Hi guys, I’m an 18 year old male and currently on holiday in Thailand and trying to hookup / meet girls through Tinder.

Unfortunately, I’m a complete fucking pussy. Even though I’ve had relationships, I still get crippling anxiety when it comes to meeting new girls for the first time. My anxiety ridden mind just overthinks everything; what if I’m really awkward? what if I say something weird? You get the picture...

I can chat fine with them fine through Tinder, as I’m in control and somewhat familiar with it and the feelings and emotions I get from it. Where as, when it comes down to actually meeting these girls, I always make excuses and stop messaging them because I’ve just put it off for so long in my life that I only associate meeting girls with anxiety.

Just now, I was successfully chatting a girl up on Tinder, when she then asks to meet. My heart rate instantly increased and the anxiety overwhelmed me. I began overthinking how awkward I could possibly be, or how bad the date could go. I feel like I’m never going to get over this anxiety with women, as I’m just way too afraid to face it. I know it’s pathetic as it’s only a girl, but I’ve been such a pussy my whole life that I feel I’m too deep in the void to escape.

People treat this like a walk in the park, when I can’t even get the courage to meet them. So, Seddit, how did you guys get over this crippling anxiety? It physically makes me not even want to meet girls.

Any advice is appreciated.