A couple questions and a spill of my thoughts

Chinny4daWinny · 2015-07-28T23:45:19+00:00

I haven't really gone out and tried to get a girlfriend so I don't know how hard it is (I've had 2), but if it's hard for enough people that trp was born, how hard is it?

It's easy. Beyond easy. I could make a mockery of the entire situation, or just ask you a simple question. Do you even want to be in an exclusive relationship? Why on earth? Personally, I don't. That one's up to you though. I was exclusive with a slut the entire time I was in college. Yeah, we constantly had the dirtiest sex I had ever imagined up to that point in my life, she gave me road head every time we drove anywhere, and she was the hottest girl I'd ever fucked.. real nice piece to have on my arm as I navigated a new social circle. But dude, there were atleast 10 girls on my dorm hall alone that openly wanted my penis inside them. Random friends of these girls coming in to party for a night.. They'd ask me where I slept, and when I went to go to bed a few hours later I'd find them crashed out there with their bra sitting on my nightstand. I kicked 3 different girls out of my bed like that, and made them take the couch. I never cheated. But, there was lots of easy ass that I missed out on because I was still living in a dream where I was the fucking man, had the hottest girlfriend and nothing could change it. After 3 years of dating, I went away for a weekend to help a friend move to California, and she fucked my best friend while I was gone. Yeesh she was such a desperate whore. She got that insecure the very first time I took a trip without her, thinking I was out in California cheating on her. She had NO idea about the sheer amount of women and opportunities to cheat that I turned down when I was exclusive with her.

Doesn't matter. The lesson I learned the hard way? AWALT. Welcome to The Red Pill. These days, I thank the Lord that happened to me when I was in my early 20's. If it hadn't, I might have wasted the next 15-20 years dicking around in "exclusive relationships". Might have even gotten married. No thanks, I'd rather focus on myself and enjoy my life homie. The only relationship I've been in since was with a woman that was from South America.. She grew up in Honduras. Very grounded woman.. She didn't behave like any of the American women I've met. Beautiful too. 5 foot nothing, 120 lbs, 36DDD titties (yes, triple D). Eventually I couldn't deal with her insecurities, it didn't work out (I had initially met her and her best friend at the same time, and they both wanted my dick. That was an interesting situation... "causing rifts in their friendship", I believe is the phrase she chose. Hahaha) That insecurity of hers ended up dwelling straight up til the end. Whatever. Don't be against relationships, but don't make that your goal. Make them prove to you that they are actually worth dating first. That's my advice there.

I've been using monk mode as an excuse to not go out and pursue relationships because when I'm ready things will just fall in place or do I have to go out there and fail in order to get experience for things to fall in place?

There isn't a simple answer to this. Yes and No both apply. When you have played the game enough to see the score, then you can simply choose to stop playing and focus on yourself. When this is genuine, it beams from your demeanor and women can sense it. THIS is the true essence of monk mode, and the organic transition out of it. It's not about just shutting yourself in. Here, and only here, is when they start coming to you, instead of the other way around. You'll notice them fumbling around, trying to get closer to you, acting all ditzy. Trying to bait you into approaching. It's cute how they think they are being subtle.. It happens every single time you are in public with women. Every single time. I fucking love it. And in the eyes of clueless less experienced men, they probably are being subtle. Using the skillset they have spent a lifetime fine-tuning by being surrounded by betas.. I'm talking about sleuth approaching body language, calculated micro kino, and passive aggressive IOI/conversational manipulation to try to get whatever it is that they want. To me, they are walking right up to me, holding my ears open, and screaming "you could totally fuck me because I can tell you are a boss by the way you walk and the way you look at me" right into my face. But if you haven't had enough experience to exhibit a genuine abundance mentality, then this approach won't help you progress. Getting out there and failing (many, many times) is an important part of the calibration process. There's no way around it.

I've been doing workouts with the football team but now I've switched to strong lifts. The stronglifts weight is very light compared to what I do. Should I stick with it and increase the weights as the program recommends or hike it up?

Hike it up. Fuck light weights, fuck high reps. 5x5's, heavy weight. Heard me? Lift, man.

About being myself - If I'm a person who enjoys playing games, basketball and weight lifting should I just do me or "improve" myself by removing things not helpful in my routine? Cutting out games 100%, deleting social media, cutting out junk food, etc all sound good but it'll make my life less of my life and more of a robotic routine I'm going through.

Hey, I love Dota 2. I fucking love Dota 2. If I had a nickel for every woman I've had over to my place, that got to watch a pro dota 2 match for the first time ever streaming live because that's what I wanted to watch, I'd go to McDonalds and treat myself to an egg mcmuffin right now. Don't cut out games, social media, junk food, etc. Learn to find a balance between work and leisure, and don't ever be ashamed of your passions. If you can game, use social media, and still maintain your progress in the areas of your life that directly impact your SMV (lifting, job, status), more power to you. If you can't, then don't. The only time this becomes a problem is when it dominates your life, and hinders you from doing things that actually matter.

Another thing to consider - if you think that those scrawny short nerdy asian pro players don't have their pick of women just because they are scrawny short nerdy asian gamers, then you're fucking trippin. They have money, they have status. Turn your brain on. Games or no games, if you are established as a man and your life is in order then video games, and looks, ain't got nothin to do with it.

As far as eating.. Eat healthy man. /r/mealprepsunday can help. I just posted this for someone else over there - maybe you'll get something out of it too:

""I don't prep breakfasts, because I don't really like the texture eggs have after you put them in the fridge and then re-heat them. So I just make a 4 egg omelette with some shredded cheddar cheese every morning. A banana here, a yogurt there. Usually a protein shake. When you get good at this, it takes less than 10 minutes to make. Easy stuff.

As far as my actual prep goes.. 14 Salami/cheese sandwiches for lunches (turkey, ham, whatever you like. I like salami). For my dinners, I prep 7 tupperwares of chicken breast, ~1/2 cup of white rice, and a bunch of cooked veggies (onions, potatoes, bell peppers, carrots), mashed potatoes, all with chicken gravy.

Easy stuff man. Feel free to PM me any questions. Also, if you are new to cooking and just don't really know where to start, check this out. Thug Kitchen: Eat Like You Give A Fuck. Good stuff, highly recommended. I like this one too. He breaks it all down, and makes it very simple.""

Is there a such thing as having plates in college or are you just known as fuck buddies/ friends with benefits(or are those interchangeable?)

Yes.

somethingofvalue · 2015-07-29T00:53:15+00:00

Going to college as a freshman?

I wanted to comment on the first part of your post. Activity begets activity. The more you have on your plate, the more you'll get done. Enjoy the summer but be careful when you get back to school. I have known people who let inertia get the better of them, and they ended up wasting years at a time. Also, consider starting to read some fiction that will entertain you to build up the reading habit again.

Your second question is whether attraction is enough. You build attraction through your social interactions. Women can't magically see inside your head. The idea behind game is emulating the behaviors of a confident and outgoing person to show yourself as attractive and interesting as possible. Game also gives some advice about common problems men face when dating. If you're off to college, it's the perfect time to read up on game and use whatever you find valuable. If you're really an outlier, attractive, extroverted, masculine, tall, muscular, have an active social circle then you probably don't need game. For the other 95% of men, it's invaluable. (For any man learning about TRP is useful).

Your last question about plates in college - those terms are more-or-less interchangeable. Most women in college are looking for fun and hookups with men they find attractive.

Title	A couple questions and a spill of my thoughts
Author	Chinny4daWinny
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	July 28, 2015 11:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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