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[–]surfinfan21 11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Awesome post. For me it’s all about getting in the right mindset. I have huge confidence problems despite being relatively successful with women. For me I have to get into the right state of mind and into the flow to harness my confidence. It makes the biggest difference in the world though.
Also I love going out by myself. None of my friends like going out to meet women. So I basically have always done it solo. There’s something fun about sitting at a bar all night and meeting new people. Even if nothing sexual comes out of it.
[–]kandy96 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Straight up I could've posted this lol. None of my friends like going out, but I LOVE it. Almost always dance with at least one cute girl when I go out, often a little making out too, but I still lack confidence haha. I've never had a bad night out alone. It's always been fun and to me that's what matters.
[–]surfinfan21 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you’re ever in Boston I’m always down to go out, dance, and meet girls. I absolutely love dancing. I do have one group of friends that always call me up when they want to go dancing.
I’ve noticed that I’ve been the right mindset a lot more these days with the exception of just a few days. I’ve noticed that it seems to be directly correlated to days that I am genuinely happy. I went through a pretty big life change recently breaking up with my fiancé, changing jobs and moving. But I haven’t been happier in years. I seems obvious now but it’s certainly difficult to be in the zone when you’re not your best self.
I’m now working on maintaining confidence and summoning that in the zone feeling to the point where it’s almost routine. Obviously there are always going to be bad days. But I think everyone can work on limiting those days.
[–]Grasshopper57 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
RemindMe! 1day
[–]javage27 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great post! I'm try this out tonight
[–]EvidenceSalesman 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome tip about getting friends to like you!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Great post. Sounds really easy when you summarize it like that, but it takes practice guys!
[–]kandy96 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Towards the end you mention the art of being rejected, but taking it with confidence. I love this shit. One of my favorite memories was this group of 3 girls that were all obviously looking at me the entire night. Eventually I said fuck it and walked up and said to the group "do any of you want to dance?" and they all looked at me and said no. I replied "yea you're all full of shit" hahaha I've been able to get away with lines like this in the past luckily. Not the end of the story... a cute girl came up to me minutes after that and wanted to dance and while we were, one of the girls from the group kept "accidentally" bumping into me. Hahaha you missed your chance bitch ;p
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