 06:48 PM |
| 2 | How to ask someone you had a one night stand with if they'd be open to hooking up again?Just ask directly. He may not want to hook up with you cause of the work situation. You can even assure him that it’s only sex, nothing more. No guy will say no for a direct request of sex. And forget this nonsense of “being too desperate”. Personally, a women who is too desperate for sex, turns me on. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 06:40 PM |
| 1 | How to make a friend a fwb?I agree with the comment above. You are not ready for this kind of game, yet. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Are some men just meant to be unsuccessful with women until they age?No one is meant to be something, unless you believe in destiny or higher power. You are bad with women and don’t have friends cause you spend more time in a gym rather socialising. Start looking at relationships not as something magical which you don’t have control over but something which can be learned. Study. Apply. And you will have success. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Insane Beginners Luck!!Wow. Thanks for sharing. That’s very good. I liked your writing style as well. Kept me interested the whole time. Good job. I was very impressed that you went for an insta date and later for a kiss. Most beginners would just go for a number and eject themselves. Just keep approaching and don’t stop. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 06:08 PM |
| 2 | A bit confused and need adviceStart hanging out with other females and have sex with them, be a leader of a group, don’t pay attention to her, and MAYBE she will start to look at you not just as a friend. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:51 AM |
| 5 | A bit confused and need adviceWelcome to the FRIEND ZONE. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Guys I was talking to a girl she clearly shows IOIS but when I told her when are you gonna take me out on a date ? She said never (playfully) and I said why are u shy or something , she just said no I don’t want to with a smirk , what does that mean what should I doSay what you like about her. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:40 AM |
| 3 | Guys I was talking to a girl she clearly shows IOIS but when I told her when are you gonna take me out on a date ? She said never (playfully) and I said why are u shy or something , she just said no I don’t want to with a smirk , what does that mean what should I doYou fucked up cause you are playing this stupid mind games instead of being a man and asking her out. Solution: First spike her emotions, And then just asks her out, | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:38 AM |
| 2 | A bit confused and need adviceAsk her out. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:32 AM |
| 0 | I need help keeping in touch over text without seeming needyDo you actually like texting about how was your day, your work, etc? I personally don’t. I find it boring. Girls are no different. They like texting what makes them excited, and there is no better way to make her excited than sexual subjects. You sad that you hooked up with her. So remind her about that moment. Tell her what you liked it. Use strong words (pussy, wet, hard, dick, cum etc). Tell her what you would do differently to her. Be very specific when describing. Paint image in her head. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Good date, tried kissing, rejected, still good dateJust practice more | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 09:54 AM |
| 3 | Advice for low sex marriage?You created new account just to ask this question cause you don’t want your wife to know it. You have COMMUNICATION problem. In happy marriages you don’t hide this stuff, you know every secret of each other, ever little kink. This can only happen if you communicate with each other your feelings. If you want more sex, you say it. If you want threesome you say it. I think you get the point. The fact that you didn’t had sex for months and she is working late, she probably is cheating, man. Although… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 09:52 AM |
| 2 | Confusion on direct vs. indirect openersTo add little bit more confusion I will say that neither “What” nor “How” you say it actually matters. The most important part in any communication is a CONTEXT. Which can be separated into two main parts: A) outer - this includes surroundings where communication happens, other people in communication, distractions, time of the day and a year, medium (person to person, phone, online) etc... B) inner - because brains are the ones which actually gives the meaning of sounds waves or visual cues the… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 09:41 AM |
| 1 | Building up to Asking for NumbersI think we have different grading criteria. To me 10 is the most compatible women for me in terms of looks, personality, education and so on. Unfortunately you can’t buy them. The only thing you can do is to build your skills while mass approaching, so when you meet your 10, you won’t fuck up. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Good date, tried kissing, rejected, still good dateJust practice man. With every new date incorporate something new, until you won’t even need to think about it. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Building up to Asking for NumbersDo cold approaches. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 02:15 AM |
| 2 | I need help keeping in touch over text without seeming needyAny sexual conversation will work. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Good date, tried kissing, rejected, still good dateImprovise man!!! Hand/arm/leg kino across table : “You go to gym, show me how strong you are” - give your hand like want to arm wrestling. “You have rings. Let me see it.” - give your hand “Wow, you have such cool tattoo. Let me see it” “Ahh. This is so much better” - straighten your legs and touch her with yours. Sitting next to her “Damm, this music. I can’t hear you. Let sit down here” - point to sofa “You like travelling. I have some cool photos”- take your phone and sit down next to her. “T… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 02:08 AM |
| 1 | People often say if you stop looking for love then it will find you, what is your opinion of this?You thought that she was out of your league. That means she is attractive. Most guys comment her appearance, you hit the right spot commenting her hobbies. By not trying to engage her, you showed non-neediness. This trait is very valued by women. You can do this subconsciously as in your case, or consciously. The result will be the same. There is nothing wrong about “being consumed by the search” as long as you know what are you doing. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 01:47 AM |
| 7 | Good date, tried kissing, rejected, still good dateEscalation error. It’s not about time you spend with her. But the quality of it, in terms of escalation. If you didn’t touch her, then went for kiss, then of course she will reject you. Start from bottom and work your escalation ladder. E.g. Hands => arms=> shoulders => optional (feet, hamstrings) => back => pelvis => face (ears, cheeks, forehead, etc) => neck => lips (kiss) => outer thighs => inner tights => chest => boobs => pussy. If she doesn’t let you to touch any of these points, then go b… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else find this ridiculous?My current stats: 1 month 450 approaches. 28 numbers. 7 insta dates. 1 date from a number. 1 lay. But I got 18 numbers just last week. So my game is definitely improving. Just keep grinding man, you will get there. Eventually you will become so good that 1 approach will lend u a lay. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 01:09 AM |
| 1 | How to break down and analysis your text game?Sorry I was not clear enough. 1) Text game when u never met a person Focus on ASKING HER OUT. The less the better, only ask facts about their availability etc. Don’t do anything else. Don’t create attraction (your photos should do that), don’t banter, don’t tease, nothing. Just ask her out that’s all. You can create sexual tension, bu only if you know what you are doing and she is horny. 2) Text game after first date. The main rule: LET HER TEXT FIRST. A) she texted so she likes you: in that cas… | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Girl from 5 years ago wants to meet me again but do I look different now? U.K.I even compared side by side. The only thing what I could see, is that today you look little bit slimmer. | /r/seduction | 01/12/19 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Girl from 5 years ago wants to meet me again but do I look different now? U.K.You are fine, mate. It’s just all in your head. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 11:52 PM |
| 2 | How to break down and analysis your text game?As a general rule, try to avoid these teases or banters over text, cause things can be interpreted in many ways. But if u do, then before sending high risk message try to get as much info about the context where she is in (work, bed, friends) and her mood. What works in one context (American) won’t work in another (English). Basically try to anticipate her state of mind (bored, angry, horny etc) while u send the message. I am neither. Just googled what “chav” means :). | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 11:44 PM |
| 1 | How to break down and analysis your text game?Girls say compliment if she finds you attractive and wants to sleep with you. So just try to go to sexual direction.. So just say “Thanks, I am working out. Which part you like the most?”, instead of “I know”. She sad compliment to you and then you are insulting her by calling a chav.... I liked “I ain’t your mate, darling” it was good call and it reverted the frame of conversation to you. Everything else seems fine | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 11:13 PM |
