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In other news...
/r/seduction24/10/21 08:27 AM
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The only thing he's mastered is how to use inherited money to get girls (certain types) thirsting over you.
/r/seduction24/10/21 08:19 AM
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It seems the same posts keep cropping up, regurgitated in another way and not saying anything anyone with half a brain on them doesn't already know.
/r/seduction24/10/21 12:48 AM
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boo!
/r/seduction21/10/21 08:45 AM
3

"I'm the want of the flesh..." More like, you're wanting a brain...
/r/seduction21/10/21 08:24 AM
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I think they make a helluva difference, actually. First impressions count. Are you being too creepy or giving them a genuine, inviting option to interact?
/r/seduction20/10/21 12:47 PM
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"Can I meet you real quick?" sounds very validation-seeking. How about a smile, and "hey!"
/r/seduction20/10/21 12:15 PM
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wait since when is poly becoming the norm? You mean this, right https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4
/r/seduction20/10/21 04:15 AM
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have you ever written anything original?
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:56 PM
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Man posts that once you experience something you don't desire it again as much. Groundbreaking stuff...🙄
/r/seduction19/10/21 06:44 AM
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You're chasing her...and she's clearly not interested, or losing interest. Look elsewhere
/r/seduction16/10/21 11:10 AM
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I second this analysis. Spot on from my experiences daygaming abroad then here.
/r/seduction08/10/21 09:27 AM
2

