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deerstfu/r/askMRP30/06/23 03:39 PM
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deerstfu/r/askMRP16/11/22 08:03 PM
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Fair enough. I'll check back when you have some momentum. I suspect that mission you wrote will change before you actually get your shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/26 04:43 PM
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The worse part...she's not even wrong about me being unambitious. I have a sales job, which I've had for over a decade now, which I hate. I'm not a sales-y guy, so I find it difficult to try harder because it feels inauthentic. I get by at work on vibes alone. I'm generally useful and likeable, and I'm on 100% commission, so there's no reason to get rid of me. I also have a crippling procrastination habit, which has plagued me since the 6th grade. I know exactly what I need to do to unfuck my li…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/26 07:40 PM
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Use a calorie tracker and hold yourself to it. Even if you break your diet goals, just keep tracking. Put in the ice cream, the booze, whatever. Doesn't have to be perfect, just best guess. It will help you understand how much you're eating and give you a chance to think it over.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 01:34 PM
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You got told to stfu twice which is good advice. But, in the mean time, you can still work on your responses. I know you've read about categories of response to shit tests, e.g., agree and amplify, amused mastery. So you're thinking there's some correct answer, some perfect response that fits in box. Which may be hard to find in the moment. But, in reality, the whole point is just to demonstrate you aren't bothered and move the conversation where you want it. This is easier to pull off when you …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 01:47 PM
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Fair enough on going ahead and having fun with your kids regardless. But my larger point is to look for ways to guard your time deliberately and not let her, and specifically the possibility of sex with her, determine your schedule.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 07:37 PM
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What was damaged? Who did the damage? How?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 03:01 PM
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So can you answer your own question yet? How does the goal "alpha-buddha, independence" conflict with managing your wife's emotions for her?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/26 11:43 AM
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Do you consider your wife's emotions to be internal or external?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/26 02:41 PM
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What does being "alpha buddha, independent" mean to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 07:39 PM
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Regain alpha-buddha, independence Do something about whatever happened last night Can you see how these goals might conflict with each other?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 03:43 PM
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One thing to think about, what if you had plans over the weekend while your wife was recovering from her hangover on the couch? Seems like a good time for them. Some hair loss stuff arrived this week. So far I’m avoiding Finasteride but I’ve got pretty much everything else. Finasteride is the only hair loss product that actually works. Reverses hair loss and continues to maintain it. The rest is just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Minoxidil for example will give you a temporary improvem…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 11:27 AM
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Also, I read a post about shit tests vs bitchiness, and it resonated for sure. Sometimes it just seems like bitchiness, not like I'm being set up to knock the ball out of the park. It's not always obvious and in the end it doesn't really matter. Either way, you can try to pass with AM or AA or whatever you want. When it becomes clear she is just being a bitch, you can always nuke and end your participation in the conversation. The important part is demonstrating that it doesn't bother you. When …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/26 10:30 PM
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Ok, you've given me the sense that your attention is a low value commodity, but maybe not completely worthless. If you haven't read this, I highly recommend it for understanding dread: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/374wln/what_we_talk_about_when_we_talk_about_dread_13/ At this stage, y ou need to work on guarding your time and attention and treating them like the valuable commodity they are. So, with your wife fully disinterested in your game and sex on a slow drip, you should…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/26 02:35 PM
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Me: And, conversely, do you think your wife values and wants your attention? You: I do believe she values me. I didn't ask if she valued you. Of course she does. You make 7 figures and help manage a household with her. I asked if she values your attention. As in: Asks your opinion on decisions and craves your approval. Would choose a vacation with you (no kids) over one without you. Gives up on her own plans to spend time with you unprompted. Hovers around you at home just to talk. Texts you mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/26 02:30 PM
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Assuming sex was entirely off the table, would you actually want to hang out with your wife at night? Is it fun for you, something you would choose over being alone or going out with friends? And, conversely, do you think your wife values and wants your attention?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/26 08:14 PM
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I was on a good way to overcoming my ego and just focusing on myself but all the work seems for nothing. I’ll have to begin again from the start. What the fuck does this sentence even mean? Why would you have to overcome your ego to focus on yourself? If you were "a good way" on, why would you have to restart? Are you just combining phrases you've seen on red pill at random? And then you conclude with absolutely nothing concrete about what you're actually going to do about it. Because you haven'…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 02:56 PM
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Ha, he's not calling her the lesbian
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 02:41 PM
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You mention being told off when you kissed your wife, PMS, shark week stopping sex. What do you do when your wife doesn't play nice? Have you read sex god method yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 02:38 PM
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I’m not afraid to disagree with HOA either. No disrespect, the guy obviously knows his shit and has been to hell and back in his own right. I’m not trying to say I know better. But I am not willing to take full radical ownership of all my ex wife’s mental health issues. And you don't have to. Horns shares a mindset that worked for him and is valuable for men who use the nature of their wives to excuse their own sucking as an ego guard. I just read that line and thought maybe you were taking him …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/26 02:44 PM
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On waffling about leaving your bipolar wife: Don't look for answers from the guys here. You know your situation. You're right that your life will look different and your relationship will look different after you put in the work. But no one knows if that difference is going to work for you. And no rule says you can't change your mind. More than once even. You're your own judge. Aside from red pill, I have a bipolar parent and work in neuropsychiatry. Some people get better, some don't. If you've…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 06:52 PM
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By dancing monkey do you mean that I'm too focused on my performance and her reaction to it? Almost right, except the words "too focused" suggests you should be focused on your performance and her reaction at all. I'm planning on spending the next three months rest of my life focusing on myself without mind to her perception of my progress Fixed it
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:21 PM
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I've tried adding distance to enable passive dread - showing less interest in her and more in my mission, but I must be doing it horribly because it always ends up being a failed comfort test. She never responds with desire, only emotional plees for attention or "spending time together" platonically. I'm not at the point where I'm ready to go out and meet other women, and I don't think she'd respond well to that either. Definition of dancing monkey, and you're oblivious to it. Suggests you did n…
/r/askMRP28/05/26 05:14 PM
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P.S. If one of the MODS can remove the "Masturbation Addicts....". It's been a while and don't see a purpose. This made me laugh out loud. Thank you for that. Are you still in masturbation addicts anonymous? Are you still masturbating? Could be good reasons to keep the tag. Also, maybe they'll remove the tag when you've finished the sidebar? Maybe when you've taken your lifting and diet seriously? Maybe when you finally start applying game and getting laid? You've had 8 months plus however long …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/26 01:23 PM
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If I told chatgpt to troll askmrp, I'm pretty sure it would generate your last two posts here. Start with steel's guide in the r/marriedredpill sidebar. Read all the links as you go.
/r/askMRP10/05/26 02:07 AM
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Then the advice above stands. Don't take it too seriously. Figure out what makes you happy and go after it. Redpill is a guide for understanding what builds attraction and what to expect from women. Use it for that. Set your own vision for what you want out of life independently. The people here can't help you with that.
/r/askMRP09/05/26 11:07 PM
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What country are you in?
/r/askMRP09/05/26 08:51 PM
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Lots of places for "life questions". Fuck you for proselytizing here.
/r/askMRP09/05/26 07:17 PM
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Top comment is to do low grade cardio, become a baptist and avoid women. On a red pill sub. Tells you all you need to know about the quality of advice you can expect from r/askmrp.
/r/askMRP09/05/26 03:00 PM
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Read the r/theredpill sidebar. From the r/marriedredpill sidebar, I'd say the books are all still useful even for someone outside a relationship, with the athol kay books the least useful. While you read, remember to use your filter. You're smart enough to get into medical school, so hopefully you can sort through the bullshit. There are a lot of grifters in the red pill space in addition to the well-meaning idiots who apply their own biases. If someone wants to sell you something, that's a red …
/r/askMRP09/05/26 02:39 PM
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When you consumed the sidebar, did you ever read the rational male year one?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/26 02:33 PM
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This is all some messy shit but at least you got out. My take from following along is this girl was for the streets all along, but we're all internet strangers and you had to figure this out on your own. I think your biggest take away from the whole experience should be this: manage the birth control and don't accidentally get another girl pregnant. You read practical female psychology yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/26 02:17 PM
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You can do that with a platonic friend or family member. Is that really the main thing you want out of a woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/26 11:37 AM
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How did you catch your wife's affair?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/26 11:39 AM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/therationalmale.com/2012/08/27/girls-night-out/comment-page-2/amp/ You ever read this? How would you apply it to your situation? Edit: and, for the love of God, while you think things over, STFU already. Everything you post sounds like digging a deeper unattractive beta hole for yourself assuming you're not planning on just nexting her tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/26 01:53 PM
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Why do you want to be in a LTR?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 06:07 PM
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What have you learned from the rational male so far? How does it apply to you and your LTR?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 01:43 PM
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Yes. MAP is geared towards men with families. You don't have a family. I would recommend the entire red pill sidebar before MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 11:43 AM
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Are you asking me to tell you what your world view is? At any rate, "Sapiens" and the follow up books are excellent for discussing why the world is how it is.
/r/askMRP21/03/26 05:07 AM
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Fair enough. I'm just not so sure any of it matters (short of not eating paint with sexual assault). I suspect this guy can't win until there's dread, then the problem solves itself. And I knows there's plenty of room for more dread since he's posting leg press numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/26 11:34 PM
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You read the rational male year 1 yet? You're just dating, I think that's the most helpful thing in the sidebar for you getting your head straight. You really need to understand that book.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 08:53 PM
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I dunno, I don't think this guy was getting a blowjob short of rape.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 02:33 PM
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"MRP basics for beginners. This the sub where you can ask basic questions and we'll call you a cuck and stop the conversation." Shit, I just realized you're just still mad about your post asking for gift advice where you got called a cuck. You're fragile. Case and point: Google Self-Censorship Telling people to Google simple concepts is the high and mighty bitch way of trying to dunk on a retard. I'm over here talking to you civilized and catching strays. Fuck off. You only control yourself. Red…
/r/askMRP10/03/26 01:26 PM
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So, I've seen you around a while. I remember you had a nice returning to red pill post where you summed up what you learned. Nothing new, but good summary, seemed genuine and personal. Warmly received. And then you've posted to askmrp some and gotten good feedback. I don't really understand what more you want. Do you wish you got a different response? What response were you looking for? Are you asking the MRP moderators to kick people out for talking shit? Do you think the guys deterred by shit …
/r/askMRP07/03/26 02:11 AM
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I could tell she wasn’t into it, and made some comment, to which she replied “it’s fine.” I went caveman until I finished. But now I’m second guessing that move. Good sex is my responsibility and I shouldn’t tolerate that. Next time I’m going to say something like, “I can tell you aren’t into this” and disengage Never make it about her. Always make it about you. As horns said "this isn't working for me." She can argue whether she's into it, or whether you should care. Out loud and in her own hea…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 04:38 PM
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You're bullshitting yourself and bullshitting strangers on the internet. But, whatever, advice is the same. Read the sidebar at marriedredpill. Start with steel's guide, read all the links as you go. Shut up and lift while you read. Own your shit weekly. For now, around the house, play nice and learn to control your temper. Talk to a lawyer. There's divorce prep advice in the sidebar. Whatever you do, you need to be ready for divorce since she has put it on the table.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 05:23 PM
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It's up to you if you need the split. When do you plan on moving back/what's your criteria?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/26 02:52 PM
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This place used to have a 12 stages of dread thing with ultimatums. That's where your steps 3 through 7 are coming from. It's dumb. This is better: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/tje76d/the_three_stages_of_dread/ Use the MAP to work on yourself. Fix all the reds and yellows, then see where you are. Why are you in a separate room?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 12:54 PM
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You gave me a bullshit answer and ignored the followup. Whatever. You're clueless enough that this is pointless. My advice: pretend you didn't lurk and read MRP already. try to start fresh, reading carefully and using a system. Start with steel's guide, reading all the links. threekindsoflucky's posts would be particularly good for you too. For the record, Im absolutely not telling you whether or not to divorce your wife. That's something you have to figure out for yourself. Like everything else…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/26 01:27 AM
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Seriously, what are you doing here? I want to understand and you couldn't give me a coherent answer when I asked last week. For this oys, you ran at a mediocre pace and thought about divorcing your wife. You mentioned you lack self control. Cool. What does this have to do with MRP? What did you read? What are you trying to understand? What did you learn from this place and how are you applying it?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 06:42 PM
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Not to say there's no where to go physically, you have a mirror and know for yourself. But you're not in terrible shape.which means you're going to have to work more on the mental side. You've got a girl reading smut and jumping your bones periodically, so she already knows how to prime herself. You're stepping on your own dick somehow, you just need to figure it out. When you own your shit next week, go through what you've read and what you've learned systematically. Try to figure out what you'…
/r/askMRP12/02/26 02:29 PM
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I could have posted something a bit like this before I found red pill. What made things get better? Being more attractive. Great news, that's what this place teaches. Start with steel's guide and all the links. Shut up, read and lift heavy. Own your shit weekly on marriedredpill. Your story is so common it could be written by chatgpt. Lurking doesn't get things done. Most lurkers fundamentally don't get it, perhaps get some limited benefit and then spend years spinning in place. For now, though,…
/r/askMRP11/02/26 04:52 PM
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Did you want to fuck at the time when she put her head on your lap? How do you want her to initiate?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/26 06:13 PM
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Sounds like in summary you tried being more assertive and doing things that were uncomfortable and it went well. Good for you. Lean into that. one night my wife laid her head on the corner of my lap and fell asleep. I fell asleep shortly after and in the morning she was annoyed that I didn’t notice her initiating. I interpret this as just her shit testing me or something potentially. How did you respond? How do you wish you had responded?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 06:58 PM
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You've got to decide for yourself what's worth doing. I'm just suggesting you audit how you spend your time and make a conscious decision about what you actually want to be doing instead of just letting it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 02:30 PM
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General rule of thumb is to use a belt when you squat over your body weight. Same with deadlift. You're tall and probably long so your bench is always going to lag. Just keep pushing the weight. Consider that the escapism through porn, texting exes, etc. is probably represented in other areas of your life. There are lots of ways to get dopamine hits and waste time. Your wife can decide if she wants to reach out to friends or play a sport or whatever. What do you want to do? Do that. Invite your …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 01:52 AM
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Still early. Keep that focus on you, how you want to be and how you want to manage your life. Stop trying to manipulate your wife. Use the time you are spending on that bullshit to read faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/26 12:37 AM
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Remove your lady and your interactions with her from the equation. What is the gap between who you are now and your ideal self?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 04:35 PM
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Why does MRP seem like the best place to go to work towards your goals, better your marriage and make you a better and happier person in general?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 02:56 PM
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There are lots of venues for self improvement and ways to track your goals. Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 03:21 PM
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Go after this systematically. Start with Steel's guide, reading the links as you go. If you don't have a system, this place isn't particularly helpful given all the noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/26 03:38 PM
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How do you define "feminist?"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:09 PM
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Good to hear you're making progress. Remember, the purpose of not focusing the on her is not (just) because she is not the problem. It's because, ultimately, in the pursuit of becoming your best self, she doesn't matter. And thinking about her just complicates things and gets in the way.
/r/askMRP15/01/26 10:07 PM
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Man, you started oys 4 months ago and had been "lurking for quite a while" at that time. You're 27 with no kids. You should be doing a speed run through the red pill side bar. Instead you're still reading wisnifg and grappling with guilt on whether to end your LTR. Thinking about marrying a girl when your sex life already sucks. Worrying about wasting HER time. Have you read any of the red pill sidebar? E.g. book of pook, red pill year 1?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/26 02:23 PM
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Finished NMMNG last week. While reading it I didn’t connect with it much. The example characters were total wimps. I don’t feel like I have a problem saying no to things, or prioritising myself. The only real takeaway was the stuff about covert contracts, but that IS a big deal so that alone was worth the read. Nobody owes me anything, even if I do a lot for them. And if they don’t give me what I want in return, then I shouldn’t worry about doing shit for them in the future. So your only takeawa…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 02:33 PM
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I almost only initiate at night after the kids have gone to sleep which I get is a problem. I’m going to search the forum and try to find where this has been asked and answered to look for new things to try but any advice on this is welcomed. If you can get off quickly, it's as simple as finding a private moment and initiating, then pushing past LMR. If you're looking to go for a while, then you have to plan. Use your money to solve the problem. Have someone else watch your kids, set up private …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 02:23 PM
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Sex: no sex Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 01:58 PM
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So, your wife is still pining after a guy she (presumably) hasn't fucked since highschool who just got a DUI in his late 30s. Rough. I get the sense sex has been a gift your wife gives you for the entire relationship. You're making anger spreadsheets and worrying about this and that detail of what you said or did with your wife. But... Honestly, I think you would solve a lot of your problems by getting strong and figuring out how to fuck. If the anger keeps you lifting and on track with your die…
/r/askMRP11/01/26 06:30 PM
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Frame, game and looks. In that order. Being fit is the minimum. The guys who get fit will likely figure out the rest. The guys who can't are unlikely to do so. If they had frame, they could get fit. My proof for this is that plenty of guys show up here fit already. They might attract some women just off of physical attractiveness, but that's not going to be sufficient long-term. There are plenty of guys who are pussy magnets but get fucked over in every relationship because they don't hold frame…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 04:59 PM
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Well, I have some opinions. I don't think this place is inactive. I see a lot of views, 100s, even for comment replies on oys. So my perception is there are a lot of lurkers but people are afraid to post. One reason is fear of being doxxed off of details. Another is fear of response from members in the community. But, I think there is a bigger reason posts are down. MRP gives a lot of great information. The highest value of Red Pill, to me, is that people started looking at intersexual dynamics …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 03:38 PM
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Looks like you're getting something from this place. Early days still. Just read through your posts. Few thoughts: 1) ignore the moralizers. This place is for sexual strategy. If you see as advice that doesn't remotely relate to getting pussy, at least distantly, recognize it's the same moralistic bullshit you could find anywhere else on reddit or in the real world. You don't have to be immoral, but it's best to recognize where subjective morality is getting in the way of your goals and recogniz…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 04:00 PM
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Genuine question: what do you think red pill is?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 02:37 PM
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Thursday morning I was walking through Central Park and thinking about how this entire trip I just felt like I wasn’t a very attractive person. I recognized this entire trip I have had covert contracts and had been scanning for IOIs from strangers and female colleagues. That afternoon I took the subway to lower Manhattan and then went to the top of the WTC observatory. I stayed up there for almost 2 hours, watching the sunset, journalling and contemplating. Why do I still feel so inadequate afte…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 09:31 PM
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It's veering off red pill and into, "how did you handle your specific life circumstances." In general, you need to consider what you want in your life (e.g. clean house, well cared for kids, saving sufficient money, working out, etc.) and then you recognize what it takes to make that happen. MMSLP and the follow-up, MAP, go into the process of figuring this out item by item. For my own life dealing with postpartum period, for my last kid since finding mrp, I recognized my wife had no real inclin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/25 06:42 PM
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You're thinking of this guy: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7izxf4/the_shame_and_frustration_of_a_fat_wife_after_red/ He is not a success story. Read steel's comments which nail him. Same problems at home as this guy, just further down the line. At some point you have to take charge. This is a hazard of the reading through old MRP posts. We're still on reddit. Stupid shit gets up voted, people's opinions come from their asses, and it's up to you to try to dig through and figure…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/25 06:09 PM
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Ok, makes way more sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 07:57 PM
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So, disregard the rest of this if you just want to bounce from the relationship. It's all assuming you want to give it a shot with your wife and you want to stay in your kids' lives. So, it's now coming out how young your kids are. Damn, you described them as 'well behaved' in an earlier oys response. That's an insane way to describe a baby. Suggests you're absolutely clueless. Look, none of us knows your life. This place is red pill first, learning what's attractive and how to act accordingly. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 06:55 PM
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When did MMSLP become advanced? Dude, it's so basic it's in the prereqs. What exactly do you think this guy should be reading so he can "man up, and step up, and be a good father/partner?"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 06:57 PM
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If you honestly think your wife would just let your kids die if you didn't step in, then you've got bigger problems than red pill can solve. She's either an unredeemable cunt or mentally ill. Either way, you'd need to step up and figure that out. But I'm pretty sure this is just more nice guy bullshit excuse making. I'm not a puppet master and my life is not your life, but I think there's value in having an example of what another guy did, and you answered my questions so I'll answer yours: How …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/25 05:00 PM
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Then why are you up with the kid?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/25 10:51 PM
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She work?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/25 09:55 PM
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I DEER hard- needed to pass some comfort tests. This line makes me think you're trolling. If not, read the sidebar at marriedredpill. Start with steels guide, don't skip the links as you go. In the meantime, lift, stfu and own your shit on Tuesdays. Talk about what you've read so you check your understanding. Since you seem to have read enough to use red pill terms but fundamentally do not understand them. What would you do in my situation? I would not be with a woman who hit me. Possibly I coul…
/r/askMRP12/12/25 09:41 PM
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Social?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 08:19 PM
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This is a lot of hamstring about your wife and how you fit into her world. When you catch yourself thinking deep thoughts about how your wife thinks, slap yourself until you stop. This is day 1 stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 07:23 PM
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Whatever you say. I know there's more wrong than your social life. Dudes with their shit together aren't in situationships with two babies, scrolling tinder while their ladies swear at them. You'll get a lot more from this place if you drop your ego, assume you're a retard with no frame and build back up like you know nothing. Edit: and oys on tuesday
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/25 04:05 PM
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I suppose I can't tell for sure because your oys is mostly about things that relate to your wife, but Im pretty sure the rest of your life isn't well run either. Because you're a guy who just let's things happen to him. I think you would get a lot more out of focusing on a MAP and pretending your wife is dead. Get into the details, for yourself. Make it concrete. Make SMART goals so you know if you succeded or failed. Rian Stone youtube summaries of nmmng and mmslp might make things finally clic…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 04:16 PM
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Yeah, you're in the right place. Own your shit on Tuesdays.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 12:39 PM
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Damn, bummed to see this after the long absence. I was developing an eating disorder trying to impress people here. Dude, you already had an eating disorder. You dont get over 300 pounds without one. Guys here hammer you on your weight and you think, "hey, that's not fair, what about all the other great stuff im doing?" It's not "just" the weight. It's what it means. Mental illness and a lack of self control. I know the rest of your post is full of shit because to gain 15 pounds in 6 months when…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 03:03 PM
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Vasectomy doesn't affect testosterone. There isn't a good mechanistic reason that blocking sperm outlet would lower testosterone and also people have checked anyways. There are studies. But dudes do tend to get vasectomies at an age when testosterone can start to drop. So i'm sure there's a correlation if you dont control for age. Not causation. My main takeaway from your interaction is that you should find a different clinic, because the provider is dumb enough not to have already studied and k…
/r/askMRP19/11/25 03:43 PM
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You will live the worst life you are willing to tolerate. Or the best life you can strive for. Adjusting what you tolerate (from yourself first, others second) is an angle for improvement. Setting basic standards. You should have them. But it's not a mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 04:24 PM
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If you're going to live together, id make sure you have a setup where its easy to get out without too much notice.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/25 04:41 PM
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The past 2 days I've been smoking a lot of weed and tobacco by bumming cigarettes and also rolling spliffs with loose tobacco and flower. Using this to cope and escape - I know this isn't the healthiest and I'm being a bitch about it. I'm just allowing the process to naturally occur, but I'm probably also over-indulging in the vices. This shit is where your entire focus should be. Getting rid of your vices. Gaining control of yourself. None of the rest of your OYS matters. What's your plan? As a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 06:46 PM
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Whatever the sport a torn hamstring and bicep now, it’s really chewed you up. Are you going to continue it? I’d likely ditch deadlifts longterm. RDLs maybe a safer hamstring hypertrophy movement in the distant future, but machine movements are likely significantly safer and can yield great results. Yeah, im going to continue it. I'm good at it and I fucking love it. It's my biggest motivator to train too. And the last couple injuries had nothing to do with it. Like I said, freak accident. Same w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 05:40 PM
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What is the difference between with kids and kid-free, does she get very stressed around them? Yeah, its all stress driven. No stress, no conflict. I wouldn't say its just the kids. But when we are kid-free there are no stressor. Also, you said she walked all over you in public, does she do that with other people (waiters, her boss, taxi drivers,...) or is it only with you? Just me. But the in public part is rare. Thats why the incident stood out. Essentially, she fucked up, and I think attackin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 08:59 PM
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I'm happy for you and anyone who gets something out of MRP. Take what helps you. If it works for you, it works for you. And I'm not some trp/mrp guru. But it's right there in the sidebar. The red pill is sexual strategy. It's understanding what makes women wet without applying morality and dogma. Then acting accordingly. A woman who is with you long term will see through your bullshit, so self improvement becomes an especially big part of MRP. But, I think acting like that is the whole point mis…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 04:43 PM
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Some good points. Too many of you bearing too much shit for some reason. Why did you like your wife or are you more invested in the kids? I hear this. I agree a lot of guys here would be better off without their wives (and their wives might be better off too). But, I'll say, my oys focuses on what im working on and not the good times. And it's not an ode to my wifes positive qualities. Without going into too much detail, I still like her and have fun with her most of the time. When I get kid-fre…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 04:14 PM
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(continued) But, as I said, I got injured. I was limited on my dominant hand and leg for a long time before finally having surgery and it had an effect. I don’t feel or look as strong. Limited in what I can do around the house, how I have sex. Objectively less attractive. I always get tested extra hard at my weakest and this time wasn’t an exception. But, I eventually wrapped my head around it and I ignored words and watched actions. And I got the help I needed and said, “thanks.” And then I ste…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:32 PM
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OYS #41 Stats: 39 yo, 6’4”, 220 lbs, married, together 19 years, 3 kids – 1, 4, &7. Lifts: Disabled So, it’s been almost a year since my last OYS. A lot has happened since then. I still thought about MRP, but slowly let myself live more naturally and found myself coming here less and less. And, while there were ups and downs, the overall trend was towards a better and better life. Honestly, writing frequent OYS’s, I recognized that I would change my perspective significantly given enough time. H…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:32 PM
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Mmslp is the dumbest book in the sidebar. It's value is in its comprehensiveness and simplicity. Where it disagrees with Rollo, go with Rollo. Mateguarding is for low value men. If she wants to fuck around, she will.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 08:17 PM
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Ha, what do you think red pill is? Like a men's self help group for being a strong man? Red pill is sexual strategy. It's not about one woman (her, as op said). But it's literally about getting women.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/25 06:45 PM
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Good on you still owning your shit. Your oys and feedback resonates with me. I need to post again. I'm dealing with some similar challenges so feel free to tell me to fuck off if I'm projecting, but: I always got the sense from your oys that you don't particularly like your wife. You've mastered yourself and you want her to step up and meet your expectations. Whether she can or can't, she hasn't, and it frustrates you. And I'm sure she feels that. But, you also say that she is already essentiall…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 09:39 PM
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What makes you think you have advice worth giving?
/r/askMRP25/10/25 11:47 PM
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so maybe if its provided in the form of a metaphor or riddle I can mentally wrestle with it and truly understand the frickin point. I can't tell if this is a joke. Don't overthink and overrationalize. But do make a plan and stick to it. With goals that you follow up on. They call them "MAPs" around here. You've probably heard of them. The first most important parts of every MAP are to shut up (especially stop DEERing, which you can tell by my name I thought was particularly important), lift and …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 08:33 PM
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This was upsetting to read. I don't believe you've actually read anything, or maybe you just instantly forgot it. Blarg wrote you a nice novel that is excelent but i suspect will go over your head since youre months deep and still posting this nonsense. so I'll try to be brief in hopes something makes it through. Work more on being attractive, less on managing your wife. Actions not words. Burn twotsm and forget it the best you can. Reconsider reading when you look in the mirror and like what yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 06:40 PM
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Your "boundary" is essentially that you want her to be more into you and spend more time with you. Of course, she already knows she has been blowing you off. When it comes down to it, you are negotiating desire. The prize doesn't have to convince women to spend time with him. As a general rule, enforcing boundaries shows strength while stating boundaries that are obvious shows weakness. You really should read the rational male.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 02:52 PM
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What exactly are the boundaries you laid out?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/25 04:06 PM
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Jesus, you see this woman once a week or less. Quit consuming marriage content. Read the rational male year one already.
/r/askMRP25/06/25 06:50 PM
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You got plenty of good advice re covert contracts and in general for if you're full of shit but I'll try to give you the benefit of the doubt and help with what you actually asked for. The core issue may be a madonna/whore complex. You had hot sex before, but thought you had to treat this girl differently since you were settling down. You let sex suck, and now you can't change it and you feel stuck. She may have come in the same way, feeling like she can't be too slutty or you'll lose respect fo…
/r/askMRP25/06/25 03:14 AM
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Read the rational male year one. If you've already read it, read it again, but slower.
/r/askMRP19/06/25 06:30 PM
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Go ahead and finish rational male.
/r/askMRP07/06/25 07:26 PM
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I think you should really consider how you would spend your time if your wife was dead. What you would do for work. What you would do for fun. How you would manage your kids and responsibilities that are important to you. Then consider what's preventing you from living that way right now. The likely answer is "nothing except for you think it might make your wife mad and you might look like the bad guy." And the obvious next step is that you go ahead and live that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 06:43 PM
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Are you currently employed? What do you do with your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 06:01 PM
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Early days. Take a deep breath and focus on shutting up, lifting and reading the sidebar. Your girl wants to keep you happy. She's even offering apology blow jobs. You just don't make her horny. She doesn't control that. You do. Focus that anger on yourself and use it to put in work.
/r/askMRP19/05/25 08:29 PM
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Things I say are being taken and misinterpreted as personal attacks, and while I don’t typically give a shit about this it’s being blown up to the nth degree. We’re talking splitting up and coparenting, which has never been on the table. This is a shit test that you failed, probably by Deering, so it escalated. When this happened, and it was truly out of the blue, I put a 75% likelihood it was hormonal bullshit on it went to the driving range and ignored her. Turns out I was right and she’s now …
/r/askMRP19/05/25 03:41 PM
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This is week one basics. I see you've been lurking for quite a while and you said this was a "reminder". Consider that you are not absorbing the information and need to use a different tactic. People have difficulty learning through passive consumption. Own your shit on r/marriedredpill, talk about what you're learning as you learn it, and you will find it sticks much better.
/r/askMRP09/05/25 04:36 PM
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Yes. These are shit tests. Read the sidebar, starting with steel's guide and all the links. Do as the sidebar says. Pass shit tests and be attractive.
/r/askMRP08/05/25 06:13 PM
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Well, your response fits better with my experience of reality than what I've read. Which is why I'm here; to get notes from dudes who aren't giving prescriptive advice about how they think the world "should" be. So, larping or not, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/25 07:51 PM
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Yeah, that makes sense. The other big part of the game is that (and this is probably true for most women with careers) I'm dealing with a conscious brain that says, "I'm a strong independent woman who is co-equal and needs to be treated right! Im no slut!" while the unconscious brain wants to be dominated and used. I'm having a good time exploiting this during sex. Saying and doing dirty dirty shit. And i get a "thank you" after. But, none of this plays out like what I've read on dominance and b…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/25 06:42 PM
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Thanks for posting this, I'd like to see more of this stuff around here. I've been pushing into bdsm and finally read "the loving dominant" but had a lot of ups and downs, trial and error. I definitely had some misconceptions and stepped on my own dick before reading that book (and since). But also had a lot of fun. I definitely had difficulty wrapping my head around what horns said in his comment: If you're doing it right, it's all for her Which is true, but difficult to rationalize and deal wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/25 05:10 PM
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This is the most coherent oys so far. The main problem with dating apps is that you're likely to get caught with nor realistic deniability and so it's not worth it just for "catch and release". Better to meet people and practice flirting in real life. So good for you doing that. I never dealt with a dead bedroom or persistently sleeping separately. So maybe someone else who came here in a situation like yours can speak to this better. But, my wife has attempted sexual manipulation (e.g. im not h…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 07:39 PM
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On lifting, just post what your highest weights were with reps for the last week. It makes it clear enough what kind of progress youre making. You're 43, don't need to try to one rep max and hurt yourself. Good on you not reading off a list of demands. Keep up the stfu and keep reading, lifting and focusing on yourself. I'd recommend discussing what you read, whether you think it makes sense and why, and how you've applied it. Makes you learn it better and you can get insight from some guys here…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 02:41 PM
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That's hard. For anyone. I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I've had a kid in the icu for over a month and got a small taste, but nothing like this. Still, it's your life. However terrible the hand you're dealt, you have to deal with it all the same. It sounds like you feel out of control, like you have been given a pile of obligations that youre doing your best to meet but no one is giving you credit for doing a good job. And it's causing growing resentment. But, how you feel and what you do are…
/r/askMRP24/04/25 02:41 PM
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So I just STFU and gave her some comfort. Does this mean you had sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 02:11 PM
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So, thought this might happen. Look at what you wrote. Every bit of it is about how you will treat your wife. Can you rewrite each bullet as something you change about yourself without mentioning your wife? After that, are these traits you actually want to embody for yourself, or are they just things you think your wife will like?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 11:55 PM
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What's your plan for moving back into your room and fucking your wife again? Specifically. Not vaguely (e.g. I'll have frame and not be a nice guy!).
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 04:43 PM
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I have a theory that has been consistently correct. Which is that, when someone generally has their shit together and is fit, but sex is inexplicably at or near 0, there is always an elephant in the room. Something they're not saying, either out of embarrassment, denial or ignorance. Some examples: You hit her. You hit a kid. You lost your savings. One or both of you has an addiction or significant mental illness. She is having an affair and has set up a smoke screen so she can avoid fucking you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 02:45 PM
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I don't understand what is going on. What is this "trust" stuff about? Something specific that you did or didn't do? When is the last time you had sex? I get the sense you really need to read wisnifg and understand it. Can you get it in your native language?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:13 PM
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The only semi-valuable insight I could find from michael's story is "young women have higher smv than old women, and women are delusional about this" Which, duh. If what you took from that story was that Michael is a great guy who has things figured out that you relate to, then you are fucked. If you want to be around a bunch of guys who "get it" like Michael, go find an incel forum. Read steel's guide with all the links. Make sure you understand and internalize rational male 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 05:58 PM
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Read steel's guide with all the links and wisnifg before you read anything else. This oys was unnecessarily long and rambling and focused on your wife. Next time, go back through and summarize in a few bullet points before posting. No OYS has ever needed more than one part, let alone 3. If you can't organize and state your thoughts succinctly in writing, you've got no chance at making them clear in your own head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:53 AM
