just gotta know im not alone in this

i and several others i have witnessed will sometimes get the urge to talk to a person but something just pulls you in a different direction.

i've noticed this happens with girls at the gym. particularly with girls that are very hot but more on the reserved side, yet you can see they likely like to have fun if you check her mating strategy boxes and arrange logistics seamlessly

tldr; turning away from attractive, wifey material women. especially at the gym. why?