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| 1 | Dating after divorce age gapI’m flattered I triggered half of Reddit, I guess I better tell my girl to break up with me! Haha. Lying about your age a few years on dating apps is about is predatory as wearing make up cuz i guess that is lying about your face 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/26 02:12 AM |
| -12 | Dating after divorce age gapI 45m got with younger women after divorce casually and realized that sweet spot for dating seriously was like 10-15 years younger. Too young and they just are too different. I met my SO at 44 and put on the app I was 38. She was 33 when I met her. Fessed up around date 5 and she was cool with it (engaged now). Yeah it’s a little dishonest but I just said I liked younger women and didn’t want to get age filtered out. Lol I was straight up and we had a good laugh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/26 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Reliving the divorceBecause I messed up and took a job in FL for more money so, because I moved, her no move away clause went away: | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Reliving the divorceShe gets mad at me cuz I treat my kids a little different (6 and 8 yo girls) saying I act it’s me and my kids rather and her and her kids rather than all of us as a family. My girls are adorable as heck and her kids are teenagers with little bitchy attitudes, and she says my girls are the bitches (cuz maybe they remind her of my ex idk). The stepdad I gueess is supposed to be like Jesus and love all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Reliving the divorceSome crap about how at end of the day I have to be a team with my fiancé and the kids that live in the house full time. I stepdad them like they were my own. And then my kids visit every other weekend to come to be a part of our household with our rules, but then they grow older and become adults and what remains is my and my partner. That’s the theory anyway lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Reliving the divorce🫣 I know I’m an idiot | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Reliving the divorceShe wanted to get married and grow old together, I proposed to make her happy before we moved when things were good. A little voice in back of my head said it was a mistake, but I can’t tell if it’s just me afraid to get hurt again or if it’s just not what I want. Getting to the point where I feel a little crazy and don’t trust my own head. Is why I started therapy and posting here again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Reliving the divorceTherapist and my old lawyer in TX, cuz I guess that is what your supposed to do in a blended family situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Reliving the divorceSo originally got married in CA but we moved to Tex during pandemic and divorced there. Couldn’t stand being across country from kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 02:01 PM |
| 7 | Number 2 up in flamesThat seems like a fight how does it go to divorce that quickly | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Fight or Flight?Why married? Someone to grow old with, do things with, avoid time and risk chasing the next lay, tax benefits. And then there is love part I guess 😂 Yeah ptsd therapy seems to be the consensus. Thanks guys | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/25 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Fight or Flight?Probably was too early. She wanted to get engaged and eloped 3 months in and thought that wasn’t early at all. When it came time, that I needed to move and she was to come uproot her life and come with me, I wanted her to feel like I was committed. So I proposed just before we moved cross country together. Part of me wanted to part of me didn’t. I been having two sets of feelings in parallel the whole relationship and competing inner dialogue of 1.) I’m resisting the relationship because of past… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/25 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Fight or Flight?Wow 5 years is a long time. I learned after divorce I can get younger hotter women, and what happens when they become your gf and get old too with the knowledge that you can get younger hotter women? That’s where your at! 😹 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Fight or Flight?I put myself in a pickle and a lot I can’t blame her for being irritated and depressed. I moved her from the Deep South to Cali so I could be by my kids (and exw) again. I even tried to break up with her one time cuz I knew that situation she didn’t want or need. But she loves me so fought for us. So now whole new dynamic between us from where we met and and got engaged and now in a different state dealing with my exw’s barrage of bullshit and co-parenting while attempting to blend families and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 04:05 AM |
| 5 | Fight or Flight?Nope 🌍💦 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Fight or Flight?That’s what goes through my head. I start wanting to be single again. Idk wtf is going on I feel crazy. I think I was happier single. I have gained gf weight. But she is so solid as far as women go. Conservative and loyal, doesn’t party, has dinner ready when I get home, cleans and does the laundry no complaining, no bs girl from the south all about her man and 10 years younger. Total opposite of my ex. But still a woman and moody af! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 10:31 PM |
| 0 | Fight or Flight?Yes it was fast. I ran through alot of women casually living my best life if you know what I mean from the time of separation to about the first year after divorce finalized Separated June 2022. Divorced finalized April 2023. So well over a year year of partying. Then I started dating around April 2024 and had one 3 month relationship. Then I met my now fiancé in sept 2024 and totally fell for her and she fell for me. Moved in with her in Nov. Got engaged in May of this year. My post-divorce dat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Fight or Flight?This is spot on, I figured I need a therapist to help me re-condition my reflexes to conflict. My fiancé tells me it is old trauma wounds getting triggered and she is right about everything so I assume she is right 😹. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Update - been awhileYeah. It’s sad cuz we are supposed to be looking at wedding venues. Everytime I think about that I get this feeling of dread. Like sick to my stomach almost. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/25 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Update - been awhileI haven’t posted in a while either bro. Funny in a way I’m jelly of your loneliness. I’m engaged to new partner, full on blended family situation and laying awake wondering if I made a mistake. Relationships make you lose yourself. Trapped. Stuck in the cycle of expectations and let down. Loneliness is freedom. Unlimited possibilities. Anyways carry on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/25 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Sex after divorce.It was weird for me too for a few months. But it gets easier pretty quickly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 06:37 PM |
| 1 | What are your 2025 goals post divorce?Very true. I quit trickin and got good at pick up. Organic grass fed is definitely the best steak. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/24 03:08 PM |
| 1 | What are your 2025 goals post divorce?Pretty easy and cheap to do at any four hand massage place or trip to Costa Rica. Cheaper then dinner for 3 lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 11:01 PM |
| 2 | I’m out.You are mad and hurt and pretending to swear off women for life is fine and all but you’ll get over it, cuz eventually you’ll want to fuck something. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 03:39 PM |
| 1 | I’m out.Well men need women like Yang needs yin. You guys that swear them off to be uniks cuz your salty will never be happy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 03:39 PM |
| 1 | How to protect from future divorce? Financial perspective onlyThere’s a few known techniques, based on the fact that you can’t touch anything once divorce is filed until finalized. The smart ones do this as far ahead in advance before the marriage turns rocky, since large moves right before you file are sus and defendant can go after them, especially if a business involved. 1.) gift of cash or convertible assets to a close relative you trust, that will hold it for you until after divorce is finalized. 2.) get your income from jobs or side jobs paid to you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/24 06:06 PM |
| 2 | How to protect from future divorce? Financial perspective onlyIn mine they went back two years. And just cause you moved money around prior to divorce doesn’t me the other party will get it. Mine drained a joint account right before the divorce and I don’t get shit back. In fact this was at the advice of her lawyer to take it before she filed, because it is well known that those are the rules of war. Not sure where you are getting your information or why you would want to be so cautious. Burden is on them to get it out of you. If you don’t take it, then yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 06:44 PM |
| 3 | How to protect from future divorce? Financial perspective onlyWhat you do way before divorce is filed will not be in the discovery phase | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 02:16 PM |
| 4 | I’m out.So many parallels to my situation while married. The silver lining is you see it coming while I didn’t and was blindsided. My advice is to talk to a lawyer to do you can to protect your money before you file. You will have to split assets yes but can be strategic and stack some chips in advance of dropped the Nuke. After you file, you move on, get back in touch with your younger self and find a quality woman. I found one 10 years younger so privately joke to myself that I just traded in the old … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 01:51 PM |
| 7 | How We Picked Up Two Girls at the BarNice bro perfect. See you guys don’t have to over think one liners and what to say, just fucking talk normal, have a good personality, and have a masculine frame that leads: displays social status (has a friend), orders the drinks, decides on the location change and executes aka instadate, goes for the kiss, etc etc. if you have the right frame, game is simply logistics operations. The instadate has been key in every ONS I have had | /r/seduction | 07/12/24 02:14 PM |
| 3 | What is too nice? Or what’s the difference between a nice guy and regular hood dudeOh haha, well the relevant archetype of bad boy js not far off from hood dude. You want to be a good dude ofc and be geniune, have a good heart, treat her well…buuutt she wants you to be masculine, be the leader, have a dirty mind, be somewhat disagreeable at times, tease her, be the master of your domain such that she wants to come into your life because it feels safe, secure, and exciting. That is the essence of why they like bad boys without the toxic asshole element that is associated with t… | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 01:59 PM |
| 3 | What is too nice? Or what’s the difference between a nice guy and regular hood dudeJust read no more Mr. nice guy. There is a lot you need to understand that you won’t learn on Reddit. Comparing to a hood dude there’s a false comparison. | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 01:18 PM |
| 3 | Why Are So Many Men Withdrawing from Society?We create our reality and use whatever confirmation bias we can find to support it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 02:01 PM |
| 4 | Why Are So Many Men Withdrawing from Society?The answer is simple: don’t live in a city. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys get over approach anxiety with day game?Desensitization training + becoming the man you want to be in areas not having to do with women + daily affirmations. You have anxiety because deep down you don’t think you are good enough. | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Walked around for 3 hours, no approaches.Good that you are trying to desensitize yourself to the anxiety. Try to ramp up the risk taking and be more specific on what you say. The like your outfit is too generic and you need to throw in some tease. If they have ripped jeans, ask them “hey I like your jeans are you a ripped jeans model?” If they have a tiny purse. Say hey I like your purse are you a tiny purse model? If they have a giant water bottle, say wow stop pretending you got water in there I know it’s a margarita.” Get them to la… | /r/seduction | 19/11/24 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Texting in between Dates.If you not good at texting than use it for logistics and call instead. Things can easily be misconstrued over text. Girls are usually prolific and expressive testers so you need to match that energy. | /r/seduction | 19/11/24 01:15 PM |
| 5 | Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you?As long as grams is not a GILF 😂 | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you?Lol I meant top 10% not 90. Senior moment. Edited. | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you?Yes, senior moment sorry 😂 | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 05:32 PM |
| 124 | Girls, what makes sex with a guy literaly the best for you?My gf just told me I am the best dick ever. I have never gotten bad reviews. What I think: it’s the oscillation between slow and sentimental and then hard and dirty. You gotta make them feel safe and then you can make bring out the slut which all women are inside. If you can last longer than 5min you are in top 50%tile. If you can go longer than 15 and make them cum more than once, you are in top 10%. If you can make them cum multiple times, are creative with positions and can find their favorit… | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 03:09 PM |
| 5 | How do you guys keep going?If every girl is flaking on him there something very wrong about him, so yes, take it personally, suffer from it to learn from it, and change some things. Getting ghosted by some women is one thing, but all of them is a problem. This entire thread is a dick sucking contest. Y’all need to challenge eachother to be better. It’s not a matter of waiting until the right one comes along so feel better and keep trying, no. it’s about learning how to attract women. If you don’t then you will get one of … | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 01:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys keep going?Yup they want to be uplifted into your exciting world. They want a man that fucks the shit out of life, not some ho hum nice guy that is just existing. | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 04:04 AM |
| -1 | How do you guys keep going?I’m seeing most of you guys failing cuz you trying to be friends with them rather than trying to be their lover. | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 04:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys keep going?You need to understand women better, because you obv haven’t built enough attraction. If attraction is high enough she will do whatever it takes to meet up with you. Being ok looking is not enough. Always remember, Girls just want to have fun. Ask yourself, What about you is more fun than her hanging at home watching Netflix or hanging with her friends? If you don’t have a good answer, then be more fun. White knight syndrome. Girls fantasize of being swept off their feet by a strong, masculine m… | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 02:02 AM |
| 1 | I'm too afraid of approaching girls!Magic mushrooms | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Any tips for guys who aren’t attractive?Become a 10 inside and you’ll be a 10 outside. Improve the things you can control and forget about what you can’t. | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.Gotta practice “first thought best thought” meaning say the shit that pops into your head. That’s the shit that gonna make her laugh and think you are different. Don’t hold it back and force out boring shit cuz you trying to play it safe. That’s gonna make her lose interest. | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 07:06 AM |
| 2 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.You can read some of my field reports in post history if you want those kinds of details bro. But let me just say, you are already too focused on what to say vs. how to be. | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.Approaches are man to woman. In your mind you are a 10 ok? I need you to believe that. If you don’t then do the things you need to do to believe it. You gotta hold the frame of Uber confidence and know that their pussy is dripping just talkin to you, then you just tease and flirt while the elephant is in the room that you know she wants to get to know you and fuck. What you say from there doesn’t even matter if you can hold that frame. Just be funny and have a sense of logistics to move them to … | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.Tadalafil is generic cialis ie same thing | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 05:21 PM |
| 4 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.Depends. 5mg a day when sex is readily available with gf. If we have sex a couple days in a row and I’m feeling tapped I will juice it up with a 10mg dose. And if I ever stop taking it and start I will start with a 10mg, and then go to 5mg/day. When I was single, I would only take it a few hours before going out to pickup girls, usually thurs-sat. And start with 10mg on Thurs, then go to 5mg on fri and sat. One time I was banging a chick out all weekend tho and was tapped and should have upped i… | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.I got ripped, tan, stylish, confident, wings, and am on Cialis. | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 10:08 AM |
| 4 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.100% The easy ones generally make shit wife material. | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 10:06 AM |
| 10 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.The biggest mindfuck of being in a committed relationship is suddenly having someone that sees you as more than just a good fuck. I was so used to being only that. She doesn’t care if we skip a day of having sex. It’s honestly a relief. I can just chill some nights and she makes me dinner and just wants to cuddle. It’s really nice. | /r/seduction | 11/11/24 02:44 AM |
| 8 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.That’s a major point of this: for yourself, knowing you can create sexual currency on demand. Second major point is understanding what women want so you can attract and but even more importantly retain them in a loving relationship. | /r/seduction | 10/11/24 06:23 PM |
| 280 | Body count has gone up 11 in the last year.That’s exactly what I went through in the year plus after divorce. Ran through 20 girls. Thought I would do another 20 by christmas. Then a couple months ago I go on a date and is instant love at first sight. I dropped the cassonava dreams. She wouldn’t even let me hit it until like the 4th or 5th date and I didn’t even care. Now I’m moving in with her and gonna ring on it 😂. It’s all about love in the end. Being a man whore is fun but not the goal. That being said, don’t skip being a man whore … | /r/seduction | 10/11/24 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Lonely/ Desire companionship/ not sure the risk is worth itIt’s not about them or how fucked online dating is. It’s about you. Here you are, a man. Men need to fuck women. So go fuck a woman and feel better. It’s simple. Or let yourself keep gettjng in the way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/24 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Lonely/ Desire companionship/ not sure the risk is worth itNice guys do finish last. Read No more Mr. Nice Guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/24 05:44 AM |
| 4 | This question is more for the f boysPeople actually use snap chat. I am so old Lmao I personally suck at phone calls, and I hate talking on the phone, always have. so I do all the flirty build up over text and I am really good at texting so it works. | /r/seduction | 08/11/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Moved on in 10 days after 10 years.Yeah you gotta hit it in the pre-nut fog! Haha. You should check out Eccie for reviews first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/24 02:18 PM |
| -2 | How Porn is Secretly Killing Your Dating LifeAdditionally, Porn is provided by abused, negatively-charged individuals so watching it #1 supports sex trafficking, depravity, and/or abusing women #2 results in you energetically taking on their negativity/depravity which is then unconsciously internalized and displayed outwardly and #3 ALL porn is cuck porn cuz you are watching others have sex, so that is also internalized and enhances your beta way of being. All combined, in addition to the loss of motivation and loss of chi (life force) fac… | /r/seduction | 07/11/24 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Moved on in 10 days after 10 years.What a bitch. Well take some cialis and get a nice escort off tryst, you’ll feel better | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/24 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Field Report: Shuttle Bus SeductionWhy does it seem like desi men struggle the most with seduction? I feel like their are some cultural shame issues they get during childhood. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 02:06 PM |
| 5 | Tell me I’m wrongStop being to loose with your emotions. Your a man and expected to show them less than her. If she professes her love, than you can, but not before. Otherwise you come across as needy. You need remember the 80% rule. Show her 80% of the interest she shows you: enough to show you are interested but hold back enough to keep them guessing a little, which keeps her pursuing you and the attraction higher. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 12:54 PM |
| 60 | You’re a 10 in looks literally but you give off 7 energyMeans you a pretty boy that acts beta. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 12:52 PM |
| 1 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Good stuff. I never got many matches on dating apps, never tried hard with the pics and profile either. Maybe 2-3 a week, and maybe 1-2/mo that were actually pretty and I engaged with. I would be able to get maybe 1 of these per month on a date. I banged all of them except 1. Have pretty good text banter and that is everything like you say, so that is low numbers cuz I’m also picky, but if my text conversion to date ratio is 50% that is pretty damn good. Considered dating apps just a supplement … | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Confessional: I’m a giant pussySo try not being such a pussy. the end. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Just Get a Girlfriend.Got married at 34 and she was 32. Divorced at 43 and 41. | /r/seduction | 24/10/24 05:35 PM |
| 3 | How can I get better at approaching women?Mass cold approaching is fucking stupid. It’s not natural. Approach women in social settings. I like bars around happy hours but only certain ones with lots of people and the right vibe. If you want to day game, farmers markets are great. Hone your dating app profiles that is free lead generation. I found my current gf on bumble and might marry her lol. Be living your life and out having fun, and there will be opportunities. No need to force it through 1000 cold approaches. Just don’t hide in yo… | /r/seduction | 24/10/24 04:23 AM |
| 1 | I think my wife is prepping to divorce me. Help me prepare.Weed if legal in the state won’t matter but temporary orders will say neither party can be intoxicated during custody so if she smells it on you when you pick up kids she could fuck with you. The best defense is offfensive surprise attack. Call all the best lawyers in town to setup consultations to cock block her from getting them. Legally if you so much as contact them, they can’t represent her. File first. Main other thing is to protect your cash and assets. Get everything out of the joint acc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/24 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Just Get a Girlfriend.Maybe you hyped it up too much in your head. You gotta lead and toss her around and choke her and shit. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 07:40 PM |
| 1 | How did you guys improve your dating life, get better at it?Bad boys take risks plebs don’t take so it’s a turn on for chicks because it represents excitement and rebellion. Guys that are unafraid to live life on their own terms is a natural masculine trait. Most on here are plebs and would never do drugs let alone sell them or go to prison for it like me. So brains are virgin vanilla pudding snacks. Then they downvote my comments. You don’t have sell drugs lmao. You can be a black belt in ass kicking and never break the law just the occasional face. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 38 | Girls know what you are doing and it's fine.It’s like telling a joke. People know you are telling a joke, but the question is will they laugh at the punchline. When they laugh, panties drop. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 06:05 PM |
| -1 | How did you guys improve your dating life, get better at it?When I was 17 i was still a high school Junior. I became an entrepreneur which got me girlfriends. I sold weed. Then I got sent to a co-ed boarding school for misfits, which hardened my successful bad boy persona. Panties kept dropping. No regrets. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Regret hookup during actBro fucked her so good she couldn’t walk | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 01:12 PM |
| 47 | The Most Underrated Way to Skyrocket Your Physical Attractiveness (Most Men Ignore This!)Bro just light your wood, and become flame. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 12:01 PM |
| 3 | If you are basing your self-worth on professional success you are self-sabotagingWe are conditioned to think that we are worthy of love only if we act and do the right things. It’s the nice guy mindset. This only attracts toxic narcissistic women that will tear you down or leave you the moment you get out of ljne. So yes, masculinity is about being unapologetically you and loving yourself. That gets the ladies. And you’ll be able to weed out the toxic ones instantly because you don’t take no shit. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Important of having connection not just s*xYou can have a deep soul piercing connection with someone you meet and fuck the same day. It doesn’t have to be love. It depends on you and the person being able to let their guards down with eachother. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 11:42 AM |
| 19 | Hooking up with a woman at work?I haven’t but a buddy of mine is hooking up with a chick at work and fucks her in the office after people go home. Her husband also works at same company in a different department. He knows about the affair and stalks my friend around as he drives around town, beats up the wife at home and threatens to kill her, and shows up at bars he finds out they are at and my buddy slips out the back. Sounds like a hoot! | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Just Get a Girlfriend.Bumble, surprisingly. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 09:57 PM |
| 20 | Just Get a Girlfriend.You either suck at sex or with a dead fish uggo most likely both. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 02:39 PM |
| 0 | Just Get a Girlfriend.It feels like shit cuz most guys have internalized shame from societal conditioning that tells them casual sex is wrong and to be good little citizens and wife someone up. You gotta own that shit and get over the shame. It’s the same cognitive dissonance that runs rampant on this sub. Y’all want to be cassanovas and fuck cuz that is your male instinct but you can’t get over the stigma of “treating women like objects” and “I don’t wanna be a man slut” and similar horseshit, so dudes be shooting t… | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 01:27 PM |
| -8 | Just Get a Girlfriend.Disagree. Exw divorced me and I jumped into hookers and random hookups and it was friggin blast. Helped me heal. Fucking is the best way to get over your ex and the first thing you should fuckijg do. Highly recommend. You don’t know wtf you are talking about lmao. Please stop giving advice. After about 6 months, I was ripped, and I figured out cold approach and could pull chicks. No more need for hookers. Felt like a God. Got my first rebound girlfriend, and broke her heart. Sorry bitch, part of… | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 11:51 AM |
| 20 | Just Get a Girlfriend.I concur. I got real good at pickup then found the one. And she is better than all them combined times a billion. But you also gotta slut it up to recognize treasure. You won’t realize it’s until you experienced it. So enjoy the journey. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?😂🤣 | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 03:51 AM |
| -7 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?That’s fine for OP but you gotta read the room. Don’t be slut shaming these sluts. Being a slut is a beautiful thing lol. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 02:17 AM |
| -12 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?It’s funny how low the bar is for you guys that a kiss is a success when what she wanted in this case was to be seduced the same night, and OP didn’t deliver tho he thought he did, and this future date will thus never happen. If you play truth or dare with a chick and can’t get them wet enough to fuck then fail. | /r/seduction | 22/10/24 12:34 AM |
| -20 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?Future wives will not ask steamy questions and play truth or dare on a first date. But sluts will. In which case, this one was. In which case, anything less than sex is a fail. 100% won’t be a second date. | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Why are all dating coaches/PUAs are attractive?Honest Signalz is balding with beer gut and not all that attractive | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 07:15 PM |
| 32 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?Nope. He got a kiss, after talking about sex for an hour and “doing kino.” Fail. | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 07:12 PM |
| 79 | Did I just find a cheat code for seductive dates?“I dare you to pinch my nipple” | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterI realize my take is more of the traditional gender role archetype and is not suitable for everyone. But if you value more of an equal type of role it is more about both people driving toward their goals and being their best selves and supporting each other, and then that creates the dividends in giving love to each other. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterI realized that my mindset toward being a husband was flawed and it also led me to seek the wrong kind of partner. That’s where the blame goes both ways. She was toxic but I have egg on my face too. My mindset was of seeking the approval of others (happy wife, happy life), rather than seeking to make myself better and not worrying about others approval. When we make that switch, we are able to love ourselves first, put our purpose in life first, and drive toward our goals to create abundance, wh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterI refer to my ex as the black widow who “loved” me for my Sperm and bank account. After we were done having kids she was at my throat incessantly expecting me the clean all day after I got home from a 10 hr job, while she spent 10 hrs at home buying things on amazon and complain how hard she had it being with kids all day. After I cut off the bank account she filed for divorce. I was no longer needed lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 02:36 PM |
| 8 | Getting ddivorced, did you find anyone betterWelcome to your starter marriage with a covert narcissist friend. I could almost write your story except I have 3 kids and in it 9 years. She never admitted any fault. I was not perfect. But she held me to an imposisble standard, never respected me, never appreciated me, I could never do good enough, and I kept trying to take responsibility and improve, but it was never enough. Marriage counseling ended cuz she wasn’t able to hold the mirror up. Her toxic traits came from her mother who was incr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.Yep I hear dudes on here talk about being successful at bars/clubs solo but I have never had success that way. It’s always with a group. If I’m not with at least one friend, I don’t go out. | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 05:26 AM |
| 1 | How important is that initial eye contact?I don’t think I did lol cuz never really stop chicks on the street, but it happens and I it’s definitely an interest signal. Same reason you look at them right as you walk by. | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Did you regret getting divorce?Bumble. This was after a year of dating and sleeping around. What I thought would be just another bumble date turned into love at first sight. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 10:26 AM |
| 16 | What if I had just said "Sorry, I'm not getting divorced"It takes two to get married but one to get divorced so no. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 03:39 AM |
| 9 | Did you regret getting divorce?She divorced me and I met someone 10x better so I am grateful to be free from that bitter bitch but I miss seeing my kids everyday and they miss me and I wish they didn’t have to experience and live through this pain. But I have no regrets because there is no happiness without pain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workI just don’t let her change me. I told her that. Women try to make you their project and it is cute to a certain extent. But when I molded myself over time into something that would please my wife because “happy wife happy life” I was unhappy and resentful. I stopped the mindset that I need to be “good” and worthy of love. I do nice things for her because I went her to feel good. And I keep being my uncompromising man self otherwise it’s a major difference. They respect you more. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 06:53 AM |
| 20 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workAfter being in a relationship, where both are falling head over heels rather than just one person, I’m tempted to say it doesn’t matter if you find the right one that accepts you for you. But at the same time I agree with you and OP. For me, it came down to self-love: trying my entire life to prove myself worthy of love to my parents and then my now exw and always feeling like I wasn’t good enough. Just realizing where that all began in my childhood was enough to make a huge difference. Being ok… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 12:11 AM |
| 1 | When did women gain so much leverage?I have 3 kids single dad myself so not exactly without baggage. So it evens out in my case. I have dated ones without kids and I prefer with kids for a long term relationship cuz Brady bunch effect I guess. But I go for the young single moms cuz I like way younger lol. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?Yeah I did lazer. Takes a handful of treatments to fully get rid until they stop growing back. But they grow back less and less each time. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:59 PM |
| 0 | When did women gain so much leverage?This is all true and why I think 1.) it is imperative your masculine frame is on point to break down those resistances and bring her back into her feminine energy and 2.) while good women are out there, the last true bastion of good women are conservative who hold traditional values because then your 1-3 don’t apply as much to them. My gf right now is one of those who I met off bumble. She is hot as hell yet not conceited. Doesn’t go to bars or clubs to slut around. Fiercely loyal one man type. … | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 11:54 AM |
| 3 | how to break into the top percentile of women?Because you are too fixated on it. Approach the 9-10 with the attitude that they are just genetic freaks vs a prize pony, then just have fun with them with no outcome expectations. Remember that a 9-10 are the most insecure because their entire self-worth is based on their looks and they are used to validation. Whereas your worth is based on looks plus way more. So you as both an attractive and otherwise successful man are higher status than them. You can disrupt their frame and be different by … | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Thinking about getting married againThis is not the best sub to ask lol. Guys here are either in midst of a nasty divorce or suffering PTSD and hearts are closed off. Life is short. If you love her and she brings you peace, then do it. I am in your same shoes right now. Dated awhile after divorce. Met someone recently and it was love at first sight. Like no other feeling I ever had even with my exw when we first met. Prenup is prolly a good idea if you have alot of money. That will eliminate a lot of the disputes should you ever d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 12:46 AM |
| 0 | Should i seduce girls i’m not really into?Fuck no. | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Why online dating is the holy grail for introverted/shy dudesI am an introvert but most people have no idea because I have great social skills and enjoy being social. I have no problem turning it on and being the life of the party. I just also enjoy my alone time just as much. Don’t use being an introvert as an excuse for being shy and afraid to approach women or others cuz that is just a character flaw. Social intelligence is important to get what you want in life, love, and business. You don’t have to be an extreme socialite chatty Cathy to display soci… | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | What makes you men attracted to a woman?Sweet #1. Nobody likes a conceited stuck up ass bitch. Then beautiful, unique eyes, sass, smarts, caring, nurturing, loyal, traditional values. All that is sexy af. | /r/seduction | 07/10/24 03:45 AM |
| 13 | How to get good on dates, why do they lose attraction after the date?Set up: before the date you should be establishing the flirty vibe and sexualizing so that it continues. Example: she mentioned she was wearing boots for our date, and I asked if she was wearing big ol Stripper boots and she laughed and said no hooker heels for her. Then after the date started I commented o good you aren’t wearing your hooker heels. This is one out of a bout dozens of flirty text exchanges is good to have before date so you establish the flirty rapport to reference again on your… | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Talking to hot chick's at barsYou are unlikely to isolate unless you have a good wing to entertain the friend. If you get resistance cuz she doesn’t want to leave her friend, you get the number pull and text her later that night to try again. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Talking to hot chick's at barsYeah man the tactic is to hang out and escalate it. If you do all that work and put your arm around her and say “ok later” that is basically rejecting her. Your wing is supposed to keep the other girl occupied even if he is not feeling it. Then you go for a location change like buy her a drink or dance or go to the lounge and sit with her to isolate from her friend so you can escalate and go for pull or do a venue change (instadate) and pull from there. You can also keep them together but that w… | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Talking to hot chick's at barsPhotography is a great skill for seduction. You can get ‘em over for a “photoshoot” or whatever. Hope you went for the pull despite your friend striking out. Always go got the pull. A good wing needs to respect that so you don’t miss an opportunity. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 11:40 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop being logical and start being fun around girls? (Didnt find any similar threads)Ditto. Do more drugs OP. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Can Older Men Succeed On Dating AppsYour “Dad” is a 55 year old ripped exotic Vlad the Chad that owns a business and expensive toys. Sugar Baby magnet. So yeah 😂😂 But yes older men can succeed on dating apps. I am one of them. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 04:15 AM |
| 14 | How are you able to tell at clubs/bars if girl DTF during a convo or looking to go home with someone BEFORE you open?You don’t know if she is open to same day lays in bars/clubs but you can tell you got a chance when she gives you the sparkle eyes. It is a certain look. Once you get that look, you know she is down to kiss at least and go from there. If you get to the point of talkin dirty, and she reciprocates with dirty talk she is DTF fo sho, but some girls don’t dirty talk and are still dtf. So no hard and fast rules but certain choosing signals like that she gives are good signs. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 02:16 AM |
| 1 | What’s your biggest “I screwed up”?Went on two week road trip with my HS crush in college and didn’t make a move cuz I had a gf who I broke up with a month later anyway. Was literally sleeping on the same bed while she was holding my hand giving me the signal, I didn’t want to cheat on my stupid gf. Then after I broke up with my gf, I tried to chase/make up for it by hanging out with my crush several times which made me look desperate and I never got anything and didn’t understand why until 20 years later. Lol. | /r/seduction | 01/10/24 12:27 AM |
| 4 | How true actually is this?Definitely true that hotter girls are easier to get than mids. Mids get hit on more and have inflated egos vs 9’s who intimidate most guys. Guys either don’t approach or act too nervous around 9’s so they seem harder. | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 03:36 AM |
