Are people just naturally gifted with good social skills for dating interactions?

MidnightPleaser44 · 2020-09-24T08:48:16+00:00

Yes and no. In life, there are going to be people that have an affinity for certain things but EVERYONE has to practice and maintain. How you do that all depends on how you perceive yourself and daily life.

The trick isn’t to practice your social skills (how to smile, when to make a joke, how long to laugh, eye contact, active listening, etc.). Social skills will come with time, what you need to focus on is getting COMFORTABLE when socializing. Think of the event of having a conversation as a room and you and the person you’re speaking with are in that room. That’s a “space” that you’re in and depending on both of y’all’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that space will alter and change. Now if you think of a conversation as a space, you can see subject matters as like furniture or items to place within said room. ANYTHING goes, you can talk about whatever. It’s y’all’s room and, so long as you both want to entertain each other, you can spend however much time in whatever way you want. When you begin to look at a conversation in this light it’s less about “what should I say?” and more about “what all can I say?”. Each response from a person in a conversation allows for a MULTITUDE of different responses in: subject matter, emotion, delivery, response time, non verbals, phrases, dialects etc. I say all of this not to scare you but to reiterate that there is NO blueprint. The freedoms to explore and enjoy the “space” as you are is the ticket.

To sum it up, yeah some people are naturally better than others at talking but by no means does anyone have it all figured out. We’re all humans, learning, growing, and trying to become a more actualized self. Try putting yourself out there more often in order to make mistakes and learn how to be present and prepared rather than preoccupied and anticipating when socializing in the future! You got this👊🏾

Title	Are people just naturally gifted with good social skills for dating interactions?
Author	A_Throwaway_2016
Upvotes	1
Comments	1
Date	September 24, 2020 8:06 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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