How true actually is this?

Trip_seize · 2024-09-26T19:12:01+00:00

It happens I guess. The closest I got was that we went for a coffee just so she could see that I'm not an axe murderer or anything then after trust was established, we went back to mine.

We're still in contact after nearly 10 years.

mow_foe · 2024-09-26T19:29:46+00:00

Yeah, Friday/Saturday nights they may be drunk and horny. If they don't meet anyone out, that hot guy they've been texting is an option.

ratfooshi · 2024-09-26T19:35:35+00:00

I haven't gone on a "date" in years.

If it is a "date", it's us hanging out doing date things but not putting a label on it.

Why?

Cause for some reason, when they don't know your intentions, they're so much more interested.

Go on your "dates". But don't call them that.

Let circumstance define your relationship. 😉

Infamous_Anonyman · 2024-09-26T21:44:44+00:00

The majority of women i meet i do this with.

My way of doing things:

Chat for a bit
Establish good vibe when (video)calling
Have fun conversation.

She now knows it's safe to meet.

Set up date at my or her place. Buy a bottle of wine and remind her there are no expectations.

Have fun..

Maximum profit, minimal loss.

It doesn't alwayd work, but does work quite often.

Dwerg1 · 2024-09-26T19:12:45+00:00

If you're attractive enough it happens all the time.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-09-26T19:02:13+00:00

A lot of guys have those fantasies.

Happyseducer · 2024-09-26T21:27:14+00:00

Well - are you talking first dates? Once you have already hooked up it is super common ( and awesome) to have the girl come over or do something really tiny like just walk a bit then hook up.

But yeah you can get girls to come straight over, or do the little walk thing too - but not every girl will do it. Normally if I get the girl chasing sexually that will do it. But again it's not like something I am trying to make happen. For example if I have 5 girls I am messaging maybe 4 will come on a date or hang out normally then we'll hook up. But only 1 will come straight over. If I try to get all of them to come straight over I lost those other 3 girls - ya know? And even then it might be more like 1 in 10 or 15 girls. So instead of hooking up with 4 girls pushing too much for this could end up with zero girls.

But again - if you calibrate and look for it it can happen. But personally I will still usually have them meet super close and walk around a bit - because why not? If it is super on they literally will ask to go to my place.

Actually to make it more clear : if it is set up where the girl is chasing and particularly if she is trying to prove she is sexual to me - things can happen SUPER fast but I won't be the one pushing for it. Even a girl who is super down like that a guy pushing too hard for her to come over she may flake.

Example: I had a girl SUPER down like that - had her meet me on my block and we went to a shop. I complimented her body and she said "well let's go home then".

We immediately had sex.

That same girl maybe if I had said come straight over - and she agreed - could have still gotten nervous and flaked.

So - I think it is more of a situational thing. Some guys do exaggerate o flat out lie. I was disappointed to learn even huge name guys lie. Literally even a famous guy - some girls will need more comfort to hang out before going straight over. But it can happen for sure.

berzerker5000 · 2024-09-26T23:59:16+00:00

Happened multiple times this year to me, from online and in person approaching girls at bars. First year of my life I been on fire with women. I date too. As soon as I thought I was elite player status, I go on on a date from bumble with typical low expectations, and meet the woman of my dreams. And guess what, it took me 3 weeks to sleep with her. But from the first night I met her, I didn’t even care how long it took. She turned me shit completely upside down and I don’t even want that player life shit no more. I just want to put a ring on it. Now we planning to move in and build a life. Bumble fuckin rules haha I gonna send the CEO a fruitcake.

I guess my takeaway is, be a player, but don’t let it cause you to miss an opportunity if someone truly special comes along. Cuz love is the ultimate thing. If I didn’t learn game and frame, I would have never gotten this chick. So all this shit you are learning on this sub and elsewhere is soooo worth it.

If it doesn’t work out, then oh well, back to being a player. Nothing wrong with doing that. Now that I been able approach and bag a 9 way out of my league the same day, the allure of it fades. It’s not a fantasy anymore like it is if you never done it. But that makes it no big deal therefore makes you better at it, so you end up quickly becoming really good at it. Your question about how do you do it? You treat learning seduction like a job. You put in the work to do all the things you need to do. You need patience, discipline, and to believe in yourself. Before I had any consistent success, I took a 3 month break from the bar scene and just worked on myself and learned and learned. Then I went out and it all finally clicked. Results skyrocketed.