| 2 | People often say if you stop looking for love then it will find you, what is your opinion of this?Why people say that? Cause they and I mean mostly women want to think that love is something special. If you work as you work for money then it won’t be so “special” and “magical”. Is it true? Of course not. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 10:35 PM |
| 3 | What changed for you that moved you from beginner to intermediate?Realisation that PUA is a just guide to express right emotions/feelings at the right time. Most people referred to that as “being yourself”. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Have some self respect as menYou are right about this one. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Have some self respect as menYou just admit that it was a troll post. You care about other people (mine) opinion about you. You got defensive when I sad something which you didn’t like. Overall. You have weak inner game or you just present that you have one (which I doubt is the case). | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Have some self respect as menYour inner game is so fucked up, work on that. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Is the hot/cold technique sustainable for long term relationships, and is it absolutely necessary to implement?Definitely, yes. But not in a way you would think. The think about relationship is that they are always cold, due to day to day routine, jobs etc. So you don’t have to do or say anything COLD cause it’s just cold by default. But you need HOT. You always have to spike an attraction. You always have to remind her that you’re the best choice for her. You do hot by showing attention, listening, caring, being sexual etc. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 09:42 PM |
| 0 | Went out with a girl and it was a sucess, however, how do i keep her interested until we see each other again ?You can increase perception of the size by changing angle. Trust me. It works. Just warm her up little bit. Don’t send her when she is at work or is very busy. Best time is to ask her what she is doing. If she is in bed then “look, I was just thinking about you and this is what happened”. Make sure that you have some precum on the head. This suggests that you’re very horny, and makes her even hornier. Then ask her to return a favour and from there just have text sex. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:56 PM |
| 0 | Went out with a girl and it was a sucess, however, how do i keep her interested until we see each other again ?Why do you ask if you are not willing to take honest advices? P.s. I meant YOUR hard dick pics | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on letting the girl pay?If I ask her out. I always pay, without any expectations. Cause it’s the RIGHT thing to do. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Went out with a girl and it was a sucess, however, how do i keep her interested until we see each other again ?Send dick pics. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:42 PM |
| 3 | I need urgent help!!!Ask your female friend or colleague if she can be your girlfriend just for a day. If she really is your friend she will help you out. This works cause for stupid bets are always stupid solutions... | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:38 PM |
| 4 | Start with a compliment, or with an explanation?The best openers are the situational openers. Cause they create that feeling of randomness and are very genuine, cause you can’t prepare for them. Next are compliments, just don’t compliment her looks, but go for her style, behaviour or personality. No other openers should be used on One set. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:30 PM |
| 1 | How to motivate myself to do cold-approach aloneJust force it through. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:24 PM |
| 8 | Strange behavior of girls in clubMy best guess is that you are 9/10 guy in terms of looks but have no clue about women. If she grinds against you, she doesn’t want to talk about balloons, but she is horny and wants to fuck. With your openers you are literally killing women boners. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Social AnxietyNot really sure if you’re actually thanking me or is just sarcasm. Cause text can be interpreted in many ways. I guess you want more details but there are no. If you want get rid of any anxiety you have to do what makes you uncomfortable, there is no other way, you have to force it. But your brain protects you, cause it doesn’t want to feel anxious so it comes up with any kind of excuse why you should not do it. Maybe this is little bit clearer. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 04:05 PM |
| 0 | Social AnxietyIt’s just an excuse... | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:56 PM |
| 0 | Social AnxietyTreat it like you would treat any other fear - FACE IT. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that giving a girl your number would work better than asking for her's?It doesn’t matter. What matters how much she likes you. If she likes you enough, she will text you first cause she will want to see you. If she doesn’t, than even if you text her first, she will flake. From my personal experience out of 30 numbers while cold approaching and getting their numbers. Only one was success, but she texted me first. All others 29 numbers where I texted first where either flakes or we could not set up a date due to many reasons. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:40 PM |
| 5 | The true peak age of male & female attractiveness (19-23 and 45-50?)Looks are the most important both for men and for women. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:29 PM |
| -3 | How to flirt more and set the date here?Say things like you would during sex. Then send her your hard dick pic. And make a date. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:22 PM |
| 94 | How To Make Talking To Women Almost EffortlessGood advice but you didn’t tell the techniques on how to make her feel good about herself. Here are few examples: Compliments. This is by far the obvious one. I could talk hours on how to give a good compliment, but the main tip is to focus on her style (is something stands out? Do scarf colour matches her eyes? If you can’t figure out anything then just go for the shoes. You will almost never miss with this one. Observation. Just make a statement for e.g. your teeth are very white, you have puf… | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 03:11 PM |
| 3 | How to go from being too easy to get to playing hard to get?All PUA games and advices leave for the first interactions when they are most valuable. If you have been talking with her about a month then the best thing to do is to be honest with her. Tell her how you feel about her and that you want to see her or personally would say that I want to fuck her (cause it’s a truth). If she still plays games with you then forget her and move on. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 02:14 PM |
| 3 | I have no problem approaching girls and flirting, but I can’t get them to follow through on a date! Help!Man, it’s nothing wrong with you. And definitely nothing wrong with girls. The most important aspect in any kind of communication is not what you say or how you say it (even lots of people would not agree in this reddit) but is a CONTEXT. For example: Take same girl and four different contexts - night club, mall, street, tinder. And you say “was nice talking with you, let’s grab a lunch tomorrow?” Night club - she is here to have fun maybe even sex, she wants to chat, but she doesn’t want to han… | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Going to a club in a group with womenYeah definitely. I even would ask my colleagues to help me out. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 01:05 PM |
| 1 | High schooler here with religious/romantic/family issuesIf you don’t want to be Mormon then don’t and act appropriately. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 01:01 PM |
| 2 | Asked out my coworker in a beta mannerForget about this alpha and beta bullshit. It’s not a zoo. If she likes you, then your approach doesn’t matter. As long as you make a move it’s fine. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 12:56 PM |
| 0 | I've gotten to the point that women seem to 'like' me, but how do you move that on to the next step more consistently?Touch her | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Places you can bring girls if you live at home?Find logical reasons which are no related to sex. E.g. To her place: Do you have iPhone charger? I am waiting for a phone call. Can I use your bathroom, I really need a piss? This walking makes me so thirsty, can I get a glass of water? You told me that you have a dog. I want to say hello to him? Changing room I need women opinion. Come here. Her car Can I see your car? I was thinking of buying the same model. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 12:43 PM |
| 1 | What's the best way to tell a colleague that I'm going out with that I want her to be my girlfriend?That’s right. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 12:26 PM |