sounds like a Mortal Kombat fatality move
/r/seduction06/10/21 06:22 PM
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It's nice touchy feely advice, but unfortunately nature doesn't work like that. The male species always has to lure the female to mate whatever animal you study. There's a biological imperative. Whilst I agree it's important and healthy not to overly fixate on it, if you suck at finding others attracted to you, you work on it just like if you suck at a particular skill you would do something about it.
/r/seduction02/10/21 09:53 AM
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Not at the beginning of getting to know someone. I share my vulnerability with my current gf well into our relationship now, but at the beginning a man has to project confidence, charisma, being in control.
/r/seduction02/10/21 09:09 AM
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Used to do it a hell of a lot, especially abroad. And it got me results. These days, post covid, I'm much more chill. Lost my edge a bit but also more interested in pursuing other, more enrichening pursuits like learning new hobbies. Definitely worth having as a skill.
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:36 PM
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Since when are playmates falling out a "field report?"
/r/seduction26/09/21 09:04 AM
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First of all, kudos to you for doing that, it's brave. I've never done well going solo in a club, always ending the night going home early and feeling defeated. Going solo on the streets during the day on the other hand is no issue for me.
/r/seduction26/09/21 08:37 AM
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if you're that much of a hotshot, why are you writing about "spending time alone" given that there are plenty of attractive girls about? Either you suck at game or you suck at game.
/r/seduction24/09/21 07:29 AM
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Make detailed observations and assumptions about the girl, which you can riff off. It doesn't matter if they're wrong, you can both laugh at it. Be playful and remember not to take yourself seriously. Use the situation and something about or around her to ground your conversation.
/r/seduction22/09/21 08:24 AM
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it means I value my self and professional development over trying to sleep with "tons of girls" as if I'm living in a giant frat house. At least I'm thinking with my head...
/r/seduction20/09/21 03:30 PM
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I think my underlying point is: be on your purpose. You go to the gym to get fit and lean. Do that. Don't waste your time eying up girls. They're everywhere else. I understand game, I've cold approached plenty. But nothing supersedes a man's purpose, otherwise you're valuing women over your own goals.
/r/seduction20/09/21 07:44 AM
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Don't approach. Concentrate on your purpose for being there. Approach on the journey there, or after but not in the place itself. The don't shit where you eat rule. If women feel unsafe while they are there to work out, won't get you any street cred.
/r/seduction19/09/21 03:44 PM
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Moscow. Met my current girlfriend there. City of 13m with females outnumbering males, and we're talking Russian women here
/r/seduction18/09/21 08:38 AM
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"be more attractive" is very vague advice. What is the quality of being "attractive", and is it solely looks based? I'd recommend instead: work on your charisma. Care less about what others think, riff off people's opinions to create an interesting back and forth. Don't be afraid to use humour. All of these increase a man's attraction appeal.
/r/seduction17/09/21 08:54 AM
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This is the thing: PUA selling boot camps are feeding on your insecurity. None, or very very few are guiding you how to be a better, well rounded man. Because that's the key. Having your shit together is what it's about, not mindlessly approaching women.
/r/seduction16/09/21 04:23 PM
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massive generalisation, so I switched off...
/r/seduction14/09/21 02:41 PM
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depends. From my experiences abroad women prefer masculine looking men, so skinny jeans are too metrosexual for me. If you say it works in the West, fair dos.
/r/seduction14/09/21 07:46 AM
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skinny jeans for a man? No thanks. You're not showing off your legs!
/r/seduction14/09/21 06:07 AM
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You had your shots then took a shot. Nice
/r/seduction13/09/21 01:11 PM
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stop over analysing 😅
/r/seduction12/09/21 03:08 PM
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This. Totally true. I live in the UK and can attest that daygame is pretty much dead fish here. Works a treat abroad though. I never cold approach in England.
/r/seduction11/09/21 02:14 PM
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she has to be able to see you to screen you, though lol
/r/seduction11/09/21 07:21 AM
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Brown guy here currently dating a Russian girl. From my experiences dating wise: I find I have to use tons more charisma than the average white dude, but the upside is that I get to develop my game.
/r/seduction09/09/21 03:19 PM
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You're being way too harsh on Torero. I like his style and although he was caught out for using an actress on an infield, to my knowledge this was a one off for which he apologised. His books, available on Amazon, are well worth checking out and are an informative in depth read. He's well traveled and presents a good method to follow for the average guy. For a long time he made a lot of his material free and had a regular podcast where he talked through his experiences in particular countries.
/r/seduction08/09/21 02:11 PM
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Advice for such a small pointless thing describes the neurotic nature of our times.
/r/seduction08/09/21 07:11 AM
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doesn't sound "fun", that fact
/r/seduction07/09/21 03:55 PM
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that's a really neat strategy regards the number exchange. Too often I've found the encounter build up to a crescendo only for the number request at the end to be an anti-climax - something stops the encounter short because of time and it feels rushed asking for digits.
/r/seduction06/09/21 04:57 PM
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Not if you're intelligent and make notes on what didn't work and why.
/r/seduction06/09/21 03:45 PM
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Ask to meet for coffee. That simple.
/r/seduction06/09/21 03:40 PM
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hmm, I can't say I go on dates only to start talking to her as if she was one of my mates. I'm more interested in listening to what makes her tick. Celebrity drama and Reality TV are unlikely to be high on the list if she has anything about her.
/r/seduction05/09/21 07:34 PM
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me reading this post: yeah, yeah, yeah...but are you fucking?
/r/seduction04/09/21 09:46 PM
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I'll be honest with you: I'd be more interested hearing about you getting the job and then enjoying the perks of that job (wink wink), than just talking about supposed attraction at an interview. Maybe that's just me, though.
/r/seduction04/09/21 07:55 PM
