Been married 10 yrs and have 2 kids (5M and 7F). I am 48 and wife is 42. Just years of toxic resentment have lead to this. Bedroom is deader than a door nail. Financial we are ok but everyone will take a hit. She says she doesn't want the house so I will buy her out, which will be a hit obviously.

I have worked part time since the kids were born (I am an RN) and have been in NP school but will be taking a break on that for the spring because I will need to boost my income. The divorce should be largely amicable but I guess the question comes down to what are things I should be thinking about. Custody is going to be tricky because I work 12 hr shifts and weekends and holidays vary.

I guess I just need advice on where to go from here. I wish we weren't divorcing but am looking forward to getting out of this limbo that I have been in for the last 2 yrs.