This is a comment I posted on another thread, but once I had finished writing it, I realized it would make a good post (my first post). Anyways, I'm also hoping that sharing my story, will prompt other men to share theirs, and since plenty of women are present on this subreddit, hopefully it will help illustrate the all too often downplayed double standard. So, guys, please share your own experiences too if you are willing to do so. Anyways, here is the comment I posted on another thread, copied and pasted here:

A lot of men have similar and far worse experiences. I normally wouldn't share something this personal, but my experience is so in line with what you are saying, and will really illustrate the point.

In 10th grade (when I was 15) a girl I slept with told her group of friends that I had a big dick, and, since it was high-school, and because girls like to gossip, word spread fast, and in a very short time everyone knew.

For weeks afterwards girls would grab my crotch or rub it as they passed me in the hallway during class changes, or sneak up behind me when I was sitting in the cafeteria and grab me, one even walked up to me outside and grabbed me then ran back to her friends and they all had a good laugh about it. And many of them said pretty inappropriate things as well. This became a thing, and happened more times than I could count, sometimes it would happen multiple times just trying to walk from one class to the next, and they would all giggle about it. And when I complained they said things like "don't lie, you love it".

They saw no problem with the behavior, but it was obviously wrong, even more so because the school staff were well aware of it, and did nothing about it.

The teachers were aware of it because girls were talking about it in my classes, openly, and not a single word was ever said about it by a teacher. And this led to a far worse situation.

One of my female teachers started acting really weird towards me, she never actually touched me sexually, but she was very flirty with me for the rest of the year, and would frequently brush up against me and touch my arm or my shoulder or rub my back as she walked by. She would lean down on my desk under various pretexts, like showing me a "problem with my test", in a way that her cleavage was basically right in my face, almost touching me, and on one occasion she knocked a pencil off my desk and bent over to pick it up, with her butt towards me, and she turned and smiled at me, it was very obvious and creepy. And it was all very uncomfortable, and the other students (both genders) in the class knew about it and made jokes. And that behavior only started after the girls were talking in her class about the size of my dick.

I did eventually go see the principle about it, but the principle downplayed the behavior. She said that I was "imagining it" and that the teacher was just being "friendly", and that it wasn't true even if I "wished it was". I'll never forget that entire experience.

And that teacher didn't do that shit to any of the other guys in her class, she singled me out, and it's obvious why. And if I had ever allowed myself to be alone with her (I always made sure I wasn't, and after I was finished with her class I actively avoided her for the next 2 years) I honestly believe she would have gone further.

That whole experience taught me a valuable lesson about how men are basically just pieces of meat to women, they talk about us viewing them as sexual objects, but we are viewed the same way, or worse. I was certainly treated like a sexual object, and when I tried to get help because of the harassment (by a teacher!) I got nowhere, and was told that I wanted it, by the fucking principle! And I'm sure many men out there can relate to these kinds of things.

Even as a young guy (remember I was only 15 years old) I thought, what if this situation was flipped? What if word got around that a girl had really firm breasts or a nice butt, and random guys were feeling her up as she walked through the hallway, and in the cafeteria, and outside, and she couldn't go anywhere on school grounds without being touched inappropriately, and even the teachers knew about it, and one of the male teachers started actively harassing her sexually, what would have happened?

The police would have been called, there would have been suspensions/expulsions, probably even special educators coming in to talk about sexual assault and I'm sure the teacher would have been fired.

This is a massive double standard, and it's very telling that women in general seem perfectly fine with it. In fact, on the entire issue of female on male sexual assault women are shockingly cold-hearted and defensive of sexual predation from their own gender. It seems that the female in-group preference, and privilege mindset is so strong, that they will defend any action committed by their gender, no matter how terrible. It's very "rules for thee but not for me".

The sexual assault thing, as well as domestic violence are both particularly troubling however, because women seem to always portray it as a male problem and they make such a big issue about these things (and rightly so), but only when they are the victim. When a man complains about being victimized in any way, it's always downplayed, or they say he secretly wanted it, or in the case of DV that he deserved it, or that it's worse for women or whatever.

I would normally never share something this personal, but my experience is very applicable to what you said. I really hope women read this so they can maybe begin to see and understand how problematic this double standard is. I was 15 years old, but I'm sure that shit happens to guys who are even younger.

If it's wrong for a man to do to a woman, then it must be just as wrong for a woman to do a man. If we are all equal, then standards must be applied universally. And if you don't like the idea of being victimized yourself, then stop defending perpetrators from your own gender. Because seeing women downplay sexual and physical violence perpetrated by their gender, while endlessly harping on men as a whole about these issues, is both hypocritical, and extremely distasteful.

I really hope that sharing this is helpful to both men and women, I've never shared that experience with anyone during my entire adult life, but thanks to the anonymity of the internet, I'm comfortable sharing it here.