| -5 | How true actually is this?Can I just comment cuz I’m at least 2% gay lmao (which is less than most of yall..BURN! 😉) so am qualified to say that I have never seen an unnattractive dude that was in shape and had style and carried themselves well. Not once. Yes scrawny, skinny fat, and fat ass is not attractive. But all those things are within your control. Not everyone has runway model looks, I look weird as fuck myself, but that weirdness just makes you different and different can be hot. Every dude on this sub that says… | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 01:30 AM |
| 4 | How true actually is this?Happened multiple times this year to me, from online and in person approaching girls at bars. First year of my life I been on fire with women. I date too. As soon as I thought I was elite player status, I go on on a date from bumble with typical low expectations, and meet the woman of my dreams. And guess what, it took me 3 weeks to sleep with her. But from the first night I met her, I didn’t even care how long it took. She turned me shit completely upside down and I don’t even want that player … | /r/seduction | 26/09/24 11:59 PM |
| 7 | Any former fat guys that have gotten through it?Don’t understand how you train 5-6 days a week and fat. Probably you are over eating and drinking too much beer or something. Nutrition and watching empty calories is the solution. | /r/seduction | 26/09/24 03:17 AM |
| -1 | How to talk better?Start killing some brain cells through partying and drugs. It’s the only way to disrupt your nerd virus and be cool. You been safe and logical your whole life. It will take more than books. You need cognitive reprogramming. Trust me. I am a sort of nerd too, but started drug therapy (weed, LSD, Molly, mushrooms) early in HS so the virus didn’t take hold like it did my dad. It helped my social skills: free association, humor, non/linear thinking, and being in the moment. I mean watch the fucking … | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 12:31 PM |
| 3 | I have put "short term fun" on Tinder and still get likes from women who have put "looking for longterm relationship" in their bio. Should I respond?Exactly what just happened to me. Eventually the player meets his Queen when he least expects it. | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 12:23 PM |
| 36 | How to touch a girl during a hookupYou need to get out of your head and be more in the moment. Focus on feeling, being sensual, start slow. Be in tune with your body rhythms. Stop thinking and feel. Watch some sensual porn made for women where there are kissing scenes and emulate. Ramp up by touch the nape of her hair gently as you pull her in, run your fingers on the back of her neck. Light touches. Open your mouth a little and slowly tease the tongue. Back off a little and let her come to you with a kiss. Slowly you will start … | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 05:29 AM |
| 8 | Has a “break” ever worked on rekindling a marriage?My advice is to let her go. If it is meant to be she will come back to you. But don’t chase her and don’t stop living your life. Move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/24 12:01 AM |
| 5 | Has a “break” ever worked on rekindling a marriage?This sounds very similar to the circumstances that contributed to my divorce. My exw wanted me to move out so I could work on myself and then maybe 6M-1yr down the line when “I fixed myself,”we could get back together. She got this idea from church. There would be couples with that story on how he left, they dated other people even but never divorced, and then he turned his life around with his drug/alcohol addiction or anger issues. Then he would swoon her with his transformation and found Jesu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Has learning latin dance forms like Bachata help you get a lay?The only time I felt my shitty dance skills mattered was when I dated a Latina girl. She was way better and my suckiness was a turn off I could tell. Usually date white girls and most of them don’t dance. I definitely want to learn some two-step and salsa tho. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 11:08 PM |
| 1 | My gf had a threesome in the past now I want to have one toor/DidYouFuckMyGirl | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 04:34 AM |
| 60 | Some guys just have it. Funny story on a night outYou gave it away when “the night came inside you.” | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 03:34 AM |
| 200 | Some guys just have it. Funny story on a night outSpoiler alert: turns out dude is gay. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 03:05 AM |
| -1 | The most honest PUA/dating coach?There is no dark side of masculinity. There are bad personality traits common to both men and women that shouldn’t be ascribed to masculinity nor femininity. Doing that is a just a way to pit the genders against eachother. GenZ and millennials is so funny how u guys been indoctrinated to believe in these terms like good little yes men. Lmao. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:09 PM |
| 0 | The most honest PUA/dating coach?Posted this exact question. I want to understand the shame Gen Z has about their masculinity. | /r/seduction | 23/09/24 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I've been upfront about not wanting a serious relationship, but it never seems to work. What should I do differently?Online dating apps | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | I've been upfront about not wanting a serious relationship, but it never seems to work. What should I do differently?Girls live in fantasies and emotions. In my experience, girls you go on dates with, will never want to hear “I’m not looking for anything serious” cuz you are basically saying you view them as sex objects for your needs and it kills all the fantasy and emotional appeal. You have to appear open minded to outcome at least, cuz these chicks are looking for more than a hookup. I had this date one time where the first thing she griped about is guys just looking for one time hookups and then they ghos… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 02:28 PM |
| 3 | 3 Flawless Flirting Techniques You Must KnowHere is a another real life example of #3 from last night. We played mini golf after dinner. She was winning at first and I came back and won. I tried to throw it but I was too far ahead haha. First off I did not gloat aside from a brief raising of my hands. Light hearted, not overdoing it ofc. So after the date we were texting, and I mention I’m eating leftovers from dinner, and she says “all that mini golf make you hungry?” I say “it did! That come back victory was hard work!” She says “maybe … | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 02:02 PM |
| 3 | 8 mistakes guys make on a date that make you look like a foolAt some point you two are gonna talk about your exes. Definitely not the first or second date. But it’ll come up as a mutual exchange of histories, so just go with it when it does. She’ll want to know and you’ll want to know. Be careful tho as how you talk about them can raise red flags. Never appear angry or bitter or overly disparaging. Especially don’t let it come across that you are no over your ex. Have more of the attitude that things don’t always work out between people. But your optimist… | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 01:40 PM |
| 3 | 8 mistakes guys make on a date that make you look like a foolThis is silly you can say she is beautiful. Just don’t drool while saying it. | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 01:34 PM |
| 1 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeBe light hearted. Propose specific plans and day and time, but paint it as something fun like a fantasy date offer to to come swoop her up….you’ll even carry her into your car so she doesn’t get her feet muddy…bla bla.. you don’t want to be over the top before you ever met it’s all about innuendo and being subtle. But you kinda also need to be convo stacking. So while you are planning your date you are flirting about random topics. DM and I will send you text screenshots of me planning a first d… | /r/seduction | 21/09/24 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Why do girls do this?I am 44, divorced after 9 years, and been on the scene for over a year. I don’t know what kind of women you are going for but the approach varies depending on age and where you meet them. The shit tests you are talking about are with every girl, but how you deal with them depends a little on where she is coming from. Generally she is just trying to knock you off your frame, get you to over react which shows weakness, so you gotta just let it roll off and dish it back playfully. Bars/Clubs: party… | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Leveraging wealth to build a pipeline of women?You are better off passport bro’ing doing this in CR or the DR would be more fun. | /r/seduction | 20/09/24 01:18 AM |
| 2 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeWhy downvoted this comment is gold. It’s why roleplaying and fantasies work so well. She lives in her head and driven by emotions (wanting lust and passion) and instinct (wanting safety, security) that are all about Prince Charming swooping in. Play into that. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone feel like going from kissing a stranger to a one night stand the same night is the hardest and most awesome part of seduction? What percentage of your hookups roughly have you done this way?That was a very long and passionate retort fren 😂 In person is definitely way harder I agree and takes more skill. OLD just makes it easy. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone feel like going from kissing a stranger to a one night stand the same night is the hardest and most awesome part of seduction? What percentage of your hookups roughly have you done this way?If you meet a girl off OLD and bang her that night it’s a ONS. It’s just the modern twist to IRL. I feel that one night stands are same day lays or I could be wrong. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 04:59 AM |
| 8 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeSometimes girls are hot and cold. She is responsive and then she pulls back a little. Could be for a variety of reasons. She’s not really that into you, she is slightly into you but you haven’t quiet sparked the spark, she is stringing you along as a backup option while seeing/texting another guy she likes more, or she is into you but starts doubting things because she doesn’t want to get hurt. A lot of girls are very anxious and overthinking things constantly. Ideally you are vibing just going … | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 03:37 AM |
| 47 | The biggest texting mistakes YOU makeIf you have genuine chemistry with a girl and are both into eachother, than the texting will be fluid and effortless. You will add value to each others day with laughter or flirting. You don’t need to pull punches. Yes, you generally don’t want to double text or respond way quicker than she does. If you are boring af with “good morning” or “hi” without anything else or need to think really hard on how to spice up the convo, then she ain’t gonna be into you anyway cuz you are bland as vanilla pie… | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 11:18 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone feel like going from kissing a stranger to a one night stand the same night is the hardest and most awesome part of seduction? What percentage of your hookups roughly have you done this way?I had 4 ONS this year out of about 10 hookups. 40%ish. Two from OLD, two from cold approach at bars. Two of those turned into rotation chicks/repeats who I still see. One of those turned into a (semi 🤫) exclusive gf for a couple months, until I broke up with her cuz she was psycho (bitch still texts me trying to get back). One of them I never saw again even though she wanted to see me. She ruined my mattress, so just too much lol. I agree it’s the best thing ever. The feeling you get from going … | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 05:41 PM |
| 2 | [VIDEO] Dating Over 30: How To Use Age To Your AdvantageTwo words: Med Spa That’s where hot women go to stay hot and works for men too. At any rate, it’s a good place to start for guidance as the skin care stuff you can do on your own long-term after a few glow up treatments | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 01:28 PM |
| 4 | Do you believe that there are truly some people are unattractive and cannot become attractive?Do some psychedelic mushrooms then to shift your paradigm. I am saying to not give up, which is the opposite of what you have been doing. your fucking TWENTY FIVE. You’re a kid. Listen to your elders boy. We are trying to learn you something. | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 06:28 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe that there are truly some people are unattractive and cannot become attractive?You have one life to live and your going to waste it by not trying hard enough? Nobody says it is easy. Everybody wants to give up some times. The difference between success and failure is successful people don’t give up. They don’t stop. Bro you are in college? You don’t know shit yet. Go get some Anthony Robins course or something | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 06:23 AM |
| 4 | Do you believe that there are truly some people are unattractive and cannot become attractive?Yes it’s a fact you are making excuses. It can also be a fact that you make a fucking choice to have discipline and improve yourself. Or you make a fucking choice to be pathetic. It’s up to you. | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe that there are truly some people are unattractive and cannot become attractive?Lack of discipline, laziness, fear are excuses that do not equate to some people cannot become attractive. It equates to some people do not have to willpower to overcome their excuses. But they are excuses nevertheless and not facts. I been going back and forth with another guy like you. Your commitment to failure exceeds your desire to succeed. | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 06:09 AM |
| 1 | I think I have peaked but I feel empty…I mean it’s not like I go in to a relationship with a predetermined outcome | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 08:46 PM |
| 3 | I think I have peaked but I feel empty…Yeah it seems like 9’s and up are a lot of drama in relationships vs. that 7-8 girl next door type that was raised right and doesn’t base her value on her looks. I guess finding that 9+ GND is the holy grail we are all after. | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 07:14 PM |
| 2 | I think I have peaked but I feel empty…Either haven’t found the one or still need to get something out of your system. Sometimes I look at these couples walking around where the guy is ok looking and he is with a land whale and wonder is he really happy with her or just complacent? Could be either who am I to say. Only you know if she makes you happy, brings you peace, etc. | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 06:59 PM |
| 6 | I think I have peaked but I feel empty…I think it’s your inner voice telling you it’s time for a little change of focus. I go through cycles of just wanting to fuck and wanting a gf. Do the gf thing for a while, then that gets old and just want to fuck again. It’s like a pendulum. Also feel you on the just wanting to take a break and focusing on self. Women take a lot of time and we need to be spending as much or more on continually improving our station in life. It’s not all about women. Totally normal I think for you to go through … | /r/seduction | 16/09/24 04:02 PM |
| 2 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?I mean girls kissing and sleeping with me and hot girls telling me I’m hot is the validation I needed to start internalizing this and it also is feeding my ego a bit too much at times. I lost 75lbs, and I’m pretty ripped, tan, and stylish now at 44 after reinventing myself from being a fat slob post-divorce 15 months ago. Now I get checked out alot for the first time since I was in my late twenties, before I got married & let myself go. I also have a bit of a gestalt where I just walk around and… | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 07:02 PM |
| 4 | Dating is a nightmareDudes make the mistake of trying to get to know a chick rather than flirting. Then no sexual chemistry is built and it dies. Texting off of apps is all about flirting and getting them on a date. OP then bickers with her about smoking like they are married. Ofc that is gonna turn her off. 🤦🏼♂️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 03:15 PM |
| 0 | Dating is a nightmareThat’s what I did like the first 6 months after seperation. It gets old. Most escorts are dead fishes in bed, have a lot of rules, pussy is ran through, can’t rawdog them etc. Sugar babies were better due to the IOI, but they tend to be insane. The funnest is going overseas and bangin foreign girls cuz they give you more time, IOI, and are cheaper, and GTFO when you are done with them so you can do your thing. It gets to the point where you question why you’d ever be in a relationship again. I m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 0 | Dating is a nightmareDon’t lower your standards. If you are doing that, it’s a reflection of how you feel about yourself, that you feel you are not worthy of a dime. That is a big problem. Make sure you are leveling yourself up. Work on your seduction skills. I realized that my lack of seduction skills during marriage contributed to it ending. The skill to attract and retain a woman is a skill that must be learned—-ESPECIALLY for nice guys which is like 80% of us. You are probably wanting it too much and coming acro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 01:44 PM |
| 0 | How I Built A Bulletproof Mindset For Navigating Challenges In DatingGet off this subreddit and get your T-levels checked and a life coach. Nothing I can say will change your mind as you need in-person help from a professional. I have literally been there! It’s very hard to snap out of it. But I promise you there is a better way. Also consider joining a men’s group. You are not alone. You are good enough. You deserve to be loved. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 03:34 AM |
| 0 | How I Built A Bulletproof Mindset For Navigating Challenges In DatingI think you’ll make it brother. You you can be fugly and get in shape, improve your charisma, and be fuckable. You are just going through a rut. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 02:57 AM |
| 0 | How I Built A Bulletproof Mindset For Navigating Challenges In DatingHaha no I don’t understand. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 02:53 AM |
| 0 | How I Built A Bulletproof Mindset For Navigating Challenges In DatingYour beliefs define you. | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Date game: Always match her energyI don’t think energy is the right word. Interest level. You actually want to show slightly lower interest in her (vs match it) than she shows you so you do not come across as simpy and needy, which turns her off. Showing lower interest, creates a dynamic where she is pursuing you more than you are her, which supports her attraction to you. It just makes logical sense. Girls want what they can’t have. They want a man whose life does not center around the girl. A man who is a little disagreeable a… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Treat dating as a social experiment where fun and honing social skills are the sole objectives. Detaching completely from expectation gives you power.Agreed | /r/seduction | 12/09/24 01:55 AM |
| 1 | How would a guy know if he’s good looking or if girls are just being nice?When you fuck them. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 09:03 PM |
| 10 | What a bizarre end to a marriage.Mine was a covert narcissist. They fly under radar and don’t meet the classic definition which is more of a Machiavellian archetype. The covert narcissist is way more subtle but just as manipulative. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Did a specific perfume/cologne + dressing combo casually help you catch the attention of the opposite gender?YSL The One. One spray back of neck, one spray front of neck, one spray on shirt, one spray pants, one spray on abs above dick. Girls will sometimes say I smell good. Perfume not gonna make or break shit tho. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 01:16 PM |
| 3 | Chemistry doesn’t exist without physical escalation.Are you way younger then her? Women generally are conflict averse, so they won’t tell you to your face, and they lead you on sometimes cuz they don’t know what they want. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 05:31 AM |
| 3 | How I Built A Bulletproof Mindset For Navigating Challenges In DatingOvercoming this begins with frame control. Approach anxiety comes from the mentality that the girl is the prize, which is just a bs social construct she uses to frame herself. Until you understand and internalize that you are the one providing value to her by giving her the opportunity to come into your amazing life, you won’t be able to dismantle her prize frame, will tend to pedestalize them, and wuss out or get shot down in your approaches. | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 05:05 PM |
| 16 | How long did it take you to become good at escalating?One tip I found that helps set up the entire date is this: When you first see her, you need to establish sexual chemistry within first 60-120 seconds. Do the little heyy, side hug, pleasantries, light laughter, blah blah, allow about a minute to pass. Then, whether you just sit down at a bar or table or get in the car or are still standing, look her in the eye with a little smile, speak a little bit slowly and say “you look really cute by the way” (you can add a little kino as you say that to th… | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 04:13 AM |
| 5 | Tinder experience as “Ripped” good looking maleThis is the best haha I’m doing this. Got a 3 pack half way there (maybe 5 in the right mirror from the right angle 😂) Issue is I lost 75 pounds in 15 months and still have some loose skin. I gotta get some Predator abs to tighten it up perfect. | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 03:45 AM |
| 27 | Tinder experience as “Ripped” good looking maleWhat’s your advice on profile pics? Also you on trt or all natural? I’m 44. Do you post your real age on Tinder? | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 01:09 AM |
| 2 | I’m Soft and Feminine: A Question about being a Walking ContradictionBro that’s awesome! 🙌 you can feel the difference! | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 05:26 PM |
| 5 | I’m Soft and Feminine: A Question about being a Walking ContradictionOP your description of macho masculinity is fake stereotypical masculinity often rooted in insecurity. You are actually masculine since you own and know yourself and fully comfortable and secure in expressing your self, take the lead with females, and you make no apologies, etc. That is true masculinity. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 04:42 PM |
| 10 | I’m Soft and Feminine: A Question about being a Walking ContradictionHe actually has a warped view of masculinity and is inadvertently masculine himself lol. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Flirting with a Femme BoyMan boobs I think | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Bumble to make out with Christian girlThe crazy thing with the lasso is it turns out she had an actual lasso ring and her favorite person is Wonder Woman who has a lasso. So it meant a lot more to her than I knew. We joked about that on the date. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Bumble to make out with Christian girlI just added ages to post so is clear I am not 13 years old haha. Thanks for the reply bro it’s good stuff. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 06:29 AM |
| 3 | Bumble to make out with Christian girlTeenage romance novel lmao I am 44 but yeah I’m livin in one haha. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 06:10 AM |
| 53 | Flirting with a Femme BoyYup that’s enough internet for the day | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Anyone here a loser who turned it around?Usually through friend groups or where I worked, some of these girls would get crushes on me and we would start hanging out, hook up and we’d go steady. I never actively went out of my way to pursue a girl outside of this context cuz was always afraid. If I was familiar with them cuz I built familiarity through a social network it was easier. So whatever fell into my lap is what I got. I was a nice guy, funny, tall, not terrible looking, played guitar, slanged weed, hung out with misfit crowd. W… | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 08:32 PM |
| 9 | Anyone here a loser who turned it around?Getting in that state is key. By being highly social with everyone, bartenders, waiters, bouncers, other dudes, and chicks, you will desensitize your brain to anxiety, have more interactions, and assume an energy of boldness and charisma in those interactions. This is a masculine trait. It always takes some effort to warm up. Some nights you just won’t be in the mood. That’s ok too. You don’t have to literally talk to everyone, just when the opportunity is there and it feels natural. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 08:25 PM |
| 2 | I approached a beautiful woman on the train today, here’s how it went.Why dude has a unit no homo check it out haha | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 02:14 PM |
| 14 | I approached a beautiful woman on the train today, here’s how it went.Lmao give her that D bro 😂 | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 02:13 PM |
| 15 | Anyone here a loser who turned it around?How does one learn anything these days? Youtube bro. Plus I met a couple new friends last year who are decent with nightgame. It’s so valuable to associate yourself with guys that are better than you at pickup and observe what they do that works and model it yourself. You tube is a great way to do that by watching field reports. Lots of good nuggets to be found as you filter through the crap. None of that shit matters tho if you can’t get out there and talk to women. The ONLY way to learn is by … | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 05:21 AM |
| 167 | Anyone here a loser who turned it around?I always struggled with nice guy/getting friend zoned syndrome which I’ve since learned is deeply rooted in how I was raised by my mom more then my dad even tho they were married. My dad was never very available physically or emotionally growing up, and he is a nice guy engineering type himself so not a good role model for masculinity. I got girlfriends in HS, cuz was a little edgy and cool, but was pretty passive and just took it as it came. In college around 20-21 I went through a period where… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 08:44 PM |
| 7 | To the guys who’ve gotten significantly better, how bad do your past fumbles still fuck with you?I can barely remeber last week so no they don’t sit there and mess with me. Sometimes I get rejected by someone I liked and next day it fucks with me, but then I just go do another set, date a new girl, and the past is all water under the bridge. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Went to vegas andIf you say it like a creep lol. This is your guys problem yall are too safe and ashamed to say what you want cuz you been conditioned to be respectful and impress them which doesn’t work. Then you circle jerk eachother in this subreddit for validation of your simp ways lol. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 04:01 PM |
| 36 | How are you navigating the insanely flaky nature of the dating scene right now?Lots of girls are just on the apps for validation. The likes and attention. They meeting guys in real life but just teasing on the apps. Last girl I dated had 4777 likes over last few weeks. She don’t see any of them. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 01:59 AM |
| -6 | Went to vegas andYou were half way there. Commenting on clothing yes is so easy and works cuz girls love validation however you have to mix in a tease to knock them off their pedestal. So more like see a girl in a red dress, go up and say “hey lady in red, does the carpet match the dress?” Or say a chick with a black dress and you are wearing a black shirt, “hey so tonight was my night to wear black, how dare you.” And so on and so forth. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:23 PM |
| 9 | Understanding Christian girls?Marriage results in OP getting analed, vs staying single and analing her. Tough choice. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:15 PM |
| 1 | How to move her from the app to textThe answer is no, I won’t date you | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 05:56 PM |
| -2 | How to move her from the app to textK | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 04:19 PM |
| -2 | How to move her from the app to textLol this is just to help guys with their text game that need the help. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 03:39 PM |
| 1 | How to stop getting hung up on openersFocus on making a real connection because something interests you about this person rather than openers. Remove the pressure from yourself for awhile to do pick up by changing your goal. Then when you are more comfortable interacting; add pu techniques. You have the whole thing in your mind as too much of a big deal so need to get past that. Start being more social with everyone so you get into a new flow. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Handling The Psychology of RejectionPerfect time to make her laugh when it’s taboo and forbidden. But my point is, don’t try to make her laugh. Say something that would make you laugh. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 12:14 AM |
| 3 | Handling The Psychology of RejectionFocus on making it fun for you and everything will fall into place as long as you are not super weird. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 11:56 PM |
| 8 | An interesting experience I hadShe prolly a good candidate for work affair. What are you afraid of. Tap that. Edit: Seriously. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 11:33 PM |
| 173 | Are Flirty Baristas Always Just Trying To Get Tips?Lmao, they hired guns. Literally get paid to be nice to you. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 11:30 PM |
| 33 | Getting rejected by 200+ women in a row... now what?Man you are 17. Highschool is all about carving out a niche through sports or cool hobbies (no not D&D) so you stand out. What is your sexy skill? Does it translate into your style and friend group? I got girls in HS all the time but I was a druggy musician so I got metal, goth, and stoner chicks. Not that I knew what to do with them but I got ‘em lol. The guys that didn’t get nuttin were the plain janes awkwars in their body type and boyish energy. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 2 | 43M & Recently SingleSo did you see the girl again? | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 10:00 PM |
| 1 | 43M & Recently SingleI would wing with you lol. Says to group of 5: “yeah normally I am a foursome dude but I’ll settle for a moresome tonight” | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 01:37 AM |
| 5 | 43M & Recently SingleBro you better update his with how it went tonight! Lol. I got divorced a year ago at 43 and it’s been a wild ass wet pussy ass ride | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 12:56 AM |
| 12 | [VIDEO] Why Stupid Guys Get Laid More Than Smart MenGuys who consider themselves smart are often just book smart and socially dumb. Not smart enough to take care of themselves or their needs, let alone take care of a girl. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 12:49 AM |
| 3 | [VIDEO] Why Stupid Guys Get Laid More Than Smart MenIf they are getting girls and ur not, who is the stupid one? | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 12:46 AM |
| 2 | When approaching women, is it more cerebral or improvisational?I mean you have to be intelligent and intentional so you know when to progress things but that is all I am thinking. Otherwise I am just flowing. Flirt, tease, and sex jokes. Maybe 20% real talk so you are not a jestermaxxer (I.e. you don’t want to be a clown). | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 12:18 AM |
| 9 | Why is sex such a taboo? Imagine if we could just simply ask the person if they sex like "hey we should have sex sometime?" instead, we play these games and make it complicatedSex is not taboo (for most) it’s just that since the dawn of time, mating rituals are ingrained in the DNA of every animal and seduction is what humans call it | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | My 1 secret to building an effective dating profile and standing outJust have chat gpt help you text her in the voice of Morgan freeman. | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 01:44 AM |
| 21 | My 1 secret to building an effective dating profile and standing outWait why is alcoholic bar hopping narcissistic avoidant not on the list of archetypes? But seriously, good post, I love the market research you have done, but main question is how can you truly research what profiles get the best results? Don’t you just have to assume or is their legit data backing up what profiles are successful? | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 01:30 AM |
| 3 | I approach 10 people. Now what?It all depends on your frame and delivery bro. First off if you think it is weird, then she will. Do you have fun energy when you say it? Are you someone that she wants to hang out with? Seriously ask yourself that. Because if you are just trying to say the right lines, and worried, she will sense the insecurity. If you think you don’t deserve a chick like that and are just trying to game her, she will sense that as incongruent. | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Barely survivingI started anti-depressants prior to separation and got off them once she left. Turns out I was depressed because she was in my life, and when she left I was happy. I got really into working out and that was all I needed. Got brain zaps for almost a year from getting off those things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/24 12:25 PM |
| 14 | I fucked up the best opportunity I've ever hadThat’s why I always take my kids to the ratchetess playgrounds to find the slutty moms. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | I fucked up the best opportunity I've ever had3 second rule man. Every second longer you wait the paralysis sets in and becomes impossible to surmount along with her attraction waning due to hesitation. | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 12:48 AM |
| 9 | Barely survivingYou have to hustle even harder to get back on better footing to move forward. A side hustle/ way to make $ on the side to give you more disposable income so you can afford to take trips, invest in yourself; or just buy hookers, should be priority number one. Self care is priority number 1, not your kids sorry. Without a strong you, the kids suffer. Yes it is selfish and that is okay, especially during this time of renewal. Everyone that depends on you will benefit if you really invest in yoursel… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | I approach 10 people. Now what?If you are just practicing approaching to get over high anxiety, keep going but ultimately for success you need to stop being so beat around the bush. Reserve energy for ones you are attracted to, and comment on some piece of clothing or something about them in a light hearted way. She have some initials in her clothing. Or ripped jeans. Or a giant purse. Hey what does that stand for? Excuse me are you a ripped jeans model? Hey I was just so distracted by your giant purse that I just had to come… | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutYeah is much different than when I was in my early 20’s and just rolling around with my boyz hooking up with girls at parties. | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutSure thing dude | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutYes! I am bald as a mofo. But I shave it. | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnout44 | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutSure thing | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 01:35 PM |
| 5 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutIn last year I separated from wife and was clueless at first. Hadn’t been going to bars at all for a decade. I started studying the PUAs that were getting the girls that showed on the video the girls going home with them and tried to model that behavior until it was internalized. I was also getting in shape which is so important. I started getting consistent results. The mindset is so important. Basically think of yourself as the male version of a hot chick. You are getting pussy thrown at you, … | /r/seduction | 02/09/24 07:01 AM |
| 4 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutHave no idea but obv you weren’t calibrated to her. Same exact thing happened to me on a date last night. Misread her flirtatiousness as more than it was but she was more religious conservative then she let on. So she was cold and put off by my advances while appearing to like some of them, and giving mixed signals, but then completely offended I would try to pull her on a first date. Lol like wtf. Works with other chicks. Big ass rejection cuz I had invested a lot of time into setting up that d… | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 10:58 PM |
| 14 | Reflections on success, rejection, and burnoutIt’s always different man but she has to be attracted to you number one. Don’t waste time on the ones that aren’t. You’ll know if she is interested in your or not, by how engaged she is, asking you questions, twirling her hair, etc. Then build comfort, rapport, flirt by adding indirect sexual innuendo to most of the conversation in a way that is genuinely funny and makes her laugh. If she reciprocates by playing into the humor, work in physical touch gradually escalating from outer to inner extr… | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 08:44 PM |
| 4 | How Do I Dance With/Potentially Pick Up A Woman At A Concert Without Seeming Creepy?I have one rave pickup experience. First off I went to this rave to dance and was in my element, with my flashing rave glasses on and only one in the club with glasses like that. I was not even there to pick up girls but ofc unless an opportunity arose…Toward end of night (it was an early one and ended at midnight) this girl dancing near me took a selfie with DJ in background so I playfully photo bombed. She thought was funny. We did a couple selfies together. My glasses helped set the stage for… | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 03:35 PM |
| 2 | First time aloneGoing to bar and making new friends or just commiserating with some old timers can be a good way to not feel alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | What techniques one can use to help a girl be more interested in the conversation at the beginning of it?One tip is come in with slightly higher energy then her, then you want to bring her up in energy during the conversation. Vocal intonations vs monotone, make her laugh right away about something in the moment vs boring questions, smile, appear that you are enjoying your life and are a positive uplifting person. This makes her positively associate you with feeling good on purely an energetic basis. Helps form the foundation for building chemistry and longer sets. | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Men living in NYC or other big citiesIt’s just cultural programming. If you are living your best life in each moment and are fulfilled regardless of relationship status, you win. If you don’t feel fulfilled and think you might want a relationship then try it out. I am recently divorced for a year + and nowhere near settling down. I developed a big mistrust of women and see them as takers. So this keeps my feelings from getting too strong. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 02:29 PM |
| 1 | PSA: Seduction is 10% theory and 90% a numbers gameMy point was lost on you regards but that’s ok | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 04:33 PM |
| 2 | I’ve made the mistake of hiring a dating coach.Yup becoming the man you want to be is a prerequisite for seduction success. Which doesn’t mean you have to wait until you achieve all your goals, you just need to be walking the walk (aka executing your plan) to greatness. | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 01:17 PM |
| 2 | I've come to the conclusion some guys go out solely for the purpose of cockblocking.The way you describe makes you sound like you are standing there like a wallflower which is low energy. I see them in the club all the time. I don’t think the dudes coming in your space is anything more than coincidence + you being passive in the first place and waiting too long to make your move, so you get run over. Those dudes likely don’t even notice you. They are drunk having a good time, moving to different sets and getting in there, not necessarily caring about the outcome with each encou… | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it only me that it all seems too complicated?Your just overthinking it man. Probably you are smart and analytical. I know how that is and it gets in the way. You have to be able to internalize these techniques through practice while at the same time going into a set and being able to clear your head, so you can maximize free association in the moment. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 02:44 PM |
| 19 | Is age a limiting factor as a man?Older guys are in. Panties drop instantly. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Approach things to talk about after startersYou win blowing OP, yes. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Why You're Getting Shit TestedThere’s a difference between passing a couple shit tests when you first meet vs staying with a bitch that constantly shit tests. The latter I agree is exhausting and not worth it. Drop those ones immediately. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | $400 an hourMine was very judicious with charging his time. At $350/hr. Most of the work was billed at the paralegal rate which was more like 100-125/hr. Trial and mediation days were all lawyer rate but I only had two and a half days like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 12:17 PM |