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flexing
/r/seduction04/09/21 06:53 PM
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The single most important factor: charisma. If guys spent less time bitching and moaning about physical attributes and spent more time in the field honing what to say and finding their narrative voice, results would change for the better.
/r/seduction04/09/21 08:10 AM
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Go to Scandinavia. Literally go to the place where you would be seen as exotic. Worked for me 😅
/r/seduction04/09/21 07:51 AM
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can and does happen, but it's rare. The "sober" part, that is. Inhibitions need a helping hand to loosen, as always haha
/r/seduction01/09/21 03:19 PM
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he got lucky, but technically that doesn't count as a straight approach and lay on his part haha. I see you like being approached more in clubs and bars, fair enough.
/r/seduction01/09/21 03:13 PM
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Have any guys ever cold approached you during the day, and you've put out? I'd be more interested in knowing that.
/r/seduction01/09/21 06:34 AM
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have some self-respect, man. Although she's given some fairly good insight, it's nothing you couldn't already know from watching a YouTube video or reading a psychology article. A woman telling you what a woman wants doesn't make you a "better man" lol
/r/seduction01/09/21 06:31 AM
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You make a solid point about friendships being undervalued: I know of many male friends of mine, including myself, who have chased sex at the expense of cultivating friendships and bonds with others over a long time. And then you act surprised when you find you have little to no support circle. Dating is overrated, buddy. Take care of your mental health first, forge good friendships and just enjoying normal everyday things. The dating and sex will follow.
/r/seduction31/08/21 08:06 AM
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I'm not sure I concur with your wording: "smooth" and "charming" suggest you're already good at flirting, therefore it implies you know how to use euphemisms and word play for suggestive talk; only by thinking you need to use the crass everyday words for our sex organs and the damn act itself stumps you. But if you're smooth and charming already, why change? Just be creative! Girls a lot of the time prefer hints (plausible deniability will be easier) rather than blurting out the obvious, which i…
/r/seduction30/08/21 09:37 PM
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...as in why you are in a hand cutting, beheading, alcohol prohibiting society, and hunting for women? My question exactly!
/r/seduction30/08/21 06:01 PM
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This seems like a death wish, especially if you're a non Muslim. Just leave dude, why struggle: plenty of fish on this earth.
/r/seduction30/08/21 09:49 AM
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Does this work? No. It's dishonest and weasely.
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:55 PM
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so you're advocating the average guy to act like he doesn't care at all? We can all do things with our appearance, the way we talk, our mannerisms, that added together give us the edge we need. The emphasis should always be on bettering oneself. Incidentally, the interactions in that clip indicate very little: girls can give out numbers for any reason, just to fob a guy off and move him along. I didn't get the same impression the guys watching in the studio did that the commander dude is a dead …
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:21 AM
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The difference between the two is clear for me: The "Cobra Commander" approach is very hit and miss, whereas a Johnny "The Wilk" type will always pick up women (the look, charisma, braggadacio, etc). Put it this way, if you were a betting man it's obvious who you'll put your money on
/r/seduction28/08/21 09:37 AM
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This sounds tragic, lol. Keep perspective
/r/seduction27/08/21 11:18 AM
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I'll give a concrete example where everything was set up for the lay but I decided not to proceed: she invited me to her place (I was a visitor to her city and we met via couchsurfing) but as soon as we hit her sofa upon entering, she started chugging down vodka, brought out her laptop to play suggestive rap videos on YouTube, and just began singing out the lyrics. She was totally out of it. At first it was funny, then I saw her descend into a sleepy state, and saw my opportunity to show myself …
/r/seduction27/08/21 09:30 AM
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that was too easy, no marks!
/r/seduction25/08/21 12:35 PM
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Top comment. I'd add: you're 18, for Christ sake. Don't carry expectations of what other people think and feel - something you cannot control - and just enjoy your life. If it works out, great. If not, move on.
/r/seduction25/08/21 04:35 AM
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It's all in your head, mate. I've never been to the States but I always get the impression from what ive read and seen that girls are more open to cold approach than here, where "in groups" and cliques among the English can be quite impenetrable for a random guy doing daygame. Just my experience.
/r/seduction24/08/21 02:37 PM
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She could be likely teasing you, getting a rise out of you. Ignore it, and reply "I guess nice guys finish first sometimes" ;)
/r/seduction24/08/21 03:10 AM
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That's a good question. From my dating experiences and with my current gf, I would summarise as follows: You need to be comfortable making decisions and asserting choices. They will respect you more for this. If you pay for dinner or better still, make the guidelines clear from the outset on a casual date ("I have drinks, but if you want a dessert or anything else, it's on you"), then it's a tick. Note, this doesn't mean you must pay all the time, just don't be shy to say where you stand. A calm…
/r/seduction23/08/21 09:47 PM
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I don't disagree with you, but I'm just giving you how I interpreted it. I can't speak for most men, but I do know it's a trend with a lot of my male company to either go back to their origins to find partners or settle abroad.
/r/seduction23/08/21 08:01 PM
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Indeed. If you're seeing her as a "goal" to accomplish from the beginning, you're missing the point.
/r/seduction23/08/21 02:17 PM
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I've dated Russian women and here's my take: they are, or can be, very feminine; but do not mistake this for being submissive. They are very sure about what they want and expect men to be men i.e. masculine in the conventional sense. If you cannot provide and lead, you are not worthy of their companionship. I remember one female Russian friend, on reminiscing about her time living in the States, telling me that American women were always suspicious of her, seeing her as a gold digger stealing th…
/r/seduction23/08/21 10:30 AM
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hmm, I'm not sure I entirely get your point. If you get her number from a cold approach, and the texting goes fine, let's say, then the real test is the date, not the cold approach. That's when you get to know whether you can "seal the deal" or not (and not necessarily on the same day of the dinner). Girls can go on dates for many reasons, they may just find you interesting or are bored and think you are novel and a welcome change to their schedule. Nothing more.