Kindly-Draw2901 · 2024-09-26T20:41:32+00:00

Could be that these guys are only messaging unattractive/below average women

BxPunisher · 2024-09-26T20:34:51+00:00

I honestly don’t know. It just depends on how easy the girl is and how comfortable you make her.

I had one occasion where I was talking to a girl from a dating app via text and phone for like a week and we planned for her to come see me for my birthday (she lived a state away), but she got turned on during one of our phone calls and had to come see me a day or two later. So she drove over to my state to see me.

I had another occasion, the very next day, where I spontaneously told another girl I met on a dating app to come over and she did. This one I was talking to for a few days.

Mind you, I’m an average looking chubby dude and my game isn’t all that. I just took my shot and it went in 🤷🏻‍♂️

nycfunn420 · 2024-09-27T02:37:58+00:00

IT IS VERY TRUE AND VERY POSSIBLE WITH MOST WOMEN!!

It's a long explanation so ask me questions. I know most of you aren't going to believe it but it's because what you think you know is just plain wrong. You're listening to women's advice too much. They aren't going to tell you certain things no matter how modern or mature or w/e you think they are.

Ask me some questions because i want to help my fellow men

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-09-26T21:42:52+00:00

Depends on how attractive you are. I've found that it's not difficult to invite girls over who are 2 points lower than you, 1 point once in a while, and same level very rarely.

So for instance if you're an 8, you can probably get 6s to come over without a date fairly consistently, 7s once in a while, and 8s very rarely.

Thick_Music7164 · 2024-09-26T21:48:28+00:00

Shit how can you keep texting fresh long enough for shit like that to happen?

ellabbanlaith · 2024-09-26T22:37:02+00:00

it’s all about leverage. the larger the gap there is between you in attractiveness, the more power you have. she doesn’t wanna miss out on you even if you don’t wanna take her out

that’s thing to consider. what is the quality of the women these guys are telling you about?

vesieco · 2024-09-26T23:33:40+00:00

It’s happened to me a handful of times, although not super common. I’ve had a few girls invite me straight over and some want to come over after some chatting. Although like I said it doesn’t happen often, and for most girls I see we at least go on a date first

Me180 · 2024-09-26T23:57:28+00:00

Yeah, it happens but rarely. It depends how you met etc

Cavsfan724 · 2024-09-27T00:21:43+00:00

I wonder if this is more true with the 18-24 crowd ??

Secret-Product-368 · 2024-09-27T00:23:49+00:00

Right? I have a buddy that goes on dates and tends to always end up sleeping with them either the first date or the second at most. I have literally had that happen once and it was on the second date. I know i’m an attractive dude as well so Idk how he does it but I STRUGGLE to get hook ups in general let alone on the first hangout. Any advice anyone?

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-09-27T01:21:58+00:00

That's just the norm for a lot of places, especially cities. Traditional dates arent always necessary. If you want this to happen to you, focus on seduction in social settings as opposed to cold approaches or OLD.

If your at a party or a friends house or a bar this type of stuff is naturally the go to conclusion

Rude_Cloud7396 · 2024-09-27T01:42:26+00:00

If your talking about one night stand, i think that is very common. Tinder is an app for mostly hook ups.

FreeTheMarket · 2024-09-27T02:08:31+00:00

I have a girl that asked to come over tonight straight from hinge. I said no because I have other plans.

Every time it’s a a response to one of my prompts that says I make a mean dirty martini.

For reference I’m 32 and live in NYC. It doesn’t happen often. Maybe a few times a year

nycfunn420 · 2024-09-27T02:21:54+00:00

Yes. But .. Some things are hard to explain without explaining more. You're asking about multiplication without knowing addition. Physical appearance obviously has something to do with it but it's more than that.

So basically it's how you approach her. If you do it one way then no, do it another way then very much yes.

Because in adult girl world, you have to be sexually attracted to each other first. So then that's the energy you have to portray, sexual attraction. How does she know if she wants you to be her bf if she doesn't even know if you can give her good sex or not?

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-09-27T03:01:47+00:00

It never happens to me because I don't want anything to do with women like that. I'm also not on apps because I function optimally in reality.

I'm tall and attractive so I can pull anywhere if I choose to.

luroot · 2024-09-27T04:29:59+00:00

Yea, I've had this...more often than not, actually, as grown adults who don't have time to waste. Because whether you connect over texting or a date...what's the difference, really?