| 5 | I want to understand psychology behind girls being drawn to guys who do artGirls like guys that are marching to their own beat, it’s a kind of bad boy archetype. Sexy hobbies are plusses. Same reason why girls like musicians. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 12:15 PM |
| 0 | Did meeting girls in real life work better for you than online dating?IME, OLD experiences skew more toward ONS but I just met some gf material on Match.com. OLD kind a pain in the ass, but necessary evil. Effectively provides a passive stream of leads, tho I am not as in control of who comes my way. I would never use OLD solely vs. approaching in real-life. IRL I feel more in control of my destiny and can pull hotter chicks/ focus my efforts on high quality. But takes more initial effort to generate leads since you are in person. Have had more impactful and repea… | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Resort game questionsHaha those adult only places are for swingers, usually old and fat ones unless it is super high brow but then you ain’t gettin in without a bunch of vetting | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 12:07 AM |
| 39 | Anyone else ever get stares while on a date?Yeah dude, being with a chick demonstrates status that is why even platonic chick friends can be great wingmen. Even just being in a thing with a girl or in a state of having lots of sex and then being out alone still gives you that high value energy almost like you are secreting a pheromone. Chicks look at you bit different when you are running through bitches. You have more swagger and gestalt. There is a compounding effect too. When I had finally started having consistent success, the floodga… | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Any guys here who can explain why they don't approach?I do which is which is why I know all the complaining on here is self-inflicted cuz nobody wants to take any responsibility for themselves. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Any guys here who can explain why they don't approach?Best comment. Upvoted. Unbelievable all the defeatist simpy comments on here in general. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 07:12 PM |
| 16 | PSA: Seduction is 10% theory and 90% a numbers gameThese are facts. Obv you gotta talk to more women if you are mainly sitting around nerding out on pua theory and being too scared to go out, but if you are driving blind, you’ll just crash. And the way to improve is not just about talking to more women, or even learning seduction. What’s not mentioned and more important than anything is building a solid frame as a man through leveling up in all areas. That seems to be lost on the younger guys, who are looking for a quick hit. OP misses that poin… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 01:21 PM |
| -29 | PSA: Seduction is 10% theory and 90% a numbers gameYou just said the purpose of seduction is talking to women so I’m correcting you. Maybe you want to reword. No need to get mad lil bro. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Remote rapport - meeting in person for the first timeInitially when you meet up you can just extend the rapport you built remotely to real life which should be easy. Then I would pull her into whatever activity, group happy hour and dinner you have going so you can demonstrate pre-selection along the way and then isolate her afterwards either at another side of the bar, outside, or whatever. Maybe at some point if things are vibin you can go off together. You just want to keep things fun and flirty while reading and testing her with innuendo and l… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 12:42 PM |
| -29 | PSA: Seduction is 10% theory and 90% a numbers gameThe purpose is not talking to women, the purpose is to fuck them (I.e. being able to create sexual currency on demand). | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 12:33 PM |
| 6 | Am I too old for this? 47 y/o trying to game girls aged 30-37I am 44 and just got back from a weekend sexathon with a 34 yo in perfect shape who looks 26. She is into older guys and silver foxes. However I’m the oldest guy she been with so far. I’ve seen her several times now this year. Met her at a bar through cold approach. She tells me older dudes are the in thing right now in general. I been with other 20 something’s too. The only time I feel “old” is when I accidentally go into a club on college night and they are with their friends. So you go out th… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:43 AM |
| 3 | What do you do if a girl doesn't have time for a date right away?If she leaves you on read, follow the no contact for two weeks rule, then hit her up again with something funny. Never double text her. You want to remeber that you have important things going on so is fine to dissapear for a few days or what not. If she is attracted enough to you it won’t matter. If she isn’t then oh well on to the next. Also remeber that lots of chicks are just texting you for validation and have no intention of meeting up ever. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 11:48 PM |
| 1 | How can i keep her interestedThey are loosing attraction to you because your seduction skills and frame is off. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 04:44 AM |
| 1 | I don’t know how to approach game nonchalantly.“Not caring” is a result of you having plenty of options so you don’t care about the outcome of a single interaction. You need to truly believe you have options through having the right mindset and confidence even if you don’t have the results yet. Then you come across as not needy and not chasing, which has the effect of increasing your status which makes women more attracted to you. You don’t want to be delusional. But the analogy to use is a poor person that wants to be rich. Anyone that claw… | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Volume solves everythingI just don’t see why someone wants to spend so much time pursuing women, or believes they have to in order to get laid. Prolly because they been told it’s a numbers game lol. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 05:05 PM |
| 30 | Volume solves everythingI’ll just be the lone voice of dissent here because volume doesn’t solve anything if your frame and game suck. We have dudes on here posting their 1000 cold approaches over last year and barely getting laid. I am swimming in pussy all year and barely been approaching. It is more important to view in terms of generating high quality leads vs spamming. You want to focus on getting high quality leads > to get higher conversion ratios > then focus on retention (repeat buys i.e. making her a rotation… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Suggestion on how to improve the quality of banter and flirtingHonestly I learned my bantering skills in blue collar jobs talking shit all day to my coworkers and continuing that at parties drinking. With a chick it’s not that different, you just have not not be as mean to her as you would another dude and sprinkle in the sexual innuendos. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 01:21 PM |
| 1 | How does one become less needy and narcissistic?I think you should read no more Mr Nice Guy. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Promise to self - approach 20 girls every weekGet it bro | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 04:22 AM |
| 237 | Why are girls attracted to intelligence?They are attracted to social intelligence because that demonstrates perceived status. Book smarts does not equal social smarts. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 04:16 AM |
| 2 | What’s the most optimal way to perform exposure therapy/gradual desensitization to handle AA?Like jo buds? Idk if that will work lol | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 03:14 AM |
| 8 | Lots of female friends, no play.Don’t use scripts she will sense that. Watch some field reports. You just need to memorize and apply some skills and structure (approach, build comfort, find out logistics, escalate, go for the close and successfully deal with objections). Within that structure you flirt 80% and real talk 20%. The skills you need to master are body language, banter, demonstrating pre selection, push pull, foreplay, and sex. Focus on mastering those skills rather than how to flirt and the flirting ability will fo… | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 11:52 PM |
| 16 | Lots of female friends, no play.Stop trying to get to know them that shit is bland and platonic. You need to flirt make them laugh. Talk about things around you and the situation , her logistics, sprinkle in some very basic get to know you while at same time you make them feel like you’re the man that can handle that ass. Once she gives choosing eyes just grab her hand and lead her on the dance floor. | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 09:04 PM |
| 6 | First thing to say when approaching girls?Situational openers are my go to, because they are way more natural ways to start conversations and not desperate. Your frame (body language, attitude, aura) matter alot more to her being receptive and guys get wayyyyy too caught up in what to say which has to be driven by the situation and context. Don’t over analyze or be overly prepared with canned lines. She will vibe off your strong masculine frame, and will feel why you are talking to her and then the opener can be something ridiculous tha… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 11:01 AM |
| 7 | Admitted to Narc ex wife I still love herYes 100%. Too many dudes coming out of divorce think it is beneath them to have NSA hookups. But is needed to jolt you out of the emotional connection to your exw or stbx. It helps you grow and move on. And fucking women is what makes a man and man. And guess what, she’s been fucking other dudes and that’s why she looks happy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 04:45 AM |
| 22 | Men who couldn't get any women to talk to them to getting women to sleep with you, what changed?Lmao I live in a navy town and there is a whole breed of women that lose their shit for only navy boys. It’s a like a cult. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 04:40 AM |
| 42 | Men who couldn't get any women to talk to them to getting women to sleep with you, what changed?Underrated comment. If you look past the roids, there is deep wisdom. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 04:39 AM |
| 0 | how do i ask a girl if can have sex with herJust invite her out to a drink and after a couple be like “Bitch, we fuckin or what?” | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 02:53 AM |
| 8 | I want to learn how to get my sex life starting?You haven’t had sex for 5 years cuz you are asking the wrong questions. I went thru a 3-4 year dry spell around 21-25 and know your pain. I think I got one fat chick to go out with me during that time and one hotter chick from work and I was afraid to escalate. Was fat and low confidence. I asked myself, what do I need to do to get better in life? 1. Stop smoking; 2. Lose weight; 3. Move to beach and start surfing 4.) go back to school and get my degree. I did all 4 things obsessively. The third… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 01:04 AM |
| 0 | Are people here actually having sex?Dudes that call into those shows are generally desperate anomalies but there are lot of dudes with anxiety around women just less extreme. I still have some anxiety at times. But I am also literally on my way to spend the weekend with a rotation chick who I met earlier this year at a bar and been texting her all day how she is my dirty little slut and she loves jt. Once you dial in to who you are as a man, you do not have to try very hard. You can simply live your life and meet women along the w… | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Was it better?lol that is in my near future once her bf moves in. Good thing he is tiny I’ll be okay. She did message me in OFW and said her landlord came out asking wtf and now I can’t come over anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Was it better?NW Florida? Lol I need more divorced friends | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Was it better?My exw has poisoned my oldest who barely goes with me. Last weekend I picked them up from school and made the mistake of swinging by the ex’s house so daughter could get her iPad and then she refused to get back in the car. Exw no support and would not tell her to get in with me. Sat there for 30 min while my exw coddled her. So I tried to get firm cuz she wouldn’t and then accused of “spewing hate and negativity” and being told I need to work on my anger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Just an update since last year…Ah man I didn’t even know that. Gonna have to go with Montel then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 07:13 PM |
| 1 | What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex?Not true man that’s a cope. Tons of good women out there. Don’t listen to passport bros and dudes that are down and out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 06:48 PM |
| 9 | Just an update since last year…Get the boyfriends mom pregnant and call Jerry Springer? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 05:06 PM |
| 1 | What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex?Well self-imposed celibacy is probably one reason. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 03:47 PM |
| 2 | What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex?It truly is grieving a death. It is important to grieve, but then you have to move on. The mindfuckery of it is that she is still physically alive which can make accepting it hard. You still see her ghost walking the earth. You have to talk to the ghost. But she is dead and you can’t bring her back . | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex?What you are really saying is focus on building your wealth. That is a good idea. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 04:07 AM |
| 10 | What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex?You still miss her cuz you don’t have any options and are holding her up on a pedestal. She had a baby with another dude and hurt you more than anyone could. Why would you love that? Create an abundance of options with women and the missing her will fade faster than the trail of a shooting star. What gets you out of a funk? Fucking other women. Is what God intended and what will make you feel like a man again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Getting Her Number is AnticlimaxInstadate to sex is 100% the way. I too have stopped talking to randos at the airport just to get their number or in situations where there is little chance I see them again. | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 03:48 AM |
| 17 | Has being super obvious about your interest ever worked?“1000 thots can not defeat an army of one man who doesn’t simp.” | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:37 AM |
| 17 | Has being super obvious about your interest ever worked?Mark Sing says it well. You give them 80% of the interest they give you. Never more than they do. Only time you give more is the moment you propose. And then back to 80%. Usually that translates to indifference but don’t fall into the trap of not trying at all. You want to talk to them ofc. But you are talking to them for your own amusement, not to get anything from them. You are giving them an opportunity to qualify themselves. If they don’t, oh well. Thousands of options out there for you. She… | /r/seduction | 11/08/24 02:32 AM |
| 1 | So I know I objectively look better with a beard, have been told as much, but hate the feeling of it… what would YOU do?Stop being fat first and worry about the beard or no beard second. This “I am a bigger guy” is bullshit and tells me being fat is part of your identity. Go workout and stop drinking beer and stop making excuses. I have a beard for 15 years and women love it but has to be well groomed. I makes my jaw line look more defined. Not all dudes can grow a good beard. Shouldnt be splotchy. It also can take some time to fill in and soften up so it doesn’t feel annoying. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 02:50 PM |
| 0 | Did 10 approaches per day. Video in comments. ConfidenceJourney 2So weird bro. Your video editing is as awkward as your approach. I want to vomit from nausea watching it. Ditch the video documentary shit. All this is showing people what not to do. Is that your intention? Stop being a nerd. Nerds don’t get laid. You can be a nerd inside (I am) just don’t act like one. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Did 10 approaches per day. Video in comments. ConfidenceJourney 2It isn’t, that’s why treating cold approach like push-ups is retarded. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 01:23 AM |
| 2 | How to be a F*ckboy in 2024, an Official GuideBe good at sex. Why fuck a hot girl once when you can earn extra fuckboi points and fuck her more than once. Only gonna happen if you are good at sex. Dance regularly. Chicks love it. Dancing is this very primordial mating ritual thing and ignites sexual tension plus shows you don’t take yourself too seriously plus having riddim makes you better at sex. Have a sexy lifestyle hobby. Cars, motorcycles, sports, weightlifting, martial arts, hunting, fishing, off-roading, racing, playing (most) music… | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 05:10 AM |
| 1 | How to be a F*ckboy in 2024, an Official GuideGreat. You’ll be a pale 40 yo virgin with baby smooth skin. | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 05:00 AM |
| 2 | How to be a F*ckboy in 2024, an Official GuideJust the IT guys here aka everyone | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | How to be a F*ckboy in 2024, an Official GuideAww yeee youngin… that’s why Botox was invented | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 04:58 AM |
| 2 | I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressedWell yeah I didn’t mean to imply banging chicks is not fun. | /r/seduction | 08/08/24 01:47 AM |
| 26 | I'm 29, and pulled a 9/10 18yo while in Aspen, feeling guilty and a bit depressedSpoiler alert: women and sex and “love” don’t make you happy. That comes from inside. | /r/seduction | 07/08/24 01:18 PM |
| 9 | A simple, actionable hack you can do right now to help you deal with approach anxietyTry holding your dick next time it works wonders | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 03:47 PM |
| 87 | Hinge vs TinderIRL lol | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 03:46 PM |
| 8 | Hinge vs TinderMatch: old, sad women looking for soulmate Stir: old, ugly, sad moms with 4 kids looking for LTR | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Lost my virginity few days ago. Before you guys say anything let me tell you that i paid for it. But I didnt feel anything...like nothing.Yup that’s enough internet for the day | /r/seduction | 06/08/24 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Fastest Bar LayFuck yes 🙌 great work | /r/seduction | 05/08/24 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Approached girl in the gymYou need to be yourself but guys skip past the working on themselves part and don’t get that being on your purpose makes you a chick magnet. Some carnal law of attraction pheromony thing. Then just be yourself don’t sabotage. | /r/seduction | 02/08/24 12:10 AM |
| 3 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...Obv not stamp collecting lol. Going after money and taking risks. That is your purpose as a man. How you do it is your style. The outcome is a lifestyle of abundance that you built. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 10:24 PM |
| 3 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...Have you done any research on pickup cuz I would suggest going down the you tube rabbit hole to answer a lot of your basic questions. The main point is to level up your life. Ask yourself in what areas you are lacking and work to improve those. Are you on purpose? A man that is going after his ambitions and succeeding is intrinsically attractive, and that will form the foundation of confidence and the frame you need to seduce a woman. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 10:03 PM |
| 5 | I am 40 years old but concerned about daygame...I have nothing to add that others haven’t said, but as a 43yo divorcee who reinvented himself over the past year of being dragged through shit, there is a general lack of resources for older guys trying to go after younger women. This sub skews under 30. Would be cool to have a seduction sub for 40+ cuz a lot of guys are in this boat. And who blames them? You are finally free from your old lady and free to do what you want. Ofc we want to upgrade by going younger. Basically remember this: a man’… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 08:59 PM |
| 1 | This is more of a relationship question because I know nothing about seduction - How do I become the chaotic adrenaline rush for women?That’s fair | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 08:44 PM |
| 2 | This is more of a relationship question because I know nothing about seduction - How do I become the chaotic adrenaline rush for women?Yep this what women say they want but deep down they just want a stud to toss them around and pull their hair. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 11:52 AM |
| 14 | Best European Country for Seduction?Wish I could. Closest I been is Norway in the summer. The girls were angelic. Rest of Scandinavia and Eastern Europe on my bucket list. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that I can pretty easily get 10-20 matches per day on hinge and 30-40+ in a big city but 95% lead to absolutely nowhere?I will exchange banter for a handful of back and forths and establish some chemistry then get their number and move it to text. Over text I re-establish the flirting and then move to setting up a date. If I can get a convo to move to text it is a 100% success rate in gettjng them on a date. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that I can pretty easily get 10-20 matches per day on hinge and 30-40+ in a big city but 95% lead to absolutely nowhere?Only difference is when they are older, I find they want to text for a day or so to build familiarity before asking out, cuz they have been through the ringer and more hesistant. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Whats a way you can nonchalantly seduce a female acquaintance if you went out with her in a group?You don’t do it directly. A better way would be to to break off from the group to chat with other girls. Maybe pull one into your group. Then your friend chicks will see you as an alpha stud and want you. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 09:50 AM |
| 55 | Best European Country for Seduction?Dang I’m definitely going to Finland now | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 09:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with late bloomer tax?Yeah only when aroused, but yeah if you go out on cialis and a chick starts getting handsy, you gotta tell jimmy need to chill for a minute 😂 | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 09:29 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with late bloomer tax?Your doc will prescribe the right one for you or you can get it off HIMS. Never did viagra just cialis, and I have heard that cialis is less risk of side effects and is better for sustaining an erection i.e. being able to fuck longer. It also lasts for a day and a half vs viagra is a few hours. It is my cheat code. I am in my 40’s tho so if you are in your 20’s and have this issue you should def get your T levels checked. I’ll usually just pop a cialis before I go out. It takes a couple hours to… | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 01:28 AM |
| 3 | How do you deal with late bloomer tax?Get your T levels checked and improve them and/or consider cialis it will make you fuck like a God | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 01:18 AM |
| 16 | How do you deal with late bloomer tax?ED is a big turn off. | /r/seduction | 31/07/24 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Do you think snapchat is worst to game a girl?Snap is a waste of time. Work on your IG profile all the hot chicks are there. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 05:52 PM |
| 4 | Does cold approach just not work for an ethnic guy?The only reason you feel attacked is because you have internalized victimhood. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 02:29 PM |
| 11 | Does cold approach just not work for an ethnic guy?I just said that’s a loser mindset. Don’t get get your panties twisted. Your looking for reasons you can’t get laid and that’s bullshit. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Does cold approach just not work for an ethnic guy?Loser mindset | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 02:14 PM |
| 15 | Does cold approach just not work for an ethnic guy?We all have disadvantages. What use is it to dwell on them and be a statistic? Don’t even acknowledge that shit. So 80% of women say they don’t like ethnic guys. Well 20% are fucking ethnic guys. Be the anomaly that gets laid. Also lot of surveys are bullshit fed by social conformity pressures. Even the 80% of those prudes will react much different to an ETHNIC guy with strong seduction skills in that moment of the encounter. You think the white chicks that secretly want black dicks gonna admit … | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 02:10 PM |
| 38 | Does cold approach just not work for an ethnic guy?You gotta first ditch the shame you are carrying around that being Indian or ethnic is a disadvantage. That is showing in your lack of confidence and frame which repulses women. On top of that you are being needy and try hard. And if you like most Indians I know, you are very smart and have that engineer, linear mindset which is cancer to seduction because you are probably very bland in your convos, over analyzing, and think it’s a numbers game. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Should you pickup alone? or is it best to go with someone?Demonstrating social pre-selection is needed for attraction so they can see you are of high social status. If you go alone, you need to counter assumptions that you are a friendless, inept loser. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 12:42 PM |
| 4 | I have lots of experience but rejection still gets to me.Dude mids these days have such inflated egos and think their shit doesn’t stink. Forget her. | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 02:15 AM |
| 6 | What adjustments in game have given you the best results? (Personal experience)Some chicks will simply not bang on the first encounter. But ime these are rare. If you are making out and not taking them home repeatedly, you need to re-evaluate your kissing and foreplay skills. You need to tease them physically just as you do verbally. Build up and back off, like a wave. Give them a taste of how you will be in bed. Drives them crazy. Touching on lower back and top of thigh. Nibble the top of their ear. Pull on their hair just a little. Give that ass a little squeeze. Be gent… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Is seduction cruel?I know you are trying to be the moral high ground guy and likely have some religion driven shame stuff going on (that’s why you think seduction is cruel when it is a perfectly natural part of courtship) but the thing is, you are putting the cart before the horse. You don’t find a wife without building sexual attraction, without seducing them. You came from cavemen. You find woman, spread your peacock feathers, and procreate. You find a better one and procreate. Lion’s don’t go around thinking “i… | /r/seduction | 30/07/24 12:10 AM |
| 7 | What adjustments in game have given you the best results? (Personal experience)I don’t know why dudes downvote this. My dudes, you don’t have to have model looks, but you need to believe you are a 10 and act like it. This means you take care of yourself and it shows. You believe you got it going on. You basically think you are a male version of a hot chick and chicks are beating your door down to suck your dick. That is how the girls you are gooning after think. If that is your mindset, it will manifest in your appearance. It will manifest in not being needy and chicks cha… | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 11:47 PM |
| 3 | What adjustments in game have given you the best results? (Personal experience)Added some above ☝️ | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 11:32 PM |
| 28 | What adjustments in game have given you the best results? (Personal experience)Understand they are wanting a sexual fantasy fulfilled and give them that fantasy by artfully framing it (indirectly), escalating it, and closing it. Examples: Situational: let’s say you meet a girl at a hotel bar at a nice resort. The frame you build in is you are on your honeymoon. Simple: She is out on the town at night and looking to get fucked but trying to be coy about it. You need to assume the frame of the one she wants to fuck her. Covert: Or let’s say she is a tourist in your hometown.… | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Is past 30 above your prime?Cope dude all you are is excuses lol | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 02:15 AM |
| 0 | Is past 30 above your prime?Wtf are you talking about. Bruh. | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 01:50 AM |
| -1 | Is past 30 above your prime?Stay away from venues that is all twenty something’s if you go in there as a 40 year old you will get blown out. Go to venues with mixed ages. Then will find twenty five year olds that are down. | /r/seduction | 29/07/24 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Club SuccessYeah dude you same day pulled that’s all that matters. Some tweaking and room for improvement always, but what you are doing is working so don’t change a whole lot. | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Trouble opening on a Saturday night.Yes there is competition in a club. You need to have your shit (physical, game, and frame) on point to compete in this environment. I am a little older so clubs to me is where I bring women I already pulled as part of escalating the night with them vs starting at the club and trying to pull women there. I start early at happy hours and sunset at bars. That where I have most success and can get instadates going. In general, I rarely end up at a club with her unless she wants to dance (or I’m just… | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Social circle game changed my life for the betterLike I can see the point about making fashion and models your social circle and working up to where you are seen as a high value man within that circle which then leads to attraction from those within it aka models. Yes that is a long game not a 5 min pull. But at some point if you are not closing, there is something wrong with your approach. I hope you bag these chicks soon and reap the fruits! | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Social circle game changed my life for the betterNo but you obviously want to fuck them, and starting off as platonic friends with a girl rarely leads to fucking. It doesn’t help with her friends either cuz you are pigeon holed as a nice guy. Maybe I am missing something. | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Social circle game changed my life for the betterBut my guy. How many have you fucked? Sounds like you entire tactic is getting friend zoned. | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Club SuccessYeah chicks love being spun around 😂 I do that one all the time. Shows you are confident, you get to be physical, get her turned on like you could maybe toss her around in the bedroom. Alpha move and that worked for you. I think your first set had potential as she showed IOI by asking where you from. You should have responded with something absurd like “I’m from Antarctica.” Just make her laugh. The IOI was despite the fact you screwed up by telling her she was attractive. Do a situational opene… | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Dancing is my superpower?One time I went out alone to this show I wanted to see just to dance. None of my friends liked that music so I went alone. Puerto Rican reggaeton. I had my rave glasses and everything. Wasn’t trying to pick up chicks or nothing. I was enjoying myself obviously. I dance better than most dudes and am not self conscious. I was also high af lol. By end of the night some PR cutie that I noticed was eyeing me a little came closer to me. Then she took a selfie and I photo bombed cuz I had the glasses. … | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Social circle game changed my life for the betterCool I agree social networking is great but are you fucking this chicks or what? | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 12:09 AM |
| 34 | Feels like my sexual desire puts women off?Don’t say you want her to dream about you it sounds needy and over the top | /r/seduction | 28/07/24 12:06 AM |
| 3 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameBro older women are amazing. They can still have awesome bodies and the personality is usually better than younger chicks. I like to have conversations. Plus they are usually way more upfront and comfortable with themselves = bedroom freaks. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameLike downtown to Chinatown? | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 10:53 PM |
| 2 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameJokes man we good 👊 | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 10:52 PM |
| 2 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameYou will be fine lol and sounds like you have a winning attitude about the divorce. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 10:51 PM |
| 4 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameLol you’d prolly just jerk off to it | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 08:03 PM |
| 3 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameWhy not what you got against older women? | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 08:01 PM |
| 4 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameLol there were def a couple I’m not proud of but no I’m pulling 7-8’s, one legit 9, mid 20’s- mid 40’s. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 07:54 PM |
| 12 | When did you start learning and practicing the gameLast year after my seperation at 43. I was never a total a disaster with chicks but had shit game and approach anxiety. Once I warmed up I was fine, but we all know how important first impressions are. Didn’t know about any pua or seduction techniques aside from whatever I was accidentally already doing. After learning and practicing game like an obsession along with improving my looks, I banged twice as many chicks in last year (around 20) than in my entire life before that which was about 8 mo… | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 07:42 PM |
| 8 | Had conversation with girl at bar. She gave me her business card but I'm getting mixed signals.Probably married and conflicted. You should followup with some fun flirty texts she may come back around. Girls like this are dealing with their emotions and go back and forth between hot and cold so don’t take it personally | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 04:13 PM |
| 4 | morning afterCuz they want it that night and mad you ghosted them until the morning plus they no longer feeling it and embarrassed they texted you like a slut. The other likely scenario is you ain’t the only dude she texted and some other dude banged her out. By the time you text her in the morning she is laying in bed with that dude and her immediate interest in you has evaporated. Helps to strike while the iron is hot. Happened to me before too. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 04:11 PM |
| 4 | Why not just become a Passport Bro?Well said | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 02:40 PM |
| 0 | Why not just become a Passport Bro?See that is an amazing success story but important to point out you have the seduction skills to attract and keep the girl! Good on you bro. I too would like to hit up SE Asia and the Philippines. I actually have family in the Philippines. I am kinda scared if I go there they will hook me up with some 4th cousin haha. They are all dirt poor. | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 01:48 PM |
| 36 | Why not just become a Passport Bro?Passport bros are blackpilled. They have given up/ opted-out on western women completely and think they have been ruined by society so aren’t worth pursuing. The movement part is somewhat a byproduct of the manosphere redpilling movement and the passport bro thing is the guys that got redpilled and then decided western women are lost. That is an extreme take and can be a cop out in some cases for dudes that have no game or frame. Sometimes they will find some women and bring them back to the US … | /r/seduction | 27/07/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | First GF after divorceThat’s exactly how I feel. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 12:00 AM |
| 2 | First GF after divorceWhat’s interesting to me is how I go from one Vice to another. Before my ex split, I was depressed and ate too much. After she split, I got healthy and ripped, but started partying too much. Then took a break from partying to focus on myself, but got obsessed with pickup and sex while justifying it as self-development. Then I figured a gf was a good call to settle me britches. I definitely need to go back to working on making money but that will prolly turn into an obsession to an extreme. Then … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:18 PM |
| 1 | First GF after divorceI gave mine the old it’s not me it’s you line which she called bs on. I like yours. Takes some balls to say it like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:13 PM |
| 1 | First GF after divorceJust saw that now. Yep the rebounds are doomed I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:12 PM |
| 2 | First GF after divorceLove Honest Signalz! His shit changed the game for me. I think they all have shit to teach and is important to find one that matches your personality. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:08 PM |
| 5 | First GF after divorceThanks I guess the rebound gf was uncharted territory for me cuz tho I been with a bunch of women in last year they were all Onesies-twosie interactions. Yeah cold approach is fun isn’t it? We need a sub on Reddit for divorced men getting back in the game. We are our own special breed on a unique journey. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:05 PM |
| 1 | First GF after divorceFo sho | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | First GF after divorceLol ready to go down the rabbit hole? r/seduction but definitely not the best or only resource out there | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 06:28 PM |
| 3 | First GF after divorceI was out of the game for so long and never had strong game to begin with. So when she split I focused a lot of my physique and learning pick up. It’s just a skill I never honed. Yeah women are a bad hobby but I still love sex and need it. So I picked up this relationship from picking this girl up at a bar. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 05:49 PM |
| 6 | First GF after divorceYeah she would go into these guilt trippy texts trying to make me feel bad and apologize for something. And I would just not play the game. I’d be like “you ok?” And she would respond “I will be” 🤣😂. I’m like “whatever.” Then she keeps going and I’m like “i don’t think I’m what you need let’s break up.” And then fucking text wall apologizing for her behavior. Bluff called. I have no tolerance at all for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 02:21 PM |
| 4 | First GF after divorceI feel like casual dating and hookups was simpler and is more my speed right now. Not ready for feelings getting involved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 12:44 PM |
| 4 | First GF after divorceI did counseling a while back but stopped. Thought I was ready to dip my toe into a relationship. It’s when they have these expectations of you and make you feel like you are letting them down that gets me. That’s what my exw would do and I have trauma over being made to feel like I’m not being good enough. Prolly goes back to childhood. So I sort of through my hands up and to heck with it all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 12:21 PM |
| 5 | Fundamentals: Qualities that make her want to be in a relationshipRelationships are so much drama just tried one again and ended it. I’m free again fellas let’s ride. | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 03:19 AM |
| 1 | How old were you when you get divorced?METOO | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 03:06 AM |
| 23 | Should you pickup alone? or is it best to go with someone?Nothing wrong with going solo but need to try alittle harder to he social so you can be perceived as the man. I like being in a group setting much better and use as base to go snipe girls. But you can overcome this by just talking to people and having a good outgoing vibe. You can also use the old “waiting for a friend” or “meeting up with friends later” line to demonstrate pre-selection. | /r/seduction | 24/07/24 01:01 AM |
| 10 | How do I keep her hooked over text?Are you getting past first base on the first dates? If not that is one problem. You shouldn’t need to try that hard, if she is into you. But you do want to plan for the second date early so there is something concrete to look forward to and then you can just keep her warm with playful flirting until that time. If there is no plan, she may interpret that as weakness on your part to lead. If she leaves you on read, then Greyrock her a couple weeks and text again. Remember, you have options and don… | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Success going outCar is your next best option then | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 11:40 AM |
| 6 | Seduction is not for everybodyInvest in yourself you got it. Forget all this shit and go be your best self and keep improving. Women are attracted to that. | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 07:46 AM |
| 6 | Girl went cold after we hook up. What to do?Did she cum multiple times? If not there is your answer. Might have been decent enough to give you a second chance. | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 02:43 AM |
