If you don’t know what genuine indifference looks like, watch the episode of Californication where Hank Moody hooks up with the surfer girl.

Let me tell you about the time I was the most ‘Don Juan’ I’ve ever been...

Wandering through London on my way back to the station to catch my train one day, I noticed a slim brunette. She looked a bit lost so I opened her with ‘do you know the way to the station?’ She knew it was an excuse as the station was literally within 100 yds, but the way I said it seemed to work and I got her number after telling her she was cute but that I had to rush to my train - which was true.

I came across as a genuinely busy man because I genuinely was that day. I wasn’t daygaming, I had been in the city on business and I wasn’t coming back for 2 weeks.

2 weeks later the day before I was back in London for another 1 night stay, I messaged her to see if she wanted to meet up in the evening. She did so we arranged to meet.

I left my hotel room en route to this date and bumped into another hot woman in the elevator area. We flirted & somehow within 2 mins she was in my hotel room. I kissed her for a few seconds but she pulled away - it was way too fast, but she took my number & I rushed off for the date.

I was half an hour late meeting the original date. I suggested we call it off but she insisted that she was fine waiting. Again, genuine indifference from me.

We meet and she takes me on a tour of a few bars she knew. She tells me she had been staring at her phone all evening on the say we met hoping I’d text (I didn’t).

She was 12 years younger than me & told me she only went for older men. Good for me...

I take her back to my hotel bar, have a couple drinks and then we take the elevator up to my room. At this point we make out heavily in the elevator and in the corridor. I chicken out of the lay even though she’s virtually begging for it as I wasn’t single at the time, & had a sudden attack of guilt. Again, this indifference drove her wild and after I put her in a cab she started texting me incessantly.

Meanwhile, I then in my room, about to knock one out, get a text from the other woman who wants to meet me for a drink in the hotel bar.

We walk up to the bar together & the barman, who had just seen me with this other girl for 2 hrs - his jaw just hit the floor, almost literally.

Lesson is, indifference is the key