So I went out with an older lady I matched with on a dating app, things were going great. I did all the physical escalations (arms, lower back, legs, shoulder , neck), even gave a quick shoulder massage, she initiated the hand holding hug also, told me she usually video calls before meeting but didn’t know why she didn’t do it for me. When we were saying goodbye I should have gone for a kiss but the thought didn’t occur to me till she had walked a few meters away. So I just went back home. For context she did tell me that she hooks up if she feels a spark.

I think these were good positive cues and maybe I missed a subtle negative cue.

The things how do you recover from this state and avoid such a mistake in the future.

P.s - this usually doesn’t happen with me but the past three dates were all with me not closing properly.

Any tips or advices are appreciated