Monogamy Don't Make Relationships ''Extra'' Special

abbehardy · 2020-08-27T18:22:33+00:00

Lately I’ve been living, thinking and talking a lot about open relationships, friends with benefits and how to be intimate with women without being monogamous.

Still there are some people who are trying to tell me that I’m missing some ‘’extra’’ depth by not doing a monogamous relationship.

This is utter and complete bullshit. Mutual exclusivity does not equate to ‘’more feelings’’ or ‘’deeper feelings’’.

In the end it’s about how you view your time with women and what you do. If you and the girl work on creating something special it will be special. If you both treat it like it’s nothing and you’re not putting your best effort into the relationship it will be shit.

The label (monogamy) is not adding extra specialty to the situation.

However some people may be unwilling to open up emotionally to someone unless they’re monogamous and have promised themselves to someone (I’ll grant you that argument)

For some people it takes the monogamy for them to feel safe.

But if you decide to think about it.. Really think about it.. You’ll see that your effort doesn’t have to be tied with any labels or circumstances or situations.

You could even make a one night stand magical with the right attitude.

Every time I meet a girl I focus on bringing intimacy to the table. Looking her deep in the eyes, really trying to get to know her, showing her that it’s safe to open up.

In the end without any emotional connection it’s damn near impossible to stay motivated to meet someone and so don’t give me this bullshit that two people can hangout for a long time without any real feelings.

There are always feelings involved and those feelings have nothing to do with the label you decide to surround them with. Whether that’s monogamy or open relationships or friends with benefits.

At the end of the day you create your life according to your own wishes.

Title	Monogamy Don't Make Relationships ''Extra'' Special
Author	abbehardy
Upvotes	0
Comments	1
Date	August 27, 2020 6:22 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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