Relationship advice

axe122 · 2019-12-05T03:21:39+00:00

Do not ask her to be exclusive, let her bring it up. Your in a scarcity mindset and are afraid to lose her but you want the role to be reversed. Just enjoy what your doing now and she’ll eventually come to you. Assume she’s sleeping with at least 1 other guy( she may not be but pretend or assume) if you ask her to be exclusive and she’s not 100% ready or isn’t sure between you and the other guy she’ll go with whoever she doesn’t feel like shell be losing her freedom with. She’ll start pulling away and and you’ll chase harder until she says let’s just be friends or ghosts you. Let it be her idea to want a relationship, a guy with a million options wouldn’t ask her to be his girlfriend or exclusive cuz he’s enjoying fucking other girls. You wanna act as if you have options even if you don’t (you don’t gotta verbalize it or anything just act like the guy who has options and wait for her to feel like if she doesn’t lock you down she’ll lose you) it usually takes 2-3 months if your not acting needy and weak in front of her. I lost so many girls when I was younger doing exactly what your doing, thought they were ready asked them where they thought it was going and the second they knew I liked them more then they liked me I got ghosted dumped or slow fade. Once In a while the girl was equally into me and I’d get her but your better off playing the odds cuz when they are ready for a relationship they will let you know. Also she just got outa a 4 year relationship so you don’t wanna be the guy who she thinks she’s gonna lose her freedom with if she keeps hanging out with you. Same goes for anyone reading this thinking of proposing to a girl it’s gotta be her idea, wait till she starts bringing it up, your odds of losing her increase when you try to lock them down and it’s not their idea.Don’t be pushy or needy. Seeing as you’d already talked about it you have a better chance she’s gonna be into you but your also a rebound so be aware of that, I would still just let her come to you. Good luck

mtfltl · 2019-12-05T02:47:00+00:00

Hmm sounds like you guys should definitely be together. Ask her if she’s willing to be exclusive with you. Im assuming she’s seeing other people right now so really ask yourself if you’d be okay knowing that when you’re ready to take the next step. Respect your own boundaries and don’t get into an open relationship if you don’t want to be in one. It might end up hurting you. if you really really like her & feel a connection w her, you can try it out and see how she feels as things progress. You never know , after a while she might decide she wants to be monogamous. But also, don’t go into it expecting her to change. Keep an open mind & just see how things go naturally.

rudypoopenheimer · 2019-12-05T06:44:03+00:00

Of course! Honestly dude she’s chasing me MOST of the time. I’m just at the point where I’m starting to let my guard down and I’m gettin all lovey dovey and it’s fucking w my game! I think I’m on solid turf. I talked to a buddy and I’m not gonna push anything exclusive, I might even start trying to date a couple other chicks to create some space.

rudypoopenheimer · 2019-12-05T07:04:29+00:00

Brilliant, thanks. She’s def chasing me like 80% of the time! I’m just starting to get them damn feels and it’s fucking up my game

quinnmcd · 2019-12-05T13:19:58+00:00

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Title	Relationship advice
Author	rudypoopenheimer
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	December 5, 2019 2:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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