Non-brilliant autistic guys, your story with women?

2020-11-16T13:35:00+00:00

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Lue219 · 2020-11-16T05:57:33+00:00

I like random facts and don't have many friends. Can tell you getting jacked has made it easier with women.

Yellow223335 · 2020-11-16T13:34:06+00:00

AH ok I was going to ask you to define these vague terms like independent and successful but you kinda did with the whole STEM part and 6 figures part. I think I get what you mean but I apologize in advance if I do not meet your criteria.

I am a dude, who is autistic, who is not in STEM and who is not making six figures.

I'm tired of heading to Asperger's subreddit

Yea dont go to that sub. While it is fun to have people who know about your experiences to relate to (as your doing rn by asking for help) there is defiantly a "victim" complex there and as you noticed, they only want to wine about how the world isn't fair and do nothing because of it. Again its not like I dont sympathize with some of that mindset (and have posted there when I am insanely frustrated with my results) but at a certain point you gotta take responsibility for your actions and start making the best of your situation. PLUS a lot of people are suffering from BPD, sociopathy/pychopaths, having unusual human parts (no limbs or too many limbs, or deformed body parts), etc. and if they can do it, why cant the moderate autistic person succeed?

For you as a aspie you have to learn game. Now before I continue I have to talk about Aspie Acceptism. there is a movement in the aspie movement that says that other people should just accept who we are and we should just act as we are. This is mostly based on the idea that the people that stick around really like us and will accept us for who we are and we don't have to "mask" ourselves. Personally, the appealing argument they have is that without masking you won't has the dreaded Autism burnout happen to ya which could set you back a lot.

Personally, while I understand the risk of not fully accepting yourself the benfits IMO are just so much greater that its worth it to pretend to be "normal" and then slowly roll back once your good enough at game. Back to game. Game will not just help to attract woman but to understand how to interact with people in general. What we think is natural to say in a conversation is typically not what other Neurotypicals would say (or really attractive/confident would do) which is like going to be 99% of your human interactions so your gonna need to learn how to conversate with them. Sadly, Neurotypicals usually just learn by just "getting it" and US aspies it never really comes like that. So the best equalizer I have found is game. It is material that is built for Neuroptypicals that just did not get it for some reason and as a result it is made to be as simple as possible. This makes it really easy for people like us as it becomes a sort of manual that if we learn how to mimic or ingrane these behaviors slowly as the "manual" says we will slowly understand how to run a good conversation and then eventually a good seduction. Especially if you find the right manual/"guru". For me after going on this journey for a while what you start to realize is human interaction is just like a lotttttttttt of pre built scripts. And a lot of them a contradictory. Once you understand the prebuilt script then you can start fucking with it until you make that prebuilt script your own. For instance take saying hello to someone. Typically you say hello back. and then ask how are you. to which they respond good. And this is a script. Once you get advanced enough you can say stuff like "whats crackin lackin?" or just going stragiht "how ya doin today man and dont just say good I want to know how your actually doin?" and son on. But oyu have to learn the basis script before you can start experimenting with it.

Title	Non-brilliant autistic guys, your story with women?
Author	Aeon199
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	November 16, 2020 5:48 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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