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You are both ignorant and overly introspective. So, the more you analyze yourself and try to come to conclusions, the dumber and more confused you will get. You can't trust your instincts because they are wrong. You need outside information. But, in your ignorance, you will latch on to any random bullshit. The candida cleanse and SAA are great examples of this which prove my point. Luckily, you also latched onto MRP. MRP is great. But, it is still a minefield of confusing, contradictory and ofte…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 05:01 PM
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So, it sounds like the sex may have never been good for her if you never made her cum. Part of being attractive is knowing how to fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 07:24 PM
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Glad that helped. I just see a lot of stuff that could all come down to not getting 8 hours a night. It changes who you are and how you think. Makes it really hard to organize your thoughts. I would prioritize figuring out consistent sleep hygiene as goal one. I'd see a specialist and consider formal cognitive behavioral therapy even. I think a lot of things would fall into place with enough sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 07:22 PM
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When you showed up, your main problem was insomnia. How's your sleep?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:23 PM
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Dude, if she's writhing in pain from sex, stop. Jesus christ. I know "go caveman" is the standard advice but that assumes sex is at least tolerable, something she's offering freely. It sounds more like she's fucking just to keep you, though. You're creating a negative association with sex every time you tear up her unarroused pussy. Was sex ever really good? Do you make her cum? Have you read sgm?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 02:39 PM
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In my bloodwork I also did a food sensitivity test which I came back as having those standard sensitivities (gluten, dairy, peanuts) and then to some of my common foods (eggs, potatoes, rice, brazil nuts, mustard seed). PSA: these are voodoo nonsense. Guessing it was an igg test? If your doctor sold this to you without warning you its stupid, it's a bad sign. Find a new doctor. I also tested positive for Candida. In a few weeks, I’ll be starting a 6-8 week cleanse and regime to clear this out. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 01:31 PM
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It's not about games and practices (although, yeah, show up at games if you can, no one needs you at practice unless you're coaching). It's about being consistent. Do you want them to listent to you, to develop into a certain kind of person? That takes work. If you think your kids aren't acting right, disrespect you, generally suck... it says more about you than them.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 01:02 PM
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LTR away on mom trip, I got back Sat eve and was immediately frustrated with kids’ behavior (lots of excuses for coming home late, each plausible, but went from 15 mins to 1.5 hrs late). Sucks to be gone and first interaction home has to be negative with kids. The next day, I woke the kids up and went through a slog for every chore. They hadn’t seen me for a week, this isn’t fun, but cleaning up the house before devices is a standard. Stuff like that all day long. That night, I made a big dinner…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 02:44 PM
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I just said I'm leaving and haven't been back in two days. You just left the house? Went to a hotel or something?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 01:03 PM
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I don’t yet have a MAP or life mission. I really just want to live better, enjoy myself, be a good father, good friend and good husband. And so you will fail. These are blue pill nice guy goals. Seriously, closest thing you have to a mission includes being a "good husband?" If you did the reading you must have skimmed hard. If anyone is a candidate for "pretend your wife is dead" it's you. What would you do if she was absolutely out of the picture? Start thinking through that lens and see what h…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/25 04:17 PM
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From your history, you believe your wife is banging her drug dealer. I would say that was why you were considering a divorce and go from there. I imagine there are plenty of other reasons. For the love of God do not apologize. Grow some balls.
/r/askMRP31/01/25 12:01 AM
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I got roughly this advice early in my journey: Being married and having your shit together provides more than enough "beta"/comfort. Don't provide comfort with your mouth, provide it with your dick. This advice has proven to be sound.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 04:27 PM
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i've struggled to figure out my identity and who I am and what I want. I'd focus on this. In the meantime, improving smv is a concrete goal with identifiable steps. Identify these and pursue them. Or decide you already have the upper hand. Just don't delude yourself either way.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 08:29 PM
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1-SMV relative to wife? Tough question to self reflect on. Equal I suppose. This is a surprise to me to read. If you truly think this is true, why is effort going into divorce prep when it should be going into increasing your smv? What is wrong with you that you can't outstrip a mother of 3 in smv? Something is off here. I was thinking part of your problem is that you suck at sex. And it sounds like this may be. But I thought you were further along. First things first, you need to focus on being…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 07:41 PM
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Got to admit this is one of the first times I’ve ever realized the blatant attempt at manipulation using sex for attention. For a brief moment I wanted to withhold but fuck it, I took the BJ and sex anyway but did not change anything about what I was doing. You've been reasonably fit for a while. Seem to have your shit together. OYS reads like you're doing things. But, still power plays around sex What is your smv relative to your wife? Are you having sex the way you want it? Relatedly, did you …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 06:32 PM
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Are you married and do you have kids?
/r/askMRP26/01/25 03:35 PM
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Glad you're happy. Though, I admit i did a double take when i read you were with your wife again. thought you were all done and divorced. Guess it didn't finalize? How long since you went back? I've only been around a couple years now, but I don't think I've read anyone choosing to go back once they were out of the marriage. Curious to see how that goes. While my wife makes an effort, I contribute far more AND I’M OK WITH IT... Ironically, by saying “no” when I didn’t want to or couldn’t give fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 04:42 PM
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1) the fact you had to deer about voting for trump even in your oys says something. 2) you should read steel's guide, all the links and the sidebar books before trying to dive into old oys's from vets (if ever). Oys's are for the writers, not the readers. There will be good models and bad models from week to week, even from "goats". You may learn something from them, but it's a hell of a lot less efficient than reading something intended to teach. If you'd put that effort into wisnifg instead, y…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 03:50 PM
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I think you would get more out of rereading and applying wisnifg. I see a lot of words describing how people are (eg assholes) or saying what your wife "deserves", etc. Paragraphs of this and yet i have no idea what the actual conflict is over after reading it. You are putting mental energy into defining people and situations, adjudication right and wrong to justify decisions. Externalizing. This is blue pill thinking. Excessive hamstering that adds extraneous detail and confuses the situation. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:11 PM
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What are you reading? What have you read? What did you learn from said reading?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 02:52 PM
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Assume she won't change, no matter what tricks you try to manipulate her. What would you do? How would you spend your time? Do that.
/r/askMRP08/01/25 08:29 PM
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I'll play. As to your "strawman/steelman", past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. And we live in the real world, where we will never know anything about another person with absolute certainty. I would never trust a ho to be a housewife. Not about karma. Don't be surprised when you pick up a snake and it bites you. Personally, my journey into red pill has been one of tolerating less and less bullshit. From myself and others. And I at least had some limits before. I read about dud…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/25 06:46 PM
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Good for you getting your life together. I don't think I could stay, but I guess you never know until it happens to you. I'm curious about something. Are you capable of atttracting and fucking other women? Do you fuck other women? Why or why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 06:34 AM
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Well said, especially re shit tests. except... we don’t care about your basketball skills. I care about his basketball skills. Being good at a sport is alpha. Although, if he was the best on the court at 39, I'm pretty sure he was playing a bunch of nerds.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/24 09:53 PM
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He is not the prize and he knows it. He therefore cannot give from abundance and instead focuses on why his wife sucks. If you're really wondering why he won't leave: You are viewing him from the wrong perspective. Think of him as the bitchy wife, riding it out with her beta husband while complaining about him for not being hot or fun while expecting him to plow himself into the ground at an 80 hour a week job. If a hot woman showed interest, he would fuck her. If a more alpha woman wanted to wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/24 04:35 PM
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On asserting that you wanted your wife to step up: Looks like you did fine. In my experience, this gets easier and easier, the pissiness gets shorter and shorter, and the conflict turns more quickly into flirting and sex. And you can fuck up a lot, as long as you don't over-engage once you state what you want or back down. Essentially, if you have your own shit together and don't give a fuck how she reacts, you can't lose. I think you're right that she is trying to control you with sex. The alte…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/24 10:12 PM
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These are bare minimums for a tolerable relationship. Your response is telling about the level of shit you have accepted in your relationship, and what you would settle for. You will live the worst life you are willing to tolerate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 04:09 PM
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This place is about you, not your wife. If your strategy is based on how you've psychoanalyzed your wife and how you think she will respond, you're fucking up and you should know it. Anyways, you're finally making some progress. Nice to be in a quiet house, not facing assault charges. But boring guys get ovulation sex. Guys who "stroke her feelz" get laid.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/24 01:29 PM
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How has tiptoeing around your wife's self esteem and emotions worked out for you so far in life?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 07:05 PM
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On this wifi thing... that's batshit crazy. Never reason, never confront. Ok, you're still building your frame, fine. Just trying to get by. You used wisnifg and managed to at least not comply, not deer, not get emotional. Good. But, at some point you're going to want to be able to play with her emotions and have fun with her shit tests, prove that youre above them. Agree and amplify, amused mastery or even a nuke. Have you used these tools yet? God, fearing wifi radiation is a ripe fucking setu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 04:15 PM
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For the love of God do not read twotsm until you understand the basics. Maybe not even then.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:13 PM
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Is your praise fake? It was, which was clearly a mistake. I've made it accurate since mrp. initiate a BJ when you're ready to explode. I'm going to try this, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 03:45 PM
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The blue pill professor stuff will steer you wrong. Read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/tje76d/the_three_stages_of_dread/ This place has a mix of content quality. You have to filter some more than others. Steel's guide helps a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 12:43 AM
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Who says these are mutually exclusive? It's harder to immerse myself when I'm thinking about praising, giving direction, or getting her off. All for vanilla/starfish sex at times, but sometimes I’m not and that is okay. Is your sex a gift you give or a chore? I've honestly never had true starfish sex. Even before mrp. I either ended the session (rarely) or my wife warmed up before i finished. Before mrp, I think I incorrectly conceptualized sex as a chore, sometimes for myself or my wife. I see …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 08:56 PM
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Im certainly not perfect. I would say I like myself and my wife. But I come across pretty negative in my oys. I tend to focus on the shit... So, what's your advice? Should my anger be rational? How should I handle my anger phase(s)? When should they be done for good? How should I sexually communicate? How did you reach a point where there was nothing left to improve or experiment with in the bedroom?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 08:12 PM
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1) you're in science, so you understand, if we want to assign causation, we manipulate one variable, hold others constant and observe the result. MRP isn't science, it's self help with a shotgun approach. Guys figured out what it takes to be attractive to most women and did it. You dont make changes one at a time and you dont control any variables. Trying to figure out which specific thing manipulated your wife just right is impossible and against the point. It's not for her. It's entirely possi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 07:28 PM
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I gave more clarification in my response to alpha, but, specific to your comment: This is strong advice and something I figured out before mrp. Strong praise builds skill in women, criticism kills it. I had already given a lot of criticism at that point, though. When I first started talking dirty and praising, I was met with a lot of skepticism. Which was fair. I had already told her she sucked at bjs, and she wasn't doing any better. But, especially with mrp and reading sgm, I realized I needed…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:22 PM
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Thats a lot of words to say I’m not really sure what gets me off. Just explore and see what you like. What wrong with getting off however you want to? Even with all the words, I've made it unclear. I reread what i wrote and its my fault. More simply: i know getting ridden hard gets me off. I know a rough, sloppy blow job can get me off from experience. My wife is not able to do this, yet. And, though she will blow me, and I praise her and talk dirty and I've slowly developed the skill for her, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:58 PM
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You've gotten plenty of advice, so I'm not going to try to pile on too much further this week. But, last thing: all I've done so far is progress from "active shooter" wife to "friend-zone" wife. This means a lot from my end, because a wife trying to actively destroy you in front of your kids is literal hell, but it's still a long long way from being a man who fucks. Not quite. Going from "active shooter" to "friend zone" are changes in your wife. Being a man who fucks is a change in you. You can…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 11:25 PM
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OYS #40 Stats: 38 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, married, together 18 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 6 BP 155x12, OHP 110x10, DL 255x12, Barbell Row 155x15, Squat xxx, Chin ups xxx Physical: Kept up 5-6 days a week lifting with PPL split. Lifts are still limited which I make up for in volume. Tennis elbow kept getting worse with rehab and started to significantly limit my sport (and even day-to-day life) and I realized I need to actually rest it and then build up. I'm using straps and cables attached at the wrist f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 08:55 PM
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I feel my breakthrough over past couple months is truly believing and acting like I'm the prize in the context of providing the most value to my family (by far) and being the mayor. The result of this shift is the shit tests turning to comfort tests and my wife getting far more submissive and respectful toward me. You say you believe and act like you're the prize. And it helps to actually be the prize. Be more valuable to your wife than she is to you. You do a lot of things that you think create…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:20 PM
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Who is the prize in your relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 01:48 PM
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Meh, your response was fine. This isn't: Since she got pregnant, I haven’t pushed sex, I took a back seat on initiating. My priority is working to save as much money as I can for the baby. To me, it doesn’t matter at this point, I have other things to focus on, Bullshit. If this was true, you wouldn't have posted. Overall, you're missing the big picture. Never back off on initiating if you feel like fucking. The goal is to put the fun kind of pressure on sex, where she knows you want her but you…
/r/askMRP28/10/24 02:49 PM
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If you do go that route, go to someone who specializes and interview them. I passed on the first referral I got because he was older and not as steady-handed. Yeah, thats good thinking. It applies to everything in medicine. You pay the same for a Harvard professor who innovated the surgical method being used to do your surgery as you pay someone who just barely made it out of med school in the carribean and hasn't even managed to pass their boards yet. American health system is wild. That said, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 03:27 PM
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You can't control yourself. You aren't a responsible adult. Trt won't make you a responsible adult. You have to actually put in the work to give up addictive habits, make a meal plan, make a sleep routine, set alarms, keep lists and calendars to keep up with day to day shit like paying bills. Prioritize doing the things you want to do least first. There isn't a magic bullet that makes it easy. You just have to do it and eventually you get used to being an adult. Reading through and deliberately …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 01:33 PM
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Some of this is getting complex and difficult to manage; after reading some veteran posts I think my move forward is to keep it simple and stick to the basics. None of this is complicated. If it seems complicated, you're doing it wrong. Remove thinking about what your wife may be thinking from the equation completely. Instead, think only in terms of who you are and what you want. It makes things simpler. And you won't get rule 9 banned again.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 01:19 PM
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So, you rediscovered anger when you started trying to overtly (and covertly) manipulate your wife and it didn’t work, correct? Pretty much. I had gone too far the other way and my wife ended up in the emergency room when I could have prevented it by insisting she listen to me. I got the (correct) advice that I should lead more. But then I forgot myself and went too far back toward trying to control her and started caring too much what she did. Hence the anger. It was your (attempted) manipulatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 12:52 AM
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Yep, working on it. I commented on others more, but I think it boils down to: I need to figure out how to lead my wife without giving a fuck what she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 08:41 PM
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This is exactly right. I also commented about it to futilefighter, but I thought about this and believe I know where my anger came back in. A few months ago, after not leading my wife ended in her going to the emergency room, I started trying to lead my wife more, giving explicit instructions and setting expectations. I also tried to apply controlled anger. I actually had some success. Expectations were mostly met. But not always, and not immediately. I got lost and started getting actually angr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 08:38 PM
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On anger: In the past, my wife was absolutely an outlet for anger at myself over other things. Not getting enough done at work, not working out, whatever. I at least recognized that and killed it. After thinking a bit, i believe i know exactly what the anger is from. I dropped the anger when I was focused on myself and committed to the idea that I didn't care what my wife did. Then, a few months ago, I tried to start leading my wife again. Telling her what I wanted specifically. Using controlled…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 08:21 PM
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Thanks, I'll check him out
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 09:15 PM
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SBD = squat bench deadlift? Got a good bro split routine? I figured I'd stick to the PPL routine until I got to a plateau and then find something oriented towards basketball players with a bit more legs, since I play a sport where I primarily need to sprint, change directions and leap well. I have friends who just do a bro split and are in shit shape. But I guess that probably has more to do with how hard they get after the program and less to do with the program itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 08:00 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: 38 yo, 6'4”, 224 lbs, married, together 18 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 6 BP 185x5, OHP 125x5, DL 315x10, Barbell Row 155x15, Squat 145x15, Chin ups 12 It has been a while. Physical: Lifts are limited for weight while I rehab so I try to make up for it in volume. I also recently switched to the reddit ppl program which added more supplemental lifts and involved a deload. I'm not going to go into long detail but I just keep getting injured. My latest issue is tennis elbow which makes pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 04:49 PM
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This is a rambling mess. Own your shit. And edit it before you post.
/r/askMRP19/10/24 04:47 AM
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I dealt with something like this so I'll share. It was before finding MRP, though. Before kids, we both worked long hours, 80+ a week sometimes as a resident for me, so I didn't care. But, then I had 2 kids. I found myself sacrificing my work time to watch kids even though my job is my passion and makes more, while my wife ran herself into the ground for a job she hated. I told her we can get by without her job and that staying in her position was unsustainable for our family. I then helped her …
/r/askMRP16/10/24 07:08 PM
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Before you get rule 9ed... 5 years on a masters, out of shape, underemployed... you addicted to something? Depressed? What do you do with your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 02:07 PM
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Read "the rational male". Just the first one. Over and over if necessary. Until you understand it.
/r/askMRP10/10/24 02:07 PM
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I think red pill does best at consistently predicting women's instinctual behavior, especially regarding sexual attraction. I think it does less less well the more the forebrain gets involved. I work with a lot of highly educated people in medical research who have a strong understanding of research on child development. Which clearly shows children benefit from having involved dads and parental alienation is harmful (shocking, right?). And, so, I observe some of these divorced couples and see t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/24 02:31 PM
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I don't know what to say. I work with couples at end of life. I see dudes who have nothing, theyre actually a financial drain, and they have wives spoon feeding them and wiping their asses. Its not hot, steamy, sexy love. But, out of obligation or whatever, there are some women sticking it out. Believe me, I've also seen plenty of dudes abandoned, too. But the idea that no woman will "love" (i.e. stick with and care for regardless of circumstance) a husband unconditionally is provably false.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 01:53 AM
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Do you truly believe that a man cannot be uncondiotionally loved by a woman Sure, women can "love" unconditionally, in a way. But they don't lust unconditionally. Sure, plenty of women get married, never cheat and provide unconditional "love" to feeble beta men until one of them dies. But those men aren't having hot sex. This place isn't for understanding "love". It's for understanding intersexual dynamics. Learning what gets a girl horny, how to use that to your advantage and how to not get bur…
/r/TheRedPill01/10/24 02:21 PM
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I left the kid with the grandparents for a break and decided to help my stbx with her coursework. What a nice guy!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 01:14 PM
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So, you're saying I shouldn't marry a fat dumb harpy with bpd from a broken family? But, what if she does anal and can deepthroat and tells me my peepee is the biggest she ever saw?
/r/TheRedPill26/09/24 05:41 PM
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On your life being unsustainable: It's time to lead your wife. I can see from your posts you're most focused on her being fat. You can't control that and need to give up on doing anything about it directly. It's distracting you from what you can/should get from her. Lay out explicitly what you need her to do with minimum explanation of the situation. For example, you have credit card debt and want her to generate money. Explain what work you want her to pursue and when she will do it. Alternativ…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 12:45 PM
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Got hit with extra hours this week at my second job, so I only worked out once instead of twice. School's going fine, getting more hours at my second job, which will equal out to 65+ hours a week. The worst part of this is I'll get less sleep, but I'll make it work the best I can Budgeting is fine. Still working on catching up on bills with my increased income, wife keeps pestering me about giving her spending money but I'd rather have her pick up a side gig to pay for her own dumb shit, because…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 03:14 PM
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Hey, I was getting to it... Well said
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 03:48 AM
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My inspiration this week was the frame of this guy: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/496vAPVe3V Did your wife cheat on you? What were you taking from this for inspiration?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 02:37 PM
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But (and I've seen this with literally everyone in my life except my current gf) people do not like how I am damn good at most everything I put my mind to. And so they either overtly or covertly root against me because my failure validates their inaction. If this is literally everyone in your life, I suggest finding new people. I noticed the same thing. It comes from their own insecurities. On the whole, people want to root for the underdog, because the underdog isn't competition. But, when you …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 09:23 PM
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Your stuff helped me a lot here. Thoughtful, not stuck in dogma. You changed a lot in your journey here then went off on your own well beyond. From what I recall his wife decided to leave for a myriad of reasons, the top 2 being another woman who she became emotionally infatuated with, and because he was living a life she didn't want. Last I heard he met an awesome girl soon after who fucks on the regular and is smitten with him naturally. Shit tests are either non-existant or he just doesn't ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 02:14 PM
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Ha, I liked the first version better. Had a few nuggets. How you found some OI, stopped tolerating divorce threats, got in shape, go over insecurity about your wife's past. With enough detail so I could follow along on your journey. It's OK to be a shit writer. And a bit of a validation whore. Better here than real life. Better yourself than fake. You removed the details and left the generic MRP lessons. I'd prefer the other way around. So, I guess what I'm saying: prove your frame by rewriting …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 12:26 AM
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I dunno, bad trip?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 09:34 PM
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Sad that blarg deleted out so you have to dig for that. It's called "here's your example"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 08:41 PM
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Alright. You've written more clearly. And it resulted in a page of bullet points that make it apparent that your plan is to do what your wife says and see if it works. While you continue to read. Jesus. I've said it before and I'll say it again. You have very low reading comprehension. You do not understand what you read. If you do not understand what you read, reading more will not help. Pick one book. Married man sex life primer is a good one. Read it slowly (do not listen to an audiobook). Wr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 07:00 PM
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Crap you’re right, way too many she statements in my marriage section. How do I avoid doing this when part of update is things being said by her that I’m realizing are relevant for my own actions moving forward? You realize that "things being said by her" are not, in fact, relevant to how you progress. Dont try to read her mind. Having frame and being attractive is not dependent on what your wife does or says. You want to build and practice mental models and habits that define you regardless of …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 04:31 PM
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We hardly ever talk about our relationship since I’ve learned about STFU, but last night she confided that she wants me to initiate more dates and hangouts. She feels like she almost always initiates things like going for a walk together or watching a show. Finally realizing I still have a CC where if she isn’t receptive to me initiating physical affection or sex, I tend to just back off and let her initiate any kind of interactions between us. Nope. If you want sex, initiate sex. If you really …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:24 PM
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Do you like your wife? Do you enjoy spending time with her on a day to day basis? Specifically, do you enjoy sitting with her and watching TV?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 02:27 PM
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Next night comes, I can feel the unattraction in the air (my wife would rather clean a bathroom I remember). I straight up tell her I don’t want to have sex because I can tell she doesn’t want to. We fight more. I can’t get it out of my head she would rather clean bathroom. Walk out, do something else. Been there. Struggling to hold in the anger. If you're going to act like a bitch, at least shut your mouth. You're better off leaving her guessing than telling her flat out you're a bitch. This ap…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 05:24 PM
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Everything in this is dumb. And confusing to read. All I know from it is you're spinning your wheels and making no progress. Treat this like remedial class. Write out explicitly what you're fucking up and then how you fixed it/need to fix it. Then use that information to guide what you do next time and find patterns in how you keep failing from doing the same things over and over. MRI came back negative, just mild swelling of Patella, Dr is also confused why I have pain. It sounds like you have …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 04:57 PM
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Giving a fuck what your girl thinks and letting her expected response influence your behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 07:07 PM
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This is an interesting read to me. Why? Because I could have nearly written this exact post when my wife was my girlfriend, before I got married and had kids. Before I found MRP. Sex frequency would dip, I would freak out and give a thinly veiled fmfy speech, sex would go up a little, rinse and repeat. I also spent time trying to convince my wife to work out more. Sometimes she would for a little. I would even set and hit fitness goals with the idea that she would want to fuck me more, or i woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 04:21 PM
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So, your plan is 1) fix unspecified flawed mental model 2) divorce So, what exactly is your flawed mental model? What would be the right mental model? What is stopping you from having the right mental model? How will you adopt it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 03:04 PM
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So, what's your plan? If you don't have one, why not? Edit: plan for being ready to divorce, since that is the one clear action item in your response.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 08:20 PM
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What is your end-game here? What are you building towards?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:38 PM
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Red pill does not attempt to explain all behavior. The further you get from intersexual dynamics between physically and mentally healthy heterosexual men and women, the more it breaks down and the less I think hypergamy applies. People have big complicated brains that allow them to do most anything for any reason under the right conditions. So no one is going to tell you exactly what your wife was doing chasing this tranny. My guess is you and her are both so unhealthy that you get most of your …
/r/askMRP09/09/24 04:16 PM
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Instead of reading nmmng over and over, watch Rian stone's videos on it. Nmmng has some great stuff but it has a decent amount of bullshit that glover just pulled out of his ass. Sex moratorium is retarded. Hope you didn't tell her you were doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/24 01:18 PM
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Ha, I always think of this article when I read about guys "considering cheating" around here.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 07:44 PM
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Too many fucks given about other people, what they think and do, how to manipulate them. I bet you are fucking exhausting to be around. Your mission is to master your relationships and attract a high-value woman. A year in. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 05:57 PM
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Lots of contradicting reports here. Smart but she can't understand homeopathy is nonsense. 10/10 smv but with a potbelly and "unattractive child-rearing years". You've got 5 kids. Thats a lot of years. She's a workaholic... stay at home mom. I sense wife goggles.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:19 PM
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Hey, red pill guys, should I change my religion for a woman so I can marry her? Read something from the sidebar. Anything.
/r/askMRP31/08/24 03:17 PM
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Diet plan now is lean meats and whole carbs. Occasionally I’ll have a fatty cut of meat and other fats to make sure I don’t make myself sick. Sticking to around 1 - 1.5 lbs. weight loss per week. This is the kind of plan a fat person makes, full of fat person logic. You need to eat fatty meat so you don't get sick? Ha. At 1-1.5 lb a week you'll be at a healthy weight in like... 3 to 4 years... IF you actually hit your goals. jesus. Be more concrete. Set calorie limits, track them and stick to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 02:16 PM
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It's funny that you mention struggling with wisnifg because, if you understood it, you would have saved yourself a ban. Im going to give you the benefit of the doubt since this is oys 1. And because you may be able to guess from my username that i couldnt shut my stupid mouth either before i got here. Glover had some good ideas and nmmng is helpful but it also has a bunch of gay bullshit. Just like any self help book. Do yourself a favor and watch the Rian stone videos to help interpret it. He a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 01:51 PM
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Rough. You are a whole second human being overweight. I know there's a lot of other stuff going on, but that should be priority 1-5 on your to do list. What's your plan to lose the weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 01:15 PM
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Man, you're missing the point hard. I don't know what to say. Fine, you're right, you did awesome, everyone here are idiots, you've figured out red pill, no one else has. You're not fat, you're good at telling stories and you're not bossy and you'll fix your own problems by working on your wife.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 06:58 PM
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Think hard about how you want to spend your time. Do you want to spend it doing those family plans? With your daughter out for the day? With your wife? For real. What do you actually want to be doing? When you figure that out, you won't have to worry about withdrawing attention to enforce a boundary. It will happen naturally as you give your time and energy to what you enjoy. As this is written, it sounds like your wife hit a nerve with a gentle but apparently accurate tease so you threw a tantr…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 06:37 PM
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Good for you answering. Well, now im on board with the rest of the guys saying it's about as bad as ilybinilwy. I think you're probably fucked and you were already fucked 8 years ago. Key details: specific people in mind (coworkers). She wants to date as opposed to purely try something new sexually (eg group sex). Good news is your kids are about out of the house. And you have a lot of room to improve just by losing about 50 lbs of fat. And you probably have plenty of other shit to improve. Life…
/r/askMRP29/08/24 08:16 PM
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I disagree that this is necessarily the same as ilybinilwy. Its not like this is good, but I think context matters in determining how fucked you are and next steps. What are your stats, height, weight, lifts? Her age? Did she not have a chance to "experiment" before you? How many kids and what ages? Is the relationship otherwise stable, great sex? Did you ask any follow ups? What does "experiment" mean, could it involve you and did she go straight to open marriage versus group sex? Did she have …
/r/askMRP29/08/24 06:15 PM
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This is the place for men who do things Yeah, it seems like the guys who are going to succeed do shit and make changes right off the bat. I see guys who claim to have read everything on the sidebar and their mental models and lives are still shit and I think, "what's missing, what could make this stuff click for them?" And maybe the answer is nothing. Any great success stories from guys who farted around but finally figured it out? I'm guessing not based on your answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 05:38 PM
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You seem anxious and easily confused. It seems, for you, things are steadily getting worse while you continue to consume content in the hopes that, at some point, everything magically clicks together. Doesn't work that way. As a general rule, each thing you read should lead to actions and subsequent improvements in your life, gradually building yourself up. If it isnt working that way, consider that you missed the points from the books you read. You're not doing yourself any favors by complicati…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 05:28 PM
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I used to think you said this as a sort of test. Like fight club. Maybe you do. More time I spend here, I'm thinking a lot of guys are more likely to hurt themselves with the tools they find here than actually use them correctly.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 04:00 PM
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Alright, this place is worse than useless if all you take from it is hamster fodder. Just makes things more complicated rather than helping. Write up a MAP. Make it concrete. Put it in your next OYS. Don't hamster about why you're doing any of it. Just the MAP and what you've done to complete it. No thoughts. Only actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 02:53 PM
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So, from what i can tell, with about a year of red pill, you added 1.5kg to your bench, gained 4kg of mostly fat, and went from an active but lackluster to now dead bedroom with your girlfriend. How has finding red pill benefited you? Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 01:41 PM
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No sex in a long time. How long is a long time?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 11:42 AM
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Who owns the house? What steps do you need to take to end the relationship? Also, you aren't married with kids. I'd focus more on red pill content. Book of pook. The rational male.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 02:07 PM
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You said you haven't been gaming or initiating hard/frequently enough. But you didn't say anything about what you did to change that. Also, youre 25 in an ltr that is only 2 years old and you aren't fucking. What the fuck is the point? And at this point I realized you have been here for years fucking around. Jesus. This whole OYS is filled with hamstering. Set goals and do them because they should be done. Red pill isn't complicated, it's just hard. If you've made it complicated, you've fucked u…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 01:51 PM
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I have seen women do crazy things for skinny fat homeless looking dorks just because they knew a bit of game and could play the right emotional chords. And/or had drugs...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 11:22 AM
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Where did I read this before? Anyways, said roughly this phrase early on and got an audible scoff followed by a laugh and flirty, "fuck off." Said it again a while later after running my MAP and got doe eyes, a snuggle and, "I love you." Did some more training later that night. Magic of the line: multiple interpretations. Can use it at any time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/24 02:53 PM
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You're overestimating the value you're getting from the people who give you straight "answers" and underestimating the value you could be getting from people making fun of you for asking shit questions. If you could understand what I'm saying it would be the best thing you got out of all your posts.
/r/askMRP24/08/24 06:30 PM
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Heads up, someone hacked your account. Another, clearly different person posted this just a few days ago: Not dealing better with my wife. Rn Idgaf, I need to fix my mind first before focusing on handling my wife. Rn all recommended books, are about psychological dealing with woman. And how to seduce them. Tbh my ultimate male don’t give a f about these things. The woman should be around him. Which books do you guys recommend. I really enjoyed NMMNG, it fit my interest more then reading how I ca…
/r/askMRP24/08/24 05:09 PM
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shit tests are simply congruence tests I hear this but is that really all they are? Sure, congruence makes it easier to pass. But I've thought of them more as frame tests. Can you maintain your own frame in the face of her shit test? (Good. Youre congruent) Or, even better, can you overwhelm her frame with yours? (better). I can show congruence simply by ignoring a shit test, being unaffected. I pass the shit test by not just showing congruence but also the ability to play, bouncing the test bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/24 02:37 PM
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Man, if you didn't have years of posts I would think this was a troll it's so fucking nuts. Your wife isnt a monster. Shes a regular ass female dealing with a weepy man-shaped pile of jello that put 2 babies in her. Red pill isnt helpful when you're still completely out of control of your own emotions, thoughts and actions. You need to learn basic self control. You need to learn to take a deep breath, calm down and think. You need to develop an internal locus of control. These are basics most fu…
/r/askMRP23/08/24 12:01 AM
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What are the books in the r/marriedredpill sidebar?
/r/askMRP21/08/24 11:33 PM
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I assumed he didn't try particularly hard because his wife is very fat and old. Using the clay analogy, she can, at best, with lots of effort, just maybe, be molded from an old obese woman to an old saggy woman. I always figured this dude would dump his wife as soon as he got to a place where he could realistically pull a woman whose vagina isn't hidden under a FUPA.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:56 PM
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The high value women comment from last week had me contemplating my standards and the type of partner I want. Then you missed the point. Focus on yourself and being the kind of guy who can draw a high value woman. I need to master myself, and my ego, in order to not be pulled into overcompensating, and becoming adversarial. Well, I wasn't sure where you were going before with what you included in your OYS, but at least you came to thhe right conclusion.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:10 PM
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I was talking about op... but maybe I hit a nerve? I don't know you...
/r/askMRP21/08/24 04:31 AM
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This guy is an actual clown, he shows up from time to time to dance and speak in riddles from his media addled adhd brain. I assume he heard about the red pill from a tiktok and then stumbled over here somehow. But, this is r/askmrp. It's the circus. He's in the right place.
/r/askMRP21/08/24 04:28 AM
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I think I don't really know what pushing boundaries is supposed to look like without using words... Take a guess Writing and responding on here has me confused about weather or not everything is going fine and I'm simply failing to see it that way OR everything is going poorly and I'm delusional to think I'm maxed out on what's possible. Things can both be going "fine" and not maxed out. Keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 09:30 PM
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Sounds good. Big type 3 captain vibes I'm seeing it more and more. Maybe, except that this assumes she has the upper hand in smv. She is a 36 year old woman and 7 years older than you, transitioning from slow to sharp decline in smv while you are moving towards your peak with potentially decades before you take any significant decline. Youre already ahead. All you have to do to take control is flip your mindset. You have no kids, nothing holding you to a woman who you could objectively replace w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:08 PM
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As of my last post I was thinking that eventually I'd need to consider being more stubborn ("you will only get sex from me under these conditions") BUT because of the feedback that I got, I've tried to be more passive and go with the flow about what I do to her. I'm okay with the sex I'm having, it satiates. I'm fine with continuing to experiment with this for now, but it's not going to be tenable for me in the long term. Ha, i thought about doing something like this early on so I won't make fun…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 06:44 PM
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Every time I mention sex or wanting sex, or initiate, I am shit tested with ‘I wish you wouldn’t say that, I was just about to…’ or some other comment about ‘I did want to have sex with you, but now it doesn’t feel like a choice, so blah blah blah.’ Right now I’m trying to AA and AM, but I am very bad at it, and it often falls flat. There's a line between being aggressive and dominant and making a woman feel like youre "taking" her (hot), and being a sex pest (not hot). It sounds like you're fal…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 06:15 PM
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Dude, you're an alcoholic. You're not a "cut back candidate". You have to stop completely. The irony is that, if you could easily just not drink at all, you wouldn't be an alcoholic and it would be ok to have an occasional drink. The fact you can't stop is the reason you have to create a hard boundary for yourself. No alcohol at all. Get it out of the house. Dont let yourself buy it. Dont hang around people that drink until youve been solidly sober for months and are in control. Stop fucking wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/24 02:13 PM
2