/r/seduction22/08/21 07:15 PM
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Vibe with her. Remember, as a guy it doesn't automatically mean you have to have sex with her just because she's round. Take away that pressure and just enjoy her company. If it's on, it's on.
/r/seduction22/08/21 05:16 PM
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not necessarily. Dated plenty of Russian girls when living in Moscow. Had poker faces during dinner dates, but turned out they were into me after all. Can be a cultural thing.
/r/seduction22/08/21 03:54 PM
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This was just a big baby crying wah wah, but except just sitting and moping ,he used a gun on innocent people. At least he wasted his own life. Sick times.
/r/seduction13/08/21 11:51 AM
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except, the OP writes that the "partner" has had to question if she is just being used for sex, which strongly implies that this wasn't explicitly communicated at the beginning by the guy. So no authenticity shown here, just douchery.
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:04 PM
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This is appalling advice verging on the sociopathic. The "friends with benefits" without the "friends" part can be had at a brothel.
/r/seduction03/08/21 08:57 AM
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which is all the more reason I insuated that one should go and see what works for them, otherwise it's just one theory after another and means nothing.
/r/seduction26/07/21 10:03 AM
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as with reality. Your point?
/r/seduction26/07/21 09:37 AM
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this is hilarious. It's the answer to the question no one asked!
/r/seduction24/07/21 06:11 AM
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again, you use the word "bother". I would use the word engage. Your mindset is all about "walking on eggshells." Great that you're happy to sit on your yoga mat, be patient, listening to "the universe" sending you signals. But life doesn't always work like that. The successful guys are go-getters. I'm out.✌🏽
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:56 PM
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you sound like an SJW, looking over your comments. A male feminist in sheep's clothing.
/r/seduction17/07/21 05:25 PM
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"So I dated a woman from work..." is never gonna end well.
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:56 PM
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you have your philosophy and take, plenty of guys see it differently. Accept that. Meanwhile socially calibrated men are doing just fine cold approaching girls they like. Fact.
/r/seduction17/07/21 04:54 PM
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indeed
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:58 PM
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funny you say that, because the majority of the time I've cold approached women, even when rejecting my approach they've complimented me for having the balls to ask for their number. There's certainly an etiquette for how to do it respectfully. Don't presuppose that every woman feels as though she's harassed. You certainly don't speak for them all.
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:53 PM
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Good for you: you do you. I met my current gf by cold approaching her. I didn't wait for a sign. I'm still with her 3 years later.
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:30 PM
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do you always wait for a direct sign to do something or do you try to make things happen? Reality can either inspire or deflate depending on one's mindset.
/r/seduction16/07/21 05:53 PM
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would make for a boring story. You must be a barrel of laughs at a party.
/r/seduction16/07/21 05:16 PM
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Life, and human interactions in particular, is rarely clear cut. Usually, though not always, underlying intentions are in play. A simple asking for one's number can mean a plethora of things, not only a simple “hangout”. Certainly, romanticising every gesture is the wrong way to go about it but thinking in terms of self interest is not unhelpful.
/r/seduction16/07/21 03:38 PM
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yes, but can one not use it to one's advantage?
/r/seduction16/07/21 01:57 PM
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Don't discount male company. Good men are hard to find these days, they're often as flakey as females if you're looking for trusted bonds rather than fly-by-night acquaintances.
/r/seduction12/07/21 09:32 PM
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which explains why you're on here making asinine comments 🤔
/r/seduction12/07/21 07:49 AM
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If it's well calibrated it won't ever come across as "creepy". Nice approach 👍🏽
/r/seduction11/07/21 08:17 PM
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Focus on something about her - make it specifically something she's chosen and not her looks - and give her a backhanded compliment that is not so heavy. A polite neg. Then you can both laugh at it together and banter on it. Example: I like that green dress, kinda has a sexy elf look about, just missing the ears. It's a light tease and not too heavy of an insult.
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:38 AM
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It might seem rude or unwanted to some. And not to others. From my experience, most of the girls I approached liked that I had at least the balls to approach them and compliment them, even if we didn't exchange numbers. Bottom line: cold approaching works.
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:06 PM
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All that reading just to get to the pick up line. I just gave up
/r/seduction09/07/21 01:29 PM
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Ah, the 20s. When you can brag about sleeping around as if it's a numbers game. It's about quality and not quantity if self improvement is the path you're on, buddy.
/r/seduction08/07/21 01:58 PM
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You shoulda just walked up and casually chatted. Build something. You're gonna see her there regularly anyway so no need to shoot your shot so quickly.
/r/seduction30/06/21 06:39 PM
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I'd have built a rapport first. Bit of flirty banter. Create sexual tension. Whats with the waving?
/r/seduction30/06/21 06:12 PM
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Dont overthink. She's just coming round, might be after just tea and biscuits for all you know. Remain casual and flirty. The reason you're thinking this is an issue is that you're afraid you'll lose her. Change that mindset. It doesn't matter. Own the situation.
/r/seduction30/06/21 06:08 PM
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Excellent post. I discovered a few years ago that as a male, and a non white one, the odds were heavily stacked against me on dating apps. Plus, it felt emasculating and superficial trying to flaunt photos of myself in the desperate hope I can catch a half interested message from a girl. Never got a single match. So I ditched trying that and started cold approaching. Learnt a hell of a lot more about myself, bedding beauties in Estonia, Denmark and Russia in the process. As a man, you can either…
/r/seduction29/06/21 03:31 PM
4

