Hey guys, this’ll be long, it’s kind of half field report, half discussion, not really sure what I’m looking for tbh.

Last night I went to Soundbar in Chicago, and I made some progress and some mistakes.

So normally I’m very shy around women I’m attracted to, like can’t even speak shy.

I had like 6 drinks (one of which a dude I think might’ve been gay offered, not sure on the protocol for that?)

and so I was just wandering around the club, went to the room on the top floor that plays rap remixes cuz I like rap.

Anyway I was wandering around in a circle and Niggas in Paris (one of my fave songs) came on so I started singing that, and this seriously hot girl (9/10) looked at me signing ridiculously and laughed and did a few dance moves and I continued on walking around like an idiot, like all i was thinking was damn she’s hot, fuck.

And I kept trying to get her attention after literally walking away but she ignored me for obvious reasons, so I loitered around at the bar by her table facing her and her group, and she continued ignoring me so i was like ok i get it you’re not interested, and left to get a drink and then smoke a cigarette.

When I went out to smoke a cigarette, the line was completely empty, but I heard a couple voices so I went over to investigate, where I saw her and her friend hiding in this covered door type thing.”, and I just smoked my cigarette and she said “you can come in, we don’t bite” so i went in and then she said “well, she (her friend) does, I don’t”

Then she started making jokes about how her friend would bite and to be careful and stuff.

So i said sounds like she has rabies, you might have to put her down lol.

And the banter kept going for about 10 minutes, when they went back in and she said she’d talk to me later.

Then as I was finishing my cigarette a couple gay dudes came out and asked if there was room in the thing I said yes cuz it was raining and they seemed nice, and idk we just started shooting the shit, had another cigarette and continued our conversation with them, then I went back in and the music was off, the lights were on, and everyone was gone except for the guards yelling that the club was closing and to go to coat check.

so I went back to the room quick to see if she was there, and her friend said “wow, you actually came back” and I didn’t respond to that cuz I didn’t know how to, so I asked for her number and she didn’t respond, so I headed to coat check to get my coat and she showed up to get hers.

She and her friend continued the jokes about biting me, and her friend pinched my finger when i said do it, and she was saying something about how I’ve already been bitten twice and I said something about what if I wanna be bitten to become immortal and shit.

So she got her coat, it was red so I said aw little red riding hood and pointed out that we were both wearing red and black, red shirt + black coat for me, black dress + red coat for her.and she called me big red.

And I said no I’m Nordic God, cuz that’s a nickname my friend calls me and the banter got kinda mean at this point, I overheard her tell her friend that I asked for her number, and she didnt like laugh about it or anything, I just jumped to the conclusion that “she’s trying to humiliate me”.

And as I was walking up the stairs I said something like “wow, you’re wearing heels and you’re still that short”

Idk guys, it was a lot of mistakes, but i’m still proud that I talked to a strange woman I was attracted to, and it started out pretty well so that alone makes me feel more confident in myself.

So yeah, I blew it, but I’ve never gotten this far before, so I’m still happy and proud of myself for doing it.

Lessons learned:

don’t walk away from a woman showing interest in you, never ever ever do that.

Don’t take anything personally, banter and shit tests are how women size you up, you have to pass them to get anywhere.