DEER How are you going to enforce the rape accusation boundary?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 09:38 PM
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Good on you getting out there and doing something. Go ahead and read something on game, eg mystery method. You're on oys 4 and in the process of disconnecting from your whore wife. I disagree with the guys giving you a hard time. Putting your focus on becoming attractive, reading the sidebar, socializing and chasing pussy seems fine to me. As long as you're picking what you feel like doing and going for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 09:15 PM
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This response shows you still don't get it. HER childhood has nothing to do with YOUR standards. This is frame 101. You have posted red flag after red flag that your marriage is doomed. But, you also have been completely spineless and failed to set even minimal boundaries from day 1. So, you might as well try setting and enforcing some boundaries and see what happens. In this case, she told other people you sexually assaulted her because of a kiss. Fuck man. Even for your average blue pill joe, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 02:18 PM
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My comment wasn’t regarding sex. Sure it wasn't. Except you say you're getting along "fine" and sex "quality" is the only issue you list in your oys. And you put it in the preceding sentence of the same paragraph. Other people (eg your wife) can see through your bullshit even if you can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 05:14 PM
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We’ve been getting along fine and sex has been ok in quantity but bad in quality. I had a sincere talk with my wife that I’m not happy with the relationship and where it’s at. Why the fuck would you do that? Pick specific things you want, communicate you want them (ideally through actions over words if possible), and move on. Expressing vague unhappiness (clearly related to sex based on the last line) is counterproductive. It just fires up the hamster to come up with post hoc justifications of w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 03:43 PM
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Makes sense. I think I just read it as him being histrionic and overly focused on playing the victim. And I figured with how little he seems to understand things after this much time, he is probably an unreliable narrator. I doubt he gets divorced or gets his shit together so I guess this is purely theoretical anyways.
/r/askMRP11/08/24 06:55 PM
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So, maybe I'm missing something. But it appears op married a much younger woman who he is dependent on and who he never set boundaries with. And he is still dependent and barely starting to set boundaries. Never set up any real independence. Despite farting around here (and having another fucking kid for fucks sake) over a year and a half from his first OYS. A year and a half in and his girl calls him gay and threatens to expose that he watches porn and his response isn't just to laugh at that n…
/r/askMRP11/08/24 03:42 PM
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Man, at this point I feel pretty sure you're trolling. Especially with this line: If I said please stop, she got louder. I said I was sorry at LEAST 4 times, I bugged her, I kissed her, I said “I’m so sorry baby”, but of course, absolutely nothing worked. In the case you aren't trolling, go to marriedredpill and read. Start with steel's guide with all the links then the sidebar books starting with no more mr. Nice guy.
/r/askMRP10/08/24 04:37 AM
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I'm just here to say this doesn't sound like much. Take a deep breath and don't lose your cool. Work on your MAP. Focus on a vision of how you think life should be, what should get done, be proactive and stop doing things as a reaction to your wife. Eg Need time for piano? Make sure shit is covered. If she can't watch the baby you can get a sitter. Wife doesn't need to be involved. You're still unattractive, this is just a big string of shit tests. Go back to treating them as such. They're extra…
/r/askMRP10/08/24 01:24 AM
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Damn, I forgot who you were when I commented. Follow steel's advice. Then read his guide to red pill. Slowly. Rewrite it in your own words as you go. Maybe even post your understanding of each page in your oys. Do the same with the sidebar material. When I Say No I Feel Guilty first. It will teach you how to tell your wife how you want the finances to be managed (not literally, but the tools to say what you want in general). The information is not making it into your brain. You need to treat it …
/r/askMRP06/08/24 12:25 PM
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Separate finances and you make the same but pay for everything 15 years deep in a marriage with two kids? How the fuck did you get here?
/r/askMRP05/08/24 02:23 AM
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You wrote a lot. I skimmed it enough. You don't have kids and the girl is mentally ill. You're not tied down. It's not going to get better with kids and more responsibility. Get the fuck out. And reading "the rational male" (again I guess?) And practical female psychology could do you some good. TWOTSM, your "favorite" probably did more harm than good considering the shit show you described.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/24 04:01 AM
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Well, since she liked the menstrual hut, try this one next: Cycle of abuse
/r/askMRP03/08/24 03:57 PM
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I see now that although I was physically attractive, I was obese and pimpled emotionally and that is very important in female attraction. My MAP was largely about getting my emotional self in check. It still is. Ok, from your post, it feels like you get it. But, then I see this again... this is the same shit you were saying to me a year ago when I said I thought something was up. That's not a new revelation, it's the old excuse you used for tolerating your wife's intolerable behavior. That's the…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 09:26 PM
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Good on you figuring this out and posting an update. I think your situation, having your shit together, being fit and attractive, but still dealing with intolerable disrespect and finally discovering cheating, is probably pretty common around here. But then guys just stop posting/delete out of shame. Or they don't find the cheating, keep spinning their wheels and finally say, "MRP just doesn't work!" And move on living miserable lives. And you summed up with the right lesson about boundaries and…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 04:24 PM
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Menstruation hut
/r/askMRP01/08/24 12:58 PM
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Ha
/r/askMRP29/07/24 10:01 PM
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This is cryptic as fuck, hope you're ok. looking forward to whatever you're planning to write up. Miss you around here, your posts made it a lot easier for me to cut through the bullshit and apply this stuff for myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/24 08:27 PM
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What do I do when she starts saying that the apt looks like shit? tell her to grab a mop? Get to work? Read wisnifg already.
/r/askMRP29/07/24 03:45 PM
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Why would pregnancy change your boundaries? Why the fuck did you get her pregnant? Based on the level of cluelessness I'm seeing here, I'd say read wisnifg and watch the rian stone YouTube videos that go along with the sidebar. He will spoonfeed you. You need to learn the basics. If you've already done that, im sorry, you have a learning disability. do it again, but slower and with notes. Finally, get the fuck out of your wife's head. You don't know what she really thinks or why and it gets in t…
/r/askMRP29/07/24 05:57 AM
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How do you think people fall in love? Whether a dick entered her or not, she cheated and you stayed and allowed her to continue cheating when she ignored your boundary. I see your edit. It's about what you can live with and your own self respect. I couldn't stand to be with a woman who told me she loved someone else. But its up to you. I asked my questions to see if you recognized how fucked up your situation is. But, once you recognize it, its up to you whether youre fine with it. There is a di…
/r/askMRP28/07/24 01:13 PM
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She thought it felt weird to fuck you because she was in love with another man?
/r/askMRP28/07/24 02:02 AM
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What was the context? Out of the blue?
/r/askMRP27/07/24 07:27 PM
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When wife (35f) started working after our last kid was born she fell in love with a coworker. How did you find out?
/r/askMRP27/07/24 05:35 PM
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My takeaways here - I should have nuked the disrespect during the shit test Correct Perhaps laughing was more of a nuke than anything else could have been. I was so above that shit. Nope. You were still analyzing and trying to change how she felt all the way along. Interpreting if it was shit or comfort or shitty comfort or whatever. It doesn't matter. Disrespect ends the interaction. Get comfortable nuking and then ignoring her. Your response should be consistent. Hard on a long trip but I just…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 05:53 PM
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I said I “solved” ILYBINILWY, because I got her to “be in love with me” again. Love isn't the problem here. I bet most of the guys in here have wives who stopped being in love with them at some point. People fall in and out of love. The problem is what the words really mean. From u/hornsofapathy 's post you say you read, she's really saying: You just don't do it for her anymore like another man has. You can't just read the first half of the sentence. Her falling back in love with you doesn't sol…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/24 03:36 PM
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To answer your questions, Yes it has. I put her needs above mine, as a weak beta I was very apprehensive about marrying her. Then my answer stands. I've read it. Implemented some, not consistently, didn't make a difference. My fault, for not fully committing and implementing 100%. Time to refresh memory and get back on it to actually see if it will make a difference. I'm serious when I say you have to read and implement this stuff systematically. Being attractive is the lever, SGM is how to use …
/r/askMRP19/07/24 04:44 PM
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2 questions and then advice. Was it always like this? If so, why did you marry her? I'm going to answer you seriously because the shit you wrote is the same kind of shit I was posting around reddit before I found the red pill. I don't see reading and implementing "Sex God Method" on your list of what you tried. So I know your "a lot of the techniques in RP" is probably just blindly following some retarded posts. Seriously, read the whole sidebar on r/marriedredpill. Then r/theredpill. Its worth …
/r/askMRP19/07/24 04:20 PM
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That is for now. Please do not delete this post and please update when you realize what is happening, rather than deleting and disappearing out of shame. That will make a valuable field report.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/24 08:39 PM
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For the love of God, if you can't lift heavy at least add volume. Go to 0-2 RIR, not fixed sets. My postpartum wife who never lifted before in her life lifts more than you after a month of training.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 03:09 PM
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Explain is the most subjective part of DEER. The others can be done away with completely. I refused to explain myself for a long time and finally recalibrated when my wife ended up in the hospital after I declined to explain something to her. My rule now: I treat my wife the same as I would my children. I explain when I want her to understand something new or when she asks me respectfully about my reasoning. Sometimes the DEER thing (especially explaining) confuses me in the moment. If I just sa…
/r/askMRP15/07/24 09:30 PM
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The guys who need this place the most also tend to be the most incapable of actually using the information. Dude was such a bitch his story almost sounded like madeup rage bait. If his therapist keeps him from offing himself, he'll have done a good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 02:55 PM
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Read and do the divorce prep, even if you don't think you're going to divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 11:56 AM
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Ha, he isn't "in line with mrp". You are so fucked up that you think realizing you should focus on your own problems in therapy instead of your wife is fucking red pill instead of standard fucking protocol. I disagree with some of the other advice here. Your head is deep up your ass and therapy probably can help you. You probably do need your hand held. Being a well-adjusted blue piller is still better than what you are now. Thinking about staying with a woman who cheated your whole fucking rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 02:11 PM
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Give it a read. It's time.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:51 PM
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I have a theory that guys who are fit but are fucking less than weekly are either shit at sex, being cheated on or both. Have your read sgm yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 05:53 PM
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Practical female psychology covers how to weed out the broken ones. "High self esteem adventurista" i think is what they call the best type. Otherwise its up to you. I wanted a tall athletic girl who was smart and knew how to work hard, wasnt materialistic, liked trying new things, came from an intact family. I would be bored by a woman who was satisfied with being a housewife. You may want something else. I didn't care about n count but hers was low non-zero. One note, I didn't realize that a l…
/r/askMRP07/07/24 08:00 PM
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No matter what you tell me you are not going to convince me that the girls I see in porn (most, at least) are not honestly enjoying the sex they give. Tell me you've never fucked a girl right without telling me you've never fucked a girl right. If you've seen a girl actually enjoy sex, you know it doesn't look like most mainstream porn. Don't quit porn because it's "evil", quit because it's a waste of time and you'd rather be fucking. And for the guys dumb enough to be unable to tell fantasy, wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 12:21 PM
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Well, the end result is you rewarded her for threatening divorce by giving up your commitments and doing what she wanted. I guess it's up to you whether you are doing what you should, and whether this needed to happen, but its not ideal. You want to pass comfort tests with your dick, not by entering her frame. If you're really running your MAP and taking care of business (aka the shit you already should have been doing), this kind of threat should either be brushed aside or taken as an indicatio…
/r/askMRP25/06/24 06:13 PM
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I think context matters. How did she say it? What preceded it?
/r/askMRP25/06/24 05:40 PM
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I'm not sure but it's definitely more than 0. Go own your shit.
/r/askMRP24/06/24 08:29 PM
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Finish it. If you still have this question, read it again, slowly, not as an audiobook. Do the exercises.
/r/askMRP11/06/24 09:18 PM
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Did you listen to it?
/r/askMRP11/06/24 03:57 PM
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I'd put more energy into finances and leading there. You say money is tight enough that you're not paying a credit card off until a tax refund hits, you want your wife to control her spending, but then your goal under finances is to buy a motorcycle... Also, you're taking testosterone. Of course your libido is high. Otherwise, if you don't want to obsess over sex, the best thing is to be busy with other things. 3kl wrote sex and the obsession thereof on the subject, which seemed pretty accurate …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 02:30 PM
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You ever get that "when i say no i feel guilty" audiobook figured out?
/r/askMRP11/06/24 02:05 PM
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I think you're another guy who got way ahead of himself. There's a reason why the first step is stfu, lift, oys. Not "play weird power games." The shit you're doing is bonkers and so is the speech you planned. Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts and go home. If you have to engage about whats been going on, say something like, "I haven't been sleeping well and I needed to reset." You can repeat this. Don't lie, you dont have to. Dont make your speech. And move on. If you really want a divor…
/r/askMRP10/06/24 03:34 AM
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You agreed to no sex until you have a vasectomy for some reason. And then you didn't immediately get the vasectomy. You can always change your mind. But you have to actually say it and own it. I have a few questions. Have you heard of condoms? IUDs? Anal? Have you ever made this woman cum? Does she masturbate?
/r/askMRP07/06/24 11:33 AM
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It sounds like you're in a country where healthcare is essentially, "you get what you get," since you used the term GP. But, I'd recommend doing some research into options, pushing your GP to discuss specialists and refer to someone particularly expert in the condition. There is a lot of variabilltity in approach to correcting pectus cavus and surgeon matters. In the US, I would go about this by identifying an academic surgeon specializing in the procedure in my area/healthcare network, then con…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 07:28 PM
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Do it. You also need to figure out prognosis and if it will become a more serious issue down the line. Easier to fix the earlier you do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 03:18 AM
1