black pill is just giving up. Some PUAs are legit and give sound advice.
/r/seduction28/06/21 05:35 PM
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intepret it as you wish. Most people have already switched off from your ramblings
/r/seduction28/06/21 03:29 PM
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it's easy for you to say all that as you've explicitly outlined your privileges. We're not all bestowed with good looks or money in the bank. As I result, I switched off after the first paragraph...
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:52 PM
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Started off well, the OP. Then went downhill with his judgements. Good critique is necessary and just using the word "toxic" when you don't agree with something gets us nowhere.
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:15 PM
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It's as simple as just doing it. Don't make it seem the most important thing you'll ever do. It should feel normal and natural.
/r/seduction28/06/21 06:45 AM
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Give it up. You're doing well by the way, fellow late 30s guy here currently dating a 21 year old. If attracting younger girls isn't an issue, then why worry about this one?
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:41 PM
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you don't have to.be an asshole if you communicate from the beginning what you're after and your terms. Some girls want the same too
/r/seduction27/06/21 08:14 PM
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That's why you have to keep approaching and not get fixated on any one girl, particularly if you're still getting to know one another. Girls flake and in any case, everyone has things going on in their lives and, predictably, will not make a stranger they barely know as their priority. Learn that now
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:01 PM
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Save the spiel. I'm referring to women one cold approaches who ignore you. You are not at a club or bar where you might think there's an element of playing hard to get. It's the middle of the day, they're on their way to somewhere and they're clearly ignoring you. BIG difference. Move on.
/r/seduction27/06/21 05:10 PM
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That's some baffling self-justifying logic right there. If your face don't fit, no amount of self chatter will convince her to suddenly become interested. Is that so hard to realise?
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:58 PM
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I just have more self respect and prefer engaging with people that are prepared to listen back, rather than grovel for their attention. Weird, I guess.
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:40 PM
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"Remember when she's ignoring you, she isn't telling you no" - perhaps because women are societally conditioned to be non confrontational towards male strangers, and so ignoring is their way of saying "leave me the fuck alone." I geddit dude, I've cold approached hundreds of times, but everytime I get ignored, I read the signal and move on. You should too or you'll be on a registry.
/r/seduction27/06/21 04:34 PM
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Act entitled, you'll be surprised how many girls you'll convince.
/r/seduction27/06/21 02:20 PM
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"Toxic masculinity" is just thrown around here without sense. I'm simply stating what works. There's nothing toxic about being polite but assertive. Many women respond positively to it. Just because you disagree with this, does not mean it doesn't work. They're two separate things. Not for you? Fair enough.
/r/seduction20/06/21 06:01 PM
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not sure what that has to do with it. I personally usually pay for both on the first date, also part of the illusion I'm taking the lead and in control, which psychologically pays dividends. A coffee costs little to nothing.
/r/seduction20/06/21 01:05 PM
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I sympathise with this line of thinking. It has personally worked for me. Permission seeking, for the most part, can come across weak and not masculine. I like the line: "let's meet for a coffee. I want to know you better." Statements work better than questions.
/r/seduction20/06/21 08:42 AM
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the irony is that you "getting to the point" too soon, ends up being you wasting your own time as it's much less likely that interaction will result in a number. You need to invest a little in her first. Also: seeing it as "wasting her time" already implies you don't value yourself as an equal participant in your interactions. You need to change that mindset buddy.
/r/seduction19/06/21 05:44 PM
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if "would you like to get a coffee sometime?" was only the second sentence you spoke to that stranger, of course you were gonna get rejected. You need to build rapport. Think about it: if someone came up to you and complimented say, what you were wearing, then immediately asked you for money, you'd tell them where to go. Why would a girl think any different?
/r/seduction19/06/21 11:30 AM
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What has this got to do with seduction and strategy? I'm sure there's other reddits for this kind of self-help fluff
/r/seduction17/06/21 10:04 AM
1