| 0 | Does attraction increase if she knows I’ve slept with one of her friends?No. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a beginner with anxiety?I don’t say 10 approaches a week I say 150 approaches per week. And yes at first go always for a number. After 2 weeks you will become so good that you will be able to tell if she will give a number just by opening and their reaction. | /r/seduction | 25/11/19 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Where do you guys game besides bars and clubs?No. I fucked up and made stupid mistake at cocktail bar, everything was going good, escalating, touching thighs, ass, kiss. She sad that I am going too fast, and instead of slowing down, I thought will make her jealous and started to talk with other girls. She saw that. She got so pissed. And she started to talk with other girls which I was talking, befriended them and they left the bar all together. I was “Fuck” just lost HB9 ass. | /r/seduction | 25/11/19 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeYou can’t ruin a relationship. Only people involved in that relationship can do it themselves. Women are not passive objects, they have free will, they make choices. Imagine situation when you don’t make a move and she marries a guy who she doesn’t love. They have kids. Do you think she will be unhappy all her life? No, probably she will cheat anyway. But now, the price is much higher, the children. Children in unhappy relationship are fucked up. I understand your way of thinking, just sometimes… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:35 PM |
| -2 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeUhm.. No. You don’t get it. No girl who has a great relationship will give her number. Why would she? But you will never know until you ask. If no then no. But in this situation there is possibility that she may say yes. In that case congratulations you might just lost a potential soul mate because of your stupid principles. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:12 PM |
| -2 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeIf you believe in THE ONE theory then yes. She might be the girl you who might spend the rest of your life. Especially if you have lots in common as OP sad. But if you don’t make a move then you will never know. I might get -1000 points for this answer but I strongly believe what I am saying is right thing to do. Cause I know how hard is to find a soul mate. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:00 PM |
| -2 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeThat’s why you have to make a move to find out, | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 11:54 AM |
| -6 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeNo. If you have nice conversation AND she wants to see you again (The comment about Facebook). In that case yes, there is something wrong with their relationship. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 11:51 AM |
| -21 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeYou may think that you are doing right thing but actually you don’t. Clearly her bf doesn’t make her happy for some reason. Something is lacking in their relationship. And if you like this girl and can imagine spending rest of her life with and you now that with you she will be much more happier then it would be selfish thing not to ask her out. Principles are the stupidest thing a man could have. Trust me on this. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 11:40 AM |
| -6 | What to do when she sends sexy photos?Just send pic of your hard dick and say “come here and sort your mess” Explanation. Most of the time sending dick pics are bad idea, but in this situation is good, she is horny and wants to have sex with you, that’s why she sends these sexy pictures. By showing your hard dick you validate her. Girls love when guy gets hard it makes them feel wanted and sexy. She will get wet after this, and not because of the dick, but of the idea of sucking that dick and imagining how would it feel in her pussy… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 11:13 AM |
| -31 | Right Girl, Wrong TimeWhat’s wrong with you? If you like her, then go for it. No girl which loves her bf and is serious about their relationship would say something “I will search you on Facebook” after she talked with some guy. There were so many girls who had boyfriends. And usually if she says “I have a boyfriend” I replied “I am not looking for a girlfriend” and ask number again. Some of them give some of them don’t. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 11:09 AM |
| 2 | Girl in my assignment group had a boyfriend but was weird as hell about it. Thoughts?Sounds like classic situation where she likes you but has a bf. It’s up to you what you want to do, | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 10:52 AM |
| 6 | Someone please help me understand womenShe was horny and wanted have sex with you, not date you. Simple as that. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Where do you guys game besides bars and clubs?Edited | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Where do you guys game besides bars and clubs?Why not? P.S. damm, I must becoming really good at this stuff, if some non PUA people don’t believe it. Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupI should have been more clearer. I didn’t mean to say that they advices are correct, but that they advises should be seriously taken in consideration. Yes they don’t know what it means to be a man. But this is the main reason why they opinion matters. Cause it gives different perspective. If you would look at cube from one side you would see a square, change perspective and you will see a cube. To really learn seduction you have to have as many opinions as possible so that you could see the whol… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 06:03 AM |
| 5 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupCould be for many reasons, kids, money, emotional traumas. But the most often is emotional investment. The more time you spend with someone the more you invest in that relationship. It’s like when you buy a used car. If it gets broken you fix it (investment). Now if it breaks again you will more likely fix it again instead of selling because you already put money into it. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Where do you guys game besides bars and clubs?Everywhere where you can find a women. When you reach a level when you can approach any women anywhere anytime you will understand. Just quick example. Yesterday I was waiting for my wings, and decided to go to eat something into fancy restaurant because they had iPhone charger. While I was eating it came HB9 and took table in front of me, she was one of those slutty rich girls and when she walks she has this vibe that every guy looks at her. She was from Brazil. She was tourist. She was alone. … | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 05:10 AM |
| 1 | she has a bfFirst of all this is total bullshit. If you really would respect that guy and their relationship than you would not ask these kind of questions on reddit. Just admit that you want her, and fucked that other guy. Be selfish and truthful to yourself. Second of all. You can only steal something it that something belongs to someone else. Women are not objects, they belong to no one, they have free will and they will choose to whom they want to be with. But you have to give her the option to do so. T… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Help with a younger galIf you have experience with women then you make it sexual as with any other women. If you didn’t have, then whatever you will do it will be weird. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 04:44 AM |
| 1 | "You can have my number only as friends"Can you be just a friend with someone you find attractive? I know I can’t. For girls being a friend with someone they find attractive is literally impossible. Just ignore and spark more attraction. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 03:45 AM |
| 5 | Common Problem I Can’t Figure Out6-7 years of pick up and still don’t know how to keep women? You must be slow learner. Anyway. To put it simple. If you wish to keep women you like/love besides you. She must feel like she doesn’t have you. The moment she realises that she “has” you, the moment you loose her. To do that, you have to be prepared to walk away from her anytime no matter how much you like her or love her. Doesn’t meant that you have to sleep with other women. Just remind her from time to time that you won’t put up w… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 03:21 AM |
| 5 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupJust because they stay doesn’t mean they like it. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 02:51 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Going back up seduction after a 2-year hiatus. Another house party, messed up due to my autism. Any advice for next time?I don’t believe that you are 5/10. Sounds like you are 9/10. No random girl will come to you if she won’t find you attractive. It seems that you have calibration error, when it comes to interpreting pickup material. In that particular context it was stupid to leave her, in different context would be smart move. Just recalibrate. It’s not rude to grind with girl if she likes you. In fact it’s rude not to do it, because you show here that you don’t like her and don’t find her attractive. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 02:47 AM |
| 5 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupSo you admit that your view is fucked up, but don’t want to change it? That’s just MADNESS. Anyway. Do you know the main problem of getting what you want? It’s that after you get it, you realise that you want something else. There is nothing wrong with your goals, just change the mindset about women. Otherwise you will never get 10s. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupMost people don’t know what they want, women are not an exception. Do you know what you want? | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 01:38 AM |
| 10 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupThat’s not true. All women want to be treated good. Never ever met a women who would want to be treated badly. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 01:36 AM |