Have you gotten any consultation on fixing your pectus excavatum?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 07:53 PM
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My understanding and experience is that women who are invested mate guard themselves. Mate guarding is unattractive and not a real solution longterm. I wouldn't want to be with a woman i had to set those kinds of rules for. Short term, duh, if you set a boundary and stop her from having an opportunity to cheat, she will be less likely to cheat. But you would be better off nexting that girl in the first place before you have an investment that makes you feel the need to mate guard. Rollo's articl…
/r/askMRP05/06/24 04:42 PM
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There you go. Thats what should have been in your oys. Own that shit. With actions. Not hamstering about apologies and weird emails.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 06:55 PM
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Eh, my comment was off. I see 3 to 4 nights a week and missing dinner. Pretty fucked. Still would say the going out isn't likely the primary issue, more a symptom. Wondering if these are true girls nights out (eg drinking, concerts, late) versus evenings with girlfriends. I think it matters. If its true girls night out, Rollo says these happen because something is missing from you and the relationship (excitement mostly) that she fills with girl time. Either way, own your shit.
/r/askMRP04/06/24 02:51 PM
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Also re listened to NMMNG. I feel like I'm living a life I like per the book. But based on jabs from the wife, I've got some failures and honestly I'm glad she shared them. Do you feel like you're doing everything you should be to maintain YOUR standards? What are your failures?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 02:26 PM
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Nothing replaces owning your shit while reading the sidebar, starting with steels guide, scrolling to each next part and reading all the links. You would have known the answer here months ago instead of farting around. I hear the answer to "all you want me for is sex" is aa or am. I think mmslp even has the answer, "no, you're a good cook too" or something like that. It sounds good but I never tried it. Before finding mrp, my wife had been throwing that line at me for a while. Finally, I said, "…
/r/askMRP04/06/24 01:29 AM
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I don't think a wife going out and spending time with friends is a problem by itself. Do you want a codependent? Is there a bigger issue here? What was your victim puke 9 days ago about?
/r/askMRP01/06/24 11:07 PM
1

