I have been a lurker here without an account for the last 4 years. I have recently made an account and I would like to show all of you my gratitude through lighting the path of the lurkers towards rheir path. So, my upcoming brother in arms, please lend me your eyes:

The choice is yours!

  • There is hope. But it is a potential. Only YOU can unreveal it. Otherwise, it remains under the water. You may chase the sailed ship in the foggy waters or you may take a deep breath, endure the pressure, risk the drowning and unleash what is inside that pandoras box. The choice is yours!

  • Childlessness is a bonus in that circumstance. So is having no shared assets. Or lack of promiscuity. But ideals are usually very different than reality. These, however, are not obstacles but minor setbacks. Will you fight for them, or will you bend the knee? The choice is yours!

  • The moment the term "divorce" or its derrivations are narrated, the person you are looking at becomes your competitor to say the least. Your emotions towards her don't matter. The amicable approach does not change her new title. Will you act strategically or instinctively? The choice is yours!

  • Your parents won't be there. Your siblings, friends, colleagues won't be there. The community won't be there and no matter where you live, your government will not be there, if it does not turn against you fully. In fact, you should be greateful if these actors don't turn their backs on you in order to soothe her. She WILL get all the emphathy while you get dislike, to say the least. You are alone in this battle. This is the price of your sovereignty. Will you taste the bittersweet flavour that is the hard-to-swallow freedom or will you bow down to the dull bowl of normalcy seasoned chains? The choice is yours!

  • Old middle eastern saying goes: "Donkey does not fall in the same pit twice". You should not avoid relations, at least after the recovery phase. But will you, once again, sign that misguided and ill-written contract they call marriage? Especially after seeing how dangerous a damsel can become during the process? The choice is yours!

  • You may be emasculated, exploited or left in the dark. It is very likely that you will remain there if you do not show courage. Will you starve for maintaining the status quo or will you bear the bloodlust of revolution? The choice is yours!

  • Theraphy is there to delay the inevitable. And the chance of finding non biased theraphy is slim to none. Remember, you are the man, ergo, the oppresser by default. Will you loose self confidence because she tricked the therapist and now you feel guilty for taking the trash out 10 mins late fueled divorce? Or will you walk alone to regrasp the fact that you are an individual too? The choice is yours!

All that and for what?

Well, I can only speak for myself: She financially devastated me. She emasculated me. For the first time, I started shrink pills. I cried more than any phase of my life in that marriage and that includes my childhood and my tumor treatment. I did consider suicide on multiple occasions and wished she was dead on multiple occasions.

I am happy, my brother. I lost financially but I gained ME. I purchased my life back and I don't regret it one bit. For crying out, my morning erections came back.

There is hope, my brother. but only if you have the guts to save yourself from that quick sand.

Come and join the liberated ones.

The choice is yours!