| 14 | Don't take female advice when it comes to pickupDisagree. I think the main problem is that you are thinking about pickup as “fishing”. Fish doesn’t know that is being caught, while women knows what’s going on from the first contact with you. Pickup is a partnership or a trade. I agree that they advices usually are very generic, but all of them are valid. If they give you an advice it means they want to help you. Everyone has different experience, mindset and look at a world through their own glasses. Women advices are as valid as yours or min… | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Opening and hookingI don’t deal. Cause I never had it. But if I would then I guess I would deal like every other fear FACE IT. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Opening and hookingAnxiety is different thing. You can’t express yourself if you have anxiety. Compare social interaction of people in a club/home and the same people at work. Their behaviour it’s totally different. And the reason is that at club alcohol removes all the social anxieties, similar at home you dont have them as well, while at work there are so many rules to follow, satisfy other people opinion, etc, so your ability to express emotion is inhibited. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Opening and hookingWhen approaching a girl or a group, you have to have 10% more energy than them. If not then they will find you boring. Btw don’t think about giving much energy or doing something like it feels it’s not you as “compromising” because it is not. Think of it as EXPRESSING YOURSELF or bringing the right feelings at the right moment. It’s not that you are boring person, you just can’t express excitement when needed. Learn how to do it, and you won’t be boring anymore. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:47 AM |
| 3 | [22M] Struggling with certain aspects of datingGet rid off any social fears, what people think mentality if u have and clear your head from thoughts (meditation, learn to feel the music). You will know if you have it, if it feels like you are drunk without actually being. Bring the same feeling when you are talking with a girl. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:34 AM |
| 5 | Been improving my social skillsSounds like someone is just bragging... | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Girl locked her arm around mine at bar.. did I miss my chance?Means nothing. In different context could mean something but in this situation probably she just likes you as a friend. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Opening and hookingNo women are the same. No social interaction are the same. Although there are some patterns. So “yes” different age groups requires different social calibration. E.g. younger 18-22 girls really love display of confidence, power, maturity. Older ones 22-30 - love humour, display of sexuality. 40 - love playfulness, and don’t give a fck mentality. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:12 AM |
| 3 | [22M] Struggling with certain aspects of datingIf you either too friendly or too stern then it’s a social calibration error. To fix that you have to introspect every interaction with a women and recalibrate. E.g. if she founded you too friendly, then make it more sexual, and tease her. If she found you too serious, then smile more. But remember that recalibration works only when you have similar type of girl and same social context. DO NOT GENERALISE. P.s. if you have trouble to remember conversations then record them. | /r/seduction | 24/11/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Escalating to a kiss?You need to create sexual vibe. 1) You can’t kiss anyone from a distance, unless it’s air kiss. Lol. So you have to be at proximity to kiss. The closer the better. You can literally be and talk with her few inches from the lips without actually kissing her. If you are not at this proximity then a) you didn’t make it happen. You didn’t find a reason to be close to her, you are a afraid, nervous etc. So just get your shit together and go closer to her. Improvise “do you know how this muscle on you… | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 11:51 PM |
| 1 | I have a huge crush and I don't want to fuck it upBy pretending There is no other way. To incorporate a mindset into yourself. First you have to think “how the person would act with that particular mindset, in that particular context” then you have to act/pretend accordingly. Due to cognitive dissonance our brain will start to think “wait a sec, that doesn’t make any sense, I am not confident but I am acting like I am, my body is always in comfortable position, I smile to people” “what the fuck is going on? So, maybe I am a confident person?. T… | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 11:17 PM |
| 0 | How can I (23M) improve how I talk to girls outside a club?Learn to feel the music. Go in a middle of dance floor. Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing. Make it calm. Then clear your head of any thoughts. Don’t think. Focus on the ears. Feel your ear drums beating. Focus on one particular beat. Anticipate the next same beat. Once you have this start to move the finger, then arm, then your body to that beat (synchronise). When you are actually feeling the music and dancing. You don’t need any words to approach a girl in a club. If it’s at bar then sh… | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Expert seducers i have a question for you!Probably my answer will get downvoted, but you should trust women advices. And they are really good advices. I learned lots of things from them. But the main problem with their advice is that they are too generic e.g. “Just be yourself” - if you want to be a seducer you won’t go very far without being yourself. But what the fuck that means and how to get there no women will explain this to you. “Be confident, funny, honest etc” - again, very true but need more details. “Don’t be needy/desperate”… | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 10:49 PM |
| 3 | I have a huge crush and I don't want to fuck it up“I don’t want to fuck it up” You already fucked it up if u have this kind of mindset. Don’t be afraid to fuck it up. In fact fuck it up as many times as you need. It’s a good think and it’s only way to really learn. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Is social media for social proof necessary?Totally disagree. You need do both. I started to do CA a moth ago and did around 400. If you can make insta date then yes, social proof is not that important cause you can build trust during the date. But more often you will get number, she is in a rush, and there was no time to build trust, so she flakes. Social media can reduce flakes big time. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Does a confirmation text make me look needy?I don’t know. This preselection things usually backfires to me in a very bad way. I fucked up like 4 solid sets. Instead of making me look more attractive it just makes me look like a player which doesn’t respect her at all. I do approach other girls and talk with them, but only if she doesn’t see that. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Should you ever be the one to reschedule if she was busy?I really wish girls would just say the truth “I will never go out with you” and that’s it. Would make life much more simpler. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 09:50 PM |
| 3 | 2 girls like me, not sure what to do“I don’t want to hurt any of their feelings” This is very bad mindset. You should do what you want to do. Remember “only a happy person can make another happy” if you are not happy, no girl will be happy with you. | /r/seduction | 23/11/19 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual ConversationsNo no no, Maths, physics, Computer Science are the most abstract sciences of all. You are thinking all day about abstractions, trying to find patterns etc. E.g. In Software Engineer we have Interfaces or Type Classes which are abstractions of common functionality between unrelated things. Your main job is to find them. Similarly if you talk with lots of girls and have sex with them you will notice that most of them don't want to do it that easily, and the main reason, they don't want to be calle… | /r/seduction | 18/11/19 05:01 PM |
| 2 | How one TV show changed my whole dating approach(and my life)Thanks man. Definitely will try to incorporate these ideas in my mindset. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 08:05 PM |
| 0 | What am i doing wrong?Be a man and act like you want to fuck them instead of being friends. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Whatever happened to just being you?You will never “get it”, man, why PUA exists. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Progress ReportIf you haven’t write so much and with so many details I would literally think that you are just trolling. Don’t you really see what’s going? You have been friend zoned. Stop hanging out with her and continue with approaches. It was really good start. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How to tell if she’s starting to go cold?It’s one of those cases when you are thinking that “you are centre of the the universe”. Her behaviour towards you may not be impacted by you. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Friend Drunkenly Confessed "Feelings" for MeRelationship is a battle. Either you will take her or she will. The moment she realises that she won, the moment you will loose her. Don’t let her think that she “has” you. Doesn’t mean you have to cheat, just always remind her that you have options. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Friend Drunkenly Confessed "Feelings" for MeDon’t understand what you want with that girl? | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Negs: Why are they so powerful? And Why people get them wrong? (Part 1)Thanks for explaining. Didn’t know there is a tease neg. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 01:36 PM |