| 31 | Girl went cold after we hook up. What to do?You aren’t good enough in bed to keep her interest as a fuck buddy and she has other options. Just get better at sex. | /r/seduction | 23/07/24 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Keep getting “I didn’t feel a spark” after the first dateYou are probably being too needy and coming across weird. The way you describe it, you are calculating the right way to escalate while letting them talk and it’s almost as if you aren’t present enough. What I mean is, you aren’t contributing/leading the Convo you are just letting them steer it and not exciting them so you are coming in with the kiss without escalating emotionally/bulding the sexual tension first. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Success going outDid she object to going home with you that night? | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Success going outGood job. Did you try to close? | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | First night out was a complete disaster. Seeking for advice.You got two wing girls to help you with pre-selection. As long as they are not ugly heffers, you should using that to your advantage- be dancing with your group so other chicks see you as a fun guy that women like, and then start pulling chicks into your group. Then the wing women can whisper to her how cool you are while you escalate. Or just be seen as having a blast with your group and that will help when you approach. | /r/seduction | 22/07/24 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Social Media Dating, How effective are muscles?Tatted up | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Is confidence attractive? or it's just a scam, a lie created by people who just want to make you feel good or smth similar?How can women tell your funny? How can they tell if your charismatic? How can they tell if your nervous? How can they tell if your shy? How can they tell if you creepy? | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Is confidence attractive? or it's just a scam, a lie created by people who just want to make you feel good or smth similar?Women are attracted to masculinity which is partially defined by confidence. It’s a character trait that guys lack who haven’t been properly socialized, or guys that were raised by nice guy fathers, or guys dealing with trauma. | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 04:09 PM |
| 8 | Social Media Dating, How effective are muscles?Getting in shape is everything if you don’t want to settle for 2’s and 3’s. You don’t have to get ripped just toned and look good naked. I am 6’2” and trying to get more jacked cuz women definitely get wet for a tall dark ripped dude with decent game. Look at the dudes the 9’s and 10’s are with. Tall, ripped, and blasted. | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How to approach guys?“Hey” | /r/seduction | 21/07/24 01:07 PM |
| 6 | Met a beautiful blond last night - ideas on how to open text?You are right bro he can also text and easily get her to respond and move it to a call. If he calls out of the blue she may not pick up, then he might fumble and leave a nervous VM. I agree girls love it when you call. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 08:23 PM |
| 10 | Met a beautiful blond last night - ideas on how to open text?Did you get her name? just address her by name. If not txt “hey black dress girl, this is _______ you tangoed with, did you recover from last night yet? :)” Obv if you had a little nickname or funny quip from the night before to weave in that would be good but I’m just going off what you posted. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 05:49 PM |
| 2 | What to say after what’s your name?Is true but should build some emotional connection to increase odds of her remembering you. Clubs are so loud so I’m usually just trying to dance with girls in there and find the slutty ones that are dtf vs going around getting numbers | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 03:45 PM |
| -1 | Stop waiting for weekends to meet womenAgree with this. When you are in a night game scenario, competition (other dudes) and obstacles (she’s out with her friends) are way higher than catching this same chick at Starbucks earlier in the day. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 01:59 PM |
| 1 | How to stop feeling like a creep?How do you overcome it? Just stop doing it. You are obviously aware you are doing it so stop. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach - How to stop running out of things to sayYou lay out some good points and principles to follow, however I feel like this basic level would work on nice girls open to talking, but not on a lot of others. You didn’t mention the importance of flirting and free association without which, she won’t feel any chemistry and the interaction will feel abit too contrived. Also while girls def love to talk about themselves, you haven’t hooked them until they start asking you questions. You want it to be a bit of both. If you are just asking her qu… | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 01:32 PM |
| 3 | What to say after what’s your name?I find those are low probability leads cuz most girls will not remember you the next day from some random quick interaction they had while drunk at the club. | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 01:22 PM |
| 54 | What to say after what’s your name?You gotta stop thinking in terms of what to say as if there is some magical script or response to get her to drop her panties and start thinking of framework. There is a framework to the set that is all. Approach, build comfort, find out logistics, escalate/build sexual tension, handle objections, close. What you say matters far less than how you say it, your body language, aka your vibe, and how you frame it. Asking for her name should come after you have built some comfort/rapport. That is the… | /r/seduction | 20/07/24 01:41 AM |
| 4 | She fell into my lapWtf is wrong with you? There you needed someone to say it. Do better bro | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Tinder game: "I should be careful around strangers"No dude. She just said yes to getting half naked at this pool and sauna and OP has one little objection to overcome. A pull to the house off Tinder should always be the first go-to. Ofc some chicks will insist on a public place or aren’t dtf, but this chick is most def DTF. OP, just tell her in a light hearted way that you get it and there’s people and security cameras around the pool area so she can aways just bounce if she wants “haha” … then see if that is enough to overcome the objection. Th… | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 11:36 AM |
| 12 | Do you go on dates with people you aren’t into?Yes I did for 9 years it was called marriage | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 01:41 AM |
| 1 | To Those Who've Had Numerous Partners, Does it All Start to Feel the Same?Truth | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 01:39 AM |
| 27 | Milf I fucked twice asking to meetYeah but you have to admit it’s a little fun when women simp over you vs the other way around. | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 01:29 AM |
| 3 | To Those Who've Had Numerous Partners, Does it All Start to Feel the Same?Why do they hide your comments all the time. Mods! | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Drinking lots ruins your gameI banged a hot chick I met at this outdoor bar around dinner time and you know what she told me after? “I liked you cuz you weren’t drinking when you came up to me.” This was total luck on my part as I just happened to get to the bar, immediately opened a set with her, and it just happened to take like 15 minutes for the bartender to take my drink order. By then I was already in with her. But because of this I differentiated myself from all the other drunk dudes there. | /r/seduction | 18/07/24 12:51 AM |
| 11 | How to stop being the good/nice guy and be more dominant/confident?No where special. Life experiences, reading, and I kickstarted PUA study after divorce when I went through a self-reinvention process a year ago. The book “No More Mr Nice Guy” is a great starting point! Merging the PUA stuff into my personality vs. trying to become someone I wasnt was my approach. You want to start where you are and add some tweaks. Trial and error as to what works for you. But start with the mindset that you are already good enough, you already deserve to be loved, and you alr… | /r/seduction | 17/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 52 | How to stop being the good/nice guy and be more dominant/confident?Ok so I am a recovering nice guy. Every girl I date describes me as sweet. Always been that way. I had to unlearn some terrible habits like being their friend first, approach anxiety/avoidance, bad posture, not having things to say, being to agreeable/complimentary, never making the first move. Today I am still sweet but I’m taking them to poundtown. I flirt and tease them a ton. Make them laugh. Be a fun part of their day. I am funny and have good discernment to maintain that balance of respect… | /r/seduction | 17/07/24 01:12 AM |
| 15 | I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch themYou’re probably just gay, don’t worry about it. | /r/seduction | 17/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 2 | You need to spend money to get laid!🤣😂 well only if you like dick then yeah | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 11:17 PM |
| 98 | You need to spend money to get laid!Women are an expensive hobby, that’s for sure. | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Just met a champion“you got moves baby.” | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 11:37 PM |
| 12 | Just met a championThose must be some hungry bears. | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Soon I'll Be 32 and I've Never Kissed, Held Hands, or Had Sex with a Woman. Is It Too Late?This is why you are a virgin you know. | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Soon I'll Be 32 and I've Never Kissed, Held Hands, or Had Sex with a Woman. Is It Too Late?You need to go on a bender in Thailand and rewrite your history with new memories. Sorry if that is beneath you but drastic times call for drastic measures. Need to re-invent yourself. It’s not that hard you just need to start and stop making excuses. | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Posture while talking with girlsYup the right angle is everything | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 08:15 PM |
| 8 | Posture while talking with girlsJust stand normally and since their eye level is at your belt line, think about how awkward they feel with your member in their face but how they want it at the same time. This is not only true but will give you confidence in the conversation | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Posture while talking with girlsLol | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 6 | Escalating the conversation on dating apps - How I get laid without ever going on an actual dateIt’s not “or” it’s you do both. You flirt on text, phone, and in person. In fact if you don’t start with establishing sexual tension prior to meeting them for a date, she is more likely to conclude there is “no Chemistry” and ghost after the date. It’s like building a foundation of foreplay to frame your entire future relationship. | /r/seduction | 11/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Escalating the conversation on dating apps - How I get laid without ever going on an actual dateI was about to post a transcript of a text I’m having with a girl just to demonstrate this but then forgot to save my draft and wasted a half hour. Lol | /r/seduction | 11/07/24 01:17 AM |
| 0 | 2 ways to text a girl2nd is also good cuz it avoids a yes/no question | /r/seduction | 10/07/24 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Talking to a girl and boyfriend comes in..I like when they don’t tell your their bf is there and they let you chat them up and then bf comes back lol. I think they like making their bf jealous. | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Dating influencers isn't all its cracked up to beSome of them are great enterprisers and go on to host influencer events and other things that are corporate sponsored. The one I’m dating is 40 and still good looking but not able to get a following based solely on her looks. She was never an OF girl and is intelligent. | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Dating influencers isn't all its cracked up to beYea lol am dating at influencer now and this is 100% accurate. They are bit self absorbed. Can’t blame them it’s their job but can get wearing. They are constantly networking and getting people’s IG’s. Can get hard to not get jealous when they are talking to everyone including dudes to increase their following and find collaborations. Amazing how many other influencers and small business owners there are out there. Mine is a sort of micro local celebrity. Sometimes I feel like I can’t hang. I re… | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 05:09 PM |
| -9 | Do you mention your job on dating apps?Meh only Asian chicks and soccer moms are impressed by techies. They may make surgeon money, but the difference is the surgeon has six-pack abs and fucks while the techie can’t see their toes and ferments cheese in their neck folds. | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Been told I am funny, but not “flirty” or “charming”?If you are teasing while physically escalating successfully, I’m not sure why you would have an issue. A lot of my bantering is implying they are a “x type of girl” improve w/ situation, or taking some mundane topic and making it sexual sounding “oh you like it like that huh”… that may sound too simple but then she may play on it so you can riff into some dirtier talk and go from there. A classic cheesier one that can be good if not overdone is when she makes some motion with a cigarette or drin… | /r/seduction | 06/07/24 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Planning on quitting soonLife of a G. Don’t hate on yourself. | /r/seduction | 06/07/24 03:22 PM |
| 1 | I'm a beginner and need adviceJesus man tell me your secret then. Does she pay for dinners and cruise tix? | /r/seduction | 06/07/24 12:31 AM |
| 1 | I'm a beginner and need adviceThat’s true until you get passed the first date | /r/seduction | 06/07/24 12:08 AM |
| 2 | I failed a shit test and I'm worried it's a wrap...Work is a weird environment if you had that convo in a bar setting in context that you successfully escalated to that point, you would be golden. Especially when you are in ear shot of colleagues, she is going to protect herself against slut shaming. You are overthinking cuz she is attracted to you so you just need to get her alone and ask out to drinks alone after work and be yourself. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 11:28 PM |
| 27 | All you men need to stop putting pussy on a pedestalI thought this post was gonna be about not chasing and having an abundance mindset to get more pussy but it was about getting less pussy cuz chicks are skanks lol. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 07:35 PM |
| 3 | I'm a beginner and need adviceYes you need more than $1 in your bank account; what I’m saying is compared to older chicks who constantly want to travel and go to spa and and restaurants you don’t need that kinda money with college chicks. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:54 PM |
| 5 | I'm a beginner and need adviceIf I could go back and tell my younger self what to do, it would be: just make a move bro. Looking back, I missed so many go signals from chicks cuz I was an idiot. Important to be attractive, have a sexy hobby/ambition, and friends at that age. You don’t need money, cuz chicks your age are just looking for a fun time. So be fun. | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | asking a girl her true intensions of why she wants to dateIn my experience girls will offer that up on their own no need to ask | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 02:41 PM |
| 1 | I’m 41 - is it too late?How are the girls in Nashville? | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 02:10 PM |
| 5 | Why we like MILF's ?The hot married milf ten years younger then me I banged this year remains the best of 2024. Still have queued for the highlight reel. No boundaries, loved getting called a dirty slut and choked. Energetic as hell. | /r/seduction | 03/07/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Feeling like a loser if a date doesn’t end in sex?I’m 43. Trust me you can re-invent yourself at anytime. In fact, scientifically your cells regenerate and you are literally not the same person you were yesterday. You just need to allow your ego to get out of the way. | /r/seduction | 03/07/24 05:44 AM |
| 19 | Feeling like a loser if a date doesn’t end in sex?Are you looking for advice or someone to stroke your vagina? Flying out to meet a girl was your first mistake. You put her on a pedestal. Probably why she got turned off. You should have flown out to the DR to do what your wanted to do and meeting up with her as a secondary. Even if that was not true that is how you frame it in your mind and that is how she had to see it. Then you whined like a bitch. And you are still whining. You have to grow some balls, be a winner and quit this “I’m a loser,… | /r/seduction | 02/07/24 02:34 PM |
| 5 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?I know what that is like and it take continually effort. Sometimes I have to remind myself to ask them questions and not talk about myself. When we are in our introvert bubble, convos tend to run out of steam because we are trying to relate to the other persons story by telling a similar story about ourselves and if we don’t have one the convo fizzles. But that is why you ask them questions to spurn new topics of discussion. | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?You never know. People get seperated and divorced, date other people, learn and grow and come back together. But not always. I would never want to get back with my ex wife. She hurt me too much. Through that experience I am able to reflect on the the things I didn’t do that contributed to the decline of the marriage. In seduction terms, I stopped pursuing her. Married guys need to understand that you have to keep seducing your wife as if you just met her to keep the marriage strong. I underestim… | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?Bro take it from a fellow introvert….it’s not that you dislike social interactions, it’s that you are self-centered. You are not interested in other people’s lives so you don’t want to get to know them, because you think all you need in life is yourself. Yet ofc this is not true because humans are innately social creatures. So you need to get over your mental hangups. Start with the mindset of compassion for others. Your mission in life is to bring joy to the world and help others. So now with t… | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?Idk about losing virginity part. I guess if you are 30+ and are still a virgin then do it. When my wife left me and I was still a fat slob, I turned to escorts and they helped me get back on my feet tremendously mindset wise. I was doing other things like working out and therapy tho ofc escorts alone ain’t gonna fix you but they can be good kick starts to get over mental hang ups. | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 05:32 PM |
| 0 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?So start giving her the sexual fantasies she wants if you still want to keep her. Lot of married chicks are repressed and pent up. Like being chocked and spit on and called sluts. (Based on real life experience lol with a married chick and a recently divorced one.) | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 05:29 PM |
| -1 | Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend?Found a gf and she is holding me back from building my rotation 😭😭😭😭 | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 05:27 PM |
| -4 | The Secret Solution To 99% Of Your Dating ProblemsLol been there. You get with a super hot chick with great personality and fucks great and she’ll ruin you man. It’s okay the memory of that fades and you can settle for less again quickly | /r/seduction | 30/06/24 05:24 PM |
| 4 | The Secret Solution To 99% Of Your Dating ProblemsAlso having an abundance mindset should extend to all facets of life from social to financial to mental to physical. All areas. I have been guilty of applying it to some areas of my life but not others which is why I spent many years excelling in my career and while letting my physical health decline. I also only recently understood it in the social context of meeting women. Coupled with an understanding of the law of attraction, it is very powerful and life changing. It forms the inner game fou… | /r/seduction | 29/06/24 07:46 PM |
| 29 | How to lose your virginity in 2024It’s about as illegal as jaywalking | /r/seduction | 27/06/24 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Why LOOKSMAXXING Will Get You NOWHERE!Not sure why you are presenting as an either or scenario, but a lot of dudes have black and white thinking due to being too linear, rational minded. And that fucks up their game. Gotta get hot while doing the inner work at same time. | /r/seduction | 26/06/24 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Looking for wings in Tampa area for these next couple weekendssI would if I were there bro love Tampa esp St Pete beach | /r/seduction | 26/06/24 01:59 PM |
| 2 | I'm going broke wine n' dining American girls just to get ghosted. Want to go overseas.Man it doesn’t get any cheaper on the back end after you bang them dude, when you are courting them on that second through umteenth date. Women are an expensive hobby. Gf and wives are even worse. | /r/seduction | 26/06/24 01:55 PM |
| 1 | The dating cultural differences between Miami and TorontoSo a Toronto 8 is and Miami 4? In that case I will go to Miami and scoop up the 4s and 5s. | /r/seduction | 26/06/24 01:53 PM |
| 4 | My wife mentioned divorceNice guys do the white knight thing. I did it with my now ex wife. OP- read No More Mr Nice Guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Do you have to physically escalate on the first date?True but honestly you should break the touch barrier in the first 5 minutes of meeting her not wait for a first date | /r/seduction | 16/06/24 01:43 AM |
| 6 | Which celebrities applied sh*t tests?I have been getting shit tested daily by this girl I been seeing and FaceTiming with regularity (turning into a relationship maybe). You are right, it’s simply an attempt to throw you for a loop and see how you respond. They may act as if you said something to offend them or something they understood a different way that you intended, and then throw it back at you to defend. Or they might just say something to stir your emotions. They want to see if you get flustered, apologetic (I.e. no I didn’… | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 12:32 PM |
| 0 | am i too nice?Lmao “go in for the kiss” equals sexual assault? Your something else. Haha | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 02:45 AM |
| 1 | am i too nice?How does “get her hot and bothered and go in for the kiss” translate to “grope her” in your mind? | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 02:40 AM |
| 1 | am i too nice?Lmao what does that even mean 😂 | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 02:30 AM |
| 6 | am i too nice?Jfc don’t ask if you can kiss her. Get her hot and bothered and go in for it. You did everything right except that, which came across as boy like and it fizzled. | /r/seduction | 13/06/24 01:10 AM |
| 2 | We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.Thing is men with all those qualities are not going to be fat ass smooth brains. They had to develop those qualities through a commitment to excellence and achievement. This will show in their physical looks and demeanor. Definitely don’t need to be a metro sexual IG model with tats and lambos, but people shouldn’t think they can sit around and play Fortnite with $600 in their checking acct and magically acquire social intelligence and attractiveness without major lifestyle and mindset changes. | /r/seduction | 12/06/24 01:57 AM |
| 5 | We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.Go to nyc it’s all over | /r/seduction | 12/06/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.Because you don’t flirt effectively or sexualize conversations | /r/seduction | 12/06/24 01:45 AM |
| 15 | We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.It helps to not be retarded | /r/seduction | 12/06/24 01:44 AM |
| 3 | We all know a couple with average looking and hot girl.That’s what she said | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Post-decree moving out of stateDecree allows her to move anywhere. I moved out of state first so that’s why. Knew her leaving TX was a possibility but did not expect CA cuz that is from where we fled originally and it was her fuckin idea to leave but I digress. Custody is the issue. If she renegs, is the mechanism to get a CA lawyer, petition the court to enforce the decree, and the decision be subject to CA laws? I also wonder, if I ever moved there to be closer to the kids which is a likely in next year, and we are both in … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 05:46 AM |
| 28 | What are the smoothest/witty lines you've said to girls?How dare you assume my lip’s pronouns | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 02:17 AM |
| 32 | What are the smoothest/witty lines you've said to girls?100%. Gotta test the line to know where it is and learn to adjust depending on the girl. Finesse comes with experience. | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 12:48 AM |
| 20 | What are the smoothest/witty lines you've said to girls?Smash? | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 12:26 AM |
| 197 | What are the smoothest/witty lines you've said to girls?Exactly, just beware of the fine line between “I’m having fun” and being an asshole. | /r/seduction | 11/06/24 12:19 AM |
| 1 | After two dates she told me that she lost interestYou missed your chance to escalate beyond a kiss on the second date and she found someone that makes her wetter. It’s done. Double done that you got needy. | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 07:33 PM |
| 1 | How to Move Forward After Approaching Girls in Yoga Class?Hot yoga is the best | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Date with a girl next week“Please. Open your mouth. I want to look inside.” | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?Just lost weight and it went away. | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?It’s just surfer GQ look up O’Neill or rip curl and add bling. It works cuz I am a surfer in a beach town. Always button downs, open chest, form fittinc sexyyyy | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 07:01 PM |
| 1 | I Always Assume All Women Find me HideousYup said very well. I tried to to help this guy in another thread he is a lost cause. If you try to offer advice he will argue with you and is only committed to re-affirming his self-imposed hopelessness. | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?Less blue collar and more GQ but not try hard. In between | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?Bro 100% I should have emphasized that yes this is in the top 5 most important things | /r/seduction | 08/06/24 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?I lost weight and moved out of Texas. I never had asthma until moving there but I also gained a ton of weight so not sure if the weight made me susceptible or it was the environment or combination of both. I would get bronchitis and walking pneumonia every winter except last winter cuz I moved and lost the weight. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?I did treatment on face to remove sun spots and blemishes. And also lazer back hair removal. I am due to go back for second treatment, but I was talking to this chick who told me for face just to use a skin care product has retinol or something and the lazer is not needed. The Med spa is pushing Botox as they do, and I may do that at some point, is all you can do for lines and wrinkles. It’s definitely all worth it. Chicks I have talked to love Botox and told me I should do it. But I was expecti… | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 10:27 PM |
| 0 | If a Girl Smiles at you and you Don't Even Smile Back/Look Her in the Eyes, Does She Get Offended?Bro you are a shy, awkward dude trying to justify your flaws as “winning” while losing. Wake up bro. If you think you are ugly and you need to be attractive, then get hot. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 06:16 PM |
| 3 | If a Girl Smiles at you and you Don't Even Smile Back/Look Her in the Eyes, Does She Get Offended?Lmao that you are getting downvoted for spitting facts. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 06:13 PM |
| 0 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.Lol ok bro | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 01:57 PM |
| 0 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.You went from not approaching cuz you’ll be rejected to you are so Chad that you don’t have to? Bruh. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 01:49 PM |
| 19 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?Exactly 1 year. But only about 4 months to drop enough to be able to meet girls. This time of year it pays to be tan as well. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 01:31 PM |
| 12 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?19 youngest, oldest 50 prolly. Most are 25-40 range. | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 01:23 PM |
| 87 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?No 1 focus on getting ripped even if that means foregoing girls for a while. Then make sure your pictures are good and show your physique and around other people. Worth it to hire a pro maybe. Then get some clothes that are stylish and unique. Very personal choice your genre. You want form fitting shirts to show off your guns. All of this builds the confidence to have good game l, acquired through watching field reports, friends, and practicing while not taking it seriously. The more serious you… | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 05:10 AM |
| 8 | How to stop being perceived as husband material?When I stopped the getting to know you talk and just flirted and made her laugh through free association and storytelling, my results drastically improved. Also, I think if you sexualize enough from the start and portray your intentions in a flirty, fun, light hearted non overbearing way, escalation becomes more natural and better received. It’s all about laying that groundwork of seduction to build on throughout the set. The worst thing one can do is skip building the foundation and then later … | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 02:49 AM |
| 193 | Any late bloomers on here who hit your dating prime in your mid 30s or beyond?I am just entering my prime as we speak at 43. Divorced. Have banged 20 chicks in last year since separation which is 3x the girls I banged my entire life pre-marriage. It’s been a ride but I put in the work. Lost 65 pounds and got jacked. No more asthma, no more sleep apnea, no more acid reflux and skin breakouts. Got therapy. Got laser skin care treatments. Learned game. Learned fashion. No longer need to seek out hookers and strippers, now i just freestyle irl and my bumble generating leads t… | /r/seduction | 07/06/24 02:10 AM |
| 0 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.Q: Why do I suck at cold approach? Why have I allowed myself to rationalize that cold approach is silly just because I am not good at it? Am I straight? Do I want to fuck chicks or not? If so, what do I need to do to get better? | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 11:05 PM |
| 23 | Men who are in long term relationships - did you ever feel that you will ‘miss out’?Lmao, pussy gets old after a while. Ofc you will feel that way eventually. But men are more principled like you indicated. It’s the woman you gotta keep seduced as long as you expect to keep her loyal to you. I got divorced last year (9 year marriage and 15 year relationship). I been going buck wild since then and it’s amazing. During marriage and the declining years all I wanted to do was duck other women, but I never cheated. Gotta love new pussy. | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.You are asking the wrong questions | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 12:08 PM |
| 0 | How do I crack the Miami dating scene?Yes I am seeing one that is why I was there. | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 02:58 AM |
| 15 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.Lmao worst attitude possible. Take some responsibility and fix yourself. | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Cold Approach will SAVE you.I feel like this sub is a bunch of almost virgin tech nerds that approach pick up like coding and relatively few actually providing value. But there are nuggets here and there. | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 12:30 AM |
| 1 | I Can’t Stop Crying TodayFor sure it comes in waves man. I am a year in and even though I’m doing well, out of the blue some memory or something the kid says or just for no reason it all triggers the emotions and hits like a ton of bricks. I’ll have my little 5 min cry. Then I’ll get back up and keep walking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 10:58 PM |
| 0 | It WILL get better gentleman. I was where you are now…I hope it does for you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 06:24 PM |
| 2 | After your separation, what new habit or routine did you adopt?Gym 5 days a week coupled with athleanx program, protein and creatine supplements. Insane partying and drinking and picking up girls to fuck on the weekends. No More Mr Nice Guy (book). Weekly therapy for the first few months. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 03:33 PM |
| 6 | How do I crack the Miami dating scene?I mean that is a generalization that is not even true lol. People in that area are from everywhere in the world and every girl is different. | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 03:16 PM |
| 4 | It WILL get better gentleman. I was where you are now…Yea exactly. It’s always “I met this amazing woman 2 years ago and she is better than my exw in every way. Keep your head up gents and gl.” As if they are going to live happily ever after, and it won’t degrade into the same bullshit eventually. The goal of life is not marriage People, or even finding your soul mate. Enjoy that gf but know her love is as fickle as your exw and prepare accordingly for when shtf. That is happily ever after shit is Hollywood garbage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 01:54 PM |
| 3 | It WILL get better gentleman. I was where you are now…You mentioned don’t fall for the hate trap. Well don’t fall for the marriage trap again either. In my healing, I learned it is not about “oh she sucked, let me find a better woman” it’s about living life differently and on your terms. Women leave not for personal reasons but because they are genetically and socially programmed to leave. The particular circumstances are just a catalyst for their instinct to discard mates and find new ones. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 01:44 PM |
| 1 | I Can’t Stop Crying TodayI know exactly how it feels and its unfortunately part of the grief process. You are grieving a loss. You have to accept it’s a loss and work on letting her go. That is the only way to move forward. Therapists are key in the early stage you are in. It gets better but you have to be the one that moves yourself forward so it can. You have love yourself enough to commit to that. You deserve to be happy, but nobody will do that for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Late 30s dating...oofCuz men need sex. Let’s not rationalize ourselves into celibacy just because we can’t figure out the dating scene. Once you crack the code it gets easier. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Airport daygame date tonightYou can be honest by turning them on so bad they want to go smash and not really say anything resembling a cringy proposal lol. Just be cool and seductive. | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 06:48 AM |
| 37 | How do I crack the Miami dating scene?I was in Hoboken, NJ right across the Hudson from Manhattan and it is reasonable and like a 10 min train ride into nyc. Hoboken also has tons of hot chicks. | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 06:37 AM |
| 11 | How can I get multiple sexual partners?It’s less like fishing and more like tuna tossing | /r/seduction | 05/06/24 12:06 AM |
| 32 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadWell I am 43 and feel 26 maybe we swapped spirit animals | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 11:58 PM |
| 75 | 7 years of trying but achieved nothing, end of the roadDude you lost me at “I am 26”….maybe eat some shrooms to reset your soul and just try being a normal young dude | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Late 30s dating...oofExactly women do it with their looks so men have to do it with game which is way harder cuz we weren’t born with good game | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Going for a Hike with a Girl I Like This Weekend - How Can I Make Our Relationship More Intimate?Have you sexualized conversations (flirted, built sexual tension) already? If not, you are behind the eightball, and it will be weird to just start on a hike. You are teetering on the edge of friend zoned may already be too late having established yourself as a silly funny friend. Perhaps you can save it by doing a picnic. Bring a little wine. That will be consistent with the nice guy demeanor you have unfortunately established but give you an opportunity to build some sexual tension and go in f… | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Late 30s dating...oofThis is true I am more of a slut than most. I have 0% interest in forming a relationship with any woman aside from FWB. Lol. However seduction and pua still offer good psychology to help with retaining a woman in a relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Late 30s dating...oofYou have to improve your game to get good at dating. We are all climbing out of a cave and looking around for the first time. The world has changed. r/seduction is a good sub for this topic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 03:31 PM |
| 9 | Late 30s dating...oofI have been doing the dating scene for last year and my take aways are: -Dating apps are for hookups for Uber attractive people and fat/divorced chicks (I.e. low value women) with an oversized opinion of themselves looking for a man a couple notches higher to date them but those men aren’t interested unless drunk. -Dating apps are all about looks (if you want someone attractive) and your pictures are everything. Hot chicks have 100’s of likes full of chads that are hotter than you. Your message … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Can someone explain how casual dating works in the USA?Well it’s definitely not all there is, but the law of attraction is huge in every facet of life. Relates a lot to inner game- acting like you already banged her, acting like you already are successful. fake it till you make it is a saying for a reason. But you also have to believe it. It’s all energy man. We are just fractals moving through space and time 🤣 | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 02:11 PM |
| 2 | The biggest problem here is...Congrats on your divorce. I just celebrated 1 year since my ex left me on Sunday, in NYC visiting a girl I met and banged at a conference in AZ. I flew up and stayed with her the weekend. NYC has amazing women holy crap…my bumble is blowing up, 9’s and supermodels roaming the streets. What the fuck, I could live there. 😂 Also congrats on the weight loss. I lost 65 lbs and almost have a 6 pack. No longer a fat ass, I get checked out and hit on now it’s so funny the change. Post divorce single lif… | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 11:16 AM |
| 1 | How do you maintain a rotation?She wasn’t way way different but I honestly just kept my mouth shut lol | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 05:36 AM |
| 2 | How do you maintain a rotation?Yeah I met her irl which I think was key to getting through that funnel. Not happening on a dating app with my pics lol. Her profile made her like some celebrity model, I mean she is good looking but her pfp are insane. | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 05:31 AM |
| 4 | Being in shape, body game is the foundation to "seduction"You mentioned skin care which imo is underrated among men as being important. Wish I took better care earlier on. Now at 43 I have to deal with sun spot damage through laser treatments. Got the back hair removal too. I figured I better do what hot rich milfs do to stay young since it works for them. | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 05:28 AM |
| 9 | How do you maintain a rotation?Same happened to me and I swiped away, then it happened on her phone and she showed me her ridiculous Bumble profile and 100+ likes. chicks have it made lmao. | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 05:00 AM |
| 1 | How do you maintain a rotation?👊btw What do you put for relationship type on ur Tinder profile? | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 02:51 AM |
| 0 | How do you maintain a rotation?Yeah this makes sense vs leading them on by acting too boyfriendy just for the (self perceived) sake of being able to keep hitting it. I think that is the mistake I am making and gonna result in me hurting their feelings which I feel bad about. | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 01:49 AM |
| 7 | Chatting on dating appsWhen you compare the cost of a 1 yr bumble subscription to one night at the bars, even if bumble only results in a couple lays a year, its still worth it imo. Dating apps are awesome for booty calls. | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Does a "good" opener matter?I mean you gotta add value to their night you know? Say something funny so they laugh or engaging enough. Examples recently: Girl sits next to me at bar. She sat down at same time another dude sits down. I really assumed they were together. Later he leaves and I realize they are not together. My opener was “hey so you want to hear something funny? I thought you two were married by how you sat down together.” Her: “oh no lol we aren’t. I think the bartender thought so too.” Me: “yeah you two had … | /r/seduction | 03/06/24 11:58 PM |
