The past few months, I've had many unkind messages from my soon to be ex wife. The last three weeks or so she keeps sending really nice messages, thanking me for all the good times (which she previously said didn't exist) and literally telling me that all she wants is for me to be happy, and that she knows thats a hypocritical statement, (which it is to the next level).

I have no idea why her behaviour has suddenly changed so much but I sent her a voice note a few days ago telling her that I need us to start and maintain no contact. I found her being nice actually opened the wounds even more than when she was awful to me.

So far, she's stuck to it and I haven't heard anything from her since. Literally since the day I started no contact I haven't dreamed about her once, when before it was every night without fail. It still hurts and I still miss her and, to be honest, love her. But not knowing when I would receive a message or call from her made it so much worse.

I highly recommend no contact where it's possible. I know it's not possible when there's kids in the picture, but for those without kids it makes life much easier, although it isn't easy to start no contact when you still care for that person. Best of luck to you guys!