| 0 | Negs: Why are they so powerful? And Why people get them wrong? (Part 1)Negging is not for disqualification. You don’t disqualify yourself when you neg her. You TEST her. It’s like banter between guys. We do this not only cause it’s fun, but because we test each other and filter weak individuals. Would you trust a guy to hold your back in the war, which can’t even take a banter? Negging is similar. Would you be with a women which can’t take some teasing remarks, and can’t hold her ground? | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Where do you get confidence to approach women?You don’t need to have confidence to approach women. You approach women to get the confidence. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Is it really necessary to play mind games to get laid?I totally understand you. It is manipulative and it is wrong. Anyone who says that the game is not manipulative and non selfish, or that is just self improvement, or it’s good both for man and women is delusional. I was struggling with these moral issues myself. But if you know that, except that and realise that sometimes you have to do bad things for better good, then you do it. Many people don’t understand one thing: LOW SELF ESTEEM HURTS PEOPLE WHO ARE CLOSE TO YOU. I have been in relationshi… | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 01:14 PM |
| -4 | I feel that she was flirting with me but I didn't make a move because we weren't aloneStart touching her legs if you sit next to each other, with the hand. Make sure no one sees that, and act like you are just sitting. Try to talk with other people and move your hand towards her pussy. If she doesn’t want then she will move your hand if she does you may end up fingering her. And don’t worry she won’t make any scene if she is into you. Hope it helps | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 12:34 PM |
| 1 | How to increase hookup ratio in college?I don’t know which is the best one. Just google it “pua”, “pick up artist best books free pdf” or something similar. If you really want you will find you. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 12:27 PM |
| 3 | To shake or not to shake?Always shake a hand especially if you are interested in her sexually. Because this is the first skin to skin touch, and can be very intimate. Here is the technique. First remove the glove, if she has one, she may remove it as well, if not then just shake with gloves on. Always look her in the eye while extending your arm. Ideally you want to meet the hands in the middle. Now when you have her hand, squeeze just little bit Remove the pressure, but not let her hand go. Instead try to talk and take… | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Is it really necessary to play mind games to get laid?Depends where you are. For me being 32 years old guy with only one women in my whole life, PUA is like a second job. Spend almost all my free time doing approaches and going into dates pas month. I track the progress in a spreadsheet. Here are the results: 3,5 weeks while doing Around 40h per week 345 approaches 14 numbers, 11 where flakes, 3 of them I fucked up while asking her out 6 insta dates, 5 attempts to kiss, only 1 reciprocated, 0 second date Around 700£ spend on new clothes, tickets, e… | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 11:22 AM |
| 0 | Trying to improve my skills but I can’t seem to find the Groove. It’s just a work in progress.You sounded way to needy, your next move is to forget and move on. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 11:03 AM |
| 7 | What do you do when a guy is trying to pass off the chick he’s grinding with to you?Dude he is using you to keep her emotions spiked. After a while he will come back and will take it from you :). Why to spend time growing a tree while you care only about the fruits. Let someone else take care it. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:53 AM |
| 1 | I’m scared all the timeLearn THE GAME. If you play it right, It will fix all your problems. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:51 AM |
| 3 | the mallThe problem is not lack of “icebreakers” the problem is AA (approach anxiety). To beat it, you have to force it. There are no other way. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:46 AM |
| 2 | How to increase hookup ratio in college?For this reason people developed a system called GAME. Learn it and apply it. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:43 AM |
| 21 | A part time job can actually make you a better conversationalistWinning mentality! | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Considering asking her outWhat is your experience asking girl you know will probably reject you? Wtf dude..? You want advice. Get your shit together and only then the ask her out, so that she would not reject you. Even by some miracle she says “yes”, don’t you want to be a MAN for her, and make her happy, and not some low esteem chubby pussy? | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation?I agree. But I assumed OP knows the difference when girl is just displaying “no interest” and actually is not interested. | /r/seduction | 17/11/19 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Have a girlfriend but feeling unsatisfiedSuggest opened relationship. You would surprise what girls would do to keep you. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual ConversationsThis is just stereotyping, man. Failing challenging status quo is nothing to do with your profession or your hobbies. Same with arrogance. Everyone thinking about themselves better than average. I do and you do it as well. Seriously? Minions? All society are minions. If you have a job you are a minion. Nothing to do with engineering. The only thing I agree that, people sometimes sees patterns not where they should see it. How do you think “stereotyping” came to be? | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Cold Approach--The "Catch And Release" ApproachThanks for write up. But I disagree. When you speak with a women you always have to have a goal, either get her number, SDL, insta date, or improve your skills, or even just say a compliment is still a goal. Yesterday, I saw some very old lady around 60 y old, she was very elegant. I came and gave a compliment. Although it seemed that it was innocent thing, the truth is that my goal was to make her happy, cause she deserved it. But still it was a goal. My point is that you should always have a g… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Best cold approach opener for daygame?Hi man, I am not experienced. Just started month ago but did like 400 approaches already. Ho to transition, from “what time is it” well, truth is I am still struggling with that, most of my success comes from being direct, but sometimes it doesn’t work due to social context. Anyway, you have to DHV yourself and ask a number indirectly. In that e.g. you can follow up with that “oh man, I am late to photo session, I have a client which which I supposed to meet at 9am” Hopefully she takes a bait, a… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation?There are three types of women “YES”, “NO” and “MAYBE” - Nick Krauser. Yes girls - you basically don’t need any game, just make move. That’s all. No girls - you can have the best game in a world you still won’t get her. This is what is happening to you. You just talking with “no” girls. Maybe girls - this is where the real game is. And the better skills you have the better chance to change “maybe” girl into “yes”. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 10:41 AM |
| 5 | Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation?Learn principles and then you will come up with your own routines. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 10:33 AM |
| 8 | How do you guys tell the difference between a shy girl, a girl who's giving IOIs, or an anxious person (likely an abuse victim)?Here are some IOIs to look. As for any cold reading the more you have the bigger chance you are making a correct assumption (she likes you). Don’t rely on just one. You are both standing and talking Weak IOI - these are week IOI and mean nothing on their own, the cluster of them can mean she is interested in you, She is playing with her hair She is crossing her legs She is smiling Her feet is pointing at you, this is very important. Some people can control their body, but feet always gives them … | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Turning a ONS into a plateSorry. I had to be more specific. It’s not just an option, I am afraid, it’s the only option. The only reason why girls are flaking is that they don’t want to be with you. You can’t revert it back. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 09:01 AM |
| 3 | Does real sex make you tired?Yes. If you have a porn addiction and fap a lot. Stop doing that shit. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 08:44 AM |
| 3 | Turning a ONS into a plateForget her and move on. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 08:42 AM |
| 2 | What’s the point of trying to improve for women?First of all, when people say “improve yourself” they don’t mean improve yourself for women, but improve yourself for yourself. Most of those people who says that have at least basic knowledge and experience with women and had few women in their lives. If you haven’t then this advice doesn’t work and will never work. No amount of working on yourself will get you a women in this case. No women magically will appear. Even she does appear, you still have to make a first move, and don’t fuck up in t… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 08:38 AM |
| 13 | Is it normal if girls you cold approach never ask you anything about yourself or contribute to the conversation?Yes it is, actually is very normal. If she doesn’t ask questions about you, then she is not interested in you. Move to the next girl. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 08:27 AM |
