TLDR: Got a good but boring Job that allows me to go for things outside of work but doesnt fullfill me in any way and dont even know if that job will help me in the long run. Setting expecations on myself to do more but feel Stuck because i dont know how to do more.
First of all to me: Im 24 years old, finished university and got my bachelors in Engineering focused on construction. The only working experience i have is an internship i did while i was studiyng. I was a construction manager and i hated it. long working hours, no time for friends, family or hobbies only on weekends because you had to sleep near the construction. Because of that i searched for a job which revolves more on being in an office.
Got lucky and found one pretty fast as an Project coordinator / Project Manager
Its only a 20 min drive from home with the option to occasionally be in home office. The pay is pretty good for an entry Job and my collegues are also nice until now. I have time outside of work for my hobbies, friends and family etc.
Well everything sounds amazing am i right? What does everything have to do with the title ? Well thats where im getting at now.
The Problem im facing right now revolves around my expectations i set on myself.
I always wanted to be a Man that knows what he is doing. Has purpose and goes after his passion in order to get successfull. A Man that is knowledgeble in many areas and takes care of those around him. But currently i feel like im stuck.
The company im working for doesnt have any projects right now. either because some got cancelled or they cant get any. So for the last 3 months my day existed of literally doing nothing. I maybe really worked 1-2 Weeks in those 3 months. I dont learn anything i just exist. and it doesnt seem like it will change in the next few months.
I wanted to get succesfull fast in order for my parents to life a relaxed life after having many set backs throughout their lifes. I myself dont really care so much about the money itself i just want them to life a good rest of their lifes.
Now im starting to question everything. Was this job the right choice?
- Will i be happier somewhere else?
- Should i really give up this chill job in order to go somewhere else where it may be worse? Or is it just me being lazy?
- Dont i want to support my parents even more? Well how could i do that when im literally do nothing at work and will have nothing to say when i comes to getting a raise?
- What if i get paid less when i change the job?
- Will it look Bad on my CV ?
In addition to that another coworker (from a different departement though) got laid off for unknown reasons. What if they realize that they dont need me? I have no working experience so shouldnt it make the most sense to lay off the one that doesnt do anything and has the least experience?
My friends that work in the same area as me went into construction management but under different circumstances. They dont have to sleep near the construction sides and are home in the even, but still work probably up to 1-2 hours a day more then me. The way they describe their job really sounds interesting to me and ive been thinking about giving it a shot and also work in that field. But then i would have less time for myself.
Then there are the expectations i set myself outside of work. Wanting to bet Fit and have a good physique - Going to the gym while also doing martial arts and playing football with my friends on sundays.
Taking time to read and having time for my family and friends. Learning new things like languages or just something im curious about.
I know im overthinking everything way to hard, but i just dont know how to deal with those expectations. Im way to hard on myself but i just cant seem to stop doing that.
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