NEVER be ashamed of your needs

redrays1 · 2021-08-03T04:48:58+00:00

I want 5 seconds of my life back.

cornham · 2021-08-03T05:50:22+00:00

If you’re going to have a “friend with benefits” but treat them like something you use to masturbate, then you’re not really their “friend”, are you? Setting realistic expectations is important but I bet you’ll have more success with women if you treat them like a fucking person instead of a self-lubricating fleshlight that has the added inconvenience of being able to speak.

Specialist-Kick-1387 · 2021-08-03T08:57:52+00:00

This is appalling advice verging on the sociopathic. The "friends with benefits" without the "friends" part can be had at a brothel.

willgo-waggins · 2021-08-03T05:28:24+00:00

While this is true, there are far better - and more polite - methods of communicating this than in fuckboy.

The above statement is the fastest way I can think of to have to go find an new friend circle or town to live in.

Women talk. Your best bet is to be polite and decent and it will get you a lot more pussy.

IrishViking72 · 2021-08-03T06:58:39+00:00

Ya know I think this describes more of a fuck buddy situation. To me, being friends with benefits would mean that you still have friendly activities like hiking, watching movies…etc and then you also happen to be curlin toes. In a perfect world theres no pressure if either one of y’all find someone to get serious about then obviously it would be best to end it. Or like if you’re me, you wanna up and leave whatever shithole you live in but don’t want to uproot someone else and still want the physical affection in the meantime until you actually do leave

Banglatiger · 2021-08-03T09:51:53+00:00

I don’t know how this falls into seduction tbh.

Doinitrite2 · 2021-08-03T12:22:34+00:00

DDD, my suggestion is NOT to wait for the girl to say to you “You only want me for sex”, but state it up front. Otherwise, her feelings for you grow and she is disappointed in what she invested emotionally when she finds out later. Not Cool…

I am hoping you all are open and upfront about what you are into and what you desire from your lovely sex partner. If they agree and are into it? GREAT! If they express their surprise and disappointment later? It’s on them. Keep it on the up and up and encourage your partner to do the same, letting you know if they start to need more and should move on. BE UPFRONT…this way no one is dissatisfied or duped

kidippo · 2021-08-03T04:48:25+00:00

Being direct is always the best policy !!!

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-08-03T12:58:27+00:00

Ive never had that conversation, women aren't dumb they know the score and will just walk away, and you just let them.

andrei_89 · 2021-08-03T16:22:11+00:00

Sometimes I need to beat people up. What do you think? Should I be ashamed?

Jocasta_me · 2021-08-03T08:45:17+00:00

Lol, best of luck to the guy whose inner game is this.

“Own your shit” LOL

CourtneyBagel · 2021-08-03T01:47:54+00:00

Lol “unimaginatively named”

2021-08-03T09:45:20+00:00

I agree with most of it, BUT I usually want to do more than sex with the girls I am with, not relationship exactly, but having fun together, enjoying each others company etc.

francescadabesta · 2021-08-03T11:32:11+00:00

Ugh — no thanks — you want a friend I’m pretty fun to hang with but if it’s sex you want — then visit a brothel. That way you get what you want and the sex worker gets what she wants — paid. Having sex with a friend is likely to ruin or end the relationship — sex always comes with strings attached

2021-08-03T14:06:01+00:00

You’re a fucking idiot just sayin :)

Battle-Snake · 2021-08-03T05:31:31+00:00

Why not?

jbo99 · 2021-08-03T15:31:42+00:00

So just a note for anyone reading - literally 0 women will want or tolerate the situation OP just described unless they have stunningly low self esteem. Women want the friends part of friends with benefits and want to like have some sort of rapport or just general connection even if it’s entirely non romantic. What OP is describing won’t work unless you look like Ronaldo and she looks like the witch from Snow White

McPettySavage · 2021-08-03T07:11:37+00:00

I totally agree friends with benefits needs to be more common and casual

Ilovethaiicedtea · 2021-08-03T11:40:12+00:00

Great post, the women and 18-20 year olds of this sub might not like it, but that's how good advice goes.

MeaningImmediate5486 · 2021-08-03T15:45:28+00:00

Real men don’t have needs

mandoa_sky · 2021-08-03T12:12:51+00:00

that's a great idea. i think honesty is the best policy

whatsgeernon · 2021-08-03T13:39:17+00:00

Never be ashamed of your needs, but also listen and believe people when they’re telling you they can’t give them to you.

Title	NEVER be ashamed of your needs
Author	DavidDawnDeluxe
Upvotes	286
Comments	68
Date	August 3, 2021 1:10 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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