The more I watch my RP buddy day game the more TRP seems confusing. In one day, I invited a chick over I hadn't seen in months. We hardly knew eachother too. And in that same day escalated to making out on my couch, playing with her boobs, and fingering her. That's the fastest first date escalation I've done.

The special ingredient was that I was a gentleman in the day. My buddy and I discussed this and we agreed it was to save-face. She doesn't look like she's being a slut if we're doing innocent things in the day like holding hands, pulling her close, etc. She seems lady-like.

When my lady friend was on the couch, I took his advice "pretend to love them" (not to be confused with explicitly saying "I love you" or pretending to be in a relationship with them. Those are big nos). We were spooning, I pulled her in closer, played with her feet, and kissed her up and down her neck during a movie. She loved it and put the blanket over us more where I was able to get more boobage. This goes beyond touching. During our conversations, I'd listen to her and tell myself to pretend I loved her. So everything she said I replied to with a playful or touching tone (like when she started talking about her cat that passed away).

Since TRP I've been cold and distant. I understood the importance of appearing friendly and having social proof so it's not that I was beating off everyone with a stick, but I wasn't at ease either.

I wonder if showing love/affection, authentic or not, is key to every interaction with people especially women you're trying to fuck. It gives off charm. You come off as approachable. Even the biggest asshole can be a lovable, charming asshole.

And if you want to pretend to love them, you have to know them. I notice the times I best interact with a woman and get sex or sexual favors is when I figured out her insecurities. And to do that, you have to get them to open up about themselves.

Now Lust > Love when it comes to the speed of spreading her legs. Lust game is where I'd like to be, but I know I can pull a mad Love game. Every LTR I was ever in was infatuated with me. Besides working on my muscles and getting tattoos, I'm unsure where to take off on my Lust game after those milestones.

Can we discuss this?