I am a bit rusty, I heard that when approaching or dating you should try to amuse yourself and have a good time. Well I want to vibing and stuff but I do get a bit anxious and I think of the goal that I have which is to pick up women. What are your techniques to get around that ?

I guess this is a bit about being relaxed but I feel like I need to preform. So it’s kind of like I am alter and self conscious, where what I really want is to crack jokes and enjoy my time. I am a fun person when I do not go out with a specific mindset.

It almost seems to me like I need to forget about picking up women and just focus on myself ?

Any ideas are appreciated.