How to avoid hurted feelings after breakup + How do I know what I want in dating?

Bubbly_Outcome5016 · 2024-09-01T01:28:57+00:00

Bro, having anxiety about something that hasn't happened and you aren't in a position to make happen is just hurting you, you want to be in a relationship then sooner or later if you're making yourself vulnerable SOMEBODY is going to get hurt especially as your young.

I remember my first "breakup" though even that word is too much as I'm not sure she was my girlfriend so much as I was enamored with her and wanted her to be and when she got with someone else guess what, my 15 year old ass was crying in the cold shower for a week, but I got the fuck over it. I got stronger and I can't even IMAGINE a world in which someone could do that to me. I love my current gf of 8 months so much and I visualize what happens if we were to break-up all the time, not out of anxiety, but because I know even if I'm sad for a while it'll be fine, just too solid rn.

You want to build a boat with someone you love when really you need to have your own boat, allow her to hitch hers to yours and be ok with cutting the rope when the time comes. You just want someone so bad rn and that will cloud your judgement, "it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all" is one of the truest quotes ever. It's worth it. Just accept it when it ends and exercise a little independence in the relationship so that when it ends you are fine, always ready for it as a contingency.

Leewaak · 2024-08-31T18:19:15+00:00

To answer your last paragraph, have short term situationships i only do 2-4 weeks with a girl then break things up with her, if i managed to hit then cool if i didnt at least i managed to experience dating her and having cool convos and dates with her.

The pain girls get after breaking up with them is not usually out of love but more so Attachement, thats what i learned through experience, breaking things up with them after 2-4 weeks, doesnt leave them as hurt or broken rather pissed at most but nothing too serious

Title	How to avoid hurted feelings after breakup + How do I know what I want in dating?
Author	Different_Ad_5967
Upvotes	2
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Date	August 31, 2024 4:31 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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