I’ve (25M) been chatting with this older woman (49F) for more than year now. We live 4 hours away from eachother. I sent her a poem in May - that she read - and posted it in September because she thought it was perfect, writing at the end “from someone special who simply could read a little of my soul”. Afterwards though she’d say we are just friends, I’m too young for her, yet once in a while would tell me to come visit and be with her, stalk my Instagram by liking my posts (something she never before did). I get my heart broken in august because she got a boyfriend, by all accounts, has money - I didn’t expose my pain to her - and didn’t message her for 2 and a half months. For some odd reason she blocked me on Facebook despite having never once interacted with her there, not even a friend request. She’s divorced and has one son.

I asked her last week if she’s coming to the protest, said she would unless something prevented her from doing so. Saturday rolls around and she first tries to call me, which I didn’t pick up. She then sends a message explaining why she couldn’t come, small domestic accident and back pain. I thought “that’s a shame” but left it on seen. A few hours later she sends a forwarded message before commenting 1 minute later “I liked your response very much”. Hours pass and I ask “what response” and then she goes off on me. I’ll transcribe what she wrote:

Good morning, I’m keeping up with my people in Lisbon, but I didn’t go. Unfortunately, I had a small domestic accident, and my back is hurting, so I won’t risk attending a demonstration. Unfortunately, it wasn’t this time that we got to meet, boy 🙏

None!

I made a point of calling you to talk, but I had to stay because I wasn’t in any condition. I even had the courtesy to send you a photo that my colleagues in Lisbon sent me... But, as always, you’re just being you! Take care”

She had no necessity to call me, she never reacted this way before. We’ve argued a few times and more I’m learning they enjoy drama. I have no idea where she even got “as always, you’re just being you”. Wtf? Internally I’m feeling anxious as fuck even though this should technically qualify as a win because it shows she cared too much. Why did she want me to reply so badly when she can get validated from that rich partner of hers (unless of course they already broke it off). But I just left her on seen again.

I don’t want to be a simp but I also don’t want to come off as mean spirited. What do I say?