Why am I still jealous of my girlfriend?

2020-05-28T22:38:49+00:00

I wish I could help man but I’m having the same struggle. I’ve been working on trying to improve myself

crunch16 · 2020-05-28T23:49:58+00:00

What are you jealous of?

Czekraft · 2020-05-29T00:05:38+00:00

All you can do is trust her. Perhaps it's your fear of being afraid to lose someone you need to change. It's one thing to limit guys from talking to your girlfriend so you don't feel that way. It's another thing to see guys talking to her and you not giving a shit because you know she's coming home with you. Which would you prefer

recyclablebanthas · 2020-05-29T01:45:42+00:00

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I still feel jealous towards my girlfriend.

More details: this is too vague:

What are you jealous about, exactly? What form does this jealousy take?
- What exact thoughts run through your mind?
- What triggers it?

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I looked at some of your responses. You should really EDIT those into your original post because otherwise people don't have the context to properly answer.

"I want to learn how to twerk" or if she keeps talking about a guy friend

This is pretty clear cut fear.

You're not jealous of her learning how to twerk
- You're scared that her learning a sexy way to dance will attract attention from guys
- Furthermore, you're scared that you don't measure up to the guys whose attention she'll get and they could take her from you.
Similarly, you're likely not jealous that she has a friend. You're scared that this guy has a level of intimacy and significance to her that could challenge yours. You're scared he could take her away.
And there might be trust issues if you think she'd go along with a dude trying for her.

These are irrational fears that actually minimize her own ability to make her own decisions. No guy is going to "take her." Seduction is a mutual thing.

It appears that you either don't trust her, or lack confidence in yourself that she'd want to stay with you if other guys came at her.

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The solution here is that you have to work on yourself. She chose you. You have to find it in yourself to trust that, assuming you chose someone trustworthy.

Assuming you have, there's nothing to worry about and the fact that she wants to fucking learn to twerk, is nothing but straight bonus for you. Who do you think she'll end up twerking for at clubs, if not her damn boyfriend?

And you have to be able to trust her boundaries with her friends, even the male ones.

If you can't trust her to observe healthy boundaries with people at clubs or male friends, then the issue is not your jealousy or confidence.

Title	Why am I still jealous of my girlfriend?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	May 28, 2020 10:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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