me 30, she 25... Married LTR tells me to be more like the old alpha me because shes falling out of love... find out shes got a crush on a guy from work... she hasnt been in contact with him other than in large work group environment... as far as i can tell via snooping through social media etc

I hit the gym, loose weight, start studying again, start doing my own thing with a IDGAF attitude.

Now shes upset that im doing all of this for me and not for her...

Sex is great again... shes also extremely intelligent and an easy 8.5... problem is now im waking up im realising my unicorn is just your typical 25 year old woman...

My question is if AWALT... then this is my fault... and if this is my fault... do I leave her for getting a crush on someone? or do I own my shit and fix things?