How do you deal with girls who wants to text alot before meeting

norwegiandoggo · 2020-08-31T19:00:51+00:00

Girls who want to text more usually aren't sure if they want to meet up because they're afraid. And because you asked to meet a bit too soon for them.

You can usually get them to agree to meet up by reducing their worries.

When they say that they want to get to know you more, that's not really what they mean. If you just start telling more information about yourself that's not easing their worries.

They want to know that they will be a good time on the date, that you won't try to rape them or kill them, and that you won't break their heart, or push hard for sex too soon etc. etc.

The key to convey trust is to SLOW down. Don't push for the meeting. Get to know HER more than you need to share about yourself. Be calm, relaxed, laid back. Eventually after 10-20 more messages ask her if she has any particular worries about meeting and what a fun first meeting would look like to her. Make sure you know her expectations and worries. Propose a safe date in a public space. Reassure her that you want her to have a good time and that you won't do anything she is uncomfortable with. Boom. You have eased her worries and now you will get a date.

cottagecorehoe · 2020-08-31T20:08:59+00:00

I am a woman and 100% understand your frustration at not wanting to lose topics of conversation. Talking for too long over text sometimes also just ruins the initial spark. Ugh.

Most of the time, if I tell a guy I want to get to know him a little more more before meeting, it's me feeling comfortable that you aren't about to kidnap me and sell me or rape me or murder me because these are all very real threats that exist to women.

Honestly, exchanging some form of social media, learning about what you do for work at a basic level, and what you do for fun is more or less enough for me to judge on whether you're a psycho or not.

Another option that JUST came to mind that actually really helps me is a quick video chat date! I can see you are who you say you are, get a feel for your personality, etc, and it doesn't have to be a long chat! When a girl says they want to know more about you prior to meeting, you could counter with, "Of course, I completely understand. Would you be interested in a quick video chat then sometime this week? I much prefer speaking to someone when I can see their face and expressions rather than text."

This is also beneficial for you so you don't waste your time/money going on a date with someone you may not even click with in person.

Title	How do you deal with girls who wants to text alot before meeting
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Date	August 31, 2020 6:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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