Hello,
My ex had BPD, to the point she became completely delusional after smoking weed, it lasted 1 year. I had to left with my son.
I'm a teacher at a nursing school we teach for nursing students between 18 and 35 years old. I also teach some training for already graduated nurses.
3 months ago I had to teach at one of those trainings, the course lasted for 2 weeks. And immediately a girl was really into me, I felt it, looked at me etc..
One evening as I had sent a mail for their assignment, she replied something related to the course and asked some open questions and we started to chat.
Weeks after weeks I see this girl is brilliant, kind, strong morals, shy, has values etc... she is also one of the most beautiful girl I've ever seen ( she has low self esteem and thinks she's random).
She is really into me but I have a weird gut feeling. She told me that before having that style : she wears A LOT of makeup, perfume and dresses really elegant and sexy she was more roots with green hair, blue hair, piercings etc...
She is 25 and only looking for older guys.
She graduated last year. And this week we had a discussion when she suddenly had to confess something : she told me that she was in couple with one of my colleague for 6 months last year.
Apparently when she broke up with her ex, he saw her sad and took advantage (?) of the situation, gave her his number to help her to get better. Of course my colleague is in couple, since 10 years, has a 4 year old son.
During the whole relationship he told her he will leave his wife, that he already is breaking up with her... etc ... Of course he never left.
She felt used... sic
Would you mind to work with an ex of your SO ?
What does her behavior mean ? Why does she always look after guys with kids, in couple (I was in couple but breaking up when we met), teachers ?
Its a weird behavior for a young 25 years old that doesn't fit to the classical 25 years model...
I'm lost ...