| 4 | Need help with developing confidenceTake the most space as much as you can without going overboard (wide stance, arms out of pockets etc). Always sit or stand in most comfortable area. Never look away first when you catch an eye contact, make other person to move eyes. If you are with someone, always walk one step ahead and lead. Always talk slower When you are talking use hand gestures as least as possible. Don’t fidget when you are talking. When listening always look directly into eyes. Never use words such as “probably, maybe, … | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 08:25 AM |
| 1 | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.Actually I don’t know. The way I learned was not from books but actually doing literally 20-30 approaches per day and being in a PUA community, not in this /seduction reddit shit. And having experienced wings to go out with. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 02:03 AM |
| 2 | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.I call it “edging”. You have to find that edge between being sexual and an asshole. If you don’t have an experience, you will go overboard. But try to calibrate after that. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Whats the best course of action when a girl thats into you tells you she likes to take things slowIf I were you and I actually would find her fun to be with, I would befriend her myself. And just hang out with her. Without any expectations, sleep with other girls talk about my conquest with her and eventually suggest to be friends with benefits if she wants, | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:53 AM |
| 4 | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.Models are one of the best book written. But it won’t help you in this case. Cause you don’t have basic understanding of a women and what makes her tick sexually. The guy which you are referring to has this understanding and doubt he read that book. He got that understanding through trial and error. And this is what you have to do. Next time when you are with a gf don’t be a nice guy. Imagine you are a playboy. You can have any girl you want, you say inappropriate things, and don’t give a shit a… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:43 AM |
| 2 | I can get girls. I just cant keep them or do shit with them.Learn a “GAME” | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Need help with girl met at a clubShe won’t contact you. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:23 AM |
| 1 | I need advice on approaching a girl.Just say that you liked her hair, and they stand out of the crowd. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Need help with girl met at a clubIdk. Need more details. But the best thing is to call her ASAP. Tomorrow she probably won’t remember you anyway. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Best cold approach opener for daygame?All right. First of all there are no best opener. It really depends on a time of a day, girls mood, social context etc. Different situations requires different openers. Here are some examples. 1) She is reading a book in the tube and you’re next to her “Hi, is it good book?” 2) She is sitting in a tube and you are sitting next to her and she is emotional type and everyone is very quiet: “Excuse me. Do you know what time is it?” 3) Same like previous but she is physical type and has very nice boo… | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 12:50 AM |
| 7 | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual ConversationsTalk with any Mathematician and they will tell you that Maths is an art, and is very creative. I think it is one of those discussions when I say “it is 6” and you say “no, it is 9”, while sitting opposite side of the table. We are both right. | /r/seduction | 16/11/19 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Why i never get a second date?We both know that’s not true. It’s not about her, it is just an excuse. You are just afraid (rejection, her reaction, other people opinion) but most likely you are afraid of making a mistake. I have been there, man. The only way to get results is to try, make fool of yourself, and do lots of mistakes. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on this texting situation with this girlPersonally I would call her day before. If she doesn’t pick up. Send a msg “if she is still for the meet”. In general it’s bad to make a date week in advance. 1-3 days is fine. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:39 PM |
| 13 | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual ConversationsNonsense. Talk with 1000 or more people and you will start to see patterns which you can abstract, same like you do in maths, and you will have a system. Magicians, fortunate tellers, beggars, salesman, even girls knows this system consciously or unconsciously. Try to approach 1000 of girls and you will understand what I am talking about. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Advice on dating with mental health issues?Do cold approaches, get numbers, go into dates, do physical escalation, have sex. Do as many as you need. This is the only way, my friend. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:17 PM |
| 1 | She said this but what if this happens?If I make my intentions clear and she declines then I offer be friends, and I don’t make any move anymore and actually am just a friend. Doesn’t mean that I don’t make playful suggestions to have ONLY sex and be friends with benefits. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Why i never get a second date?Probably you are boring and don’t do physical escalation, | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 11:00 PM |
| 2 | I fucked up with my gfMy ex, loved that. It’s excited for her, especially if it’s in public, you show that you want her, she is special (unless you are fingering every girl), you are in control, you are dominant. I would never ever even consider a girl who say no to these kind of things as my gf in the first place. It shows that she doesn’t trust you. So either you have to still improve yourself as a man or she is just a bitch. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 10:35 PM |
| 17 | Why Technical People Often Fail at Casual ConversationsNever understood why geeks are so bad with girls. It’s so simple. Approach this problem as you would solve any kind of other problem. 1) research 2) learn theory 3) implement in practice That’s it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 10:26 PM |
| 0 | I fucked up with my gfYour gf didn’t let you to finger her. This sentence is wrong in so many levels. Don’t even know where to start. | /r/seduction | 15/11/19 10:21 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being absolutely terrified of girls?Same way as you would deal with any other fear, FACE IT. Go talk with them. That’s the only way. | /r/seduction | 14/11/19 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Pickup is getting watered downHey man, I totally understand what you are talking and what "being yourself" actually means. Started doing cold approaches three weeks ago, did around 300, got like 20 numbers 18 were flakes, went into 5 insta dates (3 of them were this week), didn't kiss close any of them but tried every time. I understand, how much work you have actually to put. At the moment, approaches and dates are very unauthentic, I use lots of canned lines, social and emotional calibration are still in infancy. But I hav… | /r/seduction | 14/11/19 03:45 PM |
| 2 | My (Somewhat Embarrassing) very first field report.In your first day you approached girl in a shop and 3 girls at the bar. That's very ballzy man. I know many guys who is doing months of PUA and still can't approach more than one set. So keep it up. Plus you did solo!. Very good. Just keep it up. Have a target per day let's say minimum 5-10. After a couple of month your AA will almost disappear. You still will have to work on bouncing, escalation etc. But should be able to approach any girl in any situation. | /r/seduction | 14/11/19 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Re-seducing a girl, not impossible with the right approach and some patience.If you want sex, then just say that you want only sex. If she wants something else then find someone else. Simple. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 05:42 PM |
| 1 | For the average looking guys who overcame their approach anxiety, how do you get over the awkwardness of the first few approaches?I get it man. Was in your shoes. Couldn't maintain eye contact with any person. Always looking down. And when it came to women, I literally was afraid of them. You just have for force it. But not only approach women, but also anything what makes you scared socially. Like maintain eye contact with dudes, have chit chat with strangers, etc. If you feel that there is something which you can't do then you MUST do it. If you will have chat with 20 - 50 strangers you will see that AA almost disappears… | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Why beta nice guys win woman over PUA in long term?Few PUAs failed to maintain a relationship and you make a conclusion that beta guys win woman over PUA in long term. Clearly you haven't study logic. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 05:24 PM |
| 1 | I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic lifeCause you already had some skills. Then this method works. But if you are shy, antisocial 25 virgin, then you have to do approaches. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 05:21 PM |
