I had a LTR where we had a love/hate relationship. We were either at one end of the spectrum or the other the entire time we dated, which led to some amazing highs and some extremely low lows. Obviously I nexted her because we were dysfunctional.

If i have a love/hate relationship, then my emotions are getting the better of me. if i cant control my emotions, does that mean I have oneitis for this girl?

if so i should improve myself further, abundance mentality, be more stoic etc. right?

Or is there more to a love/hate relationship? is the whole idea of having a love/hate relationship just fucking stupid when you can find someone for less stress.

what im trying to figure out is, why the hell would i get those love/hate feelings? I know i shouldnt love this person because its bad for me, yet i still do? an unhealthy love. this just means i have oneitis right?

tell me to pull my head out of my ass or something guys.