How To Pickup Girls WITHOUT Being a Misogynist Pig

Aghayden · 2020-09-25T04:34:19+00:00

tl;dw -

Pickup advice gets a bad rap in mainstream culture. To be honest, some of that criticism is deserved. There is advice out there that has an underlying 'win-lose' mindset (You get laid = win. Women are an obstacle to your goal. Do whatever it takes to win, even if it's manipulative).

That said, picking up women doesn't have to be misogynistic or manipulative. Seduction is one of the core aspects of being human (it's the reason you and I exist), and I believe it's important to learn how to do it in a way that is mature and emotionally healthy.

Plowing

The most common piece of bad advice that pickup coaches give is to 'plow' which means if a girl seems uninterested in you or is rejecting you, keep pushing the interaction until she literally has to walk away from you.

This isn't a good idea because a. it teaches you to become less empathetic (which is very helpful in seduction), and b. it causes you to waste time while also giving women a negative experience without a worthwhile payoff.

If a girl is giving you clear indications that she isn't interested (like she says she has a boyfriend or gives you one-word responses), MOVE ON.

There's a 90% chance that no matter what you do, she's going to keep rejecting you (she's doing it for a reason, after all). You could easily move on to another girl who isn't already actively rejecting you.

That isn't to say there aren't times when persistence is necessary, but plowing when a girl is rejecting you is rarely a good idea.

Considering What The Girl Wants

A lot of pickup advice out there has an "Always Be Closing' mentality that turns dating into a win-lose situation. Get laid no matter what, tell her you love her if you have to. Some women don't want to have a one-night stand. Some girls are hesitant for a reason and you should consider the effect your actions are going to have on her.

A lot of women will love to have a one-night stand with you, but if you have to be manipulative or misleading to get there, is it really worth it?

Personally, I believe that the way you treat others gets back to you emotionally. If you use people and trick them into giving you what you want, you will become less trusting and positive towards others because we refeclt our own mindsets onto other people.

Dodechaedron · 2020-09-25T22:58:13+00:00

It's simple: read understand the other person's feelings, written in body language ...

Title	How To Pickup Girls WITHOUT Being a Misogynist Pig
Author	Aghayden
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Date	September 25, 2020 4:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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Plowing

Considering What The Girl Wants