I(39) and my wife(37) are living separately for more than 7 months now. We got married just over three years ago and things were always bad since the beginning. We never actually dated much before the marriage. It was a bad decision taken hastily as I wanted to move away from my home country and settle in US. So a change of country and new relationship both came in my life together. Within a few weeks, I realized it’s gonna be hard work. On top of that I got a bad micro manager boss. I’m now in a pretty bad shape. Loneliness is eating me up everyday. The worst thing I think is the uncertainty of this all. She is always blaming me or my family for this whole situation. I have asked her to go for a joint therapy but she didn’t entertain that. We have talked about divorce before but she is not sure. From her side it’s always like the relationship should be organic and effortless and I atleast now know that it’s not the case. She is not ready to forget what happened in the past. Not wanting to move over my mistakes which I agree I did. And most of the time she normalizes the things that had hurt me most. Frankly, I have liked the freedom in these past months. I lost weight, got fit, focussed more on my work, career and my hobbies and all of these were in pretty bad shape in the last three years. But I’m generally sad and lonely. I’m mostly out of house and just can’t stay as the emptiness of it is just too much. Nights are usually difficult as i just can’t sleep well. I have no real connections left. Most of my close friends have moved away as i stop connecting with them because of this bad relationship. I’m not looking for any specific advice so can’t elaborate on my relationship further. I’m just interested to know from the community if anyone experienced this kind of separation and still recovered the relationship? I want to do everything I could to repair before going for divorce. Obviously a lot depends on how much she wants to be a part of the recovery process. What was it for some of you guys who filed divorce in a similar situation? Did you do everything you could? What worked for you and what did not?