How to respond to teasing by friends in public?

quinnmcd · 2020-01-01T14:49:43+00:00

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hunterpua · 2020-01-01T15:16:41+00:00

I've been bullied and I've also been a bully.

Take it from me, theres nothing more appealing to a bully than someone who your bullying gets to.

When I did it I remember craving the reactions so bad and getting excited when I know that the person I'm about to mess with is gonna be so affected by it.

Meanwhile, there were other people that were as weak if not weaker than my usual victims who I'd try to bully but inevitably lose interest in because they didn't give a shit.

I try something and they brush it off with a nonchalant "stop" and when I try to escalate instead of trying to stop me they offer zero resistance at all don't even really mind me, like I was a kid messing around and they were the adults who get that I have to be immature.

It made me feel like I was making a fool of myself so I never push through with the escalation because the embarrassment would just worsen.

And I'm not just talking physical bullying here. When I was a victim of bullying myself it was never physical, it was always through words and teasing. Getting annoying nicknames assigned to you and having everyone join forces with the bully to gang up on you and make you feel like shit.

Now that I'm an adult and have seen both sides, I believe I'm pretty much bullyproof.

One of my bosses at an old job tried to bully me and he ended up feeling so embarrassed.

Anyone tries to make fun of me and I shut it down in a heartbeat.

Not my being aggressive and threatening but by not giving them what they crave, by showing them that I couldn't give 2 shits about what they're doing.

When someone teases you in public or otherwise, what's best to do is really listen to the shit talk but listen to it for how well its delivered, if its funny or clever so that you can appreciate it or laugh about it.

This is not the same as encouraging them to keep bullying you because you aren't necessarily bullying yourself when you do that, you're actually fully ignoring what they say in terms of how it reflects on you and instead just judging what they say purely from a technical standpoint.

You give them props when its good and you tell them they should do better when its shit.

Some people I do this to have even verbalized their confusion saying things like, "Did you not notice that I just called you a pussy?" to which I'd just shrug my shoulders.

This frustrates the hell out of someone who is trying to make fun of you because they're trying to have fun at your expense but you not caring isn't fun.

Its like a kid trying to get candy out of a vending machine only to have his money constantly spat out.

If you are your own man and you know who you are then the words of some bully would never get to you and when you're bullyproof people around you see that, the people who are trying to talk shit and the people who are just bystanders.

So even though you are initially made fun of in public and bystanders hear the zinger, their real judgment of you comes from how you react to it and the less you do react to it the more you come off as a guy who has their shit together and the more idiotic the person delivering the zinger comes off as.

You accomplish both making yourself look good and discouraging people from continuing to make fun of you at the same time so eventually, they will just never try to make fun of you again and you'll just get more respect from everyone.

Title	How to respond to teasing by friends in public?
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Date	January 1, 2020 2:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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