Just a quick post from my observations and reading the posts here for the last few months. The aim here is just to quickly highlight the potential problems in your flirting that you may not know about, and point you to the solution. I hope this can reduce the volume of newbie flirting questions, short and sweet, let's begin!

Blunder #1 - Peoples Pleasing
The top principle of flirting is to not put up filters in the mind and say what you want to say. The problem with peoples pleasing is that you are putting up a filter to please others, which hampers your flirting. This is a congruence problem.

Blunder #2 - Akward / Embarrassment / Scared Of Judgement
Again, flirting is to not put up filters in the mind before you speak. When you feel embarassed, akward or you are scared of how others will perceive you, you will set limitations upon how you're going to express yourself. This is yet another congruence problem.

Blunder #3 - Don't Know What To Say / Mind Goes Blank
The reason why you have nothing to say is because you lack the outer game skills when it comes to flirting. You need to learn the core four. Cold reads, qualification, disqualification and storytelling.

Blunder #4 - Slow Disqualification
Disqualification is so important that it deserves its own section. You must disqualify the girl before she does it to you. If you constantly notice that girls disqualify you first, that needs to change.

Blunder #5 - Negative State Transferece
A good ratio of positive to negative emotions is 80 to 20. If the negative emotions you feel within yourself breaks this ratio (nervousness, anxiety etc), you're going to make her feel that you're a creep OR you wont be able to generate enough attraction. This is an approach anxiety problem.

Blunder #6 - Lack Of State
Your approaches naturally gets better as you do more approaches in a set. This is because you build more state (flow) as you get rejected by more and more women. Solution? On average you need to get rejected 10 times before you enter 100% of state.

Blunder #7 - Unawareness To Enviorement And Surroundings
Your verbals have to calibrate to the envioremental contexts around you. The way you talk in the club is not the same way you talk in a cafe or in a daygame setting. Your "energy level" is different. This is a calibration problem.

Blunder #8 - Lack Of Consent
Some girls are just not receptive to you full stop. Remove doubt by seeking for consent indicators so that you can countinue the conversation with confidence. Solution is to look at her face and make eye contact to guage her receptiveness, and look for hook point indicators.

Blunder #9 - Wierd Body Language / Unnatural Movements
Some people have this wierd way of trying to control how they move. If you are making eye contact and then consciously trying to control how your eyes blink, this is going to serve you no good. Solution is to relax your body and come into the present moment.

Blunder #10 - No Challenge / Doormat / Neutral
For women to become more emotionally reactive, you cannot bore her out. Solution is to just tease her more. What teasing just means is to be witty and make jokes at her expense. Provide some resistance and stop being a yes man.

Blunder #11 - Logical Talk
Save your nerd talk for your PhD thesis, the girl is only interested in what you can make her feel. By extension, what you can make her feel is what you can feel yourself. Solution is to induce the right emotions within yourself with the proper inner game beliefs.

Blunder #12 - No Sexual Polarity
Whether it is masculinity or femininity it is that you lack, you should be able to balance her out nicely with the opposite polarity which she lacks. Solution is to cultivate the polarities in your free time and adjust with your new found skills in set.

"Fear not peasant, Shouldst thou face a plight, my library brings light!" ~ Some wizard in a movie

Enjoy,
FriendlyWrenChilling.