How long/how many failures would you need to see before deciding that this model isn't working to achieve your goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/24 01:34 PM
4

Direct quote, "burn twotsm and forget it the best you can."
/r/askMRP31/05/24 01:59 PM
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While I was trying to negotiate sex pre-RP with my wife, she would say, oh your so handsome, I love our sex life, you are the best lover, etc. Then she would have no interest in sex Same realization here when I first read that. I wasn't in dead bedroom territory, but ignoring words and looking only at actions, attraction was clearly low. Very inhibited, scripted sex focused entirely on getting my wife off like a sex robot 1 to 2 times a week while initiating and being rejected daily, told "no" f…
/r/askMRP31/05/24 01:52 PM
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I'd treat it like any loss of attraction then. The trauma isn't the problem, you are. Your top 2 comments are gold.
/r/askMRP31/05/24 02:59 AM
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Was sex always a problem or did it become a problem?
/r/askMRP30/05/24 07:47 PM
1

Probably this line somehow I have been unable to turn it over to God for the past couple of decades. Whats different now? You born again?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 03:48 PM
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Youve been talking about how you really should start managing finances for over a year now. You're talking about how your wife is incredibly busy because of an infant. Infants kill sleep, fuck up hormones. But they dont make you busy unless youve got your wife working from home and watching the baby at the same time (is that whats hallening?). They mostly sleep. A potato that cries sometimes. I took mine on errands, out with dinner, on workouts. But, I also figured out how to take care of a baby…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 11:44 AM
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Why do you think you've been unable to quit masturbating or achieve other goals by "living by the spirit" in the past? Why do you think it will work now?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 03:39 AM
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Porn 3. I think, I don’t really remember it all. I try not to dwell on my failures outside of learning from them to move forward. I cannot defeat this on my own power, but somehow I have been unable to turn it over to God for the past couple of decades. Is this rhetorical or do you honestly believe you need God's intervention to stop jacking it?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 11:31 PM
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does this indicate that she has BPD Maybe. A psychologist needs to sort that out. Not the peanut gallery at askmrp based on your bullshit post. Seriously, though, You've got kid(s) with this woman. Make her see a clinical psychologist. Keep weapons and pills away from her. Even the most transparently manipulative people who threaten suicide may eventually do it. but is still attracted to me? You're fucked. Start owning your shit instead of churning through askmrp.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 08:23 PM
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I have no idea if you've read anything yet or ever owned your shit. If you haven't, go do that. It sounds like you're trying to find the formula for good sex, and you're basing your actions off of her. You don't need to worry about her hormones, or how sex might be. Focus on the moment. I remember this was hard enough for me to figure out even after reading so I'll be kind and simplify it. Initiate and fuck when you feel like it. If you're enjoying the sex, great! If you're not enjoying the sex,…
/r/askMRP24/05/24 08:40 PM
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I don't know what to say. This post is the equivalent of a dude asking, "what should I do about this stain out of my carpet?" And then you find out his house is actually a storage unit and it's also on fire.
/r/askMRP24/05/24 04:23 PM
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You haven't fucked in 15 years. What do you care? Do you even want to fuck a 55 year old hypothyroid postmenopausal woman?
/r/askMRP24/05/24 03:19 PM
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I worried about that at one point too. Honestly, I just dropped the filter. If I want something, I say it. Some of the time it has been a bit awkward and retarded. But I've found no real downside as long as I don't beg or argue. And lots of upside when it hits. And she brought it up, seems organic enough to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/24 11:48 AM
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I'll admit I've not gone through divorce. It looks like you're 100% locked and set on it. No judgment, I think my reaction to divorce threats would be "there's the door", too. This being the case, I dont really understand the point of antagonizing her further. If your goal is a quick and clean mediation, I would think you would want her as agreeable as possible. Why engage in an argument or verbally "defend your values"? Why not fun and warm around her, even flirty. "Yeah, it is sad. Lets just e…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 05:33 PM
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After sex y wife said she's not sure she wants me to get a vasectomy and that we can explore doing "other things" when she's ovulating. The needy beta in me wanted to ask exactly what she had in mind but I didn't. Time will tell what this means and I'll just have to keep pushing boundaries to find out. What do you want "other things" to mean? Your flirting and sex life will get exponentially better when you learn to say what you want freely and without shame or hesitation. It's the best thing I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 03:37 PM
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Well, I'm glad I followed up because that all makes 100% sense to me. I am finding that it's harder for me to finish (or better said, it takes more time for me than it does for her). She is putting in the work so I am not critical of her performance. As a result, I found myself somewhat self-concious, as the hit to her ego if I don't finish is considerable. When I noticed this happening, I started focusing on myself primarily while making her enjoyment secondary. Amusingly enough, all this has d…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 02:11 AM
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I'm trying to think this through. Bear with me. Most men are fucking with the intent of maximising their partners enjoyment. And yet, women prefer when men go get theirs and use them rather than seek to focus on them. I hear this and understand it is at least partially true. But, I think the extreme example disproves the rule. A guy could derive all pleasure from jacking off on a girl's tits, or an even less stimulative fetish. At some point, the girl wants to cum. I think the actual ideal for w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 03:40 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'm still getting some tendon pain on the left, especially when it starts to fatigue. So I've been following option 1. Option 2 seems like a good choice when I stop having pain. Interestingly, my pt has essentially said dont worry about it, train the right with whatever it can do, left with whatever it can do, who cares if it's asymmetrical, left will get close eventually.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 03:01 PM
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And, I realized I only answered for how I created immersion, not for how I immersed myself. Fuck, telling. Pre-mrp, immersion mostly occurred for me when I was fucking so hard I couldn't think. Otherwise, I was definitely in my head/my girl's head. Always thinking about how i was going to make her cum again. I was at least focused on sex, though. I'm not an anxious person and could always tune out the world. Now, I've been working on immersing in myself more of the time. Focusing entirely on my …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 11:52 PM
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Also, I see nothing wrong with just nuking shit tests, but if you want to experiment, try exacerbating the emotional wave with cocky/funny, A&A, teasing, the next time you get a shit test. Another way to think about it -- shit tests aren't really a "test" for you, it's just a way for her to get more feelz (i.e., flirt). Noted. I don't always nuke shit tests, but I have been gradually doing it more and more and didn't even think to do anything else this last week. I'll be more cognizant of it thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 05:14 PM
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OK immersion GO into detail here. Sounds interesting. Immersion is still illusive to me. I'm honestly not that great at it directly, its more like a byproduct of everything else. Before MRP, i didnt even think about it, but i can reflect back and recognize when it was or wasnt good. Early on, I figured out that, if I fucked at the right angle hard enough and long enough, orgasms occurred. When youre fucking hard, and especially once a girl is cumming, immersion is essentially automatic. For a wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 05:00 PM
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OYS #38 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 231 (-1) lbs (goal 220 lb before July), Wife 37 yo, together 16 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 5 BP 145x12, OHP 95x10, DL 225x15, Barbell Row 125x15, Squat xxx, Pull ups -100 x 15 I lifted compounds 3x, rehab lifts 5/7 days again. Got cleared by PT and discharged from clinic for my left biceps even though it's still about 30% weaker than my right. Was told I am restriction free for pushing work but should still ramp carefully for pulls. So, I'm transitioning from my 4 sets of…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 02:06 PM
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Smh
/r/askMRP19/05/24 01:24 AM
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Too dumb to find a book on audible, think you're smart enough to digest it double speed in a night... You will have a difficult life.
/r/askMRP18/05/24 11:09 PM
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No libido for 10 years? You on any meds? Still get morning wood? Get turned on by porn/women other than your wife? What the fuck did you do to your dick 15 years ago that you think is still affecting your libido? In reading more and more, I think a fundamental issue of mine is that I don’t really like my wife. I don’t like my wife’s personality the more I have gotten to know her. Most of the time she is bossy, disagreeable, controlling, impatient, complains a lot (sees the negative in things), e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/24 03:18 PM
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this isn't the first time she's ignored your advice. it won't be the last time. so what do you think this implies? That she doesn't value it. Or, at least, doesn't value it enough to follow it every time. She sees it as freely given without a consequence for not following it. That said, I give advice for a living. I get paid 100s of dollars by patients to tell them what they need to do to stay alive and healthy. And they still often don't comply. Because following my advice usually takes effort …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/24 02:14 PM
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Starts?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 06:51 PM
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Shit show oys and you don't even post stats How long has this divorce/separation threatening been going on? Before red pill? Who actually brought it up to start with?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 06:50 PM
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Man, i can tell I'm completely missing your point. I want to understand. Going into my wifes head now, but... Honestly, I think she thinks the cost is making the wrong decision. And, in this case, the cost is the specific consequences that occurred. She has started overtly saying, "I wish I'd listened to you." That said, since then, she started arguing with me when I gave her advice on what to do during recovery. I reflexively said, "are you seriously dumb enough to ignore me again?" And that en…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 06:27 PM
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She can do whatever she wants, but I suggest give her a good dressing down for wasting your time. She doesn't value it because there's no cost to her getting the advise or her not valuing the advice. From my perspective, the cost here was shit going south and possibly being permanently disabled. In dressing her down, what additional consequence would I be creating beyond making it even more clear that I disapproved of her not listening to me? I think that should already be clear. Is there some a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 10:15 PM
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You are going respond very differently if you child whines for candy vs if they run headlong in a busy street with traffic. This can communicated without extensive arguing/pleas that shows the gravity in which you view the situation. Hmm. I would physically restrain my kids running into the street. Not sure I'm going to do that with my wife when she doesn't listen but it could be fun. Or it could land me in prison... Seriously, though, I agree. I need to find a middle ground where I say, "this i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 09:16 PM
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OYS #37 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 232 (-1) lbs (goal 220 lb before July), Wife 37 yo, together 16 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 5 All lifts 4 sets, 15 reps BP 135, OHP 80, DL xxx, Barbell Row 125, Squat xxx, Pull ups xxx (lat pull down 100) I lifted compounds 3x, rehab lifts 5/7 days. I've started to have some mild soreness around the biceps towards the end of sets so I paused on increasing the big lifts and started doing them at slow tempo to increase difficulty. I see PT this week to decide if I can remove…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:03 PM
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School refusal is a big problem, especially in the last month with her regular teacher on maternity leave, she been home more days than at school. Dude, you can't accept a status quo where your daughter can just refuse to go to school most days, regardless of developmental disorder. Shit will just keep getting worse. Come up with a new plan. When you're unbanned, post what you read from the sidebar and what you learned. Each week. Your ban shows that you haven't comprehended what you read so far…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/24 10:01 AM
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But if you leave, how will you take advantage of her "unmatched benefits and compensation?"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 02:13 PM
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All of the books, with the exception maybe of wisnifg, will have some bad advice to filter out. NMMNG has the most. Then MMSLP. This shit isnt religion and it definitely isn't science. You're going to have to think for yourself. But take it as a favor when a vet points out something wrong. Ryan stone on youtube also breaks down books including nmmng and points out some pitfalls. I tracked my wife's ovulation for fertility (avoiding getting pregnant) for over a year. Ovulation made no fucking dif…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 12:48 PM
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Nmmng is a start. Continue with steel's guide on r/marriedredpill. I "openly communicated" to death before reading here. It is not the final answer you're hoping for.
/r/askMRP08/05/24 02:05 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 233 (-1) lbs (goal 220 lb before July), Wife 37 yo, together 16 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 5 All lifts 4 sets, 15 reps, 30 second interval BP 135, OHP 80, DL xxx, Barbell Row 125, Squat xxx, Pull ups xxx (lat pull down 100) Lifted every day. Keeping up with rehab and arm is feeling better. Leg improvement is slow. If I'm squatting in a few weeks and running a month from now I'll be thrilled. Not playing sports is really bumming me out. But lifting at least helps for now. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 12:48 AM
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Don't come on a red pill forum and ask them to read about OCD to advise you. That's insane. If you really think this is OCD, get yourself to a good psychologist and start cognitive behavioral therapy. Shit's treatable. Plenty of dudes without ocd could write what you did, though. Just without all the lines blaming ocd. STFU and read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP07/05/24 11:46 AM
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I know you say you're fit and have money and your shit together, but your writing and waffling screams otherwise. Your thoughts are all over the place. Your logic is insane. Like a dude having a manic break. Part of being a man is collecting your thoughts and making a consistent vision for the future. I could give you examples from your posts and comments, but you're too lazy to edit what you write or own your shit so fuck it. You can't have frame when you don't really know who you are or what y…
/r/askMRP06/05/24 09:55 PM
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Yeah, for me, its less about whether or not there will be more problems/challenges. I'm rational enough that I always knew there would be more. And, historically, I've been good at facing challenges. But, I was striving to solve every problem. Immediately. Like a 20 minute TV show. My model: Bad things might happen, but I would act just right, my wife would act just right, we would handle it and move on and everyone would be happy and pleasant and perfect by dinner and then have great sex and ce…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/24 07:51 PM
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If you can't think of a way to judge whether you're attractive without involving your wife, I give up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 06:36 PM
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Ok, youre starting to get it. You can take another step with this. As much as possible, boundary enforcement should be a natural consequence of what happens when something goes against your frame. You can apply this reasoning to all of your interactions. It doesn't matter what either of you say. You can shut up more. Focus on actions. For example, with the money. Does the money matter to you? If it doesn't, you don't have to argue about it with her. There's no point in enforcing a boundary that …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 03:55 PM
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Fuck, I looked and saw you've been here for 4 years and still haven't straightened yourself out. Posting lifts is one of the most basic things here. But I guess you're special, it works different for you, you don't need to so what everyone else does.... oh wait, you're still struggling after FOUR FUCKING YEARS. And you write 2 part oys's, spend paragraphs hamstering about your lifts, but posting them is a pain? BTW, I knew a 6'8" guy with pectus excavatum. He fucking slayed pussy because he was …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 02:37 PM
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Leverage for what?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 02:26 AM
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"she is totally exposed" meaning showing a huge vulnerability for me to exploit in the future. Exploit how? What's the vulnerability?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 02:22 AM
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This probably isn't a shit test. Sex probably hurts her. Probably because she isn't turned on. And you're probably bad at sex. Either way, part of being good at dominant sex is listening when she says something hurts. Girls can't trust you to push boundaries if you're going to hurt them (in a non-fun way). If she trusted you and was attracted to you and turned on during sex, she would tell you what hurt in the moment. Then you would switch to something else to give her pussy a rest. Like anal. S…
/r/askMRP03/05/24 12:17 AM
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Post on tuesday Post your lifts. Every week. Especially if they suck. If I were you, I'd post exactly what I'm doing as well and take the advice. Pop a viagra and go twice while you figure out your PE. Worry about how long you need to wait for results after you've actually become attractive and capable of good sex You didn't see your wife for most of the weekend because she is house sitting? Hmm
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/24 10:11 PM
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What you said was fine. The problem is that there is nothing to back up the words. Adding this to a list of reasons you might eventually get divorced isn't going to do anything until the day you serve her. Ideally, your removal of time and attention should be effective. But it doesn't work if your attention is not valued. Can you really not think of any actions to take that would enforce this boundary? Off the top of my head, you could just take an equivalent amount from your joint account to yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/24 11:16 AM
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One way or another I will get a resolution. Go ahead, tell me, what's the "another" way? Is it whining to your wife more? Seriously, write it out. So much reading and youre missing 101 shit. How are you still trying to enforce boundaries with words? Actions. Read this a few times: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vr5ih/how_to_build_boundaries_during_your_transition/
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 12:21 AM
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Damn. I'll give hook grip a shot. I want the grip training from deadlift and hate to use straps.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 06:33 PM
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Then I strongly recommend waiting on the surgery until you're fit. You can wear a lace-up brace when doing anything dangerous. The instability will also get better when you weigh less and are stronger because you will have better balance and less load. Weight loss helps everything. I also am missing ligaments in both ankles from countless sprains. Turned out sprains were due to varus ankles and custom orthotics took care of most of the instability. I had one repaired because the cartilage was al…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 05:49 PM
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Thanks, avoid mixed grip forever? What do you mean by "pulls?" Including deadlift?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 04:28 PM
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Setup an appointment to get a second opinion on my ankle surgery. Hoping to get it fixed this summer. What surgery? How limiting? If you're OK answering. Blanket advice: you are still really fat. A lot of injuries get better when you lose 60 pounds, which is about the minimum you should lose. Also, you will get fatter after surgery. Ankle will mean almost no activity. And rehab will be way harder when you're fat. Wife is back sleeping in our bedroom. Oddly when she moved back into the bedroom I …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 04:20 PM
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Good on you owning your shit. You lurked first. Post what you read, specifically. And what you took from it. The stuff here is a lot to digest and a mixed bag. You have to talk about it to learn it and apply it. I've seen a lot of lurkers show up having ready "most of the sidebar" and struggle misunderstanding the absolute basics. Fitness: 6 weeks into a daily lifting regimen. Could use more cardio Post your lifts This was difficult for me as it goes against my nature as outlined in my r/askMRP …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 04:10 PM
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OYS #35 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 234 (-1) lbs (goal 220 lb before July), Wife 37 yo, together 16 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 5 All lifts 4 sets, 15 reps, 30 second interval BP 115, OHP 70, DL xxx, Barbell Row 105, Squat xxx, Pull ups xxx (lat pull down 95) I lifted every day. Besides the compounds, I'm doing about 25 accessories for arm and leg rehab which I'm supposed to do for 12 sets per week so I'm staying busy. Compound lifts feel trivial at these weights but I'm staying smart and sticking to physica…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 03:29 PM
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If you aren't scared of needles, BPC-157 injected into fat near the injury can increase the healing rate twofold (or more). Appreciate it. Looks like it might actually help based on early studies but I'm good. The biceps is healed now, just have to strengthen gradually. PSMF... 1g/lb BW protein, and high Essential Fatty Acid Fish Oil capsules a la The Rapid Fat Loss Handbook by Lyle McDonald (there's also a free version out there if you've got good antivirus software). Thanks, that looks like go…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/24 02:36 PM
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But at some point in the MRP journey, there has to be a (slow / steady) transition. Thanks, good insight. I am struggling with the transition. Staying motivated to improve without external pressures has always been an issue for me. I will work hard to avoid life going to shit or to improve unacceptable conditions. But, I have trouble putting sustained effort into making things better when I'm already comfortable. Also, embrace the moment. You have a new son! Congratulations. That can be a specia…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/24 03:18 PM
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Heard. One way to develop OI is to realize that her not wanting sex or not being super enthusiastic about it at a given moment probably isn't even related to you or whether she's attracted to you. This OYS is a great example...you have a newborn (fucking with wife's hormones & sleep), who just came home from the ICU (stress), and offered up anal because her pussy "was still wrecked." Anger is irrational, and I know what you're saying. I include this in my oys because it was a surprise when it ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 02:47 PM
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Struggling to find more ways to add variety in the bedroom. 90% of the way through sgm and you can't figure this out? You don't have anything you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 12:50 AM
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You have 6 paragraphs in your sex section and yet I somehow have no idea if you had sex or not. On health, my money says psychological. You sound like an anxious dude. That shit comes out in low energy, unexplainable health stuff. Meanwhile, you should have the ultimate idgaf attitude. If I remember right, you have no kids, and you and your girl both cheated on eachother. Your relationship is both doomed and low stakes. You should have ultra idgaf energy. I think you're going to keep spinning yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 08:31 PM
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OYS #34 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 235 lbs, Wife 37 yo, together 16 years, 3 kids - 0, 3 & 5 All lifts 4 sets, 15 reps, 30 second interval BP 95, OHP 65, DL 225, Row 45, Squat xxx (leg press 800), Pull ups xxx (lat pull down 90) It's been a bit. I've finally been cleared for more than 2 pounds on my biceps repair and started compound lifts again, working to get back in shape. so I'm back to posting. I've got some hard limits from the surgeon/PT, so the lifts are all bullshit. I've also got about 20 acc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 07:45 PM
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As a member of the "master race", just remember to ask yourself, "what would Hitler do?" Then shoot yourself in the head.
/r/askMRP21/04/24 02:31 AM
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LTR? You were "spinning plates" 2 months ago. Where'd this come from? Is it the same girl you made kill the puppy months ago by being autistic?
/r/askMRP20/04/24 10:41 PM
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What the fuck am I missing? Frame Should I have ignored the scoff? Yes Made fun of it? If you can, without getting emotional. So no. Should I initially ignore, then pull her aside and have a conversation about expectations? You think she doesn't know this is bad behavior? You should be having 0 "conversations" about her behavior right now. Every time you do, you 1) tell her nothing she doesn't already know. 2) give her a chance to rationalize why being a bitch is fine and 3) demonstrate that you…
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:09 PM
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I want to be clear, I don't mean personal details. I mean what you actually said or enough detail so someone knows what happened when you say you handled something well or fucked up. I can't count the amount of times I thought I did something well and fucked up or thought I fucked up and did fine when I first started learning the concepts. The rule 9 bans aren't just for talking about your wife. They're for talking in her frame. Eg "my wife thought xyz" or "my wife did xyz because of her feminis…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 09:34 PM
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This is the time to be clear with the behavior you want and praise/reward accordingly. This is how she can relieve her dread and stop being a nuisance.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 03:23 PM
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Confort her with your warm, empathetic cock.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 02:18 PM
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We discussed later and decided that the benefits and compensation cannot be matched elsewhere. Cold blooded nice guy right here. You want to be the alpha but then "we" decided she needs to keep doing the 12 hour a day job that's making her suicidal because "the benefits and compensation cannot be matched". Then you spend the rest of your oys moaning about what a bitch she is. Own this shit. Your mission: "I want to be high status and wealthy by working my plowhorse wife into the ground." If the …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 01:27 AM
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came up from working out. wife said, so depressed, work 12 hours a day, don't know what to do. don't feel connected to it. hug, she said your dirty. she said what i am working for. i said, money, just watch it stack. she said i feel like killing myself. i said, before you do anything, talk to me. she started saying something, like you shouldn't say that, you should offer solution, and i just left and went back down to the gym. thought about it. it's her job to figure it out, her job. i can't 'fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 12:23 AM
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Thinly veiled divorce threat. Nice. Seriously though, I think you're having trouble holding frame because you've overcomplicated everything. Break down each part and address it individually. It will make everything easier. In this example: 1) you've been fucking up for a long time. Your wife listed somethings that apparently you thought you should be doing all along. You can own that and do them. It's better to say yes or nothing at all than to get in a fight and then do them anyways. 2) you wer…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 10:09 PM
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She has laid out a list of things I need to “fix” in order for her to grace me with her presence in our bedroom. She explicitly said she won't sleep in the same bed until you do a list of things?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 04:10 PM
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You already fucked up at the beginning when a face from your wife stopped you from saying what you thought you should. Then you just kept fucking up by arguing. Luckily, it's never too late to stfu. Do that more.
/r/askMRP16/04/24 03:58 AM
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Money is not alpha. Money and attraction are not directly related. Women may use money as a qualifier, but they don't get wet for it. Stop hamstering excuses for your situation. You are physically weak and submissive. This is what matters.
/r/askMRP13/04/24 03:05 AM
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It's up to you. Its not a boundary for me. If I felt I needed to make the boundary with my wife, I wouldn't have married her.
/r/askMRP12/04/24 08:54 PM
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DEER. This is a waste. Read the MRP sidebar. You would have been able to answer this yourself without a "brainstorm" if you had.
/r/askMRP10/04/24 10:13 PM
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Whatever man, you're 8 years invested and still unable to just say, "hey, babe, show me your hidden photos, got any good nudes?"
/r/askMRP10/04/24 09:48 PM
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This whole thing drips insecurity. 8 years in and you don't know her past? My money says you don't know her present either.
/r/askMRP10/04/24 07:28 PM
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My response to anything in the "you're not attracted to me" range is to start kino and escalating towards sex. That said, I am attracted to my wife. If I wasn't, I wouldn't care if she knew it.
/r/askMRP10/04/24 04:18 PM
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Are you fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/24 02:47 PM
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I escalated constantly this week and noticed much more response back. Now I have a covert contract that I'm waiting for her to initiate to validate my progress. Really pathetic when I write it out, especially when I know from experience it ain't gonna happen. Not pathetic, super common but the wrong mentality. It's not as hot for her to initiate overtly. She wants to be taken. Get over it. Women tend to initiate more subtly rather than overtly, by making themselves available. By overtly initiati…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/24 02:10 AM
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Developing a life outside of work and family isn't a skippable step.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 12:13 PM
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OK, no gaming and no sex, lots of anger. What did you do that was fun and/or social? What are you doing with this extra time you arent spending on your wife? What is your wife or any woman missing out on by not getting your attention?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 03:46 PM
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Hmm, this makes more sense reading your oys. Threatening divorce and lying would both be hard boundaries for me and I imagine are for you too. Good luck with this. I will be shocked if you manage this divorce but keep all your assets and stay together arrangement, but I hope to hear it works out. Maybe related, did you ever work out your plan to have threesomes to get more sexual experience? Real advice. Your daughter is 7. Can you get this sahm back in the workforce? Could save you on that alim…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 01:12 PM
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A lot of guys read mrp/trp and then apply it in a way that would drive off any woman with self esteem. Especially if the guy isnt clearly her best option. I imagine that could be what's happened here. Echo own your shit. This is just dating, though, so my questions for your last post still applies. How often are you fucking? How often do you want to be fucking?
/r/askMRP01/04/24 03:07 PM
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Consider rewriting this using examples from your own experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/24 02:56 PM
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Well, I asked. Smh
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/24 11:21 PM
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I don't understand. Now you want to divorce for financial protection?
/r/askMRP31/03/24 10:49 PM
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Yeah, you definitely have something
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/24 05:14 PM
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I'm pretty sure you want to divorce because you feel like you missed out and want to fuck other women. Why do you have to make it about your wife? Own it.
/r/askMRP31/03/24 04:28 PM
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How often are you fucking? How often do you want to be fucking?
/r/askMRP31/03/24 03:10 PM
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Currently rereading sidebar especially anger phase. Bullshit you've actually read the sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/24 10:00 PM
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It's red pill 101 wisnifg. you want things because you want them. This wanting sex for "connection and love" "core part of the union" is a guilt trip tactic and will just lead to more arguing.
/r/askMRP28/03/24 09:04 PM
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How much protein is "super high"? Edit: also, where did you read that creatine and protein cause back pain?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 09:31 PM
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Youve gotten some half accurate advice. Doctor is probably pointing you in the right direction. 1) creatine is converted to creatinine. 2) neither creatine nor creatinine damage your kidneys. Creatinine is just used as a measure of kidney function. 3) people with relatively muscular builds who lift weights will naturally have higher creatinine. Doctors frequently have to adjust for these factors when interpreting creatinine. 4) protein can damage your kidneys, but you don't need more than 1-1.5 …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 06:30 PM
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The goal isn't to stop being shit tested. Shit tests are forever. The goal is to pass them and not give a fuck. Again, this is stuff most guys learn in the first few weeks here. You have not understood what you have read. Good luck with the slow reread. Take notes. Treat it like school.
/r/askMRP27/03/24 02:53 PM
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That's all good. What did you do that was fun and/or social?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 10:18 PM
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This makes more sense then. It's clear that you are miscomprehending the sidebar after a year. Like, worse than most guys who have been here a few weeks. Something like half a billion people speak hindi. Maybe some of them are floating around red pill and can break this down for you in hindi? Maybe some of the sidebar is translated well? If not, you may want to rewrite the important points and then repeat them in your oys so you're sure you're getting it right. No more mr. Nice guy and wisnifg h…
/r/askMRP25/03/24 09:32 PM
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What's your native language?
/r/askMRP25/03/24 03:12 PM
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Try again. You were saying shit like this a month ago: Me: “If all of it is so hard for you, perhaps you should reconsider being part of this family” “Well, maybe you should think about it too” Me: “Oh, I think about it a lot. Trust me” I spent some time thinking about whether this was a fuck up on my part. I don’t think so. You worked out and did some things, but the first step here is to shut the fuck up, pass shit tests and live in your own frame, doing the shit you want to do and giving atte…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 08:13 PM
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What step would that be? I assume you've read this u/hornsofapathy post. What stage would you say you're at?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 06:43 PM
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U/razzmatazz32 gave me lots of good advice and his advice to you was good too, as far as giving you a concrete framework of control game based on what you said you wanted. But he did preface it by saying it wouldn't work and it was to prep you for other girls after you get divorced. And I'd be surprised if he ever tried to use control game to turn a fatty fit. What's the point? Why waste the time when you can find a girl who already is? You also fucked it by making it overtly about changing her,…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:19 PM
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I tried leading by example in the past, without much success. I didn't say it would work, I said it's the most you can do. None of this is guaranteed. At least it's not unattractive. This is nothing else but control game and it was recommended. Who recommended that you tell your wife she's fat and she needs to eat better and work out, then start planning her meals and giving her workouts? I don't expect her to actually listen but all of the above are qualities I want in a girl I'm fucking and I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 08:02 PM
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Girls don't get fit just because you tell them to and then try to micromanage them. Especially when they don't even want to fuck you. You're wasting time and being unattractive. I know it's hard, but you have to sftu. Lead by example. Meal planning is a good idea. But you can't enforce it, just make it available. If you can't help yourself and want to try to get her active, the most you can do is invite her. Pick something fun and active that you would enjoy with or without her, ideally social t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 06:25 PM
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This is wild. Do you feel like you're living the life of someone who actually swallowed the red pill 8 years ago?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/24 09:10 AM
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If I'm following correctly, your wife is suicidal so you moved her into her own appartment?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/24 12:24 PM
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You are a perfect candidate for MRP. Read the sidebar and implement it and see where you are. Steel's guide plus the links, then the books. Own your shit. You have your shit together and are fit, so you are likely being very unattractive in how you interact with her. Fix that and see what happens.
/r/askMRP10/03/24 02:40 PM
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Well, u/nosleep4oldman gave you the answer. But, honestly, I wouldn't give a shit if my wife went out late to a gay strip club with her girlfriends. Same way i dont care if she looks at porn. Worrying about her thinking about other guys drips insecurity and mateguarding is burdensome and unattractive. I also noticed you haven't read wisnifg yet. It will help you say what you want without getting into shitty arguments.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/24 01:32 PM
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You're on a sexual strategy forum but it sounds like your biggest issues are work and sleep. Can't tell you what to do for your job. Except put your energy into figuring that out rather than how your wife's friends feel about your sex life. For sleep, melatonin works in low doses timed 30 min to an hour before bed and combined with removing light sources (eg phone). Over 3mg and it can make sleep worse. You can go to a psychologist to work on CBT to learn how to fall asleep, or read [this](https…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/24 12:20 AM
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If you want to talk about it, make a frame section and talk about how you did what you thought was best because you felt like it and how you used wisnifg etc to maintain frame when you did what you felt like. Practice not writing from the frames of your wife or mother.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 06:21 PM
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That hair specialist did you dirty trying to get you balder so they can charge you more later. Finasteride is the only available med that works longterm. Topical may work, oral definitely works. Oral costs like 12 bucks for a 3 month supply. There's no such thing as too early. You can decide if it causes side effects and stop if it does. Nah I do, more context in my victim puke OYS 1. Wife perceives me as living in my mother's frame when it comes to family. Fuck man. Your mindset is so far off I…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 05:31 PM
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Lifting: I'd move away from the smith machine if you can. Doesn't give as good of a workout since you don't need stabilizing muscles. Hair: I used finasteride and it worked. If you're at a spot where you're noticeably bald, as opposed to mildly receding hairline, it's very unlikely your hair will ever look good. Either way, you are almost certainly much better off shaving it short. I did that while I waited for finasteride to kick in. Finance: you've got plenty of money. This place is for sexual…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 06:23 AM
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I hate that I had to use new bitch--she's really cool and I don't like to use people. I hate that I put my wife through such overt dread. But in the final analysis, I need results like these to stay married to her. This says a lot. You see yourself as a man doing unsavory things because he "needs" to. It feels gross because it is. Flirting with women should be fun for both of you. Your wife fucking you after getting tingles from you being the kind of guy who can flirt with women should be fun fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 12:45 AM
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Read steel's guide with the links and make your next book no more mr. Nice guy (with the rian stone commentary from youtube so you dont take some of the bad advice like talking about fightclub or the sex moratorium), then wisnifg. You seem to both realize you have no frame and are living in your girl's and yet continue to focus on her feelings in this post. Once you start actually focusing on yourself and what you want rather than her complaints, I think things will get better for you quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/24 03:05 PM
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I see why others think youre a troll but I think you're just a guy who knows his wife has cheated to some degree (not this time maybe, but some time) and now you're acting crazy. R/marriedredpill sidebar really would be good for you. Start with steels guide, read the links and books in order as you go. Actually read and understand them. Your relationship is already fucked. But you suck. Work on not sucking. And stop worrying about what this woman does. If you stop sucking, you won't want to be w…
/r/askMRP19/02/24 05:02 PM
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r/marriedredpill sidebar. Start with steel's guide and read each link as you go and follow the advice. Skimming won't work. I know you're a skimmer because you're posting this question instead of already reading the sidebar.
/r/askMRP15/02/24 04:03 PM
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Only lift I am struggling with in terms of my arthritis is deadlift. Too much strain on joints in my fingers and thumbs regardless of grip style. Thinking about switching to good mornings unless someone here has a better idea. Deadlifting is supposed to hurt your hands. They get stronger, pain gets less. Grip tight and use a switch grip and you can switch between reps even if you need to. 135 lbs is a trivial amount of weight and you're only 42, it's unlikely arthritis is causing this to be a co…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 12:39 PM
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As a doctor who had sciatica and was diagnosed with an l5-S1 herniated disc... I'd skip steroid injection and go see a sports medicine specialist (they will have completed a specific fellowship) who works with young people/athletes. They will assess and likely refer to PT. Again, find a PT who works with young people/athletes, the sports med person probably knows who. In general, don't trust a pt who doesnt look like they lift. There are ways to strengthen your back and prevent your hernia from …
/r/askMRP05/02/24 08:14 PM
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No one needs to hear those details. Stats, lifts, what you did. It can take a few minutes during a bathroom break. You dont need to post novels. For now, read more and stop drinking completely. Alcoholics can't responsibly drink any amount of alcohol so you'll be fucked anyways until you stop. That icebath thing is wild.
/r/askMRP26/01/24 01:11 PM
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I lied and said it was because it turned me on. She accepted this at face value, but it's bullshit and I'm angry at myself for bitching out. I'm doing it because I want her to act like my slut, THAT would turn me on. That said, I clearly can't stop now, so I will continue to forge ahead and see what happens. This is one example but they're everywhere. You can make this stuff about her or you can make it about yourself. You chose to make it about her. Alternatively, for this example, you could ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 08:56 PM
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Yeah, no upper body. If I accidentally activate my biceps it's excruciating. Thanks for the advice!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 08:17 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 233 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 5y Well, I posted that I would be following up more frequently to push my lifts a few weeks ago and then promptly tore my biceps insertion clean off the bone in a freak accident reaching for a ball. No big lifts since, just PT and waiting on surgery. Otherwise, things are going OK. They threatened to go south but I think I handled it. Naturally, my wife's immediate reaction to my injury was to yell at me for gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 06:12 PM
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I browse in incognito window and keep pdfs, audiobooks etc in a secure password encrypted folder that comes standard on Android phones. I let other people use my phone and don't need them running into this stuff.
/r/askMRP19/01/24 10:00 PM
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Ha, I read a couple posts from your history. If you don't think you're a "nice guy" by the end of nmmng, you're delusional. This place will be good for you, I hope you do the work. Time to take responsibility for your own shitty life. You're doing it to yourself. Just you. No one else. Read steel's guide and start owning your shit every Tuesday.
/r/askMRP19/01/24 03:16 PM
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Keep reading. Watch the Rian stone videos that go with nmmng on YouTube. Makes it more clear and sidesteps some of the bad advice in the book. Any time you can phrase what you're doing as, "I'm doing x, so she should/will want to/has to do y," it's a contract. If you don't talk about it, it's a covert contract. Neither is good in marriage.
/r/askMRP19/01/24 03:06 PM
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Not red pill but there's a book called Grit that summarizes the psychology of why some people get things done and others crumble when challenged. My parenting philosophy is to set my kids up to choose who they want to be and "grit" is key; much harder to learn than to already have growing up. Kids wouldn't read it before highschool but it can inform what you do. You could also just read the author's articles. Women are always going to raise kids like women. The people who should be worried about…
/r/askMRP18/01/24 09:23 PM
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Not your question but also, you say: I believe I am starting to come out of the anger phase. I am beginning to realize that everything is my fault. Things are the way they are because they lacked frame and was unable to enforce boundaries. Now that is changing, I am starting to do what I want when I want to. I suspect this is false. I understood this completely. Didn't matter. Because: I want to fuck other girls and take advantage of my newfound SVM The incongruence between what you have and wha…
/r/askMRP18/01/24 08:50 PM
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You claim to have read part of the sidebar that advises specifically on your question, but whatever. If you want to sink energy into overtly making this girl change, you can do it. Not red pill, and it generally kills attraction, but everyone needs a hobby. You've got no kids or responsibilities. If you really want to keep this girl around and also fuck other girls, become the kind of guy who can pull off a threesome or a side chick and do it. The worst thing that could happen is it doesn't work…
/r/askMRP18/01/24 08:38 PM
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Well, that's straightforward. Fuck someone else so you can get divorced. Your wife literally told you to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 03:00 PM
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Ok, but what are you supposed to comply with?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 06:24 PM
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Pullups: 3x2 (I've been having difficulty getting them up). Its hard to make progress with that few reps. If it's not painful on your joints, stop treating them like a normal lift and take as many breaks as you need to crank out at least 15. If it's painful put a chair under you and put your feet on the chair to aid you. Move the chair further away to support less of your weight until you max out at about 8 to 12 reps. You can do these every other day or more if youre not getting too sore. Eithe…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 03:41 PM
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She got the Church pastor to come and try and counsel and shame me into submitting. Submitting to what? From context, it sounds like she had the pastor come tell you to get a divorce. That's wild.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 03:29 PM
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I know this is a joke, but, watching "Naked Attraction" actually works like this. British people are rough.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 04:43 AM
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I just realised something. I don’t believe it. I don’t believe I can get an outstanding physique, and most importantly I don’t believe I’ll do it. Hence the half assed effort. It's not complicated. You don't have to believe anything. If you show up and lift 3 days a week for about an hour following a program (eg phraks gslp) you will get stronger and look better. And post what you're doing and your lifts for fucks sake. Paragraphs of introspection do not help. Also, it's not like you have to get…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 02:26 PM
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It's alright. I fucked this up for years and still fuck it up off and on. It still works when you figure it out. Never too late to stfu, reset and get it right the next time.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 08:10 PM
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You're talking way too much. Say what you want her to do. Move on. She does it or not. You don't convince her. You're dealing with the fallout from being dumb enough to rage and argue. But, good news, there's a solution! Stfu. Don't argue. Happily raise your kids and work on yourself. Make your expectations clear but don't engage on any more than a civil discussion on logistics about meeting those expectations. And for fucks sake, praise compliance. She did what you wanted. Don't give her shit f…
/r/askMRP09/01/24 06:29 PM
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Jokes aside, you are talking like my wife is the problem. She is not the problem, I am the problem. What I have seen in the last 8 weeks is that when I do better, she follows my lead and does better too. In other words, I wouldn't have been having vaginal sex with me either the way I've been the last 7 years of marriage. Nah. Duh, youre obviously the problem. Just making sure since you brought up her wanting a kid and didn't specifically say it wasn't happening. Whatever the reason, it's a bad i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 04:10 AM
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My wife has expressed a lot of happiness with our relationship lately, and has also expressed a desire to have another child soon, which means she actually is really happy with how things are going in our home. There have also been definite changes in our sexual relationship in a positive direction, including more frequent sex (outercourse) I really hope you aren't considering getting this woman pregnant again when she "can't" even have sex with you. Even if vaginal sex is painful there are othe…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 10:46 PM
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OYS #32 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 233 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 5y Physical: Doing warmups and 4 sets of 0-2 RIR, targeting >8 reps on AMRAP before going up to next weight. Last amraps: Bench: 180x8, OHP: 115x8, Squat: xxx (last 280x10), Deadlift: xxx (last 365x5) Yates Row: 225x5, chinups: 15lbx8 I took time off oys while I was pushing to complete a project. I'm still crunching but have been slacking on the physical side. Owning my shit helps keep me accountable there so I'm g…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 04:56 PM
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Women feel compelled to fuck when they feel as if the man is or could slip away and find something younger/hotter. A man who has all of his shit together and doesn't have constant availability to his wife. Eh, sort of in part. This is your first oys so let's not complicate this. You want to build attraction so women will want to fuck you. What builds attraction? Fram, game and looks This is 101. While you're getting in the sidebar books, read steels guide and follow the links as you go. It will …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 11:05 PM
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Sir, this is a Wendy's
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 10:11 PM
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I have limited time, so it would be great to finish 1 book every 2-3 months. Audiobooks available, especially for nmmng and wisnifg. Add rian stone youtubes. Those will do most of the heavy lifting early and you can get through them quick listening during drives/workouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 05:24 PM
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Read this. What does it mean to you and how does it apply to your situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 04:10 PM
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Read the sidebar starting with steels guide (and all its linked posts) and start owning your shit. Askmrp won't get you there. You already lift ok, my guess is the problem is you have shit frame and you're no fun. The answer to your problems is not to tear down your wife, it's to build yourself up.
/r/askMRP10/12/23 02:01 PM
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You don't need to do anything. But, what is your motivation for posting estimates rather than actual lifts? My experience is the single lift estimates (probably from strongur) are bogus and typically overestimates, especially at higher volumes. I fooled myself into thinking I was doing well based on these estimates and woke up when I tried to put up the actual estimated 1 rep weight. It was really only accurate for deadlift for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 04:50 PM
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e1RM: DL 315 lbs BP 231 lbs SQ 253 lbs Stop with that. Post what you lifted.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 12:42 PM
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Meh, I tried. If it all hurts too much, lift more reps lower weight. Do more supplemental lifts. Duh. What do you actually want posting this shit?
/r/askMRP04/12/23 04:44 PM
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There is no reason that, years later, after elimination of the bacteria, Lyme disease would make you any more prone to injury. So, good news, you can ignore the pain unless theres evidence of actual injury. Like everyone else. If you actually have myositis or autoimmune joint inflammation, those could cause issues. But chronic lyme disease doesn't cause those things. So you would need to followup up with a rheumatologist and/or neuromuscular specialist to figure out whats going on and start trea…
/r/askMRP04/12/23 03:58 PM
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So the question at hand is if I'm just fooling myself into thinking I have frame. Yes, you're fooling yourself Anyway, I have the feelz from time to time which I communicate to her, turns the relationship upside down. Been doing that quite a few times during last year. Is this bad? Should I ignore what I feel/communicate to her? I'm calling bullshit that you've read the sidebar here. STFU. Start over with steel's guide Any suggestions on what I can do given the circumstance I'm in? My company is…
/r/askMRP02/12/23 01:04 PM
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Rough. So then the answer is you don't have a newborn and that's not why you aren't having sex. But I think maybe you realize that since you stopped talking about it in this post. You've got some serious unfucking to do. Spend extra time reading what you write and deciding whether you're lying to yourself. This oys was a lot better.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/23 01:42 AM
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In your last post you said you aren't having sex due to a newborn and in this one you said you haven't had penetrative sex in 18 months... the math is concerning.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 06:28 PM
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Based on his posts, I was thinking some mix of religion, autism, scarcity and maybe gay. But I wanted him to say it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 01:15 PM
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an LTR is the end goal. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 10:50 PM
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I am only interested in women with LTR potential, period. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 08:56 PM
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Seriously, you're asking for red pill advice on wifing up a single mom?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 08:51 PM
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Dude, I read this and some of your other shit and I don't even understand half the sentences you write. The meanings are ambiguous. Like >I think I am not wrong in here. Do you mean in the wrong? In the wrong about what? I don't even know. You're bad at writing which means you are bad at reading, which may be why you don't seem to be figuring out much with all the time you've been here. You've got to work extra hard to figure shit out. Read NMMNG, do the exercises, watch the Rian Stone videos. S…
/r/askMRP29/11/23 07:41 PM
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Yeah, prep for divorce. In a smart way. With a lawyer. Not just reddit advice. Don't talk about it with your wife. Don't leave the house. But also... You've put in no work. And your starting point was shit. What do you think you deserve? Why can't you just ignore your wife while you work on yourself?
/r/askMRP29/11/23 06:02 PM
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Providing more comfort has worked well. I’ll keep this up. Fucked twice Go ahead and write up a more detailed field report about how providing comfort gets you more sex. I think it will be educational for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 03:11 PM
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wife wanted to start a fight over me doing chores instead of doing her a favor. Tried some autistic STFU so I could get the work done, but eventually gave in and had the argument. After a bit it turned into a conversation about her real issue, which was me not considering her feeling "I needed to get the chores done." "There's nothing else to talk about." Be comfortable ending conversations. You don't have to have them. It's easier if you're in the "right" (you really did need to get the chore d…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/23 03:35 PM
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You can rewrite the relevant parts of this post in like 4 sentences. Wife asked for your vision for your life. You said xyz. She asked you to be specific. You couldn't because you don't really have a vision. So much other unnecessary detail. Your brain is cluttered and you're considering a thousand factors that don't matter. Practice distilling the information into what matters. Its a learnable skill and important for reading comprehension (and life in general). You'll start thinking more clearl…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 11:14 PM
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Im stuck on what im supposed to do about it.. Keep reading. It will become clear. I could tell you now but you wouldn't listen. One basic question for now: why did your wife tell you she had feelings for this guy? As in, what was the context? Describe the events and what she said (not what you think she was thinking). Read your answer and pretend someone else is telling you those details about their life. What would you think?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 05:10 PM
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AA is a good choice. You're right that you have to get away from being sarcastic. That's not really AA. I have trouble with coming off sarcastic too. Here's why it happens to me, may be the same for you: The first thing that comes to mind is a DEER response. Eg "well, I rarely get lost" or "she sucks at navigating even more than me." Then, you reverse it and think you're doing AA. Eg "yeah, I get lost all the time. I'm an idiot, maybe next time I'll drive us into a lake" or "yeah, you're so good…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 04:52 PM
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The hamster on a wheel is a metaphor for the post-hoc rationalization that people do to avoid responsibility and ignore reality. A concrete example: A wife meets a guy at work and develops feelings and starts an affair. She doesn't want to feel guilty. So her hamster justifies it because her husband didn't give her enough attention for the last 5 years. Hamstring is pretty basic stuff. The first thing you should read here is steel's guide. Click all the linked posts in it and read them. If you s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 03:14 PM
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What I did last night I think worked with regards to her attachment to me and her little fantasy about her cowoworker. We made a plan what she was going to do if he made a move on her (worst case quitting her job). Then I told her about my strategy with the NUMEROUS and attractive ladies I employ and tutor and how I deal with distancing myself from them - essentially increasing dread. It's a new week, write your oys now so more people will read it and give you feedback. Include this. This is not…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 03:04 PM
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What did I do: basically pretty average. Except I loose my shit in matters related to raising my kid, especially when my partner disrespects me in front of my kid. I literally have no idea how to handle those situations. I almost feel like I’m regressing to the anger stage again. Advice would be much appreciated! Why: I want to be a HVM, but failing currently. "It's not OK to talk to me like that." Stfu, withdraw attention. Leave if you have to. Don't engage or rage. Thats the guide if you cant …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 02:39 PM
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It's unclear what actually happened and when from your post, but it appears your wife is currently working with/still seeing a man with whom she openly had at least an emotional affair, and you're worrying about how much affection to give her in order to make her submit to you. What have you actually read from the sidebar? What did you learn? I'd guess nmmng with the videos from Rian stone would be a good starting place for you. Then do the same with mmslp. He makes it a lot easier to interpret …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/23 07:08 PM
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You, specifically, should definitely not take finasteride. Looked at your history a little and... damn dude, you're an alcoholic and take snris. Both of which have higher rates of gynecomastia than finasteride. Alcoholism increases estrogen levels. Finasteride is also metabolized in the liver and alcohol can affect its elimination, increasing the serum levels and side effects. I got this from you first page of history. Dude, get your life together and stop giving medical advice on the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 10:44 PM
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I read the studies. And understand the biochemical basis for its efficacy and side effect profile. And use it. What kind of doctor are you? Did you use it? If you have side effects, you stop. Definitely happens. If you don't, great. My dick works, my sperm swim and I have hair. Wins all around.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 09:16 PM
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Good pointer, also noticed this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 07:04 PM
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Good stuff. Definitely important not to smell like ass. Few things that work that i havent seen mentioned here before: On hair, propecia works for a lot of people and worked ridiculously well for me. It prevents progression of balding so the earlier the better if you need it. I was concerned about infertility so i waited until i had my first kid but i havent had an issue. Can drop libido but also wasnt an issue. Hair can continue to improve up to 7 years out in theory given the life cycle of a f…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 07:02 PM
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Because she'd still do it sometimes? Or was there another reason? Because the words are a symptom of a problem, not the problem. Fighting the symptom didnt help and it doesnt bother me now that I recognize it for what it is. It is, agreed. Why put up with it though if you're the prize? If I'm not enjoying sex and would honestly rather be doing something else, I end it. But if you want to enforce a specific boundary, "I won't have sex unless xyz." You have to decide if xyz is worth it. Would it m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 05:24 PM
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These shit tests are typically one or more of the following: talking about something completely unrelated, complaining about some sort of discomfort (sometimes legit but mostly bullshit), not wanting to follow my lead, etc. I got all of this. I used to get upset and even nuked a few times. She got the message but would still do it sometimes and would even correct herself and apologize. I don't think trying to fight the behavior was helpful. I now think this is all just an honest reflection of he…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 01:49 AM
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Nows the time for "upping" alpha I imagine. Now im side tracked. What does this mean to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 12:31 AM
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When was the last time you had sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 08:04 PM
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I know mmslp makes a big deal out of relative "sex rank" (people usually say smv here] but I'm not sure that's really how it works long term. Like, a 4 may bang a 6 and marry and consider herself lucky, but I don't thinks she's going to be getting wet fantasizing about fucking him every day 4 years in, even though he's got 2 points on her ugly ass. The goal is to be objectively good looking, regardless of her smv.
/r/askMRP06/11/23 11:40 PM
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Fwiw, I did go to bed within 15 minutes. It would have been 30 minutes on the couch before bed, or just getting in bed 15 minutes early. It was at the end of the day. Then this would be fine... except, you wrote you were doing it to "punish bad behavior". She knows its a punishment, not just you choosing the more appealing option of going to bed rather than spend time with your bitchy wife. It's a subtle difference but it matters. J10 gets into this well, I'll edit in the link maybe if I find it…
/r/askMRP03/11/23 07:12 PM
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1) bad behavior occurs 2) you say something along the lines of, "this behavior is unacceptable" 3) stfu or broken record 4) you have better things to do than interact with someone who disrespects you. Do them. You did fine except on 4. You didn't have better things to do. You just lay in bed. This will always come across as "sulky and butt hurt" because it is. Its like if you disciplined your kid and she ran to her room yelling " its not fair" and refused to come out. That's what you looked like…
/r/askMRP03/11/23 03:12 PM
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You ramble too much and it's a reflection of how you think. Overcomplicating simple shit. You could rewrite your oys in like 5 or 6 sentences if you stuck to only stating what you actually did rather than how you or other people felt about it or making jokes. This is part of why you've treaded water for over a year. Pick out what's really important and state it as simply as possible. Practice thinking this way too.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 07:17 PM
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So no. Or at least not one that affects boners directly. I just noticed you even wrote this: Even without tadalafil my nocturnal erections are quite strong, so I have to adjust my mental approach to deal with ED problems. So you realize the problem is psychological. But you're taking tidalafil and spent a paragraph of your oys talking about tadalafil dosing. Why do you think you can't get a boner when you fuck your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 01:12 PM
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You have some sort of medical condition? 34 and not obese you shouldn't have trouble getting boners.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:53 AM
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Meh, even ugly people don't want to fuck ugly people. They'll stay together, but they stop fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 12:12 AM
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The advice you get here is already a mix of good and bad that you have to weed through. I can't imagine the shit you would get from the people willing to spend time on discord walking you through this stuff.
/r/askMRP30/10/23 04:54 PM
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Demonstrate competence. (Eg have no issues when handling the kids alone, dont ask for her help with the implication that you need it). Then tell her what to do. Don't argue. Dont get mad. Wisnifg techniques are your friend. If it's an option, leave without her (and the kids) when you need to. Continue doing this while lifting, sidebar and stfu and this will stop being a problem.
/r/askMRP30/10/23 03:39 PM
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First, implemented rule (for myself) to never bring up or joke about anal (as it reeks of validation seeking and is counter-productive). Meh, I think the best thing I got out of sgm was the advice to own your desires completely without shame. If you feel like fucking that ass (or anything else), I'd be open about it when it comes up. In a flirty, nonforceful noncreepy way. Same goes for jokes. Negative jokes about it hurting, being messy etc = bad. But otherwise I wouldn't worry about it too har…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/23 03:10 PM
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Makes enough sense. This mental model works for any marriage regardless of cheating, though. Also, you say you realize you have nothing to lose. But you mention finances and kids as incentives for staying. My understanding is the idea marriages should not survive (her) cheating comes primarily from iron rule 7: It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash on…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 07:11 PM
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I found this place after a google search on if your marriage can survive after infidelity. The prevailing advice on the MRP was no. Why do you think that is the prevailing advice?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:22 PM
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Getting her to do anything is next to impossible. It took 3 tries to get her to the restaurant. She often bails on plans at the last minute. This is broken. You shouldn't be "getting" her to do anything. Everything is simpler when you stop considering what she wants to do, or how she might react. Start thinking, "how do I want to spend my time?" Decide what you want to do. Would you like to get dinner with her because you enjoy her company? If yes, invite her. If not, come up with something you …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 06:05 PM
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Other people are giving you enough on what really matters: dropping weight. So I'll hit this: Took the wife out to a nice restaurant this weekend. It was a place we've been going to for a very long time and we had a gift card so it wasn't ALL covert contract. Though I admit there was an element of it. On the way home she asked if it was all just to get laid. I totally failed this test and needless to say I did not get laid. In fact I was told she never wants to have sex again. You can't go out t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 03:54 PM
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This isn't the place for you. Read TRP sidebar. If you want books, id say TRM 1 plus practical female psychology plus read a bit about game. Then go have fun. Probably not with this girl who you you've been asking the internet for help with for the entirety of the relationship.
/r/askMRP20/10/23 10:10 PM
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Anyone can be interesting. Subject, status and delivery matter. Saying something that is controversial/provocative in a way that draws attention gets people leaning forward and listening. I wouldn't go overboard and say it means they want to fuck this guy just because they don't care about you or their date's inane small talk as much as this guy's obnoxious but apparently interesting speech.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 03:59 PM
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Thanks for not banning me. I assumed all the people getting banned when they talked about sex were for validation seeking or coming from their wives' frames, and it sounds like that's correct. he's testing the friendship a bit. there isn't much value in knowing that the OP recieved: a blowjob complete with ball sucking, salad tossing etc. Fair. For friendship's sake, I'm glad I didn't describe the "etc."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 01:44 PM
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Alright, so no hemorrhage, no visible structural damage, not paralyzed or having seizures or permanently disabled. Good. So you don't have to talk about it with your wife or any other woman ever again. I don't just mean physical weakness, I mean any weakness is unattractive. Anything that makes it look like you are less capable or "need" her. This especially includes illness or anything else you might consider "out of your control". Im not saying the problem isnt real or shouldnt affect you. Dea…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 09:18 PM
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Sorry. I have some relevant experience and I'm sidetracked by I was diagnosed with a traumatic brain injury 4 years ago's I see the wording "diagnosed" When was the injury? How severe? How diagnosed? For the purposes of sexual strategy, showing weakness kills desire. A committed woman might support you in other ways. But she won't get wet doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:42 PM
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Mostly agree with the other dudes giving shit. LOLed at the "nut up noobs" which preceded a pg-13 post about sex. 0 self awareness. However, I think coconut spa is good as an ultra beginner move for dudes who aren't fucking their wives at all. Which is op exactly since he was 5 weeks down of no sex due to the miscarriage. Good immersion. The little bit of dominance comes from "taking advantage" of a woman who only signed up for a normal massage. Actually a better application here than the origin…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 01:53 PM
1

