How do I make women not the # 1 thing in my life?

fatkawk · 2015-07-08T13:53:32+00:00

This was me a few years back. Your inexperience is causing you to pedestalize them.

Here's the fix. Women are your greatest motivation? Feed it.

Become obsessed with women. Sleep with them. Date them. Make sweet love under the stars with them. Get your heart broken. Fall in love.

After you've been with 10-15-20-30-40 women, you'll start to realize they're all the same. Different flavors of the same shit. They'll lose their hold over you.

Everyone wants what they can't have, as I'm sure you've begun to realize. Once they get it, they get bored and move on to the next.

Think of starting a fire. You can throw the sticks in any old way and light it. Sure, it'll burn. A slow, weak burn, of not much use to anyone, that will keep you up all night as you wait for it to burn itself out. Or you can arrange the sticks just so, with the proper kindling, and your fire will burn, hot and ferocious. It will cook your burgers and hotdogs and s'mores and you will eat your fill. And then, just as quickly as it started, it will burn itself out. You'll be left with a pile of embers. Able to restart the fire when you're hungry, without the constant worry that comes with trying keep an ever burning fire under control.

tl;dr If you can't fight this feeling, feed it.

TopTRP · 2015-07-08T13:19:31+00:00

Women are, unfortunately, the most important thing in the world to me.

I read your first paragraph and my head was screaming to me, 'this guy sounds like a total virgin'

I'm also a virgin.

Well, yeah...that's what happens.

The more experience you have with women, the more you learn that most of them don't have much value.

If you are prioritizing people with little value over yourself, it means you yourself have little value.

That's why TRP encourages building yourself up. Having a high sense of self worth makes you act differently around other people who have nothing of value to offer you except a hole to put your meat in.

[deleted] · 2015-07-08T15:49:00+00:00

Prioritise other things first. I.e put most effort in to. Work, then study, then gym, then whatever, then girls. If you want girls to be the fifth most important thing, make sure there's four other things you put more effort into.

Also, and this takes time, sleeping with lots of different girls, does devalue the whole subject, which kinda goes against what I said previously but, don't worry, you'll get there eventually

[deleted] · 2015-07-08T13:49:58+00:00

Figure out what you are passionate about and pursue that entirely. Women will become secondary. You can also pick up new hobbies, learn another language etc. The basic idea is to be so busy developing yourself into the best version of yourself that women do not even occupy your mind.

dongpal · 2015-07-08T14:07:58+00:00

I'm also a virgin.

thats why. its impossible to have some TRP mentalities while being a virgin. thats normal.

MeatCurtainRod · 2015-07-08T15:44:09+00:00

You can't run before you walk. I'm guessing you're a young teenager. This thing takes time. First off, you need a reason to swallow the red pill.

You need to start working on yourself. Discover hobbies that interest you, hobbies that are actually useful in life, unlike video games. This also excludes drinking and gambling, as that is a complete waste of your time and money. If you are still in schooling, that is your ONE AND ONLY JOB. If you just graduated, your one job is to find a job. If you have just a job, find a career.

[deleted] · 2015-07-08T15:30:48+00:00

I don't think there's something you can do other than live your life, experience what you need to experience and change that.

Couple years ago I was in the same situation, my priorities in life revolved around women, which was understandable as, at that time, I was also a virgin, even worse a makeout virgin as well.

Funny thing is that, at that same time, I lost my kiss virginity and a week later my actual virginity, both times with the same girl that practically threw herself to me, no work whatsoever, that's when I understood that, first of all both the makeout and the sex were awesome but I still felt empty, like my deepest need was not satisfied, and that was because what I really wanted was to be able to be the man that can make a women shake and tremble, that man that can deal with anyone and anything.

Still today at first sight my goals may look like revolve around women, because they do, but I do it because I'm lacking this social ability and I don't want to be incomplete, I want to be the best man I can, not because I need acceptance from women.

bassivemalls · 2015-07-08T20:50:38+00:00

Masturbate.

Title	How do I make women not the # 1 thing in my life?
Author	AllOrDeath
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	July 8, 2015 12:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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