I don't have any game but want to be prepared

-youllneverknow · 2021-03-21T21:31:29+00:00

Read on how to escalate cause if its sex you need to understand there's always something that happens before sex and its usually something you as the guy have to initiate. I'd just say have fun, don't have an end goal enjoy the process, laugh, be physical with her at least, be yourself, you don't want to come across as being ingenuine

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AlwaysLearningWork · 2021-03-22T00:12:19+00:00

Being at the experience level you are at, I'd initially thought I'd give you some largely cold advice, but since you have a month until you're going there, I'll try and give you my best.

Buy and read "Models" by Mark Manson. You will not regret it. It's not a "do it tomorrow" thing, it's a now thing. Buy this book, and read it, and hell read it more than once. It's the single best thing you can do for yourself in your situation, because if it comes to a point where she's starting to consider it, you're gonna need to be ready to snatch that right up.

If you don't do this, I guarentee you however much you've prepared, it's going to crumble. I'm not a Mark Manson alt or anything but I've seen some of my fellow introvert friends with these grand ideas about how they're going seduce girls left and right, but they don't want to read this book (Or any book like it, but this one is probably the best) on understanding attraction.

Second, you two are friends. I'm not saying that's a bad thing. Friends can fuck. And you gotta keep that in mind. But it's important, I reckon, that you two have a good time.

Third, you gotta just shoot your shot, man. Worst case scenario, it'll be a bit awkward, but she knows you well, and probably understands where you're coming from. You will absolutely, decidedly, hate yourself if you don't at least try. It sounds like you're a bit into her, and if that's the case, you gotta stand by that. As for how, it really depends. Do you get a bit drunk and start talking sex? Good, then you can try touching her shoulder lightly and see if you reciprocates or pulls away. Going to bed, dressing down? Ask "Where are we going to sleep?" as if you were expecting to be in the same bed. She asks if you want to fuck? Say yes.

If it happens, I'm sure she'll be the one to lead the interaction. She knows you're a virgin, probably picked up that you're pretty introvert / anxious and she's as you say, dominant and knows her way around men. I can't tell you how it goes, but at some point, you gotta shoot your shot. If that's starting with some low-key flirting or telling her straight up that you find her hot, that depends on the situation and your level of confidence.

Also, your insecurities about your body/tool doesn't matter. I know that really doesn't matter to hear, but the reality is, either she'll be down/into you, or she won't. If she won't, no amount of big dick and 6 foot bundle of muscles will convince. If she is, you could literally be paraplegic and she'd fuck your brains out. There's nothing, whatsoever, good that comes from thinking about it. It's like math: If both sides of the equation are divided by two, you can remove it, because no matter how you look at it, it does not matter in the end. The only thing it will do, is make you more anxious, which you don't want to be. You want to have a good time. And you gotta accept that no matter what, your body is your body, your dick is your dick, and she'll like it or not. There's not changing it, so leave it out.

And another point (They keep coming), and this is important. Say you take your shot. You find that she's receptive to having sex with you. You fuck, maybe you even fuck a few times, and have a good time. Then, you go back home. Now what? I don't know how far away you live from each other. But you GOTTA and I mean GOTTA not get super fixated on this girl, as if she was the love of your life. You gotta detach that feeling from it. Sex is sex. Being comitted to someone through love is something else. And even more, say you get really fixated on this girl. How will you meet someone else? I suppose you'd want to have sex again with someone you have a connection with. Chances are you won't just be able to take monthly trips to bang-heaven like that.

Being very introvert, and a virgin at 24, you still have a lot of youth. You write in your other comment that you may never get the chance of experiencing sex with someone you share a connection with, again. And that's just not true. It's just not the case. For my last point, I just gotta say, the best thing you can do for yourself is get into self-development and working on fixing your insecurities. You'll eventually find yourself in a place where you'll be able to find a girl you have a great connection with, and yes, have sex with and share your soul with.

I used to be pretty introver like you, never thought I'd get a girlfriend or even have sex, but here I am. Probably why I wrote a bloody essay about it. It hits pretty close to home. Probably I'm just rambling, hopefully you'll get some inspiration from it.

So yeah. Read the book. Shoot your shot, but have a good time. However it ends up, take it as a learning oppurtunity. Don't get fixated on this girl. There's plenty more like her out there. Get into self-development and live the life you dream of. We're all rooting for you here.

Aightmandowns0101 · 2021-03-21T22:26:12+00:00

Plan everything + the nervousness and anxiety and you'll see your dick not going up at all. Don't think about it, if it happens let the horny take over the nervousness because if you let it the other way around that dick wont get up at all.

Even then if you guys are friends why are you thinking about fucking her more than meeting her? that's tough.

iamberycteayivehihi · 2021-03-22T01:44:44+00:00

Bro tbh, don’t overthink it, have fun, tell her “aye, im a virgin, I don’t know a lot, so please be comprehensive” you don’t have anything to prove, know your truth and stick to it, and the truth is that you’re inexperienced, nothing wrong with it, be honest, and make sure that you’re having fun and respect the limits that she has

Title	I don't have any game but want to be prepared
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Date	March 21, 2021 9:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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