GettingMoneyTrapStar · 2024-09-27T08:29:47+00:00

yeah bro my homie is a natural he just invites these girls over to his hosue to bang

Traditional-Edge5967 · 2024-09-27T15:44:23+00:00

I told her to meet me at a car meet , now me & the bitch damn near in love lol

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-09-27T17:47:55+00:00

When you’re rolling, you roll.

But this will end and those guys won’t have any experience on cultivating anything more than being a fuck boy who is only good for dick

Edit - also these girls have been doing this with guys over and over so they may have nice faces but are gross inside

Working_Potential_26 · 2024-09-28T02:40:39+00:00

Bro … this is how I always fuck on the first date .. 99% success rate … over 50 bodies .. age 24… older bitches young bitches black bitches Asian bitches Mexican bitches …

I don’t text I hop on a phone call.. I learn them .. what they like what they don’t like.. nothing sexual yet just trying to see how they tick .. I try to assume what type of girl they are by their interests.. I make them comfortable through the phone first … I take the shyness out of them.. I set up the date ON THE PHONE…

It doesn’t have to be a date you can literally say let’s just kick it I know a chill park ..

Because you can’t be taking girls out on a date right away …? You gotta see if you even like them to get to that point.

Okay boom she agrees and it’s time..

You’re dressed ready to FUCK.. not some gay button up and skinny jeans …

I’m saying loose shorts, nice clean white Tee, cologne , haircut fresh. Just look like a snack .. make sure no girl can resist you that day .. fuck it nigha do some push ups and pull ups before the link up ..

You pick her up.. step out side the car and wait for her to come out …. When you see her .. GO TO HER… hug her nice and tight .. tell her you look fine tonight .. walk to your car .. open the door for her .. you have to make her feel at ease .. like you’re a guy she can trust …

Turn the music low and have a conversation to her.. let her talk more .. leave some silence and let her fill in the silence . You want her to start feeling some tension .. always make eye contact even when you’re driving … idgaf if you hit a car .. you gotta keep that eye contact and make her a bit nervous .. not cause you’re creepy .. cause you’re stare is attractive and it’s seductive..

When you get to the park … put your seat back a bit relax.. keep the music low for a bit..

Hold a small convo .. make her smile make her blush .. that’s up to you to figure out ..

Hold her hand , touch it play with it .. if she lets you do this you’re close .. if she doesn’t you gotta but another trick .. but at this point I never fail here so ima continue .. I reach for the arm furthest from me .. I have to reach across and I grab it and pull it towards me, now she’s closer to me on my seat and I always go for the neck first.. I kiss it slow and as soon as she allows me to do that I start kissing towards her ear lopes and the top of the ear , and I kiss those two and her neck .. I interchange … if she’s letting you do this .. you can hold her other hand just to comfort her .. or you can start feeling on the insides of her thighs.. start putting pressure on her neck with your tongue like you trynna poke a hole it that bitch.. at this point she should be moaning already softly .. kiss her lips .. you better be a great kisser you SOB.

Kiss her and dominate her tongue .. kiss her neck and she should be breathing louder .. her pussy is Forsure wet af already .. start gripping her thighs harder and go rub her pussy through her pants.. rub her clit through her pants firmly , wiggle your fingers fast ..

Try to assume she’s naked and you’re doing foreplay ..

Okay the rest is up to you cause I’m tired of typing

Small_Cap_Finder · 2024-09-28T18:56:10+00:00

This has happened six times in one area. I'm not aesthetically attractive, or super socially calibrated, but the women there are desperate from what I've noticed.

Also, half of them revealed how they're not on birth control after I had unprotected sex with them to which I Shrugged off due to my vasectomy that Ill never disclose.

Ps. Not going to disclose the area since I don't want it to go sour with competition

epimpstyle · 2024-09-26T19:52:48+00:00

This is SCI-FI movie

2024-09-27T17:14:37+00:00

It happens quite often. Have a good profile with good photos (be handsome), flirt a little and invite the girl over.

If your precedent from the get go is sexual you will screen for girls who are dtf

This is harder if you are not very attractive. Generally speaking good game will yield way better results than online dating for average or below average looking guys. Not impossible though

Title	How true actually is this?
Author	SteroidPotato
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Date	September 26, 2024 6:50 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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