So what you got x amount of people to sleep with you, how many wanted seconds?

If you’re looking for a quick cheat, ignore this post. If you’re wanting to develop your seductive skills into something meaningful, hopefully this gives an alternate perspective.

I use to think seduction was about wooing as many women as I could, I was respectful about it but in short I aimed to get attention, stir desire and “score”. If I wasn’t interested I’d let them know, then move on or my experience with them in bed lacked any real intimacy which left us parting our ways. I was practicing my game, not seducing women.

After “scoring” with several women, I realized that there wasn’t anything impressive about sleeping with x amount of women. It’s fairly easy, since more people are open the casual hookup. The seductive part wasn’t anything about getting laid, it was about getting their attention and sustaining it; being ethical and honest with my intentions made it meaningful.

Learn to communicate, know what you like and don’t like. The sooner you address what you don’t want, the more likely you are to earn someone’s respect. Articulate your thoughts well and follow through. If you don’t like texting state that and provide an alternative. If you don’t want to date, share an honest reason in a respectful way(you will likely fuck this up at first, good luck). Most importantly allow them to bring up what they don’t like or want and RESPECT IT!

Be present in the moment and make the most of your one on one encounters. If your goal is sex, make sure your partners needs are met first. You don’t have to date in order to give someone what they want. Wondering what I mean? The 5 love languages gives a great understanding. Learning to do this with those your attracted to and with anyone you talk to will do wonders for you. Give without expectation and you’ll love the response or learn that that person isn’t worth your time.

Love isn’t part of a starvation economy, their life DOESNT revolve around you. Celebrate their goals, listen to when stories they share with excitement. Listen intentionally. It doesn’t need to be anything about you, if they allowed you to know their personal life, you’re likely building an intimate relationship.

Be honest if not that, don’t lie. I’ve slept with women who later tell me they have romantic feelings, when they express that they’d want to date. I respectfully ask if we should stop having sex, being Im not looking to be exclusive. In most cases, the intimate connection made is so meaningful they respect my decision and don’t care to be exclusive. Allow for open communication at any point in time

I’ve learned so much about the women I’ve been involved with intimately, about how to communicate and enjoy intimacy in many ways. Seduction doesn’t have to be goal oriented, it’s worth your time developing meaningful relationships, you’ll grow as a person for this.

Be honest, ethical, open minded, respectful, intentional and most of all learn about yourself.