In high school. Need help

blackhornatnight · 2015-10-02T20:25:58+00:00

basically do whatever you want. try to new things. you're 14. you need to make mistakes. you will make mistakes. develop oneitis to see how it feels. fall in love and then get your hearth broken. that's progress.

the sidebar will only take you so far without any experience what so ever.

throwaway1234374t2 · 2015-10-02T22:40:17+00:00

Ignore girls, acquire school grades then a degree then mad money + bad bitches.

Otherwise... just have fun and don't worry about anything but your friends and family :)

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-10-02T20:59:19+00:00

Go to the cafeteria at noon.

Find the biggest baddest motherfucker in the school. Roust his ass up and KNOCK HIM OUT, right there in front of everyone.

RunawayGrain · 2015-10-02T21:30:13+00:00

A bit of advice from a much older guy who started out in a small town that sounds much like yours.

The problem is: I'm fighting against the image of me when I left and so no girls take me seriously.

Yeah, I had the same issue because my crazy ex badmouthed me, I left, and returned years later after finishing college. I've got some good news for you: It's transient. Literally the second you graduate from high school, all of this vaporizes. You will head off to college and more than likely you won't see any of your classmates for years. That means you get a fresh start in college, and a chance to improve. Of course, you need the grades to get into college, so keep those up.

If you want a few short term gains, save up and get a car, lift, get ripped. Get on the bandwagon with some financial shit. Even if it's just shelving $50 a week from a shitty job into the bank, then not touching that, and continue that for the duration of college, you will wind up as the financial superior of many of your peers. There is also one thing I did when I got back to town that seemed to help. A new girl moved to town. Super hot, and I started seeing her. Social proof is king.

Also, think. Looking back, many of my mistakes could have been avoided just by thinking for a second. Want to bone that hot little blonde raw? Think that shit over before you wind up saddled with a kid.

Also my small town is a horrible place in Texas it is full of thugs and assholes. This translates to the school.

I've found that growing up in this environment myself helped make me a decent observer. Watching how these thugs interact with each other will pretty much give you a clear idea of what goes on in most peoples minds, whether they show it outwardly or not. The difference between a thug in prison and a banker is simple impulse control.

I am a very big kid for my age and one of the best soccer players in the town but I'm not a thug or a drugs and party's type guy.

That's not a bad thing at all. A lot of people don't like the party-drink-get trashed thing. I personally don't approve of drugs and alcohol as they rob you of mental clarity. That said, there are plenty of other groups and activities you can get into. You mentioned soccer, so there are sports. I found this a while back, and it's basically for singles to schedule meet ups to do things:

http://www.eventsandadventures.com/

Not sure if they are near you, or if you are old enough yet.

Which is my last point. You're fourteen. Take this as genuine advice and not an insult about your age: You literally aren't old enough to have started living your life in earnest yet. Don't sweat the social stuff so much, just apply yourself to the things that matter. School, a college plan, maybe save some cash while mom and dad are paying for everything. The rest will fall into place if you are dedicated and persistent.

M3_Drifter · 2015-10-02T22:06:35+00:00

You are a freshman in High School. You need to just be yourself (that is, the best version of yourself) and have fun with your friends. Having had sex with 3 girls at age 14 is IMO very impressive. Relax. It will take time to change others' perception of you. Take it easy, make friends and over time everything will be forgotten. Trying to force women to find you interesting is a one way street to failure.

iwas-saying-boo-urns · 2015-10-02T23:38:02+00:00

You got 3 already. You'll likely get more.

Condoms.

Never go without, unless you know for a fact that she's on the pill. Which will require knowing her for at least a few months. At that point she'd probably be an LTR and you'll have her pretty much dialed in in all categories. But everywhere else....

New girl? Condoms
Just want to see how it feels? Condoms
I can't get pregnant, I had a cyst on my ovary when i was young. Condoms
(that last one is a true story. and my friend was too stupid to leave. Now he has 2 at 25yo)
I don't like how they feel. You or her. Condoms

You get the idea. I'm at the age of single mothers, young and fake-happy married couples, druggies, and then people like me. Awesome job with no anchors whatsoever, and there's less than 10 of us. Don't fuck up. No sex is worth your freedom. Be smart about things.

Title	In high school. Need help
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Date	October 2, 2015 8:18 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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