| 2 | The mindset you may need to cold approach women.To oversimplify just talk to everyone like you know them already. Girls and guys. Not only does this get you in a social and talkative mood, when you are observed by girls bantering and being social with others, it helps with the pre selection. | /r/seduction | 03/06/24 11:39 PM |
| 0 | How good is your game?I define success as both lead generation and sex. When I cold approach a girl, get a number close, and she doesn’t ghost me when I text her, that is a quality lead. It may not transpire into more, but that’s ok. Same day pulls are obv the holy grail and I been on a hot streak lately. Bars and dating apps are all I have been doing. Airport bars (I travel a lot) are really good success usually for number pulls. My issue right now is trying hit that balance of keeping them rotation chicks and not l… | /r/seduction | 03/06/24 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Approaching women in public... and asking for a selfie?Yeah that’s why I one always text them before they leave to make sure I got a real number and shortly after to build a little text banter. As soon as they reply, that means they are at least mildly interested. Otherwise they will just ghost. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 07:13 PM |
| 1 | How to make seductive eye contact?Yea or when you catch them looking at you more than once and they look away. Just had this happen in an airport bar. Was getting another chicks number and had to catch my flight tho i I had the invite. The chick whose number I got was just sitting next to me and I had a good situational opener. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 07:10 PM |
| 2 | The mindset you may need to cold approach women.I had this issue where I am super social and confident at work cuz it’s part of my job as the boss only to find the opposite person come out in pickup scenarios. Only recently have a I been able to blend that confident energy from work into being flirtatious and fun in pickup. Just takes practice I guess. I just repeat to myself in my head when I’m out looking for chicks “like a boss.” | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who successfully faked it till they made it with confidence. How did you do it?That second paragraph is gold. That is the main point that helps me get over anxiety. You see somebody for a split second in your life and May never see them again, so why not shoot your shot and have fun with it? Who cares about the outcome. Literally nothing to lose except pride, which is just in your head. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Those of you who successfully faked it till they made it with confidence. How did you do it?Social conditioning is the reason why you don’t want to be upfront with your intentions. Confidence partly the ability to be upfront and honest. You have to practice the characteristics that breed confidence. There is no faking it other than perhaps believing in yourself and consciously deciding until it becomes second nature to allow yourself to be a man. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Older dating sceneHaving dated both twenty five year olds and forty year olds with kids I will say that the younger ones are wayyy more fun, but they are all equally crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Anyone want to make a new friend today?You don’t have to cold approach people at a grocery store lol that is more of a pickup technique. Doing social hobbies and going to events to meet people works too and is more natural. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 02:27 AM |
| 32 | How to have that "he is probably incredible in bed" vibe?To clarify, it’s a penetrating hug | /r/seduction | 28/05/24 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Short with handsome friend ? (Shitty title)I knew a short dude that was absolutely jacked and brimming with self confidence even arrogance. You just need to do what you need to do to become more confident. | /r/seduction | 27/05/24 01:46 PM |
| 7 | Does a "good" opener matter?Situational openers at night. Direct openers during day. Online apps is always a neg about something on their profile. | /r/seduction | 27/05/24 01:36 PM |
| 7 | Girls keep bringing up past relationships or hook ups they had or will have , not sure what prompts this to happen but I hate itI went on a date with one of those! Total trainwreck. | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 03:59 PM |
| 4 | How do I stop being a pussy and do what I set out to do?I stopped wearing Armani shirts and the gay attention stopped | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesWhat was your question? 🤣 | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 02:29 AM |
| 5 | Sexual tension 101Tease them, give them a cute sexy nickname, come up with a fantasy scenario to help get them on an instadate. Then escalate the physical touch gradually. | /r/seduction | 26/05/24 02:27 AM |
| 2 | How can I become a smooth talker?Read How to Win Friends and Influence People then practice. | /r/seduction | 25/05/24 06:29 PM |
| -3 | Have any of you guys just "gave up" on women?This thread is cope for dudes that can’t get laid and won’t do what they need to improve themselves so they can. Instead they blame it on being “ugly” or the “system.” Come on guys, be men. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/24 01:27 PM |
| 15 | I heard my friend say "women want men who other women want". Do you guys feel the same?I also ways drag my kids to bars with me to show I’ve successfully pro created and women flock to me | /r/seduction | 25/05/24 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Using your friend zone to your advantage!Girls are the best wings | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 12:36 PM |
| 6 | Can women provide wrong signals when horny or PMSing?That’s enough internet for the day | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesNice what was your opener? | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Girl changed her mind about sex while we were butt naked about to have sex.She could have ghosted but is apparently not a garbage human. She trying to be nice. Then it will be oh something came we are going home bye. Sorry your friend fucked up your set. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 10:34 PM |
| 6 | Girl changed her mind about sex while we were butt naked about to have sex.She just blowing him off sounds like. But yeah txt her and get over your pride | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 10:22 PM |
| 0 | What to do after a failed first approach with a girl at work ?That wasn’t an approach cuz you didn’t shoot your shot. But the good thing is you are building familiarity which is what you should do in that kind of environment. You want to build the small talk banter with her a little more. Get her comfortable with you. If you have a deadline that try to do that stuff soon, and then ask her out. You can use you leaving as a great excuse to ask her out. “Hey tomorow is my last day, lets exchange numbers and go x sometime” | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 05:07 PM |
| 0 | How to get someone's ig/number???I would suggesting tweaking to avoid asking questions and instead use “let’s go do this…let’s hang out….let’s exchange numbers. Or we should bla bla..Or here put your number in my phone.” Just don’t ask cuz that is beta. Command and lead like an alpha. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 05:02 PM |
| 81 | What to do after kissing a girl in clubYou keep the make out going and escalate by getting a little more sexual like run your finger from knee to hip along her thigh to start the tease and start talking a little dirty (depending on the vibe of course). Read her. Is she giving you the “I wanna fuck look?” You’ll know. Just keep priming the well. You should be seeding the pull all along so when you go for it, it is not out of the blue. If you do that + escalate the sexual tension, it doesn’t matter how you close, she will be begging yo… | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 12:49 PM |
| -1 | How to get someone's ig/number???Don’t ask. But first build the rapport and make them laugh. If you can get them to agree to a date then it’s easy, but otherwise just do this: after a good laugh, take your phone out and hand it to her so she can put her number in and say “here put your number in so we can coordinate later I’ll txt you.” This pretty much works every time. But yeah don’t do it cold you have to warm them up first. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Decent car for getting girls?Can’t go wrong with any of the following: sports car (stang, challenger, etc) Lux sports sedans (bmw, Audi, Lexus, charger, etc), full size upper trim model truck (chicks love trucks as long as not a work truck), jeep 4x4 (something about jeeps are panty droppers) Yes get a nice bmw or Audi. 25k-30k should do it. Don’t drive a 20 yr car. The car doesn’t matter as much as you think, but a big part is it makes you feel more confident and successful which is good. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 12:35 PM |
| 5 | Not interested in relationships, do true FWB's exist?Bitches be fucking other people. It’s like swimming with sharks. Better to be the shark. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Why don’t men go on “healing journeys”?Most of healing that inner child is realizing that you are good enough and don’t have to perform and please others to get them to love you. When I realized my exw was giving me the same bullshit complex my parents did, by making me believe I was bad and had to act better to be loved, and that I let myself fall into that role because of childhood conditioning, and it’s all BULLSHIT, it was very healing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Why don’t men go on “healing journeys”?We don’t say the words “healing journey” instead we say “strip club” | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Second date ideasMini golf Escape room At a bar side by side or lounge (outdoor bars are good choices for day time) Sunset cruise | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | How important is that initial eye contact?I have another variation. If you are passing a chick on the sidewalk walking towards you, most chicks will look at you from 20 ft away and avert eyes and not look at all when you walk by right? Unless they are into you. So what about a chick that looks at you right as you pass eachother but the look is not prolonged I.e. under 1 second. But is still a second look. Is that an invite signal? | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Help - lost rookieI first got good at banter at my first blue collar job in my 20’s with a bunch of dudes who talked shit to eachother all day. You need to some dudes whether personal friends, a team you play sports with, or at work to learn this social skill. I was relatively late learning compared to most dudes who were in sports or fraternities. It becomes part of your personality. Maybe there are some you tubes you can watch to start idk, cuz not something I could begin to teach in a Reddit comment. It’s like… | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Help - lost rookieBro all your three problems are the same. You are taking the safe, nice guy approach by trying to get to know them. Stop doing that. Focus solely on flirting, teasing, and bullshitting. Push and pull. Build sexual tension. The goal is get them to laugh and feel comfortable and fuck not get to know someone. Save that shot for after you get them hooked on the D when the direction shifts towards rotation or gf status. You can sprinkle in what do they do for work, relationship status, kid status, bu… | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 01:53 PM |
| 4 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesLiterally anything that doesn’t sound simpy. You can compliment an article of clothing, their style, their vibe, and it is better if the compliment has an element of neg. “Hey who told you you can wear black tonight, tonight is my night to wear black.” Like that. If night game, a situational opener works well. “Hey did you hear about the after party?” Or “hey your drink looks fruity are you fruity too?” If day game, “hey there white jacket girl” or simply hey I was on my way to xxxx and you walk… | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 01:32 PM |
| 76 | I’m addicted to female attention.The ironic thing is he has the mentality of a hot woman and the ego to go along with it, yet for women it’s acceptable and not for men? Screw that I think OP is doing just fine lol. | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 01:13 PM |
| 7 | How many girls do you talk to at a time?Hell yeah bro your killin it. I got divorced last year and dropped 60 pounds. Pretty cut now and my results have exponentially improved due to looks. I am still old and bald, but I am tan and jacked and shave that noggin down! I’m pretty hilarious and witty which helps a lot. Be funny guys! If you are not funny than you might need to kills some brain cells to disrupt your linear minds! Lol | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 12:49 PM |
| 1 | How many girls do you talk to at a time?Are you talking about both leads and rotation chicks or just the rotation? Cuz by adding leads (from dating apps, numbers irl, texting to keep the leads warm until you can meet up) plus managing the rotation it can easily get up to 10 at a time, but for me only actively hanging out with around 3 of them. 2 of them are in other states which helps managing. Last weekend I had one bar pull on top of that that turned into 3 days of hanging out while one of my rotation chicks wants to FaceTime every … | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 12:28 PM |
| 2 | I’m fairly new to clubs but is this the norm that club girls have a friend that cock blocks?I wasn’t | /r/seduction | 22/05/24 02:08 AM |
| 6 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesNever compliment a woman’s beauty until after you bang her and even then do it sparingly. Puts you instantly in desperate nice guy / friend zone. | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 11:09 PM |
| 19 | Daygame Statistics - My first 1000 ApproachesShould be a YMMV disclaimer on this post cuz OP’s conversion rate is horrendous and not my experience at all. OP’s method is almost like the PUA equivalent of email spam. | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Yeah man and chicks are all different, some are more reserved and don’t really do that kind of talk until you are banging them. Gotta sort of read the room. | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Hit new level. Things I learned.So remember it’s in the context of building sexual tension and escalating physical touch throughout the night. I didn’t go there until after we made out. I kinda forget the first thing I said. I might have had my hand on her ass and commented I like your ass or some shit or she is sexy or some shit as we are making out and being handsy I don’t even know but then she said “oh you wanna get down?” I respond “yeah baby I’ll get down with you.” And she was like “oh yeah can handle this?” or some shi… | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 05:58 PM |
| 2 | I’m fairly new to clubs but is this the norm that club girls have a friend that cock blocks?The other girl not being interested is fine that is the beauty of bringing in your wing, so that part was all good, but you should either brought him in from the beginning or engaged her friend. They don’t like to feel ignored. | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 12:51 PM |
| 2 | I’m fairly new to clubs but is this the norm that club girls have a friend that cock blocks?Yeah I would think your friend would initiate going over to help since that was his chick. If it was just some dumb drunk stumble there could have been a lot of opportunities to help while teasing and making fun of the situation. “What happened did you break your ass?” You help get them out of the club. You pick up your girl cuz “your friend is so clumsy I don’t know how good your walking skills are so I’ll carry you” and then you are outside nursing the boo boo. Would be this little scenario to… | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 12:30 PM |
| 6 | I’m fairly new to clubs but is this the norm that club girls have a friend that cock blocks?I mean it’s prolly not worth over analyzing. But if I was in a set with two girls and a wing and that fall happened, we are still in the set you know what I mean. So there is a choice to abandon the set or stay in the the set by staying with them during this fall thing and helping or whatever. Sounds like it wasn’t serious so the aftermath could have provided alot of opportunities for y’all. But you chose to abandon the set, which ofc the girls noticed, so when they came back it was already off.… | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 12:17 PM |
| 25 | I’m fairly new to clubs but is this the norm that club girls have a friend that cock blocks?I mean her friend fell and needed help and y’all just stood there and didn’t help while they left? That probably why they were cold when they came back. | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 02:26 AM |
| 1 | I finally have a girl who's into me. How do I just not fuck up.You are doing the nice guy playing it safe and being desperate I want you to be my girl thing which doesn’t work. Texting is huge for women, you need to keep it fun and flirty so the txt convo adds value to their life. Not being good at this is not only boring but makes you look socially not attune, needy, or worse a creepo. It works best to say what you want to say not what you think you should say to get her to like you. If you can build a fun and flirty text exchange that will help grease the… | /r/seduction | 21/05/24 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Important talk - Big talk about ApproachingLol you are a piece of work forget it | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Important talk - Big talk about ApproachingYou don’t get it bro. Just trying to help. | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Important talk - Big talk about ApproachingI say this all the time but, if you are not leading your best life, are successful, have finances figured out, love yourself, are staying on your purpose, you will not be confident enough or have the demeanor or big dick energy to attract talent. If you do, all of that body language and confident demeanor with chicks will be so easy as is just a matter of improving techniques. | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Important talk - Big talk about ApproachingIt comes down to your body language and demeanor. Forget the guidelines. Try to use a couple of the PU techniques/framework and add until it becomes second nature. Overthinking in the moment by trying to mentally reference a framework while your picking up a chick will make you come across forced and kill the vibe. | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Different strokes for different folks my boy! | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Important talk - Big talk about ApproachingApproach but don’t chase | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Approached and got told to F offIn a social setting yes to a certain degree but not a subway | /r/seduction | 20/05/24 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Approached and got told to F offDay game is harder for me bro cuz they got their guard up and you have to interrupt them. Saturday’s and Sundays are best for day game imo. I love the happy hour pickup scene when they are just getting going. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 09:29 PM |
| 4 | Best app for hookupsOnly success on apps I have had is bumble and hinge. Remember to establish some rapport very briefly then get the number. Over text, continue the flirtation a little more, then ask them to drinks. Don’t play the get to know you over text game. Your only focus is to flirt and establish you are not a creepo and fun enough for her go out with. If more than a week goes by without meeting up, they go cold and unlikely to happen after that. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 07:40 PM |
| 15 | Approached and got told to F offBro I approached this table of 2 chicks recently and was immediately told to “keep on walking.” I understand how it can mess with you a little bit but just shake it off with another approach. Most are not like that. And I been with women every week the last 4 weeks from cold approach. One thing. You broke the 3 second rule. You should not hesitate. Just talk to them right away. She probably saw you at the other stop and on the train and then by the time you approached her it seemed desperate lik… | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Yup exactly the right analogy | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Man that is a good question. Chicks want pretty boys and bad boys- especially in a night game scenario. confidence and swagger is number 1. Have a unique and little edgy style #2. I am a surfer in a beach town, so my style at night is dressed up local surfer dude. Add some bling like nice watch and jewelry. Tats would help but I have none. She had a tat. Perceived lifestyle is #3 that builds on the first 2- that you are going through life and are having your cake (drinking, smoking, partying, do… | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Hit new level. Things I learned.It’s really both but you are right- it’s managed chaos. There is some deliberate framework and technique going on but the vibe is this is spontaneous and just happening naturally. The formula is really just the typical PUA framework with certain techniques that I find effective to form a base around the spontaneously evolving situation. You have to drive it with your personality and individuality. There is no guarantee of outcome. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Hit new level. Things I learned.This is good advice lol. Her explanation throughout the night was that her status was “complicated” and gave the impression she was separated. Did not really want to talk about it. I only found out she was still fully married (she just wanted to get divorced) and looking to cheat on her husband about an hour before the pull. At that point there is not stopping the train. But honestly, had she told me in the first 5 minutes, I wouldn’t give a shit haha. I mean if she lived in the same town, I wou… | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Hit new level. Things I learned.This reminds me of another important point. She was not a drinker/party girl. We were actually heavily regulating our intake all night to avoid getting wasted so we could fuck and also go on this fantasy run we were talking about later. She normally did not go out and drink. Did not do drugs. We had about 4 drinks and a few shots as a group total, which is like base drunk not hammered. Point is, when I got there and met her, I had no drink yet and waited a good 20 minutes before ordering one wel… | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Hit new level. Things I learned.So I am in a very touristy beach town and I find that many women are looking for a fling. The tourist women are way easier for same day pull and higher quality than locals. This is my first married one tho lol. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Yeah this great | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Would have ubered I guess. We were discussing going to some bars further away but I tried to keep us local cuz I knew her hotel was right there. | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 12:02 AM |
| 3 | Hit new level. Things I learned.She was on vacation alone and had the hotel room. | /r/seduction | 18/05/24 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Hit new level. Things I learned.It’s just finally clicking. Now need to to sustain this over long term lol | /r/seduction | 18/05/24 08:51 PM |
| 8 | Hit new level. Things I learned.For sure, this is my 5th one basically following this formula in last month. 2 were dating apps which took care of the pre selection issue and no wings needed. | /r/seduction | 18/05/24 08:05 PM |
| 57 | Hit new level. Things I learned.Shorter version: talk to hot chicks alone at bars; seed the pull early and artfully; being in a group of friends can help a lot for pre-selection; get them on instadate; be a manly bad boy; come up with a ridiculous scenario fantasy that is funny to frame your instadate; gradual physical escalation throughout night; give them a sexy nickname; talk dirty; close From approach to close was about 5 hours. Get there early so you have enough time is another tip. | /r/seduction | 18/05/24 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Why do i pull only fat girls?I am curious. What do you like about it? I have dabbled recently and was not impressed. | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet?Bars and social activities to make new friends and build that network. I find the best success with girls that came through other acquaintances/ friends or “know of me” through work affiliations due to pre qualification principle. | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 07:36 PM |
| 8 | There's nothing I can do.Bro “she lawyered up” is all you need to know. The amicable divorces are those that start with a mediator you both hire or the collaborative divorce attorney route. If she didn’t mention any of those things then that leaves the last most common option: a litigated divorce. The relationship then becomes adversarial because you are opposing sides of a lawsuit. The amicable feelings will disappear overnight because the lawyer will push her to take advantage of you. In the background her friends and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 04:39 AM |
| 4 | How Do You Move Forward?Maybe start walking 10 minutes multiple times a day. Walking can be life changing. Gateway drug to the gym. Exercise helps your mood and energy level which helps you get out off the house and do stuff. Turn off the TV. At first may feel forced but make yourself go out and be social and meet people. Meet dude friends and girls. Socializing is also a muscle you gotta exercise and build a habit. Women want a man that takes care of himself physically and displays social intelligence/ is socially att… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 04:21 AM |
| 11 | There's nothing I can do.Your situation sounds a ton like mine in the beginning. I went through the redpill process. She has manipulated you into thinking this is all your fault. That’s the first thing you’ll learn. Couples go through shit together. Individually we go through shit cycles and need the others grace and forgiveness during that time. The vow was “through thick and thin.” She broke her vow. She broke up the family. So she is the piece of shit. And she ain’t coming back. You did your best. You honored the vow… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 02:29 AM |
| 6 | Where to meet?Not only that but some of those Mormon dudes are hoarding the women with 16 wives and shit | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Where to meet?Agree, at least travel often. Gotta go to where the chicks are at if I were 29, I would move to a university town. I’m 43 and did that. The river never runs dry. | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Can I get a Hell Yea?Hell yea brother! Cheers to being single and free! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 05:35 AM |
| 1 | Using alcohol to start cold approachingI can’t tell you how many times at night my pickup skills went from 100 to 0 cuz I got too drunk. | /r/seduction | 16/05/24 04:06 AM |
| 7 | So what about sex?This is terrible advice lmao | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsMaybe you should go to another country for your last rodeo. Spicy foreign women are fun | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 05:22 PM |
| 7 | Today is the day of my divorce and I'm just so sad.Need to read no more Mr nice guy. It is likely that you showering her in love was a big a reason the attraction from her died. I was like that too. Didn’t understand sit until reading this book. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 01:22 PM |
| 5 | I almost feel like during the separation, she completely managed to deconstruct our history and relationships to accommodate her decision to separate.I have no tolerance for that shit anymore. Was on a 3rd date with this girl and she tried to gaslight me and tell me things she said didn’t happen and I was like nah I’m out. Right then and there. Told her to gtfo. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 01:17 PM |
| 1 | I wish someone would tell me what to do. I’m going insane.If she is hot and not a bitch then give it another go, if not file. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/24 01:59 PM |
| 4 | When people say sorryYeah I was on a date last night and told the chick I wasn’t looking for nothing serious. At end of the night she said to call her when I wanna stop being a fuckboi 🤣. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 02:59 PM |
| 10 | When people say sorryThis is easier said, but work to reinvent yourself brother. Divorce is a death, but is also a rebirth. Dwelling in the middle is purgatory | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 09:10 PM |
| 2 | When people say sorry😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Always losing from other menMany are like that but it varies wildly. Some get really into it, deep French kisses, orgasms etc especially repeats and sugar babies. And yeah you can’t over think it cuz they ain’t gonna ever fall in love. | /r/seduction | 03/05/24 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Always losing from other menYou have have a certain mindset going in that is just to get you out of a funk but not get addicted. | /r/seduction | 03/05/24 12:41 AM |
| 7 | Always losing from other menTaught me a lot and resulted in the opposite of self-destruction actually lol. | /r/seduction | 03/05/24 12:23 AM |
| 6 | Always losing from other menYeah agree losing virginity would help with that stigma but inner game-wise would need to view it like therapy vs something to feel ashamed about. Yeah and don’t tell a girl you lost your virginity to a hooker lol. From personal experience, when I got a divorce I turned to hookers and sugar babies to get me through the trauma. But this was while working even harder to improve my self image and physical appearance. I think since I viewed as a temporary crutch that I had to drop eventually to go f… | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 11:03 PM |
| 58 | Always losing from other menBro this is not gonna be the popular thing to say, but you should probably get yourself a good escort to get it out of your system. You’ll gain some experience that way too and might boost your confidence and help you appear less desperate which is the vibe you are putting off. Secondly, you have to like yourself more. Don’t call yourself a loser, that is so damaging to your psyche. You should be doing the opposite like doing daily affirmations in there mirror of how much you love yourself. | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 10:24 PM |
| 1 | I can’t pick up women but succeed on Tinder datesGet them to laugh when you open it is the best way. | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!No spousal ! thanks man, no the $50k is 20k money she stole out of joint acct right before she failed and rest is moving twice, furnishing a new house and hookers 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Coming out of a 10 year hiatusYour story is so close to mine. I am 9 divorced, 3 kids, family across country, and work in govt. I have been spending the last year since we split working in myself. Lost 60 lbs, go to gym most days, looking good now. I been out of the game for so long I found certain PUAs on you tube very helpful to learn fundamentals and the kind of shit I never even knew. I have been with close to 20 women in last year. Prior to my wife my body count was like 6. Another thing that helped was finding some dri… | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 02:40 AM |
| 1 | I just had an idea to practice text gameI find the best place to walk my dog is down Main Street where there lots of people walking and street cafes and stuff. Preferably on weekends. Buzzed chicks want to say hi to doggo and that’s your opener, and the chick is already in a social mode. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Mastering communication before going to bars/night clubsYou should learn the framework and some techniques of night game and then go practice irl. Then learn alittle and go practice and again. You need to see what works and doesn’t to improve. It is not doing this before so that. It is doing both. Just like getting good at anything. The learning and practicing go hand in hand. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Women’s interest just die outProbably not sexualizing/flirting enough to get them on a date. When I text women on apps all I do is stay stupid sexual funny shit and flirt and they eat that shit up. Leads to intrigue and meet up irl. Especially if you are trying to get to know them over text it is totally the wrong move. Keep the mystery going | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 02:02 AM |
| 2 | How many dates you should wait before sleeping with a guy?Too complicated already it is doomed. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!Haha I heard that joke last night | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Where to look for high income women?Seems like you just need to befriend the married ones in your circles m. If they like you they will hook you up with their single friends and cousins who may be well to do. | /r/seduction | 25/04/24 01:06 PM |
| 10 | Where to look for high income women?You gotta switch over to social media conferences then. Women are in there | /r/seduction | 25/04/24 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!I hope I threw the sarcasm in there enough to convey that it is all absolutely a bum deal in most aspects. The freedom part tho is truly the cherry on that turd pile. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 12:10 PM |
| 31 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!About one year ago as my marriage was unraveling, I was on anti-depressants, had suicidal ideation, was 60lbs heavier, and was just miserable. I would lay in bed seriously just wanting my mama to hold me. Fast forward I held on and reinvented myself. Yeah the scars remain, but the future is bright. Career, physical health, and dating life better than ever. And through it all my mental and spiritual health proved resilient. I know some of you are hurting right now, and it’s still fresh. This will… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 03:23 AM |
| 2 | 25M bout to get laid for the first time. Need helpIt wont, alcohol is a penis killer | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 02:39 AM |
| -1 | 25M bout to get laid for the first time. Need helpSkip the oral and go straight for the coolo trust me bro | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 02:27 AM |
| 6 | I'm hurtingThis shit is a common tactic to gain custody. Sorry fren. She doesn’t love you anymore. However for kids to be taken by CPS, there is more going on here than you are letting on. Regardless, my exw pulled the same shit that I saw through and CPS ruled out any charges cuz they were bs. But if you play along with this, it can absolutely fuck up your custody. Eventually, once she is out of the picture and you work on yourself, you will realize you are depressed because you are in a dead marriage and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Divorce should be wrapped up this week. Where should I go?Hot bitches by the beach in a tropical paradise. Everyday is big big party. 😀 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Divorce should be wrapped up this week. Where should I go?Jaco, CR. The Cocal. 😄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 04:33 AM |
| 5 | Day 66.I’m on month 10. Mostly I miss my kids and not her, but occasionally those feelings of wanting it all back creep in. I know this is missing an idealized version of what we had that wasn’t reality anyway. I am well over the initial hurt and blame phase. Processing my role in things without trying to blame myself so I can become the best version of me. I am reading No More Mr. Nice Guy which is mindblowingly accurate. Really is better than most therapy. I was out by the pool this last weekend and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 12:21 AM |
| 3 | Where to meet singles if you don’t go to bars and clubs?All I get on dating apps are sugar babies and 40yr old damaged single mothers that remind me of my exw. Went on some dates with them and learned I need someone younger that is not scarred. | /r/seduction | 31/03/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Where to meet singles if you don’t go to bars and clubs?If you want as woman that is BSC yes | /r/seduction | 31/03/24 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Going too Fast?That last part yes. Now you are thinking like a mafia boss. “Gee it would suck if a certain hospital suddenly knew… that a certain high ranking exec had an affair, I mean it could be leaked to the press.” Now give me EVERYTHING lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Going too Fast?Aw man that is lame. TX is a no-fault state too but there are 3 big things that affect assets, custody and alimony and that is adultery, abuse, and handicap status. I guess it would depend on your judge and their ruling history if a trial decision would help you with those. You really want to be able to prove she had sexual relations or better actual sex with him and/or she was using joint funds to go on excursions with AP, or by them gifts using $ that is technically community property. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Going too Fast?You can continue in mediation and argue no spousal maintenance due to her affair and threaten jf she doesn’t agree you’ll go to trial. As long as you got some receipts you can totally embellish that shit to make her look bad. Can even argue for a disproportionate asset split due to her infidelity if you can tell the story right and have some evidence to back it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 03:02 PM |
| 10 | Dating again whats the normMy method is if you do text it needs to be charged with playful flirtation otherwise don’t text just to check in. Use it as a tool to increase the sexual tension for the next date. If you can’t do that, just don’t text. You are a busy high value man that doesn’t have time to text or say good morning because you have shit going on. So definitely don’t text everyday. Be mysterious. Check in here and there only if you can accomplish good flirtation. Texting can be a good opportunity to screw things… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/24 02:37 AM |
| 5 | How much net worth did you lose?About 350k | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 04:23 AM |
| 1 | How much net worth did you lose?Would be very difficult to leave Orange County now since most other areas don’t pay as well except maybe elsewhere in CA. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 04:21 AM |
| 1 | how do people even make conversation in loud bars and clubs?I am near deaf in left ear so I lead them to talk into my right ear. Being deaf is sexy they like it, i tell them, I’m fuckin deaf lol. Panties drop no need for words. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 12:28 AM |
| 12 | I never want to do this again.Yup and I would add that they love how getting that stuff makes them feel. They feel provided for and contained. And regardless of you providing that stuff, if they perceive anything about you that changes that emotional feeling, which tends to happen because they will perceive that a better option is out there, they discard you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/24 05:12 PM |
| 6 | This what I learned from this.The women with honor and dignity are dying off. They were raised by a strong male. Modern culture has destroyed masculinity and teaches men to be ashamed of their nature and submit to female independence. Women are not attracted to submissive men, yet if we try to be dominant and lead our women, we are emotionally abusive. So it is a game that is impossible to win. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/24 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Just filed for Divorce in TexasThe only good thing about it is no alimony everything else sucks just as bad as anywhere else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/24 02:01 PM |
| 1 | How important is penis size for one night stands?Same I get that “you have a big dick” from some women but not others depending on where they have been I guess. I can’t use normal condoms cuz of the girth, so that is the main reason it feels big to them some of them I think. I had an sb who made a crack about it being small (prolly was used to some AA peen lol) and then others that can barely take it all in and complain. Women’s pussy canal length also varies. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 02:03 PM |
| 5 | What are you eating?My ex never cooked me meals. She would make the kids dinner and not me. When I came home and complained she would get mad and tell me to figure it out. What a worthless wife. Once kids came into the picture I was nothing more than an atm. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 04:38 AM |
| 3 | What are you eating?260 to 217 in last 40 weeks. Another 20 to go is my goal then focus on building muscle. All working out 4-5x a week and limiting calories to 2000/day. Hit a plateau on Jan at 235 and started intermittent fasting and steps at 10k plus per day. Alternating hi carb (like pasta and rice) and low carb days (soups and salads) and trying my best to keep lean protein intake high on all days. When my kids are with me I eat more junk cuz they are little junk food heathens but I just limit calories to stay… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 04:37 AM |