| 3 | My harshest rejection yetThat’s why you don’t go to movie for a date. Is shit. | /r/seduction | 13/11/19 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Sheduction.Personally these things drives me crazy (in a good way) in a women: Confidence - love when women walks in a room and just captures everyones attention without saying even a single word. Because it gives me validation that I found a quality women. All my friends are jealous. Don't give a shit mentality - women who doesn't give a fuck about other people opinions, doesn't have a bitch shield and other mass media nonsense. Because it saves my time. Slutiness - looks, youth, elegant but slutty clothe… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Need text game advice(beginner)"looks like someone got jealous (smiley smiley...)" | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Sexually provoking questions?Sorry to break for you. But first question was not sexual at all. It just indirect way of asking a girl if she is seeing James. You should not care about this stuff if you like the girl. Second question doesn't make any sense. Why do you want to pretend to be sexual? Just be sexual if you like her. And what is with that "to let heir guard down". Your intentions should be clear, so that she knows that you like her. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 03:46 PM |
| 2 | I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic lifeThat's why it is cold Approach Anxiety. The first approach which I did I thought my heart will explode, those 3 min which we were talking felt will never end. I was so happy when it was finished, lol. It's the same feeling you get when you have to do some presentation in front of a class. To overcome it you have to force yourself. By the way if you are virgin, as I was, then you will have not only AA but also (Texting/Phone call Anxiety after getting number), Date Anxiety during the date, and on… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 03:10 PM |
| 1 | I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic lifeFck man, Moscow is the heaven for PUA. Wish I would live there. Yeah. Cold Approaches. Do everywhere I go. It's actually getting to the point where I don't have time for anything else, lol. Just game. Btw, I am older than you. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 02:46 PM |
| 10 | My harshest rejection yetAfter dinner, she came back to my place, but I still couldn’t escalate. - here is your problem. Next time force yourself to do escalation, even if you will come as an asshole. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 02:30 PM |
| 3 | I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic lifeWhere I find 20-30? In Central London. If you really want to improve your dating life you should move to a bigger city. And just grind those approaches. And based on your story I could tell you that the more you will wait the more harder will become. The younger you are the easier is to get rid of old beliefs and take the action. Don't wait. Otherwise will be too late. Also don't fap to porn, this shit is dangerous. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 02:25 PM |
| 1 | First impression friends had of me is that I am a douche bagNo man, you should not take this as a compliment. I understand how you feel. It is nice to be an "asshole" especially if you have been nice guy all your life. But this should not be your goal. Your goal is to be => Nice, Kind, Generous, Gentleman, Confident, Seductive, Sexual not a "douche". Also, one more advice. Don't practice game on social circles unless you have good skills. Better practice calibration on strangers. And then little by little ease your new mindset to your social circles. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Too aggressive?I understand what you are trying accomplish, but it won't work in this case. 1) She is waiting for you, so she is not in that state of mind of being picked up. Most likely she will be scared. But you can pick her up and spin during the date especially if you see she is in playful mood. It will work wonders. Make sure that environment is loud and energetic. Don't do it in a fancy restaurant. Bar or dance floor works well. 2) Make sure that she has proper clothes for this stuff. Mini skirt is fine… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 01:07 PM |
| 4 | Approaching a woman you always commute withApproach before you go into bus, by saying compliment. E.g "I like your boots, they look amazing", "What a nice coat, where did you buy it", "Hey, I really like your hair, they are so curly/straight", etc. She will thank you, at this point DO NOT ASK her name, but something like "You look familiar, do you take this bus everyday?" and so on Make sure you go to bus first. Check if she follows. If she does then, "Oh, this is nice seat" ,turn around and let her sit near window, you sit next, make yo… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 12:08 PM |
| 1 | Second dateYou already failed just by being afraid of "failing". Just kiss her, grab the ass, say "I want to fuck you" etc. Probably 99% it won't work but you have 1% that it may. If you don't kiss her then 100% you will fail. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Anyone have any tips on how to be more of a fun asshole?No one is born with confidence. In fact babies can't even talk. Confidence, charisma, social skills are gained through experience. If you didn't have that kind of experience, then you have to make it. First start with strangers. Talk with them. Convince them. Make them feel good about themselves. Try to hold interesting conversation as much as possible. I found that tourists in Central London are the best. Also charity workers, religious people good as well, especially for your argumentative ski… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Texting - when she ignores your asking her outIf I asked for a meet up and she say "I can't", "I am busy", "Have things to do" and other stuff which I believe is bullshit then "I understand. But I don't have time texting all day and asking you out, if you really serious about meeting then you will find a time, if not then goodbye" In your situation I would never ask like that "hey, we should get a drink sometime?" It's not a request but a statement. Better write like this "Hey, are you free for a drink on Saturday?" And if she ignores then … | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 11:28 AM |
| 43 | I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic lifeMan, don't listen stupid advices. If someone says to you focus on your hobbies not on girls. Then guess "what?" you will become good at your hobbies but not with girls. Being good with girls is a very SPECIFIC skill, which you need to master if you want to get laid. No amount of working on yourself will get you that. You can be a homeless and fuck 9/10 looking women, she fill buy you gifts, pay for drinks, let you stay at her place, as long as you give what she wants. Do not listen those advices… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 11:11 AM |
| 0 | Becoming a better storytellerDo this everyday: Take a random item and try to talk about it for 2 min. Make it interesting and even sexual. E.g. Do you see this fork... Look how graceful it is (an slowly brush the side of it)... It looks like women leg (show how the fork would walk, slowly).. you see this part (show back of the fork) it kind looks like an ass, don't you think so? I wonder what would happen if I spank it... and so on Do this only if you are talking with a girl one on one. If you are talking with a group of pe… | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Second date5 hours and no kiss. And she still agreed to go for a second date. Hm... Are you rich? | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 10:49 AM |
| 3 | How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Principles Shown on a GirlI understand what you are trying to say. And it’s sounds like a nice thing to do, try to save relationship, build rather destroy etc. Unfortunately, it’s very idealistic view. And we live in realistic world. It just doesn’t work like that. There was a reason “why you broke up”, and it’s not because of you being needy or other things. You just didn’t “clicked” and no amount of work and change of yourself will fix that. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 07:22 AM |
| 3 | How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Principles Shown on a GirlNo it’s not situational. And I actually can say it, look “chasing your ex, is a wrong mindset”. Don’t like to be an asshole. But “I am right and you are wrong”. Give some time and you will realise eventually yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 07:08 AM |
| 3 | How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Principles Shown on a GirlI was thinking to reply, but will let the other people votes do the talking. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 07:03 AM |
| 15 | How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Principles Shown on a GirlIf you are trying to get your ex back, then is already something wrong with your mindset. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:27 AM |
| 1 | How to know what you want?“How do know what you want?” Simple. By trying the options. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Casual sex is overratedDon’t have sex only to bust a nut. Have it for experience and boost of confidence. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:17 AM |
| 1 | How do you actually expose yourself emotionally?Don’t confess anything. Is just weird. Instead be sexual with her. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:11 AM |
| 12 | Why beta nice guys win woman over PUA in long term?Why beta guys win woman over PUA in long term? No, man, they don’t. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:10 AM |
| 8 | Suggesting domination:) lol suggesting over text that you are dominant :) . Good joke. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Consistently getting unreactive.This happens to me but only when I am tired, in that case I just finish session and go home to rest. Or sometimes just take a day off, doing loads of approaches is very mentally challenging. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Successful Approach that turned into me just becoming an absolute idiot.I don’t see you as an idiot. You tried, you failed, you learned (you must have a plan), and you will try again. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:57 AM |