I've been in that situation before: keep it flirty, sexualise conversation occasionally, playfully read her hands, be suggestive, be prepared to have a laugh. Keep the high brow stuff for your mates, it will get her dry quickly!
/r/seduction13/06/21 09:44 PM
1

It's true, men age like fine wine in the eyes of younger women
/r/seduction25/05/21 12:00 PM
1

Be wary of high volume approaching if you're a newbie and not in a big city: it will backfire quickly once a girl (who has likely rejected you) recognises you, because that will happen. Speaking from experience here. As advice: after each set, write down the things that worked for you, and what didn't. Fine tune..Try again. I may be wrong but your post gives the impression you keep trying the same thing again and again expecting different results. Einstein's definition of stupidity.
/r/seduction23/05/21 08:28 AM
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Fishing for attention with this post
/r/seduction20/05/21 10:37 AM
2

I think you can infer the answer from my comment. But that wasn't the central point, the point being: throwing yourself into a situation where you challenge your fears and anxieties has you eventually overcome them. If you're prepared to learn from them.
/r/seduction16/05/21 07:13 PM
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You need encouragement. I'm bang average, very few hobbies and no date history to speak of just a few years ago (I'm 37 currently), so I took the extreme option of imbibing everything I could about pick up, apply it, analyse the feedback I got. And keep going. Did this literally hundreds of times, slept with a few girls, improved my charisma, got rejected loads but in the process built up my "couldn't care less about your rejection" outlook on things. Now, I'm currently dating a young Russian I …
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:53 PM
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Harsh as it may sound, but you need to see reality for what it is: girls are good at perceiving value, and somewhere along the line, yours became unappealing. Now, a new age perspective would be to say that her rejecting you is a signal for you to listen to, that you need self improving and working on your mindset. You waited two years to date her and if you're honest with yourself you'll know you likely wanted her as soon as you became friends but didn't know how to make the move. Let it be a l…
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:16 PM
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that she didn't have the decency to tell you what exactly you said that she perceived poorly, and talk it over like adults, suggests she flakey as fuck. And frankly 3 months with her was a bonus. If you got a lay out if it, all's good I say.
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:02 PM
1

then get off here and approach them in person
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:14 PM
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I don't see a "shit test" here. I just see someone being a shit.
/r/seduction11/05/21 06:47 AM
1

Google and read. There's lots of resources out there. I read tons and watched videos, then went out there and got rejected a thousand times, learning lessons along the way, and then improving my success rate. There's no shortcut to personal experience.
/r/seduction10/05/21 08:07 PM
1

direct. Every. Single. Time
/r/seduction10/05/21 02:22 PM
2

Tactically, your post may be spot on. Developmental wise, in terms of cultivating a healthy mindset and self that will appeal to HIGH quality women, your suggestions are dubious. Each to their own.
/r/seduction09/05/21 01:23 PM
2

I cold approach wherever. Just because I'm in my late 30s, doesn't affect my chances if I don't let it.
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:11 AM
2

because most people overcomplicate 😉
/r/seduction03/05/21 02:41 PM
0

...except when it comes to sex. Thanks for all that, but I wasn't aware I was sitting in a university lecture hall.
/r/seduction03/05/21 01:00 PM
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no one said anything about "barging through", so that's a strawman right there. And on your main comment I disagree: a pandemic or otherwise, 95 per cent of communication is non verbal. Too much permission seeking is a weak trait.
/r/seduction03/05/21 12:30 PM
0

with all due respect, this sounds like advice from a female - overly cautious and permission seeking constantly before proceeding further. A female will most likely be put off by a guy constantly asking for reassurance: "is this ok?" Read her body language and proceed. Don't verbalise as this comes across as weak and needy.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:01 AM
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Lots of negging advice. Also, "my mom also says that" sounds vaguely like you're in a playground rather than a legit come-on. Can only work in a drunk nightclub setting than approaching a girl during the day. More wit needed there, methinks... Some sound advice though, but far too wordy. Show disinterest verbally, escalate non-verbally, is the gist.
/r/seduction03/05/21 06:19 AM
2

Depends where you are at in life, but she sounded like a keeper. You may regret this years later. Speaking for myself, I'm in a relationship with exactly the same type of girl you've described, basically wife material but not terribly exciting personality-wise. A stunner though. She's only 21 and I'm in my late 30s. I'll take that, thank you very much!
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:54 PM
1

I like this. Valuing "me time" is important and often the best strategy to finding the right partner for you and where you are at in life.
/r/seduction02/05/21 05:36 PM
5

Spot on. Text play is overrated and detracts from rather than gives any meaningful value over and above an initial encounter. Just as with real life, presence trumps not being there every time.
/r/seduction02/05/21 05:33 PM
1

I'm not missing the point of anything: if it's the case that you as a guy get hit on a lot, then I would say that's an exception and you must be in the top 10 per cent of guys wherever you are. I'll just leave it at that. Your conversion rate being "better not approaching" sounds dubious when you don't even hold approaching a girl in high regard i.e. there's nothing for you to compare with when you don't approach or approach exceedingly rarely.
/r/seduction01/05/21 05:21 AM
4

"Something else too is that I don’t cold approach. It’s not because I’m afraid to, but looking at it from the other side it is seriously odd for a stranger to start talking to me unless we were in a place suited for that(like a bar or a club)." it's only odd if you think it is or because society has convinced you without your permission. Approaching girls during the day is more conducive to better results as a girl's guard is lower than at a bar, where she expects to be hit on. You just might be…
/r/seduction30/04/21 10:11 PM
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that indicates you've not been learning from your rejections. Every response you receive from a girl you've approached (verbal and non verbal) is a signal of how well you're doing. Always analyse and reflect on your approaches, calibrating the next one based on your previous lot. It's all about utilising your failures as fuel for growth. Think growth mindset.
/r/seduction30/04/21 05:34 PM
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Fair point. But again, ignoring my last point about "needing to improve" (which I still argue you can do if you intuitively know that your approach didn't go as well as you could have presented it in how or what you say, for instance), it does boil down to mindset, rather than being all fatalistic about it. And you can't get empirical evidence for this, as you well know yourself. Incidentally, you may not always get feedback why you were rejected, but your gut can tell you a lot.
/r/seduction29/04/21 05:19 AM
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I never implied that "we have equal potential" to attract females, never mind the hottest kinds. You can't change biology, but you can choose to focus on the things you can control, which can indeed affect your results. You're arguing semantics here by unnecessarily getting preoccupied with the word "chemistry". I'm more interested in the question "what can I do to improve?"
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:27 PM
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Or maybe it's a mindset. The OP seems to have a healthy way of viewing setbacks. You on the other hand...
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:42 PM
2

