What are the best resources for actually dating women? The things to do after she agrees to go on a date with you?

quinnmcd · 2020-04-10T16:43:36+00:00

1) don’t be outcome dependent. Once I stopped worrying about if the date would go well or not then I stopped getting nervous and overthinking. Either she’ll want to see you again or she won’t. Don’t worry about a second date or taking her home. Just be calm and let things flow.

2) fun dates. When I switched my dates to activities instead of the movies or going out to eat then I got more second dates. Me and this girl both loved a artist. We found out he was coming and I bought tickets. We had a blast and went to the club afterwards. I got my first second date after that. Then I got another date and another date.

Ever since that I always pick the arcade or something we both will have fun doing. Anything that puts less pressure on us and doesn’t forces us to have talk the whole time is great. We are more focused on the actively and after that we usually can sit and talk because we are both comfortable by then.

3) don’t be an open book. Let her do 70% of the talking if she likes you she’ll want to share things with you. Don’t tell her all of your most embarrassing stories save them. Have her always wanting to know more about you. Make her work to learn these things.

4) I recommend waiting for her to text after the date. Usually girls will text that they had a great time after the date. Don’t plan a second date until a few days after you already took her out and she said that she had a good time and wants to see you again.

The times I text a girl after the date saying I had a time I get friend zoned for being to eager. Give them time to digest it and tell their friends. When she tell her friend or whoever what all she did and that she had a good time. Her friends will tell her to see where it goes from there. (I’ve been around when girls have these conversations) girls take more time to make decisions to know if they want to see you again be patient.

If she doesn’t text after a couple days just text her and be prepare to be friendzone.

5) make a move. You can get second dates without kissing or trying to hold hands, eventually she’ll get bored or think you aren’t interested in her sexually. Hold hugs a little longer than normal. Try to kiss her and flirt with her. You have a make a move to see if the spark is there. Of course be sure that she’s comfortable around you and you’re escalating properly. If she doesn’t want you touching her then don’t. She must consent.

Conclusion: you won’t be compatible with everyone, so don’t worry about getting a second date. Every failed date is a lesson and is getting you closer to finding someone has more interest in you. Relax and focus on enjoying yourself. Show her a good time and don’t be pushy.

smoothmax · 2020-04-11T17:49:47+00:00

This has been asked hundreds of times, so search for the topic on this reddit for starters.

Many PUA books cover the topic, search for book recommendations, recommended reading, etc.

Many youtube videos cover this, and there are infield videos showing real dates.

Title	What are the best resources for actually dating women? The things to do after she agrees to go on a date with you?
Author	HoosierProud
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Date	April 10, 2020 4:08 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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