Thanks for this, love the example, makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:48 PM
1

But would this really be the right way to do it? Only 6 months in, not really there physically, not acting attractive, has multiple heated versions of the fuck me or fuck you speech over the course of days and now sputtering half on, half off the track toward divorce? If this isn't Rambo I definitely don't understand Rambo. Which is possible I suppose. Edit: missed that he'd already decided to divorce in the last oys. And wife weighs more than him. Gross. still would have been better off getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:31 PM
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u/razzmatazz32 told me to check this out. Good tips. Couple thoughts. I thing I like to do is have her absolutely stimulated before I put her in the position on her back with her head hanging off the edge. From there I make her deep throat while reaching over and under with my hand or vibrator. If timed perfectly, the gag reflex causes an involuntary abdominal push from her core. I edge her that way. Stimulating the G-Spot to the verge of climax, gagging is a beautiful thing. Gold, I'm taking it…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:22 PM
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OYS #31 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 230 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 5y Physical: Doing warmups and 4 sets of 0-2 RIR, targeting >8 reps on AMRAP before going up to next weight. Working around squats right now for patellar tendonitis. Set back on lifting due to a work trip and Covid but still going up gradually. Last amraps: Bench: 180x7, OHP: 110x8, Squat: 280x10, Deadlift: 325x12, Row: 240x8, chinups: 5lbx10 Good review, bonus at work, completing projects. Sport going well. Having…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:38 PM
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u/nevertoughever This is actually going Rambo, for your reference
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 03:01 PM
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Yes I have read when I say no I feel guilty. I resented doing yleven though I didn't want to. I did it with a bad attitude. But in the afterthought I feel like I should have been there for her and helped her out in a time of need instead of blowing up and making her feel bad when there was no other way for her to get to the hospital. When you feel out of control and like you're obligated to spend your time in ways you don't want to, you lash out. It's normal. You have to change the model. Each t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 05:27 PM
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1) did you read wisnifg? 2) how did you actually apologize? 3) what do you do when she brings up things you fucked up from your past?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 03:02 PM
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Did you read wisnifg? Should be able to fog along whenever this comes up and she will run out of steam. Instead, I would bet money you apologized, asked forgiveness, maybe threw in some grand gesture to make up for it? How did that work out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 01:04 AM
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After this we went into, you don't want to kiss me, we don't have sex as much as I want. Just straight up telling her, not mad, just matter of fact. And telling her it's probably my fault, cause I'm just not attractive enough. I know.. Her defenses got raised. I hope this got it out of my system and I just STFU. You realize you should just stfu. Good. Remember, once you realize you're fucking up, it's still never too late to stfu. Midsentence even. Whatever stops you from saying another unattrac…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 03:42 PM
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After a few months of getting back on the train, I blew it somewhere and I did not provide comfort enough and didn't take my wife's emotions and whatever else into consideration Do you really think this was the issue? This statement implies that you think the solution here is going to be to provide more comfort and spend more time worrying about your wife's emotions. Seriously? You think your mistake was not being beta enough? It's out of my personal experience, so maybe someone else can comment…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 12:36 AM
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Ask yourself these questions, honestly: Do you have any boundaries that you could/would enforce? How? Are any boundaries important enough that you would nuke the relationship? Pretty good explanation of how to think about boundaries here. I know you said you spent 2 years doing MRP but I can't tell from reading this that you've internalized anything other than some buzzwords/phrases like "being the oak" and "sex for validation". With red pill, there is no "power struggle" to get "a hold of". If …
/r/askMRP09/10/23 08:50 PM
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Also noticed: >The only thing I can keep thinking of is just going to get sex but it would all be for validation. I'm so horny and frustrated. If you're horny, fuck. That's a good reason that isn't for validation. How long have you been not fucking this woman? No fucking will make women bitchy/sullen and interested in strange cock.
/r/askMRP09/10/23 06:38 PM
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Your writing style indicates you can't simplify problems into their key elements and you're considering 1000 variables when only a couple matter. Work on ignoring things that don't matter. She will cheat if she wants to. You shot yourself in the foot confronting because now she knows to be more careful if she does cheat. Work on yourself. Be attractive and have fun. Ignore her words. Silent treatment/stonewalling for days/weeks only happens when she doesn't value your attention more than you val…
/r/askMRP09/10/23 04:12 PM
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Yeah, field reports, my bad. I typo lots
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 03:57 PM
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Simple enough to test. Just need some veterans here to divorce their wives and kick them and the kids out of the house and see what happens. Excited for the frame reports.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 01:46 PM
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Sex moratorium is dumb, don't do it. Nmmng has useful stuff but also some bullshit like that and the advice to tell your wife about fightclub. I'd recommend watching the Rian stone videos that correspond to each chapter while reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/23 02:07 PM
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Sounds like a good plan, I hope you get what you want from here and from your life. And don't be afraid to give me shit, it's why I'm here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/23 03:08 PM
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So why are you still talking about pain and connective tissues disorders then? And what are these "inuries"?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/23 02:58 PM
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Damn, triggered. First, to get it out of the way, grade A DEER. I'm not offended, I definitely talk about my wife too much. Honestly, I held back saying anything after your earlier oys's because, yeah, I'm no authority, and I was hoping you'd get more from the vets. But you didn't... Second, from what I've read, you've made a lot of progress from where you were. Good for you. You definitely seem to be doing the self-improvement part of mrp right. It's why you're worth engaging with. Third, no, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 06:40 PM
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You mention having ibs and fibromyalgia and having enough insight to realize it's at least partially psychological. But you can't get past it. Chronic pain / discomfort (psychological or physical) are really common, and part of being a happy, healthy human is recognizing when to pay attention to pain and when to tune it out. People can go too far in either direction. For you, I suspect you focus on physical discomfort that you should be ignoring in order to avoid the psychological discomfort of …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 04:29 AM
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I think you may have noticed you don't get much engagement. Some of it is that you submit after Tuesday. Some of it is that you focus too much on what your wife is doing. But, really, I think the main issue is that your posts are superficial and ignore the elephant in the room. Maybe ignoring the elephant is why they're superficial? You're still focused on playing house with a girl who cheated on you and trying to make her treat you better. Who do you want to be? What does that person do? What d…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:54 AM
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it sounds like you may be uncomfortable talking to your wife about sex. Not really. I'm pretty comfortable talking about it I'll be honest, I'm genuinely not comfortable talking about her past. I don't want to think about some dude having his dick inside her These statements are not consistent. If she knows you don't want to hear it, she won't tell you. From what I'm reading, if she told you she fantasized about doing something with you because she enjoyed it before you'd probably freak out and …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/23 01:22 AM
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Good on you for sharing. "Inexperienced guy marries into unsatisfying sex life" is probably the most common story around here, even if that first detail gets left off. You're maybe on the extreme ends as a virgin who went straight to a dead bedroom but seems to have completely turned it around. I hope you get your insecurities figured out but I think there's also a lot of value in seeing your process for others. Also, if you've got your wife training under you in the gym and getting you off when…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 07:44 PM
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You're confused because he's short. He probably has a little belly
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 01:27 PM
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Well. This place always helps get my head back on straight. Thanks u/razzmatazz32 and u/alpha_wolflord9. Decided to treat, "I'm tired" "I'm not interested" "make it quick" and "no" as shit tests and got back on track (shes got a safe word in case anyones worried). Got out the restraints and enjoyed boundary pushing, fun, screaming, lose track of orgasms sex with a tired, pregnant, "sick" wife saying she had no fucking interest and resisting each time i escalated up until she melted. Tonight coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 04:04 AM
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After dropping the masturbation as well (no porn usage for months) I can really feel my testosterone levels rise. This is proven to be nonsense. Plenty of other reasons not to masturbate though. At night we had kind of a fight a she went to the kids room to sleep (“So I can have at least one night of rest”). What does that mean? Your "relationship" section is all about chore division. No surprise your sex section is about not having sex. Do you game your wife? Do anything fun, not kid related an…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 08:45 PM
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Ha, yeah
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:52 PM
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How is trying to out rationalize your emotions going for you? Still seems like you might be scared of others emotions., including your own. Around the baby/grieving, pretty good actually. I give myself time alone and every day is better. I don't feel like I'm rationalizing anything away. I actually break bad news and comfort people a lot as part of my job. If anything I'd say I'm overexposed/numb rather than scared. Around sex/resentment? Not great. On a macro level its fine, i calm down and mov…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:50 PM
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I'm not really sure what actually happened with you and your girl from your posts but it sounds like she was mad at you so you acted like a mute retard until she broke up with you. Which actually doesn't seem like too bad of an outcome since you were in a messy ltr with no marriage and no kids (iron rule 7). So I guess another win for stfu.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:12 PM
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OYS #30 Stats: 37 yo, 6'4”, 230 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 5y Physical: Went ahead and reset this to do more volume after listening to guys on my last OYS. I took a break from formal lifting due to a trip and then to avoid being sore for the end of my competitive season for my sport but have been rebuilding with 4 sets of 0-2 RIR on the big lifts. If I put up 8 or more reps, I move up to the next weight. I'm feeling more "good" sore in the right areas (eg chest for bench i…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 03:58 PM
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Fair enough. The fact you lead with high net worth and don't list your lifts even after being asked for stats suggests you may not be that experienced with mrp though. Also, if a girl was into it "a little bit at first" but now it isn't her "thing", you're the reason she doesnt like anal, not her. u/red-sfpplus gets it and wrote a guide: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/duyj0f/building_your_slut_part_1_anal/
/r/askMRP25/09/23 05:07 PM
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Meh, I read the article and looked at the original items in the cited 1988 article. The actual questions for "submission and debasement" are all along the lines of, "I agreed to do whatever my partner wanted." I didnt read anything about crying/begging, which was actually under emotional manipulation which was essentially equal between men and women in the study (yeah right). Then it was on a 0 to 3 scale from never to all the time. The actual mean difference was like .2, average of like .75 and…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 04:44 PM
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Man, read the sidebar and own your shit. For reading, start with steel's guide withh linked posts then nmmng and wisnifg. The answers you get from askmrp are mostly going to be shit because they will mostly either be from randoms and new guys who don't have a fucking clue or vets who are just here to fuck with you for having a big ego. A few hints: money doesn't generate desire for sex. Anything you do to provide beyond the basics of being an adult doesn't lead to more or better sex. Otherwise, …
/r/askMRP25/09/23 02:57 PM
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Link the studies and post on askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/23 02:36 PM
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Who told you you committed marital rape and why?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 10:14 PM
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I'm not sure why someone would want more starfish sex with a bitchy old 225 pounder other than for validation. It's your first oys so I get things are a shit show still but you should at least examine why you want more intimacy from your wife and maybe realize you really don't. Focus that energy on yourself from now on.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 09:53 PM
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I slacked at home as I always found it reasonable that she could take care of it. So, did you think you slacked or did she think you slacked so now that's how you feel too? I read a book about it, got a morning checklist for the kids and they now do all the chores on their own. Problem solved. This is what I would call running the ship. Great, glad you read the book and figured shit out. What I was getting at above is that accepting the frame that you should manage more because your wife said so…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 09:13 PM
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I think dealing with unacceptable behavior is tricky and depends on where you are in the process. I tried to stfu through it at first but switched to just stating that it was unacceptable, withdrawing attention and moving on. Easier for me to do and I see behavioral improvements. I imagine she has her own "if I don't shape up he might leave me" conversation in her head without me having to do it, but I don't really know. I think making the threat explicitly is an issue if you're not willing to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 08:29 PM
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Dude, this was a wild read. No clue why you're in South America when you cant speak the language or work. Guessing it was for your wife. But, I heard ilybinilwy and no sex at all since then. It's because she doesn't want to cheat on her new guy with you. Maybe you guys moved to wherever you are to be closer to him? Read the post from horns and start preparing for your separate life.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 01:49 PM
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From what I've read in your last couple posts, your wife controls your frame, which is essentially, "I suck and need to work harder and it's fine that I'm treated with open contempt. If i just stfu, work out more and do more stuff for the kids she'll treat me better." Spoiler, she won't. Why don't you want another kid and why can't you tell her? Off the top of my head, in your shoes, I would say, "money is already tight and I don't want to have more kids with a woman who doesn't respect me and a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 01:41 PM
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Lead means make major decisions, not handle every detail. Think boss and secretary. Boss doesn't have to know every detail of how the secretary planned a work trip or office party or whatever. But you should be the last stop, the competent decision maker who knows what's best even if she's in charge of the details.
/r/askMRP16/09/23 03:03 AM
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This week was focusing on doing my stuff. If you say so
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 09:23 PM
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Saw the other comments and agree. Your goal is shit. It's the kind of goal set by someone who will always be fat. Realistic goal <2000 calories with 200-250g protein a day, add a multivitamin. The more rigid the structure the better. Know what you're going to eat at least a day in advance. If your fat ass is making decisions in the moment about food you're going to decide wrong as every fat cell in your body and your stretched out stomach scream at you that you're dying and need to eat. Intermit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 01:28 PM
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Some people with marfans look normal. I hear 6'8", skinny, pectus excavatum, weird chin, shitty lifts that won't go up and I think genetic connective tissue disease. Doesn't have to be marfans. I guess you'd be the one to know though.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 03:10 AM
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You got marfan's?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 12:20 AM
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For over a year now I get called an asshole regularly (for taking my own time, meeting with friends for dinner, or whatever) and sometimes I am called a bad father, jerk, dork, or similar. I mostly STFU about it but was really annoyed and probably acted butthurt. It is now more like I just shrug and honestly don't give a shit about it. This name calling is open contempt. How is this not a boundary you enforce but leaving the car dirty is? Have sex around 4 times a month, but enthusiasm has basic…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 10:14 PM
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Hey, not original but short and a mostly good, quick summary of important principles. Whatever reminds you to STFU. Some nuance: When you’re on equal footing, you can bring up some concerns. But you will do nothing but sink further by starting a serious conversation or argument from a losing position, no matter how you feel. I disagree. 1) there is no such thing as "equal footing" and an equal (egalitarian) relationship should not be your goal. 2) You can state what you want at any time (calmly …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 07:18 PM
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Since finding mrp, the most helpful thing, for me, has been recognizing how I want to spend my time and cutting out activities that I dont enjoy and don't advance my own mission. I know the common wisdom around here is to just keep gaming and kinoing your wife no matter what. But, I'm having trouble figuring out what the point is in pursuing a fat, lazy, disinterested wife. Is that something you enjoy? I also can't figure out if there's some sort of elephant in the room I'm missing from your pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 05:59 PM
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Hmm, didn't remember the praise was from twotsm. I see that phrase "feminine grows from praise" around here a lot. Most notable example that matches what I was trying to do: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/mcznv1/a_high_value_mans_guide_to_dread_with_a_first/ I think she'd lose her mind if I stopped praising her completely though, as in have a breakdown.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/23 11:30 PM
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Thanks for the note. What I read and have been going off of is "the feminine grows through praise." But I understand that isn't your experience. I wonder if this is specific to your woman or if it's in the way praise is applied. For example, before mrp, I used to give unconditional, general praise all the time. Eg you're smart, you're a great mom, you're so beautiful. I thought that was what a "good partner" did. I don't do that anymore. Praise is specific. Eg it was smart how you handled that p…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/23 03:39 PM
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Yeah, just on the amrap, not on the first two 5 reps
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 05:31 PM
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Thanks, I'll check those out.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 02:20 PM
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https://www.drworkout.fitness/phraks-gslp-program/ For diet, I'm tracking to make sure I get minimum 200g protein and taking creatine.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 11:53 AM
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Fair. I'm particularly weak at pressing. I'm lanky (6'8" wing span) and I hear that slows down progress due to mechanical disadvantage. I'm lifting to failure every time (literally can't get the bar off my chest, push it off to the side). I'm still making slow progress but I'm open to suggestions.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 02:21 AM
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If you have the time now. Perhaps explore taking the training wheels off, increasing volume and intensity. If you squat 260x10 the two sets of 5 likely are not doing much to grow you. Also the 20 sets of chin-ups at 5 reps is probably is incorporating quite a bit of junk volume. What happens if you do fewer sets but at a higher rep closer to failure? Yeah, I'm reloading the squats due to a groin strain. I only got off 7 at 235 just over a week ago. I should start struggling again when I get clos…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 02:14 AM
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OYS #29 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 230 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Physical: Last AMRAP (Following Phrak’s GSLP): Squat 260x10, Deadlift 340x5, Bench 172.5x7, Barbell row 232.5x10, Overhead Press 107.5x7, chin ups 20x5 Lifts coming along more consistently now. Rehabbing ankle issue that has stopped me from doing as much of my sport and so it’s easier to recover/build muscle. Work and rest of life outside the home continues smooth. My sputtering libido seems to have shifted some…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 08:16 PM
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Quite frankly, my sons kind of an asshole for a 5 year old. Assholes aren't born, they're made. You should reflect on what this means about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 05:06 PM
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Afterwards, she decides to tell me that it's not enjoyable most of the time for her, it frustrates her, and that she rarely wants to engage in intimacy except for a very small window during the month. Have you considered that you may be bad at sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 11:36 AM
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Only red flag I see here is the "poophole loophole." Girls have to be extra dumb and have extra powerful hamsters to make that make sense to themselves.
/r/askMRP21/08/23 10:47 PM
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You've been with a girl 2 years and caught her cheating in the first year. Why is she still your girlfriend? Why couldn't you tell the new girl she was just a girl you're dating, nonexclusive? That's not complicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/23 11:39 PM
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I went through a phase more recently where I couldn’t finish (unrelated to pregnancies). It was mostly mental and an unwillingness to give her that bc I was still frustrated / resentful. That sounds about right for me. The pregnancy is just an added factor where I can't just caveman. I could caveman through feelings of resentment, but i couldn't keep it up for the slow/gentle sex. Once I let go of the resentment, I was able to finish more consistently….I also used it as a way to incentivize (rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/23 03:14 PM
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Just read your update... I’m taking this as that I took things too personally and maybe went Rambo as a result. Going slower and remembering to keep the beta alongside the alpha behaviors No. Just no. Who here told you to have a heart to heart and then listen to what your wife thinks? No one. Did you stop to wonder why? It doesn't matter what she says. It doesn't matter why she says she doesn't want to fuck. It doesn't matter that she says it's not you, it's her. One more time so it gets through…
/r/askMRP18/08/23 03:40 PM
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Yeah, been reading more and this makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/23 01:08 PM
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why is her affection so sexual? It doesn't matter. There could be 100 reasons. It doesnt even have to be a conscious manipulation. If i had to guess, given the fact she fucked you the first night you met and did the same thing with other guys, she may be the kind of girl who just naturally feels like she needs to use her sexuality to make guys like her. Probably has shit self esteem, daddy issues, etc. It doesnt matter. The fact she doesnt want to fuck you is the telling part.
/r/askMRP18/08/23 01:25 AM
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Woof, youre too young and kidless for this shit. I read your last post and oys. She isn't fucking you because she doesn't want to. Worst case she's fucking someone else and stringing you along purely for beta bucks, but not necessarily so. Run your map, get more attractive, keep owning your shit. Some girls still act affectionate without attraction, some don't. Don't get hung up on the mixed signals. The lack of sex is the signal.
/r/askMRP18/08/23 12:31 AM
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How often are you actually having sex?
/r/askMRP17/08/23 09:13 PM
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Making friends to not look weird to your girl is the worst fucking reason. If you don't know why, you haven't read enough of the sidebar yet. Echo reading a book about making friends if that's what you really want. "How to win friends and influence people", sure. If it hasn't clicked yet, you're probably not going to figure out "solid friendship" from reddit comments. Edit: also, i just realized this is the premise of the movie: "I love you man". So go watch that.
/r/askMRP17/08/23 08:48 PM
1

This sounds more upstairs then downstairs. Well, yeah Find out what you are offering your wife from yourself without wanting anything in return This gets at the issue. I'm no longer getting the urge to fuck my wife as easily, so I am offering less. However, literally the night I wrote my oys, my wife did something that got my motor going and we ended up having good sex and the vibe continued to the next night where we had great sex. So, if the stimulus is there, I'm still excited to fuck. I just…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 06:03 PM
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I dont think that's it. I don't mind not cumming. I wasn't even into it in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 02:53 PM
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If you get anything out of this other than trying not to have an affair. The post doesn't list any downsides to having the affair, only upside. Why would I get trying not to have an affair out of this? Was there any downside to your affair?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 04:32 PM
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You want to have an authoritative parenting style. Sounds like you're authoritarian. Kids act out for more negative attention when they aren't getting enough positive attention. https://images.app.goo.gl/TzvXdQ5wYKMKWq4K7
/r/askMRP15/08/23 10:33 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 230 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Physical: Last AMRAP (Following Phrak’s GSLP): Squat 235x7, Deadlift 330x10, Bench 185x3, Barbell row 227.5x10, Overhead Press 105x8, chin ups 15x5 It's clear creatine is helping with recovery now, glad I started. Paused lifts prior to a competition for my sport and during recovery. Event went well. As far as my primary goals, I continue to add strength (if slowly) and spend my day to day life how I choose. A lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:26 PM
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Are you living your life day to day in a way where you spend your time the way you want to? Have you eliminated covert contracts in your relationship? Are you in the shape you want to be in? Have you stopped trying to think of ways to control your wife and started to just focus on yourself? Your oys indicates you haven't. So people will continue talking shit. This isn't some sort of test where we want you to realize you were a beautiful swan all along and just needed to be confident in yourself.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/23 12:57 PM
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You've gotten a lot of advice here. Caution, the upvotes are not all that strongly correlated with the quality. Here's a hint: the posters talking shit on the girl aren't helping. Listen to the ones talking shit on you.
/r/askMRP13/08/23 03:40 PM
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This isn't hard and doesn't require a "breakdown". Don't orbit.
/r/askMRP10/08/23 12:20 PM
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My scale still says I’m around 19% BF but Strongur says 12.9%. I don’t know what to believe. Neither, they both go off inaccurate formulas that become even less accurate at the extremes of height and weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 05:42 PM
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wtf is the point of being married if I fuck around like I’m single again? What is the point of fucking at all? What is the point of being married? Were you caught or did you tell her? Is guilt affecting your thoughts and actions?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 04:47 PM
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Not that I was going to cheat on my wife (been there, done that, ain’t doin’ it again) Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 01:12 PM
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Fair, although I don't think I'm there yet; I've spent most of my relationship, before and since rp, more operating in the "lead your wife" frame. Also plenty of room to be more attractive, which I know will change my experience. Will think about it, I want to contribute.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/23 08:47 PM
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Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 08:21 PM
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This especially, but there's more in there that I haven't seen spelled out so clearly. The Not So Useful Walk: u/usefulwalk4 has been kind enough to chronicle how this looks over a decade or whatever. This one has your threats of leaving become continuously less credible, where you whine about it yet stay in some form of comfortable yet not satisfying stalemate. This is to some extent what you're currently doing, but is a lot of downside with little upside. The Lead Your Wife: The approach curre…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 07:56 PM
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Followed the link... fucking helpful, thanks. Helps me sort through the sea of trash. Making it a formal post?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 04:52 PM
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I realized I should clarify, pushing boundaries is something I do when I can't cum but I'm not worried about losing my boner. I could see it going poorly if you get a yes and go soft.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 01:10 PM
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Not sure what you mean by a "soft no" list, further explanation would be appreciated. A "soft no" is something you've tried or talked about before and got a response like, "not tonight" or "I don't think I'd like that". It can also be something you just ~think she might say no to. This is as opposed to a "hard no" which is something she explicitly said not to do. The point is pushing a boundary that turns you on. My cardiovascular endurance has been in the toilet for months, and it's only been t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 11:54 AM
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That guy got ripped because he was an ass. It's fine to not find your wife attractive. Most 30 somethings with kids look like shit. I wouldn't want to fuck them. You get your own shit together, then decide if you like her enough to stay and do or don't. Spending time dwelling on it and resenting her is less than productive, it's a drain. I find my own resentment is fading as I spend my time more consistently how I choose and give less fucks about how my wife feels. She never made me do shit, i j…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 11:42 PM
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Ditto, I thought he was posting as a joke after the first oys but they keep coming. Not sure what to make of all this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 04:40 PM
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I see you're new and you're doing some stuff right, but... General note, try to think about why the details you write matter. Changed work days? Read some Bible? Feeling guilty you dont pray more? Why does it matter in the context of red pill? Your social section is just going on a family camping trip. No. she started stripping down in front of me. As she did, I even thought to myself, "nope I'm exhausted, don't go there, it wont end well." How can sex not end well? Oh, i see, its because you ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 03:51 PM
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OYS #27 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 230 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Physical: I’m resetting how I track this. Just going to give my last AMRAP (Following Phrak’s GSLP) for each lift instead of maxes to better track where I actually am at this time. Squat 225x10, Deadlift 315x8, Bench 180x5, Barbell row 215x10, Overhead Press 100x10, chin ups 12.5x5 I’m balancing lifting with 8-10 hours of cardio a week with my sport hobby and I’m tired of feeling sore all the time and not recove…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 10:04 PM
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Why? Seriously, you make a vow to your wife about it? Did this guy? Good reasons not to look at your wife's phone: it's boring; you don't care; you've got better shit to do. Bad reason not to look through your wife's phone: it might upset her.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 12:42 AM
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Why did looking at her phone lead to "she no longer trusts me"? I'm missing something.
/r/askMRP25/07/23 11:58 PM
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You said 80% of the sidebar. Does that include nmmng? Because it looks like covert contracts are killing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/23 12:00 PM
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Men do things. Do things (eg hunt, fish, golf, watch sports) when you hang out with friends and it won't be awkward. You can always talk about the thing you're doing if you can't think of anything else.
/r/askMRP21/07/23 12:35 PM
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Rian stone videos, he specifically goes over nmmng chapter by chapter and corrects some of the advice in it that you shouldn't follow (eg sex moratorium). Don't just watch the videos though, do both.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 03:48 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 03:36 PM
1