| 4 | Dating other women, dealing with breakupsI get what your saying but there is also a lack of black fathers in the household and broken generations due to decades of welfare state and systemic inequity. The brothas that have their shit together yes they ain’t getting fooled by women and caught on a lot faster, probably in part because of welfare laws incentivizing single motherhood fueled that fire which is an injustice to the family unit but that phenomenon has gone mainstream due to social media hypergamy culture so we are all in the s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 01:00 AM |
| 8 | Creating Wealth Post-Divorce Without Having to Give it to Ex?Read this: https://www.assetprotectionplanners.com/strategies/hide-assets-divorce/legally/ A divorce is a lawsuit so this advice applies. Find a good financial advisor with experience on such matters to help you maneuver. You have the first mover advantage since nobody has filed otherwise none of this would work therefore it is absolutely imperative that you stbx does not catch wind of why you are doing this. Speak nothing of divorce until you have protected your assets. Post-divorce, the less y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Ex-wife moving with kidsHasn’t happened to me yet but can see her doing it down the road. Have discussed scenario with my lawyer. All you can do is wait till she moves and then move yourself to be closer. Hopefully your decree spells out custody for living certain distances like 0-50, 50-100, 100+ miles. Mine does. Also if she starts to not honor the custody terms and she is in another state, it becomes much harder to enforce, so then you have to get a lawyer in the state she is residing to figure it out. Fun. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now?Yes it is same here but I met mine when she was 25 and didn’t marry her until she was 32 and after ignoring some huge red flags. Divorced men are taught to wish young love the best and not taint it with their own struggles because of gyno cabal programming as most have internalized their personal story as a failure and better luck next time vs. swallowing the red pill that marriage is a scam. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now?It’s hard to be young and resist a cute 26 y/o old that has not shown you the other side. My heart goes out to these young men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 01:56 PM |
| 2 | LuckyI too am 43. Step 1: get ripped. Then those woman will be in your league. I was a fatty during marriage and lost 40 lbs already. Still got 20 more to go but man am I feeling great and looking alright. Got young woman everywhere in my town. Feels like the hot 28-40 year olds are plenty flirtatious. Step #2 is getting over my divorce PTSD to actually seek out a gf. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 03:51 PM |
| 5 | LuckyMet a 65 year old dude in Jaco, CR last year in impeccable shape and living his best life if you know what I mean. 59 is not old bro. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 03:50 PM |
| 2 | LuckySerial marriagors | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce?Earning that label means we are doing something right. It’s a smear tactic of the gyno cabal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce?Why would I not want to date a modified version of the woman who tried to destroy my soul? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Divorce dissonanceYes dude I relate to this so much. I’ve been seeing all these women which was fun for a while but I got tired of being on the hunt, and now that I’ve been just chilling and not looking feel more content | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Divorce dissonanceYup! Love that song | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/24 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Was it a celebration or relief?Best answer | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/24 07:08 AM |
| 2 | Why 50/50It does! I love being divorced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Rebuilding life after a 20-year divorceWhen I was in that close to home situation, my therapist advised joining men’s group through a church. I never did, but can see the benefits. It’s like this subreddit just real life support and might even get some friends that are going through it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Rebuilding life after a 20-year divorceSimilar story except in-laws moved closer to us and we even bought them a house to live and then it all unraveled the same as you. They got very ugly to me to the point I didn’t even feel safe in the same town. I felt like they were constantly trying to fabricate lies to report to CPS and take my kids away. Then I got a once in a life job opportunity 1000 miles away and as hard as it was to leave, I left. Much happier away from them. I still see my kids once a month plus spring breaks and summer… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 03:51 PM |
| 9 | My wife came home from work today and asked for a divorceYou need to change your perspective because fear is bringing you down. Divorce is a wonderful thing to be celebrated not feared. You will get rid of that soul sucking sucubus and be free. You can get another girlfriend if you want. And your kids will be fine as long as you don’t abandon them. Kids are resilient and I think divorce is harder on parents then the kids. Being in a dysfunctional marriage is more damaging to them then two happy parents living separately. Who cares if they have a step … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 02:38 PM |
| 0 | Why 50/50I moved 1000 miles away because I got a huge career opportunity just in time to start my life over after my exw ruined my reputation in our small town. I have 3 girls 4,6,8 and their mother has done her best to brainwash them into considering her the primary parent. That was a big problem in our marriage as well, but I digress. Two are big daddy’s girls and the older one (also 8) is all about mom and complains about seeing me but then she has fun when she is with me, yet when mom asks her she ac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 05:09 AM |
| 3 | Going CrazyLet these be a message to all men considering a second, 3rd marriage…WHY?! FUCKING. WHY. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 03:31 AM |
| 4 | Are you looking for some sanity in this crazy process? Check out this video. Men have feelings too. Mostly men commenting and feeling validated in the comments.I relate to this so much. I think the biggest lie in the world is “happy wife, happy life.” The boomer in-laws love to say this shit cuz that is how they got through it. So much so that that passive giving in mentality became who they were. Then came along feminism and they still want us to be passive yet don’t respect us at all if we do even if they say they do. And then if you aren’t passive, you are “emotionally abusive” and they go on their echo chamber social media platforms to be validated… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 02:15 AM |
| 2 | What I love about being divorcedHey if your new girl is working for you then it’s working. There are trade offs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 05:51 AM |
| 1 | LonelyBro I am not that good at making friends or keeping them. I have a few but not what I would call close friendships mostly dudes from jobs I used to have or I met at the bar that I drink and banter with from time to time. Old friends from HS have drifted away long ago. Some of us are just lone wolfs and built that way. Do you have a dog or pet? That helps with the loneliness. Dogs are truly a man’s best friend. But yeah we need human connection cuz we are human. But if we don’t go out and put in … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 01:08 AM |
| 1 | My MIL and BIL are destroying our marriageIt’s been 9 mo since seperation and we have kids so we are technically still at war, communicating through OFW. It’s about to wrap up with the final decree any day now but I won’t get the luxury of severing ties due to coparenting part. There has been a whole new set of issues with how ugly the divorce has been so very much doubt we will reconcile or get back together. At one time I did but now I wouldn’t want to even if she did. With how shitty she is with money she will keep coming to me for t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 12:04 AM |
| 2 | What I love about being divorcedThis is big one for me because I went from gf to gf since I was 16 basically and never really learned game. Just relied on being young and decently funny and had interesting hobbies which helped me I think. Now I am 43 and need a new approach. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 11:55 PM |
| 2 | What I love about being divorcedOh no! How many can you lose until you re-evaluate being in the relationship? Rhetorical question | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 11:50 PM |
| 3 | What I love about being divorced🤣 holy crap that needs to go on the list. I used to look at the endless target and Amazon purchases on the cc statement and feel visceral pain from it | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 11:48 PM |
| 1 | What I love about being divorcedHmm maybe add that to 20.) 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 11:46 PM |
| 2 | My MIL and BIL are destroying our marriageMy exw was SAHM but her mother was the breadwinner in their house growing up. My exw made no money yet wanted to dominate the household and me because that was her model growing up. It is very clear now but during the time I didn’t really put two and two together and I played a part in enabling her behavior. I appreciated her as the primary caregiver, for scheduling my doctor appts, for ruling the roost so to speak, so I could focus on work and man chores outside and I idealized the traditional … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 11:33 PM |
| 2 | My MIL and BIL are destroying our marriageShe filed for divorce and blindsided me after we barely start counseling. She said I was unwilling to change into the version of a husband she wanted which was true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 04:09 PM |
| 5 | My MIL and BIL are destroying our marriageYou wife sounds a lot like my exw. When her parents moved to our town our marriage was over within 6 months. Before that when they visited while living 1000 miles away still, she would become a self entitled brat and it would always cause problems. They are very influential to her while also blowing smoke up her ass and she is a generally weak minded person. I would complain about how she changed for the worse in their presence and she would acknowledge how crazy they made her and we would laugh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Hitting the grateful stage of divorceI put in a valiant effort but in the end she got primary, so they whatever. To make it worse she likes to use holistic dentists that aren’t covered under insurance, so I had to negotiate in our settlement that I will not pay for out of network froo froo jojoba doctors. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Hitting the grateful stage of divorce3 and 8 are big ones for me. She always fed our kids fast food trash and candy. The minute I tried to limit the candy she would bash me for it. My mom never fed me any of that shit the most I got was Honey Nut Cheerios and I had zero cavities now years later I thank her for not exposing me to the toxic shit. My kids on the other hand all have cavities because of her and thousands in dental work needs. She would cook a real meal a few times a year and wanted a medal for it. Her mom taught her all… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 06:33 PM |
| 7 | What I love about being divorcedOh yeah that is 21.) Not having to be someone’s girlfriend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 04:04 PM |
| 14 | What I love about being divorced😂 totally I remember her starting the morning yelling at me for some tiny thing while I was half unconscious and then getting more mad that I was not responding cuz I was half conscious | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/24 04:06 AM |
| 3 | Tom Brady was cheated on tooYes it was one of those rock in roll non-denominational churches. I am so turned off to it now I am unsure I will ever go to any church again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/24 04:52 AM |
| 4 | Really lowMake sure you are starting each day, I know it sounds cheesy with words of affirmation in the mirror. “You are loved, you are enough.” Say it 20 times every day. Fucking seriously. Success is all about mindset. When you get to that job interview, visualize yourself already having the job. During your day visualize yourself seeing your kids again and how much they love and how that feels. Pick a number you think you can make $ this year and believe that you can. Then outline an exact plan for how… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/24 03:37 AM |
| 8 | Tom Brady was cheated on tooMine went off the reservation when we started going to church. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/24 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Post divorce phasesFor me I began a new gym routine right after seperation. But I had a goal of getting ready for trip to Costa Rica. That helped me lose weight. It hits everyone differently. Some dudes get depressed and can’t eat, others turn to food or drink to cope, other like me turn to booze and women. But I still exercised that was a baseline throughout it all. Good way to relieve stress and anger on the bench press. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/24 04:16 PM |
| 2 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceLmao she wants to pick fights reminds me of my exw | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 07:43 PM |
| 2 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceHow surprising an insult because you have no argument | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceChasing a potential mate is evolutionarily ingrained. Women exert their power primary through physical appearance and men do it primarily through social and mental strength. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 05:30 PM |
| 4 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceWhy? 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 05:07 PM |
| 5 | The Abundance Mindset - Dating after DivorceThat abundance mindset is important. The PUAs teach that along with other inner game stuff: when approaching women have the mindset that you are the shit and you already banged her; you don’t give af about rejection because you have options as a high value man; you are the prize not her, don’t chase let her chase you. Have to have confidence and not be emotionally broken to pull this off. So need to heal first. I am still healing personally lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Post divorce phasesLol exactly | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 02:58 PM |
| 4 | Post divorce phases100% the kids are #1. Better to save $ for them than blow $500/wk at the bars. I been drinking a lot less and trying to get in peak physical. I been hitting the gym for the last year now and lost 25 pounds, half way there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 04:02 AM |
| 5 | Post divorce phasesI do all that responsible stuff but am also a degenerate lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Kill myselfAnd if that doesn’t work get a hooker. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 02:09 AM |
| 9 | Kill myselfYou are going to KYS because of 10 months of misery out of 38 years of being alive? I get you are hurting but your logic is as bad as hers in leaving you. You have one life and it is your responsibility to make the best of it, your happiness is your responsibility not hers so man up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 02:41 AM |
| 2 | How you guys fucked up in your marriages?I guess it resonated with me because my parents had a lot of expectations growing up and I never felt I could meet them. I also had abandonment issues often being the last one picked up from school and neither of them attending my little league games. Both worked a lot and my father was always working late so was closer with my mother. All these conditions go into my nice guy neurosis. It’s all well and good to be kind and generous but I think the point is, the nice guy has been conditioned to t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/24 04:44 AM |
| 2 | How you guys fucked up in your marriages?Yup. I been reading “No More Mr Nice Guy” and just amazed at how our traits contribute to us stumbling into these kinds of relationships to begin with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 04:33 PM |
| 1 | How you guys fucked up in your marriages?I feel similar. There were some red flags over our compatibility that I now am starting to see. Before we were married, we were bf/gf for 4 years then she had a nervous breakdown. We broke up for over a year and that whole time I still loved her and wanted to “save her” instead of just letting her go. Once I got her back, we got married. 9 years later divorced. The red flags: 1.) she had some kind of childhood issues with her mother leading to a lot of her mental issues. 2.) she wanted a docile … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 03:50 PM |
| 3 | How do you move onCan we change the analogy? Instead of limb getting hacked off, it is more like missing tapeworm that you had so long it felt like a part of you. You didn’t realizing it was eating you from the inside until Dr. Divorce surgically removed it. Now you have to recover from the surgical wound and get used to a life without tapeworm. It takes time to heal and acclimate but eventually you are healthier and so thankful the doctor helped you. You realize how you were codependent and felt “in love” becaus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 06:23 AM |
| 3 | Mediation StrategyThese are questions for your lawyer. If you are in TX (cuz you mentioned the 10yr anniversary for spousal maintenance), just because she is eligible doesn’t mean she will get it. She would need to show some disability or real reason she can’t work other than just sucking at job interviews. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/24 05:26 AM |
| 7 | How much influence lawyers have on judgesMy judge and my lawyer been in the same county for ever and went to the Air Force academy together. Her lawyer was also a good ol boy the father of the one other divorce judge in the county, so it kind of canceled out both forces. If you are in a small county, it absolutely is a good thing to have a lawyer that is familiar with the judge | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 02:37 AM |
| 4 | So I had flowers delivered to my ex wifeLol this could be worth millions | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 02:51 AM |
| 9 | So I had flowers delivered to my ex wifenot sure if I should request a refund or give them a 5 star review | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | HateThank you man | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Challenge your lawyerYeah I mean once my attorney realized we were gonna sign an MSA vs going to trial he started putting way less effort into shit for me. Her lawyer tried to sneak some shit into the final decree that we didn’t agree on and he didn’t even catch it. I had to call it out. I’m like isn’t that what I pay you for to notice things? Also I found out her lawyer is trying to file motions without consulting her to milk the cow a little more. Is kinda funny to be on the same pageish with my ex for the first t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Do woman give back rings after filing for divorce?Put that in the mediation agreement that she is supposed to return her ring. She hasn’t yet. Claims it is in a box “somewhere” and she can’t find it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 01:19 PM |
| 3 | I am a mess right now :(Ah well 2.5 years isn’t all that long, I can see why you are questioning. Maybe some distance will force her to get some help. Or maybe you just aren’t compatible. Just make sure filing is a last resort | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 08:33 PM |
| 2 | I am a mess right now :(I don’t know the whole story and this may be an unpopular thing to say here, but her dad died and she is struggling and asking for grace. Has she cheated or done anything other than be angry? If not than it’s worth trying to fix things and continue to give her grace. This is like the opposite situation to mine and my exw afforded no grace, made it all about her and filed. I said some things I wish I hadn’t but needed her during that time, and she turned on me. So maybe I am projecting but that’s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 08:14 PM |
| 2 | HateDamn I feel like I’m right behind you with that. I have 3 girls and very close with 2 youngest but the oldest is loyal to mom and we struggle, so I can see her doing that with a new bf playing stepdad to her. All of them like to say things to get me to react so even if they don’t mean it I dread the day they pull that shit. I plan to do my best to let it roll off but expect it to hurt regardless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 06:35 PM |
| 2 | NarcissismBro it sounds like your stbx is telling you that you are a narcissist and you are internalizing it a little bit. That’s what mine did and the more I researched covert narcicissism that perfectly described her. She throws these psychobabble buzzwords around she hears from her therapist and social media and women’s groups she is a part of. I went to multiple therapists after seperation, 2 men and 1 woman, and two of the three said she sounds like the fucked up narcissist. The other was trying to b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 04:18 PM |
| 1 | HateHow have your kids responded to this new step dad. Do they still love you and treat you like dad? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Any tips for dating appsWhat’s difference between bumble and tinder. I have tinder. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 01:38 AM |
| 3 | What do you miss most? (serious)Same. But my exw had other ideas. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 03:41 PM |
| 3 | What do you miss most? (serious)I miss the way she used to look at me before SHTF | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 03:29 PM |
| 4 | She filed today I’m lostI vividly remember shortly after we started living in two separate homes, a few months into seperation, and my kids were adjusting going back and forth, one day my 6 year old asks me “Dada when are you and mama going to live together again?”We aren’t going to live together anymore sweetie, we are not married anymore.” She exclaims “NEVER?!” “Never sweetie.” And she just starts balling. “But I don’t want to live like this!” Now 8 months in we can joke about and she teases me about mama having a b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 02:56 PM |
| 9 | She filed today I’m lostThis is the beginning of a journey through shitsville there is no getting around it. It will test your strength in all ways, even your will to live. I could barely talk to my kids about it without breaking down. They are too young to be that upset but it does show. It affects them deeply but they cannot articulate it. I feel their suffering and it kills me. That’s why I can’t talk to them about it cuz I see their little face and I can’t. But in bits and pieces along the way, we have talked enoug… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 04:50 AM |
| 4 | 6 years later - it gets betterI have very similar account. Currently reading no more Mr Nice Guy cuz I already see my self wanting to “do the right thing” and be cordial with her. I have caught myself doing things to seek her approval even, like I did during marriage. Yet she tried and still tries to turn my kids against me, successfully ruined my reputation in my small town, making it a hell hole for me to live in. So I moved away for a new life. But now that proves how selfish I am to move away from my kids. Even though I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 04:43 AM |
| 3 | What role did religion play in your divorce/marriage?The millennial modern Christian’s are fully woke and anti-man just like popular culture. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 12:36 AM |
| -1 | Dinner is a TERRIBLE first date idea! Why you should always avoid itI took a girl out for the first time once to a high end steakhouse and showed up with a dozen roses, Nobody had ever given her flowers on a date. Walked in and hostesses were winking at me and gushing, commanded them in a gentlemanly manner to put them in a vase on our table which they did. Restaurant very dim lighting and romantic. Was chatty with the waiter. This won me a second date and make out session, which won me a third date and banged her. The downside of all this is the first date bein… | /r/seduction | 30/01/24 02:24 PM |
| 3 | What role did religion play in your divorce/marriage?We moved to Texas from California and she became a born again die-hard Christian, served on Sundays and Mondays, plus Bible study 2x week plus the recovering addicts program where she got in with a group of “batterered” divorced women who told her I was trash, plus did one on ones with a pastor who gave one kid a scholarship to counseling, then she conspired with said counselor to file a bogus CPS investigation on me. She would spend all her free time at home nose in the Bible, proselytizing to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | What was your game changing moment or moments?No I haven’t hired one but I could and should lol. Was googling them the other day. Yet another rabbit hole of the manosphere to go down | /r/seduction | 30/01/24 04:55 AM |
| 6 | What was your game changing moment or moments?You can also hire a male fashion/image consultant/coach if you are completely clueless like me | /r/seduction | 30/01/24 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Feeling lostSo well said wow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Feeling lostExactly they call it “love bombing” just another manipulation tactic to control her. Lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 01:41 PM |
| 4 | Feeling lostSounds familiar. If you get defensive, “you are not validating her experiences or demonstrating you have changed.” They want you to take all the blame. At first I relented because I was always about “happy wife, happy life.” But it gets tiring. Mine thought that I had an obligation to let her heal and agree that I’m a narcissistic, emotional abuser. When I started getting my own therapy and openly challenging her narrative, and telling her we both have things to work on, she hit me with a CPS in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 01:18 AM |
| 3 | Feeling lostHas she started going to women’s therapy groups, and/or her own therapist? As soon as my wife did that it was all over for us. Nothing I did to change or apologize was enough. They sit around and trash their partners encouraging unsuspecting women to set boundaries, “don’t forgive him! It is a cycle of abuse! He is love bombing you! Get out! You can be a stronger woman alone! All you need is Jesus!” | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Dating AppsYeah I feel the like small part of me that wants a gf is caused by social conditioning. We are “supposed” to couple up with someone otherwise we failed in life. Such bs of course. Is interesting how it impacts the psyche. Relationships gf or married are expensive and soul sucking. And I had enough kids. I would rather invest in them or my own estate at this point vs frittering money away on a woman. Maybe if I could find a FWB that is hot, successful, not too old and doesn’t want to get married,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Dating AppsRight after separation I hit up escort and sugar baby sites. Also went to Costa Rica. Got it outta my system with a dozen or so hot women in their twenties. That was very therapeutic! 🤣. Now I’m kinda trying to settle down with that and trying to pickup women the old fashioned way. Dating apps have been a waste of time for me. But also women in general are a waste of time. There is a lot to say for focusing on your health, spending free time with your bros, and have side hobbies focused on makin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 09:02 AM |
| 1 | (41 m) How long should I wait?Sport some cowboy boots with raised soles and you can add 3” I hear | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 08:55 AM |
| 2 | (41 m) How long should I wait?I despise dating apps. I think it works for younger <35 or male model looking men. Even just ok looking women get hundreds of likes per day so the options they have are insane. Much easier irl meeting women through regular social circles, bars, or just start chatting up someone randomly during the day. Plus the women on dating apps my age I Match with and start chatting with remind me of my exw so ewwwww. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 08:49 AM |
| 1 | High conflict divorce rages onMy old stomping grounds! | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/24 03:06 AM |
| -1 | When Did This Forum Get the Ridiculous Mod?Wait you mean I am not allowed in Curves! Yes my ass is flat but that’s why I need Curves! | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 05:38 AM |
| 2 | When Did This Forum Get the Ridiculous Mod?This | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 05:35 AM |
| 10 | When Did This Forum Get the Ridiculous Mod?Well I have been warned by mods for some supposed misogynistic comments that aren’t mysoginistic at all but are just generalizations. Yet misandry runs rampant and is celebrated all over Reddit and social media. But I understand what the mods are up against. Spez is all powerful, so we should be lucky a sub like this is allowed to exist where we feel welcome in Spez land at all. The mods have to somewhat appease the Spez overlords else risk gynopurgatory. So thank you mods for playing the game. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 05:32 AM |
| 2 | Wife not negotiatingDon’t give her the house make her buy you out. I know a lot of dudes give their ex the house like it’s some sort of peace offering. Just split the value 50/50. File motion to force mediation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 03:14 PM |
| 2 | 5th week in (32M)And they gossip like fucking crazy. I had to call it off with one who was trying to be my “friend.” There is no such thing with a workplace woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Separated for a year now, are we still responsible for each others debt?Community property is both liabilities and assets obtained/incurred since marriage. May vary state to state but that is the norm. In my case we delineated in a mediation agreement that all debts we each incurred from time of seperation are each others debts. So I’m off the hook for hers now as she is for mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 05:37 PM |
| -7 | Man’s gym act exposes ‘insane’ problemThat’s a very heteronormative thing to say. If you are in a women only gym, you could be sexually harassed by another women or non binary person. | /r/MensRights | 20/01/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I filed today boys!Didn’t you do a hearing and have a judge issue the TO? Then both parties are forced to abide by the terms. That’s the first step in Texas for a contested divorce that is scheduled as soon as one party files. Unless you are doing an alternative dispute process and/or are both friendly, a parenting plan is not possible as it requires mutual agreement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 05:55 PM |
| 1 | I filed today boys!We separated in June, but in mine the discovery process happened right after the initial temporary orders hearing on Aug. A few months later she pushed for mediation to begin mostly because she was broke and wanted to sell both houses which we are doing. Nov. Settled in first mediation session. That is crazy yours is going so slow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 05:19 PM |
| 4 | It gets so much betterI have 3 kids and it took a few more steps then OP, but she got primary custody, so I left and started a new life. I go back and see my kids monthly plus holidays and summers. At least they get to visit with a happy dad instead of a sad one in a mind prison. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 04:59 PM |
| 8 | It gets so much betterYour living a George Strait song. “I finally found a game that I can’t play. This is where the cowboy rides away.” I did essentially the same thing. I could not even be in the same town as her so I moved 700 miles away to a new state. New Apt, new job, new pussy, new life. Every minute of every moment we are a different person. Our cells are constantly regenerating. And we can choose to regenerate our lives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 04:56 PM |
| 2 | I filed today boys!I am 8 months in too! 8 month gang in the house. Just reviewed the final decree and sent back to OC with minor changes. Hopefully that goes over and it’s sent to judge to sign. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 04:39 PM |
| 11 | Too many of the online resources for men's emotional support seem to be red pilled garbageThe grifting nature of it all between Tate, PUAs, etc is a symptom of toxic social media influencer culture that pervades a wide range of industries from sex to finance, and includes men and women. It is not realistic for most to become a rich party fuckboi and most people don’t want to. But there are little kernels of truth in there. Without the proper discernment, it can lead men down the wrong path and be harmful. Jordan Peterson has made a fortune off of men’s help, but I think his stuff is … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/24 03:48 PM |
| 22 | Too many of the online resources for men's emotional support seem to be red pilled garbageIt’s not good to overly generalize, but equally unhelpful to ignore patterns in men’s and women’s behavior. So many of our stories have very similar patterns under different circumstances. The woman emotionally withdrawals, initiates divorce, attacks the man’s finances, parental rights, reputation, etc. Female instinct, culture, friends/social media, and the law all contributing to her mindset. And within that there is a unique story, individual situations, and flaws on both sides. I agree the t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | What do you do with yourself?Yeah I relate to your stories a lot. It’s crazy how similar our experiences are and that goes for many men on this sub. When my ex saw a lawyer for advice, he told her to drain the checking the checking account and divorce me before I could react! Fucking lawyers and mother in laws and social media. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 03:10 AM |
| 3 | What do you do with yourself?Yeah seriously I have trust issues with women now. We had just moved to a new town in a new state (TX) just to try it out. I told her I didn’t like it. Kept looking for jobs in FL. Got super depressed and sick with a chronic pneumonia issue. I think the Texas allergens contributed to that. Sorry I was a little crotchety around the house the last 6 months. She started going to these womens groups at church who convinced her she was in an emotionally abusive relationship. Then I moved $20k into a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Just starting outNo. 1 at this point is not to telegraph you are gonna file. Take this time to talk to lawyers and strategically position your CASH. There is something out that called “The List” which is a must read. I couldn’t find it on the net but this post contains a lot of what is in it. Maybe someone can link the actual list. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/u1xIIqg4pu | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 08:50 PM |
| 21 | In case you are missing your ex-wife today...Lol please we need more posts like this, I feel much better after reading this haha | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 08:44 PM |
| 10 | What do you do with yourself?I am in a very similar boat as you as many of us are. The grief of loss is real and even though I am in a good place and have done things to reset my life and I’m having alot of fun with my new free time, there are still moments of abject loneliness, regret, and overall there is this grief in the pit of my stomach at all times. At the same time I have this freedom that tastes so sweet, possibilities, optimism. I feel like a walking juxtaposition. Grief and joy and hope intertwined. After seperat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 08:05 PM |
| 1 | ED after divorceIt does last longer. Needs a couple hours to kick in for me. I have to take it before going out, if I wait until going home with a girl to pop a pill it’s too late. Sometimes causes too much excitement on the dance floor but oh well. Can pretty much last as long as I want and finish on demand. Is good for about that night and next day in my experience. If I go out again the next night I take another one. Only doing the minimum dose. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 08:29 AM |
| 3 | Exes and their exesWatched her turn into exactly this. Don’t need a man unless he is perfect like Jesus. Thinks everyone is better than me cuz we argue. Jesus wouldn’t argue. Jesus fills the love cup. So husband not needed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Exes and their exesBecause she is in my lifespace | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Exes and their exesJust had to get it off my chest. This is the only place I can share. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 12:36 AM |
| 3 | Help!!! I have hard time to pick up my daughterI have a very similar situation with mom alienating my daughter from me. She has been going with me but there have been times she wouldn’t. Mom feeds her lies and manipulates her. She in turn tries to show loyalty to mom. Like others have said you gotta have your lawyer hold her in contempt for enabling and let them advise you on this. My ex has been reluctantly cooperative cause she knows my lawyer will fuck her up. If the lawyer doesn’t do anything and it keeps continuing, get a new lawyer. It… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/24 12:20 AM |
| 5 | How much money did you lose in your divorce?About 7k-8k in legal fees so far (mediated settlement reached no trial) but all the other incidentals since seperation cost me a fortune to the turn of 40-50k. Marriage cost me about $300k in net worth by my calculations due to all the bullshit she put us through…moving multiple times, selling homes, buying homes, selling them for less money, moving, her overspending. Set me back about 6+ years based purely off net worth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/24 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Looking for mortgage modification advice (please)I looked into this. You can do a loan assumption on an FHA or VA loan but not a traditional mortgage. Only option is for her to refinance at today’s rates but she has to qualify on her own or have someone co-sign for her. In my case we had two homes and agreed to sell both. Still trying to sell one of them she is living in so I’m still on the hook with the mortgage company. I been trying to get her to buy me out and refi so I can walk away but she wants to sell and buy a smaller house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 06:18 PM |
| 5 | Texas Divorce Rant!I just did TX mediation with 3 kids. Different circumstances than yours. But my lawyer is definitely of the be non reactive and let her make her own bed. Once she does she loses custody. Until then nothing has happened. Trial will cost you 25k and doesn’t sound like she has done enough for a judge to make her do anything. While an injunction may help you with this one individual you are in a for a lifetime of your wife bringing home douchebags that mar harm your kids that may not be registered s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 01:14 AM |
| 2 | wife threatens ask 71k $ as divorce settlement, or she sue meI remember after my wife served me with papers I texted her, “wow thanks for suing me after 17 years of being best friends.” She responded “I am not suing you, I’m divorcing you.” Me: “It literally says on the first line in all caps “YOU ARE BEING SUED.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 07:16 PM |
| 7 | Letting the F#%$ GoOne of my goals post-separation was to bang more women then she would have dudes banging her. I have no idea how many she has been with maybe zero maybe two or three or four. Who knows! I don’t care cause I’m well into the double digits and can confidently say I’ve out slutted the bitch! Feels good man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Don't be so quick to give your freedom upSo moral of story, get a girlfriend, maybe get a fiancée, but definitely be a runaway groom. I’m with it. Cheers brothers 🥂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 11:46 PM |
| 1 | How Sauna Can Help Men Going Through DivorceSauna sex | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 06:17 PM |
| 2 | In piecesIt’s partly the light switch effect. This article helped me understand the psychology behind it and not take it as personally. https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/3609/the_light_switch_effect_why_women_re_write_the_history_of_re | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 04:49 PM |
| 2 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…I actually did get into hot yoga after divorce. It’s the perfect compliment to hitting the gym🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 04:44 PM |
| 6 | Don't be so quick to give your freedom upWhen you look at the marriage wheel, the first part is pretty dope. Like you said just hop off before phase 2 begins! | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 04:36 PM |
| 4 | The hatred of men is not only accepted but also appreciated on Reddit.Is that the same as internalized hypergamy? | /r/MensRights | 30/12/23 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Anyone on here pay more to their ex wife than me?Yes unfortunately it is the reverse | /r/MensRights | 27/12/23 02:46 AM |
| 10 | Anyone on here pay more to their ex wife than me?Nope mom has primary custody I have them maybe 36% of the time | /r/MensRights | 26/12/23 03:25 AM |
