How to know if a girl is interested in you or just being nice

If a girl you like seems to be showing interest in you but your are not sure if she actually is or is just being nice then this post if for you.

This is a common thing a lot of men struggle with. A lot of women don’t even know if they like a guy. Her by default will ALWAYS be to keep her options open. She is going to say whatever to make sure that happens.

Because of this you always have to go based on a person’s actions not their words. People will say anything to get what they want, women included.

Girls feelings about you fluctuate a lot in the beginning, she is trying to figure out if she likes you or not through time and exposure.

The biggest indicator is that she SHOWS UP!.

If she messages with you a lot but when you try to meet up she says things like "oh, I can't this time" and "oh, I have plans for this day", "I have a very busy week" and this pattern repeats itself many times then she is not that interested in you but she does like the attention and validation so she doesn't flat out ignore your texts.

What you can do if she says that she doesn't have time or whatever is you say "ok, cool.. well I'm gonna make plans with my friends, have a good Saturday (or whatever day you proposed to her to meet up)" - this way she will see that you are okay with her not willing to spend time with you but you are not gonna leave a spot open for her there - you have your own life and plans and if she wants to hang out she should accept your invitations next time (you should not expect her to do that but it rises your value in her eyes this way).

She will show you if she is interested through her actions - talk is really cheap when it comes to dating world.

The best indicators if she is interested in you are:

- She’s talking to you (IRL - you have approached her and she is talking to you, not trying to end the conversation or looking around trying to find something better)

- She meets you in person (if you asked her to hang out somewhere)

- She is OK with you being in her personal space (she doesn't back off when you get closer to her)

- If you move out of her personal space and she leans forward or comes closer to you to be in your personal space

- When you are talking to others or walking around the room her focus is on you

- She follows you (if you tell her that you are going to another bar and ask her to join you)*

* some girls will like your company but if you try to kiss them they say "I have a bf". To avoid these kind of situations you could try getting physical with her - hug, high five her, hold her hand etc.. to see if she likes it or if it makes her feel uncomfortable. If she doesn't resist that then she is into you - if she backs off then you can ask if she has a bf. People have different boundaries in dating - some like you but aren't ready to be physical yet - then you just need to give them more time to show your personality and try again.

- if she is willing to leave her friends to follow you (this is golden)

The bottom line here is your concern shouldn’t be so much whether she likes you, it should be doing certain things and seeing if she joins you or reciprocates. What is going on in her mind is really none of your business and trying to figure that out will frustrate you and not help you in the end.

This was a long one :D Anyways...

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It has all the basics you will need to ACTUALLY get better so I highly suggest reading that before creating new posts on this subreddit :)

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