Got a link to that AJAC program?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 12:56 PM
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Summary: Your wife makes excuses because she doesn't want to fuck you but she still lets you because she doesnt want to lose you. You're not even that horny alot of the time, so you can't get hard if she isn't into it but you try anyways. One time, you were horny enough to get an erection and she ended up enjoying sex enough to cum. Now you think her saying no is just a shit test because of this. Lift, sidebar, stfu, oys Maybe read this first: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ab7…
/r/askMRP17/07/23 07:22 PM
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You need professional help. Seek it through AA, rehab, your primary doctor who can refer you, whatever. You do not need to involve your wife beyond saying, "I'm not drinking anymore." If she's not an alcoholic, you may find she doesn't want to drink when you don't anyways. Your plan is probably to just cut down and apply self control so you don't drink "too much". If that worked, you wouldn't be an alcoholic, which you are.
/r/askMRP17/07/23 05:25 PM
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Highly accurate to my experience. Gave out cuddles too freely, received no cuddles, heard, "I'm touched out from kids," "I dont think i've ever really liked cuddling." Realized how fucked it was when I begged for cuddles after brother died and got them grudgingly. Gross. Months later, realized I didn't need cuddles, stopped. What do you know? She starts wanting cuddles.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 04:12 PM
5

Sir, this is a Wendy's
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/23 01:31 PM
3

Congrats on growing an inch this week!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 08:37 PM
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Sex 2-3 times a week. Mostly starfish but wife will follow my commands when I give them. Shell flip over when I tell her too. I can toss her around without problem. WHen i tell her to go down on me she goes down on me. I want to spice it up a bit and so i got her sizes. Considering buying her something sexy to slap on. Considering also talking to her about throwing on some wigs or something to spice it up a bit. This week I am going to buy her something sexy to wear for the bedroom. Read sgm yet…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 08:24 PM
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You can be aware that action x (withdrawing attention) may lead to y (wife becomes interested in sex), but it's only a covert contract if y is the express purpose of x. Start thinking about what you really want to do with your time. If the answer is hang out with your wife and do what she wants even though she isn't fucking or behaving how you like, then do it. That's probably not the case though. You probably have better things to do. So you do them. And, when you're happy with her behavior, yo…
/r/askMRP11/07/23 01:53 PM
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What are your lifts? What have you read from the sidebar? What are your standards for the kind of woman you want to be in an LTR with and is the woman you described meeting those standards? You will be met with the shittiest behavior and live the shittiest life you're willing to tolerate.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/23 03:02 PM
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She isn't working. She doesn't "need" any help with the kids. You decide how much help you want to give. Don't let the kids be an excuse for not enforcing boundaries. Example 1: you don't have to work from home and you can silence your phone Example 2: are you actually fucking up? If you are, learn to feed a kid and decide for yourself if youre doing it right. If youre not fucking up, treat it like any shit test. Lift and read sidebar. No more Mr. Nice guy first Edit: holy shit, I looked at your…
/r/askMRP10/07/23 01:56 PM
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If I remember right, you left because of a combination of things that included her maintaining an at least emotional affair with another man that she wouldn't end. Seems like low hanging fruit if she needs an explanation for your actions that you can broken record. You're still talking about your interactions with your wife in terms that imply you are still applying red pill strategy (eg providing comfort, worrying about DEERing). This isn't really "sexual strategy" territory anymore. You're not…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 08:47 PM
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Honestly, I'm still stuck on your wife getting up early to travel to get her hair done and she won't be back until the evening... I've read some of your posts/oys. They're super long and meandering with unnecessary detail and a lot about how you interact with your wife, especially arround intimacy. Despite having a good portion of the sidebar listed as read, you don't seem to have internalized much. Maybe it's a language thing? I would strongly recommend reworking through nmmng and making sure y…
/r/askMRP05/07/23 02:25 PM
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How long you married? How many kids?
/r/askMRP03/07/23 10:31 PM
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The fact that you think you need to earn validation-free sex Earn how? lock yourself in that cell of the validation-seeking-sex prison until you tire of the whole game. What is this prison like? Can I only have sex for validation when I'm in prison but it will always be free from seeking validation once I'm out? Maybe try some spontaneity before you shit all over another guy recommending it. Where does he recommend spontaneity? Is spontaneous sex always free from validation seeking? Is planned s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 07:56 PM
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So a couple of parallels that jumped out to me, and I wonder if its a leadership problem/hamster in the maze. Have you told her or given her direct/overt instructions in the instances where you are unhappy? Do you tell her what you like in bed? How to please you and how to do the things you want? Before mrp i gave her explicit instructions and we discussed everything I wanted. It obviously did not work... she knows what I want in general. I do state or nonverbally indicate things I want specific…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 02:32 PM
1

That's my thought. What my wife wants most from me is my attention and I withdraw it for bad behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/23 03:14 PM
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Do it better
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/23 12:15 AM
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Pray on it
/r/askMRP23/06/23 12:04 PM
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If her vagina is too sore from the kid, just do anal. Duh.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 12:01 PM
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Obviously I don't know the details. But it sounds like part of the problem is you may just suck at sex. Consider reading sgm after nmmng. Or in tandem, nmmng is out as an audiobook and sgm can be downloaded as a pdf on your phone. It's a really fast read.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 04:43 PM
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SO suddenly asked for no physical touch. Goal: escalate kino until she feels more comfortable WTF? Girl pulls away, so you're going to pursue her harder? Read book of pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 04:32 PM
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Thanks, I'll chew on this. Yeah, if I think about it, I've held back out of fear of upsetting my wife, mostly a fear that I'll get a hard no and then another wall will go up around what can and can't happen during sex. It's happened before. But, I'm still trying. So far, I've been working on ramping up the domination during sex. By the end, when she's cum a few times, I call her names, pull her hair, hold her down and fuck her in one hole while fingering the other, tell her to suck me dry to fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 04:23 PM
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No, she doesn't trust me. I may be projecting fear, but she literally says the words, "I like the porn but I'm afraid to do it in real life. I don't think I'll actually like it." My main "fear" is that I get minimal buy in from her, the sex sucks, and I get set back by the negative experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 03:45 PM
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Yeah, it's probably easier with specifics. Briefly, we were going on a trip and she took the car in for service while i was at work. They did some extra work and then charged her even though she thought it was covered under warranty without telling her they were charging her (even used old card information on file rather than charging at time of service). I needed to sort it out and had to ask her what she agreed to/signed when we saw the charge after we got back from our trip. However, you're g…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 02:04 PM
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Combine with finasteride, keep hair.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 12:12 AM
1

Only you know. I was just making an educated guess based on the comment about making requests for sex / sex acts around father's day. Fair. I don't think this is my primary motivation but I'm certainly at risk for that kind of behavior. Have to be on guard, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 11:57 PM
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Well, that's true in this case. I think it's just better for me to take care of anything complicated, techhnical or out of her comfort zone. From what I've read here, that's a good philosophy in general. Women hate taking responsibility when things can go wrong and I'm better at this stuff anyways. For what it's worth, I absolutely trust her to organize a schedule or do other administrative types of things. Is there something else you're advising? I do have trouble calibrating how much responsib…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 11:55 PM
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Do you like your wife? Your OYS seems to give off lot of frustration. ​ yeah, I like her. She's usually sweet, smart, practical, funny, fun at a party, makes 6 figures, and somehow looks good naked despite being a 36 year old mother of 2. But this is the Own Your Shit thread, not the own how great your wife is thread, so I focus on what I need to do. And tolerating shitty behavior because other things were good didn't really work well, as you might imagine. ​ I am not sure how you could portray …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 08:02 PM
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Agree not to react / “match her emotion” but I wouldn’t be too quick to withdraw from the conversation. There’s something to be said for being able to weather it without getting phased though. ​ Not sure what to weather though. She's acting ridiculous and knows it deep down. I'm not sure what to say/do if I'm going to stick around her. In the past, when I didn't set this boundary, she would stop bitching about the specific thing eventually and still go through the motions of a normal night but j…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 07:41 PM
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OYS #26 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 221 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 280 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. Still limping around after hurting myself last week, no lower body lifting. Going higher volume lower weight (still to failure) on the upper body stuff because I've started to have shoulder pain with OHP and bench. I was feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 06:13 PM
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Next time the thought of fucking your woman crosses your mind, examine the thought. Give it a few moments, learn what the thought feelz like in your gut. Does the thought fill you with feelings of mild anxiety, stress and neurosis? It is highly likely that you are looking for validation. On the other hand, does the thought give you positive energy, make you excited and give you a raging boner? It is probably coming from a place of true desire. Is it that simple? Did i just find out i was never h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/23 11:38 AM
1

I see one of the big shit tests my wife lays down in this realm. If one of my kids is asking a question, my wife will say something to the effect of “can you answer her?” even though the question is not something directed towards me any more than my wife. I have said “no” to this in the past but probably not responded well after she pushes back and so I end up losing the ground I gained. The other day, my daughter asked for the volume to be turned up on the radio in the car and my wife said, “da…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/23 09:08 PM
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Right. But, let's say you do it. You're awesome. She follows your lead. Why would you still want to be with her as opposed to another woman? Was it worth being celibate (I'm assuming; if you've got someone on the side that's fine) in a long distance relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 06:48 PM
2

She will not receive an ultimatum (yet), but if she does not come back home before school starts she will receive no further attention and I will begin formulating an exit strategy. Why wait? What's the upside?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 05:39 PM
1

Idk, maybe I’m in the minority, but periods don’t bother me. Period sex also doesn’t seem to bother women who want to fuck you. Women with men they don’t want to fuck just use it as a built in excuse for a week off from saying no. Ditto. I'm also baffled by all the guys here that write things like, "it was shark week so no sex." Like it speaks for itself. Young me pretended blood grossed me out so I could get anal during periods. Immature but it worked, because, if the girl wants to fuck, she'll…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 01:27 PM
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If you don’t already know you’re on the right path because of your own assessment of where you are and where you want to go, then the temptation to chase that validation can (and will) steer you awry at some point. Agree, appreciate the warning. ETA: Get a butt plug for her and use the threesome stuff for dirty talk. My 2c. Ha, On it. As in, immediately following the threesome conversation. Butt stuff is already in the rotation, but the threesome dirty talk is still new.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 01:03 PM
1

Right. Exactly. Passive bluepill shit. I start the paragraph describing something I did in the past, before finding red pill... did you read the rest of the paragraph?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 12:39 PM
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Don't. Where NMMNG disagrees with MRP, follow MRP. Rian Stone's youtube series walks through NMMNG and points out the bad advice. There's plenty, like having her read the book or the sex moratorium, so it's worth the guide.
/r/askMRP14/06/23 04:07 PM
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First, nice summary of attachment theory. I think it's really helpful to understand and apply. I'm interested in what others with more red pill experience think about its application as well. For everything else I fucked up, I think this is one thing I got right. Way back in undergrad psychology, I learned about attachment theory. My take aways: you want to have secure attachment, it's closely tied to self esteem and a good home life during childhood. Being aware of your attachment style, like a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/23 03:29 PM
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I wrote this to you 4 months ago: There's a quote here that 75% of your problems can be solved by lifting, but you're already there and things are still shit. I hate to see what 75% worse would look like. Some of the more experienced guys here can probably speak to this better, but I've read along and there's definitely something missing here. Either you're just not saying it or you don't know it. I don't accept your response last week that your situation is all just because you were a "needy, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 08:04 PM
1

OYS #25 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 221 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 280 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. I took a while off because I wasn't getting a lot out of the weekly OYS lately because not much had changed. The last ~month has overall been good but with some setbacks around lifting. I had an extended vacation, sports comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 07:27 PM
2

So what are you doing about it?
/r/askMRP13/06/23 06:09 PM
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The fuck are you doing with finances? You support her but she keeps her finances private? How do you agree to that shit?
/r/askMRP13/06/23 02:18 PM
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Sometimes there's a medical reason. Sometimes there's something psychological. Good for her to figure out. But you'll still be fat and unattractive, so stfu, lift, sidebar regardless. Once you get attractive, she may come along. But, you also may realize you don't care if she does.
/r/askMRP08/06/23 09:52 PM
1

I still lack the frame to say - this is something I want us to try. This makes no sense to me. Just say what you want, openly and freely. Did you read sgm? Some of the best advice in it. You don't need any prerequisites to be able to say what you like in bed, especially for something as common as anal.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/23 09:05 PM
3

Figuring out sleep can be really hard. You're right; pills aren't a great long-term solution. I'd say, given what you're going through now, 50mg trazadone (less side effects than most sleep mess, more restorative sleep) at bedtime wouldn't be a bad idea short-term though. Long-term, cbt to change sleep habits is the best thing. You can see a doctor for it, but here's a link to a clinical guide. It's pretty short and even though it's aimed at training practitioners you can just use it directly on…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 03:00 PM
1

More poker again this upcoming week. I'm getting slightly better, I didn't lose all my money last time. This is such a good challenge for me, I'm still limited by the social aspects, reading people, bluffing and handling pressure. But working on this stuff is a large part of why I'm doing it. I've got some experience with poker. If you read a book and understand it, then deliberately follow its guidance for a while until it becomes natural, you should easily beat or at least stay even in any hom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/23 10:35 PM
1

What would happen if you just told her the truth that you don’t want another kid? At least not right now? I actually told her before mrp and listed reasons, thinking she might respond and make changes. Surprise, nothing changed. Alot of the reasons for not having another kid have gotten better since making my own changes based on mrp, but life isn't quite where I want it. Are you afraid of her emotions? It's more that I don't see how telling her would be productive. I've stopped worrying about h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 02:04 PM
1

You're getting at a covert contract? I don't think so. My actions to improve my life would be the same if I had a vasectomy. Avoiding another kid unless I'm happy with my relationship isn't a covert contract, it's common sense. A real covert contract would be going ahead and having the kid and somehow expecting things to get better because I "gave" her what she wants. Which I've seen.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 01:19 PM
1

OYS #24 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 224 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 280 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. Still in process of moving back up from recommended deload last week. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 09:30 PM
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Tell her you just discovered that you've always been non-binary and need a safe space to process it, so she needs to move out.
/r/askMRP02/05/23 12:28 AM
1

Weight belt
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/23 12:19 PM
4

Most wine doesn't age well past 40 either. Depends on the wine. Some ages like shit. Analogy is good.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/23 07:09 PM
1

Ive read a number of posts along these lines in askmrp and oys now, where someone claims to have found married red pill and tried to use the information in the past, failed, and is trying again a year or more later. I've noticed a trend... I'm curious, maybe if some of the vets see this they'll know: Are there ever any people like this who come back and actually do the work and succeed? What makes it finally click when someone has already done the reading but not internalized or done anything wi…
/r/askMRP29/04/23 11:38 AM
1

Read the sidebar and top posts too. Where they disagree with nmmng, follow them. Nmmng is good but it has some bad advice, like talking about fight club or the sex moratorium. I'll give you the advice I got: Rian stone has a nmmng youtube Playlist that explains each part of the book and helps you avoid the wrong parts. Watch it along with reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/23 11:07 AM
2

So many words, mostly about what other people do and think. So few actions consistent with red pill. I can't believe you've actually done the reading you claim, especially the sidebar or how to own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 04:30 PM
2

The contract behind "duty" activities that they are clearly to passify me, stop me from leaving, divert us from having sex, and if I do leave give her the high ground of "I tried, but nothing I do is good enough". Rethink this from your perspective. I don't care (and neither should you) about whether your wife is following covert contracts. It's about whether you have them.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 02:11 PM
2

I got caught up on everything being a covert contract too at first. It's only a covert contract if you do the action for your wife. Everything suggested here that's worth doing is worth doing for yourself, regardless of her response. You lift because it makes you attractive (among other benefits) to all women. Same for working on game, kino and sex. In some cases, two people may have identical observable actions from the outside, but one can be operating under a covert contract while the other i…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 08:22 PM
1

