You see a video on Youtube with a guy approaching a girl on the street and you think to yourself - I could never do this

What you are experiencing is a form of resistance, and succumbing to this resistance is a major reason why a lot of men are not able to improve their dating lives.

So here's how to deal with it step by step.

Step 1 - recognize resistance

There are different stages of resistance - for example, what I outlined above could be Stage 1 resistance.

Stage 2 resistance could be something like this “I can imagine myself doing daygame but I just don’t have time right now or I’m too busy”

Stage 3 resistance could be you going out, trying to approach women and failing due to thoughts “She’s too busy, she’s in a rush etc.”

Stage 4 resistance could be having friendly chats and being afraid to flirt and show intent. “I don’t want to look creepy by hitting on her” you might think to yourself.

There are many stages of resistance, and the sooner you recognize that your limiting beliefs are simply forms of resistance (that you imagined in your head), the faster you will be able to deal with them.

Step 2 - embrace the struggle

The key to dealing with resistance is to embrace it rather than trying to fight it.

For example, let’s say you are in Stage 3 resistance mentioned above and you are afraid to approach women who are walking.

Instead of trying to find women who are sitting on a bench, say to yourself - “Okay, I actually want to do the most difficult approaches to challenge myself. Let’s see if I can find the most challenging approach and throw myself in it”

There is a good saying that has always stuck with me - if you resist the resistance, it will persist.

Instead, let it guide you to what you should really be doing and embrace it.

If you think you are too shy to do daygame or you’re not the type of person to do it, instead of running away from it, tell yourself - “I will go do daygame exactly because I am shy in order to put myself outside of my comfort zone and grow as a person”

Your limiting belief then becomes an incentive for you to take action regardless. Turn negative into positive

Step 3 - move fast

As you can see there are many stages of resistance, and most men simply don’t move fast enough to get through them.

You can get stuck in Stage 1 resistance for years thinking you’re ‘not the type of person’ to talk to strangers.

Some guys I know try daygame for a few days, get rejected, disappear back to their caves for many months before I see them again.

When you do this, not only you’re not making progress, you might be going backwards in resistance stages.

So when you have correctly recognized which stage of resistance you are not, take consistent action fast.

And when the next stage of resistance pops up, recognize it and keep going instead of stopping.

When you stop for too long, you have to regain momentum again and it's just tiring. So don't stop!