I recently gained a healthy amount of weight that fills out my curves, switched to my more flattering summer wardrobe, and most noticeably, made a semipermanent change to my hair. All this combined, I'm am suddenly receiving way more attention from men that I'm not used to and I don't like it. I like feeling good in my body, I like playing with fashion, and I like looking sexy to my boyfriend, but all of a sudden I see people perceiving me way before I notice them. I just went grocery shopping and was helped by a clerk who never took his eyes off my breasts. I used to smile at people all the time, but now I'm worried the wrong man will see it as flirtatious. All this makes me feel like the little 12 year old girl who just hit puberty and realized she can't wear her favorite shirt anymore.

My man knows about my discomfort and loves my body and my wardrobe, but this is still on my mind. There must be some people here who have experienced this through lookmaxing or other means. How do you move through a world that has suddenly stopped operating by the rules you expect it to?