Also regardless of outcome with one woman (your wife). Be careful to let her reactions be the measure of success/fail. Good advice. I hear there's some variation, but I'm dealing with a woman who appears to be about as awalt as awalt gets. Part of why I joined red pill; essentially no dissonance between what I read here and what works in my relationship. It sounds like you endured it for the entire ride to wherever you were going. That sounds horrible. I like to use a 3 step model for bitchy beh…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 05:41 PM
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I'd throw in being decent at sex. Read sgm yet? Its a quick read. I'd do it before rereading other books.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:37 PM
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OYS #23 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 280 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. On advice from u/killingtheblue, I dropped all my lifts to where I can hit 10 reps on the last AMRAP sets (10-20% deload on all lifts) and upped the calories this week. Will take a bit to work back up. Cardio: ~8 hours per we…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 02:03 PM
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Went ahead and nuked a conversation. Went well.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/23 01:19 PM
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Yep, more what I was thinking of. Good examples there too. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 07:37 PM
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I've (tried) to stay away from nuking among other things that get classified as "advanced" around here with the idea that I should be some minimum level of attractive/passive dread generating, along the lines of lifting around 1k on big 3 and around 13% bf and getting regular ioi's. What are your thoughts there?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 08:02 PM
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Alright, I think I'm misunderstanding something. For 2, 3 and 4 plates, I'm 40 lbs off on squats and dls. So, changing nothing, I should hit those targets in the next 1 to 2 months for squat and 2-3 for dl adding 5 lb each lift assuming i dont have to deload more than once. But, for bench, im 47.5 lbs off. I'd be benching 1 to 2 times a week and adding 2.5 lbs each lift. On that schedule I'm still over 12 weeks away even if I never deload and add weight every time I lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 07:45 PM
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Thanks for troubleshooting, the people i know who lift regularly irl follow much less aggressive training plans and havent been helpful. I haven't seen the plan you shared but it's close to what I'm doing with some exceptions: weighted chins are 2x5 then 1xamrap I'm doing rows instead of curls (Yates warm-ups, bent over for last sets). I'm also not using a neck harness and didn't know they existed before reading this. Not sure how much of a difference that makes. I was dropping 10% for failed la…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 04:04 PM
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https://greyskull.app/workouts/ That's what I'm going off of for gslp. Body weight has been essentially stable within about a pound of 222 since switching. I've been aiming for recomp/bulk rather than cut but haven't tracked much other than making sure I hit 200g protein
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 12:04 PM
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Thanks, I haven't tried A&A/teasing her when she's crying before, probably because I thought it would just flip her over from being sad to being angry at me. I guess I don't really care if I do that anymore. Worth a shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 06:45 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, helps to keep things clear. On lifting: ​ How is your bench/press so weak but your chin so strong? ​ A few things. I started off worse on those lifts since my wrist surgery put me off even pushups for 9 months prior to starting lifting in November. I also have had some shoulder injuries and surgeries in the years prior that slowed me down. Last, I'm long (6'8" wing span). So, my levers are at a disadvantage for pushing exercises. Chins and rows go up every time I lift wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 06:21 PM
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She got babysitting, and I planned out the place, accomodations, events, food, shopping etc. Do you like shopping?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:50 PM
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OYS #22 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 275 lbs, Deadlift 365 lbs, Bench 177.5 lbs, Barbell row 232.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 30 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, just finished MAP, working on TRP sid…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 09:18 PM
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Thanks, yeah, feels good. I just also feel the regret and anger at my past self for not committing earlier. Mostly, though, I'm just looking forward to seeing what it's like to actually be strong and like to remind myself (in my head and to internet strangers) I'm not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 03:30 PM
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I guess not appearing to be a robot, or someone too insecure to allow emotion to show? I don't think either of those things are attractive and i think my wife/women in general can see through it when you just stuff it down. When I'm asked how I'm feeling I'd prefer not to lie about it. Moping all the time is unattractive, but at this point, 99% of the time I'm good. Longterm, I think it's better to have emotions and handle them than to pretend not to have them at all. I thought I read something …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 01:31 PM
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It means be open about the grieving process as opposed to hiding it. I knew I needed to do it eventually but didn't want to when doing so just made me more bitter. For more specific detail, when my brother died, my wife kept talking about how perfect our life was. I realized I'd never/very rarely shared negative emotion before and decided to start sharing. Except she was "all touched out" from kids, and when I cried, she withdrew more. I told her I needed closeness (not sex, literal closeness) a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 05:47 PM
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I don't understand. Why open back up?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 09:08 PM
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I was open initially back when it happened. I didn't get the response of comfort and support I wanted/expected and closed off. I realized I don't need those things from her and begging for them is unattractive and made me feel resentful. For a while, I was happier keeping to myself rather than being vulnerable. I opened back up when I felt confident I could do it without expecting something from her.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 08:54 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 270 lbs, Deadlift 360 lbs, Bench 175 lbs, Barbell row 230 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 27.5 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, reading TRP sidebar and MAP I corrected…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 03:58 PM
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And It sucks to feel like you’ve worked yourself into ground only to see someone who appears to have only put in a marginal amount of work to be bitching about not getting special sex act validation. Ha, got me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 07:50 PM
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OYS #20 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 255 lbs, Deadlift 360 lbs, Bench 175 lbs, Barbell row 225 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 22.5 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, reading TRP sidebar and MAP Lifts are c…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 07:16 PM
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Do a gym introductory trial. They're usually free or relatively cheap and you can get a training session and they'll watch you and teach you the right lift form. frame assertion My frame: I didn't ditch her. Her frame: I ditched her. Unless your frame is to let your girl down by breaking your word because you're too afraid to speak up to people as powerful as tennis instructors, you should rethink what happened. You didn't assert your frame. You deered.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 12:53 PM
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Maybe her blow jobs suck because she can sense the covert contract you have about them re cunnilingus. There was definitely a covert contract. I ~think I got rid of it (literally said, "I like going down, I'll do it whether or not you return the favor") but that was only a few months ago. But if she’s doing half of the other shit you say she is, then the path to great blowjobs seems fairly obvious — become a guy women would want to fuck and stop whining about them / begging for them. Yeah, good …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 03:31 PM
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Hope and think that's true. Blow job is just an example and there's still a difference between an enthusiastic blow job to completion and a 30 second blow job offered before sex when oral sex is free in the other direction, but you're right that it's my fault. Still skinny fat, still not good at game. This place helps remind me to chill, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 12:29 PM
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Fair point. But I don't need to know if I'll be satisfied with something to know I want it. Are you so sure that you would be satisfied if you got what you think you want from your wife? I think it's hard to know if what you want is enough until you get it. I've had sex goals in the past and gotten them, but ended up wanting more. Each time I've gotten a more clear vision of what I want, but I recognize that, if I reach the next goal, I may want something else. And, at a certain point, my wife i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 05:00 AM
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Yeah, it is slowly getting better. I'm very clear about what I want without shame and don't ask for anything crazy. And, honestly, I can do most anything I can think of as long as it's me doing it to her and it leads to her orgasm. Tie her up, spank her, fist her while I fuck her in the ass and call her a dirty slut and film it. Sure, as long as i warm her up. But if she has to do something, its like i asked her to fly to the moon. even basic shit like an enthusiastic blow job. I'm working on it…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 04:42 AM
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OYS #19 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 2y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 245 lbs, Deadlift 360 lbs, Bench 170 lbs, Barbell row 222.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 20 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, reading TRP sidebar DEER/S…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/23 03:45 PM
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So you are boring because you talk about shit that is unimportant you. So may I instead offer you the same alternative as u/ragnar_Daneskjold just be playful and have fun (for you). Tease a girl. Remove any explicit outcome and ride the vibes. Thanks, I used to think of myself as a bit of an ass for having conversations/teasing purely for my own enjoyment and I got negative (verbal) feedback, felt bad for offending people and stopped in my 20s. I haven't thought about it since finding red pill a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/23 09:27 PM
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Good conversation advice in general. And I don't think I'm terrible at talking up women in most social settings in a nonsexual way. But what about the drunk girl at a bar? Seems like a great target for flirting but not so great for talking about unique topics. That's where I noticed I'm really weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/23 06:20 PM
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I've read that one a few times. Certainly applies to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/23 06:06 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 245 lbs, Deadlift 355 lbs, Bench 170 lbs, Barbell row 217.5 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 15 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, reading TRP sidebar No Dee…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 04:29 PM
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Thanks, yeah, took a wall of text to get there but you nailed the important realization in my OYS. Writing it out helped a lot. "Is this really how you want to spend your time?" has been my mantra for the last few days and it's helping. I either get up and do something else or settle myself and realize I'd be doing this shit anyways and might as well be content.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/23 03:16 PM
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Seems like a good idea, will see how it goes
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/23 06:30 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 221 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 245 lbs, Deadlift 350 lbs, Bench 170 lbs, Barbell row 215 lbs, Overhead Press 110 lbs, chin ups 10 lbs. Cardio: ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, TWOTSM, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, reading TRP sidebar It's bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/23 12:05 AM
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​ ​ >NFP, there are strong religious beliefs behind my decision so it is not something I am willing to negotiate. ​ I'm not here to negotiate... Choose your own limitations for whatever reasons you want. The main strength of MRP, though, is the advice is offered from a perspective that is, or at least tries to be, free from constraints of morality and social conventions. Actually read the Steel's Detailed Guide to Married Red Pill and all of the linked posts. See how many you can actually follow…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/23 03:38 PM
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I would kill the cardio completely but it's a sport that I'm competitive in and my main hobby and what I base my social circle around. It's also as important of a motivator for me to get stronger as fucking; Even if I thought lifting would have 0 effect on my getting laid I would still do it for the sport gains. I have stopped the extra solo runs/workouts in the last few weeks though and dropped intermittent fasting this week. I'm about 50g off the protein goal and can add that. ​ >Set some fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/23 03:10 PM
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Nothing else here is as important as lifting. Gyms have free trials and cheap introductory plans. Since all you need is barbells you should be able to find something way cheaper than a home gym over the short term if money's an issue. You'll need to learn how to lift too anyways and people at the gym can help. NFP doesn't mean only a week per month of sex, it means only a week per month of vaginal sex without a condom (other than the period, which is another week you could be fucking). It's also…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 02:43 PM
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Do you have a home gym? Incorporate high quality sets throughout your day. Take 5 and do some cluster sets/myoreps. Thread these in throughout your day along with your current plan if you can recover between sessions. Yeah, home gym. I'll be honest, I know almost nothing about lifting for maximizing strength. I did some lifting in highschool and college for sports but it wasn't oriented that way and it was infrequent. I read stronglifts and then switched to phraks gslp off advice here and am now…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 04:51 PM
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why have you ceased masturbation? I know there is stuff about semen retention in twotsm and a camp here that thinks masturbating at all is bad. That's not me. Honestly, I don't even think porn is bad and I watch it with my wife and alone to get ideas. Everything in moderation. But, I chose to cut down/stop for a few reasons: First, I would rather have sex than masturbate, and I have the self control to wait for what I want and get it how I want. Women also want to feel like you're horny for them…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 03:58 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 221 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 245lbs, Deadlift 345lbs, Bench 170lbs, Barbell row 212.5lbs, Overhead Press 110lbs, chin ups 7.5lbs. Cardio: 5k 22:00. ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, watching Rian Stone video ser…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 10:58 PM
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Today she's ovulating, but has had anxiety about leaving for a trip and that completely interferes with her feeling open for sex. I haven't figured out a way to help get through this issue-- as a guy I can put aside almost any stress and have a quickie-- but I realize women have a much harder time compartmentalizing like that. Anybody have any advice on this? That's an easy one. Get more attractive. When there is enough dread, she will be begging to fuck before she leaves to alleviate her anxiet…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/23 12:59 PM
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It sounds like you're fit and generating dread and at a point where she is willing to fuck and will even do it when she doesn't really want to. Maybe it's time to focus on making the sex itself better.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/23 12:42 PM
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Walmart has squat cages for like 250 dollars that will hold more than you will ever squat. What's the hold up?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/23 04:41 PM
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I appreciate that. I'm past the worst of the grieving process and am fine self soothing when I'm on my own. And I'm not trying to completely stfu on my feelings; I have family I talk to. I just think I need to stfu with my wife. I think the process has become polluted by my own expectations for how she should respond to my grief. Lots of family were reaching out to be supportive. Got jack from her. I don't think it was productive to show how I felt because I can't do it without an expectation fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/23 08:33 PM
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Ha, love to hear that response, was curious how much of a happily ever after you got there.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/23 02:09 AM
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This would have been the final nail for me: She noped out of more skiing because she panicked on the ski lift I'm curious why that would be the final nail for you. Half joking, but, some people see a fun thing that lots of people do and they're scared, but they think, "if other people can do it, I can do it." And they give it their best shot. They want everything from life so they're up for anything (within reason). I couldn't stand being with someone who didn't have that attitude. You weren't s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/23 02:04 AM
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I agree that post is great. I'm assuming you read his series starting with "Depressive and anxious wives..." Have you tried to apply that? It seems like he was dealing with a lot of overlapping issues. I don't think you can directly out-dread mental illness/sucking at life in general (A lot of RP material advises to just avoid/get away from these women), but he seems to have figured out a way to use dread constructively to lead his wife where he wanted. It looks like an incredible amount of work…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/23 09:10 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 240lbs, Deadlift 340lbs, Bench 170lbs, Barbell row 210lbs, Overhead Press 110lbs, chin ups 5lbs. Had chronic injuries to my hip adductors and hamstring attachment that are starting to hurt with weight increases. going to try supplemental lifts from previous physical therapy to correct. Cardio: 5k 22:00. ~8 hours per week high cardi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/23 08:10 PM
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There's a quote here that 75% of your problems can be solved by lifting, but you're already there and things are still shit. I hate to see what 75% worse would look like. Some of the more experienced guys here can probably speak to this better, but I've read along and there's definitely something missing here. Either you're just not saying it or you don't know it. I don't accept your response last week that your situation is all just because you were a "needy, butthurt bitch". I'm not saying you…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/23 05:33 PM
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Damn your posts are food for thought. But i think now we're getting into semantics. Funny enough, I read the Tao of pooh in highschool (really accessible intro to taoism) and the idea of "the way" resonated with me. Its teachings helped me stay content through some of the harder parts of my life. But I wouldn't call "the way" a mission. It's a life philosophy. And one that I aspire to. But missions, to me, are tangible. The things I consciously devote my energy to over a lifetime. My missions ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/23 03:47 PM
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I use this website and have shared the information with my wife. It has short articles on child development and parenting techniques including discipline that can be read in a few minutes on a phone. It has the added authority of being from the American Academy of Pediatrics, which may help if dealing with someone who "knows better than you" but still respects doctors. Discipline article I know 123 magic has been summarized in a few pages online as well. Most of those books are overlong anyways …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 03:50 PM
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Well, you sent me down a rabbit hole trying to figure out what people here mean when they say mission, and it seems like every post is getting at something a little different. eg eg eg I would have considered my response above a set of missions with achievable sub goals and objectives. Most of the OYS missions I read are either vague variations on "be my best self" or specific and minute, eg "bank $1,000,000". So, if I have to give a mission that sums up my list, I can do so: Change the way we u…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/23 03:26 PM
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Thanks, hadn't read yet and appreciate the insights. I'm still optimistic to see what things look like as I become more attractive and spend more time being consistent in my own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 09:31 PM
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So, first, my mission. These were mostly present from before MRP but have evolved. Career: Number one. I think I can make a meaningful impact on the world here. I devoted a huge amount of time to school/training and finally have my "real" job with a lab and an opportunity to do groundbreaking research and a paycheck that puts me in the upper class. This has been developing as an expected outcome of my training and came together in the last few months. I am putting in more face time at work and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 09:17 PM
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This is what I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 04:56 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, switch to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 235lbs, Deadlift 335lbs, Bench 170lbs, Barbell row 210lbs, Overhead Press 110lbs, chinups 5lbs. Cardio: 5k 22:00. ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, watching MMSLP YouTube by Rian Sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/23 05:15 PM
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It's really hard for her to cum from PIV... with you
/r/askMRP13/02/23 04:01 AM
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You left a mentally ill old woman and found another mentally ill old woman. Did you even read pfp?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/23 01:45 PM
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On ssri's and antidepressants in general... an ssri is near guaranteed to make orgasm harder just by its mechanism of action. And most antidepressants have some amount of effect, with welbutrin being the exception that can increase libido. Mirtazapine also shouldnt interfere with sex but it does still typically make people fatter and more tired. Some newer generation meds are also supposed to have less side effects including in the ssri category, but they are costly and it's not clear if they re…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 09:57 PM
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Ha, I love this place. Really helping me. And I get your point. But I'm cracking up about thinking of the guys here as heroes for figuring out what makes women want to fuck and doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 09:17 PM
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Well, I was way off; you don't have to earn talking to your SIL. Damn, she had you whipped. I can see why you made it a goal to stay out of her frame. But that's what rebelling teenagers do, do the opposite of what mom and dad want because they dont like their overbearing rules. And you still have to pay attention and react to her frame. A better goal is to establish your own frame clearly and stay within it, regardless of her. It's clear you're still in her frame since you felt you had to give …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/23 06:57 PM
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Newbie here too but I read a wife who likes to party but has near zero sexual interest in her jacked husband and i have to wonder if theres more in the way than simply not generating (or having the potential to generate) enough dread. Is she already completely checked out/did you already get the ilybinilwy speech, or is there something else? This post was helpful for me to understand how dread actually leads to what you want out of a marriage, and where it might fail. Have you read it? https://w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 09:44 PM
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"I only want her for sex" This is such a common thing. What's your prepared response? Wife and I had a disagreement about one of her boundaries that agreed to while deep in my BluePill days. Anal? Hope you didnt hurt her. You're not even really lifting yet, you're still in your bluepill days. Actions, like becoming more attractive, remove boundaries. If you're arguing and getting a 2 week silent treatment, you probably tried to get something with words or force that your actions haven't earned.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 06:48 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10/2022, stich to phraks gslp 2/2/2023: Squat 230lbs, Deadlift 335lbs, Bench 170lbs, Barbell row 205lbs, Overhead Press 105lbs, chinups 5 unweighted. Cardio: 5k 22:00. ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, watching MMSLP YouTube by R…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 04:23 PM
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Thanks, I probably talk too much but at least I think I'm a guy who talks ~and~ does shit. I'm making the switch to GSLP, my upper strength is definitely lagging. I went with Phrak's which has chin ups and rows in it. Would be very happy to get to 250/350/450 in 6 months. Edit: I am an idiot, you said trp sidebar not mrp. Will check it out, have not read.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 10:07 PM
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No sport exists where lifting doesn't help. Professional swimmers lift. Professional surfers lift, and the ones that don't would benefit. The debate happened years ago and it was decided by people who know more about exercise science than you. That said, you may be right that it's the least of your problems, for better or worse.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 04:48 PM
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Relationship - We are going to a family event. I'm driving her car. She likes to give directions tell me how to park etc. I've been working on this. She makes a route suggestion. I say this is the way that I'm going. She puts the destination in the map program and it's basically the same way I'm going. Feels like a win. IDK maybe validation from a map program? Next its select a place for dinner. I choose a place then stand my ground. More driving instructions. I continue to do it my way. She is …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 04:24 PM
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I dont think being turned on by her being turned on/getting pleasure is only about validation; an arroused female is hot. But it was about validation for me because it was all I was focused on, and, since you're concerned about it, it's probably an issue for you. I don't see sgm on your reading. It helped me think through what I want out of a session of sex and why. I'm still working on it, but if you're able to cum from her working when she is doing something purely for your enjoyment (throatfu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 02:52 PM
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Good shit on picking an athlete. I haven't seen mention of it otherwise on mrp but I made it a criteria when picking and it's a huge difference. I'm here so obviously things aren't perfect but at least my wife looks fuckable. I have a bunch of married friends through sports in their 30s to 40s and the wives who play sports too all look good and young for their age. The guys with wives who don't care for sports look like they're with their moms or something; the girls are either skinny fat and sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 02:27 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 335, Bench 170, Barbell row 205, Overhead Press 105. Cardio: 5k 22:00. ~8 hours per week high cardio sports hobby Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, MMSLP, Rational male 1-2, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MAP, watching MMSLP YouTube by Rian Stone. Goals: Lifting: Kept up 3x. Ordered weight belt. No DEER: Good…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 09:04 PM
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Thanks > How many times have you read it? What did you take from it? 3x now. Many traditional masculine ideals and other admirable qualities are not necessarily alpha and don't make women want to fuck you. Some of these could be beta traits that can attract a partner but they won't make them horny. > Have you watched Rians video series on it? No, that's what I'll do next, thanks for the suggestion. > Red Pill is not a philosophy but a praxeology. What is the difference? Philosophy is the study o…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 08:03 PM
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Maybe. The nice thing is my response can be the same either way. You're posting comments/advice on red pill. Have you considered actually going red pill?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 08:13 PM
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Ha, thanks for stepping in. I've read that post and agree. Meh, I think this got overcomplicated due to semantics from me referring to the framework/definitions in mmslp, which is frequently off on red pill philosophy i see here. That's why I put "good" and "beta" in quotes. I agree that I don't need any more actual beta qualities, even though mmslp claims they're good. But I also don't think having money or status is beta just because it isn't necessarily alpha. And if it's status within a grou…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 08:03 PM
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I don't think you can start oys too soon, I did it immediately. It keeps me motivated. But you are going to get shit on extra hard, because you are fucking up so much without even realizing it. Lift at least 3x per week. Lifting is the first, most important thing especially when you're weak. If your answer is, "I don't have enough time," I would ask how much time you're spending in couples therapy with a girl you have no kids with, aren't married to, aren't physically attracted to, and aren't fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/23 04:03 PM
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Yeah, we basically agree. I kept my example simple/contrived to try to avoid all the other factors that inevitably complicate a true story. Like your super beta. Sure, maybe if he was alpha his wife would be loyal. But he also picked a wife who would fuck tennis pros indiscriminately/indescretely enough that you know about it. Not every woman will do that, no matter how "nice" of a husband they have. Even if they will cheat, some only want powerful men and wouldnt look twice at a tennis pro even…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 12:40 AM
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Thanks, that link makes good points about learning theory. The learning plateau (and how to bust through it) made me think of "Moonwalking with Einstein", which I highly recommend; entertaining and actionable advice on how to develop a skill. Looking back at what I wrote, I am covering a lot quickly and not consistently succeeding. Honestly, though, my one true goal right now is to just keep up with lifting. Everything else is secondary, like, "Now that I'm RP aware, I know this should be differ…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 08:47 PM
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I also agree that the "beta" portions of SMV don't seem to directly get you more sexual interest years into an LTR. Having the higher SMV including beta qualities qualifies you for sex, and may feed into/support alpha qualities, but by themselves can't motivate sexual interest past some base minimum. As an extreme example, let's pretend you're the wealthy mayor of Betaberg. Your status and wealth are going to boost your qualifications for sexual interest from women and get you laid short term. "…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 07:55 PM
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Thanks, I agree it's a powerplay although I've debated whether she is doing it consciously or not. I think not. Asked directly, she would say she is disgusted by the idea that sex is something that she metes out to me as a reward. But I suppose it doesn't really matter. Owning my horniness is important and something I'm working on. Prior to MRP when we would argue about sex, she accused me of being insatiably, blindly horny and, since it was general horniness and not directed towards her, it was…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/23 07:10 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 335, Bench 165, Barbell row 195, Overhead Press 105. Cardio: 5k 22:00. Returned to high volume ~8 hours per week this week Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, just finished MMSLP and the rational male 1 - 2, reading MAP and rational male 3. MMSLP reflection: I appreciate the broad scope, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 09:41 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 224 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 335, Bench 165, Barbell row 190, Overhead Press 105. Cardio: 5k 22:00 Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, PFP, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, reading MMSLP and the rational male 1. I'm finally almost over covid. Still feel weak though. Allowed back to work tomorrow. Started lifting again this week but i followed the strongl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 07:00 PM
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I'm new here too but I'll just say I read nmmng and wisnifg along with the side bar before I got to mmslp, which I'm on now. Honestly, I got alot more out of the other sources and I think if all I read was mmslp I wouldn't have made as much progress. I would have said something like, "i already did most of this, whatever." And nothing would have changed. I also feel like I had to filter a lot of the advice and reasoning. Hope you do the other reading before reading mmslp again.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/23 12:42 AM
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Thanks. I'm going to reflect on this. I went down the rabbit hole on some of your old posts and links to older posts and I think you followed a path/ found an "endpoint" (that isn't really an endpoint) and had reflections on the redpill philosophy that line up with what I'm thinking/feel like i should be thinking. But, at this point, I still feel like, despite seeing multiple perspectives, I can still pick out a "right", pragmatic answer in many situations. What set of actions leads to the most …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/23 04:40 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 224 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 335, Bench 165, Barbell row 190, Overhead Press 105. Cardio: 5k 22:00 Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, just finished PFP, reading MMSLP and the rational male 1. Reflection on pfp: Ok read, I have a background in psychology and picked my wife knowing she had high self esteem, made secure atta…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/23 03:46 PM
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Good point. I think there's a line between actions and words though. If she acts like you're unattractive, it's bad enough, but to act that way AND say it indicates a level of contempt. And then by staying after, op says he deserves it. There's power in that for her. I dont think theres much difference between "youre unattractive" and "ilybinilwy". Maybe there's some other incentive to stay? Money? A lease? A cat? I dunno. But it seems like the energy used for that relationship would be better u…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/23 12:54 AM
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Man, I don't know if I could stay another minute with a woman who told me she didn't find me attractive anymore with no kids. What's the point? I've got full blown oneitis and two kids but id start planning the divorce if my wife told me that. I think the ideal is to realize there is no "one" but for her to still feel that way. It sounds like she never will if she already told you that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 10:44 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 225 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 335, Bench 165, Barbell row 190, Overhead Press 105. Cardio: 5k 22:00 Sidebar: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, and reading MMSLP Goals for last week: Lift 3-4x: kept up until this week sort of, at a resort without barbells, doing machines STFU: not great. We are together all the time with both kids …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 04:19 AM
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That's a good point. Improvement is due to leading by example and speaking assertively about what I want instead of getting mad and snapping at her or saying/doing passive aggressive shit. It is not due to her submitting. I'm nowhere near there yet. Still not sure how to get there, but I have plenty to work on myself. You were right about shit tests. There was a big one the night of my oys that I flubbed. Still thinking about it and will post next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/22 04:20 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 325, Bench 160, Barbell row 185, Overhead Press 100. Cardio: 5k 22:00. I'm getting 8+ hours of cardio a week mostly playing sports (dip over holidays, more like 5 hours) Sidebar: NMMNG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked posts/articles, just finished SGM, listening to WISNIFG (almost done) and reading MMSLP (started) SGM reflection: Wish …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/22 06:23 PM
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OP, I told you to move the question here and I'd respond but I can't beat this answer.
/r/askMRP25/12/22 08:16 PM
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Move this to askmrp so I can answer without being banned.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/22 05:32 PM
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Hopefully you mean live your life like you're ignoring ms and don't be a bitch about it, not literally ignoring your ms. It's usually treatable now.
/r/askMRP24/12/22 02:43 PM
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Thanks. Yeah, I think back about what I was doing before and I feel like such a fucking idiot. Like, it's going to make my wife so wet to fuck me in exchange for sleeping off a hangover.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 02:55 PM
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You're on a sexual strategy forum and you're focused on how this relates to your relationship and sex life, so I think you've unnecessarily complicated the situation. Getting black out drunk and watching TV on the couch to fall asleep are objectively bad. Doing it because her dad died 8 months ago also means she has left the zone of healthy grieving and entered the realm of depression and self destructive behavior where professional intervention is recommended. Theres no way she is pulling her w…
/r/askMRP21/12/22 06:48 PM
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I think you're looking for r/divorce.
/r/askMRP21/12/22 12:45 AM
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OYS #6 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 223 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 325, Bench 155, Barbell row 175, Overhead Press 100. Cardio: 5k 22:00. I'm getting 8+ hours of cardio a week mostly playing sports Sidebar: NMMNG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked articles, started SGM, WISNIFG Goals for last week: Lift 3-4x: kept up, all my old clothes fit again. STFU: Better Stop DEER: Good Backburner thinking about s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/22 08:08 PM
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Reading that post is actually a big reason I joined mrp and started doing oys. It nailed me. Need to read it again. Currently on wisnifg. I was planning on rational male eventually, could move it up in the queue.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/22 07:19 PM
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That makes a lot of sense, thanks for spelling it out for me. I may do x, and it may cause my wife to do y, and I may be aware of that connection. But I need to make sure my wife doing y isn't the reason for x. That's going to be hard for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/22 06:24 PM
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I don't want to lead you wrong and I don't know your personal situation well enough to know what she would do with an ultimatum. It might go terrible and she rejects you and treatment completely. Im in the (nonprofessional) camp where thats not the worst thing as long as you get out. Another route, people with personality disorders often don't end up in treatment directly for the personality disorder though. It's usually that they're also anxious, or depressed, suicidal(involuntary works then),h…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/22 02:54 PM
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You're talking in specific numbers but not about your net or why you cant even cover a vacation. Telling people what you gross is meaningless. It is for your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 06:17 AM
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I think youre spot on especially about asking in the first place. Checking in too much about how she feels about sex is a bad habit for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/22 11:56 PM
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I'm not sure I understand the covert contract. And thats probably my fault because im still new to mrp. Are you saying turning down sex in her frame unless I receive sexual attention from her in my own frame would be a covert contract? That's not exactly what I'm going for but I think it's what you're implying. If we are calling this a covert contract, isn't much of married red pill working towards a covert contract? From what I understand from what others have posted, men are working towards a …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/22 06:46 PM
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I read "come as you are" prior to red pill. The advice you're giving is sound and the take from /u/Blarg_Risen represents what I thought the MRP philosophy toward the book would be. The "brakes" section of the book applied strongly to my wife. I've hesitated to write an "origin story" but I think I might have to to make my actions and thought process now make sense, so here goes. Two years ago, I was more attractive than I am now, (bigger lifts, 10 pounds lighter) but my wife had almost no libid…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 04:11 PM
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Fair. I think I give it extra focus in part because it's the area I feel like I'm fucking up the hardest. Work is good. Social is good. Lifts are improving. Boundaries being enforced. But sex still makes me crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/22 04:52 PM
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Thanks for commenting. For diet, I'm doing intermittent fasting from dinner to lunch the next day and had lost about 12 pounds with that before I started mrp. Right now navy says I'm 16% bf and pictures say between 16 and 20 and I want to add strength so I'm not worrying about cutting more calories unless I plateau on gaining muscle. On sex, I try not to focus on it but then fuck up week after week. I'm torn between just not mentioning it here to minimize it or talking about it to own that I'm s…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 06:44 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 224 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 305, Bench 150, Barbell row 170, Overhead Press 95. Cardio: 5k 22:00. I'm getting 8+ hours of cardio a week mostly playing sports Sidebar: NMMNG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked articles, started SGM, WISNIFG Goals for last week: Lift 3-4x: kept up last week despite getting sick STFU: Still doing better than before Stop DEER: 0 DEERs f…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/22 08:59 PM
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She can do hormone replacement, it's actually recommended because her menopause will be early/artificial. Make sure she is working with a sympathetic gynecologist. Hysterectomy doesn't have to be the end of sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/22 02:32 PM
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Pretty sure I'm just overly focused on sex with her and need to figure out how to genuinely not give a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 02:37 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, I have trouble with scoreboarding and escalating conflict unnecessarily. I think I generally just need to give less fucks about what my wife does.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 02:24 PM
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Well, yeah, that's what I said. Keeping myself motivated to lift by being honest about it is the number one reason I'm posting here. So thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 08:07 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 280, Bench 140, Barbell row 160, Overhead Press 95. Cardio: 5k 22:00. I'm getting 8+ hours of cardio a week mostly playing sports Sidebar: NMMNG, red pill handbook, book of pook, most of the linked articles, started sgm, mmslp Goals for last week: Lift 3-4x: kept up last week. STFU: better Stop DEER: converted a shit test from DEERing to agree and amplify…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 04:05 PM
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What does this post have to do with hypergamy?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/22 09:23 PM
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You're broke enough that this tenancy agreement is playing into your decision. Objective evidence its not just your past behavior getting in the way. You're still not attractive.
/r/askMRP01/12/22 10:15 PM
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Fair. Thanks. You're right, they're pro-ego, overly focused on my wife and not necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 04:06 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 225lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 280, Bench 135, Barbell row 145, Overhead Press 95. Cardio: 5k 22:00. I'm getting 8+ hours of cardio a week mostly playing sports Sidebar: NMMNG, most of the linked articles, started sgm, mmslp Goals for last week: Lift 3-4x: failed, only 2x. I traveled to family for Thanksgiving but figured out a local gym, better than I've done in the past but still shor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 09:22 AM
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Im a physician with training in psychiatry and I honestly hadn't even heard of the term "dark triad" before coming here. but, from what I read, fitting dark triad traits isn't the same as fitting a clinical diagnosis so I suppose there isn't evidence that they would be unchangeable. Either way, it's good you're moving forward with either divorce or her entering treatment.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 03:38 AM
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Yeah, realized I needed to just not worry much about sex. I made the cum first goal because I've always been really bad about trying to be the good and giving lover, to the extent that I can count on one hand out of whatever thousands of times how often I've cum before my wife. But, I stopped masturbating and stopped worrying about if my wife cums, started initiating quickies, and it happened without trying. Still looking for middle ground on deer, my problem is I smoothed everything over before…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 10:04 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 225lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 225, Deadlift 275, Bench 135, Barbell row 140, Overhead Press 95 Cardio: 2 mile: 14:26 Sidebar: NMMNG, most of the linked articles, started mmslp Goals for last week: STFU: Getting better. Caught myself responding to bullshit or oversharing with friends and stopped. Multiple times my wife would start about something, I would say nothing, and she would actually have the …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/22 12:14 AM
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I tried to stay brief on my oys and didnt reply because I talk too much but here goes. If everyone is either "red pill" or "nice guy" then I guess I'm a nice guy. But, from NMMNG, I understood a "nice guy" is someone who thinks by going out of his way to be sensitive and nice and helpful, he will be rewarded, and then he's resentful it didn't work. I never thought that was how the world worked. I have a good career with a clear future and I didn't get any of it by being nice. I also didn't get m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 06:38 PM
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Yes, I have personal and professional experience. 1) it's relatively hard for trained professionals to make a correct diagnosis for cluster b disorders, so your own analysis may be bullshit, but... if she's bpd, specific Cognitive behavioral therapy can work. It's treatable and she could become a wife capable of not sucking. That doesn't happen just from you. You can't change her. Professionals with years of training struggle and only sometimes succeed. Without directed therapy, she will always …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/22 05:56 PM
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There's a lot here. The vague way you describe these problems without a clear action plan and endpoint makes them just sound like excuses, when they're both relatively common things that people deal with successfully. 1) are you saying your wife is diagnosed npd or bpd? Which is it? Is she being treated professionally? How? 2) you've been to "a lot of docs" but no one "cracked the code". Did you get a diagnosis? MRI? Progress through directed physical therapy?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 02:59 PM
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That sucks, at least you're fully aware of it and won't fall in the trap. It indicates you are still in a dynamic where sex is traded as a commodity. I'm still in the process of disentangling from that shit so I might not give the best advice but I can still spot it. Your initiation process is definitely fucked and contributing to it. I don't know what the sex itself is like but I'm guessing that's fucked too.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/22 03:57 PM
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I'm trying to understand if you get me pregnant again, you will get so much more sex Are you saying she wants a third, you've said no, and she says she will fuck you more once she is pregnant?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 08:57 PM
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Yeah, alcohol works for going to sleep but it fucks with sleep cycles and sleep isnt as good. If its just one drink its probably not a huge deal but its still not great. "I drink alcohol to fall asleep" is a classic line from someone with uncontrolled anxiety. If you have to take something, Trazodone is one of the least shitty options. Ultimately, getting anxiety under control and better sleep hygiene is the best if you have the discipline and can work it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 12:58 PM
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Yeah, I agree, thats why I'm reading through mrp and working on myself. I spent a lot of time focused on my wife and changing her lifestyle (more than just birth control) and got what I thought I wanted. Even so, I still wasn't happy and I hit a wall where I realized the only thing left to change was me. So I'm working on that. But, in the mean time, I'm already having the best sex I've had in my relationship and getting a positive reaction to gaming that was useless a few years ago when I was, …
/r/askMRP17/11/22 05:13 AM
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Ha, fuck you but you gave me a clear answer so thanks
/r/askMRP17/11/22 04:49 AM
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Cholesterol checks are free if you have insurance that covers well checks. You can probably get testosterone along with thyroid and possibly others if you say something like, "I feel weak and tired all the time and can't keep up with activities that used to be easy." wtf are you hoping to get and planning to do with "inflammation levels?"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 07:06 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 225lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: Trying 5x5 to get back in after wrist surgery then find something better, started 11/10: Squat 225, Deadlift 275, Bench 135, Barbell row 135, Overhead Press 85 Cardio: 2 mile: 14:26 Sidebar: NMMNG (pretty sure I'm not a nice guy but some useful stuff, interested in other audiobooks because I don't have time to read) Red pill motivation: Stumbled into red pill and covert (and overt) contracts, realized my …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 07:00 PM
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She already cheated. Move forward with divorce. See if she will be more generous since she seems to want out quick.
/r/askMRP16/11/22 03:26 PM
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