| 4 | How do I not be the creepy old guy?I only got eat alone at places there is a bar. That is accepted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/23 12:49 AM |
| 11 | Anyone on here pay more to their ex wife than me?I pay $2400 w/ the 3 kids until they are 18 and no alimony. It’s just a formula 30% of income | /r/MensRights | 26/12/23 12:41 AM |
| 13 | Anyone on here pay more to their ex wife than me?Fuuuuuck | /r/MensRights | 26/12/23 12:40 AM |
| 5 | Happy Holidays - Several Years DivorcedAgree if you are gonna get hammered, at least go be social at the bars. Make new friends and maybe talk to women. Be a productive drunk. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 06:16 PM |
| 3 | It's one of "those" days, it WILL get betterSpent Xmas eve at the bars with a couple friends who also happened to not have family stuff this year. Sipping brandy and good whiskey. Bars are great cuz lots of people out not doing the traditional schtick. Good conversation and drunk fun to be had. Tried to call kids 6 times but exw ignored calls. Bitch. Oh well I get them in a few days. dreading this day of loneliness but turned out not lonely at all. Today is beautiful and gonna go surf. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Hard day brothers...😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 01:37 AM |
| 3 | Hard day brothers...I was through your entire comment thinking you said BBJ and then I realized BJJ and am like that works too! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 12:33 AM |
| 5 | Hard day brothers...You are a good man brother. I tried calling me kids during my allotted time and exw won’t pick up. Thankful for my dog and a couple friends probably will end up at the strip club tonight. No family within 2000 Miles. Gotta make the best of it! So many of us are struggling today. You are not alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Its over.Damn lol I need to come over | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 04:00 PM |
| 5 | What did you gain through divorce?My oldest daughter who my wife tried to alienate from me now have a better relationship without her around. Even tho I see her less. Yeah the quality is better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 03:49 PM |
| 4 | What did you gain through divorce?Freedom- you can now do whatever you want. Peace- nobody to nag you. Sex- you can have sex with hotter and younger women | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 03:48 PM |
| 1 | What’s this form of abuse calledJesus and they have a whole support network of other woman with BPD to support their gaslighting campaign on social media, at church, the kids teachers. They are all the same and prop up each others craziness! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Was your judge fair?My judge was fair. I don’t know how it is with a woman judge in a liberal state, but in Texas, he was buy the book. Wasn’t moved by her attempts to smear me. My lawyer shut that down every time through sustained objections. His interest was in what was best for the kids and fair. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/23 03:18 AM |
| 1 | How to stop looking backDamn I could have written that exact same story from your seperation timeline, to selling the house, to moving out of state, up until her getting more friendly with you. Mine has not. Even if she did, I would never get back with someone so destructive and vicious. I saw that side come out and won’t forget. Nobody that loves you hurts you like that. I recognize that women are BSC and mine is no exception. There was a time early on that I tolerated it, but later in life she pulled that shit and ca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/23 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Christmas AloneYou sound like my kind of bro haha | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Christmas AloneSame, those happy memories now choke me up so I don’t even like thinking about them. I was the neighborhood’s Chevy Chase and this year haven’t one decoration or light up cuz decorations bring back those memories. Not a tree or anything. I do get the kids on the 28th for a week and half and will do an Xmas celebration at my parents, but is not the same thing at all. I sent them some gifts to open on actual Xmas without me there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Christmas AloneFlorida?! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Christmas AloneAll these comments are making me feel better. Looking forward to the peaceful silence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Christmas AloneYou too man. She exceeds the 80lb weight limit, but nobody seems to care | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 05:34 AM |
| 6 | Why in bloody heck would a man want to get married in this day and age?I have so much more respect for gays after divorce and getting my heart destroyed by a woman. Y’all have hacked the mainframe and don’t need women? Kudos sir. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 12:58 PM |
| 6 | Why in bloody heck would a man want to get married in this day and age?Jeez how did you know about how my divorce went down exactly? It’s kinda like when women are camping together they have their periods at the same time. But more importantly: wife bots. Can we please have serious discussion. Is technology there yet for her to both do the dishes and fuck? 20k? Sign me up. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?Yes been there man | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?My marriage ended after my wife became a church lady. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 07:09 AM |
| 3 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?Nope. You will never be as good as Jesus, and that is the only man she will love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 07:09 AM |
| 3 | Is getting married even worth it?Agreed 100%. People that are happily married 30+ years are boomers cut from a different cloth and have a different value system completely. Culture has changed drastically. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/23 03:51 PM |
| 5 | Whats the first hour after, like?Both. Felt weird but also like a reset. Rejuvenating and lonely all at the same time. We seperated our shit and the worst part is going through boxes and finding family pictures with her in them.what am I supposed to do with that crap. USB drives with wedding photos. Only time I cry is looking at pictures of the kids that don’t live with me cuz I miss them sometimes. Realize the only good thing about our marriage was them. It’s great to be without her. So Bittersweet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/23 12:48 PM |
| 6 | God why did I get marriedTrust me it won’t matter the judge won’t care. Any chance you get to take something out of a joint account then do it. My ex took 20k out of joint account and judge didn’t care | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 06:07 AM |
| 2 | Anyone ever feel like never wanting a relationship again?Don’t feel guilty man. Have you seen the marriage wheel? You are just staring down another rotation on that wheel and your gut is telling you don’t do it, don’t go down the same road you already went down. Stay in control, keep your freedom. If she is sucking up too much time then you are comfortable with tell her. If she walks, she walks. You will find another woman to fuck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Online dating and revealing you’re divorced?I’m screwed since I am freshly divorced. I guess my plan of banging hookers for the next two years is the right path. Then I’ll be healed and attractive yay. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 04:34 AM |
| 4 | God why did I get marriedWhy don’t you get another credit card in your name only? Use her income lol. All you need is $3k to start to get you some child support and custodianship. You are the caretaker afterall. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Why Women are Walking AwayYes 100% to everything you said. Prior to divorce we did this group marriage course the church offered called ReEngage. There were leaders who were just couples that had gone through the course a couple times and we met with a breakout group of 4 other couples for 12 weeks. A main pastor couple led all the groups, prolly 200 people in that course. It was actually very positive I thought, a pastor wrote the book we followed about both people putting eachother first before the kids and honoring th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/23 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Divorce with kids is crippling, A death sentence to men.So I that dude that made the marriage wheel had a very insightful comment. When you get marriages you are not marrying the woman you are marrying the state. Because you will forever be on the hook to pay the state back and prop up the corrupt institution of family law. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/23 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Fellow men, how old are you and what do you do for work?Dept Director at municipality. Being in a conservative area helps steer clear of the DEI mafia. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/23 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Marital Settle Agreement - Spousal Support as final clause?That sucks I moved from CA to TX 2 years before divorce and avoided having to pay any alimony. But other than that texas is the same. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Marital Settle Agreement - Spousal Support as final clause?If you can mediate that into the agreement then more power to you but she will not likely agree and then whatever state statute says will be in effect. Your best bet is to avoid telling her you got promotions, etc. She would have to file motions and incur expenses to discoverer and get the child support increased. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Divorce with kids is crippling, A death sentence to men.OP your shit lawyer is making it worse, mine would seek lawyer fees and damages to make her stop. Find a new lawyer is your #1 priority. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 08:41 PM |
| 1 | STBX seems to be out seeking attention, potentially talking to other men already.. I'm emotionally gone from this loveless marriage.. but, it feels odd seeing her talking to new men. For context, we will live together until this 12 month lease is up. How'd you cope with your STBX talking to new men?If you can afford to move out of there it is worth it for piece of mind. 12 months more of that shit is not worth the trauma it will create for you imo | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | I'm gonna divorce her, I'm just not sure how to deal with the in-between, current, and after.Damn that shit is accurate | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm gonna divorce her, I'm just not sure how to deal with the in-between, current, and after.What is this wheel you speak of? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 02:39 AM |
| 2 | I Feel RobbedDude yes. I had all those. The crazy part was the feminist therapist was in Christian counseling place and I never expected that mindset would be there. But it definitely is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Mediation complete - TexasCongrats man I just settled mine in Texas though mediation. Feels good to be done don’t it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 06:02 AM |
| 9 | I Feel RobbedJesus I have the same story as you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 03:50 AM |
| 14 | I Feel RobbedThis exactly what happened to me, but the one two punch was 1.) moving to a new state 2.) then her parents moving to same town as us. A few months after no 2 happened she filed for divorce. That plus church gave her a new support network and I became the enemy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/23 03:49 AM |
| 29 | The Rise Of Female Sex TourismWomen, generally speaking, like to complain more than men and is one of the reasons most divorces are initiated by women, whereas men or more likely to quietly go about their business and live and let live. This does not apply of course outside social settings. | /r/MensRights | 30/11/23 02:03 PM |
| 0 | Why Women are Walking Away100% bro in my case the irony is a moved to a conservative area, joined a church that values tradition and marriage, only to be blindsided by my wife joining these “recovery” groups and attending Christian counselors that told her emotions are her reality and to divorce me. Thanks Church. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/23 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 01:02 PM |
| 5 | What does online dating look like for you?I hate dating apps. Much better to go out and freestyle at a bar if you drink. This might be hard if you live in a small town and not a lot of options. Or otherwise work conferences or church functions can generate leads. Older women on dating apps seem very damaged and hesitant to meet up. 90% of the likes I get are unattractive women with cats. Only success on apps I have had are on sugar baby sites, which is great if you want to meet hot younger women outside the bar setting, but these ones a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 12:52 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.At first I was meeting girls off sugar baby sites butt now my game is good enough I just freestyle at bars or networking events. It’s just a numbers game if you talk to enough of them and are confident you will find one that likes older dudes. She may have daddy issues but that’s another story haha. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.Do what you like man lol, I like that fresh OJ without the pulp. 😎 and let me fully disclose that I fully am in the rebound phase being newly divorced so I will probably have your attitude eventually. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.I’m 43. And I just want to fuck. So younger women for me. As long as they are 25 or older they are interesting enough. Under that they are like kids to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 12:13 AM |
| 1 | How can you trust again?I feel you man, so I would just say have fun with dating but have low expectations. Don’t go in thinking of her as a potential partner. Let her chase you if she wants. Have an extremely high bar for letting her really enter your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | How to navigate divorcing a toxic spouse if you have minor children and live far apart.I only know Texas CS statute which is 20% of income for 1 kid, 25% for 2, 30% for 3 and so on. How could she “demand” 60-70%? Is her lawyer on crack? | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 04:28 AM |
| 6 | Thank You. This to all members of this group.Never give up your freedom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 04:23 AM |
| 5 | Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes.And this is why I date 25-30 year olds with no kids. Never mind the fact that zoomers are weird af but as least they don’t remind me of my ex wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 04:15 AM |
| 1 | First Divorced HolidayGreat job making the most of it and being a great dad. It’s my first holiday for me to since separation and have the kids all week. Been having some fun playing games with them today and had a great meal. They are young 4-8, three girls. My ex pops in and out through FaceTime. She is across town eating pizza with her parents. I’m not surprised her side was never much for traditions. It’s hard that things are different now just making the best of it. She is bat shit crazy, fell into a Christian c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 06:51 AM |
| 3 | Wife wants spousal support before house sells (among other things)It’s amazing how many people I met that did. These dudes just gave her the house and everything and walked. It’s like a combination of not wanting to deal with lawyers and a this sense of duty (she can have it all mentality, eff it) and pride, like they will make it all back later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants spousal support before house sells (among other things)If she goes to a judge then it is an act of war and defeats the purpose of the agreement you are working on. You would probably get a better deal on the long run if you just stop paying her shit and pay a lawyer to fight for better terms for you. It will go to court, the judge will apply a standard statutory formula for temp support and then you can have your lawyers mediate a better deal for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 04:58 AM |
| 5 | Wife asked for divorceYeah that’s the most cowardly thing I ever heard. She did it while relatives around so he couldn’t react naturally. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Please kick my ass. 2.5 years since divorce, and I still feel like crap and miss her this coming Thanksgiving.Something I wonder. Since the woman I loved was a figment of my imagination, does that ideal woman truly exist? I mean if I projected my fantasy of love on to her, how many others are still doing the same yet still married because they are better at keeping the fantasy alive through projection, tolerance, fear of being alone, etc? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/23 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Parents don’t reach out to me for play datesThe patriarchy is a myth outside of business. At the social level, feminism is dominate yet women continue to claim that the ousted patriarchy still reigns supreme. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 08:20 PM |
| 1 | We reached a dealYup I already got a couple myself and I bet she does too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Is parenting sub a feminist (even misandrist?) sub in disguise?😂 accurate. | /r/MensRights | 21/11/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Is parenting sub a feminist (even misandrist?) sub in disguise?Haha well said. Makes me glad I got the divorced. | /r/MensRights | 21/11/23 08:22 PM |
| 15 | Parents don’t reach out to me for play datesI get that look from their teachers who are all women cuz mom goes around and talks shit about me and they are all women that commiserate together. Parenting and school is very female dominated so it’s kind of expected that you would feel like an outsider as a man. I just hold my head high and laugh it off. It can definitely get in the way. Even their friends where the husband is my friend and their wife is my exe’s friend, the woman in the relationship cuts them off trying to talk to me cuz I a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 08:07 PM |
| 1 | We reached a dealYeah that is ridiculous. Her being from money definitely makes her more cunning and resourced to your detriment. I agree that the best case is to have someone that also works from a similar family background. Also helps to get 50/50 custody right away if both parents work equally and share the caretaker duties. My ex was doing the same shit trying to make me into an abuser and my lawyer said, let her go right ahead it may cost her primary custody eventually. She would go around town telling ever… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | First Split HolidayThis is my first split holiday too but luckily I get the kids this week. For Christmas she gets them. I live 2000 miles away from family so it will possibly be my first Xmas alone in my 43 years on this planet. I’m sure I will be sad and marinate my grief in the bar lol. Maybe I will man up and work the soup kitchen we’ll see. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 07:46 PM |
| 1 | We reached a dealMy exes parents are broke and she is broke so they just see me as a piggy bank. Next time I’m marrying up like you! Lol j/k no more marriages. Custody laws are such bullshit. The mom gets them when she doesn’t work and can’t support them just cuz she has a vagina? That is seriously the rationale. If the guy is the breadwinner and works 12 hour days so can’t drop them off at school, then he gets penalized by not getting to raise his kids. It’s such fuckery. So my rationale was like, well if I am … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 07:34 PM |
| 2 | We reached a dealI am like lol, because I know my ex is already been talking to her ex boyfriends from 20+ years ago and they are trying to swoop in. If that is what she wants than have fun with the dudes you dumped for me, lol. They all live across the country maybe she will fly them out haha. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 07:29 PM |
| 1 | We reached a dealI had the same situation. She was claiming 100k from renovations her parents put in for us to build them an in law unit. Long story short her parents are out the 100k cuz we got divorced. She wanted me to pay half. On the other side I had 100k of premarital funds my parents gifted me to buy our first house before we were married. However we were still tenants in common. Arguable as to if either claim or one or the other would hold up on a trial. She had been telling me she would fight for her pa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | We reached a dealMy understanding is you can either put a mediation clause in the agreement or not. Not doing so forces her to go to court for changes in child support and and makes it easier to enforce if for example she decides to withhold custody. I think it’s pretty common for the ex to try to get more child support down the road if you make more but she has to find out first. Make it as hard as possible for her to motion for changes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 06:39 PM |
| 3 | We reached a dealDang, see I could easily see myself and her going down this road, so am still shocked she dropped all her claims going into it. So then I dropped mine. Meet in the middle. Neither of us got everything we wanted, but I think is probably close to what the judge would have awarded. I am non-custodial so am paying a shit ton in child support. No spousal. Extra curricular are optional for me. I am fine with it. I decided to move away to take a job that will make me bank and allow for college savings … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 06:04 PM |
| 5 | We reached a dealWell I could spend another $25k to get another $25k to prove a separate property claim in court or just save myself the trouble and heartache. Also Texas is a community property state, so assets are split 50/50. Ultimately I just want to move on and hard to put a price tag on that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/23 05:50 PM |
| 4 | How do you get over your ex that you still love?Yeah them women do that. I didn’t want divorce until a month after she filed, and I realized how effed up her actions were. If she changed her mind at this point I would still divorce her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/23 04:25 PM |
| 12 | How do you get over your ex that you still love?Why would you love someone that broke your heart and divorced you? Ask yourself this 10 times every morning it will help. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/23 02:01 PM |
| 0 | Advice on dating younger womenUse a burner phone or second line app | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/23 01:23 AM |
| 7 | She'll Snap Out of This Right?Came here to say this. It’s so fucking common. We all have basically the same story. She ain’t snapping out of it OP. Even if she does. She will do it again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 04:09 PM |
| 2 | The holidays are going to be depressingJeez my first is coming up. I’ll probably get a hooker. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Cuz we fall in love and been conditioned our entire lives to think that marriage (trophy wife) is a required box to check along with homeownership, 2 kids, a nice car, a six digit salary, and a vacation home in the Hamptons (or wherever) in order to live the American Dream. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 05:20 AM |
| 2 | I’m not crazy, right?I’ve fucked 9 women since my stbx left 5 months ago. If she was cheating, I don’t care. Feels good man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Men in your 40s who got divorced in your early 40s from the love of your life. If you found genuine happiness again (where you don’t think about your ex on a regular basis), how did you find it?I know that song still chokes me up. 🥲Is like therapy. So I met my gf on a sugar baby site of all places. What’s your price.com -I don’t think I had a typical experience at all and some higher power at work here but we both hit it off and so much in common, it is now transforming into a normal relationship. I read about that happening sometimes too. I had no luck on match and hinge (aside from endless texting that went no where). I think that 26-30 demographic on sugar baby sites are ripe becaus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Men in your 40s who got divorced in your early 40s from the love of your life. If you found genuine happiness again (where you don’t think about your ex on a regular basis), how did you find it?I’m a little too early in the process to say I’ve been successful in being happy post-separation but I’ll tell you what, it’s been 4 months separated and I wouldn’t take her back for anything. I loved her but i know she is not that person anymore. I moved on and started dating, hobbying, sugardaddying- you name it. Massive cope I know. But when you are over 40 and make out with a hot 27 year old after a 2nd date and go home with high school crush feelings, it is very healing, makes you feel aliv… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 02:55 PM |
| 3 | Glad it's over!Jeez and I thought mine was BSC. Glad you are on the other side now bro. Are you getting standard custody (monthly visits, 6 weeks in summer etc?) | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 02:45 PM |
| 2 | I think I'm losing my gripIt’s grief. Feel it. Just know it will pass. There is nothing wrong with you. These women have done this to all of us. They don’t love like we do. Her loss. Read light switch theory. Use this pit of despair to reinvent yourself as a man. Hit the gym. The endorphins heal. Think positive. It is for the best. You have no choice but to be strong for yourself and your kids. Suicide is stupid you know that. It’s okay to have those thoughts, I did. It’s part of the grief. Keep sharing with us when you’… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/10/23 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Men who wanted outEmphasis on moving your Cash out of her sphere of influence well before you divorce her. If you have a lot of cash, move it out of your nation to non-extradition country. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Girl (28F) that I've been dating has had guys over at her house, should I (30M) leave?😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Telling the kidsBecause it is said that if you tell them one parent wants out they will think that parent doesn’t love them. In their minds they love both parents and depending on age, may not have developed individuation, so they don’t compartmentalize the breakup like adults would. That being said, my stbx has cast me as a bad father and my oldest already thinks mom divorced me because I yell. I tried to hire a third party to facilitate the family conversation but yeah too late. It is sad but stbx and I canno… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Men in your 40s dating younger women, what are you guys doing?Escorts are just any hooker that doesn’t walk the street and/or doesn’t have a pimp and is not a stripper. Nowadays they have webpages or advertise on escort sites. Range is $300-$400 for a 6-8/10 and $500-$1000 for model looks. PER HOUR. Some dudes will pay thousands for an escort date and overnight GFE. Another better way imo that requires a bit more work is to find a 20-30yo sugar baby you actually have a connection with. Yes that generation is a bit vain, immersed in social media, doesn’t wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 12:59 AM |
| 11 | Why most MARRIAGES FAIL: you are not enough peopleSo to save marriage we need to have bigger extended families and/or agree to be non-monogamous. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 04:45 AM |
| 0 | Has anyone decided to have a kid after divorce?I don’t see the problem with having more kids. Our purpose as man is to make babies, and keep impregnating younger and younger women as we age. Rinse repeat until Genghis Khan . | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/23 01:14 AM |
| 4 | You can really tell who the Walk-Away Wives are on r/divorce, can't you?r/divorce 😂 I swear most of the stuff we say here would get deleted | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 12:44 AM |
| 5 | You can really tell who the Walk-Away Wives are on r/divorce, can't you?Great comment. I would award you if I had any to give. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 02:20 PM |
| 11 | You can really tell who the Walk-Away Wives are on r/divorce, can't you?Mods are probably divorced women that think men are narcissistic emotional abusers I.e. “you are attacking me with your words. Call 9-1-1!” | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 02:19 PM |
| 5 | You can really tell who the Walk-Away Wives are on r/divorce, can't you?Lmao, most of the women in that sub sound like my stbx. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 02:18 PM |
| 1 | It’s doneMakes sense I guess YMMV in any case. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 07:00 PM |
| 2 | It’s doneWhat have you found beneficial about psychiatrists vs. therapists? Curious as I have been seeing a therapist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 05:44 PM |
| 2 | It’s doneWhy do so many Christian women seek divorce? I feel like it’s a giant club and have even seen these “professionals” tout Bible verses to justify divorce. It’s pathetic and sad these “godly” women who really are just selfish bitches. My stbx is in the club now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Taking job far away from kidsBest of luck to you man it will all work out | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Taking job far away from kidsThanks for linking that, I was looking for more posts about these decisions men have to make. The difference in my case is I have a good job here and don’t really need to leave out of necessity. But under the circumstances if I was still married, we would all be relocating so I could take this job which is like a dream job. Plus I got personal reasons like you. I’m just trying to justify if one weekend a month, holidays, spring breaks, 6 weeks in summer plus virtual enough to stay connected to m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Taking job far away from kidsYes south DFW to panhandle very close to Alabama | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Should I ruin my life for the sake of my children?You only pay 400? Jeez I pay 2000 for 40/60 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/23 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Possible hook up after divI read that as 1 year before another LTR not 1 year before sex. The best therapy short term is hookers and HE massage. It then fosters a good perspective of woman and keeps you from rebounding into a serious relationship cuz you realize you can just have any woman you want. Or if you are attractive and have game just go to a bar and hookup freestyle. Then there is sugar babies. But my point is that sex is necessary and good therapy but jumping to fast into a serious relationship is bad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/23 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Drinking problemThank you! I may or may not have banged a couple hookers that were hotter than my wife. It may or may not have helped me feel better. I may or may not do it again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 04:23 AM |
| 3 | Drinking problemHookers and blow is a much better coping mechanism. Works for me. Kidding not kidding, kidding. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Rip the band aid offMaybe cuz women are attracted to mental strength which you showed by following through. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 03:58 PM |
| 6 | Rip the band aid offWhat I’ve noticed about grief (stbx filed for divorce 3 months ago) is that I grieve the loss of a woman I thought I had, a picture in my mind, the idea of an indestructible marriage and lifelong journey together, yet in reality this is not what I had. So I’m essentially grieving the loss of something I never had, but was duped into believing I did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 01:20 PM |
| 3 | NanniesThat is what they do turn everyone against you! They are reputation sucubuses. Mine is trying to pull that shit with our family counselor (court ordered me to attend counseling with one daughter because of wife’s bullshit) but my counselor is awesome and not giving in and tells me how my wife calls and tries to convince her that I am abusive. Yet my kid does not show any signs of being abused. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 08:41 PM |
| 4 | NanniesSounds like something my stbx would do to and then ask her to testify that I am abusive | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 08:09 PM |
| 2 | NanniesWow this is great to hear I would like an arrangement like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 07:39 PM |
| 0 | NanniesI’m with you. I don’t have 50/50 just 42 and it is still hard. Honesty I would hate shlepping them to school more than I do already and am fine with what I have, but some think that makes me a bad father for not wanting 50/50. I like personally like being the fun dad and having time to focus on my career etc. But my marriage was a traditional division of labor where she was a SAHM and I was the workaholic, so I can see where if both parents are working 50/50 would be more natural. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 03:19 PM |
| 7 | NanniesShe will only complain if the nanny is attractive. 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 02:52 PM |
| 5 | My fucked up rantVery true. Maybe just some fuck fish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with a vindictive exOmg you are talking about my stbx do you know her?! 😂 There is no point to tell her off. It may hurt her or make her angry. But it won’t make her realize anything about herself or bring her back. Act professional. Greyrock. The truth is revealed in the end, and she will reap what she sows. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Divorced in CaThis. My lawyer has saved me more money than I have paid him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 01:35 PM |
| 6 | My fucked up rantYour ex is a narcissist who got off on demeaning you. Don’t let a woman control your happiness. Go forth and find other fish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/23 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Am I in the right place?Best thing you can do is have a free consult with a lawyer in your area to get an idea of options | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 03:11 PM |
| 0 | Am I in the right place?The divorce papers would geo restrict where she can live so she doesn’t eff you over moving hundreds of miles away. Normally, in US, it would be the county where y’all currently reside and all contiguous counties. The courts would not look fondly of her moving so far away from where the kid is based, if anything that would be an argument for you to get sole custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 02:49 PM |
| 0 | Am I in the right place?Just tell her you need to have a sex life and either need to be allowed to sleep with other women are are getting a divorce. If divorce than shared custody. Just don’t cheat, even online, before divorce because that can impact your custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 02:33 PM |
| 3 | The toxic friendMan I have the same thoughts. As men we tend to take ownership over things we can’t control. I don’t know if you like George Strait, but there is this lyric that goes “My heart is sinking like the setting Sun, setting on the things I wish I’d done, it’s time to say goodbye to yesterday, and this is where the cowboy rides away.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 04:24 PM |
| 3 | The toxic friendMine was fake traditional values and undercover feminist. But same as yours in that she only wanted kids and did not want to be a wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Turned off OFW notificationsLol luckily I don’t have to deal with that one yet. I did send her some pictures of the kids and me having fun without her there. Low key flex. And she was getting frustrated with me not responding or viewing her OFW spam and started texting me that I haven’t replied. Lololol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 04:03 PM |
| 2 | The toxic friendNext time, if I do marriage again, her friends better all be married and traditionally raised. None of this woke she-ra bs in her circle. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 04:00 PM |
| 3 | The toxic friendHere’s the inventory of my wife’s best friends: 1 is a lesbian living with another lesbian in SF who likes to invite bi guys over to fuck them. The 2nd friend, stole her man when he was married to another woman when he had an 8 year old kid. The guy divorced his wife for this chick, married friend 2 and now they have their own kids. The 3rd friend never got married and lives in Africa as a professional juggler while fucking African dudes. The last friend just got married to a guy 20 years older … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/23 05:38 AM |
| 3 | Turned off OFW notificationsNotifications from the stbx are the worst. I feel visceral discomfort when they pop up on my phone. OFW is worse then text because they are always trying to say some gotcha shit that can be used in court later. They tend to ramp up during her non-custody weekends when she has nothing better to do then harass me. In return, I enjoy sending her messages at midnight during the work week so she goes to bed pissed off and has trouble falling asleep. Ah the yet to be divorced life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/23 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Relationships after marriageI thought that was the last option lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/23 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Write your feelings out.Haha. I relive fantasies in my head where she asks me why I am being such a hard ass on every little thing during this divorce which she started. My answer: “Because FUCK. YOU. That’s why.” I just want to tell her this to her stupid fucking face. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | She got legal counsel first it seems. What next?Yup I did this and found out about 10 days before I got served. Had time to visit with several lawyers beforehand. One of them even showed me what the papers said cuz they have access to all the content. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/23 02:02 AM |
| 3 | If your wife returned what was said?Agree. The hardest part I still struggle with is dropping my kids off and seeing them go into our old family house with her while I am on the outside and it’s time for me to drive away. Especially on Sunday night drop offs. For some reason Sundays get me more than other days. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 04:36 PM |
| 13 | If your wife returned what was said?100%. OP is in the process of grieving a loss. I am there too OP but this sub has helped me realize the person I miss is gone. So I treat it like a death, not as hoping someone will come out of a coma. That helps me let it go. Let yourself have moments to grieve the loss but recognize that is all it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 05:45 AM |
| 2 | Joining the club. Thanks for having meAlso I like best that we can be supportive and compassionate while also calling eachother stupid when when we act stupid | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/23 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Joining the club. Thanks for having meI been here for 3 months and this sub has been more valuable then any therapist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/23 05:39 AM |
| 4 | Joining the club. Thanks for having meOh don’t worry about the children. The girls already enjoy a choice between being OF/IG models or fighting the patriarchy. And the boys will have unlimited choices of robot AI wives in 5-10 years. Either way marriage is off the table. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/23 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Woman I met said we have to be exclusive to have sexHow did you approach the topic of being seperated and not divorced? Most of the women I meet on dating apps do not like the fact that I am technically still married. I have a date with someone on Monday and she thinks I am divorced. I have divorced on my profile because I get no hits if I put seperated. I figure if they get to know me first when I break it to them they won’t care. Also, unless you are madly in love at first sight with her then F that exclusivity shit. As a newly single, I intend… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/23 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Got Served TodaySo when my wife filed she did a bunch of shady shit beforehand like draining bank accounts and getting a CPS investigation launched against me and keeping the kids from me. After she served me, she told me that why can’t we just find a mediator and work things out, blah blah it’s too stressful and the kids want us to get along. I’m like bitch you started this contested divorce and you are literally trying to destroy my life, now you want to work together? Nope. Since then I have been hardcore on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 12:48 AM |
| 2 | I guess I don't get it?I hear ya brother, it sucks and I feel for you. Your example reminded me of similar moments of fuckery in my separation and divorce process. At the end of the day it’s grief yet being stuck in the middle of it until circumstances resolve themselves and you can move on. It’s okay to cry and show your kid you are human. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with overbearing STBXFuck me that would be a horrible sad reality. I have appt with lawyer today to discuss it. Probably need to have body cam on at all times. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/23 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with overbearing STBXMy stbx yeah | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with overbearing STBXYup huge lesson learned the hard way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 02:28 AM |