not necessarily. One example: an extrovert girl welcoming the company of a man she thinks is totally OK but who turns out to be a serial rapist. Extreme? Yep, but enough to break your hypothesis. The world isn't always neatly packaged: sometimes giving other people time and space, too (i.e. not always insisting on mindless chatter or feeling the urge to cover awkward silences), helps a person come out of their shell and for the relationship to flower. Speaking from experience.
/r/seduction25/04/21 06:44 AM
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generally, this kind of advice is not especially helpful and too wishy-washy - when directed at males (who typically have to put themselves out there to get that partner); but for a woman, it's acceptable advice. After all, they are the selectors. They may not find the ideal partner by "being themselves", but they'll find someone Incidentally, I wouldn't advise to ignore male opinion as male-female mating doesn't work that way. Women - sexually, culturally, and whatever other way - have been con…
/r/seduction24/04/21 08:12 PM
1

find better girls that vibe with you. Plenty out there to meet. Stop seeing problems and think of challenges and opportunities to improve
/r/seduction20/04/21 01:49 PM
1

maybe you're not listening to their signals. Try this: open with a compliment. Pause to gauge their reaction. Play on that reaction. Be flirty. Tease. Talk less about yourself and make it about her. Your image will change.
/r/seduction20/04/21 11:49 AM
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it's all in your head, mate. Definitely a perception thing. Just try approaching from scratch. Perhaps keep your social circle tight (don't try anything with the ladies in your friends circle) but game with strangers. You have nothing to lose that way. It's hard work, but you have an advantage with your looks and physique. You just need to develop the charisma and watch your results change.
/r/seduction20/04/21 08:07 AM
1

you're not doing "game" right, mate. If you look like that and your approaching is not getting much results, your strategy is awry (i.e you're not typically ugly). I'd suggest reading more online and self analysing your approaches, writing down what works and what doesn't and correcting or calibrating your approaches based on that information. I'm a skinny average bloke and hell I've bedded a few girls from cold approach (though not loads)
/r/seduction20/04/21 06:09 AM
12

introverted and "socially inferior" aren't the same. Don't make that mistake. I'm introverted and selective.
/r/seduction19/04/21 08:20 PM
1

name-calling is feminine. Tut tut
/r/seduction19/04/21 08:43 AM
0

we aren't living 100 years ago, ergo your point is moot: I believe you know I wasn't contradicting the OP's post (whose points I agree with). Women being straightforward and initiating sex: that is a recent phenomenon imo. Which the OP seems to agree with as a masculine trait. What was that you were saying about calling out BS?
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:53 PM
1

why, may I ask, do you pose this question. Two reasons: you already know the answer but are attempting to pretend you don't to show me up somehow -you genuinely don't think femininity can be nailed down. Which is it?
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:38 PM
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if you are perceiving emotion (how that can be interpreted from my comment is interesting) it's because you're reading into it yourself something not there. I'm sure you'd make the cut for masculinity with those questions.
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:30 PM
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the fact you even need to ask this questions indicates where we are at in society. I suppose gender is a social construct to you lol
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:08 PM
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it's because women are no longer so feminine in the West, and exhibit faux masculine traits. It's not something to celebrate.
/r/seduction18/04/21 04:42 PM
1

I see. I just live in a very urban setting, a "hike" would not be possible in most locations I daygame. Although I do, of course, occasionally get told by girls to "take a hike" 😅
/r/seduction18/04/21 03:15 PM
2

I'm from the UK, so not too sure about the US. Try Viber and Kik. Snapchat is a no no (superficial social media)
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:35 PM
6

her number in your phone instantly gives you her WhatsApp and Telegram. I'm an Android user too 😉
/r/seduction18/04/21 02:28 PM
9

never ask for a girl's fb or insta. Weak beta orbiters do that. A man goes for the number or nothing.
/r/seduction18/04/21 01:44 PM
1

Dating a 40 year old? Either you're a gramps or she's a cougar dtf. Aim younger if you can
/r/seduction18/04/21 12:17 PM
1

