How do you talk to women at bars/clubs without getting sneered at, ignored, one word answers, or immediately told "I have a boyfriend"?

2021-01-18T01:49:31+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

RichNebula8 · 2021-01-17T22:51:44+00:00

Be attractive, be interesting or be funny or any combination of those 3.

DarthFarris · 2021-01-18T00:37:32+00:00

Well, i'd say bars and clubs, especially clubs, are going to have people who are a little more stuck-up and superficial in my experience (both men and women). I wouldn't take it too personally in these cases.

If they respond rudely (as long as you're being polite), just shrug, smile, say "okay" and walk away as if it means nothing to you.

As far as advice goes, every person is different. I always tell people that, if they approach 100 women, they might get 10 who show any interest. That's just the way it is. Keep on truckin

Andress1 · 2021-01-18T00:04:47+00:00

Work on your looks. If they don't like how you look there is nothing you can say that will make them attracted to you.

RichNebula8 · 2021-01-17T23:17:10+00:00

Try not so hard to give off a vibe where you want something.

Dont approach so many, and make quality approaches, like pick the girl you've linked eyes with a couple times, and give her a wink or a smile. And try to be in her line of sight a couple times, non -chalantly of course

And don't go over so fast tho...wait....and see if shes checking you out or let her make a positive sign like she ends inching a little closer to you. Like be aloof... and do the same thing with one or two other interesting prospects.

But stop looking it as an approach and more like a natural conversation you would have with a friend or even someone you have already had sex...like myself ill be at the bar with some friends or coworkers having a conversation and people nearby, they get involved or i involve them in interesting subjects and sometimes there is lovely young lady with the other group right? I mean if she already had a bit of conversation or a laugh and introduction around the groups, later on you can bump into each other and get closer, see if you mesh.

Like dont come down to thier level either too much, dont be simpish.... make it seem like youre interested but fucking hell, youre just here to have a good time

Just be natural about it ffs. She has to be interested in you, so give her something to be interested in.

Your clothes, style, and body language should be confidently you as well.

NativeTexian2020 · 2021-01-18T00:59:45+00:00

Based upon comments you made in response to other posts, the only thing I would have to add is that you are aiming too high. Some of us are simply not attractive enough to be with whom we think we should be with or want to be with. We have to be realistic and accept that we will not be with supermodels. If you are wealthy you may snag one, but they have to know you have money and you have to know that is what they are dating, not you. Look for someone that would be a good friend, there for you when you have nothing, and make her looks secondary. I am not saying go find a woman that has poor hygiene or is obese, but don’t overlook one that is what you currently consider average.

2021-01-17T23:30:10+00:00

Just go to a tanning salon! Those girls are hot and friendly!

jaredhasarrived · 2021-01-18T00:19:33+00:00

If you can't even get one match online then there's something wrong with your looks.

2021-01-18T01:09:29+00:00

Be a LION 🦁

Lion never cares about the opinions of others . It does what is ought to do.

And most importantly a lion never chases girls like trophy cabinet

Lion makes girls come to him.

If no one comes to him he’s all fine being a solo king

He’s the king of the jungle after all

RichNebula8 · 2021-01-18T01:44:20+00:00

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koalacounterpounder · 2021-01-18T05:05:54+00:00

It happens but then just adjust your approach and try again. If you don’t change your approach and if you don’t get practice you’ll never get it right. I’m guessing you want to be yourself know who you think they want you to be. Think about your energy. Is it genuine? Is it excited? Is it nervous?

99GUNZZ · 2021-04-19T11:51:48+00:00

It sounds like you may be wanting a superficial stuck up kind of person to be with. That aside.. 1. CONFIDENCE.. If you DONT have any at least give the appearance that you do. Example; you're drinking alone at bar cause you want to by choice. The deer in the headlights look wouldn't even work for Matthew Mcconaughey.. True Story... 2. DO NOT ... Start conversation by buying her drinks. They will bleed you dry all night long.. If she is with few friends and introductions been made then go for it.. But first round. You gotta buy her & her friends drinks.. DONT be cheap dumbass cause her friends will cock block you rest of the night.. You say your not interesting or funny.. Fine then come up with some outlandish introduction. Still gotta get foot in foor/ Open dialog somehow.. EX; Hi, have you seen my Medal of Honor around here?? I'll be damned if if I haven't lost it again.. Hope some of this helps.. FYI, Whoever said you are never gonna be attractive to someone can go FUCK themselves.. You DONT need nor wanna be around that kinda trash anyway.. Good luck..✌✌💀

Title	How do you talk to women at bars/clubs without getting sneered at, ignored, one word answers, or immediately told "I have a boyfriend"?
Author	RichNebula8
Upvotes	15
Comments	20
Date	January 17, 2021 10:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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