| 1 | [FR] A quick rompThat’s really good, man. Most people get upset if they don’t get laid. But you should be happy if you kept a conversation for 1min longer than yesterday. That’s improvement. Keep it up. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:53 AM |
| 7 | I approached a girl, and I'm okayCongrats man. The only problem is that tomorrow will be as hard to approach as yesterday. I have seen so many times this happens. Guys been doing this for years and still has AA. The only way to overcome this is to approach every day minimum 10-20 sets in different social context. After a month you won’t have it. It is still there is just very very small. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:48 AM |
| 2 | The most simple way to meet women naturallyThat’s good tactic but only if you already gave some game. If you don’t then cold approaches are the best. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Do women have to prove they're not "crazy"?I don’t know. I like craziness. They are so much fun. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Is there some secret code I don't know about...?Man you can’t. All this “how to talk with women” stuff you should know by now. If you think that you can just read a book then apply what u learn without being creepy or awkward you will see that it does not work. To be good with women you have to find the thin line of being sexual without going overboard. That’s it. Sounds simple but it is not. Because there are so many variables to consider: Women type - physical or emotional. And everything between. Her state of mind - sober or drunk, sad or … | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Balancing 'having fun' with goal-setting?Just because someone advise you do the first and “just have fun” it does not mean you should follow it. Always, always prioritise the second one, “have a goal”, which leads to a bigger goals. This is the most important thing which will get you results. Once you have a goal, you can have some fun as well, but from practice I can tell you that most of the time is just a bloody hard work. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 03:52 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Cold approach day game from a noobI will tell you a secret if u really want to get good at game don’t do three sets per day. It will take you ages. Do 20-30 per day, literally just do until you get an insta date. Do 3set, sets with a guy, mother daughter etc. Today after work I opened liked 15 sets and went into two insta dates in 4 hours window. One insta date was with high end escort which smoked some weed or smth, didn’t happen anything but it was fucking awesome. This shit really makes you feel alive. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 11:20 PM |
| 1 | The Strength of VulnerabilityDisagree. If you believe "Strong man doesn’t have vulnerabilities.", then instead of learning how to show them. You will try to get rid of them. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:22 PM |
| 4 | Some quick questions about girls as friends, long-distance relationships, and validation1) Main benefit is a social proof. You want to proof to your sets that you are normal social person who has friends. This builds trust. No trust = no sex. 2) There are no benefits at all and waste of time. 3) 70% - totally a BRO science. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | looks do matter Stop lying to yourself.Take two guys: First guy is rich, has face as a model, great body, interesting lifestyle, is funny. But the only problem is, he doesn't know the GAME, he is not sexual around women at all. Second guy is opposite, average looking, no money. But when he is talking to a women they literally are getting wet. Answer a question which guy had sex with more women? My point is that looks is very important, but the game is the MOST important aspect to get laid. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Any advice for someone who’s too scared to get started?Sorry to break to you, but you don't want enough or/and don't have a good reason to do it. Personally I don't go out to get laid, or to get a girlfriend. These are just temporary goals. The main reason is because I HAVE TO, I have born to do that, same like I have to go to work to earn money, or go to dentist when I have toothache, that's why when I see someone I like I have to talk to her. If you really believe in this mentality then you will start taking action. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:44 PM |
| 7 | Dumb question: should you shit-test girls?Although I agree, but there is one instance where you actually should test her. That is if she is a good player herself and only wants free drinks, money etc. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:34 PM |
| 1 | What are your views regarding being a financial provider once you are in a relationship?Partnership = 50/50. The only time I spend money for her is when I want to surprise her (new car, clothes, gift, ticket to Thailand, etc). Really depends how much you can afford and how much you like to see hers smile. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it waste of time to date a woman that has busy lifestyleNo. Fuck that. It is not a relationship. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you avoid neediness when you are in scarcity?You can't avoid, but you can pretend. The only thing matters is the people perception anyway. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:18 PM |
| 1 | My First ApproachThere are books to learn this stuff. But my method is: Make her to be relaxed and comfortable talking with you. Create sexual attraction. Gain trust. Ask for a number. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Men Who Chase Women Get Women, Men Who Work On Themselves Keep WomenYou are right, I am new to this. And I agree with you. When I will have experience with women, will know how to attract them, then I will focus on other areas. But not before it! Cause I did that, and it didn't make me happy. P.S. Do you really think Elon Musk is happy? He is an example of the man who has all the fortune but are the most miserable person in a world. You can see in his face when he gives interview. P.S. I already know what that there is more than PUA, which is FAMILY, which I rea… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Men Who Chase Women Get Women, Men Who Work On Themselves Keep WomenDisagree. Focus too much on yourself and you will become selfish. Focus on other people and they will reward you. I agree that women like non-needy men, but what they crave, is someone who gives them what they want. You can try it with your wife/gf just start being selfish asshole and all the love will disappear, I guarantee. No one gives a fuck about you, the only true unconditional love is between mother and child, anything else is just selfishness. People DO NOT LOVE you, they LOVE how you ma… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 03:14 PM |
| 0 | Men Who Chase Women Get Women, Men Who Work On Themselves Keep WomenSorry but I totally disagree. The only thing what is important in life is a FAMILY. And if you can't even look at a girl, then how would you find a women to be with rest of your life? You have to understand a women, give something what she needs that she would stay with you. To accomplish that you have to have experience with them, to get experience you have to, well "chase" them. I understand what an OP says, and in the theory should work, But in practice, more often happens that guys focus too… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’m seeing told me her and her ex waited before sex, how should I move forward?Be sexual with her, tease shit out of her, make her so wet that she will beg you to fuck her. That’s all. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:48 AM |
| 5 | If all goes well, how do you usually choose to close? (Getting her number, Instadate or just going for broke and inviting to your/her place?)Rule of thumb is to always go as much as possible. 1) If u feel can fuck her just there, then find a dark park, toilet, shop changing room etc. And fuck her 2) if u think that she needs more time, then go for insta date, and then bounce her to your or hers home, and fuck her, 3) if you think that needs even more time, then go for insta date to one location, the move to second and then to your or hers home and fuck her. 4) it is impossible to make insta date, then spend as much time as possible w… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:43 AM |
| 4 | Lay report: Tinder cougar (thought I'd bring a bit of positivity given the recent shitstorm in the community)I think you already have solid game and mindset. Just keep improving. One thing I would suggest increase difficulty. To have sex with 40y cougar matched on tinder is like Level 5. To have sex in a toilet bathroom while her boyfriend is chatting with friends are level 20. I think you get the picture.. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Have a first date tonight, any tips for initiating kino? Or any tips in general.Here are few tips from my arsenal: 1) Make sure you are last to arrive. If she is early come few minutes late, if she is late, come 2 minutes later. This sends signal that she is the one who is waiting not the other way around. 2) Welcome her with a smile, make sure you are really happy to see her, give her a hug. If she tries to kiss you on a cheek. Move away and say “Wow, hold on tiger, you will have plenty of time for that, with a cheeky smile”. 3) Then give her a compliment. She probably spe… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 12:15 AM |
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