I just came across this post in the marriage subreddit. I know, it doesn’t seem like a particularly good subreddit for relevant, thoughtful advice (at least a lot of the time). Still, I’m so shocked! I couldn’t believe what I just read (and the responses are so much worse!). It seemed so absurd to me that I initially thought (and still kind of do) it was created to gather some ragebait against the women, x).

I was very curious to know if RedPilledWomen saw the same things I did or if it was just me/What are your thoughts after reading that?

My husband says I’m bad at being a woman.

So I’m a SAHM and former teacher, we have two boys (6, 3) and a newborn via surrogate. I do 80% of the childcare and half the housekeeping. He pays for a housekeeper to come once a week and we just try and maintain what the housekeeper does. He cooks twice a week and is responsible for his own breakfast and lunch, unless he decides to make a big batch of whatever he’s making for the entire family. He is responsible for cleaning his office and his man shed, and picking up after himself. He cleans his own bedroom and bathroom. Our marriage is healthy and happy, we just like sleeping separately. He works from home about half the time and has an easy corporate job he loves.

Lately he finds himself somehow incapable of doing anything besides work unless I prompt him. I must apparently tell him exactly what I need him to do, how to do it and when he should do it. Multiple times. He’s asked for a chore chart.

I’m not fucking doing that.

Now he can’t wake up with his alarm. He can’t make coffee for himself he’s too busy. He doesn’t have time to make dinner or clean. Literally nothing about his life has changed he’s just just suddenly a helpless baby????

He then says that most women are happy to help their husband and give simple reminders. That he “lets me stay home” and he’s just asking for a little help.

He’s not asking for a little help, he’s asking me to hold his hand during totally normal and simple tasks he’s suddenly incapable of. No he’s not sick nor has his personality changed. He just went to the doctor for a checkup and he’s healthy and a little chubby. Work is easy and enjoyable because he’s a nepo baby who has never struggled in his life.

Sorry I’m ranting.

He thinks that I should clean his room, bathroom and man shed, or at least “help him do it””. Babe, the kids and I have never stepped foot in those spaces. Like that is literally all your mess Sir. Why would I clean it? He says because we are partners and I said yes, that’s why we divide communal and children things.

Mind you, he wanted another baby. I had a hysterectomy and he got snipped. So we got a surrogate, all at his urging. Love new baby to pieces but like buddy you asked for this.

Now he’s saying that women love organizing and helping and making sure life runs smoothly.

No we don’t. We are just used to it so we don’t live in chaos. If your shed and room and bathroom are gross that doesn’t so a damn thing to me. Be as nasty as you like, just don’t give us bugs.

Like I could help more of course but why would I?