| 17 | What we all knew alreadyIt goes deeper. There are social institutions setup to break otherwise good women from their husbands. Laws, mental health, social media, feminism, and the mid life crisis all combine to form the perfect storm in the mind of the wife leading her to divorce her husband through one template of scripted language and justification. We could unpack the factors in all these institutions and culturally but that would take a Novel and we basically know what they are anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with overbearing STBXYes I forgot to mention my ex convinced the court to order family counseling for me and my daughter but I get to pick the counselor. I was hoping that it could be a change to reconnect with my daughter without her mom to poison things, but already my ex has talked at length with our new counselor and says she is going to the first one with my daughter without me. She basically is co-opting jt. So I have an email into my lawyer to ask for advise. She has medical authority but shouldn’t be able to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Ex making false allegations of child neglect to CPS CaliforniaIf your wife is repeatedly filing claims with CPS and making false accusations of abuse, then she is definitely breaking the law. I am just starting down this wonderful path that you are 4 years into. My lawyer said of my own stbx who sounds similar, that she will be in deep shit if she keeps acting this way. Nothing can be done right now, but after the 2nd and 3rd time he will go after her and jail her if he has to. Custody loss as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 04:25 PM |
| 1 | How to cope as an every other weekend dadJust a question, is every other weekend all you get? In TX there is std custody and expanded std custody. Std is Thursday 2 hours, every other weekend and drop off Sunday nights. Expanded std is Thursday overnight plus fri,Sat, Sun overnight on 1st,3rd, and 5th weekends. Both you get 30 days in the summer. Altogether expanded std is 43% of the time with kids vs like 35% with regular std. I have expanded as it is the norm in Texas for men who are sole breadwinners | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 12:57 PM |
| 2 | r/divorce moderation is a wee bit nutzNice thanks for paying it forward to us noobs. Heck, I learned so much in the last 3 months going through this shit that when dudes post their first story of “I don’t understand my wife she wants a divorce” I’m like breh….let me explain. 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 01:30 AM |
| 2 | r/divorce moderation is a wee bit nutzFor real, most of them sound like my ex wife over there. This is the best sub for men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/23 12:52 PM |
| 7 | Anyone making money?Lmao. My wife one time declared we were a no-gluten no-dairy organic household and the grocery bill tripled. Didn’t last long, but she would go through these food nazi cycles every 6 mo | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/23 03:08 AM |
| 2 | Finally divorced. Was married 10 years. Am in a really good place. Happy to answer any Q's (non legal related!)I am 2.5 months into separation. Just moved out due to temporary orders forcing me into our second home we own out right. It is definitely healing having my own place without all the memories. This is my off weekend with kids and on a surf trip spoiling myself, while she is apparently sorting through the garage and texting me on OFW to come pick it all up now or else. Lol. I am grey rocking her and not responding very quickly. She is also stressed about finances and not being able to afford the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/23 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Finally divorced. Was married 10 years. Am in a really good place. Happy to answer any Q's (non legal related!)Lol sounds exactly like my ex. Her only flaw was her low self esteem and co dependency habits that led her to be taking advantage of me and marry me in the first place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/23 06:56 PM |
| 2 | US States where it's hard for a woman to get alimony?The secret to liking Trump is realizing that everything he says is to entertain and troll worthless politicians and plastic media bobble heads that deserve to be trolled and nothing good has happened in the political arena that helped people for decades anyway. It has all been a kabuki theater before Trump showed up. But now he trolls them and it is funny. The country went to hell a long time ago. Middle class is fucked. Rich rule the roost. With Trump we can be entertained while being proverbia… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 05:04 AM |
| 2 | US States where it's hard for a woman to get alimony?Fuck yes. But she is eligible after 10 years married so how did she not get any. I am married 9 and worried she is going to drag it out to 10 to pursue alimony. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 04:59 AM |
| 2 | When is best time to read the upsetting emails they send usMy tactic right now is to respond to her accusations about being a terrible father and this and that with a simple: “k” | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Feel I’m heading towards Divorce? Prep question.Yeah I think that is the spot for offshore accounts. I watched some video on it. Plus other fun 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Feel I’m heading towards Divorce? Prep question.All debt is marital debt. I don’t know how each state differs but that is how it is in Texas. My lawyer said there is no reason to pay stuff off aggressively because she will own half that debt as liability. It really doesn’t matter. If you want to pay something off cuz of interest etc go ahead. You don’t want a cash flow problem but it is not an asset preservation strategy. The courts don’t care if you are overextended cash flow wise, just structure how you normally would. The only thing you ca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Feel I’m heading towards Divorce? Prep question.Re: lawyers. This was said in a comment. But call all the good lawyers in town so she can’t use them. Do a consult if you want with them. I found the consults useful and knew when I landed the right lawyer. He is the most experienced, gnarliest, meanest SOB who loves the courtroom and doesn’t charge an arm an a leg. Don’t necessarily go with some big firm with tons of paralegals cuz they are pricier. Ask other lawyers who they respect in the courtroom. That is how I found mine. Definitely get on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 06:21 AM |
| 2 | Feel I’m heading towards Divorce? Prep question.Comments like these is why I love this sub | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Paying for sports, etcYeah my lawyer is sort of telling me to hold the line but I mean it benefits them and I also get to come to their practices. One each like you said seems reasonable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Paying for sports, etcMan that’s how they pull at your heartstrings “Johnny can’t play baseball because of you” meanwhile they can’t budget. My wife blew through 17k in 2 months pre divorce hearing which is like 300% of normal spending. Now she is out of money and crying a River. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Paying for sports, etcWe just have temporary orders and it says nothing on extracurriculars. All it says is we split 50/50 of in-network medical out of pocket costs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/23 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife has been cohabitating with another man before our divorce was finalized“get some therapy to see why you’re attracted to screwed up women.” This made me LOL 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/23 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Paying for sports, etcRight now I am asking her for a monthly budget of kids expenses that includes future proposed expenses. Gonna have to limit it I’m sure cuz she is a big spender and has no self control. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/23 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Texas pending divorce, told wife I wouldn’t file as she is the one who wants it and had the affair. Now talking to her friends she wants me to leave the house and thinks the court will make her the primary care? I’m the bread winner she is a teacher (college degree and multiple banking certs)I believe it does but you non-primary still has to pay something. Even if 50/50 time split there is still a primary with the legal custody. There is also a possibility of a parenting plan that is signed by both parties which could be completely customized. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 02:46 PM |
| 3 | My stbx called me a narcissist during our separationExact same here bro. My wife is getting advice from 20-30 something millenials in the counseling field to empower woman to break the chain of the patriarchy and also battered woman in recovery groups whose ex husbands choked and pulled guns on them. She thinks I am emotionally abusive because I disagree with her batshit woke words are violence feminism and thinks God is telling her to divorce me, and therefore she is a victim of domestic violence and only ever married me 10 years ago and had 3 k… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 06:20 AM |
| 9 | Help - Wife wants to reconlice marriage and doesn't want a divorce anymore BUT...You either stay in a lifeless marriage with a whacked out therapy junkie until kids are out and she divorces you then or she divorces you in a few years down the road. Either way these therapy nuts will eventually flip a switch again. I know my stbx is one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Divorce Hearing Results [TX]They subtracted our lost rental income from the mortgage which comes out to $198/mo and is my spousal support. Her parents rented from us but because of the divorce stopped paying and so the order assumes they will move in with her and pay her rent which would go towards the mortgage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/23 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Divorce Hearing Results [TX]We only had one piece of evidence we submitted which was a CPS verdict showing they cleared me of all accusations. He just told me to be like the mafia boss in the witness stand calm, cool, collected and let him do all the work. Just didn’t want me saying something Retarded by playing into the opposing counsel trying to rile me up. He coached me beforehand on how to answer certain questions if they came up. He has 20 hrs in family law and told me my case was pretty easy and cut and dry. By getti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/23 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Divorce Hearing Results [TX]My wife never worked and used to spend 150% of my income every month. We spent our entire marriage burning through savings until we went into cc debt, then would cash out refi and rinse repeat the same cycle. I am overjoyed I only have to give her $2200. That like an 80% savings. I might even be able to afford to go on vacation now. 😅 It’s crazy tho I agree my standards are so low that spending less than I make albeit while losing half my wealth is a win. It is cash flow win but not a win at all… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/23 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Divorce Hearing Results [TX]No just 9 years. Hopefully she doesn’t drag it to 10. But now that she is paying mortgage she has an incentive to settle so she can cash out. I guess temporary spousal support is common, but there won’t be any after the divorce decree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/23 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Divorce Hearing Results [TX]Good advice. Yeah she has to tell me where they are and encourage me to come to any activities including church and sports, etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/23 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Just got back from dropping my kids off at my stbx place and I’m already bawling my eyes outI’m in southern DFW what about you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/23 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Just got back from dropping my kids off at my stbx place and I’m already bawling my eyes outDamn bro you are a lot like me. I need to learn to shoot too. Moved to TX a couple years ago, my wife is divorcing me now. I feel the heartbreak and getting used to it. I’m over my ex but the kid part is the hardest. Hoping it gets better with time. It should. Just focusing on self care to distract from the loneliness. Been dating other women helps with that too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/23 05:58 AM |
| 2 | Feel betrayed by my familyThat’s a double betrayal dang. My mom and sister in law took my side and cut my STBXW off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/23 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Texas pending divorce, told wife I wouldn’t file as she is the one who wants it and had the affair. Now talking to her friends she wants me to leave the house and thinks the court will make her the primary care? I’m the bread winner she is a teacher (college degree and multiple banking certs)In Texas, 50/50 custody is awarded if parents can show they share parenting duties. OP, if you both work FT, you have a good shot at this but you are primary breadwinner, often she is the primary caretaker handling the school drop offs and medical appts mostly so the courts will award her as primary custodian. You would expanded standard possession 43%/57%. That sucks I know but the courts view it as keeping intact what the kids are used to. Otherwise you two could work out a parenting plan in m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/23 12:44 PM |
| 9 | No wife happy lifeWhen I was married, my wife got mad when I would go off to my quiet office so I could have silence. No TV blaring with mind numbing kids shows, her nagging, kids screaming. I just wanted silence. But that meant I was “emotionally unavailable.” Now I have silence for the first time in 10 years. And it is peaceful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/23 06:10 AM |
| 4 | Courtroom Appearance AdviceYou don’t need to shave your beard man. Unless you got a scruffy one. Just make sure it looks right and dress to the nines. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/23 05:52 AM |
| 9 | “It gets better”I am still in the midst of my divorce and the best advice I have been given is: use it as an opportunity to reinvent yourself. From my family to my therapist to this subreddit, they all say that same thing. Life is not over is just a new beginning. Find things that give you joy and focus on them. Yea there is no replacing the loss of your marriage and (supposed) love of your life, but you can’t let those sad thoughts consume you. Afterall, if she was really the love of your life, would she have … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/23 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Dad is My life.It sucks man, but time is making me numb to it. I just focus on using my alone time to make myself better in something like working out or business. The time I do get to spend with kids is extra special. Focus on acceptance. You are still grieving a loss of your former life. It takes time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/23 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Wife and I are splitting, what to do about the home?😂 Isn’t it crazy how ridiculous doing those things sounds yet it is exactly what these bitches do to us? All that stuff my stbx wife did! The only difference is that she effed up and moved in with her parents with the kids, so I locked her out and play the fear of abuse card back at her. She got so mad lol. And I got to keep her out of the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/23 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Wife and I are splitting, what to do about the home?Honestly I would strike first. Wait until she goes to the grocery store one day and change the locks. Put some clothes on the patio for her. Greyrock. If she asks tell her you don’t feel safe with her in the home. Record her coming home frustrated she can’t come in as an example of her anger. Call the police so there is a police report of how scared you are. Remember that time she pushed you and you were scared she was gonna hit you? You can’t sleep at night because she might stab you. So you ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/23 02:37 AM |
| 1 | She's not the woman you marriedInteresting. So they are opportunistic creatures at heart and life long marriage is unnatural. It makes sense in a way. On my end I have the urge to seek a younger woman (evolutionary reason to have more kids) | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/23 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Confused after EPO by wife in TexasIf you are in DFW, Michael Crawford does Criminal and Family Law. Might be a good option for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 04:19 AM |
| 0 | She's not the woman you marriedI’ve been ruminating over these concepts of grace, loyalty, honor, and respect and how my wife has none of these qualities, yet these are the qualities required to stay happily married. I wish I could have seen these flaws before we married when she was putting on the act, because looking back there were warning signs that I missed. I’m assuming there are women out there with these qualities but probably few and far between with millennial and younger western women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 04:03 AM |
| 2 | She's not the woman you marriedlol yup my stbx’s hair suddenly is bleached blond no roots showing and never looked better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 04:00 AM |
| 4 | She's not the woman you marriedExactly the same here. Finally accepting that divorce is happening. I’m at least not trying to win her back and convince her to drop the case. I sent her an audio of me singing and playing guitar. She used to love that, but now she replies that she is concerned with my mental health. Excuse me for trying to fix things and keep our family together. But anyways she is a different person. She has been willing to fuck up the kids to paint me as a terrible father so she can win. My lawyer told me poi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 03:54 AM |
| 2 | She's not the woman you marriedNo truer words | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Finding happiness within myselfThere are some good free ones and paid subscription ones I have found that I like. The paid one I’m on I got promoted eventually and now get a stipend so actually get a little money to be on there now. DM me and I’ll send you a couple invite links you can check them out. The free one I like is called FXE Evolution. I’ll send you link to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Finding happiness within myselfTry a discord community. I found one that I love the people there and even one that is just friends I made in other discords. And the trading knowledge sharing is good. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Finding happiness within myselfYou have to find a hobbie or pursuit imo. Something you can keep improving and getting better at. For me it is playing guitar, going surfing, and trading stocks. Each of those things make me happy when I do them and get better at it. The stock trading thing there is a social aspect with online communities (discord servers) not to mention potential to make money. I am an introvert too and not into sports, don’t have friends, but socializing is important. You can get some of that at work too. And … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Gents, what did you do that was definitely "wrong" to cause your marriage to end?Yes agree. The relationship can become transactional which is not good. It is hard tho, they get moody and what happens downtown changes too in alot of ways. My wife took along time to heal after each birth which lowered her sex drive as well. They get loose too. So a year to heal and a couple years between three kids, and her sleeping with kids every night, suddenly here you are 9 years later in a sexless passionless marriage getting on each others nerves for years cuz you don’t bone enough and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know when to give up or how to leaveYou didn’t waste the best years of your life. Heck I think the best of years of my life were my 30’s as opposed to my 20’s. Anyways you are young and have your whole life to begin anew. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 06:25 PM |
| 2 | Gents, what did you do that was definitely "wrong" to cause your marriage to end?Not being very sexually attracted to her or pursuing her after she had kids. Not initiating enough special time or giving gifts to keep her emotionally bonded. Not giving enough affirmation to outweigh the routine marital bickering. There are about 3 love languages important in there I did not do very well. These were not causes of the marriage ending but big contributing factors. She did her share of not doing things right as well but you asked what we did so there it is. The pivotal point was … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Kid's birthdays after divorceI am still approaching Dday but my ex has basically turned the entire town against me and thinks she is a victim of domestic abuse cuz words are violence or something. At least your inlaws see your side, that is more than I got. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Kid's birthdays after divorceI feel you OP, that sounds like a worst nightmare. It will be emotionally draining for you and awkward. But I would probably go if my daughter asked me to and just ignore all the other shit faces there and focus on her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/23 05:48 PM |
| 2 | You are on a missionAmen to that | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/23 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Joining the club. Wife of 18 years asked for divorce two weeks ago and I just need to share my thoughts to someone.Same to you brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Cell phones for kidsGreat answer. I heard her say she wants the cell phone court ordered but that seems like a pipe dream. She definitely wants to use it to spy and get the kid to say something bad about me she can use against me later. I definitely don’t want to cut my daughter off from communicating with her mom, but seems like it should be more structured and accountable through a custody app | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Joining the club. Wife of 18 years asked for divorce two weeks ago and I just need to share my thoughts to someone.It’s so crazy how they switch. I read the “light switch theory” and that seems very true. Comes from an evolutionary response. Women are ruled by emotions and don’t follow the honor and loyalty codes like we men do that is the foundation for weathering the ups and downs of marriage. That is why women are the ones who usually file for divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Texas DivorcesSo I called CPS and turns out the reason to believe was a clerical error! Fucking incompetent SOBs! All of the case notes say it was ruled out but the clicked the wrong option on the form. They are going to send out a corrected letter. My wife is pissed because she was trying to use the CPS case against me. Hahahah | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Joining the club. Wife of 18 years asked for divorce two weeks ago and I just need to share my thoughts to someone.So in TX infidelity is grounds for an at-fault divorce and disproportionate asset split and alimony in your favor. Check the laws in your state. But she is cheating within the marriage so you definitely need to file first, like yesterday. Don’t move out of the house in any circumstances. Withdrawal any funds in joint accounts like yesterday. Do not choreograph any of these moves to her. Read the list https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374 Bro I am just going through this divorce thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Getting a divorceI think you should take steps to protect your finances but also consider reconciliation. Your wife is dealing with post partum hormones and not thinking straight. You are working your tail off supporting the family financially. She is getting her emotional release through shopping and talking to other bitches that will feed her demons. You need a neutral third party and she needs to be willing to try counseling. There are online programs and books too if you can’t afford it. Ask yourself if you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?Haha yup exact same here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 03:27 PM |
| 1 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?Lmao yes this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?Holy crap you described it all perfectly. Also she would say things like “looking back on it I realized I was conditioned to accept his controlling/abusive behavior so I allowed it.” She thinks giving her a budget to spend money was an example of abuse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 04:13 PM |
| 2 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?It reminds me of the whole “words are literal violence” debate we see alot of these days. Bunch of highly sensitive easily offended people these days that will use anything to be a victim and get the associated privileges. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 03:45 PM |
| 1 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?Wow this interesting thank you. A lot of it describes her. She has gone through severe depression a couple times since I have known her but is very bubbly and extroverted in general. Every job she’s had ends with a falling out with her boss. There is a pattern of issues with authority figures which she always tries to play the victim. It may be that I am the supply she needs to continue victimhood since she doesn’t work or have any other ways to be a victim. She loves to try new things, often ju… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 02:21 PM |
| 3 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?My state is one-party consent so all good with audio. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 05:01 AM |
| 2 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?I fought off the first one ok. The one thing I have going for me is my lawyer went to the air force academy with the judge so they go way back. And I hear judge was divorced and hates CPS. Conservative town. Reputation is he rules pretty standardly and doesn’t give an eff about crocodile tears. My lawyer is a bulldog ex military that will tear my wife a new asshole on the witness stand. I think if I were in a liberal area, I would get a woman for sure. Bur yeah I do expect the accusations to kee… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?Yeah it’s crazy show many industries profit off of divorce and the woman as victim complex. And they help to perpetuate it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/23 12:55 AM |
| 3 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?This phenomenon is ruining the modern woman. I came to this sub and realized so many of us have the same story. 100% social media fuels the fire on this emotional abuse BS. Why can’t these bitches just say “he hurt my feelings and I don’t like him anymore.” I guess the system incentivizes becoming a victim. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 11:51 PM |
| 4 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?This is really good advice. She already got a CPS investigation on me and that isn’t working out in her favor so she is seekng domestic violence shelters. She filed and is keeping the kids from me. I think once I get custody back, she will try to use anything I say to them to do another CPS case or worse until something sticks. I need to get cameras in my house just in case I need. And maybe a body cam. It’s so pathetic. My heart goes out to men who have been falsely accused. Suicide is a real r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 11:45 PM |
| 2 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?You should see the risk factors they use to determine if someone is at high risk of physical abuse. It is stuff like “does the offender like violent movies, do they use male privilege, do they try to dominant the relationship, do they call you their soulmate, do they have trouble accepting the relationship is over, etc etc. basically any man whose fucked up wife left him is automatically a high risk offender so she should get a PO. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 11:41 PM |
| 4 | What the fear of abuse that does not exist called?She does in-person groups and is on Facebook groups for battered woman. Plus has a therapist that reinforces it. Yeah I got an attorney and thinks she’s got nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 06:56 PM |
| 6 | Let's be honest here. No macho answers, and no judgement. In reality, how many guys here would be happy to get validation from your ex that the divorce was not your fault?Idle hands is the devil’s playground especially for wives. It takes a exceptionally mentally strong woman to stay grounded as a SAHM. In my case, this caused my STBXW to lose it and file for divorce because she is not happy and projecting that on to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Seperated with small hope of coming back togetherSo I was accused of being a narcissist by my STBXW. When I researched it, a lot of NPD traits are pretty typical of being a man so I can see how that term is overused and a favorite among women. When I looked up “covert narcissist” it hit the nail on the head with describing my STBXW. Shows concern and empathy to others except their spouse, criticizes spouse’s family especially the women (spouses mother, sisters, etc) and tries to create distance, compares spouse to others, love bombs, plays the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Seperated with small hope of coming back togetherWell said dang. I am just like OP and still processing all this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Parenting Plan...basic version not enough?Yeah he is talking about his lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 12:37 PM |
| 5 | STBXW is low key pissedYeah I am on anti-depressants mainly due to how shitty my wife is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 10:09 PM |
| 6 | STBXW is low key pissedThis is 100% me. Is divorcing me because I am not a submissive yes dear man like her dad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Anyone going through this with young kidsI am going through it with 4, 6, and 8 year old girls and the only thing that chokes me up is seeing them impacted by it and thinking about how they must feel. Nothing I ever wanted them to experience. But wife is a crazy bitch so what can I do except be the best dad I can be to them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 09:25 PM |
| 8 | Did you keep the engagement ring?I’m gonna ask my lawyer to claim it as seperate property and see how that flies | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/23 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Did you keep the engagement ring?I want the ring back because it is a family heirloom. Used to be my grandmothers wedding ring. I hope the stbxw bitch gives it back to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/23 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appYes my lawyer told me changing the locks was a no no but will argue I did not know (which is true) and I felt threatened by what she might do or try to kick me out of the house (which is true). It gives me peace of mind. Her dad has guns and I don’t want to worry about them entering my abode. I have told her kids can come over but she refuses. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appNice lol. At the moment she has her read receipts on so I have a log to verify she has read my texts. I’m not sure she knows that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appThanks man. She actually moved out of the marital home and took the kids with her. I am still in the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appYea I’m gonna ask lawyer if there can at least be some custody arrangement worked out between her lawyer and mine. An EO would take 14 days and that is when our court date is anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appI am still in the house. She moved out and took kids to the house her parents are renting that we jointly own. I have changed the locks to keep her out and my safety protected as she likes to come by when I’m at work with her dad and take stuff. Who knows what else she will do. She has not filed an RO. I think it will be hard for her to remove me from the house she is not even living at. If she wants seperate property, I tell her I will leave it on porch and she can pick it up. She did conspire … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appYes I have my requests and her ignoring me or refusing me in writing on text. I only got a lawyer just last week cuz she served me a week ago, and he said it will look bad for her what she is doing but I can not force her to let me see kids between now and the hearing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appYes I have all kinds of text messages of her refusing | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Any experience using the TalkingParents appYes we have a court date in a couple weeks. She repeatedly denies my requests to see the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Giving up equity vs paying more in alimonyMy question is, if you own two houses, and want to buy eachother out so you can each live in a house, do you have to get a realtor involved for the transaction. Is paying commission and refinancing at current interest rates required if you are just removing someone from a mortgage? I just want to keep paying mortgage on the house and stay in it but remove my wife from ownership. Her income is zero and was not a factor in obtaining the loan. Then she can take the other house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | How many of you guys felt disrespected and it effected the marriage?The part you said about her not supporting you through a hard spell with mental health hit home. I sunk into depression due to a long sickness. She was supportive at first but I guess it took a toll on her that I wasn’t a strong man and she turned away from me. Since I wasn’t my best and irritable while I was sick, I was an emotional abuser. She never told me “I wasn’t a real man” but she acted like it. She started going to church evening functions a lot and probably struck up an emotional bond … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 05:16 PM |
| 2 | What helped after the separation?I am in the midst of a divorce. I started the AthleanX workout program with my brother who lives in a another state. We are keeping eachother accountable and texting everyday. Joined a gym too. I have set goals for physical fitness/weight loss. I am talking A LOT with family. Mostly my parents and brother, sister-in-law. But extended as well occasionally. I have tremendously valued their support and unconditional love during this time. I kept the dogs so am not totally alone. (Wife moved and too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/23 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Divorcing Wife VocabularyYes I was angry because I would project my voice in a disagreeable tone and say stuff she didn’t like in response to insane shit. Which is also why I was emotionally abusive. Also I made jokes (that used to make her laugh) but now they were all done at her expense as an attack on her self-esteem. Also joking with my daughters was similarly manipulative and abusive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/23 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Divorcing Wife Vocabulary“He emotionally abuses me and the kids!” I need an excuse to leave him, and take the kids away to punish him becuase only me leaving won’t hurt him as much. And now I can build a case for a TRO and full custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/23 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Divorcing Wife VocabularyWow you just hit the nail on the head. Describes my stbx’s therapist and how it led to her divorcing me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/23 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Divorcing Wife VocabularyMy stbx’s therapist remotely diagnosed me as a narcissist lmao. Why are there so many women therapists selling “let me bitch about my husband so you can convince me with fancy words to leave him” sessions? I swear, these therapists need to be sent to work in an oil field and STFU forever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/23 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Divorcing Wife VocabularyLmao my stbx just used that last one on me. I told my lawyer about her ploy and he said DON’T FALL FOR IT. I responded to her that she can send me a letter if she wants. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/23 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Financial mediation - STBXW asking for "a disproportionate amount of our assets"Based on consultations with my lawyer [TX], any assets you had before marriage are seperate property, incl equities, retirement funds. However she can claim any contributions, interest, appreciation on that previously seperate property that occurred during the course of marriage as community property and ask for 50/50 split. Any assets acquired during the marriage (property, retirement funds, etc) are community property. Any gifts given to you by an outside party during the course of marriage ar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/23 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Does Everyone Hate Their Ex?I went there a few times. There are a lot of women like my STBXW and it makes my skin crawl to read their comments. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/23 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Counseling felt uselessAbout a year prior to getting divorced, did a group marriage counseling thing through church called re-engage. It was actually a great experience and free. Each couple shared and a book guided us for 16 weeks. I think the group aspect keep people from saying crazy things about the other and focus on humility. After that I thought we were in the best place we had ever been. But a few months later she started going to individual therapy and became a different person. Said I was an emotional abuser… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/23 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Counseling felt uselessMe #3🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/23 04:19 PM |
| 4 | One of the major reasons for divorce - Financial Problems and financial abuse.Finances were one of the main things we argued about and played a huge role. I was the only one working and paying the bills and gave her a monthly spending budget. I make decent money but not enough to live like how she wants to live with 3 kids. She overspent $2k or more a month for years eventually burning all our savings and refused to budget. If I brought it up she got really defensive and said I’m always complaining about things she does and I just want to control her. Absolutely no respec… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/23 05:23 AM |
| 2 | Surprising ReactionIt is just what she is asking for in the temporary injunction, but am going to deny that request. She doesn’t have a job and can’t pay the mortgage and is the one that moved out in the first place to our other home, where she wouldn’t even have to pay rent because it is paid off. So why does she have to move back in right? Hopefully judge agrees. I am still in the house at least until the judge decides. She is trying to claim emotional abuse because in her opinion I yell at everyone, which I don… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/23 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Surprising ReactionShe asking to assume sole possession and use of the house and I’m not allowed to come over. I’m going to fight that of course. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 07:41 PM |
| -1 | Come to the realization and its not goodGo on a trip to Columbia or Phillipines. I heard women there are way better. Maybe you can find a new wife there. Western women are poison, agreed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 04:05 PM |
| 7 | Surprising ReactionI am just starting the divorce process and is contentious yet my first reaction is to give her what she wants because I am used to giving to her. She left to her parents and has been living there for 5 weeks. Filed for divorce against me and put in the temporary orders that I have to move out of the house. You may find this post called “The List” helpful which among other things, advises to never move out of your home under any circumstance during the divorce process. If it is not yet, it will b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Advice on finding value in yourself for dating after divorce.I don’t have any answers for you man, but I am just starting the divorce process and feel you on the trust issues and baggage. Don’t be too hard on yourself. A divorce is like a death. It may take a few years to gain your confidence. You listed plenty of value you have and the good thing about being a man is that much of your value is in your holding a good job and having money. Work out and take care of yourself physically. Much of our mental well being is a reflection of our physical well bein… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 01:25 PM |
| 3 | I have been divorced over 13 years and have moved on to live a happy life. What am I still doing here?Great stuff been on here for last few hours thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 03:57 AM |
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