Hasn’t added me back on Snapchat? Intentional or accidental?

cpfd904 · 2021-04-01T02:39:37+00:00

Just wait. If you see him again, give him a hard time, but be nonchalant. Just have confidence in yourself. If he digs you, he will make it happen. If not, then not worth going after.

letsgetlit2019 · 2021-04-01T16:32:11+00:00

"He said he does, but doesn’t use it much, and gave it to me."

At this point you should have instead asked for his number. You didn't. This sounds like it was a good approach overall, high five for that. However, it seems that your problem here was listening, like you were too caught up in your own thoughts. This is critical because men sometimes say things, and you miss it for whatever reason, and then you wonder whether or not he's interested in you. Next time, be present, listen and react accordingly. (This goes for everyone)

The first thing to know about guys is we're very visual, we make up our mind about whether we want to have sex with you very quickly. (This is important for girls seeking relationships as we want to have sex with our girlfriends too). Men who are used to beauty will make this decision very firmly, so don't waste your time trying to convince them. The average guy makes this decision a bit less firmly, so you have some leeway.

This decision is very hard to change in the moment, but it can be heavily influenced by spending time with us. Some major things you can improve are your appearance (this includes hygiene, scent, fashion sense), your body language, (feminine body language, anything aggressive reminds us of men, and straight men don't like to think about having sex with other men) and your voice - a feminine voice has a calming effect on men, it's like magic, we can't help ourselves and your eye contact. (again feminine version, holding prolonged eye contact with a guy tends to feel like a physical challenge and that's not where you want his mind headed when he's with you, or is it?).

A tip if you are looking for relationships is to wear something sexy, but classy (read: not too revealing). This is because of the Madonna/Whore complex present in many guys. (Not all of us, but most guys) Very basically explained, it means you are either girlfriend material or you're a whore in our eyes, with almost no middle ground. I define it as a failure by men to reconcile the sexual desires of some women (read: promiscuous women) and their mental image of their mother, who they view as innocent, supportive and "good".

This leads to two categories forming in the man's mind, the "good girl" and the "bad girl", through no fault of the girl's own. This attitude is most prevalent in religious and morally puritanical societies or societies that have religious roots (like America). This attitude obviously doesn't follow reality, as people are individuals, and subjective.

In addition, the only way (I've found) for guys to escape the bias is by having experiences with a large number of different women (read: experiences, not necessarily sex) as in actually experiencing a variety of women in real-life. This bias can be most effectively exploited on the first impression, increasing the likelihood of the outcome you want,(sex or relationships) that's why I mentioned it.

Another thing with guys is that we have much less hang ups when it comes to sex or starting a relationship with a stranger. This is because of a number of reasons, but mainly because we rarely feel physically threatened (this can be due to us being intimidated), even more rarely by women. To compound this, we're less likely to be approached by women anyway, and so we don't plan for this. This means that, for the most part, you're pretty much getting our "deer in the headlights" self when you approach a guy. That's just a guideline, though. There are exceptions.

What this means for you is that if you can tailor your approach to be short, honest and straightforward, you'll very likely get an honest response. (again, there are outliers, timewasters and manipulators out there, these are not the majority). The other thing is that guys aren't likely to want to be rude to you, because, we're nice and respect women as a society (except for cases where one or more parents were dysfunctional, or a crazy ex-girlfriend was involved, basically, screen for trauma).

You're also likely getting straight up honesty because, again, guys aren't used to females approaching us, so we don't prepare. Think about this, if a guy had a negative agenda, he would likely approach you, no? This combined means, from a logical stand point, your worst case scenario is likely meeting a "nice guy", who doesn't want to be rude to you. (again, screening is not only for guys, but girls too. Screen out these guys, they're time wasters).

That said, I think he either liked you, but he was either too "lost in the sauce" of being approached by you, in which case, he's currently somewhere kicking himself for fucking up and planning to do something about it (this is why you should've given him your number) or he just genuinely didn't like you that much. (Again, there's little you can do to change this outside of your appearance). Either or. If he contacts you, or sees you IRL, then I think you guys should clear that up then, otherwise, just move on. (Not because he's lower value than you or anything, just that the grape is at least logically, not worth the squeeze.)

Eklio · 2021-04-01T05:24:24+00:00

My guess would be not interested, if he was he'd make the effort to add you back. This has happened to me plenty of times (granted I'm a guy going for girls). People are just shitty and won't say their true feelings a lot of the time. Hell I've had a girl add me back on snap and then never read my message.

But I applaud you for being a girl that initiates something, that's respectable and you don't see it often. Plenty more people to go for.

Say_SR007 · 2021-04-01T07:17:48+00:00

12 hours!! I'm sorry to say that I strongly believe it’s intentional. move on. forget about it. don’t take it on your ego. very little but still there's chance, maybe he was really busy. if he adds you back you can ask it for yourself and then take decision.

Title	Hasn’t added me back on Snapchat? Intentional or accidental?
Author	bipbiplachuga
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	April 1, 2021 2:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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