"Since I mostly get looks from girl's in their 20s..." I don't see what the issue is with this post, in all honesty. Most guys feel invisible and barely acknowledged. Don't overanalyse and just go for what you're after.
/r/seduction18/04/21 11:38 AM
1

if you don't buy a ticket you can't win the prize, I guess 😄
/r/seduction18/04/21 11:25 AM
7

are you always this fun?
/r/seduction18/04/21 10:22 AM
5

"It would be cool if we went on a hike together. What you say?" - wouldn't work in an urban setting. I suppose a coffee and a stroll would be the order of the day. Hell, why not turn it into an insta date - i.e. a "date" during approaching - and grab a coffee and sit somewhere outdoors? (removes the likelihood of flaky girls who don't get back after the first text)
/r/seduction18/04/21 08:30 AM
1

crucial question: were you sat in a car when you were approached? If not (for example you were outside by the pump or the restaurant), then it makes it more likely. If you were in the car, that man got extremely lucky! (a car is someone's private space, remember).
/r/seduction18/04/21 03:14 AM
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Whilst you're getting the pats on the back for your effort, let me provide a bit of critique (always needed): These situations are lost causes as there's no real opportunity for build up and comfort before the number closing, therefore no genuine chance of getting a number from talk alone. Perhaps just motioning for her to roll down the window and simply slipping a piece of paper with your number on it, and then walking away would show you genuinely don't mind if she gets back to you or not. Tha…
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:12 PM
1

how about talk?
/r/seduction17/04/21 12:47 PM
2

eye contact - fine nod - wtf Just approach and chat. Mask or no mask, if she digs you she won't worry about mask protocol too much.
/r/seduction17/04/21 10:43 AM
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That sounds awkward. You nod at a bloke, not at a girl you don't know. She probably freaked out inside and just reacted lol
/r/seduction17/04/21 09:23 AM
1

Asking constantly for reassurance that the opposite sex likes/loves you. Coming across as though others opinions of you matter greatly.
/r/seduction07/04/21 07:33 AM
3

She bailed on you with (likely) a fake excuse, as she got flustered by the number request. Move on
/r/seduction29/03/21 10:13 AM
1

Great post. Really resonates with me. The only point I have an issue with is the: "maybe you want to be a navy seal or a fighter pilot, etc" You don't need to aim for realistically improbable scenarios to feel like a man. Just aim to be in control of your destiny, and not on someone's payroll.
/r/seduction28/03/21 07:41 AM
1

Use game: be cheeky, flirty, cryptic. Get her interested. Never ask, boring things like how are you. If your first encounter with her in person was great, then the interest in texting from her is set.
/r/seduction27/03/21 08:06 AM
1

Amen to this. I only seldom get signals, I always take the initiative and have banged girls that never gave me an IOI
/r/seduction24/03/21 03:45 PM
1

Nice, resorting to name calling, I see ,when your input isn't congratulated. Move along chap 👋
/r/seduction14/03/21 02:17 PM
1

Finally, a spot on comment. Had plenty more returns in Eastern Europe incidentally, where women appreciate well calibrated approaching whilst still being direct. To be fair, the "Addy A Game" character you're referring to was woefully calibrated in his approaches, though of course doesn't deserve prison time. Final note: I don't often get IOIs but it still pays dividends to approach if you're experienced at it, depending where you are of course lol
/r/seduction14/03/21 01:36 PM
1

No, it really isn't. I'm an experienced "daygamer" with hundreds and hundreds of approaches under my belt, across Europe, so don't need to justify it to myself, though thanks for that; and never have I found the environment in the UK less receptive. It's literally the worst location. Bad responses are not nearly as rare as you think, so I'm talking from experience, unlike many commenters here who actually haven't done daygame in the UK. My advice is move abroad and the rewards are plentiful.
/r/seduction14/03/21 10:11 AM
2

Perhaps. I'd like to share your confidence, but even two years ago approaching in Bristol I got called out by another passerby with "Look A Pick Up Artist!" in derogatory fashion, scuppering my approach. It's certainly a more hostile atmosphere in this country. Think about the BBC documentaries and media coverage about PUAs. This latest news item, however unrelated, won't help.
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:06 AM
1

answer: because women aren't attracted to that. If that's your goal, of course.
/r/seduction07/03/21 04:37 PM
3

" I know romance happen when it happens and you never know when you'll meet "the one." " You need to get rid of this Disney-esque notion of finding that girl. You can either sit on your behind waiting for things to happen, or make them happen. Our biological need as males is to reproduce - which is where our desire for sex stems. To quash that in the fancy search for "romance" will inevitably lead to disappointment. At the moment, your inclination of not quite knowing what you want, matches that…
/r/seduction07/03/21 04:22 PM
4

You have to read the signals, keep the sexual tension but respect her boundaries from the outset. It would have been slow-burn but totally winnable
/r/seduction04/03/21 11:36 AM
0

you're right. It's just you. Nothing wrong with dating younger girls. I'm more attracted to them, naturally. 37 dating a 21 currently ;)
/r/seduction20/02/21 08:14 AM
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